AUTISM in GIRLS: 5 Social Anxiety Traits (YOU need to know)

Autism in Girls is often missed, find out why one of the main traits is social anxiety in this video.
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ABOUT THIS VIDEO:
Some autism in girls symptoms can sometimes not be seen to the untrained eye and this is called masking.
Some of the main signs of autism in girls is social anxiety, this is a huge one for mild autism symptoms. The telltale sings of autism is repetitive behaviour and obsessive interstices, this also translates to women with autism and Aspergers in girls.
Girls with autism can present themselves as typical, but to the person who understands the condition of autism and Asperger’s syndrome it may be easy to spot autism in girls.
The autistic girl has always been a topic that has been some what missed, this is one of the mission of The Aspie World to create awareness for autism in girls.
A search of autism symptoms checklist on google will show up lots and lots of autism symptoms and Aspergers traits. But these will almost always be from a male perspective of diagnosing aspergers symptoms in men and not autism in girls.
This video is dedicated to the understanding of autism in girls and autism spectrum disorder. Helping girls with autism have a better chance of getting through a females autism test to a successful diagnosis is an important thing to do.
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ABOUT ME:
Helping people understand Autism from a person with Autism’s perspective.
Hey from the Aspie World and a big welcome into my life! I am a Dan from the UK and I have Aspergers Syndrome or ASD which is a form of Autism, often referred to as High Functioning Autism or Autism Spectrum Disorder. I make videos every week on my journey and offer tips and tricks to help everyone who has Autism.
I also have help videos for helping people get a diagnosis of Autism or Aspergers Syndrome, and also some advise and help for anyone who is friends, partners or loved ones who suffer from Autism or Aspergers Syndrome and just about anyone on the Autism Spectrum.
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[@TheAspieWorld]

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[@loisjones4296]

Thank you so much for using examples to communicate this set of personality characteristics!

[@WCG7]

Have you ever heard of someone kind of like blacking out but are fully conscious and don’t know where they are for a second?

[@cromabu5090]

The Aspie World Do you know if autistic people overthink things to the point that a simple task is complicated. The reason I bring this up is that people say I lack common sense, however it’s because I overthink tasks a lot. What I am saying seems like the dunning Kruger effect though, but I don’t believe that to be the case.

[@tragictransformerelectra3319]

I am currently fighting off anxiety by working out. I feel strong and beautiful.

[@callyevans690]

7777WCG I think I know what you mean. It’s like you have a mind blank, your brain freezes, and you have to remember where you are and what you were doing. It’s disorienting.

[@shellyd1811]

Anybody else go through life being labelled "shy". I always tended to be quiet, and observe people to see how I should act and talk around them. People that actually know me, know I'm definitely NOT shy. I'm being labelled shy, when I'm just waiting for people to talk about something I find interesting.....lol

[@Gotsole-vm3ut]

Literally same! ^

[@JessicaFreda62]

Same! Or people mistake it for being snobby or too reserved.

[@gersemidomislic8217]

Same

[@dallasstone5160]

Yes yes yes and yes.

[@leichin5778]

Oh yes, I know this so well. Everybody was always sayin I'm shy and introverted, even if I'm extroverted. I hate this sooo much.. That's why I had always identity problems. No one knows who I am, I can't show it

[@eschuurkes]

The most hurtful thing in school was when I finally got the courage to say something in class and someone goes "IT SPEAKS!??"

[@graceh-gx4qg]

omg. I don’t even know if I am autistic but I remember similarly in secondary school I just kind of shut down and didn’t open my mouth, and one time I heard a passing group of girls say ‘it’s so disgusting, she doesn’t even speak’ and that was the first time I even noticed that I was even being extra quiet lol. Maybe I have asd, would explain a lot

[@kittypride6343]

i can relate.......

[@Vincenzo-wn1or]

Bad mannered kids

[@defensemechanismm4115]

SAME!! That drove me Insane, made me feel bad about myself and actually not want to speak again. I’ve also got a monotone voice and would be made fun of for that, but I’d try to mask it and up my voice but then people would make fun of me sounding too excited and using too much facial expression. I could go on and on, but yes, same here ugh

[@defensemechanismm4115]

Also, yes, I am autistic and have sensory processing disorder. As well as my 7yo. My 6yo is also autistic and has spd, adhd and being tested for dyslexia next month. I worry about how they will both be treated. I just keep thinking about how I was! I can absolutely relate to this video

[@jbug884]

My absolute worst fear is sitting around a circular table with others, and someone asks me a question. If all the attention is on me, I can’t handle that, it’s horrific, unless I’m totally drunk 🤦‍♀️

[@meufilhoautista2060]

I also need to drink to be able to keep a conversation 😅

[@himiyo8619]

​@@Curmudgeonist good for you, but it's not the same for everyone

[@iPicti]

Yup. And once I begin to speak I stutter and can’t find the words. I’ve become sooo terrified that I just don’t really do anything social anymore. I have not been diagnosed but have all the traits of an aspie and scored likely to be when I took the online screening tests. Maybe we just need to exclusively hang out with others on the spectrum. 🤷‍♀️ I’ve never known anyone else like me, but I imagine a friendship with an aspie would be more sustainable than the others I’ve attempted to have throughout my 44 years of life.

[@lesnyk255]

Way back when I was in college, those of us pursuing degrees in the hard sciences were known as "techies", a label which, as a physics major, I accepted despite its pejorative intent. I took a psychology class to satisfy my liberal arts requirement, and recall an exercise we had to perform. The prof broke us up into pairs to discuss some topic he'd posed. After a few minutes, we were shuffled into groups of 3; then finally into groups of 4. I well-remember the feeling of relief after that final reshuffling, because it was so much easier to hide in a group discussion than in one-on-one or one-on-two......

[@brittanysmith3716]

Autism just sounds like introversion 🤷🏻‍♀️ is it really a disorder or is it just a personality type? So many introverts with anxieties have these issues

[@star_Nichole]

I’m not diagnosed but I’ve been watching videos of autism in females for the past few days and I have never felt more seen and understood in my entire life. I check every box and I feel this load of pressure finally being lifted off my shoulders, it made me cry because I’ve always felt like there was something incredibly wrong with me.

[@dannyhill2325]

It's refreshing to find that it WASN'T anything wrong with you. And that this sense of being different inside is validated and understood by so many

[@JessicaDajana]

SOO TRUEE😢❤ I finally started accepting and loving myself so much more after understanding that I have a reason for being and especially "feeling" different... I feel so much more elevated, and everything makes sense somehow.

[@NinjaFuckingTurtle]

I know what you mean.. I have been researching the same thing since late January this year nonstop, writing a list (it's so long and I'm in the process of writing it all in a notebook categorized) because I know I won't be able to articulate or remember anything because its giving me too much anxiety in situations like that, for when I'm gonna go get tested for autism wraaa. Also suspect adhd, but definitely suspect mild autism. I will be so surprised if they decide I don't have it

[@heatherso7772]

The lockdown was LITERALLY the best time in my life. All that social pressure GONE!! i was really sad when it ended.

[@mydefenseisimpregnable]

It needs to start again

[@gaehenderson5071]

This is me too!

[@clicheguevara5282]

Wearing a mask caused instant panic attacks and headaches, but I LOVED staying home with my cats. It was heaven. Unfortunately while it was a nice mental health break for us, it caused an absolute epidemic of suicide, anxiety, and depression in the NT population. It was the biggest wave of child suicide in modern history. Even my PTSD got pretty out of control towards the end and I started getting lowkey agoraphobic. My state, Hawaii stayed locked down and masked longer than any other state - and because I couldn't wear a mask, I was basically locked down for 2 years.

[@mariecait]

I am on disability so I am home a lot anyway. Isolated. It gets very lonely. I do love being home with my cats but isolation can be dangerous NT or not.

[@FreyaEinde]

I just feel like the system really sucks and we need solid alternatives. Because being at home and online is a vibe

[@XxMarisMassacrexX]

i wonder if theres a way to get a diagnosis without leaving my house.

[@dr.m9035]

too anxious to leave my house and get food. so i'd rather starve than interact with humans

[@lalaw.1625]

Yes! I really wish I could get tested without going to a doctor's office. It gets me anguished to imagine going for that

[@Thelittleclipstore]

Do u know ur mbti type? Maybe take a test Then study it deeply , that can solve a lot of confusion and fear . Personality hacker is great site

[@karenmorton8546]

It runs in my family and my grandson has autism and another is being tested.my kids all have anxiety etc but 1 she struggled in life with what i said was probably social anxiety and found it so hard to talk etc she went to uni and came out of her shell cos i told her she just has to see she is different and mite take her longer but if she really wants something she can get it.after 2yrs learning more about computers and her art she is obsessed with along with manga type things she has finally got a graffics design job.she too hides things but lets loose at home she is so funny and i tell her this and to not worrying about what she thinks is her failures because people dont see that so its about the praise and making yourself do things actually makes you realise it isnt that scarey.her words 😁

[@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS]

Had to return two Amazon packages. Had a month to do it. Sent them back the day before the due date. It was just one more social interaction I didn't want to have.

