Ask Her Why She Broke Up?

[@BoffinGrusky]

Her answer to the question is irrelevant. We know what her answer is likely to be. It's her reaction to the question that tells the tale. :)

[@vkrgfan]

Depends on a question, if there is a pre judgement already in the question, the conversation could very easily take a wrong turn.

[@paulogrind]

Excellent point. Actions (in this case, reactions) over words, every time.

[@TDog0412]

Ha, exactly Boffin

[@macmcleod1188]

@@vkrgfan if it is taken as pre judgement and the other person strongly takes it badly, then that's information too.

[@CosminPerisan]

Boffin's comment is gold! Her reaction to that question will give you an insight into her behaviour and psyche.

[@stonefacedninja]

One thing that stays consistent is that it's never her fault.

[@bronkonovak6555]

Not only that but how do you even know they are answering with the truth..

[@offlier]

Evidently her saying it's not her fault is working in her favor. Could it be that the man knows she's not being truthful but ignores it because he wants to get laid?

[@audie-cashstack-uk4881]

Pillow talk whatever she says it's the opposite that's true

[@davidp2888]

Self reflective: good. Deflective: run away.

[@huMANs_channel]

yes 👍

[@charlesdc1233]

Mine broke up because everything is my fault...

[@sidecar7714]

No one, who is full of shit, will ever be happy.

[@jasonkeppery3403]

So True! 😆👍💯

[@varmastiko2908]

Unfortunately no one who's fully honest will ever be happy either. This world is too f_cked up for that to be possible.

[@LifeHackMEDIATV]

yeah if she says "he was controlling" "he was crazy" "he didn't want me to hang out with my friends" that's translation for "he didn't want me sleeping with other men"

[@DamageControlLLC]

Exactly

[@gfxmaniac]

I met a girl. She said that sometimes you have to pick a fight with her. Or her life is boring. I am still scratching my head.

[@aegisreflector1239]

Yep, gone on a few dates with females like that. Iv got,enough unnecessary stress,I don't need any more, I quietly just break off communication

[@voiceofexperience]

You found an honest one, I see.... ALL women love - NEED - drama, and if they cannot find it, they will literally create it themselves out of thin air, like magicians!

[@gfxmaniac]

@@voiceofexperience Like honest killer, I guess.

[@1brenmaster]

Women need emotional exercise. Why do you think they watch soap operas. Here's a trick that will serve you well with women. Stop being so nice

[@jasonkeppery3403]

Women thrive on arguing and creating stressful situations for Men. I was married to a narcissist and she wasn't content unless I was depressed and anxious. Stay away from these Vampires. It's not worth your sanity/happiness.

[@QuetzalcoatlOdin]

I have a list of questions. I don't ask them directly. And frankly I don't care about the first couple of dates if they're fun or not. There's too many problems to avoid, and I'm not putting any energy into somebody who's not worth my time.

[@EL-Duder-Reno]

You could ask, but you won't get the truth about her ex. If you want the the truth ask her brother

[@bronkonovak6555]

This only works if you have a good relationship with her brother and he likes you..

[@EL-Duder-Reno]

@@bronkonovak6555 not necessarily true, both friends of mine and myself have dodge bullets by asking them. Nearly every time they they'll be very forthcoming, everybody likes to talk shit about their siblings. Especially if they disagree with their actions in past relationships. Now on the other had if she has sisters, they'll lie through their teeth to cover each other's ass

[@feralandroid]

This why I don't date. I am not saying I am against relationships, but all of my best past relationships started organically, from meeting them at a shared event, or friends of a friends type of situation. You can observe each other in natural settings and not worry about putting on an act during the date, treating it like a job interview or wasting time. I could always tell pretty quickly if there was chemistry, mutual interest and attraction. The interview questions can come later when you have already establish a rapport. Its a shame most people are just hooking up online these days. No wonder a lot of men and women are dropping out of the dating scene.

[@offlier]

Older people are hooking up too? I thought it was the younger crowd.

[@yeahnahsweetas]

Great insight thank you

[@MisyeDiVre]

Older people are having more sex than the young nowadays. At least in W.E.I.R.D countries.

[@toddbr5959]

I learnt that on a hard way. Avoid people who are closed. Something to start with.

[@schlitzmaltliquor2878]

When I was in that world, any meaningful conversation drove them away in short order.

[@K-ONE16]

A woman most times will never tell you the truth about her past because she knows you are profiling her. So this is what you do, date a little to find out what you believe is her values, then ghost if you see signs that can be detrimental to you which she seems stuck on. A woman becomes loyal to you, based on how masculine she perceives you as a man. You lose this advantage when you cohabit or get married so never commit to get the best out of them. Their comfort zone is your hell. Always make her know she’s replaceable unless she stays loyal. Having “Love and respect” has nothing to do with the government.

