Raven Ross Tells All | The Viall Files w/ Nick Viall

Welcome back to The Viall Files: Going Deeper Edition! Today we are joined by Love is Blind’s Raven Ross to get the truth about her relationship with SK and address all the questions and drama surrounding their rekindling, second proposal, cheating allegations, and break up. What didn’t we get to see between their season, the reunion, and after the altar? We dive into what details Raven knew and what she found out on the internet, if she’s been in contact with SK’s exes, and the last time she spoke with SK. We then have a special Ask Nick caller who gets Nick’s advice on being invited to a couple’s trip having just found out her best friend is cheating on her boyfriend. We wrap up with Raven and ask about early red flags with SK, and any parts of the relationship that she’s still processing. Finally, we have a bonus Texting Office Hours call with Raven about setting boundaries and communicating expectations early on in relationships.
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[@S2Naughty456S2]

Raven starts at 29:20

[@crystalclaire9040]

Thank you!

[@amateurastronomer9752]

Thanks girl! 😂

[@innasidibe9570]

Thank you!

[@alexamiranda472]

looking for this

[@elon6481]

ThankYou 😅

[@malv8208]

SK The definition of “give an ugly guy a chance and he starts to think he can do better” 😂

[@selxwrld]

he’s not even ugly though, why even go there

[@evee5788]

​@@selxwrld He's ugly especially next to Raven... But hey, everyone has their own criteria.

[@imo.124]

😳😬😄

[@selxwrld]

@@evee5788 he was unfaithful. doesn’t matter if he was ugly or attractive

[@lisabhudia5780]

It’s makes him ugly in the inside. Ugly isn’t always used to describe someone’s attractiveness

[@denaenykole5856]

Raven grew on me. I didn’t care for her in the first few episodes but she’s such a genuinely beautiful person inside and out. I love her 😭

[@flygurl247]

Girl same I thought she was gonna be the villain but she prove us wrong, She slay

[@shannonh8136]

Same

[@ghettyhilaire4948]

This was my sentiments EXACTLY!

[@220890]

Same !!!

[@organicallyhannah]

I feel like the producers edited her to look disingenuous and mean when she actually just has quirks? But when their relationship worked out they pivoted

[@xXTatiJellyXx]

In the moment Bartise approached her in the pool and she was straight and show how much she respect herself and other women and i was like wow she is actually someone worthy to follow, i admire you Raven you are amazing ❤

[@Meowhappie]

Yeah bartise would never be able to keep up with a woman like raven

[@onetwo4687]

The fact that Raven told Bartise "I'm used to guys like you, guys that only go after me because of my physical appearance, and I'm not interested", gained mad respect from me for turning him down. LIB is supposed to be about falling in love with who the person is in the inside and Bartise clearly did not go on the show for that.

[@xXTatiJellyXx]

@@onetwo4687 Exactly! why would you go to this show if all you care is how others look 🤔

[@TLemieux11]

This was the exact moment I grew the utmost respect for this woman!!

[@moonmilkgalaxy]

I forgot about that! Man been so long since the Bartise and Raven thing but so true alot of respecy

[@ElisePetersburg]

SK deserves an Oscar for that act. He had me FOOLED too sis

[@LittlePenguinHouse]

He deserves 100 rotten tomatoes and that's it

[@ceciliadundee9122]

Thats african men for u 😂😂😂

[@Wande861]

@@ceciliadundee9122 yikes 🫢

[@user-gt9xd8bq3h]

@@ceciliadundee9122 💯

[@catvalentine712]

FRRRRRR bro best actor of our generation

[@nermthegerm90]

29:15 for Raven's interview thank me later✌

[@deserieoware7055]

Yes, thank you! 🙏🏾

[@Mimi-hn6iv]

It is later....thank you!

[@Jess_614]

Bless you!

[@CleoCantor]

😂 lol messed up, but thank you 😅

[@delsmontgomery]

THANK YOU!

[@DeannaTroyTravels]

Netflix has to make a Bachelorette show and have Raven be their first lady! She deserves men fighting for their lives for her!

[@ericabelcher8760]

I don't even watch the Bachelorette but this idea right here, I would definitely watch it just for Raven! That's a great idea!

[@lillian-ku4mj]

Yaaas someone call the bachelorette

[@janelleb.9206]

Man, I would want her to have real love. I feel like these shows aren't for real love anymore😢

[@janinejackson4739]

Her and Diamond...

[@ericabelcher8760]

@Janine Jackson Yes because what that clown did to her was ridiculous! Smdh

[@mollylala7719]

It definitely makes sense why SK’s brother was so hesitant about SK proposing and asking about a refund for the ring.

[@victoriaagostini9612]

Yeah I always wondered why his reasons for proposing were to give raven “reassurance”. Little did we know all this shit was happening. SK is a snake.

[@tegantalks9612]

I would hate to be SK’s mother. I know if my son went on TV and acted that way I would be so ashamed and have some very harsh words.