[@sksbc3895]

I'm a 61-year-old female with Asperger's /ASD, and you hit the nail on the head when you said it's the fear of rejection and/or judgment that keeps you less social. My anxiety can be debilitating before an event, so much so that I'll cancel. On the other hand, I deal with people all day in my boutique and handle it well because I have a well-scripted conversation of small talk at the ready that I've collected over the years. Learning I have ASD confuses some people so much that some even suspect I don't have Asperger's at all. I have a tiny group of trusted/ nonjudgmental friends and keep it that way because it's just easier and less stressful for me. When I was around 33 I had a massive identity crisis as I realized I literally had several different identities I had created to fit in with all the different groups of people in my life, ie/ at the office, my artistic/musician friends, my relatives, my intellectual friends, my partying friends etc. I masked for all of them, and after many years became depressed over it because I didn't know who I was or what I really liked. Charl, you are fortunate you've lived in these times and are more educated on ASD than I was in my younger years. Life could have been much different, had I known more about the subject of ASD but my condition was completely overlooked by a generation that meant well but that didn't know better. All the best to you.

[@fionawhiteford2128]

omg ,you just described me 😮i am 61 female ...i am trying to summon up the dr to make an app to request a referral for assesment .....realizing im neuro diverse is such a revelation for me and explains so much about my life ...

[@myles5388]

I’m only 23 and I’ve recently isolated myself of from friend groups because the masking was so exhausting + struggling with identity. What advice would you give to someone going through the same thing???

[@sayusayme7729]

Wow, so many similarities. 62 years. Thank you 🩵

[@cathymack1886]

All this, then, I, sometimes recycle my third grade jokes, and people think I'm enjoying myself. I'm not. I'm fairly certain they're not enjoying me, either.

[@cathymack1886]

​@@myles5388 Exhausting is exactly right. I don't have advice, except, if you can't find your "tribe", at least, get with people with similar interests. May the force be with you.

[@nicolebrennan5634]

I have cerebral palsy and I can literally relate to all of these traits. Being in social gatherings, afraid of being judged or saying the wrong thing, obsessing about what you did say and if someone took it the wrong way, is so tiring. I completely get it.

[@bf4330]

Same for many of us. We're with you. Thanks for sharing ❤

[@kithralia7172]

I have Ataxic cerebral palsy, severe asperger's and a bunch of other stuff too, I really connected with this video I haven't left the house other than for a doctor appointment in well over a year

[@Nextgenerationkdz]

She’s so pretty she’s like the punk Elsa ❄️❄️

[@TheAspieWorld]

✌🏼Thank you so much for the comment! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :).

[@recoveringsoul755]

There is another girl online who sings with similar coloring. She seems very much a quiet shut in also. Holly Henry. Even her singing voice is very soft and ethereal. Seems she would be very much at home with fairy wings on.

[@DancingQueen311]

@@recoveringsoul755, I feel the same about Aurora.. I've wondered if she might be Aspie. Her voice is so hauntingly beautiful. You can tell she's in a world of her own if you watch the video of the acoustic version of "Running with the Wolves".

[@maurinoshi]

Exactly what I was thinking!😁

[@TsukiNaito1]

When your script runs out and that heavy awkwardness falls over the conversation and you start to mentally punch yourself for being so bad at this. And if your me maybe go home and cry. 😔

[@DanSwerdlove-wb5jl]

Meeeeeeeeee

[@angeliconda123]

Relatable af lol

[@stormyweather8798]

Ahhh.

[@sadetucker2094]

That's exactly why I hate talking on the phone, or in person. I prefer texting so I can try and think about what to say.

[@dawnpinkeanderson423]

I learned to start asking questions of people when that happens. Helps sometimes.

[@sidneygordon2804]

It's crazy how identical these symptoms are to social anxiety disorder. I've been diagnosed with social anxiety disorder and this is exactly what I go through. *edit* clearly I have triggered a lot of you who want to gatekeep a neurological disorder. I have never even been evaluated for anything like autism, but social anxiety is far from the only autistic trait I have. I do finally have an appointment for a therapist to eventually refer me to a psychiatrist to be evaluated. I could be autistic without even knowing due to misdiagnosis. That is my point. That is the point of this video. So all of you saying, "heh, that's because it's social anxiety and not autism," are missing the point and should stop assuming shit.

[@cleocatra9324]

And some ADHD

[@XlogicXX]

I was just wondering about that. some symptoms I do identify with, others not. I think I'm leaning toward SA for me.

[@Leopardv8448]

I agree

[@stormyweather8798]

That's because almost all of us have that. Everyone's in fear of being percieved as Weird. That's why public speaking is the big fear.

[@RubelliteFae]

For one, psychology is unique from the sciences in that it doesn't follow the scientific method (little to no experimentation or peer review). So, when they come up with a diagnosis, they are basically guessing at a little box to try to fit people into. The reality of people is that we are messy and all things are on spectrums and little boxes don't quite fit everyone. For another, much of the problems aren't actually lie in the individual. Most problems arise from the specific types of interactions between individuals and society. If society were better structured, we as individuals wouldn't have so many difficulties interfacing with it. This is also why psychology doesn't work all over the world and why anthropological psychology is a field. Psychology has a Western, chiefly American, bias. All that to say, I see autism, SAD, & neurotypicality as three points of a triangle gradient.

[@kristinaandthegerman4554]

I try and “judge the room” to see if my conversation will accepted. Often, I fail so I try to follow my husband’s lead. That may or may not help. I’m often accused of being shy or self-centered in large groups. But get me in small gathering of 4-5/people and I’m okay. It takes months or a year or two for me to make a friend. Unfortunately, my childhood taught me that I won’t be accepted in a crowd. I did, however, have a person I knew when I was 11 apologize to me in my late 40s for how she treated me. She’s a physician and now recognizes what I was dealing with and what she dished. It was validation and cathartic.

[@HumanBeing1974]

Beautiful! What a Blessing! Not one person has ever apologized to me.

[@radrayj4933]

❤

[@jadeykinz1026]

They say school is the best and easiest time of your life. Not for me. It was pure hell.

[@davinagurl6032]

same here, from 63 to 69 primary school in england, i was so shy, introverted and naive and stuttered on many words, incl my own name. but talked to myself without stuttering. would be in my room and draw or paint A4 pictures.

[@nanettenanette8665]

i'm fully convinced that there is no such thing as a 'typical' person

[@obliqueapplications8881]

There isn't.

[@patriciaroysdon9540]

You are correct.

[@mandarinablue8438]

Yes. Same.

[@lastukemperor1901]

Couldn't be more correct

[@elseamoon6779]

The older I get, the more I agree with this statement.

[@CadetRedShirt]

Socializing is sooooooo difficult, women in general are also expected to do a lot of empathizing as well I noticed while watching this that I have that fear / anger flare up at social events especially unplanned ones! I once had a surprise birthday party throw for me and I was SO ANGRY the whole party, unpredictability of the party and breaking my expected routine for that day.

[@SDReelsOnline]

She is so beautiful and sweet. God bless her for not letting people make her into a bad person. The fact that people would bully and reject someone with autism just makes me sick. What kind of world do we live in? Hugs to everyone who endures being lonely in this horrible world.

[@shaunkrose]

What do you mean by not letting people make her into a bad person?

[@sadieadler4383]

We live in a very ableist world that's what it is and that won't ever change anytime soon.

[@lindabelcher8087]

🫂🥰

[@cameronschyuder9034]

@@shaunkrose some people, when faced with enough cruelty, become mean and/or jaded. Hurt people hurt people, is the common phrase. This is for any demographic of people, really, but this video is on ASD, so yeah

[@anikaball4588]

1:45 masking 5:47 selective mutism 8:39 making small talk 11:22 socializing

[@TheAspieWorld]

HERO

[@jordanrichards320]

@@angelussanti8332 Jesus loves you. You don't have to be tormented any longer, just call out to him and ask him what he has in store for you. May God bless you with light and understanding, in Jesus' name.

[@Cliohna]

+ 15:12 isolation

[@vicsarcher9695]

It is also exhausting to mask. My teenager goes out with friends and comes back so exhausted, they have to shut down or sleep. Quite often, they say they can't "human" anymore (their words) x

[@Swansong321]

@Vics Archer THAT'S me exactly!❤..I can't human anymore!😁..I have to take to my bed after socialising and monitoring myself..in case I relax and say something "weird"..it's absolutely exhausting!

[@Sleipnirseight]

Omg the whole thing about feeling socially awkward or overwhelmed around people your own age is spot on. I'm far more comfortable around older or younger people. This can also happen for me with other groups of peers, like peers in my profession, regardless of their age.

[@bethanymuvceski475]

Sleipnirseight very common doesn’t mean your on spectrum.

[@pbasswil]

Just to place this common Aspy symptom in a wider context: I'm a married male, in later middle-age. Though never tested, I'm pretty sure I'm not on the spectrum. Yet I have this same awkwardness & tendency to be overwhelmed in social situations - which I attribute to a rather lonely upbringing, by neurotic, anti-social parents. I find I can relax somewhat in the company of a woman (or two) - especially if I'm not attracted to them. But I'm never comfortable in large, chatty groups - I positively drown in loud crowd noise! And I'm usually intimidated by other men, and most especially the ones whose persona features that typical bantering, locker-room swagger that develops among high school/college guys - ugh! I understand that autism is an entirely different cause of social challenges. But please know that some non-spectrum folks also suffer from serious feelings of social alienation!