[@burgcarli929]

First dates are full of blissful potentialities. Neither party wanting to be too serious, for fear that the fantasy is ruined by "real" speak. Too many people in protection mode.

[@augustlion5105]

Asking a woman what's she's learned from her past implies that she's learned *something* which isn't always the case. Their egos are so fragile that they will obfuscate the details and pretend that she did nothing wrong. So the only lesson to be learned was not to play around with "that guy." Deep introspection is not really something you can expect from most women.

[@jrddoubleu514]

Nail on the head. IMO their narcissism is innate. Peer beneath the veneer and you'll find a fragile overinflated ego, and all the malice and damage tey'v einflicted upon others and self out of desperate copulsion to protect that fragile spec from the harm of the sun's (truth) light. Nothing more fragile and overinflated on this earth.

[@tmeece]

Like you, I was far too agreeable with my ex for fear of loosing her are upsetting her. This went on for years and she eventually lost all respect for me and I wound up loosing her in any case. We were married 27 years.

[@offlier]

Changing who you are for another person isn't commendable. For me it was painful and unhealthy....literally.

[@Driden]

I reflected on all my decisions and mistakes and even though most of the relationship problems I faced were not of my own doing it allowed me to sit back and work on the things I did that were wrong. I thought while they didn't ruin this relationship it could be a deal breaker on another with a better girl. I worked on my inner self for 6 months, some require more I imagine. Then I met the girl I'm with now and I'm glad I took that time for myself because I probably would have ruined this relationship with the mindset and habits I had back then

[@KindredEmotions]

Other reasons guys don't ask these questions are: 1.) The popular opinion of "her past doesn't matter" because "she's with you now". But more importantly, some of us don't ask because... 2.) Could you even trust the answers you're given? People fake it to make it to get ahead in life all the time, never moreso than when pursuing something or someone we want. It can be exhausting feeling like you have to choose between vigilance or being alone so a lot of people just take a detached approach to potential relationships so they aren't surprised when the other shoe drops.

[@offlier]

Some wise man said that her past is your future. Regardless if they refuse to answer or if you think they'll lie, you should ask questions. It's not a waste of time.

[@QUguy]

When you look at the world through rose colored glasses, the red flags are just Flags.

[@danielbryce6072]

Ask her why she broke up …. And know that everything she says is a lie

[@everybodywazzup]

My girl says she broke up with her ex because he got fat and she lost attraction to him, but she’s one hell of a cook 🤔🤔🤔

[@augustlion5105]

Women who are really into a guy will intentionally make their guy less attractive to other women, primarily by encouraging him to put on some weight. But TOO much weight and...yuck. Be careful of these games that women play.

[@snack93s]

Don't ask a women why she brokes up, it is useless

[@SeekerGoOn2013]

Always thoughtful presentation, bro. Wish there were more self-reflection in the comments section.

[@tommydixon2131]

She will say we fell outta love...yet she cheated.

[@Adam-gl1qv]

I mostly agree. I will add one thing tho. This approach to dating can and often does lead to arguments on the date. For example I had a date last month and within the first 30 minutes she asked me what my view on abortion is. I looked at her in the eye and said "this really isn't first date appropriate is it?" Sensing an argument. She pressed me on my opinion and I eventually gave it. It turned in to a shouting match in the middle of the bar lol. I guess my point is: if you're going to ask questions like this to gauge their values, do so with the view of listening and not making an argument out of it.

[@capo4270]

Well interesting conversation for sure, but sounds like she definitely wanted to see where you stood on that. Fair enough, but it doesn't sound like she had the mental maturity to assume you would not be aligned with her there & respond accordingly versus shouting match You dodged a bullet I hope

[@Adam-gl1qv]

@@capo4270 Yes agreed

[@Asto508]

Sounds like fun tbh and you definitely took the quickest route to filter her out.

[@Adam-gl1qv]

@@Asto508 It wasn't, I drove 2 hours for the date as well *face palm*

[@ArantyrDarkhand]

Respond the way i respond. If i was not the person payng for abortion(only MEN are net tax payers) i could not care less. Simple becouse the person that need a abortion its the kind of person we dont need more in this planet.

[@solidu5s]

You’re spot on. There’s a few twists to this question I like to add, “if I was to ask your ex why you broke up what would he say? What did your ex love about you? Is there anything he would change about you? Be prepared to answer the same questions about yourself but don’t allow her to bounce it back to you without answering first, often when the truth is hard to swallow she will bounce it back it to get inspiration from your answer. Pay close attention to how she phrases her answer, there are a lot of follow on questions that you can ask. Just be aware these questions are for you, not for you to act as a therapist .

