avoidance & goals

Why avoidance can turn on you and why to face things head on. Inspired by Jordan Peterson’s lectures.

[@Hemlocker]

I know that it's 3 years old now, but I just wanted to comment and say that this video inspired me to continue taking the next step towards a goal of mine, rather than being held back by fear. I am still afraid, but I am at least capable of trying. Thank you.

[@alexlouis9424]

I like it when you play soft-mood music in the background while you talk. It makes the words more weighty and sinks deep.. There's something about music and truth

[@HelmutGranda]

Interesting! For me I liked this format better. Specially during the pauses when he challenges us to think. You can hear the AC in the background, how he is moving in the chair. I felt like I was actually having a conversation with him in his office and he was waiting for me to respond 😱.

[@Hunt4everOrUntilYS_Killz_Me]

You sir are my now favorite channel on all platforms. Having gotten into psychology many moons ago....and more recently the psychotherapists like Jung, Rogers, and Freud....I came across your work via the wonderful algorithm that is the internet. My wife says I like you because you remind her of me...meaning we are apparently similar. But you sir are an inspiration. God speed. Keep creating

[@MatthiasJBarker]

Matthew I’ve been so thankful for your encouragement and comments over all platforms. Feel so supported by you and really thankful to have connected with you. Wish you well🙌🏼

[@Hunt4everOrUntilYS_Killz_Me]

@@MatthiasJBarker yes sir. Watching and learning and encouraging! :)

[@quantifiedhealthacademy]

Dang man, this is a hard message, but unfortunately, it hits home for me. I’ve been realizing more and more recently there are “dragons” that I’m putting off fighting because I’m afraid; but I’m starting to realize that I think I do stand a better chance being courageous and facing them head on.

[@amygordon7149]

I came across your posts on TikTok and you absolutely blew me away with your presentation on each & every one of them!! I was meant to discover you. I truly hope you know just how gifted you are to this world.

[@dalemoye4]

I love the way you lean into silence!

[@christinasolomon1345]

As a person who lives with completely ignoring dragons. Even when I'm told it could damage my life if I don't face it. This was a great reflection to have. Make me wonder if I'm sleeping in my hopes and having others suffer the consequence with me. Realizing I have more to protect. Thank you!!!

[@CarterSams]

You are gifted!!! I thank you.

[@3yjoncor]

I am so glad I found you and I sincerely hope you continue to make these videos.

[@gabrielricco9098]

This really hits home 💯

[@van8cab98]

...where is the "standing ovation" emoji? 👏👏👏 I am floored. I needed this.

[@neofam5512]

This really helped me a lot in understanding a few more things that I would’ve never even even began to thank you for your content!!!

[@andrewleonard1749]

Thank you for this... currently struggling with some life altering decisions and this hits home for me for sure. You are perhaps the most insightful channel I have found, and my new favorite channel!

[@audreyoliphant5763]

i’ve been avoiding a conversation for a year now with my best friend after i told her i was in a relationship with a girl. we haven’t talked about it since.

[@gauripandya9795]

Thanks Matthais❤

[@kdonn67]

"Why don't we deal with the dragon?" Because it is scary asf 🤣

[@lindaokleshen8734]

I love everything you do!

[@lisaashleighcummings5983]

Thank you so much for creating your content!! I was 100% supposed to see this 🙌🏼

[@natasharose9268]

My dragon is communicating with my family.. I’ve let years of anxiety filled days keep me from even picking up the phone. Every day I think “oh I’ll just do it tomorrow..” or “I’m too busy right now with yadayada..” and I look back, and it’s been years. It’s painful. I’ve lost all family because of it, even though they reach out- It’s not the same. Now, I’m losing my parent to old age and I still can’t face my dragon. I know the regret and grief I will feel will be tremendous. I don’t know how to cope.

[@natasharose9268]

On a side note- Thank you for your videos and TikTok’s. They help me tremendously.

[@akankshabhatt3357]

I really needed to hear this today, thankyou for uploading these videos! Blessed🙏

[@Drum3Matrix]

I know you put a lot of work into these videos and I appreciate you so much for it.

[@MrSoccerHighlighter]

Thank you so much Matthias. This really hit home for me.

[@roses8733]

❤❤❤

[@mindful.videos]

I absolutely love your content! I watch your videos here and on Instagram. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and making people's lives a bit better with each video. Cheers from Canada. 😀

[@HaleyFry]

Wow, I needed this today. Thank you.

[@calambuhayjr.josevirgiliog2094]

Please don't stop making vids. I'd pay a good money on this lifetime investment you're giving all of us for free... You're such a good psychotherapist imo. Looking forwards to connect with you in more ways.

[@andressanchez5007]

I could get up the mountain because I had so many things to do and I need so help. I wasn't in a situation where I could really get help. But now the dragon has came.

[@shashikariyawasam8106]

Thank you 😌

[@selizabeth8116]

Don't put off until tomorrow what you SHOULD do today

[@precisionsoundworksstudio]

Wow. So good. Instant subby.

[@FlowerChyld43]

How is armor going to protect an entire village? : / My morale would be to befriend the dragon & work Together. : )

[@AttackoftheHam]

Making friends

[@casmill3217]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@6Bestie9]

Can I talk you about this video. I really need so help with this fear and how I don't to do it but I have no choice. The fear of driving. Its stupid but that accident in high school scarred me. I blame that accident for how my mother turned out after we were in it together. I don't want to be her so I feel if I never drive I won't turn into her. But I have to drive but I sabotage myself to complete this goal.

[@OhGollyGoshGee]

100%, but there are so many dragons :(

[@rydernbrennan]

I really need help

[@paulvoorhies8821]

Carved out of cheese.

[@mgo810]

Eww.