ASPERGERS MELTDOWNS: 5 Tips YOU Need!

[@TheAspieWorld]

How are you today!?

[@anne0444]

Hi form 🇩🇪 Germany Feeling great today, love your videos and your podcasts on Spotify ❤️

[@thebartguy1686]

I lost my best friend today due to exposion . I loved him. No one could match his personally. I wont see him physically. I have ADHD, Aspergers and highly likely I have PTSD because My mom had a miscarriage when I was 9. I also had a reaction to a medicine when I was 12. I also have siblings that no longer live in my house because they are older then me. Im 17 next Tuesday. I feel like im dying. Ive already had a very rough week.

[@BungieEmma]

@@thebartguy1686 that's tough, I'm sorry. Things will get better, I know that people say that a lot, but they say it for a reason. :)

[@ticci_toby2743]

Good

[@TheEDFLegacy]

Great time to come out with this video.

[@aaloha2902]

I have shut-downs more than meltdowns, my body goes into a state of extreme fatigue & sleep and stops processing food properly. Although I get junkfood cravings, I prefer to eat healthy foods that I can digest better and do intermittent fasting to give my digestive system more rest. 🙏🏼🌺

[@Thallod]

Undiagnosed, but in a really horribly noisy environment and I've realised noise really gets to me without me noticing it. It is what has led me to believe that I likely have Aspergers. What I've noticed is that mostly every time I've overwhelmed felt lately and I've put on my earmuffs I get an overwhelming sense of soothing calmness. It almost feels like taking a dab but without high, the coughing, or smell. It's so strange how blocking out the noise for sometimes even just a second to a minute can completely change the trajectory of my day to a more positive one.

[@ely_wannadie]

you could just have a sensory processing disorder :)

[@everythingiseconomics9742]

It's been a while so I hope you discovered what you had. But this is common both for adhd and autism.

[@lindadunn8787]

Thank you for the reminder about ear protection.

[@garypuckettmuse]

White noise machines or if you like digital sound, which grates on me, there are endless brown noise, white noise, noise noise programs everywhere. And programs that are not loops. The point of the noise is to create a neutral cushion between your ears and outside noises. The brain will "turn off" a constant noise like an a/c hum or something -- if it's not annoying to you -- and you won't hear it anymore.But the cushion is still there. I often leave my white noise machine on all day after running it while I sleep because I don't hear it when I get up. I hate noise. And I don't recommend all those "nature sounds" because nature is very noisy and unpredictable and all over the place. Hope that helps.

[@jercasgav]

I love covering my ears and eyes with layers and layers of blankets to sleep with just a little hole for breathing around my mouth/nose. Makes everything feel better. Having a box fan for white noise then cancelling out the white noise with the blankets is the total sweet spot to relax to sleep!

[@linaleia]

I feel I handle stress well, but overload + unexpected thing suddenly happening = meltdown usually guaranteed

[@TheAspieWorld]

Oh yeah I can understand that flow! Thank you so much for the comment! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :).

[@jerbear7952]

Im good. I got this. New random and possibly tiny thing AHHHHHHHH

[@zeldaverste4972]

Meltdown almost like a panic attack

[@rolfjohansen5376]

you got AS + ADHT + OCD + Dyslexia !!! holy mother , I got AS and have enough troubles ... bless you brother!

[@hughjanus4478]

Also if you see someone having a meltdown, don’t wall into a closed room or touch them, I had a meltdown yesterday afternoon because people on my bus were touching me and there were new people on the bus and it was loud. My brother and mum burst into my closed room and touched me and it made me worse. I feel really bad about telling them to go away but it was so severe I needed solitude

[@moonlightautie474]

Hugh Janus I don't like being touched in general so I know how this feels. My dad feels that since he's my father he's allowed to touch me. I even tell him to stop (of course he doesnt) and he guilt trips me by saying "you used to hang all over me do you not love me anymore" I just hate being touched ..

[@Equestrimaniac]

@@moonlightautie474 I'm sorry you have to deal with that behaviour from your dad. Mine was pretty much the same when I was younger and couldn't seem to respect my boundaries/feelings.

[@rhyanonstuddert7384]

My therapist told me about the breathing technique, and I use it every time I have a melt down. It works!