[@floridaprivateeye3997]

Thanks huMAN. Excellent advice. I only have a few caveats to beware of. 1. Go ahead and ask a woman why her last relationship ended. But understand that she will not tell you the truth if that truth reflects poorly on her in any way. She will tell a bald face lie or a convoluted version of the event. 2. Speaking up about legitimately troubling issues, no matter how tactful you are, will be taken as a personal attack which usually generates a retaliatory strike in which your legitimate concerns are not addressed and your character and motives are attacked.

[@oplkfdhgk]

Yes this is very important

[@elgatoconbolas]

BRILLIANT QUESTION!!!

[@kgjung2310]

A while ago, I was listening to this talk being given by a marriage therapist to a group of young, married couples (they were all in their early-mid 20s). In the seminar, he was talking about the differences in marriage that all couples will have to deal with. He also remarked that if this group was typical to other groups he talked to, people would probably find a dozen and a half tips useful for their friends, a dozen tips that would be helpful for their spouse, and maybe only 2 or 3 for themselves. The point being that we are very quick to find the faults in others, but not so much in ourselves. One thing that might be helpful when asking these relationship questions to ourselves is asking a good friend about our own dating patterns they have recognized first. Things that we can't or won't recognize in ourselves may be quite apparent to our friends. Of course, a person would need to be willing to hear some unflattering personal truths from someone more likely to be objective than we could ever be. It makes it easier to spot self-delusions and evasions in others when we can see and acknowledge our own.

[@jesuslikesmetal]

Of all the countless dates I've been on the one meme phrase women would always say about their ex is that "He was abusive" And would never elaborate why. Women and accountability don't go together I suppose

[@VooDooMaGicMan81]

Excellent content as always. Over the last few years in particular we're hearing the same message about 'men speaking up when they're at rock bottom' This undoubtedly CAN save lives, but in my opinion it's the equivalent of an emergency surgical operation on an individual who didn't know how to look after themselves adequately. Improving the way we approach potentially important situations, such as a new relationship (or knowing to avoid one after asking such questions mentioned in this upload) is where men can massively reduce the odds of hitting a downward spiral in life. Prevention is better than any last minute cure.

[@yeahnahsweetas]

Great point there. "An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure"

[@Aeneas137]

I test every person in my life who is important to me but not repeatedly just when I think they're in need of some self-reflection. case in point my youngest daughter right now challenged me in a very rude way and so she's learning that there are consequences. women today are being taught that they can do whatever they want and not have to pay for it and I'm teaching my youngest daughter that that's not true

[@jewulo]

I have checked out of the whole dating domain. Not for me thank you very much. I love my peace of mind. Only watching for huMAN's intelligence, eloquence and technical prowess.

[@32523Bwahahaha]

Same here , I don't like his purple pill content but I like his thought process and eloquence

[@hardmanst]

huMAN, thank you for another insightful and thought provoking video

[@huMANs_channel]

thanks for watching :)

[@nickp563]

Thanks! Had a conversation with my recent ex-gf about her ex, all his fault, no "reflecting" from her relationship journey, other than she was all about her subjective feelings of hurt...

[@tomasnokechtesledger1786]

Brokeup to try another relationship. It's a Big Club but you're not in it anymore. Maybe later, if their plans fail...

[@UATHD]

My fault was I was moving ahead at a faster pace and not giving her space.

[@Boris-iz6wd]

totally agree, while I don't date this is great for those that do IMO

[@Mike-ry4ti]

Was 50% mine. I let her get away with far too much.

[@danielbryce6072]

Same

[@johnmclaughlin4802]

I think it depends what your looking for in the relationship and what age you are at in life .

[@BoffinGrusky]

Agreed.

[@icfubar9150]

"Know thy self". We are all flawed and we all have positive attributes. When you know yourself you will know the type of person who is a fit... if you can get a person to honestly open up.

[@shnobi24]

At this point I don't ask what happened to her past relationships, it's a given that 1) she will lie and 2) it was her fault. It's not worth the effort to seek any truth from a female anymore. I don't write this from a place of hate but from the simple truth.

[@tadghostal8769]

I inscribe the oaths of a woman onto water. -Plato? I think?

[@shnobi24]

@@tadghostal8769 Sophocles

[@richardpellis]

After my divorce, I dated for fun, not looking for a long term partner. EVERY date I went on, she asked this exact question if me. I was also asked if I had a list of qualifications/traits/standards I was looking for in a partner. That's a no win question. Say yes, and you'll be considered unreasonable. Say no, and they consider you a person without goals and ambitions.

