Heartstopper Season 3 E7 Reaction | S*x Education Time!

[@tallactordude]

Once again, Heartstopper handles a topic that could go wrong in a number of different ways and manages to do it in a way that doesn’t shy away from the realities while very much remaining Heartstopper. It doesn’t sensationalize teenage sex but remains respectful to its characters. I think the character of Nick says things that a lot of teenagers actually feel but can’t verbalize as well as he does. And once again we see in this episode the character growth in Tao, this time in the way he helps Elle move on from the unhappy experience of the radio interview.

[@yeahjoanna]

Really really agree with you on the issue of sex ed! It's pretty good in Sweden where I'm from, and it's been good for a long time (I'm 41!), and one of the best things that happened in our class (we were 14/15 I think) was that the teacher forced everyone to ask at least two questions about ANYTHING sex ed related (anonymously, on tiny notes of paper), and then proceeded to read them and answer them to the class. It had to be serious questions but could cover topics like body and puberty, sex, relationships, etc. She then burned all the notes in front of us 😂 Will always be grateful for this aspect of Swedish education, and the teacher who was so so smart about how to approach something teenagers need but are very very scared to talk about. Oh and also, of course, love your reaction as always!!!

[@arahas6802]

Another swede here and our sex ed is indeed very good, though it is a bit heteronormative. Still, it is SO much better than in many other countries.

[@yeahjoanna]

@arahas6802 Yes pretty sure you're right about that

[@allypaula]

My teacher did that too, but as early as when we were 12. Agree that sex ed in Sweden has been a lot better than other places.

[@Phelie315]

that sounds like a great idea! I'm German and we had decent sex ed (I'm 37 now) but I don't remember going over individual questions much. We also didn't put condoms on bananas, it was all very theoretical tbh. There used to be this popular teenage magazine called bravo, they had this section called "Dr. Sommer" where you could write in and ask questions about sex and relationships and they would get answered seriously in the magazine. I think, as ridiculous as that paper often was, that bit added so much to the general sex ed amongst my generation lmao

[@FloppsyMoppsy79]

As a parent, I feel like this is a good series you can expose your kids to. It is a bit idealistic, but it also brings up great material to discuss and how different subjects cross paths and affect one another. Subjects we tend to compartmentalize.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

“Atleast make it a Sainsbury’s…” ALEX STOPPPPPPP ITTTT I CAN’T 💀

[@PokhrajRoy.]

17:08 Tao and his dad would be the goofiest and the most unserious content creators in the best way possible.

[@mrdr0161]

I love how I've seen quite a few people headcanon that Tao gets his energy and quirkiness from his dad

[@legaultrants]

Oh I love the discussion of realizing how your identity falls into politics... has been politicized. I remember so acutely that moment for me. I had a class in school when I was 14 where we discussed modern political topics. At that time same-sex marriage was not legal where I lived... I did not know that until that day. And over the course of that class I sat and listed to my peers misquote the Bible, and say vitriol and hatred. I realized people my age, my classmates, people I considered friends hated me, who I am. It was... a terrible class, but eye opening. I'm thankful that who I am as a person isn't one to internalize that. I knew I wasn't wrong, they were. But, knowing there were probably other quite queer kids also slamming the closet door on themselves who were likely more hurt than I was, that really breaks my heart.

[@slm_766]

🩷💜💙

[@DoubleBlack2.0]

🫂🫂🫂

[@gingerdude7040]

Been looking forward to you guys doing this episode. Happy holidays!

[@JTTaylor-w9f]

Thank you Josh&Alex for all the work you put into these videos for us to enjoy ... I can only imagine what with working/playing/family/friends and then spending probably hours putting together these wonderful clips ... just for us ... not only that, you are both enjoyable and entertaining to watch ... your discussion are sincere and important ... are you are appreciated... again, thank you. x

[@violetandy919]

I really love your reactions. Your smart comments, told in a fun way, make my love and support for LGBTQ even greater. I usually watch silently, but now I had to tell you (in my bad English) that I really appreciate what you're doing. 🌟✨ ❤️❤️❤️

[@salemoh9759]

The young Mr. Farouk 🥰🥰🥰

[@767wattsy]

I cried at that moment. I mean, I cry a lot watching Heartstopper (happy tears and sad tears) but I found that brief evocation of Mr Farouk’s frightened childhood so very deeply moving.