[@MartKart8]

Sometimes when people overly talk or ask hard or Personal questions, I tend to just walk off and they don't know why. I feel it coming on. I think about what I like and feel much calmer Video Games. I tend to get a tune or music in my head from one of the games I like , such as the Fire Emblem games.

[@barbarasunday3514]

My daughter is 21 and we're learning that she is very likely on the spectrum, she's very high functioning so it's been misdiagnosed as several other things. The melt downs have gotten worse since she was a preteen. Finding your videos is helping me make sense of her,Thanks

[@aaloha2902]

Is it possible Barbara, that your daughter’s responsibilities have grown bc of work or college since highschool and your daughter’s coping mechanisms aren’t enough anymore? My daughter & myself at that age started needing more help to function bc the self-learned coping strategies were enough so far, but then we started running into the limits of these strategies to deal with the pressure of more & more masking & overcompensating to keep up. Hope this helps you and your daughter to figure out what she needs and what helps 🙏🏼🌺

[@cherylbommarito5569]

Dan your doing a good service to not only those of us on the spectrum, but also ,naturally to us who Love them! Thankx

[@barbaraolson6783]

Yes thank you Dan.

[@dan5721]

One of the ways I describe meltdowns is my brain being “too full” and I just haven’t got room to process anymore information. I find the worst combination is if I’m feeling an intense emotion (usually negative emotion) and there is bad sensory input going on. Meltdowns are rough, luckily mine haven’t been very frequent since the new year.

[@chinamonkee1478]

exactly this

[@carrievnsksk]

these are the moments im in fights with my mom n dad a lot

[@gwenw1971]

I have a question. You talk about all these ways of noticing Asperger's and all these Wonder tips but you never address anything regarding Cassandra Syndrome or the mask that people with Asperger's wear to protect themselves but at the same time presenting someone they aren't and this being deceptive towards people. Also how your friends or relationships are on the receiving end of these meltdowns the abusive behavior partners face, the fact that most can never admit they are wrong. I feel like you are not being transparent with Asperger's when it comes to the negative affect it has on other people. Give us the good as well as the bad.

[@JoseRodriguez-pd4ve]

Healthy food. I I, also, happen to have ADHD. I've found that eating low-carb/keto cleanly helps to keep my brain feeling clear and reducing "brain fog." Speaking only about my experience. 😊

[@brandihoffmann4243]

After a meltdown I feel a tremendous amount of guilt, shame and high anxiety because i am aware of how it may make others around me feel. And then more anxiety because how they may view me after that!

[@Megaloryan]

Running regularly is a massive help, it's not a "cure". It is so constructive and helpful. Really worth starting. To go from barely being able to run for a few minutes to going for over an hour. You'll feel good, look good, reduce your stresses. Recommend.

[@Darvit_Nu]

Hi Dan! 🖐️ I'm so glad you brought up the bit about eating healthy! I'm a nutritionist and can attest to eating whole natural foods, cutting out sugar and processed foods and including natural, unprocessed animal products that include the natural animal fats...is extremely important to neurological, emotional, hormonal and physical health. Eating right minimizes symptoms and maximizes health. Also, getting out of a triggering environment, then doing the 5-5-5 breathing is totally helpful in regaining control & calm.

[@paigepotter7237]

I carry earplugs around with me all the time. I’m in the Army, and so I can’t always get away when I need to. And we aren’t allowed to wear headphones in uniform (if I knew this before it would have been a dealbreaker for me, but too late now), so when I feel overstimulated I put in my earplugs and go to the bathroom if I can, do some breathing techniques, and cover my eyes. My good friends here know I get overstimulated too. So if we’re in a situation where I can leave, they help me exit to a quieter space.

[@tiapayne4260]

My daughter needed this one today. She had a really rough day.

[@fear9206]

I think i have a Meltdown. I'm not diagonised but i see myself as a asperger. My whole life i just copy and paste to don't get in trouble and finding some "friends". Now i'm 18 and got a job. All people around me thinking i'm a guy with a good heart and just thinking to much. But thats not my problem. Too many people have a false view on me because i faked so often. I trapped myself and now i'm just empty and have no power for anything. My mind is mad i have tooo many thoughts. I forgot who i am.