[@suedaniel147]

Hope she sold the ring for money!

[@JhuntdaProdigy]

Raven is the full package: beautiful, intelligent, kind, caring, loyal, graceful, classy, willing to compromise and meet her partner in the middle. This gotta be the worst fumble of a baddie I’ve ever seen.

[@candyxox]

💯

[@ericabelcher8760]

I agree!

[@inspectorgadget247]

That’s why ppl are so upset! Cuz she’s so humble and not even stuck on stupid or self like baddies are rumored to be! SK lost his mind 😂😂😂

[@suriasosa3327]

dead ass

[@rachelkeane331]

he had us all fooled... amazing what a pathological liar can do.

[@allegedlyandfacts]

Seriously I really thought he was one of the good ones

[@anonmon8550]

He didn’t have me fooled. The way he blindsided her at the alter showed me that he was disingenuous.

[@encorein08]

he never had me fooled, i always thought he was ugly and insincere

[@Carl-_-Jones]

@@anonmon8550 I don’t think contractually he could have told her the truth then there wouldn’t have been any drama at the wedding producers are puppeteers

[@eeeyooohoh]

@@anonmon8550 he seemed like he was about to crack up too when he said i do not . bartise is awful but even bartise seemed more serious when he said no

[@Tam974eva]

SK acted like a broke college student on a budget who couldn't help Raven with her rent on LIB, yet he's out here flying multiple girls on couples trips. YEESH! Gaslighting 101.

[@JJ-bu7ke]

Right. He kept making it seem like he was on a budget and saying it was so expensive to keep flying back and forth to see her.

[@ceebee8255]

This!!!

[@CrystalM1917]

It was too expensive bc he couldn't afford to be a player at the same time.

[@mariavanessanakayiki2480]

Let’s make it gaslighting 501

[@matariki9818]

A lesson to us all : she who looked so vain at first, with her whole Pilates girl beginning, has turned to be one of the best personalities ever on this show, with maybe Lauren from S1. Kind, mature, humble, very self-aware and graceful. She was the only girl on a season (with otherwise pretty much terrible personalities) I could see myself becoming friends with, even though we're very different, the way she handled SK's mom melted my heart. Definitely ready for marriage and commitment once her whole barrier went down, ready for a healthy and balanced relationship, much more than some of her showmates (I'm looking at poor Colleen), ready to compromise and listen. She deserves her own Cameron, at the very least, someone as kind and trustworthy as her. And SK fooled all of us. It's sad that she should even blame herself when the entire world got fooled by his act - I would have never seen it coming either.

[@Ashley.Heather]

I wrote off when she was doing jumping jacks during a serious conversation but seeing her since has been eye opening

[@74MD74]

I always thought people were being ridiculously harsh towards her. There are so many reasons someone might need or want to move around even during an important convo. We had no idea how long they'd been in the room or in other rooms. You can't decide who someone is based on one scene like that.

[@Ashley.Heather]

@@74MD74 that’s very true. Even though I’m aware editing can make it seem one way, I have fallen victim to believing a certain narrative too.

[@jade-qi8ot]

@@74MD74 Literally. I get it makes for good memes, but if she is used to being active and is going on multiple dates all day multiple days in a row, why not get some movement in? Plus exercise can be used for so much more than just physical benefits - it can help regulate mood, relieve stress, etc. Dating is stressful. Dating on camera has to be exponentially more stressful. I thought the genuine negativity she received for this was so stupid.

[@vanessahobbes3072]

Facts

[@Yaaasays]

Raven still being open to love after SK did all this to her is amazing. The way men can LIE.

[@floresss06]

and most of the time, not even well 😭

[@mindoflino2699]

Lol saying men is crazy

[@AmyTraphouse]

Like it's a second language

[@stansmith5610]

*As a guy I can tell you 80-85% of men cheat and like 50% of them their significant other knows but stays around because of the kids, house, etc*

[@mindoflino2699]

@@stansmith5610 bro u are jus chattin this is not true at all.

[@laurm9138]

SK literally told her that he didn’t want a relationship like his father. His father has 3 or more wives. Clearly the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree

[@Toastbuckets]

Truuuuue!! I was thinking this same thing

[@bammytingy]

While it wouldn't be a relationship I would seek out, the wives know about each other in polygamy from the very beginning. SK is a liar and very deceptive and blindsided Raven

[@healwithdanak]

The majority of narcissistic personality disorder comes from a parent it could be the mother or the father

[@chocolateislife8737]

@@healwithdanak in this instance, clearly from the father. As OP said, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.

[@estrella264]

omg I remember that he’s literally a sociopath or whatever it called

[@WhitneyOsei]

In hindsight, It's just crazy to me how Cole was bashed for all of the things that SK is actively doing. Aughhh SK makes me so angry. She did not deserve this. I'm so annoyed with him right now. The audacity.

[@KpTheG]

Cole deserved it too tho

[@Nikkii18]

This part!