[@slm_766]

I want to point out some relevant context related to the 'boyfriend sleepover" including issues of: 1) consent; 2) privacy; 3) parent-child relationships; 4) and communication. The reason that Nick suggested a sleepover in the first place was that they had had a history of being walked in on. Nick asked Charlie whether he thought his parents would OK it. Charlie said he would ask. Tori expressed doubt that their mom would allow a "boyfriend sleepover," but Charlie was more optimistic, saying he thought she would if he asked her when she was in a good mood. Tori reminded him that Mom was hardly ever in a good mood. In book 5, Charlie first asked his dad's permission. Dad said it was ok with him but that Charlie would need to get Mom's permission. Charlie tried several times over the weekend to get Mom's attention, in order to ask permission. After she brushed him off multiple times, he finally decided he would try again on Sunday, thinking he could get her attention by asking her for help in cooking dinner. She was in a better mood after dinner. (In the TV show, Dad looked over from helping Tori wash the dishes, and nodded to Charlie, to encourage him to ask Mom.) * * * After the argument with his mom, Charlie showed up to Nick's and the two of them each talked about their emotional issues for a while, gaining more insight into each of their concerns. Afterward, Charlie decided to suggest they could "carry on." He first asked whether anyone else was home. Nick said that it was just the two of them. *** *** *** (Checking whether they were likely to be walked in on was a key consideration that led to the idea of having a sleepover in the first place.) Charlie then made sure to ask for Nick's consent to 'carry on'. He also decided to remove his long-sleeved sweater/jumper and to keep on his short sleeved shirt, (allowing his scars to be visible) --- a first in his attempts to get past the body issues he had discussed with Nick after the birthday party.)

[@thegabrielhyde]

“I don’t think we need the clap” tHaT’s WhAt ThE lEsSoN oN sTiS wAs AbOuT

[@767wattsy]

The way this show models clear and enthusiastic consent, healthy conversation and emotional openness is so heartening- it never feels forced or didactic, instead it’s gently educational and will really have a transformative effect on young viewers, I believe.

[@robertstull8759]

Sadly, I've seen sex-ed go backwards in my lifetime. We did ours when I was in the ninth grade, 14-15 years old, back in 1997-98, in conservative Little Rock, AR... and I can honestly say it was pretty damn good (comparatively). It was totally through a heterosexual lens, but all things considering it was a million times better than the current curriculum. It took place during our mandatory Health class, and we had a specially trained teacher come in and teach use for at least a week (but I won't to say it was two weeks). We'd already done lessons on personal puberty in the 5th grade, I want to say (10-11ish years old), so sex-ed started with a recap of that material and built on it from there. We talked about all the standard biology, the process of inception and child birth, etc. Then we moved on to talking about STI's, non-vaginal sex (mostly oral and mutual masturbation with only a passing acknowledgement of anal), contraception available at the time, safer sex options, and how to talk about sex. Like I said, it was still geared completely to hetero sex and had an implicit "you should wait until your married" bent to it... but all in all, I consider us very lucky to have had an actual attempt at education. I really wish the current generation had at least the same lessons I had at that time.

[@sheilakethley5351]

Before the Huckabillies undid everything. We stood in the street when Bill was elected, and it felt hopeful.

[@KodaVoss]

Looking for the comment about how cute Josh's haircut is.... so I could give it a thumbs-up but didn't see one... so made one. #ThumbsUp 🙂

[@kendalcoombs5540]

I went to a private co-ed school in Australia and we did sex ed as part of a class called values which ran for the whole of year 9 (probably too late for a few people, but its around the legal age of consent (for relations with someone within 2 years of your age) so i get why they save it till then) anyways, the classes are split into gender (biological, this was like 20 years ago so very backward) but a lot of the lead up to sex ed stuff was to do with puberty so important to understand the changes your body was already or about to go through based on your sex is important and now comfortable in a class with people who will go through the same. The sex ed focused mainly on us not getting pregnant, we focused a lot on STDs as well though i do remember very little about contraceptive education and mostly just "these are the consequences" etc. One good thing we did to your point Alex was to put anonymous questions into a box to be read or and discussed so you could ask awkward or embarrassing questions and get answers without anyone knowing it was you who asked. I hope they learn more these days about consent, but I'm glad at least we have representation like this for future generations to look to for guidance.