[@bethanymuvceski475]

pbasswil very well said !!!!!! On point !

[@pbasswil]

@@bethanymuvceski475 Glad it resonated, Bethany. :^) Can I ask if you, yourself, are here because you've been assessed and diagnosed?

[@bethanymuvceski475]

pbasswil no actually I stumbled across this video and was just intrigued by the subject . My teen struggles with some of the anxiety and shyness in groups settings and I was thinking 🤔 wait a second if my daughter watched this she would think maybe that’s me ..... but it’s just so common! I’m not at all on spectrum and was the same way growing up . I feel like some people want to be labeled . But I don’t agree with any labels ! We’re all unique and different ! So common to be anxious in this big world 🌎!

[@startfromzer0podcast]

I won’t lie, my heart shattered into a million pieces realizing I have so many, if not all of these traits. I cried and released. Thank you so much for sharing and I hope to inspire others like you have with your vulnerability.

[@weaverdreams]

Me too. Is it helping you or is it scaring you? Because it’s possible you don’t have it. But if you’re suddenly looking back on thoughts feelings and actions in the past and the way you’re were treated by others and suddenly now it makes it to you the key will be to have compassion for yourself. Love and except yourself. That’s where I’m at right now and I’m possibly looking into joining an aspergers group.

[@folksagabookart]

The older I get and the more videos I watch on this topic I get more and more convinced that I am on the spectrum. I just don’t understand how it got unnoticed throughout my childhood.

[@iaf4454]

Maybe cos you are a girl..

[@Jules-GamerGrandma]

Same! ❤

[@erikajalla2448]

Saim

[@acts2.387]

Same

[@candyboettcher1482]

Same

[@ruths1287]

she pulls off the white/silver hair trend better than anyone else i’ve seen

[@TheAspieWorld]

Yeah!! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@swimminginarainbow1646]

She’s really pretty:)

[@brystonbower666]

Yeah she's super hotssss

[@meghanworkman6449]

Agreed. She looks lovely.

[@colleenseidel3765]

Beautiful

[@syrollesse]

Selective mutism is a big struggle because even when I do say something everyone just flat out ignores me so it just makes me even more anxious and even more mute in group situations

[@monicagambino318]

I have exactly the same experience

[@tamilee9462]

I'm with you on that. Then I get mad and yell over and at everyone. TLEE HAS SPOKEN! Awkward silence

[@trishaann3489]

My kiddo feels that he isn’t heard, Listened to or seen after selective mutism.

[@2okaycola]

Yeah well what can we do about it

[@dstre17]

May I ask how you would feel more supported or heard in those situations? I am a Girl Scout leader with a young lady that struggles and I want to support her.

[@stacy1981]

It’s funny but so accurate when she uses the words “how useless I am” referring to her friendships and social situations. I try extra hard to be there for my friends and it’s hardly ever reciprocated. In fact, I feel like the harder I try to mask what feels like a more comfortable laid-back approach, one in which I fear I am not as useful as a friend, where I could be perceived as not caring, I fear I could fall out of grace with them and be even more useless in these relationships I try so hard in. Being social is the hardest thing in my life, because I get so excited when I make a friend, and so sad when they turn out to not be there for me in the end.

[@charcharbinks983]

I don’t have autism, but I have ADHD-C and my therapist sent me this video because many of the traits can overlap. I felt so seen and heard by this video!

[@TheAspieWorld]

Oh yes that’s interesting!!! I also have adhd Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@nickhubbard2046]

Have you ever been evaluated for autism ?

[@pembebulut2781]

My son is diagnosed w/ autism, that’s why I’m watching this video. I agree that many traits overlap w/ adhd as i am diagnosed with it.

[@Ayesha_syed]

What is adhd-C ?? I js heard of adhd..

[@rachelmmurray]

@@Ayesha_syed probably 'combined' (inattentive and hyperactive)

[@Investigativebean]

I’ve just come to realize that people mostly like to talk about themselves anyhow. If you just let them roll with that, you don’t really have to say much at all lol.

[@TheAspieWorld]

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[@frostedsilver]

Yep!! Mastering the art of listening is one of the reasons I passed as NT for so long, I think. If I didn't say much, I just seemed "shy" or introverted.

[@panthersphinx3901]

Yeah, that's my strategy too. Just throw questions and try to listen.

[@misscottencandy15]

That's exactly what i do and nobody fuckin notices hahaha they love me for it

[@justmorenoise]

Oh my gawsh lol I do this and I am good at it. Lol people are shocked out if their brain when they find out I’m on disability support pension. They like WHAT? there’s nothing wrong with you! Lol boy oh boy they don’t know what your life is actually like haha

[@RandomJane104]

I always thought of myself as just a hardcore introvert, but now I think I'm actually autistic.

[@TheAspieWorld]

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[@scoopsfjr]

Can you make (or have you made) a video that delineates between autism and introversion? That would be super useful. Cheers, a new subscriber

[@noidlehands2019]

Not sure if I have autism, but I definitely mask a lot. I was filling out job applications the other day and ended up doing a personality test. I have been doing this so long, I know how to answer the questions so that I am "socially accepted". My profession is super hard for me because I am a nurse. I tend to hang out on the night shift. I get my patients settled in for the night, so that they sleep. I long to be accepted, but have been hurt so much by people.

[@anniegrace7896]

I could’ve written this. I’m a nurse and I was so surprised when I tested out autistically. And no one even believe me because I’m an ENFJ. I Can mask so well that I an loved by people from all walks of life. The truth is, I have hundreds of friends and yet I feel so alone. Thank God for Jesus.

[@noidlehands2019]

@@anniegrace7896 thank you.

[@sniedendepoes]

I’m also an autistic nurse. I went into nursing knowing full well I was autistic and might get into masking exhaustion. It’s not a profession that’s autism safe but it’s a beautiful profession nonetheless

[@cathrynelam2656]

Selective mutism is so frustrating!!!! With one on one conversations I do great! I don’t feel too overwhelmed (usually) or like I have to mask so much. But in large groups ESPECIALLY FAMILY gatherings it all falls apart 😢. There’s too much info, to many traits being thrown at me, too much to juggle and I end up being labeled as “judgmental” “stuck up” or “haute” because I can’t talk or properly socialize. 😢

[@bexabex]

The part about being bullied for being the quiet one almost has me in tears.

[@davinagurl6032]

i got that in primary school in england, being shy, quiet and reclusive.

[@kathybrem880]

That was my life all thru school-as an adult, I’ve married, had five great kids, become a gramma, a functioning and successful EMT. Life can improve for everyone

[@bellefairydust]

That happened to me

[@KidRoctopus93]

I’ve been told I More autistic by more than one person that’s known me very closely. And I have always been inappropriately loud and invasive if I’m uncomfortable. I always gave the quiet kid shit. There quiet made me uneasy. “Are you ok? What’s your name? Are you a serial killer? Do you like The Ramones ? Say something!!”

[@bellefairydust]

@@KidRoctopus93 so you were projecting your insecurities?

[@Ducttaper4JC2]

To me, masking isn't lying about who I am... it's about expressing who I am in a "second language." Just like someone who learns English later in life has to think harder to find the words to express what they want to say, I have to think harder about how to express myself in a neurotypical world. I'm not changing myself, just how I express myself, because no one else speaks my "native language."

[@TheAspieWorld]

✌🏼

[@sammypatterson]

Really great way to put it

[@Nortarachanges]

Wow that feels so true! Nicely put ^_^

[@aly27]

Melissa Bergthold I totally agree with this! I’m the same-I think that’s probably why it’s so hard to know when I am masking and when we I am being totally myself.

[@rollieratibor7163]

Melissa your explanation of this is perfect. i struggle with the masking most of all, and it often gets so exhausting i get burn outs. i also struggled with identity because of it. i've always been hard on myself for masking, feeling like i am being ingenuine even tho i'm technically not. it IS like speaking a second language! i feel like the people and things i take from to form my outward personality in public are like symbols that i'm putting together to create the "right" sentence. i crave understanding from people and when i'm not masking (using my "native language") i've noticed people react to me as if i'm "weird" or as if everything i'm saying makes no sense to them. thank you for putting it this way!

[@Chase3163]

I was diagnosed at 28 and I was so horrible at masking that I was bullied horribly in school and now I have serious agoraphobia. It was actually during a therapy session for depression and PTSD that my therapist recognised my symptoms because she worked with autistic children and she really pushed for me to be assessed.

