Bad Manners: What NOT to say or do (Polite English)

Every language is also a culture. Make sure you know the one habit you MUST avoid to succeed in North American and British cultures. I'll also teach you 14 other mistakes in English etiquette and manners, such as what not to ask, when not to speak, and what not to wear to the office. Knowing what NOT to say and do will give you the cultural keys to success in your personal, social, and professional life. Take a quiz on this lesson here: www.engvid.com/bad-manners-pol...
TRANSCRIPT
Hi, my name is Rebecca from www.engvid.com. In today's lesson, you'll learn how to function effectively in a cross-cultural environment - in North America, in Britain, and so on -, and what you should not do. This is actually one of two videos that I've recorded. The other one is on good manners, and this one is about bad manners. This one is about what you should not do when you're in North America or in England. Okay? So I've divided it between what you should not say and what you should not do. Let's have a look.
So, in terms of speaking: when you're speaking in a group or in a public place, try not to speak in a very loud voice. Don't speak too loudly; keep your volume relative to other people's volume. All right? Listen. Now, again, everything that I'm going to say to you here remember always take it with a pinch of salt. What does this expression mean? Understand that it's not 100% like that, but generally speaking it's like that. Okay?
Next one: in a public situation such as a party, try to avoid controversial subjects. What does that mean? A controversial subject is something where people have strong views such as religion or politics. We try to avoid these subjects, for example: at a social occasion, at a wedding, or a party because if you get into a discussion with someone on these subjects it can become a little bit aggressive, it can become a little bit angry, and perhaps that's not very kind to your host or hostess that are planning a pleasant kind of event. So remember to keep that in mind. Of course, with your own friends or people you know well or people you see often, you do share your views on these subjects and that may be perfectly okay. All right?
Next: we also avoid speaking about money. I know that money is, of course, of great interest to everyone, but we usually do not ask people that we don't know well or acquaintances or people we've just met, we don't ask them questions like: "How much do you make?", "How much do you earn?", "How much did you pay for your house or your car?" or something else. We don't ask that because it's not polite. Okay? Of course, again, with people you know well, you may share that information. And if somebody decides to share that with you, that's fine, but you try to avoid asking it.
Next is not to ask personal questions. What do I mean by personal questions? You don't usually ask people how old they are or how much they weigh or something like that, or how many... If they're married or if they have kids. Now, again, if you're a married person and you have children and you meet another married person and it's clear that he or she has children, it's perfectly fine to talk about how old your children are because it's obvious that you all have children. So I don't mean to never ask them, but if you meet just one person you don't want to start asking them: "Oh, why don't you have children?" or something like that because that's giving advice very early when you barely know somebody and people don't like that kind of advice usually.
Next is avoid talking about yourself because that can sometimes seem like you're boasting. Now, of course, that doesn't mean not to give information about yourself, but not to talk too much about yourself. When you talk too much about yourself then people feel that you're... you just care about yourself. Instead of that, show, tell a little bit about yourself, and then turn the conversation and turn the focus and the attention onto the other person; ask them about themselves. Okay, the next point is not to interrupt people. In many different cultures there're many different rules about this, but in North America generally when one person is speaking we try to wait until they finish speaking and then we say what we want to say. Try not to interrupt while other people are speaking.
Last point here is about speaking when your mouth is full. Don't do it. In other words: don't eat and talk at the same time. Eat - if you're at a dinner -, eat, finish eating, and then speak. Nobody likes to see all that food inside your mouth and neither can we understand you very clearly when you have something in your mouth, so avoid that.

[@Paulo37580]

Very useful hints for eveyone who is interested in behaving properly anywhere in the world! No matter the culture they belong to! I wish tons of people could see this precious video lesson! Thank you so much for posting it! Greetings from Brazil.

[@alltexturesafricanhairbrai596]

Thanks so much Mr Rebecca for your advices remain blessed with your family. I listen to you just for 1 hour and i have learn so much. Thanks

[@soscar5050]

When I started to practice these I earn people respect. Thanks

[@annyrocha6580]

Thank you so much for the class! For example, I'm from Brazil and here is very common kiss cheeks and hug when we met someone new. It's our culture. So it's very important to know about other contries before we went to travel. Lol. :)

[@kannan6645]

Good

[@kannan6645]

Anny Rocha you follow your culture

[@omararias5323]

SHE IS A GREAT TEACHER.

[@user-vr3pg2pf2j]

Ms Rebecca, your English lessons are very easily to understand, thank you for your great, and powerful English lesson, thank you very much.

[@catsmith7375]

I live in London which is so multicultural now so I see this all the time. It's not just immigrants but uneducated Brits who haven't had a good upbringing. It all depends on how you are raised.

[@icecreamforcrowhurst]

Certainly how you are raised can provide advantages but good manners can be learned and practiced by anyone regardless of background. You have to want improve and then practice.

