The Secret to Stronger Relationships | Alison Armstrong EP 29

[@inspired11]

Such a beautiful conversation. If more women connected for such conversation, we would have a different world.

[@Himmiefan]

Great video! I love that this is positive about both men and women. So many videos out there are negative about one or there other and are frankly, actually damaging to relationships.

[@fruitascension5089]

I love Alison so much. Thank you for having her on.

[@gabrielachavez3726]

Thank you 🙏 Alison has made me realize I knew nothing about the men I’ve dated & married -like a rubiks puzzle 🧩- now I’ve tuned in and I am more aware ❤ of what they are and how to connect with them. Not only men but when we get into our heads and our emotions. Awareness is Key 🔑. 🕉️☯️💟☮️

[@SS-ly2bn]

This was a wonderful conversation. One of the best interviews with Alison.

[@nieladrew]

Thank you for the timestamps 🙏🏻

[@erinhappy-go-lucky5040]

I just remembered how I found and connected to you, Alyssa 🤯 🥰. Through Alison. I am grateful 🥳! I love your podcast!

[@a_bridge_between]

Beautiful! Thank you for this!

[@makesgoodcoffee6031]

Nicole, wow, you have a super lovely voice! Look fwd to this interview! Off I go 😊

[@HappyCat1111]

I took her courses years ago and some of her points are valid. But she does not address how society gives men a free pass instead of expecting the best from them. It’s actually disempowering to men to expect so little when they are capable of being so much more, while women are still expected from a young age to shoulder the emotional and intellectual burdens of everyone else. Armstrong teaches you how to work with the status quo instead of imagining a more empathic and evolved space that empowers all genders.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

Did you find the course helpful? Women don't expect enough from men and aren't aligned within themselves for doing so. The best way to encourage that is to decentre men and connect within. The men then need to reach a high bar to be "worth it" in a woman's life.

[@olgakuchukov6981]

Current western culture hates men. I’m speaking as an over half a century old old skool feminist. The pendulum has swung too far over to the other extreme, aided by political self-interest and crowd control.

[@angelachaney816]

I'm kind of baffled by the statement women don't expect enough of men. For me I have found if I am constantly focusing on my expectations of others it leads to utter frustration and disappointment and criticalness in my own life..... because when our view is everyone has to meet MY expectations, our brains can also begin to take on the reverse is also true, that I will only be accepted if I meet everyone else's expectations..... which is IMPOSSIBLE. This mentality caused me to spiral into a pit of despair and depression filled with judgement and anger towards all. Now I say all that but recognize there are times that a person hopes for more, but evaluates the situation and determines in their own mind that their hope is impossible to attain, it is something that they just have to live without, and frankly can also cause anger and frustration. But Alison teaches it is okay to desire more and in those scenarios she suggests playing "Let's Make a Deal" for these times. I have seen how this method create partnership and allowing each partner to openly discuss how to navigate through stuff while using their own strengths.... because let's face it, we each have our own strengths and weaknesses. So it is better to work through an issue with your partner in this manner openly dialoguing to help the issue be resolved in a manner that both are capable of resolving it.

[@sonnyh9774]

"Isn't she lovely" by Stevie Wonder...

[@evelinel.9827]

I have a side eye when ever someone says "women are always like x" and "men are always like y." Anytime we simplify people/genders to this degree it is not always helpful IMO.

[@CJMilli]

It’s about feminine/masculine energy dynamics, regardless of gender

[@amurtezaa]

I understand the response you're having, I have a similar reflex when I hear these things, but it's important to understand that these words are being used as frameworks and concepts and not subjective truths the way the language can make it sound. Even in this discussion they've said that we're all very different even though we have a lot of similarities as well as discussing "knowing ones own needs". These discussions are very high level about a very nuanced and complex topic of relationships so talking about broad stroke differences is a good starting point for a general audience. I'm sure if you were to get into any specific workshops you'll have a more fine tuned experience.

[@DrG4321]

Hence why I have not yet embarked upon " how to" videos because it doesn't apply to every individual . Well said. ❤

[@supersharda]

I agree, that made me pause the podcast and I don't think I'll continue listening.

[@acceleratedtrainingacademy]

Maybe read her book then... It's called queens code. Chamged my life forever.. so many moments of revelation

[@evelinel.9827]

What about talking about knowing own's needs, expressing one's needs and understanding our partner's needs instead of reducing women to one way of being and men having another way of being.

[@supersharda]

Exactly 💯

[@angelachaney816]

There are other videos she discusses this in. I think in order for her to discuss ALL the amazing topics she teaches on, she would need to do about a month long interview.... and possibly even longer than that 😂

[@Lindsay-t8b]

❤

[@Alyssabahu]

👏🏼

[@cryptocrazy1172]

With all the screening men seem to do most of them still end up with crapy partner, i think we give them way too much credit when it comes to their mating choices. Most of them dont go through no 12 steps, they just pick one when they feel they are ready to settle.

[@FeminineRose]

❤❤❤

[@kashsky1]

if men size you up when you first start dating and look at what you have to see if they can accommodate your life and afford you why did my baby daddy have a child with me and play house only to 2 years later say he can't give me what I need and can't support my lifestyle when in reality the entire time he never had a provider mentality and never offered to help with financial burdens. Like in all these videos it's as if these things should be ingrained in men when this guy was the opposite and didn't care about taking care of me and making my concerns his concerns 😒

[@angelachaney816]

I don't know that I have ever heard Alison say a man will size you up when first dating to see if he can afford you. In this episode she said they can size a woman up and can tell in 30 seconds if a woman could be for them. She recommends a book in the Queens Code called the Female Brain by Louann Brizandine. In that book it is discussed how the hormones we have after having a baby effects our brains. For some women it can put them in a provide and protect mode, which can cause us to respond to men differently than before-oftentimes more negatively. Alison discusses often how important it is for us to take care of ourselves as women to be able to operate in our femininity. But it is common for women to be overly self-sacrificing. Not willing to accept help-because the person offering help in our minds doesn't know how to do it, or won't do it to the standard we want them to, or if we do allow them to help, we go behind them and redo it because in our minds it wasn't done right. These kinds of things causes the man to feel unwanted, unnecessary, like there is nothing he can do to make you happy. And after a while they think they are doing the noble thing by letting you go, so you can actually find someone who WILL make you happy. I'm not saying any of this exact stuff applies to you. But, in my own marriage, especially our daughter's younger years I can attest to being guilty of this. To the extent that he left me 6 months before our destination wedding that was already all planned. We ended up getting back together. It was ROCKY! But, truly looking within, and hearing what Alison has had to say, has BLESSED my marriage beyond what I could have EVER imagined it to be!!!! I'm sorry you are going through what you are going through, and I wish you the ABSOLUTE BEST!

[@kashsky1]

​@@angelachaney816 Interesting. I will check out that specific book. Thank you for taking the time to reply as well as share you story. I'm so happy thing's worked out for you and your husband!