Ask Nick - My Coworker Won't Stop Flirting With Me | The Viall Files w/ Nick Viall

[@S_patricia]

The caller about her coworker is either insanely naive or secretly likes the attention he’s giving her. The guy definitely crossed the line.

[@sydneybharper]

Exactly! She knows he’s crossing the line so why act like you’re unsure. And why’d she follow him to these places when he alone to begin with…could’ve read the room

[@mrsjessicasmith]

I think she likes it and him.

[@Luckygingerslots]

I think she secretly likes the attention. I get the ick from her.

[@Luckygingerslots]

@@mrsjessicasmithall I can say to her is karma is a b*tch.

[@PinkToe6]

Saying to stop it all and shut it all down the second they aren’t respecting the no, is SUCH good advice. Thank you for this.

[@eh1126]

The caller with the married coworker clearly likes him back. If she didn’t, this would’ve made her incredibly uncomfortable and her call would’ve been to HR and not Nick 😂😂😂😂😂

[@yakatya539]

Coworker caller: pulling you on his lap and slapping your a** is workplace harassment. The only way forward should be to report him

[@sarahandersen8220]

Warning, you any not wanna eat while listening to the first caller 🤢

[@kieracantryn479]

I agree, I don't know why they don't do warnings on this show! Also her real reason for being on the show had to do with her partner abandoning her, it had nothing really to do with her partner's kink so I don't know why she had to share that.

[@blakeclancy7741]

Well, I think the fetish might have contributed to her being used pretty much only for sex. It seemed like she did not feel respected. @@kieracantryn479

[@Aquamoongirl13]

This comment saved me, I am pausing to finish my cereal first lol

[@jenniferburke2076]

💯

[@briannapachec0]

Omgg yes! A warning would’ve been nice 😭 Ruined my appetite

[@cmary718]

Nick saying Valentimes is cracking me up and I think the first caller is fake lol

[@Christenx10]

As a woman in tech for almost 20 years, you *should* make waves and report coworkers who do this kind of thing. And especially men with more seniority.

[@Andi-tx1rl]

I hope everyone understands I'm not shading anyone's height here, but the caller who said maybe her 5'3 frame was the reason ppl don't respect her "no"... I don't deny that being physically shorter can make a person feel more vulnerable. But I'm a woman who is 6'0 and 145lbs. I still have a lot of shitty men not want to listen to "no". Height is kind of irrelevant, IMO. Men like to push boundaries. They just do. ... well, the bad ones. And I understand saying No to "everything past this makeout sesh", but unless they prove they will stop, as women, we do have to shut it down. Bc they will just keep trying to creep over that line. Just bc I'm taller doesn't mean I'm immune to the issue bc men are stronger than women in general. But bottom line, doll, we are people pleasers and THAT'S why we do this crap. Just shut it down. We don't have to get them off.

[@jennyonthecoast]

I wish people would stop saying they love everyone as a generic response as in the coworker. It waters down what love means and makes you ignore bad behavior. He’s your coworker and his actions can truly affect your career and finances

[@RealityRecapGurl]

The story about the guy eating his... needed a cue for us to skip it. PLEASE include cue's to skip stories because I just don't need to hear about that.

[@DaryaaNechaev]

First time I don’t agree with nicks advice for the writeriner. I don’t understand why he “took” the writers side instead of holding her accountable of her own actions. She told the guy she didn’t want a relationship with him eventually the guy moved on which hurt her ego (how dare he move on when someone doesn’t want a relationship with him). I think Nick should’ve give her some tough love as he usually does in those cases of one acting as “fuckboy”. But I do agree with the saying that she lost the power in the “relationship” that’s why she so “obsessed” and think she lost something.

[@maydaze5934]

Yooo, feminism has always included men and we’ve always wanted men to be able to be more open and gentle with themselves and each other. I think it’s more men haven’t cared about each other??

[@yakatya539]

Oh my god I can’t believe this conversation is still being had with such little tact and awareness. Coercion is not consent!! No means no from the beginning regardless of the tone it is said in. Quit giving sexual predators excuses Jesus Christ. ESPECIALLY since it’s a senior level coworker 15 years older than her. The man in this situation should have never never never perused a relationship with her, and he never should have pushed in that way. Nothing is her fault.