[@screen-eye]

A good approach to these sensitive questions could be to talk in a hypothetical manner about the vision for a valuable relationship, both have in mind. If there is not even a vision, you can assume, your date is a waste of time. Learning by doing is for teens. Honesty and a reflective way to communicate is profound for a certain quality in a relationship. Maybe, that is age dependent, but who has time to still lie to themself? I think the question “who’s fault was it?” manifests itself, when you hear somebody’s thoughts about relationships in general. Be aware of little things, body language and your gut. Nevertheless…dating should be an interesting and enjoyable process. So, it is still a little bit of learning by doing, right?!

[@yantastic2265]

I practice a lot of what you said and I agree. Good work.

[@lorderectus1849]

Worst case scenario she will say he’s at fault and never admit to her own faults because she believes she’s perfect!

[@untoldname]

23 Epic RedPill Quotes of All-Time Great: 1. ''If you let her, she WILL waste your time without remorse, like a black hole.'' - Albert Einstein 2. ''Women don't build. They move in. Yet they ain't even loyal to any man or even my power at stake, but to themselves and their best options.'' - Julius Caesar 3. ''Juste le pump et le dump.'' - Napoleon 4. ''If you treat her like a queen, she will treat you like a peasant.'' - Alexander the Great 5. ''If you treat her like a celebrity, she will treat you like a fan. Be like water.'' - Bruce Lee 6. ''Embrace her in her prime. Ghost her in her decline.'' - Sun Tzu, Art of War 7. ''Nations decline due to men's simping and women's entitlement.'' - George Washington 8. ''Single moms aren't looking for love. They are looking for HELP.'' - Charles Darwin 9. ''A woman is never single. Yet ironically if she has you, she'll appear single on meeting a bigger better deal.'' - Mother Teresa 10. ''Women don't care about men's struggles or past contributions. They hang out at the finish line and pick the new winner by disposing their faithful used-up man in their progressive seamless monkey-branching, more seamlessly than me playing the piano.'' - Beethoven 11. ''0% accountability + 1% self-improvement/reflection + 99% parasitic-manipulation equals a 100% narcissist.'' - Thomas Edison 12. ''Men value love. Women love value; Men love idealistically. Women love opportunistically; Men love women for who they are. Women love men for what men can do for them; Men love women unconditionally. Women love men on the condition that they provide something or some sort of lifestyle; Men got their serious breakups by being informed as courtesy, left without a plan B, or tend not to break up just to better deal women. Women break up with their man with a new man in place, or could move on more easily acting out of female self-projection of what she did to her exes in the past, often resulting in the existence of some shadow backup man; Men fear no accomplishment and betrayal of his woman. Women fear their decay and missing out the best man; Men age like wine. Women age like vinegar, some even like milk or a grandma without makeup to fool men. I think I'll never love again.'' - Plato 13. ''His money is her money, and her money is still her money. He cheats, she divorces him, he still loves her, and he's sorry, like losing a child; She cheats, she divorces him, she loves him no longer, and she's sorry not for cheating but for getting CAUGHT, like changing jobs in the middle for better work package and environment unless she got fired by both the old and new bosses, Jesus. But this desperation is no way near the man's, for she has legions of simps' and male orbiters' attention to easily mess around and hide it up by acting as an angelic reactor to the next buyer. The only way for her to real screw up is when she ended up being alone from her 30s, her eggs dried, and she cried in private because this time, there'll be no more bigger better deals coming along. Jesus, she felt it at last.'' - Karl Marx 14. ''She once saw you as alpha, managed to lock you down and change you into her beta. When she met you, she was like this broke chick with nothing going on with her, tricking you to surrender to her asap, where there was your army and kingdom right behind you. You were totally fooled by her for not knowing your value and forgot who the f you were as time went by, and she was secretly pleased about that, and now you've become a means at her fingertips while she's become the end above you. Once you're betatized and feel comfortable by not putting her in her place or putting her above youself, like giving her the driver seat or letting her escalate shlt in your life, instead of fixing herself or shlt together, she'd now be looking to do better for a new alpha as a way out, from the potential new attention pool of bidders showing interest in her. Oh my Lord how dangerous and merciless.'' - Jesus 15. ''A man wants a woman without a past, while a woman wants a man with a future, and she mostly forbids a man's enquiry into her past. I teach my students a canny craft-assume a modern woman a h0e first and then let her prove otherwise. Most of the ladies they put on a pedestal will only prove loyalty ain't exist for them by their filthy acts done to their fervent simps and faithful partners. Remember, from the streets did she emerge to the streets she shall return.'' - Leonardo da Vinci 16. ''The older↗ she is to date and/or wife up, the more proud↗ life- and/or sexually-experienced↗ mate-experience-comparing↗ alphas-moments-echoing↗ alpha-widowly↗ insatiable↗ unappreciative↗ disrespectful↗ disagreeable↗ scheming↗ combative↗ masculine↗ AND promiscuous↗ she is, the more suffering↗ HE gets. A redpill apple a day keeps a th0t away, as the syndrome of damaged goods is real.'' - Issac Newton 17. ''Whoever needs the other less, has more power. If she makes rules instead of breaking rules for you, you're her beta. She sees you just like shopping while so many of you see her like a job interview or a Tesla needing electricity. Instead, you need to look like a brand new limited-edition Rolls-Royce in town for a short stay.'' - Tesla 18. ''You can either love or understand women. You can't do both; She can either get a beta or sleep with an alpha. She thinks she can do both. Moreover, she thinks she can divorce you to take half your shlt and accuse you of cheating first while she's the one doing it. Also, reciprocally, she thinks as such you're able to do both: being a diehard high-value man only faithful to her by being highly productive in your intense grinding AND spending enormous time with her, meanwhile being this perfect badboyishly interesting mystery to her.'' - Aristotle 19. ''She's not yours. It's just your turn. And if her look is 9 or 10, she's a community property. Her perceived inflated prices of she being a commodity prevails males' perspectives of fairness, honor, romance, gratitude and reciprocity, in the process of her constantly seeking bigger better dealers to get what she wants in this world THROUGH a man, as her fundamental attitude towards life. But how often can one individual beat an entire market by the invisible hand for she's wanting so much in her mind for that invisible man.'' - Adam Smith 20. ''The Three Pillars in a man's SMV towards women: game, look and affluence. Have two, three is best. If only one to choose, it's game, which is also the quickest. And apply them corresponding to a woman's sexual strategy or differently weighted dominant factors in her stage of life, as cunning as a Sun Tzu or Bruce Lee student.'' - Mark Twain 21. ''Mark Twain, Adam Smith and Plato are right. And since women love value, I hereby propose my philosophy about her genuine desire towards you: User Value of her potential new man to her relative to yours = (her New EXP. of you - her Old EXP. of her ex.) - Replacement Cost for her to replace you with the next man. You gotta increase her experience about you by owning her soul, getting in her head, fulfilling her immagination of romance about a man, game, mystery, confidence, abundance, emotions, excitements, etc., and keep improving yourself as a man relative to any new challengers; For the Old EXP. part, make sure her last man/men ain't that alpha or else she got alpha-widowed meaning you'll soon get despicable to her, or simply she's a virgin, which is best, meaning her Old Exp. is 0 that her whole idea of men is mere YOU and no other men; As to the factor of replacement or opportunity cost, make this cost super huge to her by ensuring the more she invest in the relationship and in you, the more significant goals in life you mutually have, the more frame you have against hers, and the higher the replacement cost or barrier it is for her to cheat or leave like you have female simps lining up, a prepup, intertwined circles or mutual interests to zero out her, or have major support from her family, friends, sisterhood, etc.. Anyway the harder for her to walk away or pay a price, the better for you. Wisely choose and keep your mate with this formula, you folks should read and think more in this orderless world to help ensure you're the best she can do.'' - Socrates 22. ''A woman wants a man who men want to be and women want to be with. But I just want peace or drama-free with women in my grinding and life, Jesus, am I the one crazy or them?'' - Mozart 23. ''You'll lose money chasing women. But you'll never lose women chasing money. Chase no women. Chase excellence like I do. There's NO oneitis however long she'd been with you, as she was merely one of the line-uppers to win out to date up for you until that bigger better deal showed up, if you really think it through. You are the PRIZE, she ain't. Y'all feel me? Have some mental point of origin like her, anchor yourself in her and your mind, don't let her anchor you. YOU can do better. Man the f up and own it. Adam Smith is not wrong, but for me, I'm not hers. It's just her turn.'' - William Shakespeare *Bonus universal quote 1: ''Entertain me.'' - All Women at conversation opening with men *Bonus universal quote 2: ''Who hurt you.'' - All Women in discussion with disagreeing men who are having boundaries, or who are not blindly serving for female imperatives, or who are revealing ubiquitous nasty acts conducted once again by their sisterhood *Bonus universal quote 3: ''Not all women are like that.'' - All Women

[@Pahwah]

Asking her at the start about her past relationships is a good idea. However, two things are going to happen, first she is going to be offended, and the interaction could end there. If it doesn't she will do what women have evolved to do, obfuscate (make obscure, unclear, or unintelligible). It is not just important to ask, it is far more important to be able to discern what she is actually saying. Let me give you some personal examples that were said to me, "he couldn't communicate his emotions" - means he didn't give me anything to use against him. "He didn't do anything around the house" - means I expected him to do everything. "He was a habitual lair" - means he never told me what he was doing. And this is the one that she will tell to her new guy after me "Neal couldn't commit" - means I treated him like shit and it was impossible for him to commit to a toxic mess. So, ask her, but you will need to be able to read between the lines. I wish I had.

