Asperger's/Autism Checklist | Going Over the Tania Marshall Screener for Aspien Women

Bear in mind that this is based off of Tania Marshall's observations in an attempt at building a female profile of Asperger Syndrome. However, please remember that it doesn't necessarily mean that only females will have these features, etc. It's something interesting to look at, but it is an anecdotal screener, not a diagnostic tool.
In this video, I go over the TM Checklist and add my own commentary and perspective on many parts of the list, sharing if I relate and how so to give better information for how this might look for autistic people.
NOTE: There is a portion in the screener that mentions Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria and suggests that some autistic people may be searching for identity and find it in certain groups/categories. This is a controversial view and from my understanding many disagree with.
(Asperger's Syndrome is now considered to be part of the Autism Spectrum Disorder diagnosis in the DSM-5)
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[@mireillepoirier9688]

I was directed to this by someone and when I read it I started to cry. It is like a personality profile. I am currently on a wait list for diagnosis. Thanks so much for your channel. I have learned a lot from you!

[@nancyevans7765]

I cried reading the list too. Still not sure I want to be officially diagnosed though.

[@annkatsaebelzahn8907]

Me too ❤️

[@jjohnston5406]

That is just the problem. Autism is NOT a personality profile. These people are including a lot of highly nonspecific traits that have very little to do with autism and could apply to many other conditions including just being an introvert. Remember that autism by it's very definition includes a certain degree of social disability along with other impairments. Most autistic people are near genius level...? Really? Some are, but true autism is more frequently associated with intellectual disability.

[@copperstewart5910]

@@jjohnston5406 You misheard something. Verbatim: " A large group of people with autism score at 70 or below on intelligence tests. The smaller group have anywhere from average to profound intelligence."

[@debbie3630]

it’s ok to cry, your not alone, i did to at first, but once you know your symptoms, you can Taylor your life to suit you 😀

[@josie2180]

I think I might be Autistic, I could relate to the majority of the list (and other checklists and criteria I have looked into). I'm still doing my research, reading blogs, watching videos, going on autism communities on Reddit and twitter. I don't want to rush to conclusions without being informed. It is a lot and it is very overwhelming for me at the moment. Currently I'm 15 so pretty young, and its a lot to take into my own hands, I really want to bring this up with a parent but I'm sure they won't believe me and they will brush it off, or possibly get mad. I do need help figuring this out, but I'm surrounded by people who know nothing about autism and probably don't want to consider it to be a possibility for me because of the stigma around it. But yea honestly I'm kinda shook at the moment lol

[@teocatnation4818]

I’m in the same position as you, I’m also 15 and questioning if I’m autistic. I told my mom but she doesn’t think I am at all and gets upset when I bring it up. It’s very frustrating especially when I show so many traits and complete the criteria.

[@user-zv1fd6bc4v]

I'm an adult but only now figuring out my diagnosis. I couldn't think of how to talk about it out loud to the people who wouldn't understand, so I decided to just say "hey this is an interesting video, will you please watch it?" And then sent them a link or two for the videos that describe me the best. So far it's gone really well. They couldn't deny that it matched, and then it opened the door to talk about how all these ridiculous stereotypes got started in the first place. I hope the people in your lives will listen ♥️

[@racebiketuner]

Yup. That very well may be the outcome. What I've leaned about advocacy if that you have to do it, then be OK with the results. It helps to accept that very few people have the capacity to understand/accept the neurodiverse community. That includes my entire family. I tried every way I could think of to explain it to them for 58 years before giving up. But I go to sleep each night knowing I gave it my best shot. One thing that might help is to have your family and close friends watch the Ask an Autistic series on Amythest Schaber's KZbin channel. It's not a deep dive into neuropsychology. Just a collection of short vids that explain the basics.

[@Hailey-re1ip]

I’m in the same position, I’m also 15 and have many of the symptoms. I’ve been researching about autism for about a year and a half now but every time I bring it up to my mom she thinks I’m just doing it for attention and gets mad.

[@pandaroo_cam]

hi! I'm 13 and was in the same position as you last year I thought I had autism and brought it up with my grandma and mom but they didn't really do anything but then this year I got a therapist and brought it up with her and she agreed with me and that made my mom believe me so my tip would to ask for a therapist or go to your doctor for non autism reasons and then bring it up with them once you get there. but my Biggest tip would to make a detailed list of all your symptoms and past experiences to show your doctor or therapist if you don't they may not believe you. I did this and am now on the wait list for an evaluation

[@VeganAtheistWeirdo]