[@barryaucoin3119]

That sounds very similar of how i felt when I was that age. I am 35 now and desperately seeking a Asperger's diagnosis. I was always surrounded by the kids in my neighborhood because I was polite, well mannered, and did exactly what I was told to do. All the parents wanted their children to hang oput with me because it was a very tough subdivision and I stayed out of trouble. But...I fuckin hated it. It was so many people (understand that this was before the internet and during the age of the Super Mario Brothers) so everyone was always outside playing basketball in the driveway or 2 hand touch in the street. I never knew how to be rude. I was mandated to be be nice and always wore this facade of someone who loved everything about life. As though I never had a negative thought...EVER! It was the furthest thing from the truth. I am a handsome guy was al;ways smiling, making straight A's, and was never in trouble. People always wanted to be around me. It never even crossed my mind to just ask to be left alone. I never understood why I was the only kid in class that would behave. Why was I the only child studied a day in my life, yet never always knew the correct answer. I had straight A's till I figured out how to avoid all the attention during the award ceremonies. I made sure i gave just the right amount of wrong answers so that I have to walk on stage to receive an academic award. But I would always make the principle's list for good conduct. lol.... I never could figure a way to be to be anything but the teacher's pet.

[@rhiannonstthomas651]

I just got a late diagnosis asd and adhd and bipolar disorder, thissss has helped so much thank you.

[@bigpuma2149]

Im a person with Asperger's and im really enjoying this channel im learning about myself

[@louisebeech6473]

Thankyou for doing what you do, it's helped me to understand and cope better with my condition. Like you I also have aspergers and adhd. I am 30 years old and my life finally makes sense to me. Keep doing what your doing, you really are making a difference and could even save someone's life who is really struggling like I have been

[@jhcoverdrive9287]

As far as good and "happy" foods go, I've recently discovered and come to enjoy overnight oats quite a bit. Making your own oatmeal using steel cut or rolled oats and flavoring it with natural ingredients makes for a great source of complex carbohydrates. My problem is the texture of old fashioned oats like that and I recently found out (late to the party? maybe, :)) how much better oatmeal is when you just cover the oats in milk and let them soak in the fridge over night instead of heating them up in water. As long as they get 10-12 hours of soaking, the oats have a texture I really don't mind (you can use these in a smoothie to thicken it up too). I stir in a little more than a half a teaspoon of brown sugar when it comes time to eat them and they are delicious! lol. A serving of oats made with 5 ounces of whole milk is incredibly satisfying and will hold your appetite at bay longer than you may think. It also comes with some nice health benefits like helping maintain a steadier blood-sugar level and lowering cholesterol over time.

[@boozoi]

im not diagnosed but sometimes when there’s like 3 different noises at once i cant handle it and then i get really sensitive to touch and sight. everything is just so vivid and i just wanna close my eyes and shut everything off.

[@seant126]

I love these videos, I'm recently diagnosed with ASD and the videos explain a lot about the way I experience the world. I'm wondering if anyone else has ever notice this. After a meltdown I often notice that my neck is very red and hot. I'm not sure if this is something anyone else ever experiences.

[@vanthonvenus]

the worst part for me is there’s no safe space to turn to most of the time that i get a meltdown. school is a sensory hell with bright lights and a skeleton structure (TONS of windows) and very open halls/spaces. my bedroom is in a location where EVERYONE will walk past it because it’s just right by the stairs and it’s also placed above the kitchen which means that if anyone is in the kitchen i can hear EVERYTHING. so a meltdown just feels even worse.

[@rondastewart7033]

Please keep posting this type of video! It is very helpful both for those on the spectrum, and for those of us who live and/or work with people who are. Knowledge is power! Just understanding more about the causes and effects of meltdowns makes them more manageable. FL USA

[@crystalsunshine]

I'm seriously struggling with my 16yo telling lies. He was diagnosed with Aspergers about 4 years ago but he doesn't want to be treated "differently". I know some of the lying is typical teenager behavior but, I'm very open and honest with him and generally allow him to do whatever he wants to do within reason. ALL I ask from him is honesty so that I can be aware of what he is doing, where he is, and when he'll be home. He's honestly a good kid so I don't worry he'll do something really dangerous. He just lies about the smallest things. Like yesterday he told me his friends dad was late picking him and his friends up for a ride home from the library....but when he got home at 8pm, which is much later than usual, I started talking to him and he was like 'okay I'll be honest, we went to a sermon across the street from the library at one of my friend's church'. Now, we're not really a church going family, but I went when I was his age and I'm totally fine with him going, and he knows this. Honestly, this is just a small lie in a mountain of bigger lies he's told just this week. I'm at a loss. :(

