AVOID Manifesting TOXIC Love & Find Inner Peace w/ Liz Gilbert “This Almost Killed Me”

[@lewishowes]

Thanks to Elizabeth for sharing her wisdom with us! Leave a “YES” if you enjoyed this and share the biggest moment for you. And make sure to subscribe to never miss out on inspiring content like this again KZbin.com/lewishowes

[@michaelmike5578]

Yes!!!!

[@LauriX999]

Thank you immensely Lewis, such a Blessing to see and hear Liz, such a Gift to This planet, a Galactic Heart and Sensitivity on highest form 😘💚💙💜 Blessings and soooo Much Loooove ❣🤍💛🥰😘

[@christiewright2692]

Yesss!!

[@Shap-buzz]

YES

[@lewishowes]

I'm rooting for you!

[@phemery1182]

"Anytime I feel abandoned I have abandoned myself" 🔥🎯

[@ZurichSee23]

I have loved Liz Gilbert for years but she is at her absolute best so far.

[@rivlev8]

YES!

[@stellabandante2727]

I felt like crying through this whole conversation. The world needs beings like yourselves who are connected to loving wisdom and have the ability to share it. You are beautiful and I thank you.

[@cocojumbo2323]

Same 🥹❤

[@littleprincess1sth]

I'm also crying...😥❤

[@williamellis1687]

I love how the topics in this podcast are about self care and self love, and less about “finding” a relationship… because we can still be happy/healthy and nurture ourselves even when we are single. My goal is to have a healthy loving relationship with myself first before my next relationship.

[@ramonamoran3012]

Relaxing completely in the presence of someone who is deeply fond of you is powerful!!!

[@ekasubjectus91]

This woman is the strongest human being I have ever seen. I feel so lucky to come across to this video.

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for watching and sharing

[@Andrew-dg7qm]

Don’t doubt your own strength

[@audreyoreilly4055]

Gilbert's honesty and generousity in sharing is astounding.

[@lewishowes]

Absolutely!

[@candacebester784]

I am in absolute awe. This is honestly one of the most beautiful podcasts I've ever seen. I've done the 12 steps of CODA and am on step 4 of ACA . Looking into SLAA. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SPREADING THE LOVE. It all finally makes sense. I have so much hope for the first time.

[@Stella1112]

Love does t have to be physical to be unconditional. 23-year relationship emails over 2500 and numerous phone calls back and forth. We were supposed to meet last summer for the first time, I got an email from his daughter that he had passed, but I already knew it because he came in my dream and gave me a hug, that is all I needed and I had told him. So he made sure that he gave me one even in my dream. He was my best friend, my mentor, my encouragement, I miss him a lot, but I know he is going to be waiting for me when my time comes. This unconditional love that I needed I experienced it, and I am happy! Now I am looking forward to join him ❤

[@mickeyblue7]

Wow that is so lovely to read. Sending love and light. Focus on each new day. I think he'll be waiting for you too 💙

[@Stella1112]

@@mickeyblue7 thank you! ❤️

[@bestgrandma8302]

Thank you for sharing your deeply personal story. I think it goes unsaid that unconditional love doesn’t have to be physical. I think most parents love their kids unconditionally and that isn’t a physical relationship in the way you’re speaking of “physical”.

[@joanofarcxxi]

That's what real love is. ❤❤. Beautiful.

[@DominionAnako-bb7ry]

Toxic love can drain you. To find inner peace, focus on self-awareness, mindfulness, setting boundaries, nurturing positive relationships, and practicing self-care.

[@kimsatterfield944]

Well said 🤸🏼

[@sebbenja]

EXACTLY!🙏🤗💝💯

[@sebbenja]

BAM!!!🙏🤗💝💯

[@edwin.jansen]

Something that drains you is not love. It probably is narcissism.