Thank you for giving me a warning about anything attached to Tania Marshall. As several others said before me, this "screener" does no such thing because it's actually _inclusive_ to the point of several men here chiming in with how well it fits them, too. Years ago at a fair, I got my "fortune"/horoscope read by a computer "psychic" for fun. Someone who helped develop the program was there, explaining how it worked. The _reading_ was a printed page that listed so many opposing characteristics, but in different phrasing and different sections of the narrative, that at first it wasn't so obvious how the computer was able to know so much about the person. However, being the rather odd individual that I am, it just didn't score enough "hits" on me to be super entertaining, and that's when I re-read it and saw what the developer was talking about. It's like a written variation of cold reading. There's no way to know if this was intentional. In addition, the "screener"'s author makes references to ROGD as if it were a valid diagnosis rather than a load of transphobic junk science at its worst, so harmful that a huge coalition including the American Psychiatric Association and the American Psychological Association issued a statement against its use in diagnostic or clinical settings. She also cites GID, which was removed from the DSM-V (10 years ago) and the WHO's ICD-11 (4 years ago) because the overwhelming consensus among psychiatric experts is that being trans (or nonbinary) is _not a _*_disorder._* Now, normally I'd just assume this was an old version of her list from pre-2013, but Lisa Littman first used the phrase _rapid-onset gender dysphoria_ publicly in 2016 and her garbage "study" was published in 2018. That's between 3 and 5 years (assuming the version used in this video never received another update) for author Marshall to have acknowledged the updates to the DSM and edited her screener accordingly. Fine, I say to myself; Marshall is Australian so perhaps she was only interested in the ICD, and that was approved in May 2019. I've looked up the "screener" to see if it has changed. There is an update at the top from March of 2022. The body itself, almost a full 4 years from the WHO announcement, still contains this language, but it's even worse than when Stephanie Bethany read it -- the last item under "Special Interests" insinuates that trans people are suffering from "an obsession on oneself" and implies that "transgendering" (this is what she said, I swear she used this non-word) is a coping mechanism similar to the drink and drugs she mentions elsewhere. This isn't just a failure to update. We now have the ghost of GID joined by the pseudoscience phantom of ROGD, waiting to strike any unsuspecting trans or questioning person who's already vulnerable, if they're looking for autism checklists to begin with. I'm also not inclined to appreciate medical or psychological commentary from a psychologist who believes in psychics. There is no scientific evidence to support the existence of psychic ability. Nevertheless, Marshall chooses the phrasing "Possesses one or more psychic abilities," rather than "Feel they possess" or "Believe they possess one or more psychic abilities." This woman is, as of her last update, the CHAIR of Australia's International Association of Psychology and Counseling. I can't judge whether she is otherwise qualified or suited to a prominent position, and I am not claiming that she intends direct harm to anyone by leaving these things in her document. She will harm people with this, regardless of intent. My opinion is that it is her responsibility to know better, and to fix it.

[@cindya9572]

I could almost take that list to my counselor and say this is me. I have been diagnosed with clinical depression, OCD, PTSD, social anxiety disorder, panic attacks, eating disorder, but never ASD. I think I need to get re-evaluated.

[@christinelamb1167]

I have also been diagnosed with (and struggled for decades with) the things you listed. I once asked a psychiatrist if he thought I could be autistic. He acted like it was the most ridiculous question he'd ever heard! He was pretty much an a-hole anyway and I actually fired him shortly after that. But he said there's no way I could be autistic, because I am able to make eye contact and hold a conversation. Obviously he wasn't well-studied in autism, and had little empathy or care for the feelings of his patients. Anyway, I have suspected for quite some time that I am on the autism spectrum. I don't know if I will ever get formally diagnosed, because I'm in my late 50's and I don't know if a diagnosis at this late stage in my life would make any difference. I wish you all the best in getting a proper diagnosis, and I understand the things you are dealing with. It is hard to go through life dealing with all of these issues!

[@bforman1300]

Do it!

[@pariahmouse7794]

​​@@christinelamb1167 I mask so well no one, even professionals, believe me, and the masking is so ingrained when I am in public it's hard NOT to do it- I can force "almost normal" eye contact, but it's painful for me, and I have to TRY super hard- I am exhausted 99% of the time, I wish I could be myself, or I wish I even knew what that was- Sorry, was listening to the check list just now, did you say often get lost on campus?! Because yeah, that was one of the reasons I dropped out, three months in and I was still getting lost trying to find the same classes. That was a crazy time, trying so hard to be normal, and I just fell apart... And I work with horses now, haha, I cannot work in public anymore, i can't handle it without drinking to mitigate the stress, and that's not good for me... Anyway. That was a ramble, sorry...

[@christinelamb1167]

@@pariahmouse7794 I can relate to the masking being so ingrained. I have always been hyper-aware that I am different than most people, and I have always tried to hide this fact, ever since I was little. I agree, it is exhausting keeping up the pretense of "normal". It is hard work, and it's so much easier to just be alone, where I don't have to pretend I am someone else, just to fit in. I wish I could find some friends who are ASD. It would be great to have people around me who understand me. I appreciated your "ramble" 😉

[@julirobinson4039]

So much of this list is me 🙋 My girlie 👧 was diagnosed at 7 ( currently 8 ), and I instantly saw myself in her 🤔. I am 41, and not likely to get an official diagnosis ✔, but feel pretty certain about my self diagnosis 🖒. I only hope to connect with my daughter and support her as she grows up, understanding 💡 more about her than I know my own mom knew about me 💕

[@katielangsner495]

I was the only person in my world who had (the vast majority of) these symptoms. Now I am so Not the only one! So sorry other people struggle the way I do, but so relieved for online communities where we can talk straight out about these struggles that don't exist for other people. Who knew you could have genius-level intellect And be socially naive And struggle with executive skills? I've actually learned to make my self-talk more kind and positive; it's better than being perfect!

[@LittleRedRobyn]

I cried so much watching this video. It's like when I got diagnosed. As if you're finally seen. All the puzzle pieces fall into place and you can finally breath. But also the feeling of grief for the me that unknowingly, clumsily stumbled through life until now.