[@barbarawarren9443]

This is excellent.

[@offlier]

Most people want the truth but can't handle the truth. You usually have 2 options. Either she's very honest and you run or she lies by telling you what you want to hear and you stay.

[@M-S_4321]

I started warning people not to demand I tell them the truth unless they were prepared to hear it. Usually took no more than once before I stopped being asked to do that anymore.

[@metallboy25]

She was unhappy, because she didnt want to be a wife.

[@offlier]

@@M-S_4321 When I warn people, they dig in even harder out of curiosity...at the beginning.

[@M-S_4321]

@@offlier Then stop sugar coating and tell them the unvarnished truth. They asked for it as adults, tell them. I'll admit, I eventually started providing two levels of warning for people I actually cared about their feelings vs those that I did not.

[@offlier]

@@M-S_4321 I don't sugarcoat anything and it doesn't take much to open their eyes. I'm not nasty about it but I'm firm. So again, telling the truth has never worked for me. But I think it's only fair to be honest.

[@Lyonarroyos]

Very good video, thanks

[@vkrgfan]

My ex husband and I got in a fight one at the mall, he said something insulting and I took the car and drove away, then I came back he wasn’t there he took a taxi home but I think that was beginning of the end. I was immature didn’t know how to handle conflict, and he was too Narcissistic also. He felt that I abandoned him but he didn’t acknowledged even once all insulting BS that he said to me. So from that point on arguments just started to intensify, he would bring up every time that I left him at the parking lot and used that incident in every opportunity. Even used that when he had an affair with his coworker, told me that I abandoned him first.

[@DamageControlLLC]

Sorry to hear he cheated on you. That's unforgivable IMO.

[@vkrgfan]

One of my good male friends told me, the moment name calling starts relationship should stop. If the person can’t reflect upon their own actions then there is no point to continue. It would be never ending drama 🎭

[@MVProfits]

Your questions and thought process behind them is fine, good ones in there. But the timing... No you don't have to ask it all on the first meetup! Especially as most first dates are more hookups, not long term stuff. No need to do a police inquiry from the get go. If you are aiming for "long term" on the very first meetings, you are setting yourself for a huge mistake anyhow.

[@globalnomad1221]

Sure, profile her, but I don’t believe you will get anything approximating truth…they can not see beyond the gynocentric social order

[@adamkornecki8263]

There is only one answer to who is at fault for breakups imho... 50/50

[@yeahnahsweetas]

Too simplistic man try not to generalize so much

[@twilightroach4274]

My Answer to, how much of it was my fault? Well I started to search the internet to find out what I was doing wrong. That was 5 years ago! I’m still improving! But I’m doing it to improve myself first and foremost. If this improvement makes my next relationship a lot better then that’s a bonus!

[@paulogrind]

That's assuming she will answer the question truthfully. Accountability isn't their forte (generally speaking, of course), so if the truth doesn't paint a perfect picture of who they are, they'll deflect.

[@QuetzalcoatlOdin]

Always dig deeper

[@paulogrind]

​@@QuetzalcoatlOdin Maybe, but If you need to dig deeper to get basic info, to me that's a waving red flag.

[@QuetzalcoatlOdin]

@@paulogrind I think the point to most of these videos is most women are red flags these days. And it's best to check before you dive in. So follow up questions to make sure what you're being told is the truth. I understand what you're saying, however one would be a fool to take anything at face value right now.

[@paulogrind]

​@@QuetzalcoatlOdin I'd argue that the point of most of huMAN's videos is to be aware, first and foremost, about *ourselves*. But you're right, taking anything at face value nowadays is incredibly dangerous, not just in relationships. Digging deeper, as you said, is essential, but one needs to be extra cautious with every shovel of dirt you take out. It's very likely you won't like what you'll find under there.

[@Aprilisca]

A breakup is always caused by two people: The woman and her mother! 😉

[@ericlee419]

Yeah that is an interesting point.

[@ENIGMAXII2112]

There is an age and experience level that comes to a Man in time as the years pass by. That things like dates and "relationships" really have become more work than they really are worth. They loose all appeal, then they are replaced by want of freedom, peace of mind soul and body, that become the centre point. The feeling that womens validation for a Man has no longer ANY worth to you is quite liberating. One cannot fail to notice there after in how many Men willingly sign up to become enslaved by women. And thier highly contradictory female nature, that has little to no benefit for a Free Man..

