THE SECRET LIFE OF BECOMING A MILITARY SPOUSE || WHAT I WISH I KNEW | ALWAYS4EVERGREENS

[@isamarcueller]

I wish our heroes would have better pay, better benefits and service.

[@Babylexx27]

Isamar D.C definitely!!

[@Guppyg53]

All we have gotten in the past few years is tax cuts for the insanely wealthy.. and higher taxes for lower-middle class hardworking families. With less benefits somehow

[@TheGoat-qw6jb]

GuppyG Thank Trump for that !

[@garycooper8687]

The officers do well. Enlisted need to hit E6 range. The pay is pretty good considering you are entry level government.. I was an E1 a long time ago. O4 now and almost done with career. Benefits are really good.

[@ricky4736]

Gary Cooper how much do you make a month

[@tinydancer867]

One of the biggest things I hated when I was a military spouse was the fact that a lot of spouses used their husbands rank to feel like they were “better” than other spouses whom had husbands with lower ranks. Like... so annoying!!! I also hated the gossip in neighborhoods on post. And contract marriages are extremely illegal and could lead to that soldier being un honorably discharged from the military for good!!!

[@nicholelee733]

So this is actually a thing? Because I was speaking with another milso and she mentioned this same thing. I haven’t been around many other wives so I haven’t had this experience

[@IvoryReed9116]

I worked for Army Lodging so you could only image how many wives threw their soldier's rank around.

[@Groose142]

Bitches be goofy

[@leanetgutierrez838]

Lmao is this seriously a thing ?! 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@mikewatson5281]

Wow I thought housing was free in the military

[@morgane.1204]

You: I'm assuming your watching this because your a military spouse Me: *sweats in 16 year old single girl*

[@dboy0498]

Funny asl lmao why you come across this video then 😂

[@Lebronwski]

Me:Watching random videos at 2 Am Her: assumes I’m watching because I’m a military spouse. Me: sweats in 16 year old male.

[@boredcheeseaddict5599]

Me, a bored writer with a military spouse character in one of my stories: *Sweats in 14 year old male*

[@artemishernandez2138]

@@dboy0498Not original commenter, but I heard someone else mention being a military wife and I have never heard anyone talk about being one before (albeit I don’t know many people in general). Thought this would be interesting to learn about

[@charlijordan4639]

Yess wives that actually love their hubby’s 🙋🏼‍♀️! Thank you for this video girl!! My husband and I have been together coming on 4 years. He’s only been in for a year and we are currently stationed in Italy! Very difficult change for a first duty station but such a cool experience. So hard for me to make friends but hey everything takes time✨

[@whitneyspiller3057]

Oh girl Italy is so hard!! I hope it’s a fast tour for you!

[@miguelvazquez7941]

Hope you guys last forever.

[@mithrilwitch]

my husband is starting bootcamp at the end of the month, and after that his A school is in chicago. its hard for me to make friends as well, and im worried that a lot of the other wives on base will be catty and gossipy. i dont tolerate ppl like that, i'd rather be alone than deal with pointless and negative ppl like that. i hope you find good friends, the right ppl will come into your life when its time 🙏🏼✨

[@charlijordan4639]

mithrilwitch Omg I know right?! I’m the exact same way it takes me a while to open up to people and I’m skeptical sometimes because I know I never want to deal with gossip. I try to attract good vibes/energy into my life. So I love that someone relates! 🙌🏼 hopefully you don’t think this is weird but if you ever want a online friend or someone to talk to just follow me on IG @charlijordan and we can be friends!!! Goodluck to you girl! Sending you love and light!!💫✨🥰

[@rosaisela831]

Watching this video just now and we got stationed here as our first base as well! Long shot but are you still here?

[@alejandracumare4746]

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and he left for boot camp last month, we talked about it before while we were friends and now that I'm leaving the military girlfriend phase is beautiful (For me) living this experience had pushed me to keep going on my career and trying to catch up with him. Letters are our favorite part of this experience, yes, not everything is perfect because I miss him but I trust God. Thank you for your videos and for teaching me even more about this life I'm jumping in with my soldier.

[@Babylexx27]

Aweee good luck I also loved the letters!!

[@tipoftheiceberg7034]

You cheated don't try hiding it

[@guyfawkesuThe1]

Ya getting marriage is privilege in the US Military. You do not live like a convict in the barracks, even the lowest rank enlisted gets a good home with the wife and usually child from his high school hook up and more money! I live for 3 years in the barracks and it sucked! I knew guys who had to live in a converted dayroom, and that is ridiculous! Now you folks get sprawling apartments and houses off-base!!

[@tierracampbell1118]

My husband of 6 years has decided to join. He’s always wanted to. I’m happy he’s following his dream. But I’m so nervous for the change..... this was a a great video!!!

[@lovesaraai]

My husband of 8 years is in the process I’m nervous

[@IvoryReed9116]

So TRUE!!! I am no longer a military wife but I am still a military wife! My husband got out of the Army to be a Military Analyst and nothing has changed. Still lonely, he actually travels more. 😳 So, I'm with you sisters.

[@selinacordell5377]

I am get ready to marry someone in army

[@Zyliahsh]

the "mommyyy" part was so cute 😭

[@Babylexx27]

+zyliah shelby ❤️❤️

[@kelsbells1006]

The FRG part; so much yes! When my husband deployed I got involved with the FRG and became a co-leader. It gave me so much to do and it was actually a lot of fun to be apart of the event planning and to help other families.

