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0:09 3 Basic mental skills:
stress resistance
emotion management
communication
0:48 Communication:
1. ask
2. to refuse
3. to conflict
4. express your opinion
5. to criticize
6. praise
1:39 3 Types of relationships:
1) long-distance - doctors, postal workers, coaches, teachers, drivers, neighbors, strangers with whom you temporarily unite to achieve one specific goal
2) medium - friends, co-workers, boss - longer-term and closer relationships, where you partially reveal yourself as a person
3) close - wife/husband, children/parents, close friends - where you can express absolutely all your emotions and thoughts
3:34 Analyze the communication in your relationship on your own (table)
4:53 If you are a traumatized person: emotions will interfere with your communication:
guilt, fear of people, shame.
You need to overcome these emotions!
1. What emotion am I feeling?
2. 2. Can I let it be?
3. Can I let it go? (and let it go)
5:20 There may also be shame in expressing positive emotions or praise
6:58 The purpose of communication:
1) to achieve a specific goal
2) to maintain good relations with the person
3) self-respect, defend values
08:04 What choice do you have:
1. to achieve the goal
2. maintain a good relationship
3. defend principles and values
defending values is more important than achieving a goal
09:55 Rule of 3 requests (parable):
1. please give me bread
2. where is the bread I asked for?
3. (indignantly:) why haven't I been given my bread yet?
11:35 Example:
1st attempt: friendly, unobtrusive, positive, short
2nd attempt: more detailed, persistent, reasoned
3 attempt: assertive threat, indignant expression
15:40 How to communicate effectively:
1. describe the situation - what happened
2. describe from your side (needs, emotions, your vision)
3. express a specific wish
4. encouragement - find benefits for the person
5. a broken record
6. confidence, friendliness, friendly attitude
7. negotiations - if not, how do you propose to do it?
17:55 Conclusion