[@FRODOGOOFBALL]

My understanding is that it's very unusual for Aspies to be liars, but I am also like your son. My parents wouldn't believe me when I told them I was autistic, and I got into a situation where what I'd done wasn't that terrible, but no one understood and it was easier to lie. As a result, I pretty much go through life alone. I help others who need to blow off steam because I have learned how to pretend to be a good listener, but I have trouble confiding in anyone. In my adulthood, I have accepted living as a near-hermit, but you may need to talk to a psychologist about how best to approach this situation. It's possible he may have other personality disorders and not just Aspergers.

[@crystalsunshine]

@@FRODOGOOFBALL oh no that makes me want to cry. for you, for him, for everyone else that goes thru this. he's always been super sensitive (emotionally) and just asking him sometimes about how he feels about something that we know is bothering him can make him start to cry. this embarrasses him and so he ...oh man. thank you for your reply. he's had lots of therapy off and on since he was a toddler, he's been thru a lot. he was misdiagnosed at a very early age with adhd...but now...i see what you mean by he could have other personality disorders. thank you again.

[@cyclinggirl3212]

@@crystalsunshine Hello. Just wondering after reading your comments how do you respond when your child tells small lies? If you have responded harshly in the past (even once) then he will keep from telling you. Also, how have you responded when your son has been truthful but done something you didn't agree with? You state that he is a sensitive child, your approach can have a huge impact on him. You also state that he has been in therapy since very young - why did you feel the need to pass his care over to strangers when you should have been the one taking responsibility for your child. Your son does not have other personality disorders - get that thought out of your head now! Your son has been through enough suffering. His whole life has consisted of different strangers/counsellors asking him personal questions because you his mother didn't want to deal with him yourself or educate yourself or show more patience in the way he is. He needs you! I speak not only from life experience but trained experience. He is who he is. Embrace it.

[@jennybohner3144]

It does sound like you've done so much for your son, but when they lie it makes it even more difficult to deal with. Maybe he's lying because he doesn't want to disappoint you with his bad behaviour. I feel like I can deal with most things, but lying is truly a huge spanner in the works. You can't help if he's gonna lie.Try not to chastise him if you find out he lied. Just show your disappointment. You've done your best getting him help, but your own help is always better. He's at a difficult age and his friends become way more important than family, because he knows you'll love him no matter what. Friends pressure them to misbehave so that may be why he lies, plus lying gives them a sense of power in a world where they feel powerless. They want to have their secrets. Everyone does.Good luck . It's hard.

[@sandramae1772]

I thought aspies were brutally honest....to a fault

[@Retro__Glitch2313]

1) i tap each of my fingers with my thumb to calm down 2) cardio and walk 3) video games are always taking away my meltdown it takes the anger out on the game not at others It was toughest part for me last Saturday which my girlfriend broke up with me to date her guy friend just this morning her step cousin opened up to tell me my ex never liked me and mocks my Asperger syndrome behind my back also interested in men using steroids with huge muscles

[@hisen3.146]

I've just read that last part of your comment and (from my personal experience) her step cousin is lying and is putting the breakup on your disability. Your Asperger's is nothing to be mocked nor is it anybody's problem or concern besides your own simply because they don't understand how much you, I or others like us struggle on a daily basis. I promise you, in time, it gets better and you start to believe in both yourself and your abilities. I'm not perfect at the moment BUT I have seen a massive growth in these last 2 years due to my own breakup. I promise you, you'll be okay and that this isn't anything to do with your looks, personality or anything else (these are things I've insulted myself over). Honestly, I didn't open up about my problems until about a season had passed. Just go at your own pace and you'll make it :)

[@TheAspieWorld]

Hero!! Thank you so much for the comment! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :).

[@janablang]

I do that too. Or ruby, my thumb and finger together.

[@laurabaldwin4643]

Is there any chance you would consider tips for what to do if the meltdown happens at work. I had my first meltdown at work. Though I didn’t realize I was doing it, one of the employees noticed me "storm out." In my attempt to get out of the building so no one would see me. I sank to the ground shaking, cursing, crying hysterically. It was a horrible experience, and as a veterinarian, I had no choice but to pull myself together and go back to work.