[@Babylexx27]

Kelsie's Korner definitely!

[@kerriannerolle3132]

Whats the FRG

[@jacquesmesrine3244]

Just because we are in the military doesn't mean we all get along. SAD BUT TRUE. Also, other spouses and gf's being catty for no reason is STRAIGHT UP FACTS.

[@lalovelylenea]

You actually gave me a lot of distinct information that I haven't seen in any other video. Thanks!

[@Babylexx27]

MeaLenea Homer I’m glad !! That was the goal !! Thank you for watching

[@TheJennyAllison]

This video has truly helped a lot. I just got married to my husband and given me a better perspective of what’s to come. You and your children are beautiful.

[@Babylexx27]

Jenny Allison thank you & im so glad you enjoyed!!

[@NASZIEREDITS]

LITERALLY EVERYTHING you said in this video is 100% CORRECT! People at the commissary WILL be rude to you, people that you try to be friends with WILL start drama, the military WILL control everything in your relationship! And there are gonna be times that you wanna just scream and rip your hair out

[@guyfawkesuThe1]

Ya getting marriage is privilege in the US Military. You do not live like a convict in the barracks, even the lowest rank enlisted gets a good home with the wife and usually child from his high school hook up and more money! I live for 3 years in the barracks and it sucked!

[@MWOODYARD]

I'm working on my masters degree to be a certified nurse midwife, and my goal is to work on or near a military base so I can serve military families :) I was raised as an Army brat, so it's important to me to give back. I'm glad I found this channel, it gives me a lot of ideas for how I want to do things once I get started! Thanks for the info

[@roselee1974]

Army Brat myself

[@KellyHastingss]

Im a navy wife! I LOVEEEEEEEEEEE this video! Its so informative and you tell the hard truth that most people dont know!!! Love your channel! Just subbed!!!

[@Babylexx27]

Kelly Hastings awe hey !! Welcome thanks so much that means a lot an that was the goal so I’m Glad I did that !! Thanks so much for watching !!

[@KellyHastingss]

Always4everGreens oh course!!

[@ruukibane301]

You're not a single mom. You have a HUSBAND providing You're the definition of CATTY AND ENTITLED 304s. They should have had you sign prenuptial agreements.

[@genzz92]

My husband just joined the army and he leaves by the end of this month. I really needed this video. Thanks!!

[@Babylexx27]

Paloma Galarza awe !! Good luck

[@hendryjnunez22]

How’s it been this past year? Updates

[@mycookiesdaisy]

How did it go

[@TheMFamily5]

My husband is in the navy we have a child and have been together before he even went into the service. I just found out he has been cheating on me since day one multiple hidden accounts like tinder Snapchat and even a hidden phone he has been talking to thousands of females going to strip clubs when out to sea in Greece ect. His command has done nothing he has gotten a slap on the wrist for a domestic violence and burglary and his actions have been covered up. I am currently looking into a divorce. The military changed him and he is not the same.

[@Babylexx27]

The M Family omg !! Ugh I’m sooooooo sorry to hear that ! That is horrible that breaks my heart for you !! Hang in there I’m sorry this is how your story ended up But I truly believe that there is a reason and it’s so hard to see that reason right now but it will come ! It’s been a long time coming I guess for him , that’s normally more of a big deal to the higher ups I’m surprised but also not the way they are handling it definitely reach out to his command maybe an see what they say about it don’t sit in silence that’s what they want and sadly expect I’d definitely make a seen if you want him punished for his actions! But hang in there girl I’m so sorry ❤️

[@TheMFamily5]

Brian Waller it’s totally pointless my dad is military as well he is officer commander and has been the same way in all 5 of his marriages. I joined a military and divorce group and every single relationship on there sounds the same.

[@pixelfire6121]

I will promise you, if his shipmates find out he will get FUUUUCCKKEEDDD up. I can’t speak firsthand as I’m not military but my friend in the navy said they basically ostracized a dude for cheating on their wife. Best of luck to you. ❤️

[@JasioWuTang]

PixelFire lol stfu

[@pixelfire6121]

Jan K what’s your problem?

[@rivertrans7148]

My girlfriend is going into the army when we are older and I’m really nervous about it, so I’m binging these videos

[@monaejames2764]

I’m an Airforce wife and sadly since my husband has been in he’s been changing. He loves to go out more than spend time w me and our 4 m baby & it’s stressful bc I try to explain to him that sometimes when you’re married the worst thing to do is surround yourself around ppl who are single & just wanna have a good time bc temptation is beyond real. I love him but it’s getting tiring and lonely.

[@amartyapal2959]

Don't loose hope. Your husband is definitely a hardworking and honest man. I am saying this because the US has the most active armed forces in the world. It has the largest no. of military bases in the world. This means that many US soldiers are posted abroad far from their homes. So to spend such a large amount of time away from home requires a great deal of commitment. I think a man who has such a high level of commitment will obviously be loving and caring to his family. Good luck to you😊.

[@breannafair9513]

I definitely needed this, because my SO is also in the Army and I still don't know much. We will be getting married when my SO comes home from deployment in a few months and I just want to be prepared. I'm hoping we'll be able get housing on post to make it easier and I feel like it would be safer

[@Babylexx27]

+Breanna Fair yes definitely & how exciting congratulations!! Definitely if you know where you guys will be stationed call there housing an have your name put on the waiting list it will help make sure you get a house !!