[@DjCapnWolf]

I have many of those traits, and I'm a male. So it applies to males, too. Thanks for the info! Very useful!

[@racebiketuner]

Yup. Me too. >90%

[@DjCapnWolf]

@@racebiketuner Cool! =)

[@OldWorldMethod]

😱😱😱😱

[@Vie2968]

Same

[@copperstewart5910]

Same. More than 90% on target for me.

[@PixieFeetNixx]

I don't know why, but this video made me so emotional. It just explains A LOT. Thank you x

[@corvidox9137]

I'm crying. I have my diagnosis appointment in about a month and this fits me so perfectly.

[@marglarsen7101]

The reading of many of these traits triggered memories of previously inexplicable behavior in the past. Such a relief to know it's a trait. Thanks for this video.

[@orth82]

Getting diagnosed as an aspie at 41 and becoming part of this special family of neuro-spicy angels was the first time in my entire life that I felt understood. This list was so spot-on. Feeling like an alien stranded on a hostile planet sums it up pretty nicely.

[@nattie9806]

It's a description of me! Well most of it anyway. I got diagnosed in my teens, but I would not accept it because they did not explain it well to me and tried to put me in a stereotype. I was traumatized by those psychologists. I am just now starting to relate to it.

[@kerilibearian9010]

Wow I relate to this incredibly. It’s really sad that we have gone years with these things we’ve had to hide or it just wasn’t noticed. I’m 37 and just now learning why I’ve struggled for all these years… there’s no treatment in sight for me, but at least I can identify what’s happening and when. Thank you very much!

[@RexxyRobin]

Anyone else got a "turtleshell-hoodie"? Although I am a size zero, I own a couple 3XL olivegreen hoodies, that I always have to wear when going into stressful environments/situations like big train stations, conventions or department stores. They make me feel protected and camouflaged^^

[@bleeknee28]

I love to "turtle" in my sweatshirt, glasses and headphones

[@vazzaroth]

It's hard when you already wear a 3x, but I wish I could do that and not look like a giant garbage bag monster risen from the depths of the landfill. I do demand a nice, full bodied hood from all of my jackets. When I REALLY need to focus and block out the outer world (Ie, people), I need to put my blinders on, like a horse lol. Those little hoods that stop at my forehead won't cut it. I need full on cultist hoods.

[@Mute2024]

I’d say 90% is me. Including the psychic abilities which seem to come out of nowhere!

[@AliciaHostetler]

I couldn't finish two semesters back to back, it makes me feel like such a failure...I kept my GPA around 3.7 but I just get so overwhelmed so easily.

[@karenwalker101]

I identify with Asperger so much, it’s such a relief ❤️

[@annikaswelt383]

Here in Germany I have the feeling that everyone is relieved NOT to be autistin. I thnkt that everybody ist though.

[@SoupyGal]

This whole video just described me and my personality. Thank you for all that you do. I love you and your videos so much.

[@abigailracheldewolfe6421]

Thanks so much for taking the time to read all this. It's so important to understand who you are and what you need to get by in this world.

[@DanaM18129]

I always have social hangovers and they can last 3 days or even weeks. It often makes me really sad because in this time I don't like to spend time with friends and I feel not good enough or I feel like I am wasting my life. I also tend to overshare or to say things one would normally not say because I start the conversation with the most exiting thing that is on my mind or a special interest (for me: gardening, books, psychology) Yesterday I met someone I have not seen in years and I told her about my "sugar waxing" appointment which is not appropriate XD this is really cringy but sometimes situations like that happen when I get nervous. Some people say they like that I skip the smalltalk and I guess I have to work on it I love these kind of videos (:

[@meta5175]

I wanna cry, those apply to me so much, but I feel like I’m masking so much (and cannot unmask) and no one believes me (doctors, psychologists etc.) they all say you look fine, maybe it’s because of your family, etc. but in reality I may have just melt down and cried my eyes out and next second be smiling to someone saying I’m fine. I feel so lonely, so lonely.

[@Carol29669]

A lot of these traits describe my daughter to a tee. We were in the process of getting a diagnosis before the lockdown here in the UK, but we don't know how long it might take now. She has not handled her homeschooling at all, tried so hard to do work but unable to grasp what was really needed, got overwhelmed and has had many meltdowns. I've been trying to get her help for four years, she's 16 in 5 months, and I can't praise her tutorial pastor enough for what she has done to help my daughter. Thank you for all your information, it has helped us identify which areas affect her the most.

[@jacquelineholts4801]

I was sooo blown away. This went way more in depth in describing what some of these traits were.....I am DEFINITELY going to look into this locally for my kid and myself....thank you so much for this video!!! I checked off like.... SO MANY BOXES 😆😆

[@Dana93Korn]

I never knew what I was going through for 20 years til I seen your video and it started to make sense to me, especially the traits and I'll definitely get checked out. Identify with all the above, painfully lol. Thank you 😊 for the insight, it was so helpful then anything I seen on yt!!

[@helenbird1664]

Exceptionally interesting content as always. Be kind to yourself always and keep positive self talk when the world gets overwhelming. Be your own best friend when others may not understand what your experiencing. Thank you 😊

[@DanaM18129]

Wow this list is the most relatable thing I have ever heard

[@joyglass7143]

I recognize most of these traits in myself. Always thought I was different than most. Now I know why. Thanks for your help.