[@aliciaspears7847]

Please don't give up ! I have been where you are. Didn't leave my house for almost 2 full years and it was incredibly difficult to finally try. Unable to sleep the night before i knew i was going to leave. Panic attacks, etc.... but you know what ? Eventually I was able to do it. Even if I was scared & cried. Even if i only left for 5 minutes. It sucked so effing bad. But i kept doing it. Then - no more panic attacks. Stuck with it & after a while, I would mostly just freak out inside my head for a few minutes prior to leaving. Because i had built upon all of my recent experiences of leaving and NOTHING BAD HAPPENING. i began to be proud of my little victories. And a bit after that I was able to leave without much more than a small pep talk to myself. Sometimes I still struggle a little. Especially if I'm going to a place I've never been before or I'm seeing people I've never met. That's still tough at times but I have also had some wonderful experiences just because I didn't let myself back out. In the end, it was always worth going. Even if it was just to remind myself that I don't want to get stuck in that bad place ever again. I don't want to let the fear win I know I can't cure autism. Not for me, not for you. but I can tell you that it gets better. It absolutely gets easier if you keep going out.I know you're scared, but do it anyway. Remember these things: (1) FEAR IS A LIAR ! (2) the first step is hardest of all and (3)if you're going thru hell, keep on going. Face that fire. Good luck ! I wish you well ! PS may I suggest you pick a theme song ? Most people are into music. Choose something with lyrics that inspire you. Words you need to hear. Repeat to yourself as often as necessary. It helps.

[@peachylexy]

I have been diagnosed with a learning disability that is said to be very similar to Autism, and have also dealt with severe social anxiety and depression. It feels so validating to hear you share your thoughts about how socializing brings anxiety but loneliness leads to depression. I've been stuck in that cycle for almost half my life now. It is still very difficult for me to make friends but I have learned to be content with just having work friends and spending the rest of my time alone at home. I think it's a good balance since I also really enjoy my alone time. I am proud of myself for who I am today even if I am still known as 'the shy girl'.

[@michellelablue7]

Ppl n the spectrum don’t have learning disabilities tho, their just like you & me it’s more of social stuff or certain behaviors etc etc, I wish ppl would not spread the agenda that autism is NOTHING like retardation.

[@peachylexy]

@@michellelablue7 Yes it’s true that people with autism do not have a learning disability. They have cognitive impairment, which is different. However, people with learning disabilities are also not mentally slow. Think about those who have dyslexia. They have a type of learning disability, where they have issues with reading at times. That in no way means that they are any less capable of learning than anyone else. I took special education courses in college for my teaching majors, and there are several different types of conditions that require accommodations from schools. Some people simply learn differently, and need assistance to reach the same learning outcomes as others. That in no way makes anyone less able to learn and comprehend.

[@ShellieFleming]

“When the script runs out what do I do now?” Yep, totally relate. I would tell my parents I talked all my words out.

[@TheAspieWorld]

Ahh yes it can be super difficult I hear you there. I do lots of stuff and I cover 3 of the main ones in my feee masterclass if you are interested: www.copingsecrets.com/masterclass Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@blabarsris6012]

It often happens to me when I talk to people. I can talk about something for a while and then suddenly I’m all out of words.

[@shelzblack488]

Yes this is me

[@damiana_9]

I also currently obsess and have obsessed about what " I should have said.." "what I could have said" .. Cringing at the awkward way in which I interacted. Leaving my house is hard. Answering my phone is difficult and scary. I don't have energy for others. I need my bed,a hoodie and relief in my obsessions/research indulgences to feel relaxed.

[@iprobablyforgotsomething]

Phones are the worst -- no visual cues + slower processing speed = hell -- and the tendency for ASD people to have great long-term memory (especially for upsetting stuff) *really* works against us. : /

[@katja904]

The same for me..somehow the words that i could or should have said come's to my mind only afterwards..and it's so annoying

[@annettep5295]

This is exactly why I was diagnosed with social anxiety, I'm constantly doing this and then start to worry if the other person misinterpreted what I said.

[@kiwicreation5931]

D oh I feel you - I’ve just spent couple days obsessing over an email I replied to with 3 people for work...

[@truvy_5544]

Exactly, I think I need to get check for social anxiety. It's getting worse for me to where I rather be just isolated

[@elizabethkanaya1337]

I actually had to pause the video and take a moment to keep from crying when Charl spoke about masking so intensely all the time that she had identity issues. Nothing has hit home quite the way that did... whole video was very eye opening. Thank you for sharing.

[@christeenasnyder]

My psychiatrist won't get me evaluated because they don't believe that I'm on the spectrum. I'm currently crying because i go through all these social issues. Pray for me, please.

[@FRANKBLACK2]

It's a misnoma to think that people not on the spectrum don't experience these things! I am definitely not autistic but experience 5/5 of these issues. Your therapist likely has a better view on this than you do, if you get hung up on the idea that you're autistic when you're not you'll waste your life waiting for someone to confirm that you're psychologically "different" when in reality everyone is different and the trick to life is being at peace with that.

[@EJtoU]

I think this comment deserves a different response tbh… your experience is valid, and your psychologist has different information and perspective. So do other licensed therapists, psychologists, and psychiatrists who all specialize in different things. I hope you self-love by pursuing whatever support you need, including correct diagnosis if that helps improve your life. I wish you luck and patience ☺️

[@JCannon2010]

I lose the ability to talk when I'm under stress, its like I can't get the connection between my brain and the words

[@TheAspieWorld]

✌🏼Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@Anna-nl9qr]

Autumn Rose yeah I start to forget how to speak and stutter a bit

[@heatherlaski629]

Autumn Rose me too..I’ve always thought it’s cuz I have a memory problem or sometimes just feel stupid

[@miinxxx]

yea cause whenever im excepted to talk, id loose the ability to talk and tense up kind of

[@evanurena8868]

@@miinxxx Yep, sometimes it puzzles me just as much as those around me. Strange feeling indeed.

[@nadiasaurusrex]

"What I'm actually doing is running off a script" YES! I call mine my "social algorithm". I have built up a mental blueprint on how to interact with people and be polite and chat. It's probably similar to most people's customer service mode. That's why I'm so good in a professional setting but SUCK at making friends.

[@toonatonian286]

Aren't "friends" overrated?

[@patriciaroysdon9540]

Friends are valuable. The trick is finding them and making the friendship work when times get tough.

[@jackrobinson9403]

you need other people to succeed sadly. Think of the Beatles and if they would of been as successful without each other, different strengths. This was actually something Steve Jobs focused on with his business models, make sure people with different skills etc work together to create greater products

[@rileylovebucket6080]

Wow. WOW! I use the same exact word, "algorithm." Mind blown. I have actually written equations to calculate the extent of my perceived introversion.

[@hamandcheesedandwich]

SAME i am soo bad at making friendships with people because I never know how to get past the scripted small talk stage but it does make me pretty good at customer service so that's one good thing😂

[@heathermansur8673]

After 44 years of wondering why I felt so different, this information has been so enlightening! Thank you so much for spreading the word about women's struggles with this issue. I'm so glad to know I'm not alone.

[@tanyavince5086]

I'm 43 and only just realising that I'm likely on ther spectrum. I can appreciate that enlightened feeling! 😆

[@robindabreu34]

I am diagnosed with general anxiety disorder and social anxiety among others and I can relate to all of these.

[@cie2035]

i’ve always thought that it was just extreme social anxiety, but hearing that sentence of “i’ve spent so long masking that I don’t actually know who I am or what I like” really clicked with me. I think new social situations are so hard for me because I don’t know immediately what they’re expecting so I don’t know how to mask. I’ve always been so angry at myself for isolating myself and of being so afraid of any kind of social situation, but this video helped a lot.

[@olgatrilogymartin3143]

Face your fears be yourself

[@naju02]

same :(

[@renii4177]

same here

[@msmith3129]

Right wondering the same atm, still not too sure the difference between anxiety and autism

[@edelleaa]

@@DeadDiaries every time i try to push myself and act more outgoing i immediately feel even worse and more awkward honestly.

[@chessgame00]

I've been interrupted every single time I talk, no exagerration. Everytime. So, guess wbat. Yea. I no longer talk.

[@TheAspieWorld]

Ah, it can be difficult. Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@ashleygeorge5972]

I'm not on the spectrum, but I understand that. I really dislike being interrupted by people. However, I think you should try to talk anyways. It's not your fault if someone is interrupting you, you deserve to talk in the conversation too. If someone interrupts you, the best thing to do is to keep talking. Usually, people will let you talk if you do that, but if they don't, then I recommend talking to people that won't constantly interrupt you. Also, I recommend talking to more people that let you talk without interrupting. I personally enjoy talking to people that are good listeners, so those are the people I try to surround myself with :)

[@jeanicegraves9322]

😢

[@seashell1800]

Same!

[@polentapalola]

Same, when i start to talk about something that i'm really interested about and someone interrupts, i just don't talk about that anymore, unless it is some friend that i know is interested in the same thing

[@sofiaramirez5145]

Thanks for having this collab. I was diagnosed at 25 and it helped me to start forgiving myself for struggling and understanding that it wasn't my lack of effort that was causing this. I can relate to everything she said, especially the selective mutism and the difficulty sociliazing. It is way easier to me to deal with people older than me than my peers, so my mutism appears a lot around people of my age, as well as I had basically no friends in college for almost 3 years, because I just couldn't connect with anyone. I moved countries 3 years ago and to this day, I have only 2 friends and still struggle about feeling isolated, but therapy has been helping me a lot.