[@StefaanDik]

Maybe she got broken up with (dumped) and there is some shame. She might say she broke up but in reality he was emotionally out months before the break up that she (said) she initiated. I can relate to this myself. But if you really care to know the awnser on the first date you should ask. Dont expect the full truth is all I am saying. Unless they dont care about the impression they want to make... Let them talk...open them up by being open yourself but remain a little carefull with disclosing about all your past experience. Make them want to ask...a good way to test if they care enough.

[@ShaferHart]

I don't know if that camera looks good or _too_ good bordering on uncanny valley territory 😂 good stuff as always!

[@ArantyrDarkhand]

Lol very few men break relationships. The ones ive done(all but 1), simple becouse nagging and bad behavior from the female. Im just not made to be a pleaser.

[@lorderectus1849]

She broke up because she didn’t want to be honest!

[@melenico4512]

Asking mature questions to someone who is immature is an oxymoron of sorts.

[@huMANs_channel]

Very true.

[@lorderectus1849]

She broke up and wanted a new ride!!!

[@betteralone318]

9 times out of 10 the reason will be “he is a narcissist”. To wahmen most men are narcissists

[@lorderectus1849]

I showed myself , but that was not what she wanted to see!

[@hansblitz7770]

Well, I got ine who's ex became a priest. That's a new one and I didn't really have anything substantial to take away from that.

[@nickf9392]

I have come to understand that asking a woman anything is a complete waste of time, reason? They have no problem lying to your face. So, you digest a pack of lies and think you can move forward with investing your time with them. Then, as you go along, the comments start to come out, and you realize why they lie....because if they told the truth, you would have never given them a second thought.

[@attroenergizer8115]

"I have come to understand that asking a woman anything is a complete waste of time, reason? They have no problem lying to your face. So, you digest a pack of lies and think you can move forward with investing your time with them" MISTER YOU JUST CHANGED MY LIFE thank you

[@geraldwaldrop5131]

She broke up because he's an associate producer...

[@TDog0412]

As always, excellent analysis and I don't disagree. However, it's the experience of a formal date with a virtual stranger that doesn't appeal to me in the first place. Even though I feel for young people who desire a life partner, I just don't care about solving the modern dating riddle anymore.

[@capo4270]

I like this idea/intention when it comes to dating HuMan especially because like you said it's the opposite of what is advised out there However like many have already said here getting the whole truth vs "her truth" is the true test You mention probing/wording your questions to get her to open up & while I agree you're inevitably left to devise a very good script if you will, to get her to open up. It could be a fun detective game you make up for yourself as you fine tune your methodology but ask yourself HuMan how many men, especially young men are willing to take the time to do this or date multiple women to begin with when majority just want the bedroom? Is this advice for all men or the average man? Does Chad want "more information" or simply say as little as possible & get his conquest?

[@huMANs_channel]

If you just want the bedroom, then sure. If you're sick of the hookups (blind) merry-go-round, then i think it's prudent to approach dates with more intention.

[@rocket_scientist5353]

I always do that, great way to kill the date.

[@QuetzalcoatlOdin]

I know it feels like that's what you've done, however what you really accomplished is saving yourself a hassle of a low value woman. Because a woman of value would be very happy that you did ask those questions.

[@lorderectus1849]

She broke up , because she didn’t want responsibility!

[@geraldleuven169]

Hey Human what kind of video editing are you doing professionally ? Do you work for TV ? Your skills are amazing. Cheers.

[@huMANs_channel]

Cheers man... I don't edit professionally, it's just a passion of mine.

[@geraldleuven169]

@@huMANs_channel Yes I can see that, you have very creative editing.

[@vkrgfan]

He is a prodigy, he works as a designer, he creates art, makes music. He is out of this world.

[@lorderectus1849]

If you ask her serious questions she will not acknowledge with true answers!

[@guitawrizt]

*_Screw 'em._*

[@birdtj82]

Lol 😝 I am d reverse. A Lot of the women r actually so nice we find men fake their way to our lives n , full of temper . Snappy n crude !

[@stevejarosz8136]

Dating is always wasting time initially with that mindset. There’s always something better to do for yourself if you’re that sensitive about your time being possibly wasted or doing things just for the sake of having a good time. Big mistake asking these questions. You can tell what people are like just by being with them. Peoples opinions of their past change sometimes daily. Also women treat different men differently.

[@BoffinGrusky]

"You can tell what people are like just by being with them." You might want to give this statement a lot of thought.

[@stevejarosz8136]

@@BoffinGrusky It’s received a ton of thought. Over 50 years in fact, and it makes complete sense. You get to know a person by experiencing them. Asking questions gets you nowhere ultimately for the reasons I described.

