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[@palindrome06]

I used to feel like a predator in my 20’s and early 30’s. As a 39 year old man, having his own house, a good career and good income, and a good physique, I feel like a prey. And I avoid women like a hostage avoiding the guards in a prison break

[@netertwentyeight9219]

This were I'm at mentally

[@MatrixEdit]

Find what you enjoy doing alone. Develop in that and persevere. That is your purpose. Align with it and all will fall into your lap. Eventually. But the point is to not even be concerned about the future product. Focus on the step by step

[@RobertoCichetti]

The best advice i heard in a long time, thanks

[@crackinlackin6189]

or go make money and get rich!

[@playmakersmusic]

To add on, never ever let a women sidetrack your purpose.

[@MatrixEdit]

​@@RobertoCichettiThe life experience is so much better when you control lust - here's another dime

[@crayonblood1]

This has been one of my biggest challenges. To be fulfilled while spending time alone. Tryina figure it out.

[@HeyYoSurveyTime]

This is basically all the "game" you need. Be needed, not needy. Now go cultivate a personality, morals, ethics, values, and principles (@🔨) and be better than the matrix tried to groom you to be.

[@ShadowPilled]

Its crazy because people dont realize that other people pick up on desperaton so easily. Confidence is key

[@raccooncity8356]

Before I listen to what anyone says I ask myself , can they tell me how to get what I want in life if no then I stop listening. The same men who can't get a girlfriend are the same dudes who got all their life training from a single mother😂 let that sink in.

[@ShadowPilled]

@raccooncity8356 You have to be responsible for the advice you listen to. It's all a learning experience

[@TrickNTricky]

Enjoyin’ the LFA videos more than ever! It’s a great time to be alive folks😎 That Los Cabos part, was all out hilarious😂

[@MaillonRecordz]

Most realist video. LFA you’re one of the best

[@AntonDasBomb]

You are correct 👍

[@eusaboston]

I don't know why this channel was recommended to me months ago and I'm not into the whole over masculine and bro vibe, but for some reason he comes across genuine and also funny so ill watch more of his vids

[@theanomity3185]

Great video man, pls never stop making these 💪🏼

[@Jeff-h5y]

the brand name of my king size bed is Los Cabos

[@the_raging_tomato]

Ok.. fine fine.. I NEED you to take me to Los Cabo’s

[@lucasbricker4434]

What’s up BROTHERS!!! looking jacked man

[@TheJereld]

10:07 I love you dude!!!

[@iampicasso1811]

I’m laughing my a$$ of watching this… it is both good solid advice and standup comedy. B!umk!n… I can see you trying not to laugh bro… love your channel. Los Cabos

[@TheyCallMe_TC]

WHATS UP BROTHERS 💪🏾 #GEMS 💎.

[@matiasalexandre4993]

I have the same glasses

[@jesusvelazquez3lg776]

Love all your vids man

[@rr-mt9np]

Better explanation for sure, good stuff bro 👍

[@caesar2050]

Best video so far.

[@joebeta1837]

Beta male here (hey, at least I admit as I have nothing to lose). Referring to women, you either "got it" or you don't. If a woman doesn't show DESIRE for you, do NOT bother dating. She WILL find your weaknesses.

[@alanm6o9]

Agreed beta boy

[@ThefirstKuba]

what are the signs that you can see from her?

[@joebeta1837]

@@ThefirstKuba She smiles when you talk to her. Even if you say something goofy, she'll giggle, and not roll her eyes and stay quiet. She'll break a habit she has just to see you, even if you both are not dating yet. And then, when you two start going out, she'll go out of her way to go out with you. That's when you start noticing that, no only does she like you, she has a desire for you. You don't have to be this tough- looking, big dude. You could be a nerd...and if God happens to have you cross paths with a girl who likes nerds, she will desire you.

[@Agentyre]

@@joebeta1837 Hey, fellow beta boy here. Per my experience even if she _likes_ nerds like us, when a jacked Alpha jock like LFA is around; both if her beta boy is not present and its just the two of them able to talk, or especially so if all three are present and are talking together, naturally the primal differences between Man and betaboy will show themselves and she will _always_ naturally be made to feel a great many things that we could never dream of being able to make her feel as those subconscious comparisons are being made by her between the Man and the _boy_ she sees in front of her.

[@Agentyre]

@@joebeta1837 And honestly, it should be our delighted designation as beta _boys_ to show Him the Respect a _Man_ deserves, and yield and defer to the truth.