[@RestWithin]

Good video and he asks good questions but he doesn’t let her talk enough. She’s explaining herself with great clarity and we are learning so much.

[@youngmosh]

I’m 22 and finally coming to terms that I might be on the spectrum. I can’t help but feel sort of mad that my parents never noticed and would in fact punish me for some of my symptoms.

[@RUSrocket21]

I have Asperger’s and I have had a very similar experience to your experience with your parents. The most important thing I have learned in life (I’m 30) is that you must let go of your resentment towards your parents. After you do and comes up again, destroy it again then again and again. If you get diagnosed with ASD (or if you already have since your comment) I found it’s extremely relieving to let go of stuff like that.

[@aboomination897]

you are young at 22. i envy you for the early realization.

[@ArianaCapraro]

I’m 26. So my mother was a teacher and trained to pick up on these things right?? There was some heaaavy ableism and other issues from my moms side of the family that I just didn’t pick up on as a kid but there’s no way she didn’t notice and she’d get pissy at me about stuff and I didn’t know what the heck I was doing wrong. She straight up threatened to pull me out of the school I adored if I wasn’t able to pay attention, finish my work and keep my desk clean, which is why she switched me to that school in the first place. RThat was 6th grade I think, it just broke my heart.

[@wedp112]

I understand everything they are saying and been this way my whole life, I have a narcissistic mother and she wanted me to perform in front of people to make her look good, often getting frustrated and violent with me for being too shy, and doing quirky things, not fitting her mould.

[@neptun6761]

This is littarly me I was diagnosed with dislexia and ADHD at a quiete young age They gave me ritalin when i was 10 and it made me depresd after about 1 week So i stoped taking them

[@rhondamarshall4152]

Was anyone ever fearful of hearing their own voice?! It almost can become like a phobia of dreading to speak and then worrying about what others are thinking of you.

[@rhondamarshall4152]

It's tough when we feel like we don't fit in, but then on the other hand, to be human is to be unique. :)

[@jadeykinz1026]

Yes. I have even nearly been reduced to tears when someone has recorded my voice and made me listen to it.

[@isabelorourke2609]

Jade Povey when ever I hear myself talking in a video, it makes me cringe because it doesn't sound anything like how I normally talk.

[@jadeykinz1026]

@@isabelorourke2609 I can relate so hard.

[@mercyr6105]

Yeeeees

[@pnwnewsinfo]

Thank you for this! The lockdown was AWESOME! Didn't have to leave the house and nobody cared! I'm exhausted from a lifetime of Copying, Pasting, and Masking. Thank you for this discussion on girls with Autism.

[@pnwnewsinfo]

@@neskrafe You obviously have no idea what's going on with Autism. STOP Bullying!!!

[@lucynabowen6419]

I took my daughter out of school the day she got her Aspie diagnosis and had her home schooled. She went from a depressed uncommunicative self harmer, to a blossoming young girl, it was priceless. The money we got for her 'disability' went onto a home school teacher who taught her at her level and she just thrived and opened up again. It is vital I think to get them out of school, if you can, and be educated at home. She went onto college...didn't finish, but at 23 has not been without work. There is hope . Thank you guys for making this more known in your video for others to relate and parents to understand what going on inside of them, so we don't blame or push them for their inability to mix as you 'expect' them to.

[@myrarobinson7186]

Hi Lucyna, Thank you for sharing your daughter’s experience. This is our exact life now. I took my daughter out of public school after the “Covid lockdown” because she was doing so much better in her studies at home. We are in the process of getting her diagnosed with Autism. May I ask what you mean by getting “paid for her disability”? I am homeschooling her, but I would love to be able to afford some help. I’m not sure that I am doing a good enough job on my own. I would like her to have the best education I can give her…. If you have time to reply, I would So appreciate that! 🤗 -Myra.

[@kensmusings4171]

This got me wondering if I have had autism all my life and I just thought it was anxiety disorder.

[@hamandcheesedandwich]

Same!

[@user-el2gi5ws8d]

Same

[@callieoh3079]

Every single thing she said.... She's in my head.

[@TheAspieWorld]

Ooh!! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@Fettomocken]

@@TheAspieWorld And your comment immediately comes off as very self serving

[@kleinemaus6094]

Ditto

[@laurela6626]

Mine too!

[@Zombie101]

All the things you said all the things you said, running through my head running through my head, this is not enough

[@AMadd3RHatt3R]

Omggg!! Yesss!! I have always felt like being in social situations I feel like the big sore finger in the group. Like I stick out so badly... even like the energy changes just because I am there. Individually I can be friends with ALL of them, but in a group, forget it.

[@jbaby283]

socialising for me is like i was scared of it, then i became to dislike it, then i realised it's actually very boring and i just stopped it overall.

[@tracietaggart3051]

Me: hi, how are you? Them: fine, how are you? Me: fine, how are you? (Oops! Already said that part!)

[@kiralynch2423]

I do that all of the time!!!! Actually what's worse is picking the wrong response out of your head. Like they say "Did you find everything?" I'm like "I'm good thank you", and realizing that was the wrong answer...

[@drgamerstat66]

Panic!!!! 😣

[@amandachancey7522]

Sometimes after I'm done shopping when the cashier says thank you come back soon I'll say thank you you too and then I'll be like why did I just say that they'll be back they work there lol

[@lashubi80]

Car rides are the worst for me. Trapped in a moving vehicle and feeling pressured to talk when all i want to do is look out the window and relax. Ubers and Lyfts should have a no chatting option, PLEASE🙏

[@TheAspieWorld]

Yes!! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@trueheart8739]

Diana Galvan just put obvious eye buds/plugs or blue tooth in your ears, like you’re listening to music and usually no one tries to chat when they think you’re listening to something.

[@JK-bp6oz]

Then don't do it. You dont have to talk to anyone. At most politely say, I would like a quiet ride. I don't feel like talking.

[@robertf6523]

If I had a new enough car to do uber&lyft... you'd be my favorite passenger. My big worry about if I do get into uber&lyft is that the majority of passengers would expect their driver to socially interact with them.

[@imafemale4365]

Oh my goodness yes!

[@ozz64]

I was recently diagnosed at age 57! It blew me away all this anxiety and feeling like I'm not understood now adds up ! I have aspergers, dyslexia and have bad anxiety when being bullied :(

[@glorialeon4275]

My daughter is on the spectrum and the saddest thing for me is see her have not one friend. Not one person giver a her a chance. It breaks me when she says at this point she is just going through her life waiting for her time to die. All she wants is just to connect with one person.

[@whocareswhoiam6637]

For me the fear of talking through phones is also about people being unpredictable. I have a real issue with figuring what people want or feel without visual cues. I can't predict their reactions which means that I can't adapt mine in advance. Texting is easier because I can take a few seconds or even a few minutes figuring out what I'm going to say so there is a lot less pressure

[@TheAspieWorld]

I can relate!! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@amandaanne3578]

Same!

[@80swoodpanel]

If I get as much as one phone call at work, it will ruin my day. I'll go over it over and over and think about nothing else...

[@whocareswhoiam6637]

@@80swoodpanel A few years back I had a summer job in a bank and I had to call dozens and dozens of clients everyday to ask them to do stuff because apparently none of them knew how to read mails or something. That was pure torture

[@lillypieisme]

Periwinkleeyes70 Omg. I thought I was the only one who had a fear of phones. I don’t think I have autism but if I do, that could be a good explanation for my social anxiety issues and communication issues. I came to this channel because my little brother has autism and I was just doing research but I can totally relate to this. 😅

[@lauriemrdjan]

Thank you for continuing to show autism from the female perspective. It is so important and often overlooked.

[@TheAspieWorld]

It is super important :)! Thank you for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@swimminginarainbow1646]

I agree x

[@karenghio3844]

@Ieah Leen I wish you the best of luck. I live in a place where I am lucky enough to have access to adult autism testing services, but they refuse to give me the test because my autism is not destroying my life "enough". This dismissal was the final straw. Nobody should have to write out a convincing drama script for a neurotypical researcher just to have access to an official diagnosis. I will pursue more confirmation with my therapist, but the real test for me will be when my adult children get their official diagnosis. That is enough for me. It should not matter if you are "official or not". If you can self identify, then you are welcome to sit by me. I know I am on the spectrum and so does the rest of the world. The school knew it in 1982 when I was about 12 but they didn't know what it was so they labeled me and sent me off to advanced level classes and forgot about me. Look for the signs in your past. Ask honest open-ended questions to your loved ones. These are the people who are qualified to tell you. Most of all, trust yourself and best of luck.

[@MayHugger]

@@karenghio3844 It’s so bullshit that they diagnose based on how much of your life gets negatively impacted by your Autism, or as somewhere that I read put it, “how much the other person experiences your Autism”.

[@forgivenaj7425]

There’s was a time in my life that really made me realize how bad my social anxiety was, I’m 19 this was just a few months ago, me and and my dad went on this week trip event with a crap ton of people, talking hundreds, during the day everyone would gather in one place and my dad is a social freak complete opposite of me so after just 5 minutes of standing with my dad and group of 5 other people I just started getting anxious and needed to be somewhere less crowded. My dad dosent really understand my autism but he dosent give me a hard time, I asked him for the keys to his car and stayed in the backseat for 6 hours of the event till it ended.