[@breannafair9513]

@@Babylexx27 thank you!

[@Missdaphanyma13]

@@Babylexx27 Do you know if it takes forever to get post housing? Like if there’s a waiting list how long does it typically take to get in? Ughhh my hubby is going into the army soon and I am so sad 💔

[@UyenNguyen-jq4qu]

i overheard my boyfriend talking to his dad the other day about going to the military and that’s the reason why i am here 😂😭 thank you so much ! this actually helped me a lot on what i want to do if he does end up going to the military.

[@Babylexx27]

Uyen Nguyen your welcome!!

[@BitterSweetBleu]

Omg THANK YOU for this!! I was really struggling with the loneliness part for the past year (living off post, so it’s hard to meet other wives) but I’m slowly starting to adjust. 😊 this is so helpful!

[@Babylexx27]

Leslie Araujo I’m so glad !! Thank you for taking the time to to comment ❤️

[@maemae129]

I am really glad you brought up living on base vs off base. My husband and I thought that we would be all about living on base until after he graduated BCT. We still have a few months until our first FDS but now we’re leaning more towards living off base.... there’s just so many pros and cons to consider. I really appreciate this video though so thank you!! 💕

[@Babylexx27]

Megan Kohl yes definitely good luck excited for your new adventure!! Yes definitely a lot of pros an cons & so glad you enjoyed an got something out of my video 💗

[@alexischaparro7602]

Thanks for this video!!! My husband just left to Fort Leonard Wood last week for BCT. We’ve been married for 6 years. This is something he’s been wanting to do for a long time and he is finally fulfilling his dream. Now some of the stuff you said now has me questioning letting him go lol praying everything will turn out okay!

[@Babylexx27]

Alexis Chaparro definitely watch some of my other videos regarding the situation!! I think it will be good for your family!! I didn’t mean to freak you out but highly recommend checking out the military play list

[@alexischaparro7602]

Always4everGreens definitely will !! I’ve watched most of your military, by the way your awesome for doing what you do! ❤️

[@MacAndCheeseMasterOfficial]

I really appreciate your honesty in this video. My boyfriend said when he comes back from the army in 6 months, he'll ask me to marry him, and that if I said no we'd only get to see each other twice a year. So this video opened my eyes a bit on what I'd be getting into, so thank you very much! I wish you all the luck you need in continuing on being a military wife =)

[@Babylexx27]

MacAndCheese Master thanks so much !! & yes definitely do what’s best you would be able to visit whenever but it definitely wouldn’t be often and yeah they only get sometimes 2 vacation times a year

[@MacAndCheeseMasterOfficial]

@@Babylexx27 You're welcome! And thank you so much as well! All of that helps a lot to know! =)

[@alanamarie1428]

Omg me too! Mines in boot camp rn for the marines and once I graduate he wants me to marry him and be stationed with him! Any tips?

[@MacAndCheeseMasterOfficial]

@@alanamarie1428 Hi! That is so awesome, I'm so happy for you!! I honestly had forgotten I had written this comment 😅 I didn't know the guy for long and he was extremely abusive.. more physically than anything. I broke up with him when I also found out he was cheating on me. It's ok though because we were just not meant to be together at all. So I never did say yes to marrying him of course. Even if he hadn't cheated or abused me, I still would've said no. I truly wish I had some great advice and tips for you, but sadly I'm not sure I can help with how my situation turned out =( But what I will say is please, don't let him convince you into marriage. I of course have no idea how long you two have been together, but either way, listen to your gut feeling. Always. Your gut feeling knows better than even your own heart. Ask yourself those very important questions of, is he really the right one? Do we know each other that much? Is it the right time for both of us? Does he truly love me or is he only wanting to get married because if you're married in the military, he gets a buttload of money compared to if he's single? (Which that last question was the only reason my exboyfriend wanted to marry me.. that's why I put that one there) You of course don't have to answer those questions to anyone but yourself.. but think hard about it. If you have any doubt or hesitation, just wait. If he truly is the right guy for you, he'll wait for you and understand how you feel. He will never try to control or manipulate you into marrying him. With all that being said (I'm sorry this turned out long 😅) But whatever happens, I truly wish the best for you girl! I do hope it works out for the both of you, but if it doesn't, in the end, it would all be for the best in some way. If you don't mind, I'd love to be updated on what happens, but it's alright if you don't! 😄 I apologize that I may have not helped any in this message 😅

[@PeachyMua]

❤

[@jonesatlas8629]

I’m sorry you’ve had such a rough time! I’m an Army wife as well. For 13 years now. Hopefully you’ll experience better posts. We’ve always had amazing doctors (with the exception of Fort Bliss! Haha). It can be hard making friends who have the same values as you. Really hard. I find that to be the hardest thing. Commissary baggers only work for tips. Nothing else. FRG leader here and I hate the negative stigma of it but those stigmas come from past bad experiences! Not all FRG’s are drama free which is so sad. We need FRG to help make those connections with other wives. 13 years and I still don’t know every abbreviation 😂 There are so many positive things about being a military spouse as well! It isn’t all negative ☺️

[@Babylexx27]

Sheena Jones oh yeah an I stated that in the video that this was more of just a rant” if you will little outlook from what I’ve learned 😆 & definitely I haven’t had a bad experience with to many doctor just here an there an that’s to be expected no matter who or what you are !! & yes I’m aware the baggers work off tips witch is sad I can’t afford to tip them every time I got (once a week) so I rather take my own stuff just some things I wish I knew and definitely plenty of good just wanted to give my experience 😀 thanks for watching and leaving a comment! Hope you stick around !