[@descree7]

THIS SHIT FUCKING WORKS

[@TheMrKlassy]

What's up brother

[@vladalx8820]

The dots are connecting. Things are not that complicated

[@SharpShoot3r_14]

If she smiled after she heard that, then it wasn't a loss though 😁

[@R.GRATTZ]

Blumkin💯

[@DevonReaws]

Need each other

[@SupremegreenlawncareLLC]

Facts!🎉

[@Jeremy_Meeks]

Watching this in my mansion with my billionaire GF.

[@LFA]

That’s what’s up

[@Infrared-nyne]

I would take you to Los Cabos 😏

[@musashi542]

These bots are wild

[@raczyk]

This is some new age bullcrap. Men and women need each other

[@jadizm]

Blake, would you go on F & F?

[@LFA]

I literally have Myron’s phone number

[@jadizm]

@@LFA You're up NEXT LFA!! We got your back brother!

[@michaltrivium]

Needed not needy No. 1 true man: Son of God, our Lord Jesus Christ.

[@SeanRussell-r1z]

Testosterone overload.

[@humbledh0m0]

Right...? my beta sensibilities are overloaded

[@boywnderr]

LFA > Ferrari

[@chrisbunka]

Did you end up taking her to Los Cabos?

[@LFA]

Watch till the end to find out!

[@chrisbunka]

@@LFA I did but couldn't decipher anything that directly states that you did. I can only go with observing your body language. However, trying to decipher something can also be fun as it stimulates my gray cells.

[@Almneur]

"Don't be needy, be needed" is like saying don't be hungry if you havent' eaten in 100 days. Dude, when you starving, you can't hide it.

[@LFA]

If you haven’t eaten, the man who has food will be the most needed. Doesn’t that just prove my point?

[@ZE_TRVTH_NVKE]

We starve because our parents never taught us how to hunt.

[@netertwentyeight9219]

The hungry are never fed

[@ndndndnnduwjqams]

El viernes que viene tengo pensado ir a tomar algo a basquiat, si te copa que vayamos juntos avísame Estoy mirando tal Querés mirar la peli conmigo?

[@fasilketema8645]

what do u think of passport bro

[@ViperXSS2]

Do it, way better than the western crap Shoot

[@kingdrift1136]

Leonardo is a bad example of beta bucks that guy is living his single life giving no money to anyone and woman still simp for him

[@nei1995]

LOS CABOS O S C A B O S

[@Syncere20]

I like me some street girls.

[@bellavita3097]

🤣😂😆 I will take you to los Cobos🤣😂😆

[@geoeconomics5629]

Since the day she was born she was treated as a princess She needs someone to tell her she is ungratefull b

[@hablabamosa]

What if you don't have a special skill-set or you develop health issues and nobody needs you anymore ?

[@LFA]

Well, I guess you’ll have to find out the meaning of love

[@hablabamosa]

@@LFA No love for unneeded men

[@joebeta1837]

Don't see it from the perspective of "being needed". See it from the perspective of surviving one more day.

[@kazakh-interista]

@hablabamosa think of Nick Vujicic

[@stevewarner6621]

Sponsored by los Cabo’s

[@jonsalt3241]

Be a lot cooler if he did though...lol ! ! !

[@jet67jd37]

So basically you’re saying it’s about perceived value based off your body language and how you carry yourself rather than having actual value. The two are definitely linked, but there’s a lot of guys that just have one or the other

[@LFA]

No. I said men have to be valuable to be needed. It’s the burden of performance.

[@jet67jd37]

@@LFA But what about the guys that don’t have any particular skills and aren’t that good looking either, but are good socialisers? For example me and my friend group are decent looking guys with degrees in engineering, computer science, medicine, radiography etc, yet there’s ugly bums we used to go to school with that get more girls than us, even though we are better in every category, other than that we have smaller social circles with less girls. Basically what I mean is that it seems like being attractive is more down to social proof and how big your circle is to give you access to opportunities. None of us have ever used a dating app and aren’t big social media users either. We can be nerdy with some interests, but I have cool hobbies too like ice hockey and boxing, so I just don’t understand what’s going on, we should be catches

[@BigG6179]

@@jet67jd37 At one point you have to wake up and realize hot women want a dude that takes care of his appearance. Work out, eat better, dress better. If you have an enginnering degree you can figure out how to raise your social value. This is just what woman look for in guys and you cannot erase their biology.