[@c.brownell8618]

I'm blown away by this. I recognise so many of my own traits in this description and can't help wondering where I fit on this spectrum.

[@sarahmagoon4032]

Your hair looks really nice in this video. I'm glad you grew it. And thank you for the videos

[@dotty3825]

Okay, I am so happy I found this video because I was in the clinic to make an appointment with a psychiatrist and I have never been to the clinic that specializes in mental health only so I didn't know they will have an interview before they sign me up for an appointment. I was so stressed I didn't know how to put my thoughts into words and how to explain why I wanted to be diagnosed. And the person who was doing this interview was seemingly sceptical about me being autistic because I was on two courses of study at once and managed somehow to get through three years of it before I came to the clinic. He stated "but you managed to get through those studies so you function" and I couldn't explained that yes, I get through but barely So when the interview ended I started to doubt myself and I even considered to cancel my appointment because I felt so stupid I thought I could be autistic. But then I found your video and those points literally describe my whole life and I couldn't feel more validated in my feelings. I will go get diagnosed for sure and I will get the second opinion if I will have to do it.

[@kimberlyw9927]

This was so great, thank you. Really helpful to dive into these common traits.

[@sarahmagoon4032]

Very helpful video indeed! Thank you.

[@raven4090]

This is one of the sources I used to self diagnosed with. I don't remember the exact number of things I had in common with it, but only about 5 out of all of them didn't apply to me. So it was pretty obvious to me that I had found out exactly WHY I was how I am.

[@damescholar]

Thank you for the list. It corresponds my life and my personality to a T. I believe it is too late to get a diagnosis, as I am over 60, the testing may be expensive and the testers not wired or well-informed enough to meet someone who has been masking for 60 years. It is a great consolation though to know now what it was that made me different and it helps me to forgive myself the fact that I could not and would not change.

[@jay10533]

Thank you Stephanie I appreciate this and your channel.

[@ComingHomeToYourself21]

Extremely thorough list. I can relate to so much.

[@SmokyMountainBlessed]

I was relating so much to my YT friend with adult Autism that I took some online tests and strongly had the traits according to the tests, and I do relate to a lot of these traits you read

[@millsfamily7602]

I was listening to ASD stuff (doing that a lot lately) and the AI played this list and I found myself crying. It was like you're specifically talking about me. I'm 52 and I think my awesome mask cracked really good when I became agoraphobic. I keep it on because I am supposed to. It's so incredibly cracked. I tested as Asperger's just a few minutes ago on the AO. I'm going to process. Nothing is different yet everything seems just enough different now to make sense

[@MissShembre]

(Shembre here, name change.) I'm so grateful that you put out these types of videos. They're very comforting. I also wonder if there's a lot of young women in their 20s out there who would benefit from these videos, given the current social climate. Also me: Cool, I'm nearly 30. Should start feeling like an adult.. soon? I've made progress this year alre-- Checklist: Nah, you still have like 10 years of growing up to do. Me: :B

[@froschbart-verwirrt6712]

Yea, I felt that one too.

[@marthajacobs5821]

I’m 60 still waiting to feel like an adult!!! I’m going to really enjoy the rest Of what life brings… Thru a child’s eyes!!!!! And HEART!

[@luckysmummy5325]

Same. And 47.

[@JFPShelton]

Thank you so much for doing this video. That was a ton of helpful information. ❤️

[@sarinalight7422]

Thank you Stephanie! 👍🏼🤗💛💛💛

[@SabrinaJoshua]

So many of these things I can relate to. I’m not diagnosed, but the 💡 to self diagnosis, & a nudge to find out more about all.. lol the next hyper fixated research phase hehe 🙈 thanks so much for this informative vlog 😊

[@tiegrsidesignsandstudio4794]

I was listening to this while cruising other areas of the internet and got really thrown off by the sound cutting out...came back to see that the reason was because the "ex" in words like "heterosexual" (when used as a gendering term) were being cut out. Why? Apart from that - I've watched a lot of your videos lately and I really appreciate your content! I have only recently discovered that I may have ASD and am just starting to discover what that means.

[@Sarah-Legacy]

Goodness, this fits so much. Ever since taking classes on psychology through highschool and all throughout university, I found that I had little bits and peices of other disorders, none of them quite fit. But, I have been looking into ASD, specifically in adult women, recently and it's like my eyes are finally cleared. So many of these fit me like a puzzle piece. It also seems like psychology textbooks used in education need a major update on how autism presents very differently in women and men and in varying ages. Thank you for the video!

[@garyfrancis5015]

27:00 philosopher it makes me go crazy. Why am I me? Where did the world come from? Why did I suddenly exist I start having memories of at 6? Why do I have to get older? Why can't I live forever? Yes scary philosopher me.

[@agrotta1650]

Yeah, it is scary! It freaks me out too! I've been experiencing that since I was a kid. When I ask others if they experience that, most of the time they say no, which is confusing (how are they not aware of it?) My memories start in babyhood. I'm confused by people not having memories until they are much older!

[@gamerchristina1079]

I LOVED IT!! GREAT VIDEO! THANK YOU SO MUCH!! 👍👍❤️❤️‼️

[@tigergumby]

Thank you for this.

