Death Cab for Cutie - "Styrofoam Plates" (Audio)

[@tjwilliams2036]

There is a ton of put-on anger and tough guy attitude in a lot of rock music. But for all the thrashing and screaming, I don't think I've ever heard a song express more anger and bitterness than this soft rock masterpiece by DCFC. It is dripping with it so powerfully.

[@noelaguirrechavez4462]

After the long instrumental, you just hear the anger in Ben's voice

[@ItsMcDude]

Here's to bad parents who probably gave us tons of great rock music.

[@albinredzepi5866]

Cheers to that! And also tons of great authors(i speak from personal experience)

[@acidcop]

Albin redzepi you're a great author?

[@albinredzepi5866]

acidcop Oh. That came out wrong. Sorry. English is my second language. I meant that most of the best authors i read had troubled childhoods

[@daydrmnation]

True dat

[@coffee5736]

I don't think the song is about Ben's parents, but I see your point.

[@Tony-yg6bz]

Crazy that so many of us are here for the same reason. Let's be better than our fathers :) thanks dcfc

[@speedyspooley]

I am.....it's the reason I don't have any kids.

[@MrAcballer72]

too real fam

[@sikka1014]

same

[@PhoenixRiseinFlame]

I can’t be a better father if I can’t find a wife...

[@MrSyphor01]

Yup. My dad was the perfect example of what not to be.

[@KarmaCoreRecords]

That bit where Ben almost cracks at the end always puts a tear in my eyes. What a powerful song.

[@speedyspooley]

This song perfectly describes my father. Right down to the end. I didn't go to the funeral. Some family members who didn;t know the story thought it was disrespectful of me. One of my sisters finally told them what a bastard he was. They had no idea. He was a bastard in life, thus a bastard in death. You get older. You learn how to cope. You get on with your life...but there's always a hole.

[@TonyContiniProductions]

A hole from an a* hole

[@shannonmcintire7299]

@@poopstewart It's not your fault- he was clearly a coward in life so its apropos that he would take the coward's way out and collect sympathy from others who were unaware of his past atrocities. He could have chosen to be a good father and a good man while he was still alive or at least made amends (whether they were accepted or not).

[@mynameisjongreen]

I am one of the few lucky people to have had brilliant parents and a happy upbringing, but this song is so beautifully written that it still reduces me to tears every time I hear it. And though I'll never know how bad it feels, I really feel like I can understand what lesser fortunate people have been through and my heart goes out to them. I urge anyone in my position to do what they can to help people in need. Give money to charity, volunteer at a soup kitchen, help your friends in need, give whatever you can.

[@bobbymcgee9884]

Great trauma builds great character. Most of us that found ourselves in this situation face a beautiful silver lining of knowing that our own personal future generations will never have to endure what we did. It taught me how to be self sufficient, resilient, and persistent. Gibbard nailed this one.

[@akeverandall2361]

seewolf corniest shit ever what does having 2 parents have to do with volunteering in soup kitchens

[@wndsrfr50bluocean5]

@@akeverandall2361 Moral of the story. if you were fortunate enough to have a complete and steady home life then help others who aren't so fortunate themselves. Really wasnt that hard to figure, was it?

[@djagaming2469]

Your comment reduced me to tears! That was beautiful!

[@mynameisjongreen]

@@akeverandall2361 Five years on and reading this now I'll admit the comment was pretty corny and a tad self righteous. But as the commenter above responded, it's really not hard to understand the point I was trying to make. Those who have more should help those who have less. I never said that you need two parents either, of course it's possible to have a healthy and privileged upbringing with just one parent (or three!). The problem is for those who grow up with abusive or absent parents, or in extreme poverty. Anyone who can afford to help others should help others, I stand by that.

[@Cissablack708]

I listened to this song on repeat the say my father died.. he was well and truly an evil bastard. I'm glad to be free of him at long last.

[@speedyspooley]

Same, buddy.

[@prohumanitate]

Same same, fam. May our shitty seed donors rot in hell

[@nicholasbrian8492]

This song is so masterfully written. I mean, the simple fact that its written in 3/4 time to emphasis the lyrics is brilliant enough as it is, but then you throw in the building up to the rage and Ben Gibbard's voice of ten thousand angels, its utterly perfect. Best song ever, bro.