[@mondstadtvlogs]

sitting here crying at midnight cause i relate to every single one of these points on the dot. i've been questioning myself a lot lately if i might be on the spectrum and the more i watch and research, the more everything starts to make sense. it's so reassuring to know why i am the way i am and that there many others out there just like me. thank you for this video

[@Elizacliff77]

Same why didn't I get the right help when I was a kid im 37 married now to my husband an now my husband calls me a narcissist??what is wrong with me am I stupid?I judge myself daily like I can't stop being friends with any girls its hard to understand anyone them u know?like ughh

[@mthsarchives507]

this vid made me cry bc ive been struggling all my life wondering why i am the way i am and this explains it all spot on

[@laynaaaj3477]

Hana Hong omggg I cried too.

[@Diondra1738]

Hana Hong me too

[@horo53280]

just in case anyone needs this: there are many reasons one may have social anxiety. I think it's always better to seek professional help. I myself was diagnosed with neurosis (other names may apply in different parts of the world I guess) but I can relate to most of the things mentioned. Also my female friend was diagnosed with autism recently (that's why I'm here) and we noticed some time ago how similar some of our problems are. I hope I don't sound like smart*ss ;) It just took me way too long to seek help and now I regret this.

[@averyreinhardt145]

Omg me too

[@picashlio3361]

I get it now too.

[@RapnFreshD]

I have always wondered if I am on the spectrum because I can relate to many of the problems but at the same time i don't want to make "a big deal" out of maybe social anxiety or strong introvertedness >_

[@TheAspieWorld]

Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@Gr95dc]

I can relate so much

[@KimYuieJae]

Same. I've always wondered and confused whether I'm on the spectrum as well or is it due to my social anxiety / introverted personality. Is there ways to find out or differentiate it?

[@RapnFreshD]

I guess one of the reasons is getting diagnosed (or not) by a professional. But I am not sure how to find out (correctly) for yourself

[@kristinar.6600]

Ur not. If u were u just knew. U don't.

[@salmad6044]

I am in tears right now. The video just popped up on my screen, I listened out of curiosity, and discover I have all these traits. I am seeing a psychiatrist for 2 years now, for social anxiety. Then she recently told me that I have depression, that I 've learnt hiding so well that I hide sadness even from myself. Listening to this is quite schoking. I have an autistic son, but I've never thought that I could be one myself.

[@stacy1981]

My son is on the spectrum and has OCD. It wasn’t until I started researching these things for him, that it hasn’t just been OCD that was passed on, but being on the spectrum as well. We struggle.

[@willowwillow9582]

I've been diagnosed with anxiety depression and ocd but I think at the heart of it is autism. My psychologist doesn't understand and said that she see's no problems when we're talking. Its disheartened when people metaphorically roll their eyes at you.Thankyou for recording this video it really helps me understand that it may actually be autism.

[@cindypekarek7982]

OMG, The friendship thing is so true for me! I never call my friends, but I'm happy to see them or hear from them. Calling seems like a lot of commitment and possible rejection.

[@keeperfamily2853]

Me too :( my bestest friend is the one who has agreed to write to one another once in a blue moon. We never message or call. Lol

[@madelineramos7970]

I never contact my friends now I do not go out w/any of them. Communication is texting

[@bernlin2000]

Well when do you call? I'm not the spontaneous type for that stuff, might be better to actually schedule phone calls, but even that might create anxiety. So I text...if someone wanted to call or video message me, I would definitely consider it, but I'm really "video ready"...there is nothing useful to see there 🤣 my voice is more than enough lol

[@mcpartridgeboy]

lol try being a guy and dealing with rejection from all women, if you cant take your friend saying no you would be utterly fucked as a guy.

[@xfreja]

fr omgg

[@64gjb]

I'm a 72 female, a long time to be autistic. I like the way you broke it down. Socialization is so painful. I still don't have friends and I stay home a lot. My daughters told me to get out more so I went to join a senior citizens group, never happened. I felt like there was a glass wall between me and the person I was talking too and conversation just stopped and they made no more eye contact, I was imploding, I actually felt like I was shrinking to the point of invisibility. People at the table were talking among themselves I wasn't included and I had nothing to contribute. I was so uncomfortable I left. I said "It was nice meeting you all." and got no responses it was like I never spoke then I was depressed for a week. I was labled by my family as weird, gullible, antisocial, split personality, unruly, not talking much, keeping to myself, curious, I was always fixing things, my only friend was my dog. Things are still the same.

[@sashasasha9598]

I am sooo sory for you. I understand you. I for example never finished my studies becouse I could not cope with stress of being among people all the time and that is very sad becouse I was one of the best students, I love my profession very much. Now I spend most of my time at home with my books, my two dogs and a cat. I don't have any job and I am in fear of my future if I continue like this, I won't have anithing... (i am 34 year old women, sorry for my english). Wish you all best! At least we now know why are we like this all our lives...

[@ooman56]

Hi Gloria, thank you for posting your experiences, this is so helpful! I'm 63, female, married to a high functioning autistic guy-my own diagnosis- with 2 autistic boys- also my own diagnosis. And now I realize I have it too, duh! My sister has a daughter who WAS diagnosed and now I can see it's a family thing, Mom, sister, her kids, my kids. I've wondered why, for my whole life, I've been invisible in groups...your experiences are mine! I prefer to stay home with my cats and do my own thing. I just have never understood how people communicate and make friends. It's like a foreign language to me. People have often told me I'm weird or goofy...and talk about social anxiety, ack! This is a great video.

[@JENTHINKSO]

Maybe hovering somewhere near the border of ASD, I have had similar experiences myself and I've also been in the position of being accepted and even "mistaken" as cool - at least for a time. (The quotation marks are because Aspies actually ARE the cool ones in my book!) I've watched people ostracize the Aspie in the group and I've also been the rejected one myself. NTs know exactly what they're doing when they do this and I respect them way less for it. I discontinue the friendship if I discover an Aspiephobe in the "friend". Despite lots of bs about being a good person or a good Christian, or whatever they tell themselves, I'll never cease to be amazed at how shallow, petty, and ego-driven a lot of people seem to be. If you're willing to try meeting new people again, here's a suggestion: there's an app called "meetup". Use it to find groups and meetups of people with ASD.

[@cthornton523]

Gloria and Buster You wonderful, brave, brilliant human, you!! I relate to every word. I'm 48. Try the Meetups. My 68 yr old mother does them, it's not "for the odd." Good luck!!

[@pawpkitty]

Gloria I'm so sorry. If you need to talk sometime please don't hesitate to message me on google+ . You won't have to worry about eye contact. We're all here for you. You're important.

[@victoriapasterfield8022]

Regarding social anxiety with Autism. Someone said to me 'You know that feeling when you are really looking forward to a party...' I interrupted them and said 'No, I have never had that feeling.' Parties mean dread for me and I have never in my LIFE looked forward to one......but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy them when I get there....sometimes.

[@nikkimcelroy3776]

42 yr old newly diagnosed Female on the spectrum hear from the Pacific Northwest glad to have another female's insights on autism

[@lindseylandis6809]

Im 43 years old I have 3 adult children and I was just diagnosed with high functioning autism. For the first time in my life I feel like Im not alone

[@Nikki-kr2se]

I'm 41 and was diagnosed in my 30's. You're definitely not alone!

[@biancaf4867]

I’m wanting to get checked for this because a lot of it makes sense, but I don’t want to waste my time with doctors who don’t know how to diagnose it in adults. Any tips or suggestions?

[@Nikki-kr2se]

@@biancaf4867 Absolutely. Feel free to email me [e-mail], and I am more than willing to share my advice!

[@dreamer7272]

Damn my anxiety is always at its worst around people my own age and I didn’t realise there was others out there who could relate 💕

[@TheAspieWorld]

Yup!! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@theluckypoptart2945]

Oh I'm great with kids and the elderly but can't function with people around my age.