[@jodipohlman578]

I was thinking the same thing! Some of this is true but I also disagree with no one caring. It will come with time. We all need a good rant at times though.

[@ckcrew5344]

My bf literally left for bootcamp yesterday. Were planning on getting married when he gets back in 6 months.

[@alexisreynaga9901]

My husband left for boot camp last week 🥺

[@Spyrothedragon0]

Are yall still getting married

[@Quackssssss]

Any updates?!💓

[@isabellacurtis7753]

Alexis Reynaga my left in March too

[@AmandaBMpofu]

Are you married now?

[@secilierodriguez6401]

Baggers at the commissary work for TIPS. You are usually asked if you want a bagger and or if you need help out to your car. IF they bag your groceries they are not paid unless the customer tips them. Same for help out to your car. Tip is their pay.

[@celia-mariescamordella1939]

My husband goes to bootcamp at the end of the month. We have a 10 month old already. I truly needed this video, thank you!

[@Babylexx27]

Celia-Marie Wetherington please reach out to me on IG if you need anything or have any questions!! I’m happy to help !!

[@builtbyteamhatch]

TriCare Select is amazing. I’ll never go back to military medicine. Just personal preference. Many don’t know it’s an option!

[@Babylexx27]

Courtney Rae yes definitely we have changed back an forth for a few reasons along the way but I’m thinking about switching my self

[@celebrityelisebeauty]

i’m kind of nervous to get married. i trust my bf but the military changes people but i just hope & pray that it only changes him for the better. we’re getting engaged when he’s finished with basic. 🥺

[@ksme1776]

Why is it always just the husband or service member that's expected to change for the better? If you're in it together you should both want to grow w the experience and through the journey.

[@cxoexrxo4468]

@@ksme1776 shutup lmao

[@AmandaBMpofu]

Any update?

[@duddyissues]

Thank you. My husband is in basic right now and there's so much the recruiters lied about and things that just wasn't right that I'm finding out as we go along.

[@Babylexx27]

Yes definitely sadly it happens I’m so happy I could help in some way!! If you ever have any questions feel free to reach out !

[@mithrilwitch]

what kinds of things did the recruiters lie about?? girl im sweating bc my husband is going to basic at the end of the month 🤭😳😰

[@lateishastarr6010]

They lied!? 😭 I just finally agreed to be comfy being uncomfy doing this and he gone lie to me about what I’m gonna go thru

[@kayumeiun]

They did lie about a lot, after A School are they able to pick where their first station is?

[@lateishastarr6010]

@@kayumeiun I was told no the first one they don’t pick

[@tierrabaker9982]

Thanks! Becoming an army wife in a few weeks and we’ve been dating for nearly a year. This info helps so much!

[@Babylexx27]

Happy I can help !!

[@OleariaBHustling]

She Should Have More Than 9,000 Subscribers For This Video Alone. Good Job Mrs.Green.

[@SharlaNelson]

New subscriber! I’m a military girlfriend and hopefully soon I’ll be engaged. Thank you for the advice and video! He’s almost out of the military in 5 years. I’m in this relationship for love. We’ve been together for 4 years. He just recently moved to Houston. He was in San Antonio since I met him.

[@Swizzles89]

God bless you. Being a military wife is so hard. I was married at 21 and I told my husband straight up (before we got married) I am not having kids until you are done serving. This was during early 2000s when there were a lot of deployments to Iraq and Afghanistan but I did not want to be the wife at home raising kids by herself during wartime. I couldn't do it. We waited 14 years to have kids and I don't regret it!

[@iamwinningrightnow]

God 4 you. I dn't blame you.

[@Ididntwantayoutubehandl]

Be prepared to not be drinking and driving? Oh boy.........that should be an obvious no problem issue to avoid........wow.

[@sophiakaitlyn9487]

I just found this video! It was really nice to hear the reality of it. My husband just went into BMT and we’ve been together 3 years, he’s my best friend, im somewhat shy and I’ve been so scared of branching out and being part of the military wives groups once we’re on base.

[@dapooramericanhomesteadfar7192]

We have spent so much money on the military. I know that these heroes are paid badly, but this country could do better for their families. I never knew that all these wives didn't get a long. It made me feeling relieved that I never joined the military. If we spent all of our time and energy for the military. The last thing we shouldn't be worried about is our family. The military has enough resources in the world to get involved in other countries problem. They should have plenty of resources to take care of these families.

[@Babylexx27]

DaPoorAmerican Homestead Farming yes totally agree !!

[@JoeKasino1947]

Take care of our own before take care other countries.

[@nicoleboutin7566]

I totally agree with you on the people getting married only for the money, my husband been in for 6 years and we’ve seen so many people get married and then not long down the road get divorced either they wanted the money or they just wanted to get out of the dorms! Luckily my husband and I at the time were Dating for almost 2 years before he even thought or decided to join the military. We got married after he got out of bmt and tech school and then moved out to Colorado.