[@missseattle4778]

couldn't agree more. truly a masterpiece.

[@romeocortez9819]

Yes!

[@haydencourtney7419]

Songs written in 3/4 never get their true dignity

[@santibone]

Like Happiness is a Warm Gun by The Beatles 🥰

[@xdevantx5870]

I love the build up to the rant.

[@DIGITAL7Media]

I love my parents and they have been the most wonderful people in my life. They were funny, smart, inspiring. At times I feel guilty and blessed. But I am beyond compassionate to those who have had it rough. This song I feel, truly captures the brilliance of ben's lyrical writing. A dying craft that often feels obsolete in many many many many songs. This was the song/album I heard 16 years ago that made me love DC4C.

[@akvar02]

I went through every single comment here and I feel your guy’s pain. It’s at least nice to have an anthem to let my pent up emotions out on.

[@messibessi11]

I’ve been listening to the is song nonstop for the past few days. My abusive uncle is on his deathbed and this song is spot on

[@SarahHugzBuddy]

Never have I bawled so hard because of a song. Why does this song describe my whole childhood? And why is death cab so wonderful?

[@jami376]

Every word in this song hits me so hard. We left my dad when I was 2 years old, he was an alcoholic, treated my mother like shit. I grew up without his influence, my mum was so strong to raise me without him, she held a bit of a grudge against me because I looked like him, I was similar to him. I love her and I get it but it was difficult. Hated what my dad did to my family for many years, for breaking us apart. Then I was 19 and he almost died and we reconnected. I had about 3 years with him, he was finally sober but drink had broken his body. I had resentment, he treated me like a friend and he never really acknowledged the things he inflicted on us. But I loved him so much and I was so glad we had some time together. Fuck I hate him sometimes still for what he was, but it broke me when he died. Solidarity to everybody who didn't have a fucking perfect, or even good, dad. Keep on going xx

[@drrcm81]

I first heard this song in highschool 15 years ago. It was one of my favorites because it explained my own upbringing perfectly. Listening to it now, with my first child due in May (a boy), brings some very heavy emotions.

[@kommiekeegan]

Coming back here after listening to the new album. This song left me in horrified tears the first time listening to it because of how Ben basically ended up screaming at his dead father at the ending. Having recently cut my drug addicted, lying, cheating father out of my life, this song hit me hard, but I believe it's one of Death Cab's best. I'll be playing this song at my own father's funeral.

[@patander5693]

transatlanticism it was written about a friend of Ben's father.

[@devondixit7427]

I remember the pastor asking my sister and I for fond memories and we had nothing to contribute. I think he got the picture then.

[@columbiasmith5797]

no one knows how much this song means to me, truly.

[@Thanatos138]

Just an unbelievably awesome display of instrumental talent by all members of this band starting 1:42

[@alyssa5544]

I've always loved this song. So emotional and relatable.

[@sanremodude]

Great lyrics written about real life experiences always get to me. This is a great song and sad at the same time

[@MOONBOOTSONER]

I've known this album since it was released.I'm not a huge death cab fan( they were my ex's fave). I just listened to this the other day and payed attention to the lyrics. I haven't stopped thinking about it since.It hit hard.

[@joshwoodward]

I'm not crying, you're crying

[@TTR_Ricky]

he writes so damn well, gosh...

[@npres91]

The upstroke chord right before the final stanza is just perfect

[@quackityquack1]

I have the best dad but i still love this song. I love the anger in it.

[@jamywalthall5720]

Me and my father are mending our estranged relationship currently and this song brings me so much peace still. ❤

[@samgale3013]

I HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR THIS SONG FOR LIKE 3 MONTHS I FORGOT ABOUT IT but man the feels

[@meganmango9767]

Sam Gale buy the cd bud. really they did amazing work to make sure the songs blended together so well. 15 years later I still hear certain songs & my mind runs right into the next track. It may be my favorite album of all time.

[@nonplus86]

I won't join in this procession of speaking the peace using five dollar words while praising his integrity.

