In Search of the Perfect Partner

How do we find the ideal romantic partner? What exactly are we looking for? It's important to have standards, but are those standards always reasonable and fair? What do we have to offer to the relationship? Are we looking for someone to take care of our needs or are we looking for true partnership?
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[@AgapeLove878]

One of my favorite sayings ... I am not asking for perfection ... I am asking for presence.

[@CleberHarrisonGuitar]

You are a beautiful soul. Thank you so much for sharing your light with us. I love you and I'm grateful.

[@AwakenInsight]

Thank you for the loving sentiment. I'm happy to be of service.

[@AgapeLove878]

When I find myself feeling as if a person is not bringing to the table what I need in a reciprocal relationship ... Through self growth and evolution ... I always ask ... Am I asking for more than I offer... I can honestly say ... I never ask for more than I can offer. In fact I have learned to not ask for what I am able to offer ... because I actually have an unusually high capability and abundance to offer ... I find that it is such that few can reciprocate. This abundance comes from my own self discovery and self work. So it will have to be someone who also is actively involved in their own evolution.

[@sunishapamnani6162]

I relate to this completely.

[@Rachel-pz5mo]

Sounds like my sister ,she has never been on her own for long ,in fact she even enters into a new relationship before her present one is even over ,total opposite of me .I guess these types of people don't want to face themselves, and being alone would force them to do just that.

[@anonymousanymouse8737]

I feel no shame in accepting that even I can't be on my own for long. A person might be strong af but can't be alone forever, man is a social fucking animal. We all need someone to lean on. Admit it. Discard your ego and put effort to be around people who you wanna be with. NO ONE is Perfectttt.

[@Rachel-pz5mo]

@@anonymousanymouse8737 I'm an introvert and in society that is always looked at as a negative thing ,not everyone wants to be with someone, i have a few close friends i trust, but at the end of the day i love my own space and the bed to myself .I'm also celibate so there's that, not saying that i'm PERFECT just prefer my own company because i know myself and like myself ,just being honest. Most people don't spend enough time alone to get to know themselves "like my sister" this is why most of them have failed relationships or stay with abusive partners from fear of being alone ,being alone is NOT scary .

[@lynnemanning9553]

I have spent my life's journey being with men who do not appreciate what I have to offer, and come to find out, it's only because I didn't appreciate myself what I had to offer the world....and now I know I have so much to offer, not in a narcissistic way, or an egotistical way but in a kind and compassionate way. Now that I have spent time alone, and really made an effort to see who I am, good and bad.... it takes being with yourself for a good amount of time and the intention of observing and befriending/accepting yourself. IT IS HARD, IT WILL REALLY OPEN YOUR EYES, and the hardest thing that I've ever done. No distractions to run away to, just you and yourself. Not like in a monastery, but living your life with work, friends, etc. with a very diligent effort made to notice all of your emotional stuff, and then not reacting to it, but handling it (you and your stuff) like you would a loved relative or friend, And if you do react in a way you don't like, and you will react from time to time not in a favorable way, keep coming back to working at it, starting over again with your practice. Life is almost always up and down and that helped me accept that fact. If everyone did this, the world would be a different place! It has been one of the hardest times in my life, but also one of the best times, because I'm learning so much. Many people don't do this because the norm is to have a partner always, and not be alone.....always be in the process of getting a partner, never take the time to look deeply into your soul and spirit, and give yourself what you think others should give to you. If you always have a partner, I would think it would really be very hard to find out who you truly are. I think we've been doing this relationship thing all wrong....go out and find out who you are, and find in yourself, what you are looking for someone else to give you, and then give that to yourself! Then you'll be able to perhaps, give true love to someone else, not be so self absorbed. When I finally made it my mission to befriend myself, my eyes were opened, in terms of how self absorbed we all are, some worst than others. When you become more conscious about yourself, the world looks and feels different. You do see the deeply flawed and suffering in this world, and that brings out the vulernerability in us, and softens us to have more compassion for everything, the planet, animals, people.....there is no more bs, the world needs a lot of help and how can we help to create a more loving, caring, compassionate world for all. A good way to spend our lives.