[@seven92023]

Men pursue, women accept. She chose to play along with the gross kinky guy and give him BJ. Choices come with accountability. She admits to ignoring red flags - that's a fault. He pursued for sex, she assumed for something more serious. There are plenty of faults on her part. Quit giving promiscuous women excuses.

[@leavemealone7751]

I actually think you are the one robbing this conversation of nuance and awareness. This is not a true definition of "coercion" although it's definitely being billed that way in the media. Women are not powerless in the presence of men, if we mean no, we are more than capable and rightful to get that "no" heard and accepted. Coercion implies blackmail, extortion, threats, etc. not just asking again and again. I agree that man here sounds like a predator absolutely, AND it is important that people feel empowered to enforce their boundaries, even if it is scary at first. You are allowed to say NO and MEAN IT. You can LEAVE, you CAN call a friend, you CAN take steps to prioritize your safety. Two things can be true: 1) That man was a gnarly pig and frankly a public safety concern and 2) If the caller wants to enforce her boundaries more in the future she IS capable and completely within her rights to do so.

[@yakatya539]

@@leavemealone7751 you’re wrong. This situation definitely falls into the definition of sexual coercion. I hope your point of view and ignorance is coming from you not experiencing this type of situation. It would never cross my mind to continue asking after someone says no. Whether it’s in a stern tone or not. What you are saying is exactly how predators blur the lines and avoid accountability. Women are socialized to never make men uncomfortable and that’s why it’s common to eventually “give in”. That doesn’t change the fact that the man kept persisting after “no”.

[@leavemealone7751]

​@@yakatya539 I don't think I am wrong about the definition of coercion. You are completely erasing this woman from her own experience. He is wrong for his actions. There's no debating that. He is not the only person in this situation though, her feelings are important as well, her decisions also matter. I agree that women are socialized never to make men feel uncomfortable, and people like you take that one step further and insist that women should always be afraid to assert themselves in a sexual context.. You are the one who is insisting that women have no power here. You are actively taking part in socializing women to feel as though they are not allowed or able to stand up for themselves when they are alone, in an intimate setting with men. Your message is essentially: "If you feel like you are being discounted, disrespected or victimized just lay there and take it because there is nothing you can do about it." If you are having sex with violent rapist, there is little to nothing you can do about it, because they are not taking your wants/needs into consideration AND are willing to physically hurt you to get what they want. If you are having sex with a pushy asshole, you can say no if you don't want to have sex, leave and end up not having sex. There is a difference between those experiences and it is worth it to encourage anyone who feels like they are being steamrolled by their sexual/romantic partners to stand up for their boundaries. You can do that and also insist on accountability from predators.

[@assyrianprincess3]

Believe it or not not everyone feels the same way you do. We live on planet earth, Men are always gonna try. But its your responsibility to protect yourself and your body and your boundaries.

[@seven92023]

The woman who wrote was told lies and used for sex, then rejected. Simple as that. First caller is trying to justify and make excuses for her promiscuous behavior. At 28 she should know better. Second caller deep down likes the inappropriate behavior by her married male co-worker. She is playing with fire condoning and justifying it. It's not platonic on his end and she needs to reject him firmly.

[@CrowdFave]

Nailed it

[@JamieMcgee518]

The woman caller, flirting at the office sounds EQUALLY responsible for her situation. If something goes bad, I hope, she takes responsibility.

[@janessajolly7921]

I love your take on not using your little one as a prop, and that you're not into the family influencers. They're so cringy to me.

[@abbeys1503]

we gave too much time to the first caller, sheeesh!

[@jennyvous]

Ngl, I miss Ali and Amanda😔 Even Genevieve😭

[@TheJdubtrey]

Is Allison gone too?

[@Badnewsfeminist]

Me too, Justin and Leah seem like lovely people but their energy is very different and pretty subdued. Changes the vibe.