[@jesusc9972]

i come back to this song every so often. the bass solo that starts at 2:00 gives me so many memories good and bad. i could listen to it on max for hours

[@Doylt]

My father saw me on a blurry screen at my 12 week scan and then never again. I wonder if I would go to his funeral. I wonder if I would even hear of his death.

[@poeticserenade]

Thank you so much for uploading this.

[@14possumsinatrenchcoat]

This honestly sounds too powerful to be fabricated. Between the shaking of Ben’s voice and the lyrics, to the fact that this is one of the only songs he curses in. I think Ben went through this as a kid.

[@caseyhamm8822]

actually this song was written after he went to his friends dads funeral. the feelings are real for sure, but he wrote it for a friend. still a great song tho

[@13butterflysis]

This song makes me want to cry... :'( ♥ death cab

[@TheHyperVampire]

I thought this was his dad, I am relieved to discover it was a friend...It's an incredibly heartbreaking song

[@mandarintomato9205]

Relieved, you say...

[@Plagolago64]

Why relieved it still happened

[@JBinOtown]

Morrissey wishes he could have wrote this.

[@acidcop]

dean b Oh honey, no. The only writing Morrissey need envy is Oscar Wilde.

[@franciscofarias6385]

@@acidcop dude don't come close to Tom Waits or Leonard Cohen

[@Mamba4.8]

Jesse Lacey and Conor Oberst enter the chat.

[@haydencourtney7419]

Morrissey has his own accomplishments to be proud of.

[@itnvrends]

My childhood explained in 5 minutes.

[@collapsingspace]

Its not a stretch to say he was not quite a father just a donor of seeds to poor single mother... ! Gibbard rules

[@fashionmostpit]

This spells out I feel with ever word

[@Angelocouto17]

Love it, thanks so much!

[@Rickyrockredcorn209]

My dad just died his liver gave out, he wasn’t the best father but I loved the man and I wish I could have told him how much I am grateful for what he did give me, my mother tried to drown me when I was 6 and from that moment I knew I couldn’t trust her so I tried to follow my dad but he was fighting his own battle and was to caught up in his trial and tribulations that he forgot me well I feel like he did I grew up alone nobody cared about me

[@Onyx8Moon]

Happy Fathers Day 2019

[@mandarintomato9205]

One of my favorite days of the year, along with Mothers Day 🙈

[@danday6149]

Been to that Thanksgiving Dinner and that Funeral. No Bueno but C'est La Vie.

[@pragmatist4life142]

This song is haunting, beautiful and gut wrenching. I am so lucky my parents were solid.

[@peterlorrequartet6559]

You can deck out a lie in a suit but I won't buy it.

[@jujubeez1]

This is the only song i can really sing well, which is weird cause im not a singer, everytime i sing this song it sounds like a pro is singing it, maybe cause the lyrics are so familiar.

[@gl4d10]

i hope you kept singing, it's all in the feeling, janis joplin is the goat, you've got it too

[@MatiShemoeloff]

I wish Johnny Cash would have sung it. It makes me cry every time i hear it. i dont know why.

[@OmgItsOni]

The instrumental in the middle is way too good

[@prohumanitate]

I've always felt a profound, gnawing connection to this song. My dad and I have been estranged since I was 6 (I'm 32 now, so, most of my life). He was an abusive alcoholic; we also suspect he had an undiagnosed/untreated mental illness. Even at age 6, I knew I wasn't safe with him. My parents separated and custody battle ensued. That bastard almost got shared custody (from the start, the judge made very clear that he tended to side with the fathers in these cases bc "his wife had tried to take his kids away too" - yikes), but my flaky alcoholic father failed to show for the final court date, so he lost all visitation rights. He continued to harass me and my mom on numerous occasions over the years, but never anything worth reporting (mostly creepy or unsettling interactions). Anyway, all this to say, while I was on the phone with my mom a few days ago, my dad came up in conversation and curiosity got the best of me. I did a quick Google search, and what did I find? An obituary. From Feb 2021. No one from my dad's side of the family reached out to let me know he was sick or that he had passed away. I wasn't even mentioned in the obituary; in fact, there was no mention of him being a father at all. It's like I don't exist to an entire bloodline... The first and last verses resonate so deeply, now more than ever. Music is such a powerful healer. My heart goes out to anyone who can relate. Sending love 🫂

[@brandonhaygood5286]

This song is so sad, not because i relate because my father was certainly not like this, but i know so many people feel this way.