[@TheAustrianPainter87]

SK is innocent

[@iamshawndella8653]

It’s the AUDACITY for me! Whew chile

[@DaisyMaye15]

Okay but like also Bartiste!! Less not forget him

[@gymnast1910]

SK really had the nerve to judge Raven's looks...what world is he living in?

[@JyotikaSinghRani]

Who even knows 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@pinkorganichorse]

Well she is very ugly but so is he.

[@marisaking5982]

unattractive men usually have the most audacity 😖

[@Sarabrookeee]

The world of “I prefer white women”

[@teresaamanfu7408]

I believe that Raven is drop dead gorgeous. SK is a sad man.

[@AdviceFromAHipoCrite]

The second that SK said no to Raven at the alter, she completely changed. I saw her heart melt and she became such a more vulnerable, and open human. After that moment all I could do was root for her.

[@juliac2687]

He damaged her heart and self esteem with that... that's why it was harder for her to walk away right away

[@lettyarellano6452]

2nd part of raven starts at 2:09:08

[@wonderwoman122]

Thank you !

[@elsiemandujano3565]

Thank you!!! Was only here for Raven

[@Ver00h]

Thank you because that nosey friend was being messy in a situation that has nothing to do with her

[@janethgonzalez8136]

Thank you! I listened to the whole thing thinking she was gonna say something like y’all just repeated the same thing 10x that’s enough

[@SashaBlake]

Thanks alot lol

[@commonrue6364]

As a black woman when the women started coming out of the woodworks the first thing I noticed was the stark difference between them & raven. Now learning that he was also criticising her Bts is so heartbreaking to hear. SK is a monster.

[@freedomm]

She wasn't his type, he shouldn't have continued the relationship. Seems he's exactly like his father.

[@sholay706]

That is one side of the story

[@sholay706]

Remember he fell in love without seeing her

[@nadiainthesky]

Yepp, I’ll never forget an early LiB episode where Nick and Vanessa Lachey were talking to the men and SK basically implied that he was eager to be on the show because he was tired of not having a fair shot with white women. I’m also not surprised that he’s taken after his dad’s example. He was red flag city from day 1.

[@freedomm]

@@nadiainthesky But he seems to be into thicker women in his private life, whether black or white. I believe he'll marry a Nigerian.

[@alid0228]

He is GIVING narcissist. The gaslighting, selfishness, lies, lack of accountability, focus on his image, portraying himself as something he isn't. I'm so happy raven realized her worth and that he was exposed. She is so gorgeous, and deserves real happiness. I hope SK leaves her alone and she thrives ❤️

[@camarada9755]

Yess , STAPLE!! Lack of empathy overall, disgusting individual.

[@itsaprilmichelle]

Yes!!! Like, I had goosebumps listening. I was in a 4 year relationship and didn't realize what the hell this turned into until I got way. I'm so happy she's gotten away and coming back to herself. 🤎🌹

[@Ashley.Heather]

Yes and her friends saw it straight away!

[@daphneycruzrivas3184]

The way SK messed up the best thing that ever happened to him. I’m so proud of Raven for handling this with so much grace

[@andyanderson8129]

This guy is not just a pathetic liar but also a fkn Idiot! But it‘s his loss, he will never find a fantastic woman like Raven ever again.

[@007nadineL]

No. He's not that into her. That means he didn't miss nothing.

[@ibpr4170]

I swear from exercising in the pod to the Raven we have here is insane!! Goes to show how shows portray people! Raven is so sweet and humble!!!

[@rosaclick1995]

Yeah we are quick to judge people without meeting them

[@debbiedebz7297]

Yess rhe way how the roles got reversed… ppl loved SK and said he was too good for Raven Then boom Sk turned out to be a pile of shit and Raven is actually the nice one😂😂

[@mrs.elentz2336]

For sure… editors doing people dirty 😖 For entertainment purposes. Allegedly.

[@howsusisthis]

I mean she was really exercising. Both her and Bartise verbally said it. It had got nothing to do with editing. Just because SK did her bad doesn't mean she's all fairy dust now.

[@jade-qi8ot]

​@@howsusisthis yall really hating on ppl for exercising LMFAOO

[@freshyx3]

raven is such a sweet pure soul 🥺 even speaking on the matter, she didn’t really slander SK’s name. she spoke on the facts and how it made her feel. she let SK’s actions speak for themself

[@lonwabojames]

This level of betrayal is beyond words🥹 I genuinely wanna give Raven the warmest & biggest hug!❤️

[@juliarivera2904]

Sameee 🥰🥰🥰

[@daniellaasamoah7078]

He is a monster

[@xxFireAngelsxx]

😅

[@ohhey_chelsey]

Around like 42 min she was talking about trusting SK and it’s hard because if you’re serious about someone, you have to choose to trust someone until they show you otherwise. This is a prime example of when doing everything right goes wrong.