[@EdenHeiress]

Undiagnosed but watching autism videos has now become my special interest. When I go grocery shopping the music overwhelms me so bad I told my husband it is like swimming through jello. Last time I wore earbuds and listened to my own music. I could control the pace of the song and stay calm cool and collected. Makes all the difference! Another thing that helps me to breathe slower and take deeper breathes is incense!! I’ve gone back to using it more because my favorite smells make me want to breathe in deeper and longer.

[@kilIstation]

I love these tip/trick videos. I’m still learning about myself!

[@CandiesComment]

Thank you for helping me get out there. I never knew I could speak publicly or even try, but I have some videos with over 5000 views and I would never have done it. Had I not watched your channel and posted for the first time on it so I really want to thank you. Love you love your channel.

[@christriseninteractivechur2192]

Thx. Good job! The best!

[@turtlesauce6860]

Thank you. I really needed to see your great enthusiasm about "you can handle this!". I am only now being diagnosed (although not officially) at age 48, after a lifetime of being unsuccessfully overmedicated and my intense emotions driving away everyone, including my family. I also needed to hear about counteracting a negative event with an intentional positive event. After a meltdown (today was one huge meltdown) I feel like I deserve to punish and deprive myself, which makes it all worse. I've been feeling so hopelessly alone and overwhelmed trying to wrap my head around this. Gonna check out that app 'cos it gives me a little hope that maybe I can finally find at least one friend who will understand and accept me. Thank you!

[@TheAspieWorld]

Aw thank you!! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@jennybohner3144]

Be kind to yourself. Don't deprive and punish yourself. 👌

[@mrs.z605]

Right there with you my friend. Undiagnosed, 52 years old, but finally finding the answer to why I am the way I am, and am not alone, is helpful beyond measure. ❤️❤️❤️

[@mrs.z605]

Feel free to reach out. By supporting one another, we can turn it into a gift. ❤️

[@3To3dSl0th]

I find the most consistent factor in me having meltdowns is when I feel powerless and unable to leave. The worst is when the person I'm dealing with adopts an urgent tone and has to have things done -right now-. You can't reason with someone whose conscience approves them doing this. Even if they're family. How does one even handle that? They know about my aspergers and feeling trapped and they just don't seem to take any blame for it if important things need to be done in their eyes or if they feel they're doing you a favor.

[@bottlethehappy795]

Super important tips for overcoming meltdowns - I started to jot down a few notes and then noticed they are in the description. Keep up the good work, Dan. You're killing it! ✌

[@dinatolding2826]

I had a meltdown last week whilst staying at a friends house. I'm still feeling drained and lost my mojo.

[@TheMalkavianmadman]

I just want to say thank you for your videos. As a person not on the spectrum with a child who is these help me to understand what he is going through.

[@WheelieWeasel]

I’m literally being overloaded as I’m watching this video. My A/C in the background, my cat snoring, my grandpas Tv in the other room. Kinda makes me feel like I just cannot focus and I’m going crazy

[@Crysticks]

I love to eat healthy foods cuz they make me feel better. And I am watching this today because I'm having bad meltdowns today. Thank you so much for showing all your videos. You help us all. 🥰

[@skyfly200]

Thanks, Dan for spreading awareness and sharing your experience. I hit my head, stumble, fall down, stem, get really agitated, or bite myself. I have such a hard time getting back into my day afterward and often just have to goto sleep.

[@mauratherese4798]

I learned about the Skandinavian concept of "niksen" and it has helped me. Build some "nothing" into your schedule.

[@diannecass880]

Your intensity makes me realize I have less tolerance for that as I get older. You're doing great however, very informative, giving me lots to consider.

[@40russia]

Thank you for this video. I am a fully functioning adult with good education and a good job but definitely on ye olde spectrum. It causes a lot of problems in my intimate relationships in particular. A recent girlfriend has Borderline Personality Disorder. It didn't go well AT ALL. I loved her but the weather system created by her issues and mine created giant tornadoes.

[@gingercultleader5500]

I do agree that healthy food does make people feel good. My coworkers and I had a contest to see who lost the most weight after 3 weeks on a 30 carb or less keto diet. I found mental clarity and energy. I found your videos just recently. Yourself and other KZbinrs who cover Asperger's have been extremely helpful in understanding a huge mystery about myself. I'm 32 and starting the process of seeing a diagnosis because of the inner experiences explained connected. I will keep learning everything I can since this is my new special interest.