[@jet67jd37]

@@BigG6179 Literally everything you listed I already do, that’s the thing

[@JohnHenkamGangte]

Please let me know when you find a good advice for your conundrum ​@@jet67jd37

[@daenini]

Hey man i was that German Young man that wanted to speak to His crush. She rejected me. She was with her friend chilling in the sun and i came Up to her with my heart beating "Hey, ive Seen you two and May i give you a compliment?you are very chilled 😎😅 how are you?" Both seemed perplex and i talked a Bit. My crush Said "WE really want to Talk, okay?" I went. i messaged her on Instagram asking If the rejection really was because of my awkward way of speaking or because she wanted to speak to her friend. She immediately blocked. I immediately started journalling, but i kept my promise to you and those men Back then, since integrity is very important to me. You all have a nice week, i wont. But i'll eventually will. Love you all

[@alanm6o9]

Proud of you for trying. Better than i can do right now im a fuckin loser. God bless ya bro keep trying

[@daenini]

@@alanm6o9 youre Not a loser. Maybe Just a Bit hasty, thats all. Are you able to be alone?

[@VolleKwark]

Bro you don’t message her on instagram asking her why she rejected you.

[@daenini]

@@VolleKwark I just wanted to be free god dang it

[@theoneandonly3499]

Need is use. Want is love. Alpha = 4 billion panties. Beta = 1 panty.

[@smgofdvld]

I have seen enough attractive women but everyone has their weaknesses 😅 after a while it’s all the same you have been with every girl and it gets boring . if a girl has chemistry with you and she’s attractive and she likes you 👀 damn lol those are the ones we need videos on LFA . Most girls aren’t worth the effort there is always a type of girl that we fall for i think that will really help us out .

[@kmarie7051]

The type of women who commit fully are the type who also need a man to do the same. All the superficial stuff come second to most high value women because they are looking for commitment and safety in a relationship. The so called chad "alpha male" types on you tube are mostly psychopathic and narcissistic men and they attract the same types of females with the same qualities that value superficial things. Because these people don't value things like being kind, caring, giving, compassionate, empathic, supportive and fair, these things are generally missing in these relationships and they just become shallow, superficial and purely transactional relationships and less happy and fulfilling. In order to have a good relationship the superficial stuff really doesn't matter in the long run. If you want a partner with qualities like being kind, caring, giving, compassionate, empathic, supportive and fair, then you need to also have these qualities, because relationships are suppose to have two equal partners where both parties get their needs met in healthy ways, not one there to be a slave to the others needs. Women need emotional intimacy. Intimacy creates a feeling of connection and bonding. It makes us feel seen, heard and known. It makes us feel loved. In relationships where there is no true sharing. There is no true bonding. There is no true understanding of the other person. There is no honesty, no stability and no trust. There can therefore be no intimacy and no real love. Sex is not the source of intimacy in a relationship. It's an expression of it. When the relationship is imbalance it suffers, and only one person constantly giving and the other taking, eventually they are going to burn out. Pathologically narcissistic people use other people the same way a non-narcissistic person uses tools or objects. Because of this, all relationships with narcissistic people are transactional. That means that the relationship must be providing the narcissist with something. If it doesn't, they will abandon it. They have no use for something or someone they cannot get anything from. This is not just something that happens in romantic relationships either. To be honest, no narcissistic behavior happens in just one kind of relationship. Pathologically narcissistic people see everyone the same. Whether the person is their spouse, their sibling, their parent, their child... everyone exists for their use.People who do not offer the narcissist anything are considered useless. They will often be ignored and abandoned when a better deal comes along. The narcissist does what they have to do in order to receive what they want from the other person. This can take many forms, it can be many things. They may want money, sympathy, admiration, for people to fear them, for people to desire them, a punching bag they can abuse, someone they can feel superior to... the list goes on and on. What they want often has a direct effect on their behavior, which is why the narcissist may (at first) appear to be many things to many people. It isn't that they are different, per se. It's they want different things from different people. If they want to be feared by their spouse, they must be a tyrant at home. If they want to be admired by their co-workers, they must be charming and magnanimous at work. If they want sympathy from their friends, they must appear to be a hurting victim. It is the same person doing all of these things and though they are different, the motive for all of these behaviors is the same: supplementing their nonexistent self-worth. Pathologically narcissistic people cannot create, regulate or sustain their own self-worth. They have to extract emotional responses from other people using various manipulations and masks, which they then convert into validation of their existence: If someone admires me, I'm good. If someone cares about me, I matter. If someone fears me, I'm powerful. This is not true self-worth because it is totally reliant on other people, but it is the closest thing a narcissistic person can get to it. As with any other human being, the total loss of self-worth is disastrous and can lead to suicide. Because narcissistic people have no self-worth to begin with, they are completely dependent on others to give them value. As you can imagine, much of the time, one person is not enough to fulfill this. It's like filling a pitcher with a hole in the bottom. One stream going into it would not do very much at all. But 3 or 5 or 10 streams pouring into that pitcher would be much better. The problem is, the hole in this pitcher is big. The pitcher can perhaps stay at a constant level, but it cannot get full - no matter how much is poured into it. And if the streams stop, it empties very quickly. This is literally a life-threatening catastrophe for a pathologically narcissistic person. If even one stream stops, this is often noticed immediately and felt very deeply. The narcissist may panic, trying to regain that stream or find another to take its place.Once the stream dries up or it slows to a trickle. They are not getting what they were getting from this source before. The mirror has clouded and all they see when they look at this person now are reminders of things they've done wrong. They will begin to search for other streams - other sources that aren't clouded - when they notice this happening. And when they find one, the old source is replaced and the problem is solved. Other people are mirrors to a narcissist. They don't see the other person themselves. They see a reflection of who they are and what that reflection looks like is entirely dependent on what they believe that person's opinion of them to be. If they have treated this person badly, or believe the person to be superior to them, the reflection will not be a nice one. It will look like flaws and weakness and ugliness. If the person does not know them very well or looks up to them, the reflection will be more pleasing. This is why they often seem to value the opinions of strangers over their family; the stranger's opinion is generally not tainted by any of the narcissist's abusive behavior. How could it be? They don't know about it. The relationship is no more than the necessary rigmarole that narcissists must go through to get what they cannot create for themselves. They must rely on other people, but in the end, it really doesn't matter who the people are. In many cases, it could literally be anybody, because it's not about the other people and never has been. It's also very like a relationship between a baby and a caregiver. The caregiver holds all of the responsibility for the relationship. It is their job to provide care, love, support and literally everything else the child needs. The baby's only contribution is to exist and receive these things. If you've had any type of a relationship with a pathologically narcissistic person, you know that this is exactly what they believe a relationship is supposed to consist of: they are supposed to exist and you are supposed to do everything else, regardless of how you are treated, what you want, what you need, how you feel or anything else. That's what they think should happen when someone loves them. It's unrealistic, unreasonable and and almost pathetically childish. Babies are not expected to show love, empathy, compassion, reciprocation or anything else. They are not capable of that just yet. It seems that narcissists are suffering from an arrested development that has rendered them incapable of it as well. The difference is that babies do not abuse their caregivers. They are not adults that understand right and wrong, or make deliberate choices to do things that hurt others. And they don't stay babies. They grow. They mature. They learn. They eventually reciprocate. Narcissists don't. A baby changes and grows every month. A two year old is only 2 for one year. Being in a relationship - any relationship - with a narcissist is like being in a relationship with someone who stays 2 years old forever.