[@madzia172m]

you are amazing! You clarified a lot to me, honestly. My boyfriend is in the military and he is being deployed in Europe right now. I love him so much and I would love to move to the U.S with him, so he would like me too, but I am just so scared and extremely afraid that I am going to be depressed and lonely for most of the time because he can be sent somewhere for a year or more and I will not possibly take it. This is really breaking me. I am so lost. I really don't know what to do. Military guys don't have the best opinion overseas. Most of them cheat on the wives (husbands) out here and I think I just want to protect myself from that. Obviously, what is there for you is there for you. If he/she is going to cheat on you, he/she would. Doesn't matter if its in Europe or somewhere else. But it is just more possible. I am so lost and confused ;c

[@felixromero5822]

Being a military Wife/Spouse is l one of the Hardest Jobs in the Military! My Wife survived and we are still married 33 years later!🙃😂 She tried hanging out with some wives but it just wasn’t her thing, too much Drama!

[@nemoneon]

Girl ...I’m confuse as you too but I think the hardest part is being alone and far from family. You are right about almost everything but I do prefer to be seen by someone else outside of the military hospital ...we do pay more for that . Thanks for the info :)

[@painterwithcats]

I'm curious about your part II to this video because it would have been nice to hear something positive about the military. As a new Air Force wife who has already sobbed over her hatred of the military many times, it would be kinda helpful to hear that not everything sucks. =P

[@Babylexx27]

I have a lot of videos about the military and it’s not all bad

[@radiashahall173]

that’s soooo freaking true. I have a sister that’s married to a male that’s in the military! and she haven’t lied about nothing at all.

[@clarasilva8223]

I hope your experiences get better! So far everyone has been great at the hospitals, commissary ect. Especially at the commissary.

[@Babylexx27]

Clara Silva I hope it stays that way for you!! :)

[@summerswinford539]

if we get station wherever you are. can you be my friend? hahaha

[@Babylexx27]

Summer definitely!!! ❤️

[@MadeofStardustt]

Summer where are you station ??

[@Babylexx27]

@@MadeofStardustt we are at FortBenning but leaving in a week , my husband will be doing recruiting

[@BlondeNordic]

I honestly got to say this take this as a compliment i love how honest you are. No like BS no glossing over the bad stuff either like it's all roses and sunshine but a realistic point of view what you have to go through as a military wife. I respect that very much . Thank you :)

[@Babylexx27]

Temptations so glad you enjoyed I tried I want others to get the full picture and wish I had someone to tell me when he first joined !! Thank you for watching !!

[@GabilishesBaby]

I’ll be an Air Force wife in December. I don’t understand anything about the military! And I have no clue what paperwork/legal stuff we have to have done once we are married. I wish this info was more easily accessible/clear without having to get my fiancé to ask other people.

[@Babylexx27]

GabilishesBaby yes that’s just the way it is you will learn so much as you go though this military life but 99% of things your spouse will have to find out for you

[@angelicamedina6828]

@gabilishesbaby You can message me if you have any questions about what you'll need. I'm air force and some things are different for each branch.

[@asinascastro]

Hey! I’d recommend talking to your hubby about POA especially if you have a child like myself to take care of medical or finances. While he’s in BMT, communication is very unreliable.

[@theoneonlymichelle3.082]

Well no one should be out drinking and driving. Period!!!!!

[@sweettoothmarie7304]

I love this.. I remember getting hooked to Army Wives...i watched all the seasons. So seeing u here takes me back to that.

[@Babylexx27]

Sweet tooth Marie' awe I love that show !!

[@Blys6]

I’m glad I met my fiancé really recent and he’s on his last mission. I’m already not a people person I can’t deal with catty witches.

[@KyleJ00]

If it’s a struggle to deal with active duty. You’re husband could go to National Guard at the end of his current contract. That way yall wouldn’t have to move. He’d have total control over when and where he gets deployed. He could do a civilian job that makes more yet still hold his rank and get his pension.

[@Babylexx27]

Kyle Galiano yes definitely a great idea !! But for now we are in for another 4 years I don’t mind it , this video was filmed almost 2 years ago !! I have learned to just got with them flow

[@xoxokaleighzoe]

I just became an army wife in October and we’re PCSing to Germany! I thought I was doing good with figuring things out but this taught me new things

[@Babylexx27]

+Kaleigh Fleming ohh man yeah we almost went there too but I’m sure it will be a lot of fun definitely just embrace it !! I’m so glad you got something out of this video!!! Good luck I’m excited for you on your new adventure

[@etherbunni]

Kaleigh Fleming Wiesbaden, Germany?

[@_miko1925]

I like the way she explain it in a honest way. This vid helps a lot ❤

[@goodcarpool5]

OMGGGG!!!! Thank you!!!! Just thank you!! I’ve been a military wife for two years now..... NAVY!! You hit a lot of great points!!

[@Shanice1]

Wow just got into a relationship during this pandemic 😮. Wow. Very informative info! Thank you!

[@casper1374]

Same

[@achanloki1843]

I loved this video it was very helpful . ❤️❤️ also your children are very adorable I loved how your son came and randomly hugged you lol . Such a beautiful family and wishing you the best for everything . Sending love from New York. ❤️

[@angelalawrencesmith9523]

I got married on Saturday (August 3rd) so I'm a new army wife as well! I thought I knew a lot of acronyms but I had no idea what the FRG was before you mentioned it either haha I'm sure I'll be learning a lot more in the upcoming months!

