Gentlemen's Body Language Etiquette: Polite Ways to Sit, Stand & Walk

Does your body language have an impact on how you are perceived by other people? How can you comport yourself as a gentleman?
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Why Is Body Language Important?
Just as important as verbal communications are the things you're doing non-verbally to try to communicate your point and your mood to others. Though various different studies have tried to quantify just how much information in a conversation is communicated nonverbally, these numbers aren't concrete. Even so, it's well established that nonverbal communication, for example, the ways in which you sit, stand, gesture, walk, and more do play a role in how you're perceived.
Physical expression can communicate both attitude and message. And what's more, these nonverbal cues can sometimes be more persuasive than what you're actually saying.
So, while specific actions like gestures might be interpreted differently based on geography, being generally aware of your demeanor and comportment is essential in being understood; whether in social or business settings. The etiquette guidelines we'll lay out today then will improve conversation, minimize misinterpretation, and overall reflect more positively on you.
00:00 Introduction
02:26 Eye Contact and Expression
03:54 Hand Gestures
05:03 How A Man Should Sit
08:41 How A Man Should Stand
11:08 A Note: Personal Space
12:58 How A Man Should Walk
16:53 Outfit Rundown
If you struggle to pick up on social cues for any reason, say, for example, being on the autism spectrum, find someone you trust, and have a private conversation with them about how to build up your perception of social cues moving forward. On the flip side, if you know someone who struggles to pick up on these cues be patient and kind with them but never patronizing.

[@gentlemansgazette]

A note that this video was produced prior to the COVID-19 pandemic; because the section on personal space is less relevant under current circumstances, we withheld the video for a time. We hope, however, that you'll still find our advice useful, and that this section will become relevant again as things eventually return to normal. Stay safe and healthy, viewers! - Preston

[@darramlogan7126]

I hate COVID-19 and want it to go away ASAP. I hate talking about it.

[@TheTubaEmporer]

I have learned something new if every one of your videos.

[@craft-o-matic2377]

Hi Preston, Great video as always. Off topic, I am wondering if the Fort Belvedere shadow stripe socks in the smallest size will fit women who wear a size 7 1/2 shoe? Thanks dear! Lisa

[@themoderndandy713]

@@craft-o-matic2377 A small pair of Fort Belvedere socks fits men's shoe sizes 6-7.5 (US sizing), and a men's 6 fits a women's 7.5. You should be fine with a small pair of socks.

[@craft-o-matic2377]

@@themoderndandy713 Thank you very much! Lisa

[@gabriel8578]

The jawline on this man is putting Clark Kent to rest

[@TheDukeBoX101]

This channel has been great during lockdown. I'm still broke but when I'm not I'll look good!

[@johnb4966]

Are people still doing lockdowns???? Lolol

[@jonahpeacock2561]

@@johnb4966 some people have immune conditions or care for someone who does and some people live in countries or regions that are still enforcing lockdowns.

[@LoscoX]

@@jonahpeacock2561 here in italy, we think that it will might possible another lock down in the next weeks. Some little areas, mainly in the south, are arleady signed as red areas which they are now in lock down, so it could be possible.

[@kendavid891]

And how!

[@johnb4966]

@@jonahpeacock2561 98% survival rate....open your eyes

[@miapunkki4460]

the young man in the video is the embodiment of gentlemanly modesty and dignity, it is difficult to overestimate the contribution of your team!

[@johanjohansen7572]

Haha, I love all the goofy gestures and faces you make. Great to have some humor on this fantastic channel.

[@burritodog3634]

whats that profile pic

[@richardmcgowan6383]

A further point about sitting with your legs crossed: remember how long your socks are. Flashing a length of hairy shin won't look good. Invest in knee-length socks for job interviews and other important occasions.

[@MonkyDollqueen]

Work tip: stand up, stretch, take a walk, go to the airport, get on a plane and never return. ☺️👍

[@fabi7562]

You bored?

[@LDarlong]

Life tip: stand up, stretch, take a walk, go to the airport, get on a plane and jump off mid air. 😚👍

[@MonkyDollqueen]

Shimmi Shanga hahahaha

[@amazchannel625]

@@MonkyDollqueen hello there

[@RemusGT]

@@amazchannel625 General Kenobi

[@Officialhelpkenet]

I've found that exercise and manual labour makes my movements and body language more natural, especially when walking. So to everyone who finds that they look awkward when moving around, I suggest trying to either exercise or do some heavy work in the yard or something.

[@LH_Vagrant]

I would especially recommend making sure your upper back is in shape, be it through sports, work or specific training exercises. When the upper back muscles are in shape, proper posture comes naturally. Especially archery training helped me to adopt an open posture, whereas previously I had a natural tendency to walk somewhat hunched.