[@vkrgfan]

Asking questions usually for probing the past but they aren’t a great predictor of the future. I partially agree with you, we usually know who the person really is when placed in a situation.

[@stevejarosz8136]

@@vkrgfan I just had a girl ask me this. It’s so easy to lie. And her assumption off my answer initially was completely wrong. You don’t know people until you experience them. You can’t trust q and a . If you’ve already got a big goal you’re moving toward when you meet someone you are not in the moment. If you need to ask a ton of questions you’re scared of getting hurt.

[@stevejarosz8136]

Not you the figurative you

[@vkrgfan]

It was about 30% of my fault due to ignorance.

[@lorderectus1849]

I have my own shit deflector and it’s pointed at women!

[@lorderectus1849]

She broke up because he was a poor bastard!

[@melissachartres3219]

"Ask her why she broke up?" is a declarative statement... not interrogative. It doesn't need a question mark at the end. A period is indicated.

[@orgasmified]

?

[@JAYMOAP]

I don't see what's the point. You judge people how they are with you personally. Secondly, they may not compatible, but can be different with you. Finally regardless both of previous points, you always need time to experience.

[@lorderectus1849]

She broke up because he was a nice guy!!!

[@904PinballZine]

Its called being dumped not a break up lol

[@donnahannaford6840]

Magpies

[@dududu5189]

Cockatoos

[@edamnaf9265]

You're so fascinating. Tell me more. No, nevermind. You are boring.

[@DamageControlLLC]

If she's honest, it's because she wants to enjoy many men, not just one.

[@EightFrancs]

One of the most disrespectful feemales I ever met for a date, told me that (one of the reasons) she split up with her previous boyfriend was because... When they were going to eat, he'd get cutlery for himself & always forget to put cutlery out for her.

[@EightFrancs]

My mom taught me that extremely narcissistic feemales expect people to read their minds. I will always avoid those types of feemales.

[@yeahnahsweetas]

@@ghostinthemachine7171 That might have just been the straw that broke the camel's back. Maybe she just didn't know how to articulate an answer straight away that encompassed the bigger issues and made it sound like it was all over something as trivial as a box of coke.

[@RB09X]

Stop making jokes on dates. You'll become a joker.

[@Aeneas137]

btw, human... women won't put up with the hard questions you are suggesting in this video. there is no accountability for women in this society. they are told they can do whatever they want and have whatever they want and someone else will pay for it. these hard questions are a waste of time. what are the odds of finding a woman who has a sense of responsibility and accountability? one in a million maybe even to conservative.

[@g4tnewnewg4t48]

If you want longterm, she needs to be 0 miles all 3, under 20, BMI 18-20, no vices, grew up in stable home and trained to be a wife, follows all tenants of being a wife in the Bible. Otherwise, just for holes.

[@ЕвгенийПопов-м3ц9ю]

Wow, this even sounds out of this world in these days already :(

[@menshealthspace5341]

Probably disagree with a lot of you. Live in the present. We all make mistakes and what type of hypocrite sits in judgement of others past. Body count? You really need to know? Might make the difference between her being great in bed or a dud. While I think its important to discuss needs and interest, the past is where you learn. Dont be too quick to judge others, it only gives you the opportunity to be shallow. Yet protect yourself, if it does not feel right, move on and be honest.

[@macmcleod1188]

That is an excellent way to end up with std's alone at Christmas because you are paying 50% of your income to child support on kids you get to see six days a month and every other holiday. Oh and maybe alimony. And your ex's are with their current spouses, at least one in what used to be your house. And the current spouses will be raising your kids 24 days a month.

[@macmcleod1188]

Oh .. and for bonus points... pretty sure one of the kids isn't really yours... but you are paying to raise it. Be wise. Your entire life is at stake.

[@menshealthspace5341]

@@macmcleod1188 Your decisions, take responsibility for your choices. Pretty easy to throw bad decisions up and say what about this. Generally women out themselves pretty quickly. Would you date a single mom? Would you sleep with a girl that when you got her pants down it was leaking puss and stank? Yeah there are plenty of Chads and dirty girls in the world. Open your eyes and make informed decisions. Rather than live in a bubble and whinge at anyone you do not agree with. 1st sentance a lot of you will not agree with me. You just had to comment?

[@wingsoffreedom3589]

The biggest predictor of future behavior is past behavior. I'm not gonna ignore the entire field of criminology, statistic, and psychology because I don't wanna hear unpleasant things about people.

[@audie-cashstack-uk4881]

Pathetic bluepill soy bugman

[@hayleycollins4862]

I don't watch you or your videos unfortunately the algorithm put it in my notifications. What a turn off to see your lame headline. Professional victim 🤢

[@ablone]

Women ☕.

[@2PaweL]