[@brandonadolfovelasquezlope2778]

Alguien sabe dónde la puedo escuchar subtitulada al español

[@kristinab8326]

so amazing.

[@tylerjacobsen819]

Happy Father’s Day 2021

[@littleediebeale1584]

Seriously. Sometimes I don’t think I’ll ever stop crying.

[@fluxbunny1]

this is so dope

[@adg_87]

So sorry to those who had miserable upbringings. I pray you guys were able to find peace.

[@noeestrada7910]

welp , I relate to this happy father´s day bastard!

[@alyssa5544]

This hits too close to home. Both of my parents suck.

[@damianfincestery2200]

May you one day never have power over me, you bastard

[@wrnchhead76]

My dad killed my aunt and her boyfriend yesterday, then turned the gun on himself. Bastard in life indeed.

[@wrnchhead76]

Lol. True story.

[@anthonyb4]

Sorry bud

[@erinadams1931]

Every time I hear this song, I yell and cry. Sometimes dads really are trash.

[@frchtwst]

so relate-able

[@danejurus69]

This album is incredible. 10/10.

[@dystopia7992]

I was a bad man undeserving of love but had it then let it slide out of my fingers as it fell to the ground and shattered into pieces that no longer cold be placed together no matter how I tried or cried

[@chloeelaine5959]

my favorite song.

[@dav967]

Always cathartic.

[@jacobwoods1699]

I had a great childhood because of my mom!!!

[@Rossmogden]

awesome song

[@rubixrios8265]

“ you can deck out a lie in a suit, I won’t buy it”

[@grunkman5000]

here’s hoping i’ll be the first to break the cycle

[@dimsum9994]

So sweet

[@biddyfox]

I wish ben sang like this more

[@lilyxoxo5731]

the most relatable death cab song, lol.

[@eddiez1247]

I cant wait to unleash this song at my fathers funeral.

[@ngjthefirst]

Dean Moriarty.

[@ARottenStateOfMind]

you mean Neal Cassady?

[@ame0toko]

FUCK Dean Moriarty.

[@LordmonkeyTRM]

Is Barsuk still a thing? I want them to sign me, music on my profile...

[@madiradi851]

Yes they still exist If you check on the channel they're music from like 5 days ago

[@senorjuevos9433]

Imagine this guy playing the part of Nate Ruess on Eminem's "Headlights"

[@fire4ced]

Anyone else listen to this every Thanksgiving? ...no, just me?

[@joevillarreal8567]

I remember Dean Moriarty

[@rayspizzyproductions795]

@barsuk Records... imagine that lol

[@alibali69]

i wish their was a playlist with songs about shitty, dead dads lol

[@WeszzZ________________WViiiiii]

further farther father

[@NathanHUBER-p3b]

I grew up with great parents and didn't understand this song until I met my wife with a sh*t father and now totally understand this song. I've been a DCFC fan for 20+ years

[@daydrmnation]

Charity reeks of cheap wine and paying

[@WeszzZ________________WViiiiii]

no streach

[@anthonyb.4732]

:)

[@phantasma8401]

I'm sorry

[@francisdenty7007]

Its funny 2 me cause have the stuff people say in comments are bareface lies

[@artycadbury2005]

this dude should have sang the verse the dude from fun. sang in that Eminem tune..

[@GravelordNEETo]

What

[@Madadader]

@@GravelordNEETo Headlights - Eminem ft. Fun.

[@rainbowcat139]

That instrumental in the middle is way too long

[@AlejandraTorres-kx6no]

Rainbowcat139 nope it’s a beautiful build up

[@noelaguirrechavez4462]

it's the part i like the most about the song

[@NestanSvensk]

@@noelaguirrechavez4462 I honestly need that part to process the feelings from the first three minutes of the song.