[@TheAspieWorld]

Hey thank you for supporting :) I love our community on here :)!! Who else are you subbed to? Thank you so much for the comment! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :).

[@gingercultleader5500]

@@TheAspieWorld Thanks! Keep up the good work!

[@noelmoniquegonzalez3244]

Thank you for helping me to understand the role that I play in my friends life...

[@heathertomes6779]

Thanks for suggesting to look for happy foods! I'm a bit limited because I suffer from crohn's, but searching this way and being mindful of my triggers in that aspect will greatly help me!! I so appreciate you. 🙂

[@KC-cj7xc]

You always find a creative way to keep the focus on your videos. Keep doing what you're doing because it's working! Thank you!!

[@johedges5946]

Happy Thursday Dan. Happy the sun is shining for you x

[@ProverbsTrinketKingdom]

So helpful 🙏🏽 Thanks

[@mauratherese4798]

I like the varied backgrounds, your house is nice, just don't stress yourself out, we need you to continue making videos : )

[@hayleywood3111]

I am 47, and was diagnosed with autism at the age of 43. I’ve had a few meltdowns recently. The last one happened after I had done a painting, I’m an abstract painter and this painting didn’t go right, I got so angry. I threw anything I could get my hands on and my language turned into mostly expletives, which happens during a meltdown. My meltdowns aren’t to do with lack of sleep as I get 8 hours a night.

[@elizabethweaver5029]

Remember ing to breath as any of this going on is huge help ❤❤❤❤😊

[@salgado8835]

I feel super calm after doing that breathing technique you talked about in the video.

[@TheAspieWorld]

Yes!!

[@TheBubbleob]

Wow... I've needed this description to explain a reaction I get sometimes... undiagnosed but seeking one. But this describes the exact chain reaction that occurs in my head when my kids have gotten up too early and are being obstructive and disobedient (a personality aspect in play for me is control freak tendencies (apologies for the term, i'm not sure of the accurate term at this stage)). I get a stress and frustration cascade in my head and I can feel my intellect trying to get in to defuse but the emotion keeps the situation rolling. Thanks Dan.

[@TheAspieWorld]

Hey no problem!! I hope I help :). Thank you so much for the comment! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :).

[@TheBubbleob]

Also, i did the breatihng technique when you suggested it in the video. Immediate impact on my stress level as I was in the come-down from a meltdown.

[@ChristophersMum]

Thank you Dan...yes, I too find that stopping to ''breathe'' and taking myself out of the anxious situation works so well...and thank you for another pick-me-up talk...😁

[@georgiesteven]

An undiagnosed but your videos and all the symptoms you describe are so on the money and align with my feelings with makes me feel I most likely have aspergers

[@TheAspieWorld]

Oh super interesting!! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@judykaymacgreagor4422]

I couldn’t leave a like because you made me almost have a meltdown over your manic behavior. But I am in a mental meltdown before watching this video. I will use your points.

[@vanissaberg5824]

Thank you for making these videos on how to help feel better and sharing our experience we relate to. Sometimes it feels so isolating when most people don't understand what's going on during a meltdown or don't know how to help. 💙🤗

[@OurGlobalAffects]

great channel. always good to hear from someone on the spectrum about their experiences!

[@NikkiMason1906]

❤❤❤❤ That was a great tip. Breathing. Thank you.

[@ChristophersMum]

I've only just noticed that this video is from over 2 years ago...however take heart...good advice never grows old😁

[@mruanova]

asperger's is an outdated term. TLDR: 1 instant removal from the situation 2 exercise 3 get enough sleep 4 have fun post meltdown 5 breathing You don't need to say please like and subscribe. This was very helpful, I wish I had applied them sooner. Thanks!

[@jenniferhampton5171]

I like your sense of humor and common sense suggestions.

[@homesoulyoga1]

I really appreciate what you share and how you share it. You have helped me help my son and clarify a few things I hoped I knew were helping him. Amazing! Breathing is so important. Thank you.

[@dontskipbreakfast]

I remove myself so well from these situations at work, that I have to get a new job every 3 to 5 years.