[@Kristen_Roar7]

Elementary was a night mare, middle school was torment, dropped out of high school and took GED, became CNA, then Esthetician, Then massage therapy, now about to Graduate with AS degree at 51yrs Started Bible college in 2014 but dropped out. people pleaser. No friends. rejected. social anxiety! yes taken advantage of. always making excuses not to attend would rather stay home, definitely black sheep. so much more!!!!! mostly ALL!!! No horror movies AT All!! no news!!

[@Kristen_Roar7]

music playing it over and over!!! teeth grinder!! Im in tears!!!! staying up late, its 2:34 Am here!! looks younger yes! balled up fist withbthumb tucked while studying or testing!

[@marybischoff-moore922]

Beautiful job❤️

[@incognito9313]

Oh my, pretty much everything was applicable. The only thing that was a polar opposite was emotional sensativities, my whole life I've felt extremely unsensative to almost all emotions, infact I remember having to preform emotions I didn't actually feel most of the time, or if I felt it I didn't feel it as deeply and had to fake it.

[@Slow11ferrets]

This list read me to absolute filth. Oh my god. I’m three weeks away from my diagnostic assessment and so nervous and anxious.

[@madeleinetremblay9315]

This did help me a lot

[@LynnieLovesJinyoung]

Where can I find this list? Awesome video btw

[@dmcsunshine1]

Thank you.

[@RexxyRobin]

I don't like how she repeatedly frames transition as an "effort to fit in" instead of an effort to be more comfortable in your body. If you transition to fit in, there is a high (though not guaranteed) chance you'll end up with gender dysphoria, so please be very careful with that.

[@StephanieBethany]

Yeah I noted in the description that her comments there are a bit controversial

[@gigahorse1475]

I think a lot of trans kids are doing it to fit in. It’s a social contagion both in schools and on the internet, which is why levels of ROGD are increasing astronomically. Many people don’t “realize” they are trans until they are exposed to it on the internet or have a friend with gender dysphoria.

[@LiamADHD]

This is what i wanted to see, I like it man.

[@AGothWithGlasses]

As someone who has a drug addiction, I would be what you would call a functioning addict. However, it is the only affordable, reliable, and less stressful way of coping with the public. I have people who have told me "well dealing with the public is inevitable and you just have to deal with it." To me, that is just an excuse to overlook your problems because you, as in others, really cannot do anything to help. I understand that patience and time is required for me to get the proper help I need but its EXPENSIVE, my drug habit is more affordable and reliable.

[@Mute2024]

Appreciate you taking the time to read that.

[@envystar6665]

Lol I literally have mostly all of them except for like one or two, reading physically overwhelms me and hurts my head and I have horrible balance and deph perception, I also think I might have dyscalculia because of my inability to do mental math and simple math(I couldn't be able to do division till I was 14) XD I'm freaking 17 and I still count on my fingers but I love art and music I'm an artist lol. I also have extreme sensitivity to textures my mom said I had that since I was four and even younger

[@peaceandhonesty3516]

I didn't know about this list despite Tania Marshall diagnosing me. But this list is me exactly.

[@misunderstoodpersons7975]

I didn’t look at the Samantha Craft one at first, because I didn’t think it would apply to me. But boy did it! And this one does, even more so. I think because this one is much more specific about some things, I know this is just a screener like all the others, but not as stereotypical sounding like AQ. What’s confusing to me though, the S.C. one got me wondering about myself further, like am I really a female, mentally? Not really, but if you’re honest with yourself, it’ll get you thinking/obsessing. (More than usual) why was it muting certain specific words on your video? And great material and always not just interesting, but intriguing!! : )

[@StephanieBethany]

I did notice this list would at times lapse into he/she, so I wonder if the entire time it was added to was necessarily just females. Perhaps more accurately, non-stereotypical traits? Idk haha. As for the muting, I didnt want to get flagged haha

[@misunderstoodpersons7975]

Stephanie Bethany I wondered about that too, and then saw this and was at least less confused. And I didn’t mention the word(s) muted cause I didn’t want to be either

[@AWalkingHat]

I discovered this list a few months ago and it confirmed my suspicions. I copied and pasted the elements I could relate to and ended up with six pages worth of text.

[@CB19087]

Engineers, mechanics... another reason I get on better with men. I think i related to 97% of that list!

[@garyfrancis5015]

It's lucky it's hot and humid in the U.K. It's 11pm uk time so it could 11:30pm when finish watching video. But if it so humid unless I have a shower. Because your temperature heats up and then drops after a shower. So having a shower before bed with humid night helps.

[@callmescout5831]

Is there a way to assign a value to this assessment? Like some of the other assessments that are online?

[@garyfrancis5015]

The 3 dotes in the corner can slow the play back speed.

[@Catlily5]

Thanks for telling me that! Now I know how to slow down the speed.

[@jaidawilliams3681]

i wanted to try and count along as good as i could to see how many i relate to, and i got around 149. Not even sure if there was that much but its a pretty big number.