[@FatShork]

Dance and ballet can help too!

[@robertv.8893]

As a person with autism myself, I want to say thank you for mentioning that people with autism need to find a peer to help them (if need be) on these social cues. There is one point of feedback though. People with autism follow different guidelines of social cues and that is untrainable. Mentoring would help but generalized situations often fall short on the reality for them. Its like we think we learn him to fish but instead he just got the fish to eat for that day... Just thought to chip than in as autism expert for those watching the video :)

[@robbgregorrichard1009]

Hello @Robert V. , I agree with you with most of what you say. I have also autism and as a young lad, I used to struggle very much with these things. However, as someone who got enough luck to have been trained and worked in the military prior to my diagnosis, I got the opportunity to be corrected on my posture and the aspects of body language dealt with in this video during that time. But true to say that more subtle cues are, unfortunately, difficult to understand... Or I understand through other things. So, anyhow, I still think that such video would be helpful for some of us. Even if we are all différent...

[@syntacticalcrab]

@Seaworth "You guys"? What guys do you mean, exactly?

[@kaidablu]

@Seaworth It is, though .Autism is a separate neurology which by definition affects both how we take in information and use it. Robert's commenting specifically that in situations that aren't one to one to a situation we have been taught a response to, we often do not consider them similar in the way a neurotypical person would and therefore won't apply a taught response to them. I have this issue somewhat regularly, even though I'm passable at masking. Scripting can help, but it's inauthentic and frankly stressful.

[@lizcademy4809]

As I often say ... if you meet one person with ASD - you've met one person with autism. Everyone presents differently. There's a lot of high functioning autism (Aspergers) in my family. We can and have learned non-verbal communication, but it's conscious learning, and takes practice to get right. Having a few rules can get you started, but then there are all the exceptions, cultural differences, code switching ... these are important skills, and while not everyone can learn them, it's always worth the effort to try.

[@loud479]

You beat me to the punch

[@veronicianyveronica5290]

Hahaha I love your eyes contact Preston at 2:57 😆😆😊😊 you’re the best actor 👍👍👍

[@MrPh30]

I am so tired of the 4 feet social distancing policy,,i am so looking forward to return to the 15 feet Norwegian standard 😎😀

[@reidhind5877]

I appreciate the mentioning of disabilities and specifically autism in this video, I think it’s great that you include these things since they’re very important parts of some people’s lives (like me with ASD traits and scoliosis) !! Great video

[@viclucyzia]

Thank you once again dear Gents. I'm becoming a new man. People are already recognizing it through wardrobe and behavior. This is my favorite chanel.

[@surfingcipher1059]

Your voice is the clearest I've ever hear man

[@chasesahc]

Well done, Sir. Your advice reminded me a lot of how I was taught to walk at New Mexico Military Institute, a military high school / college. Proper etiquette was very important there and I’m glad for it. I wish it were more widely taught.

[@shazad106]

I love the way you show what 'not to do' 😂 Preston is like a stuntman!

[@onio5010]

Love that at 1:17!! Ah oh, sh*t, not enough to pay for that meal...Great acting Raphael!

[@syntacticalcrab]

This is such a lovely video that managed to explain expected social cues without being ableist or neurotypical about it. Bravo.

[@mingwangchung]

This is a fantastic video! Well done mate, well done. I especially appreciate your honesty with your physical attributes that can effect the way people might move or interact. Food for thought when talking to others that might have such. I have personally focused on body language for 20 years and found this video to be spot on the money, I also noticed that I walk with fists and I will now adjust my walk. Thank you again gentleman, yours sincerely CJ.

[@BuckingHorse-Bull]

the walking and standing also have psychological effects too

[@mikro272]

Thank you gentleman's gazette. You are doing a really good job. This channel helped me a lot.

[@ultimonx9152]

Definitely appreciate a person giving advice on how to be more formal and presentable without giving off disgusting amounts of incel vibes.

[@TheTubaEmporer]

I greatly enjoy listening to your voice Preston, and I wish everyone spoke like you.

[@leninmoreno4020]

Preston, the man, the myth, the legend.

[@TheGabygael]

*t-poses aggressively with a vitriolic stare* I think i'm doing alright (honestly, thank you for explaining why i'm in constant pain and often ignored whenever i'm standing talking to people)

[@arandomintrovert9552]

It's quite a distinguished video, but my question is, How to keep my hands while standing still or walking, I would be delighted to know. Sorry if it's wrong or weird I was just trying to be socialized...well that is what the book says 😅

[@yungsimpson179]

I have never thought about such simple things in such depth, awesome !!!

[@atharvasamant581]

This was the video I was waiting for. Thanks team!