[@Jennifer-gr7hn]

yes, and true love is not toxic. Many don't know what that is. We can give it but then you get resentful for not getting that in return. Easier said than done to find nurturing positive relationships

[@bcbro142]

Man, what a great interview I know you’ve done thousands of amazing interviews, but this is one of the best interviews I have to say this woman has the most beautiful spirit. Her energy is so pure! I could feel the connection between the two of you like two souls meeting again it gave me chills😮

[@lewishowes]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@tinam761]

Man!!! I had pretty much turned away from listening to Liz, however, TODAY! Speaking so much truth she is communicating from the 12 steps. Those steps are stepping!!! So much truth!

[@glorimarrodriguez8507]

I was in tears on most of this podcast ! “You are a banquet of human being” love it.

[@peacenquiet77]

“The greatest harm that I’ve ever done to other people has been done as a result of me not taking care of my self properly”

[@krystal.w]

Yes

[@marypelliott]

So true.

[@rachelgregoryartist]

Sacred Union love is spacious, expansive, trusting, deep, flowing, fulfilling. "Dear unconditional love what would you have me know today ?" Love that question. Thank you for this interview 🙏💓🙏

[@kya7517]

This has been the most life- transformational video I have watched on KZbin EVER. Thank you Lewis and Liz. Forever changed at 54! 🙏🙏🙏

[@Georgiaspage]

The answer is always you giving yourself the love you give and need. It always goes back to self love

[@bestgrandma8302]

So true!!

[@coolbreeze5683]

I love Elizabeth Gilbert ❤️ I've followed her journey since Eat Pray Love. It's great to see how much she's evolved over time. When she speaks, it's like she channels wisdom combined with her life experiences.

[@hathu-hy8bb]

Q❤😊

[@Lenkopenko]

Watching this is like therapy, thank you for what you're doing for this world❤

[@jenniferbellinger42]

I was controlled by my mom and I have a good older friend who was also controlling. Several years ago I found my voice and set those boundaries. I was so insecure and I ended up in a wrong relationships. Im so grateful for healing...my life is peace

[@vickig6080]

I resonated so much with what she said and the conundrum of being codependant. That constant need to want what you can't seem to find and the challenge of "never enough". Thank you for this discussion.

[@lewishowes]

So glad it resonated! Thank you for watching 🧡

[@tizamhango1114]

What Lewis shared about his priorities is so profound

[@lewishowes]

Thanks!

[@Jennifer-gr7hn]

and has potential to encourage and inspire young people and all people to wait for sex, for marriage -- self mastery is important. It's an appetite. And when engorging, the "internal pharmacy gets activated".....agree, this is all profound and helpful. And likely because most of us are here because we resonate and are craving.

[@MESELALTUBE]

Every word she said made me connected with her. Thank you for being such a light in the darkness of the world.

[@narjessayyah7344]

This conversation was like a crystal... Bright, transparent, full of signs of having the luxury of life.♾️ Thank you.

[@irisgarcia3630]

Her voice is so soothing. Awesome interview. ❤

[@lewishowes]

Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching!

[@eenzaakvanliefde1969]

I like the idea of engagement like they had earlier: the time spend together, learning to know each other. No sexual things, but really learning each other's core and find out if this is meant for years and years.

[@akoyapearl1]

This the most beautiful talk I have listened to in a long time. It´s worth every second of it. Thank you thank you Liz always talking so raw and from your deepest heart. I have made a promise to myself to listen to this video every month, it helps understand so many basics of life that i have tend to forget. Every word she says it resonates so much with my life and my healing process. A million thank yous to Lewis and my dear Liz! love love love

[@kan0762]

Taking accountability for taking care of yourself in the best possible way changes life for the better...

[@evagreen9968]

'We are so good... Underneath of all the disfunction there was this real friendship and this real love' ❤

[@successway6789]

Love does t have to be physical to be unconditional. 23-year relationship emails over 2500 and numerous phone calls back and forth. We were supposed to meet last summer for the first time, I got an email from his daughter that he had passed, but I already knew it because he came in my dream and gave me a hug, that is all I needed and I had told him. So he made sure that he gave me one even in my dream. He was my best friend, my mentor, my encouragement, I miss him a lot, but I know he is going to be waiting for me when my time comes. This unconditional love that I needed I experienced it, and I am happy! Now I am looking forward to join him

[@stephalma]

Liz provides such comfort. I loved every second of this dynamic.