[@nicolasgioiosa1137]

@@kmarie7051 Your contribution is very useful. Healthy relationships are 50-50 in all aspects, with prior communication that it is what you genuinely want to contribute to. Every woman I have met and seen who could have the potential to be a long-term partner, I let her know that everything I value most in a person is honesty, loyalty, respect and companionship, I don't care where you come from. Not even who you are, if you're a good person, it's enough for me.

[@philipramsden4975]

She's gonna be walking like a duck at your cousin's BBQ

[@charliedallachie3539]

Same thing with “Los Cabos”…. Say “I’m going to Los Cabos if you want to join” …the only thing is you gotta actually do it and be ok traveling alone anyways regardless of her answer (nothing wrong being a lone traveler, you can meet local women if she says no etc)

[@Andrew_406]

Never bring sand to the beach

[@heathRocco]

Thats Exactly what i do. It works 95% of the time. Abundance mindset ✔️

[@MrX-nc8cm]

@@Andrew_406in México we say “don’t bring coconuts 🥥 to the beach 🏝️”😂

[@nicolasgioiosa1137]

Healthy relationships are 50-50 in all aspects, with prior communication that it is what you genuinely want to contribute to. Every woman I have met and seen who could have the potential to be a long-term partner, I let her know that everything I value most in a person is honesty, loyalty, respect and companionship, I don't care where you come from. Not even who you are, if you're a good person, it's enough for me.

[@shawnmiller8756]

Hey LFA fellow Tulsan, appreciate the conversations you got a bro thx

[@greendishatibaia9899]

Whole be needed thing for men and be desired for women sound so much like Lion sex interdinamics. Actually, so much of our human behavior is similar to lions. Our society has been destroying that for centuries now.

[@KristopherStidd]

Thank you for the LFA. Wow you are providing me with great valuable information. ❤❤ Thank you 🔥🔥

[@Narcos958]

This video really widened my perspective. Thanks.

[@BakersfieldGuru]

I’m just trying to figure it all out, when sick, and without.

[@AndersonMallony-EricCF]

Hi Kenneth, how are you doing? Try to search the use of turmeric, ketogenic diet, teas (such as white nettle) and vitamin supplements (especially zinc) to treat the prostate.