[@OrelsGirl]

The people saying they had an arrangement are cruel, you can see that she's genuinely hurt. She's so sweet and genuine, she didn't deserve this. SK is trash. Also, making her sit through the replay was unkind/unnecessary.

[@stankdik]

agreed! that was so disrespectful he should’ve asked first if she was ok w that.

[@suras8984]

​@MoUD he might have asked prior to the interview.

[@ciaras3170]

no YOU see she’s hurt I don’t see that at all she doesn’t seem genuine imo she seems cold and rehearsed and maybe she needed to rehearse to be ready to do these types of interviews but the sincerity is definitely lost

[@miss-h92]

What happened to raven scares me so bad. Her whole closed off personality, that people take as negativity but in reality is just to protect herself. I felt that so much. People take me as a closed off but it comes from fear. I really thought their relationship gave me hope. And seeing what happened makes me scared to love. I feel you just can’t trust anyone and let those walls down.

[@jfaustin1742]

Same here

[@pettybetty1791]

That's the bad side of the halo effect. When you're conventionally attractive but shy or closed off, people can assume it's because you're stuck up or rude even when that's not the case.

[@LucianaFujii]

Take a chance! If people are jerks like SK is their loss

[@chillvibez268]

Being in love is a risk you take. Even for me after 8 years I sometimes think what if he hurts me...

[@ichiban6004]

Yes love is a risk. We can’t go through life guarded because we are afraid to get hurt. Life wouldn’t be worth it, I think raven gave me more courage than fear. She took what happened as a lesson and she understands that things like this are possible in any relationship. It doesn’t make them worth not having just to avoid pain. Love is amazing but also risky the best thing to do is take it day by day than assuming something aweful will happen.

[@yalyall]

Honestly, her testimony is going to be BEAUTIFUL. She went into Love is Blind so guarded and towards the end of it had everyone that was side eyeing her in love with her because she finally was being her authentic self without fear. Her dealing with someone as conniving as SK, the way that type of situation can really mentally fuck with you. All for her to come out of that genuinely optimistic about love and not jaded. She could’ve EASILY reverted back to her old ways. She passed the mf test. Her next one will be her best one.

[@rekaro__]

period

[@DaiMadeMusic]

💯

[@ayohilary7744]

Well said

[@kailynbeare2052]

Aww poor raven she looks so visibly uncomftorable while watching back herself talking about their relationship

[@chelsearaquel589]

im thinking the same, im not sure why they'd play all that back..? super awkward for her

[@OrelsGirl]

It was unkind of them to make her sit through it

[@alexisc.2752]

I felt bad watching that clip. Looks like she wants to cry. I dont think she knew they were gonna play that unless they did a briefing before

[@adelaramirez970]

I agree!!! I fast-forwarded through it because I found it disgusting

[@VeMaMartinez]

So wrong

[@natalieciulla1531]

The thing that makes me SO sad about this is Raven is a beautiful person inside and out. The fact that SK tries to drag her down towards the end saying he wasn’t “attracted to her” or “she wasn’t his type” is so wrong. Admitting to that towards the end is so disgusting on his part. He didn’t even have to take that extra punch and let her know that. If that was the case, he didn’t have to stay as long as he did. And honestly, Raven is out of his league looks wise. It’s ok to have a type but that’s such a front. I think he wanted to hurt Raven even more or justify his shitty actions because she’s GORGEOUS. She could be on a magazine for real. Looks aside, if you’re in a genuine relationship with somebody that doesn’t even matter at all. SK is such trash, and Raven will rise above this. She’s such a graceful amazing person. I hope she gets all the good karma.

[@jessxr_]

Agreed, but I think, in a way, it helped her see who he really is. And ultimately, helps her move forward... can't go back to where you're not wanted in the first place.

[@cassiepoohmylove6624]

so true and he went on love is BLIND! if you coulnt love someone who wasnt your type dont go that show

[@rubytuesday999999]

Where did he say those things?

[@cjo4210]

And he looks like a turnip!

[@frtt2884]

@@rubytuesday999999 2:15:22

[@Helloo_oo]

This was such a gentle listen,,,, no screaming, no talking over each other, the genuine apology from the host,, yeap!!👏👏 Raven is very beautiful!😍

[@jaxsonc4762]

I feel like they actually interrupted her a lot. It was kind of annoying.

[@NhuNhu-888]

@@jaxsonc4762 agreed!! VERY annoying

[@allisonscanlan4144]

@@jaxsonc4762 true but way way less than usual ☠️

[@stephtonneson]

Props to Nick for leading this discussion with such gentleness and empathy. He really address her with such care throughout this entire interview and that’s exactly what she deserved

[@HeyItsBea123]

Made me teary-eyed when she talked about SK’s mom. She didn’t deserve any of what he did. UGH 😢

[@savannahz6399]

I think deep down his mom knew what he was like, she was with his dad who had other women so SK wanted to be like him.