[@ZachariahMBaird]

These tips are great but I always forget them whenever I'm actually talking to someone and after the conversation ends I think about how I should've done it differently.

[@rabignall]

Always educational. Love you folks!

[@SuperAgedCheese]

THIS MANS JAWLINE IS AMAZING

[@streetvybzswag1.067]

This video is so ridiculous well produced and the quality is absolutely amazing

[@JoJo-xp6wr]

Yes thank you! I wanted to know how to stand, sit and move like a gentleman! Thank you!

[@user-ly5mj2xw6o]

Thanks for the video again, Rafael. In our culture, leg over leg is similar to man spread, as an impolite gesture which is sad because I really like to sit like this.

[@callingacejack1334]

If I had Prestons ""staring face" as a large printout pinned over my bed I would need 1 instead of 7 alarms in the morning...

[@Alberad08]

Yes, that one is awesome - being a good concert singer, he had to have something like this in his sleeve too.

[@johncrichton7461]

He looked just like Bubbles from Trailer Park Boys.

[@Operator-om8ih]

I believe “Sting” said it best. “A gentleman will walk but never run.” Englishmen in New York is a great song.

[@BrandonAOrtiz]

Fantastic advice! Thank you!

[@jostv.2726]

Staring Preston will hunt me in my dreams for the next few weeks. Great video as always, thank you! And greetings from Germany!

[@method1224]

Thank you for this information 😊👏🏽

[@gustavosoto3957]

Guys, your channel is amazing 💚

[@DemetriosLevi]

Totally random note, but I really love the fact that you choose Zodiac for the clip of phone hand gestures...such a great movie! Fantastic video as always, gents...I'm gonna start practicing on my walk now!

[@gentlemansgazette]

We love the effort and humor you put into your videos, and of course the reaction to your former self. Just filmed something similar... Are you still working with craftsmen clothing mostly?

[@DemetriosLevi]

@@gentlemansgazette can't wait to see that! No, not anymore. Flying solo now haha still a great company though!

[@tomahawk1556]

Thank You So Much for this Etiquette Class for the Gentlemen tutorial >>> Jolly Good Show indeed! 🕯🌷🌿

[@jungerpatriot5703]

The Gentlemans Gazette fits to me so well, it could have been my own idea👍🏼🤗

[@smartypants3919]

This man has a very adorable manner of speaking.

[@ProxyBuks]

13:28 - Ministery of Silly Walks is BACK!

[@TheGabrielberki]

Lol!

[@kreytube5177]

Thank you sir, it is very informative .

[@helicopterpeace7434]

Goodness! It takes much to make me laugh but your video had me in stitches. Thank you for your elegant humor with this important topic.

[@panos_is_sleepy6096]

It was about time someone thought people how to walk and keep a good posture.

[@mileschapman1406]

1:32 ahh... The Dying Gladiator

[@diegolima8755]

omg lol

[@atcamperlengo1]

Fantastic video for men & women alike! Danke schön!

[@chaosnightravngaming88]

I just turned 18 and thought I'd set off on the right foot. Though alot of this isnt new

[@OneFinalAutumn]

This video is pretty useful acting wise. I've been working on portraying a charismatic character and wanted to check my progress with this video. Turns out the only thing I need to work on is my standing 👍

[@juantwo322]

This has been a great 👍🏻 video because it touches on many aspects, even the disability aspect for many people... How about a video on how to act or conduct yourself when dealing with people with a disability ? 🤔 Could be physical or mental as U mentioned.. 👏🏻 👋🏻

[@weldslikebutterfabrication483]

Great video guys love the content.

[@AlexxieSanchez]

Thanks for making me better

[@eyeheartsushi2212]

GG etiquette videos are the best.

[@peterkeleher]

i watch these videos simply because Raphael makes me laugh with his amazing facial acting :D

[@fmac6441]

I’m from Brazil and, from personal preference, use in most cases the leg over leg, but is considerer a feminine way, most men use the figure-four. Ps: sorry for the mispeling

[@atirri93]

KZbin literally covers everything and you can study everything from here. Even sitting and walking

[@bronovalter391]

Having lived in some rough neighborhoods, I know that walking slow with your head down and your shoulders hunched communicates, victim here, come and get it! I always walk with purpose.

[@halfinchholes88]

Never walk, jog, or run with your hands in pockets! I've restored several folks front teeth after they stumbled, tripped, and faceplanted. Nothing worse than reconstructing a smile, and supporting structures. Can be done, albeit, not as quickly or as fast as they were ruined. Just my $.02.