[@susanshepard4688]

Very insightful and interesting and true - I've been alone so many years it would be very hard to be in a relationship. Im comfortable with myself, I'm an introverted hermit. I secretly like the lockdown, all you can here are sounds of nature.

[@carolinasoulshine8949]

Same as you and I still believe he is out there somewhere but I enjoy the solitude for sure.

[@ritat1]

Agreed! 😊

[@candicemariebeadco]

I wake up and listen to your videos and when I go to sleep. I feel less misunderstood when I listen to your channel. You are such a beautiful soul.

[@rajshreebarot855]

I enjoyed your video immensely because it resonated deeply with me. You speak so eloquently. I’ve made many of the mistakes you mentioned, in my desperate search for the perfect partner. I’m now at peace, alone, but focussing on my own spiritual growth. When the time is right, I will meet my partner naturally. Maybe when I least expect it. 😊

[@lynnemanning9553]

Thank you for your very articulate and compassionate talks. You seem very real and coming from the heart. I'm sure your videos will inspire people to think about their lives, and perhaps, to even make changes. Wishing you much joy and peace 💟☯️☮️

[@ainawaheedamohamadcrchkl1658]

Thank you... I am following your channel.. I find it very soothing and calming and I am learning more about myself. Thank you again🙏

[@lynskitoh]

Very well said, thank u so much for sharing

[@ryanschockfitness9378]

Perfectly said my friend thank you for being you and your words

[@Wotan-Born]

Thank you kindly 🙏🏽♾💚

[@domedweller4202]

Very well explained.Thankyou 🌹🌻🍀🍁🍂🍃🍂🌿🌾🌼🌷🍓

[@cathyhhhgfluffybissessur5780]

Thank you .🙏

[@Astronaut79]

I'm watching your videos since a while with a great attention: I have to say that your words are illuminating. There's a great confusion about relationships between partners and most of it depends on the conditionings and standards and ideals that our parents first of all and then society have been given to us by music, movies, literature and so on. I wanted to compliment you for the clarity of your speech and for the loving vibrations which can be perceived from your voice, so peaceful and gentle. Seems like your discourses perfectly fits to what I'm and been living throughout my life. Thank you.

[@gutchiespencer2714]

A talented story teller who leaves NO stones unturned.....You Teach!❤️

[@Diana-gt1rv]

I can very well relate to this lecture, as it expresses exactly my own opinion. If anybody had asked me to explain my concept of a happy relationship I would have used almost the same kind of argumentation. Personally I have made exactly the same experience: the right person happens in your life when we don't really expect it. It just happens, as if this person had been sent to you by universe. But of course you have to be open for this to happen and just let it happen, without thinking too much whether it's right or wrong. After having lived alone for several years I found myself in the lucky position that I could build a strong relationship with myself first, which made me learn to embrace my own imperfections. Only departing from there was I able to be open enough to find my soulmate who is supporting me in my growth process as much as I am supporting him. It's a mutual challenge on the soul level and it's so amazingly beautiful. We accept each other as we are while at the same time being able to pursue our own passions. For me this is the perfect partnership. I guess it's pure love. ❣️

[@nid2598]

Wow!

[@ritat1]

Wise words, Sir! Thank you! Love your videos -

[@wholeo9467]

Fax no printer as I’d say. Thank you kindly brethren, bless you.

[@codycrabtree7764]

He said he was also looking for the perfect partner. Dang that was deep

[@ladyk2002]

💜💛 U R truth is raw and real.

[@PassionForOldFashion]

Could you make a video about polyamory? And maybe jealousy? 😊 ❤️

[@gilazarteb8845]

Love the storytelling. What experience taught me, its that what had attracted me from another person, in every case, has been some quality within me yet to be descover. Once integrated, the other person naturally moves on and so do I. Since this realization, its been a funny thing to observe. I don’t need to get attach in order to learn what is next, and also it gives me a sense of adventure and i don’t think there is a “perfect parner” as a final destination (Its such a heavy weight for anyone to carry). Now I feel it more like a whole journey of self discovery while mirroring, gravity does the work of matching souls, no matter the list of preferences. I guess im still in the learning process. Thank you for the insights.