[@jordanprice9285]

That sounds like pretty good advice! I mean, i wont be using it anytime soon since i much rather do all those things by myself, because i enjoy my own company far more than i ever have with women, but it will be something to keep in mind encase some apocalyptic event happens that forces me to use it when i hope to never care too! Thanks LFA 💪🏽💪🏽🙏🏽

[@bellavita3097]

I like your shirt:)

[@LFA]

Thanks!

[@Bootyeheg]

@@LFA where do you buy your shirts from?

[@isabellacabral5098]

Same I like these videos another KZbinr that I love and also Rich Cooper clips 🩷🤗😘😘 @LFA

[@DARKELLAKEL]

Bad ass boys drive bad ass toys 👍🔥🔧💪

[@charliedallachie3539]

11:10 doesn’t help to be nets bucks if she can just take you to the cleaners and take half your stuff either

[@IV-ru2rm]

This video in its entirety is such a W

[@nomadhitch579]

I like your content so not trying to disagree, but I've never had any issues whatsoever by being direct and asking a woman with interest on a date. Sure sometimes things pan out where it's presented differently but if a woman has the hots for you, she's going to appreciate you being direct. Although I think reframing offers isn't always a bad idea especially if you're unsure of standing. If a woman has low interest, it won't matter how you frame going out, she will either just play dumb or indifferent/ignore.

[@LFA]

That’s cool. But the point I was making was that men need to be valuable in order to be needed.

[@nomadhitch579]

@@LFA You're 100% right man.

[@TheDoats]

Don't even worry about these women. They show up when they're supposed to. Do you in the meantime.

[@Haema88776]

The best answer to that is: „You want a baby with the best possible genes, you need me.“ hahaha

[@blazerman24]

Been watching you for a while. Low key one of you best, realest videos.

[@Surfsup448]

What’s up Brother 👋

[@BrosinsMusic]

Great advice, watch the entire vid 👍

[@myronbaldwin318]

🫡😎🤌🏽💪🏾

[@riseup902]

I think alot of us have stopped trying to say the least because the risk outweighs the reward. Back in the day, a guy could approach a woman and that's how relationships were formed. Nowadays good luck even trying to approach a woman without be labeled a creep or something. Not to mention there is millions of different reasons (stupid reasons too) that a person can get rejected even if the date went well which increases the risk too. Most of us do want a companion who treats them well v.v, and there isn't anything wrong with admitting that. Yes you should not be needy or desperate, and if she says no then walk away. But the issues are far greater than that. Anyways we are going down a very dark path, and they predict that by 2050, more than 40%-50% of men/ women will be single and childless. That means 1/2 people will be sitting at home, drinking wine, and watching TV by themselves while chatting with some AI talking robot using Apple vision goggles or looking out the window and wonder what has my life come to. Until then I say stay on the sidelines and let the show play out.

[@Ciclopea2]

"Hey girl, i wanna take you to Los Cabos" wasn't just a random thought, it was an impression of your friend crushing on a mexican girl lol, maybe if she saw his expensive truck before that she would've been like let me think about it 😄

[@leelee3995]

Such incredible advice, this is one of the most important aspects. It's always best to act like you're the prize and not act needy or these girls can scent the neediness from a mile

[@davidryan4948]

3:30, what if you don’t have a party or barbecue to go to. Could I invite her along to Carvel?🍦

[@ferryferry4784]

Be honest, just few days ago i did the needy question on a girl and get a neutral answer that we might sort something out. But i felt so weird that i then decline it. Thanks LFA, now i understand why it did not felt right.

[@moz9794]

Good explaning greetings from the hague

[@Thatdude64317]

That Los Cabos story 😂😂😂😂😂. W video as always!

[@jeffreyerickson6766]

Us gay dudes like you:)

[@jimdandy8996]

"I'd take you to Los Cabos." Lol!!!

[@martinbouchard7032]

Very informative.

[@HUMBLE.8993]

🥰🥰🥰

[@YusufAbdulrahman1]

great video

[@wb2499]

Hey baby, I wanna take you to Los Cabos… 😎

[@reiniermuntjewerff874]

in every other country than the usa it would WORK 😄

[@sebikelifeusvetparatrooper]

TF is this.

[@RobertoCichetti]

Yea, and you just lied because your cousin is not having anything, great start stud

[@LFA]

Then maybe you should tell the truth...

[@RobertoCichetti]

@@LFA Starting with a lie ends up bad i know, but i enjoy your advice its all true

[@blackvin4439]

I love bbq-wait, oh yeah that’s a good plan.🫡