[@lewishowes]

Glad it’s resonated

[@LuanaMarieJantz2427]

Incredible woman, WOOOW. Earth must be happy for this womans existence, because I surely am. ☀️🙏 You're a pure ray of sunshine sweetheart.

[@magdalenanarolewska4934]

This conversation has truly touched my heart. Thank you

[@gosiagosia1052]

I’m listening to that interview second time, every single piece of it its so precious. Thank you to both of you.

[@lewishowes]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@Jennifer-gr7hn]

same here, taking notes, and can't stop resonating and commenting.

[@sofiaalvarez8370]

I’m working on my inner child atm , I’ve realised I wasn’t in my power which was calling in toxic people and people who let me down

[@MindfulWalks]

This made me cry. Liz is so beautiful in so many ways. She is always a beautiful light when I’m in a dark place in my life. I can relate to her in so,so many ways. When I am at my lowest, sometimes just reading a long, profound quote from her or watching her speak brings me to tears not because I’m necessarily sad (which I am a lot), but more so because she makes me feel so seen and validated through her genuine words and candid responses. Liz, you are a safe space for me! You remind me that I am not alone and also that all the love we really need comes from within first. And that it’s always there. I am starting to make the love letters a regular practice for me. Thank you Liz and Lewis for being so open and sharing your own hurts as well as healing in this strange journey we know as life!

[@lewishowes]

Appreciate your feedback, thank you so much for watching!

[@angelarose249]

This is the best show you've had.

[@lewishowes]

So glad to hear that from you, we'll keep at it! Thank you so much for watching!

[@angielucido8045]

This was the most...gratifying, healing, learning, than any therapy session...ty Lewis for having this great interview with this humble being

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@angielucido8045]

I find ...listening to Your podcasts are the most down to earth...extremely informational...heartfelt, I so appreciate you...for being You.

[@bellaendale7174]

Lewis you are a banquet of a human being and I always come away leaving well fed. 😢😢😢❤❤❤ thank you Liz for saying that out loud and teaching us how to give that to others.

[@biblestudyandmeditation]

The message is clear and easy to follow. You lay out key points-self-awareness, healing, boundaries, self-love, and fear-succinctly and in a logical order. This helps the reader understand how each factor contributes to avoiding toxic relationships. Thank you

[@barbara6840]

Wow I'm happy she found her peace. Her message doesn't resonated with me, but love when people do get to a place of healing so they can avoid hurting other people.

[@Nimisha369]

Your comment is refreshing. This message does not resonate with me either. I guess I depends on where people are at in their journey

[@Andrew-dg7qm]

This is fascinating, Liz responded to unmeet needs of her inner child by abandoning it in the form of outsourcing the care to somebody else I found that I do it by looking for strategies to fix what I thought was wrong with me, and I think that’s really really common

[@joaniekirk]

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! I am learning that No one can parent me like myself. But it is a huge step and a long path. The good news is it eventually can include and be fun❤

[@lewishowes]

Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching!

[@REINVENTION_7]

Love Elizabeth's transparency and rawness! ACA is a huge gift to humanity! One of the most powerful things I've learnt recently, to give myself the love I long for. In imagination! Going to sleep, in love, hearing what I want to hear, from whom I want to hear it from, to feel chosen, to feel prioritised, valued and enveloped in love. I wake up happy. We can give ourselves what we need most and those mornings I wake up in love, I feel light, loved and chosen and others reflect it back to me! It is so beautiful! It is a practise that I sometimes struggle with, I don't always have the energy for it, but I might even try to do it as I wait in line, and whenever I feel a longing, a need, a lack, I am training myself to keep giving it to myself! Elizabeth I always feel so aligned with your words and sentiments! Thank you! You are a light 💜💙💚💛🧡❤

[@xirtam_sbag]

I admire that she is brutally honest with herself and to lewis on this episode!!