[@md.gugoal1990]

Thank you sir

[@md.gugoal1990]

From deep insight ... Take my unconditional love sir

[@cathyhhhgfluffybissessur5780]

Beautiful.

[@kennethworrall5923]

Talking the truth

[@dianegowland5866]

❤️🌈🙏🤗🦋🏵️🌻😍💜

[@jennmystic4553]

Thank you so much for this ☺️

[@patar1o1]

Your words moved me man, nice one

[@cherylm.6448]

Beautiful insights. Thank you for sharing ♡

[@studentofspacetime]

Thank you for this post. My question is: Is it realistic to reach that state of mind, where you are fully content with yourself?

[@khushabu_art]

Thank you, Nada! You are doing a great service to mankind!

[@nanetteaddesso7560]

So helpful and healing. Thank you Nada!

[@davidripley1437]

thank you so much for your videos. so wise and so valuable

[@amandam4148]

Blown away 💥

[@suzannefehr5253]

So helpful. Thank you...

[@brendangolledge8312]

You said some stuff that I wanted to say, but in a way that I think would be much more likely to be received. I would have said something like, "Women on dating website rate 80% of men as below average. If you're a woman and you can't find a partner, you should ask yourself whether your partner expectations are sane, because most women don't have sane expectations of men." But the stories you told made it more personal while at the same time less accusative. If you are a man, you should be aware that most western women are not worthy of being wives, because they aren't even trying. I have used dating websites before, and found that on the generic dating website, less than 1% (not an exaggeration) of single women under the age of 25 have a healthy body weight and no children, but wanted to have children and get married (so they say themselves on their profile). I searched for that repeatedly on different sites and got the same result. On a website called "conservativesonly", I was astonished to find that most of the women there were attractive, but the only problem was that there were 4x as many men as women. But the average guy there was handsome, had a house, a 6 figure income, and was articulate (this puts him easily in the top 10% of men). So, even among men who are the best 9/10, there are 4 of them fighting for just 1 marriage-quality woman. I think it is appropriate for a lot of men to just give up and go MGTOW. I did get married this year, but I had to go overseas to do so. I am 30 now, and I was disappointed to be married so late. My lust is less than it used to be, so I enjoy relations with my wife less than I would have when I was younger (not her fault). I have already learned about myself so much, I don't think there is any growing up for me to do that another person could help me with. It is now impossible that I could have a young woman to share my youth with and to grow together with, because I am too old for that. I wonder, however, whether I might not have learned as well to be content with myself if I had been able to find a good wife in my youth. My wife is perfect in every outward respect (she is humble, kind, dutiful, reliable, etc), but she has no interest at all in anything abstract (including spiritual growth), so it is hard for us to be friends (looking in the same direction at the same time and appreciating the same things). Maybe this is okay though. I realized recently that I must seem very immoderate to other people, when I share myself freely. For instance, I started thinking regularly about death already by the age of 14, and my thoughts just became extreme and more dark as I got older. It doesn't seem like most people can handle this very well, and maybe that's why no one has ever been able to connect with me. But my wife's complete lack of interest in anything abstract inoculates her against this. And I see from her example that love and humility are totally sufficient to be a good person (I usually use philosophy to help me become better, but she doesn't need it). Oh, btw, men and women are not equal in any sense, other than perhaps the sense that we are all of equal value in the eyes of God. And romantic attraction is selfish. Women at the base instinctual level need men for their power. I don't think it's possible for a woman to be attracted to a man if she doesn't see him as being better than her in some way (this is why preaching about equality constantly and giving women artificial boosts through affirmative action make most men seem unattractive). And men at the base instinctual level need women for sex. There is no way to make these inclinations nicer than they are. Romantic relationships that are healthy are with people who are loving in general, and who give each other freely what the other can't help but selfishly desire. There is no way around women wanting men to have money and men wanting to be with the youngest and prettiest. Romantic love is selfish and it is hypocritical, otherwise we could get it from anybody, instead of just young pretty women or rich charismatic men. The only way to reform romantic love is to be in hardcore traditional marriage of the type that Paul describes in the Bible. The man sacrifices himself for the benefit of the wife, even to the point of death, and the wife pays for this by being his willing slave. Authority and responsibility go together, so if the man wants authority over the woman, he must be responsible for her, and if the woman wants the man to be responsible for her, she must put herself under his authority. There is no other way. "Free love" usually just means men using women for sex and women using men for money. Commitment coming from an act of will to do to the other the best you can is what gives a prettier face to the barbarism of lust.