[@anniestumpy9918]

Bethany, thank you once more, I really value your contribution to spreading information about autism! I have to say I have some problems with this list though. It might come from a good place but I think it is not particularly helpful for anyone to gain any new insight if or if not they do have autism. Literally everybody will find many traits in this list that fit their personality because the list is not very specific but on the contrary very broad. On the other hand it is contradictory in many places. So to the "this is 100% me"-people - did you completely read the list at all or did you just see what you wanted to see? Big danger for confirmation bias. For me personally who is currently at the "self-suspicion"-stage (don't dare call it self-diagnosed or self-identified) I did find many topics on this list that fit well but because of what I just explained I'm unfortunately no step further on how confident I can be about having or not having autism.

[@anniestumpy9918]

Just wanted to add, the "Psychic-abilities-chapter" is a bit odd, too. For someone coming from a scientific background like the creator of this list, I find it strange to take such things seriously.

[@aleahberylaine5311]

Are you creeping on my life? Omg this is insane. Well done darling! Explained it wonderfully

[@Dragonlove3]

Awesome

[@treesart6914]

Well, I recognized myself in this 95%. I also found out recently that my uncle was autistic. So I'm wondering about it. I'm not sure how knowing that could help me though....I'm 47, on my third round of education....having extreme difficulties finishing it again because of overwhelm....have a student-therapist, no health insurance, need to get a job but can't get my stuff together/plan/decide etc.......a mess.....sigh...

[@theholisticdog3381]

Sounds like alot of anecdotals tbh and mixed with alot of other symptoms from other conditions and personality disorders. This is just after listning while distracted and might have heard some things wrong but still.

[@danyelPitmon]

There are quite a few things on this list you mention that I have actually as far as some of the traits and I am getting tested in July for autism as well as I am also getting tested for sensory processing disorder my therapist thinks I may have that one but I don’t know although I’m starting to see that I might can’t wait to find out currently self diagnosing and anxious to find out and yes I do feel like I’m an alien that crashed on this planet I was left behind

[@lolitabaker4501]

Anyway I can get the link to this site? I would love to share this information. Thanks!

[@amber3574]

Alright... Steph... I NEED to know how your hair is so pretty and curly. Did you curl it like that? Is it natural? Might be fun to do a hair video 🤷‍♀️

[@StephanieBethany]

Aww thank you! It's not naturally curly, I had to curl it and then brush it out for this one. The dark color is my natural hair color but then I have some left over blonde highlights in there from awhile ago XD

[@jackilove523]

Thank 💚 You🙏🤩💚🕯

[@sayusayme7729]

At 62 I would appreciate an actual diagnosis as I have now concluded a self diagnosis after years of having these characteristics. I learned to mask at a very young age and it just went downhill from there, many attempts to fit in. Thank you so much! 💙💙💙💙💙🌬️🤍🦉 Thank you.

[@illusiveamy]

It me. 🙄 I love having the text to follow along with.

[@janinepitout822]

I printed this out and started highlighting what applies to me. I'm afraid I'll have to print it out and and start again crossing out what does not apply because the pages are soggy with ink and I want to take it with to get my diagnosis. 47 female.

[@kimiv.302]

May have repeated grades in school, or graduated, or just dropped out, or achieved multiple advanced degrees in college??" I'm genuinely trying to understand if I fit this profile or not but I feel the person who authored this list made it almost comically broad. I think a huge portion of people who listen to this could agree that quite a few of these traits apply to them perfectly, so I feel this is perhaps doing the opposite of helping to accurately identify this condition. "May be sensitive to pain and have low tolerance to pain, or may have a high tolerance to pain?"... I mean seriously...? And this criticism is not aimed at the girl reading the list , but rather the list itself. It's nebulous and overwhelming

[@artisttjan]

I believe what most people aren't aware of when reading this list is that they are typically extreme versions, so people who have many broken degrees do so almost in that it harms themselves. Like being a coupled of hours away before changing to a different major because they are depressed in the one they're in. On the other extreme some may over excel in academics to the point where those people may be more obsessed with the degrees themselves rather that the Jobs they aquire for having them.

[@artisttjan]

That is the difference between stereotypical and divergent, the extremes, most change degrees but then finish, it isn't a consistent pattern of behavior just a moment in time, where as divergent have a pattern to their own detriment. Some get more degrees because they need to for there career path not because they're in a way drawn to do so. Most people get tired of college.

[@gybsinparris6426]

What exactly is Irlen Syndrome though? Someone please explain...

[@TheDakimba]

You and I said "yessssss" simultaneously several times in this video

[@Kimby28]

i think i may be idk where to start i dont know what to say to my doctor, ive struggle all my life and now everything is clicking the weird part is my son just got diagnosed aswell hes 3 :(

[@pariahmouse7794]

This thing is describing me better than it should be... And it just hits harder and harder. My ex-husband makes sense now. And my alcoholism. I have identified almost 💯% with everything here so far... Let's see how it ends! "Too intense..." literally how people have described me... I didn't know a high pitched, child -like voice was something, I thought it was just flat affect... I sound like Jennifer Tilly (Joe's wife from Family Guy, Bride of Chuckie, many other film credits...) on helium. I truly never knew that was considered a symptom, people have pointed out my "unusual" voice all of my life... Definitely queen of the awkward over- share... yeah, no one wants to hear about your cat's uterine infection... And don't touch me unless we share a bed, haha... "May have a special interest in fashion or femininity"- holy hell- which I developed specifically to fit in with my peers when they made fun of my Bird Talk and Cat Fancy magazines. This is like having someone describe me to me, it's uncanny and I definitely have to pursue this because it IS THE ANSWER to my stain of strangeness, I feel so much better the more I realize, I have felt like there was something fundamentally wrong with me my entire life, and it's THIS, and it's not wrong, the world just doesn't care to meet me on my level... Wow... I am going to cry, this is overwhelming... And it gets more and more accurate... @21:43, ALL OF THOSE THINGS...