[@lisaedgar4439]

I can relate to all these traits. Stems way back into my childhood. I be been diagnosed with clinical depression and anxiety, panic attacks since teens. Then about 6 years ago I was diagnosed as having a mood disorder. Social anxiety and isolation is my worst. It’s horrible and I feel stuck. I’m 48 years old. This video makes a lot of sense to me. Thank you for sharing…

[@JulieannsSerenity]

Thank you for the woman’s perspective! As an adult I was diagnosed as bipolar by the suggestion of my sister-in-law who also saw the same psychiatrist and had never had my best interest at heart. I’d not discovered that my doctor was being unethical and having lunches with her till after she and my brother were divorced. This explained so much! Things like extra information he knew but I hadn’t yet told him. Needless to say, I got a new doc. They carried over my diagnosis, unfortunately but there are so many traits of bipolar I don’t even have. Now, years later, my niece has talked more and more to me about my symptoms and has encouraged me to take a good look at myself and even she believes I’m misdiagnosed. I identified with several traits you spoke about: the small talk, masking, I absolutely hate getting on the phone and I’m so very comfortable being alone. Being in a setting with more than one person gives me a lot of anxiety to the point I’ll not likely show up. But being in a public place where there is lots of noise and people is an absolute nightmare. For me, the sound is so overwhelming. I don’t know if that’s a trait or not? The last time I was in that situation, it took all I could to not make myself as small as possible by squatting down in the ground, covering my ears and screaming. I thought about doing it minute after minute till we were out of there and I was thankful my husband was there because it was wall to wall people so I just kept my head down, eyes mostly shut and hung on to him to lead me out. I knew if I did what I really wanted to do, someone would likely send an ambulance and cart me off to a psych hospital because of my bipolar diagnosis. We’d gotten caught up in a Christmas festival while in downtown Chicago, that we didn’t know was going on, while taking a shortcut back to where we parked the car. That’s not been the only time but it was the last. It’s all rather confusing. Noise seems to be a huge trigger for me as even when I’m at home with my husband, he’ll turn on the tv, walk away and go do something else and turn on his music hooked up to a speaker all while I’m in another room watching a video. It’s too much and the anxiety and I’ve noticed agitation will begin and then I find myself upset and yelling at him. Well, I appreciate anyone who has taken the time to read this. I feel at a loss m, I don’t know what’s wrong with me and I’m on all this psych medication that doesn’t actually seem to help. Thanks so much for listening. I Subscribed. I truly appreciate your work here and look forward to learning more from your channel. ❤

[@Correctrix]

5:50 "So, do you want to talk to us a bit about selective mutism?" "No." [falls silent] C'mon, guys. That's a comedy gold moment you let slide!!

[@janelabowski9400]

Hahah I liked it

[@CarissaWyles]

When you said "I don't know what makes me so scared to connect with other people" I really felt that.

[@sofiaO24]

I am soooo relieved that I've found this. I have ASD and I can relate to literally everything discussed, especially the phone call thing. I can't answer calls. My anxiety goes through the roof. It's so hard to explain to ppl & also the selected mutism which made school really really difficult. I know I've been masking since I was 10 yrs old. I've had had a lot of practice. Lockdown was heaven for me.

[@anon6056]

Watching this makes all the pieces of my life fit together perfectly and i feel like i can finally breathe out! Thank you for making this and putting it online

[@leahbrooke9767]

Watching these videos about autism almost makes me feel like crying because I relate so much. I get so much crap from people for being quiet or not smiling or whatever and it’s always been a struggle for me feeling like maybe I’m just a shitty person.

[@djia3471]

same it's so upsetting

[@PunkRockNerd10171]

Same

[@stormyweather8798]

No wayyy...u r a special person.

[@AnnoyingAllie3]

Obviously you're Leah..not a shitting person..

[@deepseablu91]

Same here!!!!

[@joyyumi6662]

My therapist tells me, "You can't be autistic" because I'm "too social". I am sharing this video, thank you for posting.

[@TheAspieWorld]

That is a load of crap. I hope you manage to get the support you need :).

[@hahna77]

My daughter is very outgoing, class president, head of loads of clubs and always out with friends(more boys than girls though) & was recently diagnosed with ASD.

[@Corso123870]

My daughter has Asperger's, I suspected she did as I have a brother with Asperger's but the doctors kept sayong she's too social to be Autistic. She finally got diagnosed after 5 years and lots of counseling and testing. She's extremely social, like never met a stranger, she's everyone's friend. And while yes she is super social she's also socially awkward. So just because she will talk to every and any body, especially about her obsessions at the time, it doesn't mean she is socializing properly. She doesn't pick up on social cues like tone of voice, facial and body language or if someone is disinterested in what she's obsessively talking about.

[@tinabastarache2674]

@@Corso123870 i can somewhat pick up on tone of voice. if someone using a mocking tone which is bullying as i was always slower in things as child i was bullied. used to think asperger's was oh lack empathy which isn't true lack way of what to say to someone how it will would sound to other person. like mean well. when any of close friends who are like family are crying telling me what happen to them i will cry along with them lend shoulder and works with other way too. it's hard when get focused on certain interests.sometimes myself i be waiting for silence so i can something but then go speak and either no one hears or just starts talking then when i am left say my piece i am changing the subject.my life is so different from most others it is so scary and stressful trying to sound my age.

[@nightbot9159]

Same here, cant get a test.

[@ipupperonies4834]

Oh my god! I’m watching this and having such a hard time not to cry! EVERYTHING you spoke about in this video has hit so close to home for me. I am a recent aspy diagnosed female and have always felt the things you spoke about. I have been dealing with severe depression and anxiety the last year (I have always suffered from both but this last year has been so much worse) and have felt so alone since my ASD diagnosis, but knowing that others feel the same way I do (and to the extent I do) is such a relief… I just don’t know how to put it into words. THANK YOU for making this video 💗

[@yvonne.morales]

I enjoyed the fact that all the streets were empty, no cars, no man made noises around. My soul, my ears, my body felt such peace. I do miss that.

[@annehislop2449]

Fear of being misunderstood, mis-judged, rejected, attacked; all rational fears based on personal experience and no understanding or support leads to paralysis.

[@mandacole8703]

In large groups I can't speak, I never even thought about it, it literally feels like my mouth is glued shut. The tention builds up to the point that I feel like if I don't say something other people will notice my silence and I end up saying random things to seem included in the conversation😥

[@Thelittleclipstore]

That’s me too and most if not all of the myer briggs personality types similr to me , I’m a intp type 5 enneagram and many introverts in general-and that’s a very big percentage do u really think such a big part of world is born with a disorder ? Something just makes no sense .in my family we are six and 4 out of the six act this way... You can read about types and behavior on website personality hacker or see their videos on utube . Any personality type that’s unhealthy or not matured yet will Look like they have a disorder or mental issue ! And since learning in depth about my type I’ve actually gotten rid of a lot of anxiety and learned some great tools . Beatrice chestnut is also a great option to learn about urself.

[@ElleW-wv5rw]

Me too

[@FunGirl013]

That feeling... 1000%!!! It’s like a quicksand situation, where it’s not too bad at first, but the longer you’re in that state the harder it is to break out of it. It’s seems fine, then kinda not fine, and then suddenly you’re in so deep that you feel like you can’t get out. And, also like quicksand, the struggling can make it worse... I now try to enter social situations with at least one or two topics or conversation starters in mind that i can “grab on to” if i feel stuck like this... something that is relevant to my life, and positive, and could also be relevant to other people in the given social event. (ex: “hey, did anyone make New Years resolutions? ... but only if I made one, because otherwise i would have nothing to add and the convo stalls out.) Or i’ll ask someone (beforehand) to ask me about a specific project I’ve been working on, or something interesting that i know about, if they notice me struggling to join in. And... remembering that no matter how harshly people might judge sometimes, it’s far more likely they are more worried about themselves. Breathing. Looking around. None of these work 100% of the time, but they do help crack that vacuum of silence open, a little bit.

[@KoalaRoo]

I swear every single video I watch about Autism makes more & more things in my life make sense! I’m SO glad that there’s SO many more people being so open & honest about their experiences. KZbin, Instagram, tiktok, all these medias have opened up safe spaces for people to open up about their own individual experiences and it just makes so many things make sense for so many more of us!! THANK YOU for sharing this

[@stephanie3848]

I remember I got sick to my stomach one morning at home as I was getting ready for school, the beginning of 9th grade, and I think it was because of anxiety. I was thinking of how people at the new school were actually nice to me, and talked to me in a respectful way. At my old school I was actually labeled in a book because of how much I was bullied. You can imagine how I felt about that. I think being treated well actually felt foreign to me, and I actually didn't know if I deserved it.

[@clarenceandlilaw]

I've been caught mimicking a lot because I, "act different around different people." I want to cry because my ex fought with me about this and I didn't know about this then.... And I was just so frustrated because I couldn't stop.... I didn't understand.... I've done it well my whole life and I hate it. I want to be myself but I don't know how. I can't. It's not that I'm afraid to, I just can't.... I don't know how to. I don't know who I am.

[@tobytheshih-tzu6329]

Same I want to cry 😢 I can't stop mimicking people, studying people, all of my friends I act like, I talk just like them I hate it so much I wish I could stop, but I don't know how, I have a bad habit of looking at people too I don't want to do that either I hate it! My social anxiety is so bad I could totally relate to the being around a crowd, and feeling so overwhelmed I couldn't speak, like nothing would come out, all of what she described I do! 😢

[@leonardograndison5532]

There is an advantage... if you are nobody.....then you can be anybody....life is everything...only the opinions n perspectives of the thinker narrow life's capacity...there is no one self....only apart of an awareness...you are an awareness that does not know it is aware...but awareness is aware of you.