[@beckymay439]

So glad Liz did this. This might be one of the most important interviews I've ever listened to. You've inspired me to try this writing practice and look into 12 step.

[@lewishowes]

Glad to hear this! Appreciate you for watching!

[@mmechatelainechronicles5605]

One of THE most valuable, deeply inspiring, authentic & spot on, deeply moving and so heavenly poetic and generous, enriching & rewarding conversations. Absolutely sublime and as a writer myself I am just lost for words, gratefully, humbly & thankfully. Thank you to the lovely amazing two of you 🙏🌱🐉🦋 Greetings from France

[@lewishowes]

Appreciate your feedback, thank you so much for watching!

[@BlackPearlMona369]

5:13 28:33 46:30 51:58 "dear God please only bring me relationships where you can be first & i can be me" 1:04:08

[@bondarem]

I am listening to her and feeling she is me, and I am her. Thank you, Universe. 🙏🏼

[@saraendestad4945]

YEEES! Liz is back on the school of greatness🙌 What a great day

[@lewishowes]

👏👏

Love is your spirit. Is not separate from you. Is within you ❤

[@twinflames_111]

I had no idea she struggled so much. Thank you. Very inspiring and honest conversation. She resonates with me on a deep level.

[@lewishowes]

Thank you so much for watching!

[@RobPK7]

Lewis this is an amazing interview because of the vulnerability with both you and Liz. ❤ i needed to hear that I have to take care of my inner child. I have heard about self care for years yet this interview hit differently. I heard it differently today. Thank you to both of you ❤

[@lewishowes]

Thank you so much for your feedback 🙂

[@Lesliefox2000]

I thoroughly enjoyed this episode. I appreciate Elizabeth’s willingness to tell her truth about her learning and growth. I now understand why she is such an influence in this world. We are all human and it’s ok!

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching!

[@irmamakrevski5652]

Outsourcing "parenting and loving and saving of inner child". 23:06 harming people when we do not care about self - saving others througj saving self 27:39 looking in others "helper" to fulfill hole, needness, lack of self love 32:04 self or love addict to find smn to fix us 35:00 37:00 how to be (hard) vs give me assignment (easy) 40:00 not chasing feeling - to be like in past, to be this or that - why to hurry to rush to smn; magic powder when addicted to love 43:51 peace and freedom in me, peace and freedom with others 45:00 self center vs god center 47:00 12 step program, spiritual path bcs addicts may be w/o spirituality, feeling hole; god will notify you; personal-custom made god made for me 47:08

[@NathalyTannerBeauty]

Lewis def do a podcast on how go from being hyper-independent to hiring help or ask for help. A lot of us have zero idea how to ask for help. Especially in business.

[@girlwiththepinkscarf.]

I love how open Lewis was in this interview. I’m so happy for you Lewis. Much love to you and your lady!

[@lewishowes]

I appreciate your support! It means a lot! Big thanks to you!

[@EddaAlma]

Good morning! This is one of the most brilliant interviews I've seen in the latest months... it's so revealing... I wanna thank Liz Gilbert from the bottom of my heart, I can recognize some parts of myself in her narrative... I just wanna say one thing... Love is never a peaceful experience... love is always meant to change us, it is always meant to transform us, and that's why it cannot be "quiet".... any love relationship is gonna disrupt your ego, and maybe that's a part of the feeling that Liz is talking about, when she says that she felt lost inside those relationships.... maybe 'cause we need to lose ourselves to find ourselves again in a new evolved form... Love is a transformation process and anytime we feel love we have the privilege to evolve as human beings.. In the end loving deeply is gonna let ourselves love more who we are.