[@jojobanks8857]

@@savannahz6399 not always the case. As someone who’s also Nigerian, my grandfather was a rolling stone but my dad isn’t. We can’t say that SK’s mom knows what he’s like

[@savannahz6399]

@@jojobanks8857 I'm not saying all Nigerians are like this. But SK was showing signs of not wanting to settle down when he said no at the wedding then dated her afterwards but couldn't stay committed. The brother definitely knew he wasn't sticking to one woman.

[@jojobanks8857]

@@savannahz6399 the brother knew but the mom seemed genuinely shocked at the wedding. I doubt she knew

[@NakyaMami]

I think SK ‘s mum knew he’s not into black girls !

[@alyssashannon1218]

The fact SK kept secrets despite the fact his partner at the time was asking for honesty shows that Raven dodged a bullet. Raven is such a kind and strong soul; just because you're a strong person doesn't mean your strength should be constantly tested by your partner. Raven deserved a safe space and 100% honesty.

[@Ninasim123]

Someone could even think he is acting like those Nigerian love scammers...Poor Raven

[@ndelva96]

I love how the male host empathized with her. I’m so sad for raven she went into this show with good intentions and now she has to heal from all this bullshit from this pyscho who is so under her league. She’s a gorgeous girl deserves so much better

[@rach4724]

Raven is so calm and composed, l love how she narrates the story without bitterness. Love and light to Raven🥰!

[@ezi9982]

This level of vulnerability is unmatched . Thank you so much Raven. We love you!

[@jasminear3982]

Ravens subject starts around 28:00 👍

[@vogueeli]

THANK YOU lmao

[@Thatchickx03]

THANK YOU

[@jacquilozano9852]

Thank you!!

[@onenessa1]

Doing God’s work 🙏🏽😂

[@americabernal7053]

True hero! Thank you I was so confused lol

[@illianap419]

SK’s behavior was manipulative and abusive. The lengths he went to silence her and to try to fabricate a whole different story. I feel so bad for Raven but I am glad she is on the other side and able to tell her truth!

[@stephalise9015]

The growth of Raven is astounding, I’m glad this experience didn’t coat that hard shell back over her 10 fold, I’m glad she can give love and vulnerability a chance again because that’s healing, growing and living. 💗 kudos Raven!

[@rachellandrysaunier4287]

Nooo Raven looked mortified watching the clip of her talking from the past. Poor thing. God, I feel terrible for her. She’s such a catch and didn’t deserve that. 😢

[@DuquesaChannel]

Omg yess i agree 😢😢 her face

[@lisapersaud4711]

Timestamp?

[@missaajak712]

34:05

[@feleciawilliams1668]

why would he make her watch for soo long, i was genuinely confused. the invite to answer questions and the outfit change and her not there either, am i missing something?😂

[@fowziahassan8423]

the way he manipulated all of us into thinking he was a good guy. poor Raven i can’t imagine how she is feeling.

[@Febreezy]

It's scary that he's going into medicine.

[@Godiswith_HER]

It’s so scary.

[@CharlieDB]

Raven turned out to be the best person on Love is Blind for me ever... she grew on me, at first I thought she was an airhead, but she surprised me with her depth, intelligence and presence... you know... SK shocked me to the core for real

[@MzJamaicanBeauty12]

I really feel like this is what Nick and Vanessa should’ve been doing, not this exactly but actual questions that dig into what was really happened. Everything was so surface and pretty much unnecessary bc no one cared.

[@pineappleice100]

Agree. They’re terrible hosts lol

[@diannesidhu6475]

LOVE THIS!!!!

[@johannastromberg1224]

They're horrible hosts

[@j.mendoza6755]

@@pineappleice100 I watched the reunion today for season 3. First question they made was about Alexa’s closet space as a married woman. I’m like whaaaaaattt? You guys as hosts are the worst

[@camrynburrowes7104]

Skip to Raven’s first segment 29:15 and second segment 2:09:10 🫶🏾

[@gracerodriguez8557]

Thankssss❤️

[@Passionatelycurious91]

Thank you 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@helenmulatu897]

Thank you 😊

[@vuyile]

They need to pin your comments 📌

[@mnelly4930]

Thank you!!🙏🏾

[@karlyrenaecameron]

Super tacky to play that clip back with her sitting there. She’s obviously uncomfortable and hated it.

[@eh1126]

Exactly! That was uncomfortably long

[@Egonzo71]

Man…we gotta protect her at all cost she is being so openly vulnerable you don’t get that a lot I’m glad she was able to say the truth and now she can heal. She’s so well spoken it’s nice to see her be able to let it all out and not hold back great great interview! Thanks for letting us in and I wish her nothing but a beautiful peaceful loving life ahead

[@heatherslifestyle85]

Sk will wake up one day and realize who he truly is and who he lost. Raven is such a bright light. Wishing nothing but success and true happiness for her

[@wackybrattyx]

Probably not. He’s likely a narcissist.

[@qraCz]

Sk is the definition of a narcissist

[@Kimkay7]

Yes!!!! This !