[@captainzork6109]

People often mimic people they feel connected to to a certain extent. It’s a way of bonding, in a sense. I’m not saying this is what you do. Just that it’s not required to completely banish all of your mimicking. Finding out who you are can be a tricky thing. For neurotypicals there are a few perspectives to the self. There’s at least personality, development of identity and the self as a social construct. A good start to understanding your personality is by looking at the NEO-PI. bigfive-test.com/ Development of identity I kind of forgot about.. But one of the things it had to do with is experiencing new things and finding out what you like and don’t like. And then you find your place in the world. Self as a social construct. Much of us is dependent on how we relate to others in a social network. Related to this is belonging to a group, and deriving identity from that. Another thing is that we tend to compare ourselves to others. That’s useful, as it allows us to assess whether we could do better, for example. And we look at other people’s approval or rejection. That is how we figure out norms. Norms have an important impact on our own value system. (Speaking of values, that is another thing that belongs to personality.) I don’t know what it’s like to not know who I am. But I do know that having a stronger sense of the self can give a strong sense of meaning in life. Knowing yourself is on a spectrum. Some are clueless, and others have a really strong core understanding of themselves. I hope for you that you really stand for who you are, when you’re a bit higher on the identity spectrum. And hopefully, you can then talk to others without taking on their identity

[@emilywood979]

I read this and almost cried, I’m so similar.

[@skyel1310]

Youre literally saying my thoughts out loud. Its so hard. I hope we can all be at peace with ourselves someday.

[@mariebo7491]

I would mimic characters in movies growing up. Now I tend to channel one of my extroverted friends who I really admire when I’m in a pinch. 😆

[@TheAspieWorld]

Oh hey thanks for sharing! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@mariebo7491]

The Aspie World I do! I love your videos, Dan! Keep it up! 🙌🏻😊

[@MrsBJPalmer]

Wow! That's exactly what my daughter has been doing since a toddler. Shes 20 now, and it's all about Captain Marvel & Star Wars. She was Rey or Ahsoka from SW until they started talking about making the Captain Marvel movie. (She loves the MCU too.)

[@Aura000]

Griselle Zapata haha i mimicked movie characters too

[@charldavies]

I literally have ace ventura floating around in my head all day with his phrases and I'm constantly acting out his character. I actually feel like he's a part of me. 💖💖

[@essanolet7244]

I really appreciate these videos as they are helping me self diagnosis and gaining some understanding into myself and that I am not alone. Just turned 29 and I can't believe it's taken me so long to realize and stop gaslighting and invalidating my symptoms, thank you

[@drcardinalli]

Yes!!! Girl with ASD here. I so appreciate seeing a high-masking accomplished female really explain what’s going on internally. Also loved how you both talked about scripts… I have a variety of scripts I’ve developed and constantly rehearse and improve, so I rarely run out, but when I finally do, 😨😨😨😨😨

[@TheMissbambi]

I'm trying to find out if i'm maybe autistic or not. I relate to a lot of this but i wonder if that is not something all people do? I always have felt very different from other people idk

[@rachaelsimone521]

Same

[@iknitbecuzmurderisfrownedupon]

Imho - if you're wondering if you are, and you're watching vids like this - you are!....💕

[@lyricsvaultla]

same

[@user-ui7tn1fq2b]

Same, and I scored 39 on the autism AQ test

[@Adiitahyaoi]

Same. when quarantine ends I'll go to a psycologist for reaL I'm so tried

[@thatrunningirl]

i have aspergers - diagnosed last year - i'm 32 and felt like an alien since i was 15. diagnosis was a huge reassurance to me

[@TheAspieWorld]

Oh hey!! You fit in here! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@PridelessChickz]

The very first thought I had to myself as a child/toddler was "am I the only robot or alien or is everyone else?" And the fact that that's the first memory I have of me thinking to myself really freaks me out. I wish I could get diagnosed, I really believe I'm on the spectrum

[@lieveM62]

I'm 57 soon, Aspergers wasn't even a diagnosis when I was young. Have been coping for so long (or 'masking' my new word), so wondering what the point is of taking this further.

[@karenghio3844]

@@lieveM62 There might not be a point in that why do we need something official when we know what we are. I am 51 and your story is also my story. I am not shy about saying that I am on the spectrum. I pursued the official diagnosis, but since if you receive it you are entitled to social service benefits, you will be denied if you are not determined to be "sick enough". In the end, it was all about money and it made my stomach turn. If somebody disputes it because I am not waving around a piece of paper that the neurotypical world created, then I have to ask them, why are you so insistent on being diagnosed by someone who most likely has no idea what this is like? If an official diagnosis is necessary in order for you to receive support services, then by all means, get the official result. If however, you have managed to navigate this world on your own and are content in continue doing so, I would not bother.

[@patreasedurgin8792]

Oh my this sounds like me totally! I have always thought that I was an alien or something since I was a child.

[@juilitord783]

I’ve been diagnosed with adhd since a child which I definitely do have, but watching this video makes me question so much now! I literally resonate with everything she’s saying. Especially because I have to mask so often or I’ll come across as hyperactive and immature. Social anxiety, mutism and everything taking so much energy. Uhh thanks for this video! Adhd/Autism in girls is so different.

[@stacy1981]

Hyper and immature. Right here.

[@unique3301]

Thank you so much guys this means the world to me. I'm realizing these things about myself and I literally just had a job interview, got offered the job, came home and cried. I have been isolating massively and getting depressed so I know I have to work with people and in a routine but it's so good to feel understood ❤️❤️❤️

[@nwingatechi]

I have a hard time talking about myself. I can talk about things I have an interest, but specifically talking about me. When I’m asked about my day, week, month, year; unless I know something extremely interesting I don’t see the point of mentioning it. It makes conversations very one sided, and I end up listening more than talking.

[@tahsinmazumdar5096]

Masking and Selective Mutism go hand-in-hand for me: I used to act rude and pretend to be in a bad mood when engaging in conversations, when instead I just felt too anxious to speak properly. My selective mutism would manifest itself in a way that I would lose the ability to construct full sentences. Even if I forced myself to speak in times like that (which I did a few times), the words that would come out would just be rubbish and nonsensical, so I quickly developed this habit of staying quiet and pretending to be in a bad mood instead. At least if you're rude people will leave you alone because they assume that's what you want; whereas if they can tell that you're just anxious, their typical response is to pry further and get you to open up and get comfortable with them, which would freak me out more than anything else because it would feel all the more embarrassing for me. You kind of tend to spiral the more you acknowledge that its there, like an elephant in the room.

[@cymonescurio]

Tahsin Mazumdar wow, yeah.

[@jewelsparkles13]

Exactly me

[@allcatz]

I'm not young as you all seem to be; I have a very close loved one who got diagnosed with being on the spectrum. I have had anxiety all my life (I'm 62) and learned to mask when I started school -- got tired of getting that "what's wrong with you, weirdo " look. Also experience selective mutism, among others. It's great there's diagnoses now; when I was a kid I was labeled shy or stuck up. Some tried to make me come out of my "shell" and it was agonizing for me.

[@maeverose6856]

I never that this is what it was called. I totally absolutely do this.

[@chaanelxo]

Wow that is totally me. I feel so bad for being rude too but I can't deal with long interactions

[@trtellsbooks1753]

Omg... I always had a thought that I was Autistisic and ADHD. I'll be getting a professional diagnosis. But the fear socializing and wanting to apologize, always wondering if I said the wrong thing. That stuck out to me. The isolation thing is also a big thing. It's really hard to stay connected to friends and family, and it's not like I don't love them. So I try harder to schedule a call but I can't stick to it. But this very much helped and awaken my confirmation even more. Thank you both.

[@Kingbimmy]

I always feel so bad when I talk incessantly about my interests, and then am bored to tears by other people talking even superficially about their own if I’m not into it too. 😭 Like I’ve just made that person listen to all my stuff, it’s only fair to listen to theirs but I keep zoning out and finding myself unable to care. And I know for ME, it hurts so much to have someone tell me they aren’t interested or I’m boring them, so I definitely don’t want to say that to anyone else. My mom is so precious because I’ll ramble for hours about my interests and I know she’s not that into it, but she never stops me, she even encourages me and asks questions and engages. She’s just happy to see me happy about something. Bless her. Best mom ever. ❤

[@Just_Juiceb0x]

Same! I talk for so long and jump from subject to subject, but when someone talks to me about their interests I just tune it out unintentionally. Another thing I do is constantly ask if I'm annoying someone for talking a lot, and even if the say I'm not I still have that feeling I am.

[@wiswc]

Personally I just get hurt easily I take everything to the heart and allows it to affect me that's why I am afraid of people.

[@mariatrinks3615]

Maybe you are a highly sensitive person, have you read about that?

[@wiswc]

@@mariatrinks3615 I have actually and yeah I might be one.

[@samallen1000ify]

I cringe when I do small talk "isn't it cold out today".

[@TheGitarrlillan]

@@wiswc I do that to, but also have problems reading body language and understanding. Are people angry at me, are they dissapointed or did I make them sad. Most of the time it is neither but I can't help looking for it and trying to find any trace of it. I can even start crying from seing someone else near me being sad and cry, which other people have a hard time understanding. But seing someone cry just makes me hurt so much inside that I soon can't resist crying to.

[@krisztinajuhasz4537]

it can be borderline dysorder

[@juiceboxdestroyer6773]

Her hair color matches her skin perfectly, she’s like a snow princess 😍. I love these videos, thank you!!

[@TheAspieWorld]

Yay!! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@ufojules]

Right from the start I was nodding my head. My daughter displays alot of this and this has helped me understand better what she is going through. I even see some of my own behaviours in this talk too. Thank you for this valuable info