[@Babylexx27]

Angela Lawrence yes definitely congratulations and welcome to the army family!! I hope it treats you well

[@auroramichael1110]

I’m active duty with a civilian spouse and I don’t know wtf FRG is either 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@suzakuyang]

Congratulations on your 3 year wedding anniversary. I am also looking for a guy who is about to enter the army and not much information on what his wife's life will be like.

[@khadijahmcalister8969]

I’m a navy wife. Me and my husband started from the complete bottom lol so I totally relate to slot of this and Omg! I can totally relate with how hard it is to make friends! I live in military housing and the women are SO catty and mean! Ugh it’s so hard to make genuine friends. I’ve

[@Babylexx27]

Khadijah McAlister yes definitely thank you for watching I’m So glad you can relate to this ❤️

[@Youknoeitslilah]

I’m so nervous my husband picked infantry too, I’m also super nervous for leaving my family but excited to see what god has in store for us.... my question is about my job I have a great job right now does the military help the spouse find a new job? Or are we on our own for that?

[@Babylexx27]

No they don’t help you personally with a job that’s kinda on you but you can contract for the military and it makes it easier to transfer your job from base to base

[@sarahchristine6025]

I agree! I'm only watching this because I grew up as a military brat and don't think I'll mind marrying into the military since it's pretty familiar to me. One thing that my own mother did is she became a healthcare worker at one of the base's clinics. So while she's a civilian, she works under the DoD. It's a great foot in the door since you're in their database (background checks and all that jazz) and you can get benefits from the job! It's easier to transfer from base to base that way :)

[@TwistedKarmic]

My fiance just got deployed and is on the plane to Fort Leonard Wood currently and is 31b in the Army. We are doing the same as you and your husband, getting married once he completes BCT. We came from the bottom as well years ago and I even got him through his MEPS process when he was so close to failing. He was saying hundreds of military terms before he left so I'm making sure I have All knowledge required before I go. Lol. I figured some military wives were catty so I will definitely take my friend making and isolation skills from the civilian word with me so I can feel people out correctly. I also figured all those benefits wouldn't be available to me or our soon coming children as described. I'll be taking my career with me and working from home so hopefully I won't be too lonely because I definitely want to keep myself busy, still bringing in some money because it's sad how our soldiers don't get paid as well as I think they should. Thanks for this video! About to watch part 2

[@Babylexx27]

Karrington C. Definitely I’m so glad you got something out of this & yes you an your child will definitely be covered once your married hang in there & yess definitely feel out your friendships!! & keep busy!

[@rosarioedwards]

Karrington C. If you don’t mind, what career are you doing? Im about to be a military spouse as well and I want to find a career that i can travel with and work from home

[@SydnieDrummond]

I love your hair like this...so pretty ♡

[@Babylexx27]

Sydnie Drummond thank you ❤️

[@habituscraeft]

Been married to my husband four years and just had to ask him what an FRG was, because we have yet to be stationed at an actual active duty base. 😅 Will say - if you're not near a base, they put you on Tricare Remote, which allows you to basically see anyone, as long as you've gotten a referral from your (civilian) PCP. If you are in this situation, don't squander it - especially when it comes to getting things diagnosed (and thoroughly documented).

[@Babylexx27]

Yes we where just in NJ for 3 years he was on recurring duty and that’s what we had it was actually kinda nice to have civilian doctors on military heathcsre hahha

[@melisarivera4473]

I'm scared... I'm an architecture student, 2 years to graduate. My boyfriend just graduated in architecture and has been working for a firm for 3 months. He got tired of it and told me he wants to be in the military. (We have been in this relationship for 5 years) So I decided to be very supportive and started to watch these kinds of videos so I could learn what to expect. I'm good with everything except the fact that I'll be alone in the relationship after Basic training. We talked a long time ago about marriage but decided to do so after I graduate from university. I'm worried cuz I do have a mental illness (depression and Social anxiety) and I'm scared of getting worse just by thinking that my best friend is not anywhere near me and I'll be alone for who knows how long.

[@thepsychicspoon5984]

If I may, I like to say some things from the other side of the spectrum, the servicemen's side at least on my experiences. I served from 2004-2010, two deployments, one duty station outside US. You have to understand the military is a different beast than the civilian world. The military runs on a hierarchical class structure, hence the ranking system. Its a remnant of the aristocratic class structure of old monarchies(the time of lords and ladies). Thats why enlisted and officers have there own command structures with officers being on top. All professional militaries in the world function the same way. This means one thing: RANK MAKES RIGHT. NO "IFs, ANDs, or BUTs". Unfortunatlly, this can create a toxic environment rife with bullying, especially on the lower enlisted. Although not always the case as no two duty stations, divisions, even companies are run the same. More on this later. Tho not all FRGs(Family readiness group) are the same, the ones I encountered have been toxic. I recommend that military wives/husbands fall back more on old family members and friends if possible. Adultery its a epidemic in the military on both sides. Not counting the contact marriages, imo most are doomed to fail from the start. I'm referring to those that married or dated their HS sweetheart then all hell cometh over and changed that person seemingly overnight. Let me tell you the amount of peer pressure for me and my wife to cheat on each other was overwhelming. I was treated as lesser of a man for not doing it by my teammates and leaders. My NCO tried for weeks to convince me that "My wife hates me" and he "knew her better than I ever will". Despite the fact that he never met her face to face. He even went as far as to wrote me up for disagreeing with him, on the grounds of "disrespecting an NCO". After all that, the only thing that stopped me was my religious upbringing and the fact I'm a product of adultery. So I had a deep despise the practice. The military spouses too they get bombarded to cheat on their significant husbands while on deployment from neighbors, some FRG members, other military wives. The whole thing is just out of control. From what I encountered, and this goes to both the Military member and spouse, if your "friends" take you to a club/bar for a girls/guys night out. In this environment, 8/10 they are deliberally trying to put you in a position to make you cheat on your spouse. Both of you, think about it. How much would you trust a person that working at a strip club when they met their husband or some guy whose maturity never left high school? Now bear in mind the military does not sanction this practice and has actually spent a considerable amount of money trying to combat it. It just so ingrained in the culture it just gets pushed back on the mid to even high levels before we even see it from the bottom. Let me tell you that this was especially hard on deployments. Your military Sig Other is going to spend a considerable amount of time with his unit compared to his spouse and children. Especially when they are in life threatening environments, they are going to bond more with their comrades than their families. Thats just how the human mind works. I recommend to sit down with their military SO and have a long discussion about this. Its not garented to make a difference but I recommend a serious discussion and gentaly remind him of his duty is to his family as well as the military withen reason. What to do when they conflict, which will happen.