[@vlcralley]

A lying dog….

[@MsRaeRae]

My thought exactly

[@je.suis.prisci]

She said, she was under witchcraft and that hit me. Girl, we've been there. SK lived up to the Nigerian men stereotype. She deserved better and I can relate to how guarded Raven was in the beginning of the experience.

[@chenahill3107]

So he embarrassed her at the alter then gets another chance with her, proposes to her to just cheat on her and break her heart AGAIN IN FRONT OF THE WORLD?!?! 😡 ……. Its mind blowing

[@livhevidar7616]

ravens story is the real embodiment of "love is blind"

[@pamelita959]

I didn’t like her at the beginning of the show, but then I really liked her as a person. She deserved so much better ❤

[@enjolim.4778]

Same, I didn't like her at first either, especially when she was doing jumping jacks in the pod 🤣...but later after getting to know Bartiste, I see why! Lol she quickly became my favorite of all the seasons because she seems like such a kind hearted person. I even did her pilates vids and like her even more, you should def check out her pilates vids!

[@alisjordan9206]

Same! Idc for her either.. but she grew on me.

[@adrenna1973]

She truly evolved more than anyone. She was totally guarded but she really opened up and became vunerable.

[@slsantiago19]

SK was doing it for the money, manipulated Raven in so many ways to save face while living his real life sneaking around with girls. I’m glad this podcast answered all our questions of what really happened behind closed doors. Raven hope your heart heals and always follow your intuition, your feelings are valid, you are genuine and he was fake.

[@OluwakemiAde]

The show didn't pay them. There's no money. He works in Tech. Maybe the thrill of being on Netflix though. They don't get paid to be on the show.

[@halfway2somewhere]

Yes they absolutely get paid. According to a former cast member it’s about $1,000 a week but they def get paid on all reality shows, pretty sure it’s a legal thing. It’s not a fortune but they def get paid ​@@OluwakemiAde

[@OluwakemiAde]

@@halfway2somewhere Nope! LIB is different. They brought people on the show and give them the opportunity to find love. No monetary gains. They didn't get paid. Most of them certainly have great jobs paying $1000 or more a day. $1000 a week would be a ridiculous reason to want to go on a show. They probably use that amount to eat out or buy groceries on a normal day.

[@halfway2somewhere]

@@OluwakemiAde I don’t know where you get this info but they do def get paid, there is even a legal lawsuit about it. A quick google search would tell you. The contestants and the show both have stated this so I don’t know why you’re arguing. It’s very well known and easily verifiable if your don’t believe me. They get paid because they have to have at least six weeks off work to go on the show. I’m not gonna argue the actual facts but you can literally Google it and even see the paychecks from some of the concert contestants that were showing how much they got paid

[@halfway2somewhere]

@@OluwakemiAde also when you sign up to be on the show, it’s literally in the terms and conditions there as well how much you get paid. I never said they went on this for the money, that was the original poster. Natalie and others have said they got paid so much less than If they had just stayed at work. My only point was they do get paid to be there. All of this is very easy to look up so I don’t know where you’re getting your information but these are actual facts, so I’m done arguing with you.

[@christianne.]

I cannot believe this. Raven is incredible. The way she was treated was so incredibly awful……

[@leevis333]

Raven is a gem of a person. I'm so impressed by her. I'm sorry he put her through this. She will be okay - sounds like she's taking all the right lessons from it and not letting it change who she is.

[@taylorross4342]

I think even watching we were all fooled by SK, I was so shocked when I seen the videos, the level of betrayal is so beyond words 😢

[@WhenLoveOverComes]

Oh Raven you can hear the pain in your voice. SK is a narcissist and probably a sociopath. How can he lie so easily?

[@shadiaali728]

There are ppl who can lie easily (pathological liar)doesn’t mean u r narcissist or sociopath that word thrown around so much it lost meaning .

[@Febreezy]

@@shadiaali728 there's other signs hinting to something else going on, far past being a bonafide liar. From someone who has dealt with a narcissist, SK's personality is concerning. In public, he presents himself as something entirely different compared to the private.

[@MeahDenee]

Hearing all of this really shows the self hate that SK has for himself. He’s a very insecure man outside of being a pathological liar. He was never deserving of Raven. I’m glad she still has such a positive and beautiful aura.

[@katharinedominguez]

SK is disgusting and I feel bad for his Mother, too. She seemed like the sweetest, she really liked Raven, and her son is such a disgrace. Raven, this was a blessing in disguise!! You are beautiful and strong and deserve so much more than what SK dished out. ❤️

[@j.mendoza6755]

It reminded me to “shake”. His mom was such a beautiful soul and amazing lady. Same with SK’s mom, she’s like amazing but his son just soooo bad. 😢

[@dadoushou562]

It will be great if Raven is the next bachelorette and have the opportunity to meet some great guys 🌹🌹

[@garlicparmalexa2635]

Yes because the men going on the bachelor as such good men… lol I do hope she finds a great man too though!