[@Jennifer-5]

Your interactions with each other whist watching is so funny 😂😂😂 I love it

[@slm_766]

It's not stated in the TV show, but is heavily implied in book 5 (through an illustration) (during the argument between Charlie and his mom) --- that Charlie's mom's mom verbally AND physically abused Charlie's mom. [It was also implied silently, in the TV show, but one could miss it.] * * * In Book 4, after Charlie returns from the hospital (in mid-January) he has a self-harm relapse after the argument that he has with Nick. [On the TV show, we saw a brief scene of the argument, which was related to Nick's trying to get Charlie to finish more of his dinner. They reconciled the same evening.] Charlie's parents asked Nick to sleep in Charlie's room (on a mattress on the floor). They wanted Nick to keep an eye on him, to prevent another self-harm relapse. So ... later in Book 5, during the argument about getting permission for a sleepover, Charlie's mom said that it wasn't a good time because his GCSEs are coming up and this is a big step. [Between the wording here and the wording used in the TV show, Mom implies that the emotional step of having a 'boyfriend sleepover' will cause him to do poorly in his exams. (Which most likely is why she wants to postpone the discussion until after the exams.)] Charlie points out that they let Nick stay over a few months before. His mom says, "That was when you -- We were concerned about you being on your own." (So Mom HAS been concerned about his illness.) Charlie then says that she is always thinking about his being mentally ill. He says, "You think I'm a baby who can't look after himself" He follows up with "You said you trusted me." Mom replies, "I do but you're also only 16 and you've been very ill." [That exchange is the context for Charlie's saying "I'm not a child!"] Basicly, she's brought up Charlie's age and then his mental illness more than once. She got Nick to be his babysitter; implied that they didn't trust him to sleep alone without that babysitter. While denying that her reasons did not have to do with his mental illness.] We find out after Charlie returned (and Mom talked things over with Charlie's mellower, more supportive dad) --- Mom admits that's she's overbearing and apologizes for snapping at him. She also says she knows he is sensible. What she does not say in the TV show but does say in Book 5, "It's perfectly normal to want to spend the night with your boyfriend, and I'm not mad at you for wanting a sleepover." (In the TV show she says, "but I also think that boyfriend sleepovers are a really big step. Emotionally." She then says that she would feel a lot less worried if he waited a few more weeks until his GCSEs are over, because now would be a terrible time to get distracted. And then they agree to the compromise.) [Nothing more is said about his age. Legally, he does not need her permission to have consensual sex with his boyfriend. And they both know that. Her real concern is that his boyfriend was going to be the cause of his grades suffering. (In a way, she is going back to the idea that Nick is the problem. )

[@PokhrajRoy.]

10:34 When I tell you my heart was full… They have some magical power with casting or something

[@82evene]

I totally heard: "If it's a mental bee" and cracked up so back I spit my coffee^^

[@maxgarete5435]

The way Michael is blurting out things made me wonder if he's autistic. I'd love that because he's such a lovely, warm person. It would be good representation. I know there is no mention of that in the comics but I'll just say he is.

[@fuzzyotters1655]

Problem with asking teens to google six ed is google does not distinguish between good six ed and terrible six ed, some of which is probably just prawn. (intentional mis spelling 'six' and 'prawn' because YT has very fickle comment moderation).

[@laurenkate7162]

I’m in Australia and never even got contraception education in sex ed…granted I unfortunately went to a catholic school…I also have a clear memory of one of the boys in my class asking if masturbation is a sin and being horrified when the teacher said yes 😅🤦‍♀️ I so hope one day in the near future kids will get education on different types of sexualities - it took me until my mid 20s to realise I was on the ace spectrum after many googling attempts trying to find a word for what I felt! At least for now they have Heartstopper ❤

[@Phelie315]

I'm German and also went to a catholic school (headmistress was a nun, that's the level of catholic), but they still gave us decent sex ed, and didn't put some kind of abstinence-only or sin-based approach to it. We even got taught about the current (at the time) laws about abortion in Germany and what resources there are should we ever find ourselves in a situation of domestic abuse, which isn't even strictly speaking sex ed anymore, but still very important to be taught. I found this completely normal to learn about back then, but I guess today half the parents would be up in arms about it.

[@Wandal-tn6vw]

The part where Charlie say please don't leave behind

[@slm_766]

I wonder how other people interpreted that. Nick was dreaming, first about "Charlie" 'distracting him with neck kissing. But then anxiety arose and Nick sees/hears "Charlie" begging him not to leave "Charlie" behind. I perceived the "Charlie" in the dream as representing a voice of Nick's subconscious --- and the subconscious was, at first, trying to sooth a stressed out Nick; And then the subconscious became fearful of the loss of Charlie. It seemed to me that Nick was, through the dream, telling himself that he was anxious and scared. And the "Charlie" speech named the fear: It wasn't that Charlie needed Nick; it was that Nick needed Charlie. Did anybody else get that idea? 💖💜💙

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Omg I completely forgot we had a few episodes left. Also, nice to see you cuties again ❤ Also, we couldn’t keep a _straight face_ around declaring oneself as not vulgar, now could we? 🤭

[@Knightowl1980]

3 weeks !!! U made us wait for 3 weeks.