[@clairenicholls8024]

😂 I love watching Nick’s expressions !

[@embeth446]

Nick excellent advice for caller 2. Guarantee people at work are already “talking.”

[@joanne8084]

Congratulations on the baby!! I have 2 girls and they’re pure joy!

[@Jsadd223]

All I can hear you say now is “Valentimes”💀

[@Agata_Balbina]

1st caller- OMG I just realized why being vegan is such a big problem for him😂

[@eliskacharlottew.2408]

Ugh I feel like its been a while since Nick has gone on such a long winded rant - but the middle section of this episode hurt my ears

[@lalae2023]

The first callers story.. that "man" gives me predator vibes like ew dude go to therapy.

[@sanaasayedd]

lol I must be an asshole bc the Nutella and cheese slice one cracks me up 😂😂😂 the egg cracking one, I can understand how that can be damaging to them in the long run though!

[@Alli_bossmama]

I like this new person Leah. Value add ✨💜

[@darter81]

Is Amanda gone?

[@abbeys1503]

@@darter81yeah! has been since december”ish” i believe

[@darter81]

@@abbeys1503 Do we know why? I miss her.

[@abbeys1503]

@@darter81i miss her too! and they never actually addressed it on the podcast, she was hush hush about it on her instagram too, just spoke about a “new chapter”.

[@Dogmama3]

I’m a dog mom, so for Valentines Day, I got them bow ties and I’ll be taking photos cause I’m a pawpurrazzi 😂 and the pack came with St. Patrick’s day ones so I’m covered there 😂 Also I would never do that egg challenge. I tried it on myself to prove how hard it was and I was right.

[@kaitwest3420]

To the caller who left the Mormon church if you would like to talk/need support I’d be happy to talk. I’ve been there done that and it’s really hard.

[@selenadonker]

Why can’t we EVER see what they see?! 😤 SHOW US the videos/clips you’re talking about!

[@crystalxoxos2]

What a waste of time listening to the first troll of a call 🙄

[@ningyding]

I think the Halloween candy one is awful too. I would NEVER. They wait all year and work so hard to get the candy and you should see some of the reactions, they are devastated. It’s not funny to prank your kids. Period.

[@jillianphoenix3270]

I totally agree. It’s not JUST candy to them. I can picture my 3-year-old son’s precious face, I know he’d be heartbroken if I did that to him. And I work really hard everyday to be his safe space and for him to be able to trust me and rely on me no matter what, I’d never risk losing that

[@ningyding]

@@jillianphoenix3270100%. Those parents are cruel. I hate those videos.

[@Agata_Balbina]

Agree 100%, and a child may perceive it as a betrayl by a love one. A small child doesn't have the cognitive skills to handle that.

[@Dan-dc1wj]

The first caller.. medical field? this gives energy that the caller is a resident and it’s an attending that has the kinks. And it feels like this attending has definitely done this before 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@ashsun144]

Predatory behavior 1000%

[@meredithroberts254]

Colors are good for a babies development

[@carlykathy]

It only takes 5 selfies?? 8:30

[@meredithroberts254]

I agree Nick! I’m worried about men too! I think feminism has ever corrected and now we have made anything “masculine “a bad thing,

[@chelsearobbins]

Where’s Justin’s face.

[@pamelasaunders3736]

Nick what did you get Natalie joy for a Push Gift. Make sure you get both your gals a card. Your first Valentine’s Card to your daughter from her 1st Valentine and she will look back on this card and smile ♥️💗💗

[@danielamazza1063]

We need Justin out there

[@morganrees-fleming1102]

As a member of the LDS religion the statement that the church expects you to be perfect is factually untrue. The church expects us to be bettering ourselves through discipleship of Jesus Christ. I don’t think you have to be part of any religion to know that being perfect is not possible and a ridiculous ask or expectation. Also I don’t think it is manipulative for someone to ask their child in this instance to do something they find to be of value and important especially knowing that mom has been taught her whole life that reading scriptures is a top priority. I do think mom could have gone about it in a lot healthier way and does need to respect her daughter’s boundaries and wishes.