[@07karmar]

@@garlicparmalexa2635 thank you lol ! She deserves something much more!!!

[@HD91436]

@@garlicparmalexa2635loooool right!! Hopefully she finds a great guy in general

[@dorriswandia]

I think a break from the public would be great. No more dating shows.

[@jfaustin1742]

Yes!!

[@munashenaomi_6350]

He fumbled it 😩 I love Raven so much. Deserves way better

[@Linalinalane]

Can you have her back on the show just to talk to her about her life not all sk. She’s so lovely I think ppl would enjoy just knowing more of who she is.

[@ernabos1986]

One thing he didn’t lie about: raven is indeed a treasure. ❤

[@ValeskaRebello]

SK ruined his reputation while trying so hard to protect it....congrats to raven for coming out the other end of this mess

[@thejessjourney]

I love how this podcast gives us a detailed vision of a person that is living in an abusive relationship without even knowing. It’s very clear when you are not in the relationship but when you’re part of it it’s so difficult to see the red flags and believe them. I feel so sorry for Raven but happy that she is in a way better place now far away from all of this

[@chelseawilliams4592]

Trc😊😊😊

[@AishaLynn]

Facts!!

[@melissasaippa725]

She is such a beautiful person. So articulate, genuine and vulnerable. She is just a gem of a person. I hope she finds the best the world has to offer. She deserves it.

[@kaylakat9466]

Raven handled that with so much grace and didn’t get discouraged. I love that for her. At first she seemed standoff-ish but seeing her be real and vulnerable changed my outlook on her. Side note: Can we please get Zanab on the show and ask her what she thought when she watched to actual clip of the cutie situation? I’m dying to get some type of read on her.

[@karinaababneh7746]

I am pretty sure she will never own up to shit, she would just repeat that many scenes didn’t make it to TV 😂😂

[@ElisewinCarewall]

I’ve gone through the same thing and hearing Raven’s recollection of all the lies and manipulation tactics from SK was truly heartbreaking, it brought back all the painful memories and humiliation. Raven you’ve got this. You’re a great woman and you’ll get back on your feet. ♥️

[@ElisewinCarewall]

Stop talking to him girl. These assholes always pretend to feel sorry just to keep an emotional leash on you. No contact is the only way with narcissists

[@thejayxo]

I’m so happy for Ravens grace and maturity! I loved her since episode 1! Also want to applaud her for standing on her boundaries throughout the journey!! Especially when it came to moving!

[@diannesidhu6475]

Agreed! ❤️

[@OptimisticMaggie]

Finally some answers. Thanks Raven for being so open 💕 My only feedback… there is no reason that clip should have been played for so long. It’s obvious how uncomfortable it was for her and we could have done with just a summary from her instead of hearing the clip

[@shay3385]

This is my first time watching this show and I have to say I'm impressed and surprised. I came to for the Raven tea (which girl, my heart is with you on this one) but was so captivated by the honesty and compassion you show your callers and guests. During your interview with Raven, you largely let her tell her story unprompted which felt authentic. Then, when speaking to callers, you didn't jump in with your opinion, but led them to their own. I really enjoyed that you held your thoughts back for so long. It let your callers form their thoughts and set the stage themselves before you added your own influence. It's such a selfless way to give advice and I learned a lot from it.

[@Studentdoc_tash]

She is such a thoughtful, well spoken individual who has been through hell and back and still has an open heart. Seriously an inspiration! We are rooting for you Raven!!

[@shaymayhello]

Shout out to Raven for knowing her worth and standing her ground. ❣️

[@emmaswartz4549]

I'm so sad for Raven she had to take this publicly but the bright side is that it's a huge warning for other women about SK. I was rooting for them too.

[@tems__30]

I love that she's back to dating. I love that for her ❤️

[@Mercyreneeb]

I absolutely cannot believe the endless lies… you can tell raven has such a strong soul. ❤️ I hope she’s find honest love

[@tashenkas]

Discovering vulnerability AND gut feeling as superpowers! I can relate to that. As well as to many other parts of her story. Kudos, Raven!

[@yeseniaposadas]

Raven ended up becoming my favorite person by the end of the season, and she’s so real and genuine in her work and platforms. She didn’t deserve the evil manipulation by SK. He honestly seems like a completely toxic person to be with. Screw his reputation. She came out winning in the end.

[@AishaLynn]

That gut feeling is NEVER wrong.

[@kimarawithers]

I honestly didn’t care much for Raven. But she quickly became my favorite. She is dope and real af

[@too_tired_to_care7291]

I think I hate the first part where nick decides to play this long ass clip of what she said and he is smiling enjoying it all and you can just see raven struggle through it.