[@rjc7289]

People are flawed by their very nature, and for that reason, there is no such thing as a "perfect partner". Everyone has their quirks, foibles and shortcomings. It's just a question of how many of those quirks and to what degree of severity are you willing to put up with. You figure out where that fine line is between tolerable and intolerable, and you simply don't cross it.

[@kennethworrall5923]

Love You

[@kennethworrall5923]

Rrspect

[@Ciskuss]

No, man if you don't search nothing comes. Especially in this women centered society

[@kennethworrall5923]

Damn

[@jamespurcer3730]

Rich women are happier than poor women, so if I behave like a happy person, then I should be able to attract a wealthy woman who is looking for a happy man. I don't think that it works that way. You seem to be living in a fantasy.

[@sfk-irf]

It seems to be a worldwide problem. I wish someone from my country would add a subtitle translated to my mother tongue and put it in youtube.

[@silvialockhart8628]

I just wanna say from the deepest part of me thank you. You guiding me back to I ones was put have lost it much love to you 💜💜💜💜💜

[@kennethworrall5923]

Jesus reincarn in budha

[@mvp5514]

Yes that's what I say 🙏

[@sujufromchennai7174]

👏👏🙏

[@kennethworrall5923]

2021

[@timtim6850]

This was amazing. Thank you, stay blessed

[@felixandedgar1743]

You are the person you are looking for

[@constancewalsh3646]

"I'm looking for a wealthy woman..." haha! I laughed out loud! what you call 'facetious' was actually funny. Dear host, you missed an opportunity for a chuckle - perhaps the only missing ingredient in an otherwise beautiful sharing of wisdom through experience - genuine.

[@AwakenInsight]

Well, I'm glad you liked the story and had a chuckle on my behalf. Life is much lighter when we laugh. Blessings to you!

[@oztinato4099]

Some excellent views expressed here. All I want is for someone to be into me that I'm into. Mutual interest. However the giant cosmic spanners in these simple spiritual ideas are money and sex plus sexual politics, plus ego, plus aggressive and competitiveness and a host of forces from the dark night of the soul. Like a chaotic battle of unconscious and grossly material forces crushing the spirit.

[@AgapeLove878]

Integrity crowns the tree of relationship desires ... Coincidentally it is also the foundation... With the in between being more of a fluid quantum space... it has to allow for morphing and change both perfection and not as perfect ... Harmony...

[@aNnAkt1qw]

❤

[@hide_and_go_sikh]

I have a shattered image of the female ideal.

[@Ciskuss]

How about feeling ugly and searching for an attractive girl? How can i feel attractive if people now say that i'm ok but i don't feel like It :(

[@daryl9799]

Stop feeling sorry for yourself do you think that's attractive?

[@Vancesez]

Just be self confident and be able to face rejection if turned down or things don’t work out. Happens to almost everyone.

[@anonymousanymouse8737]

Pro tip: work on your talents and focus on yourself. You are searching for validation from girls from social media likes etc etc. It will mentally destroy you. The system is like that, it's not your fault, it's the way the society has programmed you, you feel validated, only if you're riding a car or are handsome.....The day you will be able to score a girl without using a car or external material force, you've won my ugly mate. PS.: this commet is a self reminder.