[@TwinkiesDesigns]

I work with exchange students and all of these points are very valid and helpful. Thank you! Also, much thanks for including perfume/cologne on the list. Our meetings are all fragrance free to protect those with allergies, asthma, and migraines.

[@ES-mt8ui]

This is very important points for everyone to follow!

[@rosannamagliani9466]

thanks Rebecca your class are very interesting..your explanations are clearly

[@zl6524]

Thank you for your lessons. I am going to study in UK in September. So, your lessons will be a great help to me.

[@istiundcaro]

Rebecca, thank you! I loved the lesson, especially the quiz at the end. The explanations to choose from for a fragrance free office are hilarious. I love you Canadians!

[@johnrayalves8155]

Thank you rebecca! I learned a lot from you on how to speak english more fluently and correctly.

[@heribertoreygarciaalvarez312]

Thank you so much for these videos . They have been very useful in my classes.

[@kumarr9267]

Ms.Rebecca, your explanation is very good.I love your videos so much.Thank you for your wonderful teachings.

[@manvhajadhav8073]

Best teacher...best lecture. Thank you.

[@Lily-do8sl]

Great video! One of my New Years Resulutions is to remember my manners. This is a great reminder on the subject! :)

[@IJAbraham]

She is teaching etiquette or good manners. This is a good breath of fresh air.

[@CristinadelaLuz]

Miss Rebecca, you are a very good teacher,I like watching your videos because I learn a lot from them, I like the way you teach and pronounce because I can understand everything you say,thank you so much.

[@mastree1]

Rebbeca, you are the best English teacher I've ever seen.

[@cvelu9896]

Hi,Rebecca,You are mature and teaching peacefully and amicably from the core of your heart.

[@binaykumarpadhy6867]

You are my teacher(Guru) Rebecca Madam. I am ever grateful to you and when I'll get chance I must give you 'Guru Dakshina".

[@ftrtraderssheeri1805]

it's totally amazing to hear you voice clarity n you explanations lessons thanks alot

[@musicfan6575]

Some Americans need to watch and learn from this Video.

[@davidw.3606]

I think north American's and British need to watch this!!

[@poniecka]

Thank You :) We knew everything before, but repeating is good way, especially for young generation

[@gitishirasb7874]

Perfect, thank you so much

[@pavelukraine4929]

Good Lesson. From time to time I do these mistakes.

[@Catsinabirdcage]

Dear Rebecca. I understand you. You have brought up many good points that I will share with my students. Thank you for taking the time to make this video. Cheers!

[@istiundcaro]

After having to endure on a transatlantic flight the nauseating foot smell of the person next to me who had taken off his shoes right after take off, I appreciate so much your lesson on good and bad manners especially what you had to say about body odor.

[@awdalysaleh4045]

It is an excellent practical , beneficial , and educational lesson , indeed I do not expected that I'll found a lesson such this , thank you so much . Hope you happy holiday . I want to listening again and again .

[@puspendey]

It is an excellent video. Very very well thought out. Thanks a lot.

[@ahmadzahraa426]

you are a very good teacher,I like watching your videos because I learn a lot from them, I like the way you teach and pronounce because I can understand everything you say,thank you so much.

[@jingxuanchen5541]

Thank you very much! I find it so useful! Especially the body odor part. It is not easy for people to be aware of their bad breath or clothe odor. And it is not in our culture that we need to take care of the smell. I always wondered why North Americans don't smell bad. you just gave me the answer. lol

[@julietselma731]

You’re so good 😊 ma’am..thank you for this!!!God bless you more ❤️❤️💐💐🙏🙏

[@delphineyara7259]

Thanks for the explanation. Very easy video. Thank you so much.

[@awdalysaleh4045]

Indeed I have to do all these advises it is great great great . And we do so , however , I admired these advises , thank you so much .

[@marielegan9573]

Miss Rebecca, you are a very good teacher, I like the way you teach and pronounce because I can understand everything you say, I come from Belgium (It's not an underdeveloped country), in my country we give a kiss to everyone even if we do not know the person. Also no one would be bothered by the smell of garlic, which is not at all well seen in Germany, that's why it's good for me to hear what your say. Thank you very much for your explanations and especially do not let yourself be discouraged by people who take your good advice as a personal attack

[@topglobal4076]

Ms.Rebecca is the best ever i learn a lot thanks

[@rovetams3337]

Another thing to learn,thank you so much Ma'am 😘😘

[@allenbob81]

Rebecca you pour experience out , I like your way in teaching so simple so good thanks I've got a lots from you ...

[@marioinglestv]

Yes Rebecca, language equals culture. It's true!

[@samranelam4162]

Thank you Teacher Rebecca.

[@ranjumishra3481]

Mam I am from india and I love your classes and I loved all rules because I am also kind of people who don't like these activities thank you so much really impressive class👌👍

[@franciabautista9889]

Thank you so much for this lesson.. good reminder. .

[@yourinfoteacher]

those ideas uses in all cultures thank you rebacca

[@miyokikim2283]

Rebbeca, your lecture is always great

[@priyabujji7120]

Thank you very much mam ,I have watched regularly your series.