[@mariahsjourney356]

Wow, this scared me and Im enlisting into the Air force with my husband as a dependent.

[@thepsychicspoon5984]

@@mariahsjourney356 Good luck to you is all I can say.

[@Marilynefc]

Reading this gave me so much anxiety but it needs to be said :( I just pray my husband doesn’t change

[@makaylaward1612]

I just found your channel and like you are so honest and true it is sooo funny!! I am 19 and I feel like I am more mature than most of the wives in my frg group. Most of them are soooo catty!

[@Babylexx27]

Makayla Ward yes it really depends everywhere is different forsure !!

[@________9313]

So I’m confused soldier salary goes towards BAH ???!! I thought you get BAH but then soldier will also get a salary??

[@aidanjohnson2859]

Currently in the USAF and trying to find stuff to help my gf, soon to be wife. Thank you for the information, and all that!

[@itgirlandthatgirl]

My husband just saw a recruiter and I have no idea about anything. He wants us to move on base once he’s stationed and we have 2 kids 😭

[@Babylexx27]

Theresa Martinez yes I think that would be a great option for your family since you will be new to the area ! Definitely have your husband ask for what he wants don’t let him get pushed around if he hasn’t signed already have the recruiter work for it ask for all the bonuse he can get a schools in his contract! Something I wish my husband knew feel free to reach out to me on instagram if you have any other questions

[@itgirlandthatgirl]

Always4everGreens thank you!! Yeah I want to go in with him and talk to the recruiter. He’s suppose to sign all the paperwork on Tuesday. But idk with all the Iran things going around. But I do know the recruiter said bonuses are rare and they don’t do them anymore?

[@jordand8445]

@@itgirlandthatgirl bonuses are rare for branches besides national guard . enlisted must have the requirements and the job titles that cover bonuses too. Your husband can talk to different branch recruiters. Possibly another branch might be suited better for your family. Good luck :)

[@JuicedUpLemon]

@@itgirlandthatgirl I went in and signed up for the Navy after scoring a 75 on my AFQT. This Wednesday I'm going in for my ASVAB test and shooting for a 93 to get a rate with a bonus. I'm female with 3 kids and my husband will be a military spouse, soon enough. We cant wait, honestly.

[@brooklynbowen8418]

Theresa Martinez My husband just swore in last week to the Navy. He got offered a bonus but he has to pass a few things in order to get it

[@malangle9892]

Good information... you hit the nail on the head lol. I laughed out loud when you were talking about the acronyms and said “come again” 😂 Same sis

[@missjedi88]

Stay sweet, smart and beautiful 💫

[@lorimadden5735]

Thank you so much for all of the information! It was very helpful ❤

[@me2cute2c]

Welp! Your honesty is VERY MUCH appreciated.

[@brittanytackett3828]

Been a military spouse for over 8n years. I recommend have a life outside of spouse. I know me working helps. Honestly, I steer away from military things. I mane better friendships with non military associated friends.

[@jackymagallon4790]

Please make a video on what it was like adjusting without your husband.. I have 3 kids my husband is joing the infantry as well and though I'm home alone most of the day I still get help after work and on weekends. I'm scared of being by myself.

[@Babylexx27]

Jacky Magallon I totally can do that it’s just about having your own independents an stuff but it’s definitely a hard adjustment!! Thank you for watching !

[@mpeugeot]

Don't worry, Jodie will be there for you. :P

[@Iamabananagirl]

My boyfriend/husband (getting married in two weeks) plans to go to infantry as well and I’m hella scared. It’s all super chaotic because I personally wanna pursue a bachelors in computer science and not sure what I’m going to do in order to complete that 😂 I just hope to figure something out

[@kimmyymmik]

I’ve been married for 10 years and I still forget my husbands job name 🤣🤣

[@michellevarrillo01]

I want to thank you for your input. I’m currently talking with a military man and there’s a lot I didn’t know

[@Babylexx27]

Definitely and your free to reach out on instagram if you have more questions

[@SittingPRETTY727]

Lol omg they kids in the background too funny and cute 😂

[@TeioneMctear]

How do you make a file to add videos you need to come back too for advice ? I’m trying to save this .