[@OrelsGirl]

So terrible honestly

[@ihatesushi18]

Feels gross

[@SaraLovesAcing]

Sometimes smiling is a response to discomfort or feeling awkward/uncomfortable

[@LoveTanyaxo]

Also he said it was the producers idea to replay it

[@Sumi2379]

Omg felt so bad for her. You could see it was hurting her

[@shadyaabdul4899]

On the bright side,it was a huge learning experience for Raven.She entered the experiment as a closeted human in terms of letting people in and giving her heart out,and now ik she will be able to love again.Because love is still out there,and there are genuine people!She will be more careful and take the red flags exactly as they are!!RED FLAGS!! LOVE AND LIGHT BBG!

[@mirkagranoble]

Raven girl you are strong af coming into this and taking about it. It takes alot but just know we are all proud of you and hoping the freaking best for you dude. What a loss but just know, just know you’re only getting the best from this experience. Becoming stronger, learning more about yourself and loving yourself. You got this even on your bad days, always remember you are THAT GIRL

[@bangboom69]

Y’all.. the way I needed to listen to her talk about her relationship is wild. My bf broke up with me right before V day and hearing about someone talk about listening to your gut and listening to when things feel off?! Like I said.. couldn’t have come at a better time lol

[@DianaBanica]

I hope you’re ok. Time heals. Know that. 🤗

[@bangboom69]

@@DianaBanica thank you 🥹🫶🏻

[@carolinaperalta5847]

Literally tho she’s right your gut feeling never lies

[@AscencioDrea]

She is the epitome of somebody who's worked/working on themselves. So much lying and disrespect from someone you love can bring anyone to their knees and make them cold but she's working on herself and not allowing that piece of......to change her but only to improve her ❤️❤️❤️ she's a baddie.

[@laurena858]

I'm such a fan of her. She is so strong and I know she is coming out on top of all this. No doubt. You got this, girl!

[@salenaheart2250]

Raven should be the next bachelorette ! ❤ I would definitely watch

[@MrsBreezy388]

I feel like out of all the women on love is blind Raven was always the most honest and caring person on there. I hope I get to meet her one day as we are in the same city and I would just be happy to meet her. Girlfriend, you deserve the world you deserve the happiness. 🥰🥰❤️

[@brittinvancity]

He always made my skin crawl from the beginning. She deserves the best.

[@MakanakaMuza]

She sounded like she was on the verge of tears the whole interview. So sorry this happened to Raven she did not deserve any of this

[@MayaTheBeeeeee]

Raven turned out to be my favorite on this season and it surprised me because they showed her like cold last but she is just very driven en knows what she wants. I admire her work ethic

[@kemmeliej]

Sk didn’t deserve Raven! She is beautiful, strong, loyal and independent. I wish u nothing but the best Raven. 🖤

[@tiah1927]

I suffered a lot of trauma as a child and then became a mother at 20. I got fed up with spewing my trauma on my child. We started dialectal behavior therapy as a family and wow!! I am heeling my trauma and holding myself accountable as a parent. I hope my daughter can flourish and break the cycle of abuse!!

[@notmyname2081]

Sk’s red flag for me was when he shared on the show that his dad was in a polygamous relationship. He low key is a polygamist but doesn’t identify himself as such which is deceitful and he made Raven and the other women believe they are in a monogamous relationship with him.

[@melodyide2248]

If I remember correctly, he flat out said that he wasn't like his dad. I honestly think that he mentioned it hoping that the answer from the other side would be a positive one.

[@ellennimrod8476]

I know SK of all people ain’t talking about ravens looks 😂😂😂 she’s angelic

[@freshpunksf]

More power to Raven. That just shows where her heart is. She’s always healing and always open to love again.

[@itsjustjodyy]

i watched this due to raven, i became a fan due to the call in at the end, your character is EXACTLY the way i carry myself, and explain things to my friends, its about the principle, honesty is the best policy and dont sacrifice yourself for those that are dishonest.. hold those accountable. hold yourself accountable. NEW SUBSCRIBER here

[@life-is-here]

Raven's story is incredibly difficult but she's brave enough to share it, and the team is excited to hear it. It sounds like a great episode!

[@nadia502]

I spent 5 years with a compulsive liar. I totally get Raven, you want to believe and you want to see the best in people. But you don’t see it until you’re no longer in it.

[@nadia502]

The more raven talks about her relationship the more I see the similarities we went through. It suckssss to say the least

[@ElisewinCarewall]

Same, I spent 3 years with a compulsive liar and that shit really affected my ability to trust myself and others. It’s just so unnecessarily cruel.

[@nadia502]

@@ElisewinCarewall yup! I kept asking myself what I was doing wrong that he just couldn’t be honest. Until I noticed he’s a broken person and he just can’t be in a relationship

[@ibpr4170]

Liars like that are also so good at making you feel like they have changed and telling you the truth… sorry u had to go through that!!

[@jojasmin235]

Same..8 years. I was broken when it ended and I had to get get therapy after him. Now I'm finally in a healthy relationship. People like this won't change.

[@jennym732]

This was hard to watch. There’s so much sadness in her eyes, but I’m glad she’s pulling through