[@TheCHaakon]

Thank you for your content. I've had issues explaining myself, and these things I feel/experience/think. Not only difficult to explain to others, but also to understand myself. I'm 27 years old, and your videos gave me the courage to seek out help. Because now I have words for what I experience, and that is a big thanks to you. I feel ready in my mind, finally. I'm super nervous having to go through the whole thing, but your videos comfort me and also feels ensuring. Sorry if this didn't make much sense, sleep is scarce these days 👀

[@Autisticheather]

The first time this happened to me in my new job.. and the first time ever i took care of myself, i was on the playground with screaming toddlers who kept escaping in the beating down sun. I tried to calm myself down, but could not. I called my boss over and said please help me. I need a break. Im having major sensory overload. And thank GOD i told her early on that i am Autistic... she actually understood!! And sent me inside to the couch to fold clothes!! This was miraculous to me! Both that i stood up for myself, and that my boss accommodated me! It felt so good that it almost felt illegal! Then, just to test me again, my co boss told me i needed to go back outside and i told her the other boss said i can come in. She said i still need to go. So i walked up to her and whispered, i can't... im having major sensory overload. And suddenly she understood, remembering im Autistic. So she said ohhhh ok . Thank you very much for telling me. The next week i texted my boss and told her i cannot do that activity with the kids. So she actually arranged for someone else to do it for me!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What???? Amazing

[@pennywhistle9060]

Thank you for sharing this. This explains why I've occasionally had to dash for the ladies room periodically at work.

[@Ratkity]

Hate green things to eat (few exceptions). I eat some fruit. Ends up too many carbs, but not necessarily junk food. I do like my chocolate pieces, and other special desserts. I also have a stomach issue where it doesn't push food down. Ugh. Mushy, non-green foods, non-fibrous foods, I have to eat slow... just recently found out about mashed cauliflower. *sigh* Candy and sweets go down so easily. I'm trying better by eating soups, healthier crackers/breads, no pasta, lower fat foods (slows down stomach emptying), and trying to find better sources of protein.

[@erinsmith4119]

I love all the different places the opening is shot in, and the movement through the video. Made it really interesting and fun to watch 😊

[@MarinaMandarinaWoolyWorld]

I am only on a middle of this video, you are so active here, just like listening to my 11 years old son who has Asperger syndrome, i have to follow him around the house because when he talks/ tells the story, he finds it hard to stay or seat still 😄 actually he doesn't realises that he is doing it 😄 Thank you for your channel, I am new to Asperger world, and collect all information to understand my son better and help him to fill better on this planet 👍

[@timmo2235]

great video my friend im someone who has asd its helped me alot thankyou.

[@lizwillson3349]

Hi, your videos help me more than you may know. Thank you.

[@lisachambers6230]

Thank you for this. I have an 8 year old grandson who I believe is on the spectrum. Meltdowns are common when he gets frustrated or over stimulated. He has a lot of the traits you talked about in another video. I will try to work on these tips for meltdowns when I am with him this week. I hope I can also bring some of this information to my son & daughter-in-law. Anyone have tips for how to go about getting tested/a diagnosis?

[@Stephanie-id7vr]

14:29 “Dan’s here for ya” ❤️ Thank you! 👽

[@charliepollard6783]

Junk food for me as long as it’s plain with no sauce. For the breathing I do in for 5 hold for 5 then out for 8, I find exhaling for slightly longer more effective. Thank you SO much for this video! I’m going to use all of these tips.

[@wrinkleintime4257]

It’s so helpful to know what to do with meltdowns! It’s nice knowing that my random “random” haha emotional breakdowns are most likely meltdowns. I hold and hide things so well but sometimes I can’t hold it in anymore and I burst :’) Thanks for your tips! Also: I like to think I love healthy food but oh man I cannot give you potato chips or chocolate 😬 I love me some veggies and some fresh colourful meals! And aaaallll the fruit ;) But ... I need my chocolate ;)

[@TheAspieWorld]

Hey you are welcome!! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :).

[@smurfyhh]

These videos are so helpful I have a 7 year old who is still going through the testing process. Lots of back and forth with his school and gp but his school are being brilliant with him . The biggest struggle we are having is food and textures . It's nice to know we are doing the right kind of things as sometimes i question if how I'm trying to help him is the correct way for him

[@ticci_toby2743]

Thank you for these tips.