[@christinasciortino]

I wish there was a heart reaction to this video as the thumbs does not do it justice 😭 this is such an important and profound interview.. I have taken so much from this . Thank you Lewis, thank you Elizabeth ❤❤❤

[@lewishowes]

You're welcome, thank you for watching! 🧡

[@Barbee-LiveNow]

I know when I have touched Love it gives a strength.

[@katiakatiakat]

Beautiful. I so love how open, authentic and vulnerable these two are. Thank you for sharing yourselves so deeply.

[@i.h.1111]

I love her sooo much! She is such a gift to the world!!! ❤❤❤

[@lewishowes]

🙏

[@tari-jk6sl]

Wow another bomb. Thank you so much!! The Greatest harm I ever did to anyone was not knowing how to love myself. This really hit me hard. I'm can't finish the whole episode because I keep on repeating so that it sinks deeper. Thank you so much 💗

[@aniuca1]

Thank you, Liz for opening your heart to all of us.. this conversation is priceless!!!!

[@lewishowes]

Appreciate you for listening 🧡

[@alidonnenwerth8628]

I appreciate her vulnerability and ability to articulate the addictive piece so eloquently. I think many people can relate to portions of her story. Thank you so much for sharing this!

[@DivineBeautiful22]

Wow! Incredible interview! Liz is an absolute gem of a human being, and so relatable. I resonated with everything she was saying about love addiction..I was like, wait, that’s me too!! Definitely has me thinking that maybe I need to go to a meeting..much love to you both, this was such a gift..on all levels!🙏🏼💗🥰

[@carolinepostlethwaite4861]

What a beautiful exchange. I fully relate in my own life also that the voice of love has seen me through the darkest most painful moments as well as all of it. Always available & here.All that's required of me is to humble myself enough to ask what's true. ❤

[@heatherorr3478]

❤ Elizabeth's stories ring true to me. Thank you for sharing! I needed to hear this for my healing journey 🙏

[@rahelmekonnen8757]

Since eat pray love this women most honest inspirational… person I had ever heard ❤

[@poetsandreamers]

"You are a banquette of a human being", I LOVE That !! She;s good with words that Liz Gilbert. Maybe the best! GREAT interview

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!

[@nilug.9444]

OMG! YES ! The biggest moment for me was realizing that I'm a love addict myself. I feel tremendous gratitude for this episode ❤️

[@lewishowes]

Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!

[@esnova11]

Toxic love is all in our minds. You always have to ask yourself why you are around ppl who are hurting you, making you uncomfortable etc, you either let it or it's your comfort zone to be uncomfortable. We live in a world and time when we can make a choice of who to be with.

[@brittonyb5279]

Unreal interview. Louis follows Elizabeth in such a complimentary way.

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@brittonyb5279]

Absolutely, you are “quick to kindness;” as I say. A quick curator of thoughtful responses. 😊

[@kaytilochrie7461]

I’m so happy she talked about ACA!!! This program is amazing 🙏

[@irismramor9238]

I am perfectly moved to tears and i needed this exactly as it goes sooo much. Perfect serendipity. Liz and Lewis - THANK YOU SO MUCH! This was a sacred mass. Amen.

[@taniak5685]

Love love love this interaction between the two of you ❤ Fantastic interview! Made me stop and feel what’s going on inside me. Thank you 🙏

[@carennawillmont3706]

I have been through the same process. I’m so grateful they have too.

[@elisebunny1102]

The next level is letting go of identity. It’s a great stepping stone to have an identification that helps you get clean and get stable. But at some point I think we are heading to a place where identity is just another limitation

[@mariaelena3016]

I loved this interview with Liz, i followed her too since i read Eat, Pray and Love, it's so amazing how much she changed and how both of you see relationships, life and self love. Thanks Lewis.

[@Archnamohan]

I cannot thanks these two wonderful people for doing this.

[@AY1_2]

YES. The priorities Lewis and Liz’s set for themselves are my takeaways on how to think about next chapter of my life. Thank you for an inspiring discussion.