[@bretsnow5058]

love your work boys and Alex you are my favourite ( sorry josh) I seen the premier thumb nail for e8 but can not find it anywhere now even though i watch the series over and over i love watching your react actions and Alex you put a smile on my face every time

[@shznskyi]

I highly recommend Love In The Big City, you'll love it, i's AMAZINGGG ❤

[@nightmare-fuel]

I don’t think he’s putting off uni. He’s just fallen in love with Leeds rather than Kent

[@slm_766]

He is not putting off UNI. Nick is just finishing up his Year12. He has one more high school year to go (Year 13) (He'll turn 18 at the beginning of Year 13. ) As I understand it, people send in applications in the autumn of year 13, then take their A Levels. Nick is not slated to start UNI until the year following that, the September of which he will turn 19.

[@acp-86]

14:02 Alex is totally transported... LOL

[@ameliainatardis]

Not the Doctor Who reference 😂❤❤

[@ElisaH_DarklyiShine]

I think there should be an approved online course that a student can watch and interact with in private that deals with sex. It can even be more specialized for straight sex and gay sex and everyone can educate themselves with already fact checked information

[@slm_766]

Approved by whom?

[@claudiacuilbheir1182]

15:00 Miranda, is that you? 😂

[@Jennifer-5]

I'm so glad you uploaded another video I'm loving these

[@menu.g7173]

You guys should react to the heart killers series it’s really goood

[@rabbitfishtv]

“Quick! Grab a cucumber!”

[@vahi37]

I love this show so much and you two are so funny and adorable.

[@freeride_99]

Why'd you cut Nick flirting on text and Charlie replying “gay” 😂

[@nnyi-b7e]

you should watch BAD BUDDY . best bl series ever.

[@AmyAberrant]

People call sex “mackin off??”

[@nikkixo6334]

3:50 reminds me of sex education show

[@Vantacy_1912]

Ok I will be heading to patron after this because I have been way too enjoying your reactions to not watch the full versions.

[@lucky8076]

Make a t-shirt that says "I'm not fragile"

[@J_Mock92]

16:50 I can completely understand where Charlie's mom is coming from. I've seen people say stuff like "she said it wasn't because he's mentally ill and then immediately said it was because he'd been ill," but like, she only said that after HE brought it up. Yeah maybe she was thinking that was a factor, but that doesn't mean it was at the forefront of her mind until he mentioned it. She comes across as cold and overbearing a lot of the time, but I honestly think she's just kind of neurotic and gets overwhelmed when things are out of her control/she can't fix things, and especially when she gets ambushed or multiple people "gang up" on her. We saw it earlier in the show when she'd snap at Charlie about his grades or when he'd sneak out. She had similar reactions to him skipping meals, before he actually opened up about his disordered eating. She could tell something was going on, but didn't know what it actually was or how to fix it. I'm not defending her delivery, because she doesn't usually react to situations in the best manner I'm just saying I understand it. She and Charlie are actually _incredibly_ similar in a lot of ways. The show just frames them differently, because Charlie is our protagonist 🤷

[@anajain6712]

When are you gonna upload kinnporsche ep 13 on youtube

[@maxon1712]

you should watch i saw the tv glow

[@Erika-br8xo]

Please watch "Never wipe tears without gloves" a swedish mini series in 3 episodes. It's so good, not as lighthearted as this one but soooo good. Takes place in 1980's Stockholm during the aids epedemic

[@Finn_the_Robin]

🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️!!!!!

[@tobiaswagner547]

First Babes

[@ang_1989]

I think Kit ovetplayed the anount of sex in this season in his interviews. I thought they went all the way. Glad they didn't.

[@graphiquejack]

Spoiler…. . Did you see episode eight? The ‘supplies’ were used.

[@ang_1989]

@graphiquejack OK. I just rewatched it. Yes he bought the stuff. But i wasn't sure they went all the way. Perhaps they did.

[@kefaloniagr1]

@@ang_1989 In the comics if you read them they describe more everything that happened in ''their first time'' and then we can assume everything that happens on the finale of the eight episode with the supplies! ;)

[@Jennifer-5]

@@graphiquejack were they used I don't remember seeing any evidence of the supplies being used

[@Jennifer-5]

@@ang_1989 I didn't think they went all the way either I thought it was just hand touching

[@melissamaceoin795]

I think you are overestimating the quality of sex ed that can happen in a classroom - teacher speaking! School is not the only/best place to learn everything