[@lagatimelodica]

Darling... good manners are universal. Thanks any way, I think this migth help many people, even US natives 👍

[@praveenbangera9162]

Thank you very much for your good advice.

[@dinnerkbr]

Thanks. I think, in any cowtry is the simple rules, but is important for the people know how do. Thanks one more time. Esteio - RS - Brazil

[@azzam3751]

Thank you for the lesson, it was great.

[@soscar5050]

Amazing, amazing, amazing. Thank you

[@fredericoiscorsoni7302]

Great! But North American should see and to practice these topics

[@arelisteran1249]

Hi teacher! Thanks for your teaching

[@laiqbal4611]

hello. I am Indonesian, nice and clear explanation. Thank you

[@Lebagnon1]

thank you Rebbeca you are the best...

[@ivonesantiagotrocilo1083]

Thank you for your explains.

[@rafi.connect]

thank you very much. these are common things in almost all cultures in the world i guess. your teaching style is great so cool and calm. great video. thank you so much.

[@RwandaVoiceTv]

Thx Rebecca you good teacher English. I'm new student in your class but I'm still to learn and to improve English. Let's ask you ? what advice you give. Sorry I'm forget to tell you I come from. I came from Rwanda Africa.

[@lakmalrajapaksha5188]

i'm vry grateful to u for ur lesson

[@EngrBander]

Really I like your lesson too much .... Thanks Rebbeca

[@MuhammadEgypt]

Love how you Canadians don't stare at each others. Thumbs up!

[@kemirembehady5747]

Thanks 🙏 for teaching

[@georginafrimpong1327]

Wow! Powerful lesson!

[@azizaalaoui7313]

Thanks Rebecca, it s a good topic.

[@TutorialesparaelsigloXXI]

Thanks for you video, I think is very useful

[@kimipbnikhuma8000]

Excellent thank you so much fir making this video

[@MrsPrenumbra]

Wonderful, very clear English

[@alaadiab3808]

Thank you Rebecca you spared no effort

[@RajniKanthkodipelly]

subtitles are very useful and thank you

[@madhugotti1]

Thanks a lot for good lecture very helpful to me .

[@farahnadeem4141]

I love ur teaching style

[@axelin_gaming]

thank you so much ,you are awesome . all video are really helping me a lot

[@SharowarAlom]

Thanks a lot for this very informative class. I am from Bangladesh. I really liked it.

[@RodrigoSantos-vc4xm]

Thank you Professor

[@ViacheslavKr]

Great as usually!

[@josefernandoduque3101]

Good advice Rebecca , thx

[@user-dl3gv9io9v]

thank you so much for a class .

[@parbatibishwokarma3402]

thanks it's really important to know us

[@virendrayadav561]

very good

[@user-cq6nf9mc3g]

So useful！ Thank U！

[@devimohan9252]

Thank you so much it is very useful

[@SaadAltuilaai]

ah! thank you for keeping me on my toes.

[@Gunna355able]

very helpful and useful thanx.

[@gunajnsharma2151]

Thank you!

[@mariorafaelsierraarias7421]

That´s was an ace video!

[@gaelg8664]

Hi, Thank you for this funny moment, especially when you said don't smell bad.

[@lakshmanankomathmanalath]

great. thank you.

[@elenasandalova4150]

great advises!

[@MarcoGuidastri]

Many thanks from Italy. Since in our uncivilized country we don't have the faintest idea about how to behave properly, this lesson has been very usefull !! Thanks to your precious instructions, we now know that we don't have to fart, burp, and spit in pubblic ! Anyway, this video aside, which i find sincerely quite offensive and unacceptable, i want you to know that i consider you a good teacher, and that i enjoy your lessons.

[@tahianabtahimahinchowdhury5308]

MarcoGuidastri

[@tahianabtahimahinchowdhury5308]

Good manners are good for you.👍

[@zanetegorsanova3729]

Excellent!

[@viendo9209]

Good teacher good lecture

[@blasphemer1992]

Very useful, thank you :D

[@sunilsai6271]

Wonderful Video! Thanks for sharing this. I was very stressed off in life, because I was always doing things which is not supposed to be done! My friend asked me to use this "DONT DO" iPhone app by lokesh which helps me to make sure that I dont do whatever I am supposed to not do! now, I am far better in life and happier as I do only which is required to be done! tools really help me!

[@aboubakaribrahim2877]

Great thank you

[@dilinifernando1494]

Teaching well.💖

[@Outdoorboy.123]

mam your teaching style is very easy thanks ma'm

[@fatmasupian3705]

Thank you very much it's can help to us

[@malqudaihi]

Thank you so much

[@twilightstar1895]

Great video. I just learned I have a few bad manners to get rid of .. lol. Tnk you !

[@trintp1686]

Thank you so much. It is really useful informaton because something you said it is rude in your country but in my country it is okay. I will tell me students then. Thank you again.