[@amadejpesko]

Great. Very useful video.👍😁

[@TheNavalAviator]

14:58 Those exaggerated exemplary displays really give me a chuckle. ^^

[@davidmoore734]

As per usual, great video! One thought, however: leg- on- leg sitting, while polite, is not great for lower- body circulation, and can lead to varicose veins in the legs.

[@antonengstroem1999]

1:18 is my favorite frame of this video!

[@giniwelle]

Thanks a lot.

[@NofapSemenretention]

this is really amazing

[@spotsill]

When you are in a threatening situation and don’t feel secure walking with your fists clenched is a sign of physical strength and makes you appear to be a less vulnerable target .

[@MrBarnettcm]

…Hmm there def. Exist the possibility that this could have the opposite affect

[@spotsill]

@@MrBarnettcm i’am the size of a child nobody is intimidated by me 😂😂😵‍💫😵‍💫. It gives you a different perspective because you know the odds of you fighting your way out of a situation is limited and no I do no carry a gun 😂😂.

[@-RONNIE]

Well done 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@cabinetdavocat9777]

I know a teenager (who was educated at a boxing gym where they were not allowed to put his hands in his pockets): he came home from school, stating he wasn't going to work with another boy at school and who kept his hand in his pocket while talking to him.

[@danielharouche3210]

Thank you for your helpful instructions and guidance. I have a walking situation when I'm out with my wife. I think I'm polite by walking at her pace, but I feel that her much slower speed hampers me. I feel ungainly. I've noticed other men will not wait for their slower partners, especially when shopping. Advice please.

[@OrrosGG]

Michael, Trevor and Franklin kickin’ the door again!

[@amill1563]

Thank you Preston. Always good to keep in mind. Do you mind if I ask your current height?

[@elsav9295]

The video is informative but funny too. Also, your Allen Edmonds shoes need a video of its own.

[@guystuart4]

Could you do a video on Robert Graham? Thanks!

[@balshawj389]

i have a slightly unique way of walking i have my right hand still or in a pocket with the thumb out elbow slightly bent stops hunching shoulders and my left arm swings

[@residentevil1197]

This channel is great, let's bring back chivalry gents!

[@gerardacronin334]

In Middle Eastern countries it’s considered very rude to show the soles of your shoes to others. So the 4 position would not be appropriate.

[@MrAlpinab7]

Even more broke than before, but now i'm a style icon in my area thanks to GG🤣

[@kaiyusun9222]

Lovely people in the GG team

[@Seonthepoet]

I have a question regarding eye contact because I have a nystagmus how can I communicate this in social settings so as to remain confident. I have struggled with this all my life.

[@rrtds9378]

LOL, I like the funny samples of what not to do.

[@henkkman]

That stare! 🤓😂

[@caraboska]

I see that you use the barrel-style cufflink closure, as I do. I do not currently travel in circles where cufflinks are widely used, but am aware that the barrel style is relatively uncommon compared to the "pinched" closure (which presumably displays more ostentatiously that one is in fact using cufflinks rather than a button closure). I have therefore been looking for feedback on the barrel style cufflink closure - its pros and cons, how it is perceived by the larger cufflink-wearing community. So, Preston, could I ask for your thoughts on these matters?

[@bluestar.8938]

May I say, you do socks so well, really. Thank you : )

[@Mr-Atheist]

Great❤

[@rollingtones1]

7:37 Imagine that - no cell phones, iPads or laptops.

[@HaSiHappy]

The deliberate staring almost fits with all those horror games and videos on the internet...😱

[@ismanewalker3475]

I feel like Gentleman's Gazette and The Report Of The Week would work well together, if they were to do a collaboration.

[@BeefyTV]

Crossing the legs is a no go for me, either figure of 4 or knee on knee, not comfortable at all

[@perryd43]

can not do the brown shoes at all w/a suit....tahnk you for the post..very helpful

[@reddypratapcas3217]

A very fine channel

[@Deerhunterjs]

This may be missed by the creator, but as someone with a back injury that causes me to have to move amd change positions very frequently to stay comfortable anything to avoid in those scenarios?

[@_very]

Thanks now I know how to walk.

[@jostv.2726]

I always wonder, do Preston and Sven Raphael both live in the USA? And is Preston american? I am not a native speaker, but his accent is so distinct and clear, which I think is very pleasant to listen to.

[@reboucus]

Looking at this guy I can't stop thinking about he saying "Do u want a cop of tea?" 😂 By the way your tips are priceless ✨

[@Wolvenmoth]

The Hand Gesture moderation thing does not apply to italians. So the thing were it changes by your education and such, it is true

[@robertthomason4410]

Working on my diabetic neuropathy. Sucks not being able to strut. Bad asp walking stick works good until I can sit down.

[@kelvinnguyen6048]

Great cheekbones

[@bryanperez4459]

nice video btw