Ask Nick - I Think I’m Emotionally Ab*sive | The Viall Files w/ Nick Viall

Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We’re back to answer your burning questions about the world of dating and relationships. Before getting to our callers, we discuss the Women’s World Cup, a woman who turned down an ice cream date for being the “bare-minimum,” and the deadly power of icks. We then get to our callers.
Our first caller has been dating someone for a month, and she’s worried she’s becoming emotionally ab*sive. She’s toeing the line between asking for what she wants and demanding unrealistic expectations, and isn’t sure what is too much. Our second caller is three months post break-up and is wondering whether he should reach out and fight for her. After his 8-year relationship ended, he’s not ready to give up, and wants to know if and how he can save what he’s lost. Our final caller’s best friend has been cheating on her boyfriend, and she’s not sure what to do. She loves her friend, and is worried about her friend group of enablers, but can’t stand by and watch her exhibit this toxic behavior.
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[@ItsssAlexxxx]

Love the podcast. Listen every week. The content is GREAT… I just have one *small* suggestion to improve your listeners’ experience: Example - Call no. 1. You often go round in circles for the last 5 minutes of the call after the caller has the “revelation”. Usually there’s an “Ah-ha!” moment when Nick hits the home run with the advice and the caller almost admits knowing what the root of the issue is deep down. And then sometimes the call drags on… kinda for the sake of it, repeating the same points over and over. I’ve noticed this a lot in recent Ask Nick episodes. The most entertaining and valuable parts for us are: understanding the problem, hearing nick’s advice and the “dance” between caller & Nick while they navigate the issue, hearing the “takeaway advice”, and then hearing that the caller has understood the advice. Perhaps the calls can be edited or guided in a way where they don’t drag on aimlessly towards the end. Then we would potentially get another call into the podcast! Not sure if this is an issue anyone else experiences with this podcast, or if I just get impatient and triggered by lots of repetition 😂 Again, absolutely love the podcast and this is my only pet peeve.

[@lanerzzz123]

I agree 100%! Thanks for saying this :)

[@joanne8084]

Yes, I totally agree with this! I love the podcast too but I usually skip past the segment to the next caller once the person gets the message and it’s wrapped up.

[@eh1126]

@@joanne8084same! I started skipping the last portions of the call once the point is made and the caller gets it.

[@ItsssAlexxxx]

@@eh1126 Yeah, same!

[@dr_power.]

I often wonder if Nick’s repetition is intentional on his part. In my clinical practice I do that at times. It’s a psych technique.

[@erikao3982]

An ice cream date sounds great. It’s like a coffee date in that it can be short if you’re not feeling it, but ice cream is even better than coffee. And it’s fun

[@ashhle_y]

Exactly my thoughts. I don’t want to commit to a full meal if I hate you in the first 10 minutes

[@martynadearing9808]

I feel bad for people who think they're too old for an ice cream date

[@connie0613]

🥺

[@brightsidegirl]

That was my thought too 🤣. 🍦

[@nycolbebraddy]

Especially at 26 lol

[@Dan-dc1wj]

The camera angle change so often makes me dizzy

[@Can_ada_10]

Yeah.. not sure why it’s so edited

[@dr_power.]

You were so good with that 8-Year guy Nick. Wow!

[@HelloSailor27]

Agree! Gave him perfect guidance

[@samanthanoellesmith]

That Reddit conversation 🤦‍♀️ I have definitely turned down second dates because the guy tried to downgrade the planned dinner date to a walk, and “maybe” a glass of wine. Or they tried to do a “want to hang out” last minute. But, first dates are definitely about seeing if you even vibe enough to go on a real date. Hopefully someone helps this girl have a reality check.

[@lalaa8653]

Gosh Amanda is my internet therapist the whole beginning of this lol just love her

[@lalaa8653]

Nick amazing job with the first call 👏🏽

[@laurenl6569]

This opening is funny because I canceled a date last weekend because a guy told me the bar by my place was too far to drive. He couldn’t find someone open for afternoon drinks so he ask if I knew somewhere, I gave a cool bar by my place, and he said it was too far for him to drive. I then canceled to date and told him “Ok if u don’t wanna drive for me I think it’s best we don’t go out. I only want to go out with ppl who are excited to put in effort for me.” Was I in the wrong? Also be be fair I was just generally loosing interest in him

[@assyrianprincess3]

You were right to do that. I swear, men these days have no effort.