[@verabouariu6171]

Gooood this is so good. Thank you Lewis! I also abandon "her" and put that wounded child in someone else's responsability while I'm "busy" being furious. I SO needed this ❤️ loved the book eat pray love, truly uplifting ❤️‍🩹

[@dorothypretty]

When he says „exactly“ it sounds like „shut up!“ - I looove her❤ thank you for your inspiration

[@barnasymons2]

those rashes are actually explainable as cortisol flushes when you are emotionally on an overstretch whith no boundaries as well

[@vayalananda7128]

Hello beloved Lewis, Haven’t watched the whole conversation yet…I’m at minute 20 and it is already the most healing conversation I’ve ever listened to. …it seems to be the answer of my question, I just had a few days ago It helps me a lot and I’m looking forward to listen to some more of this video later when my yoga class, I need to give, is over… Thank you so much you both for this healing conversation . Thank you, thank you, thank you ❤🙏🙏🙏♥️

[@carolynmaryscott]

“Man can no longer live for himself alone. We must realize that all life is valuable and that we are united to all life. From this knowledge comes our spiritual relationship with the universe.” ― Albert Schweitzer

[@Vishfeast]

24:15 - This was beautifully worded and a great self analysis of ones self and understanding how your actions at one moment time or place may have seemed necessary, but in reality it was a projection of protecting your own reality. This is what I had to go go through 5 years ago and still learning today. It also brings a level of validation sometimes you need to give people, when you wrong them. It's not about, just saying sorry, it's about hitting the behaviors directly and showing your true colors, which really shows in actions how you internalized the conflict and brings resolution to everyone.

[@Natureisbeautiful22]

I love the honesty and openness of the conversation that you shared during this interview with Liz Gilbert. I definitely needed to hear this story today. I can identify with so many things that are being shared. I appreciate the vulnerability and support of your show 🩷🙏

[@sofiaalvarez8370]

I went to Bali on my own because of eat, pray love. Such a iconic film ❤

[@sarahmurphy-nf4yl]

The book is hilarious too.

[@TheGardner22]

The book is so much better and deeper

[@muzikaishokolad]

So true, that love is one when things are easy and smooth and other when it hits some really hard and ugly times. We often idealize.

[@stadium999]

This was so real. Exactly the unfiltered truth I needed to hear. Been a fan since The Last American Man, thanks Liz.

[@bestgrandma8302]

My soul resides in my heart. My 1st original affirmation/truth. I think it’s true for us all.

[@1960genius]

Elizabeth Gilbert is an angel amongst us.

[@agatik90]

This must have been my favourite episode, so unexpectedly beautiful and precious. Thank you both for being so vulnerable and open. ❤ From the heart, bless you both💖

[@lewishowes]

So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for watching.

[@lasogo196]

If I could give this interview 100 likes, I'd actually do. Love it! Thanks, Liz and Lewis.

[@debrarhodes7528]

Wow! It is a rare opportunity to hear such honesty and truth from someone …… especially derived from quite exceptional life lessons as Liz has bravely encountered, coupled with a writers ability to express her wisdom in such deeply colourful words which, I felt, very moving 🙏. This is a perfect blend of heartfelt lessons which young and old, male and female can all benefit from. Thankyou Liz for sharing your profound truths and vulnerability ❤. I’m greatly moved ….😢😊xxxx And Lewis, Thankyou for elegantly guiding her through the conversation so artfully 🙏❤️

[@julielisboa]

Liz is such a great inspiration 🌹 She has a level of genuineness that is very rare and beautiful.

[@lewishowes]

That’s amazing to hear! I’m grateful to have such incredible guests sharing their wisdom. Who would you love to hear from next?

[@matshepohopemachaba1557]

Thanks so much, I am reminded that all my perfect imperfection are good enough… I’m enough just in my being … I loved every second of this conversation ❤❤❤

[@maryarmstrong4212]

Beautiful, courageous conversations....thank you. Respect.