[@ogthriftergoodwill354]

I’m a military wife my husband just retired after 20 years and a lot of that stuff you said is true Too many fake people in the militaryAnd also you got a Lotta good people to I did love the military base living in there because they took care of everything I didn’t have to do anything

[@Babylexx27]

OG thrifter Goodwill yes agree

[@erikaj6717]

My bf and I have been together 2.5 years. He is just starting the process of talking to recruiters but 100 percent plans to join the navy or Air Force. He is older than most new guys 27 but has decided this is what he wants. I think he is my person and I love him but don’t know if I could be alone. Afraid the military would change him and that I would miss him too much. It’s all very sad for me.

[@lydiaivy5991]

Erika J I’m in a similar situation. My boyfriend applied for the Marines without telling me, I thought we’d finally passed his phase of wanting to be in the military. We’ve been saving for a house and planning our lives together & now I don’t know what to do. It’s heartbreaking. I hope you’re okay x

[@Babylexx27]

I think the military normally changes people for the better at least with my experience!

[@YukieOlsheski]

My husband is in the military as well💕💕 love this video!!! You go 👏🏼

[@alexisreynaga9901]

My husband just recently joined the army and he left for basic last week!! I love my husband we were together for 3 years and had a baby then we got married! I actually love mine! He’s been gone a week already and miss him so much! Can wait for him to be done with basic so we can move with him!! But I would love to be your friend if I’m ever in the base you’re at you’re so awesome!

[@Babylexx27]

Awe your sweet !!! Hang in there ❤️❤️🤍🤍🤍

[@Missdaphanyma13]

How’s it going so far??

[@katherinecampton3963]

I can honestly say that making friends is definitely very hard to do the drama is insane and definitely don’t make any plans as well as keep your personal stuff that personal I just talk to my husband

[@thatproverbsmamma]

The abbreviations! Yes! So funny. They are different in every unit and I often meet other wives who speak in abbreviations and I have no idea what they are talking about! It's definitely a different life but worth it to have a family with the person you love 💗

[@patriciacardoza2802]

This video was so helpful! I’ll be moving on base in a couple of weeks! So nervous

[@LadyAuston]

I wish your husband was in the Navy! I feel like we would make great friends 😄

[@bandsss8034]

Showing love from Miami Florida!! Great video thanks for the tips!

[@Qchickenmc]

I am 5 years married. I married him because he was my match. Now he's going back active. I was an Army brat growing. My father was an officer I hated cattiness.

[@TheKeiryArtistry]

Are people allowed to text and call during basic training? And btw thank you for the advices😊❤️

[@pr-starplatinum1990]

Keiry Boutique during basic training no, when they reach to boot camp they will make a phone call saying they reach to the place safely and they will say they gonna put the phone and other things not permitted during boot camp to a box and have it delivered to their homes. A school is a different story

[@TheKeiryArtistry]

NavyScarman ok thank you so much I really appreciate it 🥰❤️

[@pr-starplatinum1990]

Keiry Boutique I got you

[@VNChild]

I love your eyeshadow!!! Your kiddos are so cute. Thanks for making this video.

[@baileymyshelle]

You probably won’t respond, but in the case you do I would love your opinion/information. Me and the guy I am with have been together since I was a junior and he was a senior in high school we are still very young. We have been discussing getting married for a long time now but lately we have been talking about having a family and he asked me to come with him when he decides join. I am terrified of military life but would do anything for my soon to be husband. We love each other so much but the main thing I am terrified of is judgement. The judgment from family, other military members, spouses, etc. do you have tips on how to manage that or keep it minimalistic. Or advice for a girl that really loves her fiancé and just wants to support him and his goals while doing good for myself at the same time and my future family. If that makes sense?

[@Babylexx27]

Bailey Bartschi hey DM me on instagram!! I’d love to talk to you privately @babylexx27

[@calamitysangel2057]

Thank you for this video! This gave me a good feel of what to expect and the sorts of environment I’ll be around. I’d hate to go move in with him and be completely thrown off guard haha

[@carolinapina7187]

Thank you for all the advice and being so honest. I means a lot! 💙💙💙

[@liltrinity333]

14:17 had me dead 💀

[@youngsfamilynest6984]

I’m a military wife husband is in the army and we are at Fort Bragg 😑lol my husband has been in 4 years and so ready to PCS

[@Babylexx27]

Young’sFamilyNest awe good luck !! Glad to have you at my channel hope you stick around

[@juiceystar07FAN]

Young’sFamilyNest how is it there ? that’s where my man will be getting stationed pretty soon 😭

[@youngsfamilynest6984]

Desiree Zamora it’s not bad here girl. It’s nice but after about 3 years you get tired of it 😂😂and you’ll be ready to PCS lmao 😂 girl I’m ready to PCS now

[@tinydancer867]

Oh gosh! I was an army spouse for ten years and we were always at Bragg. Thankfully I actually was raised my whole life about an hour from Bragg in NC so I had family around and knew my way around and kept my friends. I was lucky!!! We never did live on post though because Bragg housing is awful! Mold in a lot of homes, that don’t get fixed by the government even after a million complaints. But I did like our hospital ( Womack ). Very nice hospital.

[@ikedaangelina8354]

I am a wife of almost 3 years with my honey and he is going into the milarty this year I appreciate this video!

[@Babylexx27]

Ikeda Angelina thank you so much for watching !!

[@ahabwerachel9967]

Did you say you can't get a house help while staying at a military base @1:03?