[@LilMorphineAnnie]

Oh...oh boy...it me. Like almost every trait is straight up ME. It would definitely explain a lot.

[@kriswalker3275]

Teach herself is so true and it has to do with neurotypicals being lazy or incapable of teaching well or in a way that makes sense so you have to teach yourself. That's been the story of my life and it can take me longer to learn at times which can frustrate a neurotypical but I don't really care if they don't want to put time or energy into helping it's what they get.🤔

[@mariecait]

I was expelled from high school for hiding in bathroom: ( in 2007 autism in women was never spoken of here. I am exhausted.

[@SpacedOut12]

The amount of items I related to makes me wonder if I should consider a diagnosis 😶

[@sky19804]

I was brought here after being referred for my daughter to be screened. Now I feel like I may need to be as well.

[@Streets0fLondon]

I know this is completly unrelated but you have very beautiful hair

[@the.nerdy.mermaid]

The pause with “…..great”. Haha relatable

[@brainwithani5693]

I would really like to read this list please.

[@gigahorse1475]

“Mirror-touch synesthesia” is when you *literally* feel pain when you see someone else get hurt. As in if you see someone stab their hand with a knife you will feel the pain of a knife going into your hand.

[@susannesonnenschein2878]

But this checklist is nearly the same as for people with Adhd ?... I am confused... Because i could have them all... But i am diagnosed with Adhd... ? What is the difference...between them both... ?

[@vazzaroth]

I am a full-on, assigned at birth and identify as, boring white male, lol, but I strongly suspect I have a more "womanly" presentation of ASD. I do have an ADHD diagnoses already, but was told the psychiatrist didn't want me "acting more autistic" so he just dropped that path, lol. Anyway, I'd say 80-90% of this list applies to me. A lot of general autism symptoms and thinking patterns hit home very strong for me (Especially imaginative, picture thinking! I say I have "x-ray vision", I'm always trying to see 'through' things,basically guessing what the inside of things look like based on what I've seen in the past.), but I'd say almost none of the "typically masculine" traits really apply to me. I don't have an obsession with math... I'm terrible at it and am fairly sure I have dyscalculia or at least executive function issues for numbers. It's pretty weird to have an obsession with logic, yet be TERRIBLE with math. Algebraic theory is great, I love variables and substitution thinking techniques... but once you ask me to add even something as simple as an 8 and a 7 together, I'm going to need 5-10 seconds! So, I've never had this, for lack of a better phrase, autistic obsession with numbers and math that show up on things like the AQ, but I also find MANY autistic women saying what I'm saying here as well. In fact, I married one! Neither of us are diagnosed, but we're both about 90% certain. (And have the same hangup of not wanting to be a liar or seen as invalidating others' experience by self diagnosing, as many many other YT videos have discussed being a "feeler" autistic trait itself, lol) I fret over community vibes. I worry about understanding what people are saying and expect from me. I feel like I don't quite understand social cues constantly, but I don't strongly avoid them. I just kind of.... grimace, grit my teeth and kind of 'trauma-zoom' through stuff like that, attempt to avoid hyperventilating, and try to process and deal with the consequences later, in private. I obsess over my own and other's psychology, try to figure out what's 'wrong' with me, can't stop thinking about how others perceive me, etc. (Check my channel for Shadow Critics to hear more if you want to, for some reason!) Speaking of that, I'm INTP in MBTI and my wife is INFJ. I'd say this entire video was a running list of 'quirks' of those two personality traits, in particular, it seemed lol. We happen to be called "the golden pair" in MBTI communities for being able to understand each other when most others do not. I often note that INTPs and INFJs seem to be the most likely types to have autistic presentations(asperger's is already a common trait in INTP communities), and even more so when you go with the "socially sensitive" autism criteria AKA this women's style of autism. (Extroverted Feeling is responsible IMO, if you're into Jungian functions) I've often told my wife that I know my biggest weakness... I'll just do what I'm told. I know that deep down, anyone can get me to do basically anything if they just try hard enough or get me to cry, which isn't that difficult. A certain amount of male socialization means that I have some defenses around this, but they're not strong. My wife and I both have been working on our mental health, including boundary setting, and it's been the single most difficult project of my entire life, lol. We're also fairly sure she's HSP, and I'm Hypo for most things. Light and stickyness really mess with me, textures and sounds really mess with her. She's the kind of be extra sensitive to pain, I'm the kind of have bruises or wasps biting me, or actively bleeding wounds and not even realize, lol. So there's differences, but damn every single item on this list described one or both of us... between the two of us, LITERALLY EVERY SINGLE ITEM. She even dropped out of normal HS and had to go to homeschool, where she went from Ds and Fs to straight A's. Meanwhile that wasn't an option for me with my militaristic "just try harder" disciplinarian family(my dad, while almost certainly having undiagnosed ADHD due to genetics and his personality, frequently tells his ADHD-diagnosed sister and her son that they "just need to buckle down and focus", of course.), and I almost didn't graduate. I squeaked a D- in geometry as a senior, the oldest in that Sophomore class. Rambling (What? Feeling more comfortable in text than spoken word???) but anyway, amazing video, thanks for highlighting this. I kind of wish there was a liiiiiiittle more discussion of how this isn't NECESSARILY the "female" style so much as it's the style most commonly found in women with some (but still some!) men feeling more "at home" with this style of socially conscientious, but also extremely insecure and confused, style of ASD presentation. Overall in neurodiverse communities I mean, not just with this video. I predict this is going to be accepted one day as "women's asperger's" and there's going to have to be a small (but growing with millennial and zoomer internet users) contingent of men like me meekly saying "Umm, but me too?" from the back as well, haha. (Not to mention the already visible core of queer folks)