[@yvonnegrossenbacher4762]

These tippps are f* awesooom❤ Thanks for your work Dan

[@skyking6989]

I was diagnosed with aspergers and add last week at age 34. My meltdowns aren't nearly as bad as they used to be. Thing is now I can feel when one is coming so I can get ahead of it somewhat plus medication/therapy has really really helped

[@gloriavaldez1560]

I love mowing my lawn and doing things in my garden. Even sholving snow helps me. At work I try to take a small walk to relax.

[@BilliesCraftRoom]

Needed this right now. Dan you are the man. Thanks. Nice house your too

[@Green_Roc]

Also Dan, I havent watched for a long while because the "set reminders" were bothering me too much, so I unsubbed a while ago. Are you still doing that or have you stopped? Good video, I needed the reminder that I used to instinctually do #1 before I had a meltdown, but when I was a kid, I wasnt allowed to walk away and would get punished if I did... I forgot that was part of my nature, and I have tended to stick with the arguments I find myself in, until I lose control, I did not walk away, because of my upbringing. I needed this video today, on the edge of about to have a meltdown.

[@Green_Roc]

Tip #1 non-autistics need to know, so they will allow the autistic to leave the situation. I wasnt allowed to leave when I needed to. I was punished for walking away. I was conditioned to stick with the situation. Good tip, I had unlearned my instinct to leave because of the conditioning I had.

[@ivyjulieharvey3043]

breathing is one of the main things for mediation also ti chi. but very useful tips. I am starting to go back to happy foods as my depression takes me to comfort. thanks for the cool videos really useful

[@TheAspieWorld]

Yes!! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@fancynancylucille]

Wow. I am remembering back to a situation where I needed to leave to recompose myself and someone else would not let me and it turned into one of the worst experiences in my life. That person was my mother, and she didn’t want to let me take a break to avoid an all out explosion. The repercussions were devastating, for several people. She did not understand. How could she?

[@johniversen1539]

Thank you so much for this.

[@aidancrawford4615]

Dan I feel super calm

[@pamtufnell6751]

Walking is helping me it helps me focus

[@martinrushton3713]

I just wanted to say great help with these videos i have uncontrolled epilepsy i take medication for it but i watched a tv show and it was about this Asperger’s and i realised it basically described my day to day routine’s and everyone in my family knows that i have been a collector of comic book art and statues and figures from comic to movies including syfy and horror basically i have always loved this kinda stuff and when i couldn’t work anymore because of my seizures I started collecting I thought more recently because people said it was a coping mechanism but i really do enjoy watching and collecting memorabilia I couldn’t believe it until I saw one of these videos eye contact I thought it was just me and I have family members and friends but unless they make plans I become isolated i have 3 children from my ex wife and they live half of the time with me so I can function just like others but i have Set routines and like just getting my medication if they make a mistake they act like it’s not a big deal but to me I start having meltdowns the only way I can explain it hyperventilation and I want to scream out loud but i have managed to learn to kinda cope with these things if i have an appointment and I haven’t been before i struggle to find just as you describe in another video my brothers and dad can just describe the route but even they have made a joke that I don’t know were places are like finding a certain place all of this is new my doctors all blame it on having epilepsy but I’ve met so many people and they don’t have my issues I just hope once the tests are done they can then tell me and i have an answer ive always just thought it was just me being different but hopefully I will get an answer soon it’s just peace of mind and these videos really do help massively thank you 🙏

[@mike_outdoors4918]

If I feel that I am about to have a meltdown I listen to relaxing music or natural sounds, it usually works. Thanks Dan 👍 ☺️

[@TheAspieWorld]

Amazing tip!! Thank you so much!! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :).

[@soul832006]

Love the video!! You have a nice house. Very well decorated!

[@scottkatz5554]

Meditation is awesome too!

[@waltereskildsen5351]

Empirical: based on, concerned with, or verifiable by observation or experience rather than theory or pure logic. Imperative: of vital importance; crucial.

[@Disco144K]

love you dude

[@jerryjohnsonii4181]

Thanks for the Tips , Dan !!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@JenaforJuniper]

Thanks for the tips on dealing. I had a small melt down the other day, but my husband and son are very understanding. I do most of the techniques already, but I never thought of them all together. I often forget to remove myself from the situation. I should do that more.

[@mooncove.33]

This had me laughing! 4:26 Thank you for this video. Your videos have been a great help. I have ADHD, but I'm currently waiting to see if I may have aspergers.