[@Lizaw4022]

Feel better Ali!!! Love her

[@Soldbyschuler]

I miss the old editing! So many cuts and camera angle changes 😫

[@clorypaola]

The cuts made me 😵‍💫

[@Aliz56]

Congrats Nick and Natalie!!!!! 🎉🎉🎉

[@aubreydeangelo]

I agree with Nick. I haven't seen as much World Cup. I saw a lot more 4 years ago.

[@axlovesxyou]

1st caller needs to drop the guy. If he wanted to he would. There is obviously something better he wants to do than go on a date with her.

[@acd1168]

Nobody is that busy. He is very chill because he doesn’t like her.

[@seven92023]

He is probably juggling multiple women.

[@acd1168]

@@seven92023 He doesn’t want her, clearly.

[@elymaya4662]

Ice cream date? Is safe and benign, in the summer, is a 👍. An opportunity for a walk and great conversation.

[@ebstudio9525]

These red flags are flaming and the ladies are just ignoring them! Cmon ladies, wake up and smell the coffee. ☕️☕️

[@HelloSailor27]

I want you guys to cover Married at First Sight starting with the latest season. It’s the better Love is Blind IMO. And not enough people are talking about it!

[@sassarific]

I thought they would put an emergency edit & add a segment on Kaitlyn & Jason's breakup announcement last night.

[@sharanyagopinathan8413]

Way too many cuts, and for what?

[@alala4027]

The editing is awful what happened 😭

[@julieh5554]

Why so many camera angles

[@elymaya4662]

Advert as ment? Different x me.

[@sophie9658]

I’m in my 30’s and would totally meet for an ice cream date. Not a red flag, it’s called getting to know someone.

[@sandralinke9150]

Omg what an awful high maintenance girl…turning down an ice cream date from a guy that a) COMMUNICATES b) follows up c) makes a plan and seems enthusiastic Yaaaa…good luck to her 😂

[@sandralinke9150]

Also sounds like this “26 year old woman” has been over indulged her whole life…she’s got a ROUGH road ahead

[@cindicleee]

❤❤❤

[@brynndoyle9894]

Ice cream date guy hmu

[@claudiapawlak6894]

When some people Play hard to get. When the compatibility is like a Clown. Emotionally stress can be arguments every conversation. The honest truth not attracted because she is Mexican Chinese, he is European .She has the page turned, big ideas, beer money, Champaign taste. Emotionally ,stressful for his family, because of high up in a different way. Girl has replaced her mother with a friends mom. Some people need to grow up and be an adult. The humiliation of World War 2, when some related Germans, do not understand themselves, excuses hanging clothes in England back yards, in a bikini! Europeans washed clothes on Monday. The mask some people use to cover genocide,.or is it a Clown? The next generation is chunky, not that thin. Why pick on others who were up every morning, to earn a buck. Play this craziness,.nurses on disability with a $2000.00 dollar monthly income. Leave your children & grandson ,to live in paradise, is what matters. No religion, look what is inside those people ? The big fat hedge! Vacations are few, just work for what? I am not attracted to these people, let alone the vulgarity, of not knowing to wash her bedsheets! My grandmother's were mama's, plain cotton aprons, dressed for the occasion. Housewives ,cook, clean , wash clothes, on the bus for shopping bags of food. Look how high the hedge is even when put in hot weather. Girls that outsmart a boy, until he cannot mentally put up with it. Time to look into your nationality.

[@itszaque5031]

You good claudia??

[@acd1168]

@@itszaque5031😅

[@seven92023]

Nick has put Ali in a timeout for sharing gossip, lol. Perfect timing for Amanda to go to the Women's World Cup since the US misandrists got eliminated shamefully. First caller is delusional and desperately attracted to a guy who is probably juggling multiple women. She is missing the obvious red flags.

[@ChristinaBirkinbine]

We are not missing Ali. I like this team better.