[@danyelPitmon]

I did forget to mention one thing I am transgender started my transition five years ago just thought I would add that little piece of information along with my comment that I put up

[@roreo1612]

i fit most of this did a scan online and got 38-46 score

[@quigli]

I first found this and stared reading it because I think I probably have autism and was doing research. It seemed really interesting, but I'm also part of the LGBTQ community and, though I'm a cis woman, I'm a trans ally, and I started to feel a little bit uncomfortable reading it, but couldn't quite place why, so I began to skim through it. When I saw the words "Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria" I immediately hit the "back" button on my browser. NOPE. There's plenty of resources out there that aren't written by TERFs, and if anyone seriously believes ROGD is a thing, then I don't trust their perspective on anything else that has to do with psychology.

[@beckysegundo6688]

I noticed traits in my brother but not in the quantity I have & he identified as gay. He also had simular behavior traits like my mom which explains his feminism. I got diagnosed with aspergers when I was 39 & feel totally validated. I identify as a girl not a lady cuz I resent that I entered puberty at 9 & only added on to my traumatic upbringing. I thought of being transgender until I fell in love with my one & only special needs boyfriend. Sadly he's deceased 15 months now. I decided I'm a girl but dress casual tomboy style. I'm 54 years old.

[@luckysmummy5325]

Understand you wanting to be an ally, that's great. My closest friends are/have been transgender. But I think we shouldn't block ourselves off from grasping that things aren't always as clear-cut. Regretting transition is a thing in some people, and their stories should not be swept under the carpet. Look at some you tubers who are de-transitioning. My friends are much happier post-transition but this is not a 100% certainty. On a personal level, I hated puberty & became anorexic which made it all go away for a while. I fervently wanted to change gender for a while but have become used to this female body (just took a lot longer to get my head round). For me the changing point was when I realised I'd probably have had the same sense of gender weirdness if I'd been born male. Please keep an open mind & look both ways, all the best

[@seethroughitnow]

you are arguing with someone who was making a correct observation about anti-trans hateful messaging. I don’t know your heart and hopefully this is a mistake, but please be more careful with your words. So called detransitioners make up less than 1% of of all trans people and the majority of them only went back in the closet (so they are still trans, just no longer open about it) because of the horrible social and financial situations they were put into because of society’s transphobia. People on KZbin making a buck off peoples transphobia does not prove there is any legitimate concern. Actual scientific studies show this clearly they also show the grave danger in preventing transition in trans people. I don’t doubt your personal story but understand that wanting to be a different gender than you are is not the same as being a different gender than you were assigned at birth. Obviously some women are going to wish they were men in a patriarchal society-it’s objectively better to be a man anyone can plainly see that. There is no such thing as “rapid onset gender dysphoria”. Trans people know they’re trans from early in life but they sometimes can’t put it into words that early. Just like gay people trans people often have their first memory as realizing they are their gender-probably because it’s a very important part of who we are. And repeating this misinformation is harmful to trans children who are being denied the healthcare which studies show they need to survive. And even being threatened with removal from loving healthy families and having their parents imprisoned. It is a very dangerous time for trans children in part because of harmful rhetoric like this in an already transphobic world. Childrens lives are more important than whatever you’re concerned about with “detransitioners”. We need solidarity from our allies. And this is particularly alarming on autism information because we are painted as not being able to make decisions-as being too stupid and vulnerable to make our own decisions and know ourselves and that rhetoric being accepted by the broader community promotes the harmful ideas about the autistic community that we shouldn’t be able to make decisions and should be treated like children. Please reconsider these harmful ideas if you haven’t already and please refrain from posting about this until you understand it better. Peoples lives, children’s lives are literally in danger and people like you can help by learning more about us before you unintentionally or otherwise continue to spread hateful and harmful disinformation.

[@dotty3825]

​​@@luckysmummy5325 You can't just look away from experiences of many autistic people and disregard scientific opinion of a professional just because you feel that it is transfobic. It is in fact not, because the world is a big place and different people have different experiences. The fact that there are some people who experience disphoria because of their autism while not being trans is not disregarding experience of transpeople. You can't just close your eyes every time you find something contradicting your opinion or your ally status. Edit: Hope I explained my point well. English is my second language 😅

[@luckysmummy5325]

@@dotty3825 hi there, you have I think replied to myself by mistake, rather than to the commenter I was replying to (with a similar idea to what you are saying)!!

[@bforman1300]

I would really be interested in getting tested. So many of these are me. I literally have a hammock in my living room.