Be The Leading Lady-The Holiday Dinner Scene

[@piscesbxtch7016]

These two are friendship goals

[@a.b.5615]

Not Today .

[@marycanary]

What do you mean?

[@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS]

​@@marycanary Warning. Karen alert. The people that have to make everything negative.

[@marycanary]

What are you talking about?!This is not at all a “Karen” type situation! I mean,the guy humiliated her in front of everybody! Imagine how you feel if someone did something like that to you.

[@-Radical.Ed-]

This scene warmed my heart because she was there to help him, and he helped her too, in their different needs at different ages and difficulties that are typical on their vital cycle. I love when movies focus on various generations and allow them to interact on a genuine level like this.

[@jenpeterson3712]

So do I

[@marycanary]

Yeah, I like that too.

[@elliot7328]

Well said. 👏 I agree.

[@sospokemisery13]

It's a great scene....and so bloody true. You should be the leading lady of your own life. So many great lessons in this movie.

[@JixieDyeAuthor]

absolutely!

[@ladytheaemuhinomura]

True yes

[@reneeg4817]

Agreed. I was Iris..

[@marycanary]

Absolutely ! :)

[@vikinggoddess2126]

Hopefully without too much drama.

[@crysjumar1]

"He let you go. this is not a hard one to figure out" Love E.W.

[@jenpeterson3712]

I love the fatherly look Arthur gives her when she says she wanted to get away from certain people. That scene practically makes this movie

[@mallenjm252]

I love the message in this particular film where age is honored and appreciated with dignity respect beauty grace substance and passion ! The beauty of our elders passing on the awesomeness of who they are sharing the accomplishments of what they have done of Great value and inspiration in their lifetime. This film has so many wonderful messages but this particular scene is extremely one of the most important ones respecting our elders honoring what they bring to society and inspiring the younger generations that share the same values and passions to learn from the generations before them. Absolutely love this film with an incredible cast phenomenal writing an amazing locations!

[@alexrun9548]

What a simple, but beautiful conversation ❤️ I especially like the "So is a schmuck." 😂

[@crysjumar1]

The Eli Wallach story arc tied it all together. fantastic.

[@austinpearce5442]

crysjumar1 he should’ve been in the final scene at the Xmas party

[@makemarker]

Of course, this legendary actor is Tuco from The Good, the Bad and the Ugly...

[@spomusmo2349]

Kate Winslet was truly born to act the scene in the beginning when she hears her ex was engaged amazes me every time.

[@jenpeterson3712]

She played her character so well. The way she spoke, her reactions and portraying herself as a woman with self doubts. I love the movie❤❤

[@Atheneastro]

Happy birthday and RIP Eli, who would have been 100 today.

[@sarasyed2204]

Elders are always a blessing when in need of mental support.

[@debbiemclaughlin4945]

I love this movie. And well, Eli Wallace as Arthur, just perfect.

[@beingbeckeroni]

I adore this movie. So much. I watch it anywhere anytime regardless that it's a "Christmas movie" like Love Actually.

[@jenpeterson3712]

Two of my favourite movies. Every time they're on, I have to watch them. The Holiday is the better one

[@Queen_Springsteen]

Better then Love Actually

[@lauryb]

I totally agree!!

[@marycanary]

Me too! :)

[@jenpeterson3712]

@@Queen_Springsteen I agree

[@roseandstem8054]

Their relationship was the best relationship of the movie.

[@elghaiebsalma6908]

Yessssss indeed i have to be the leading lady of my own life enough with the heartbreak and depression and fear , i'll start healing now ❤❤❤ Omg this movie is amazing 😳😳

[@fauziajasia2548]

I can't emphasize enough how much I am in love with her cottage, the snow outside and the whole atmosphere that they created here

[@whatbringsmepeace]

How many of us are *not* acting like the leading lady in our own lives, always deferring to what other people want and need? This scene was a turning point for me. I saw it for the first time and in that moment I remembered how strong and focused I'd been as a single woman, and how all that had changed when I married. I wanted to be that leading lady again so I made changes. Some people in my life didn't like it. They were happier with me being soft and compliant but I wanted to live as my authentic self. I'm happy to report that many years later I'm doing just that. It took time and people fell away but it was worth the disruption because I just knew when I watched that scene for the first time that I'd have deathbed regrets if I didn't step out of the shadows and into my proper place in my life. I hope you can too.

[@Iris11music]

I love this movie. ... and this scene spoke to me. So much. ...

[@tashadent150]

Ditto, he really hit the nail on the head when he told her that she deserves every right to happiness.

[@marycanary]

Everyone needs someone like Arthur in there lives once in awhile right?

[@jenpeterson3712]

So true.

[@TuomariMuller]

And to perhaps be an Arthur for someone else.

[@jolijnattema1638]

I know someone like him. Only difference is that she is a lady. She is my upstairs neighbour. 88 years old (I'm 25) but still very fit. I see her as my dearest friend

[@marycanary]

I’m glad you do!

[@marycanary]

Absolutely 🙂👍

[@equinelover570]

absolute favorite movie. and one of my favorite scenes. Because i should remember i should be the Leading Lady in my own film and not the best friend. plus love Eli say Schmuck reminds me of my papa.

[@Sakuno01]

Eli Wallach... excelent as always...

[@starlingswallow]

I absolutely LOVE this movie!!

[@NiVi192]

Arww, this scene- so brilliant!!

[@thesingerperson]

brutal, but brilliant! I love this movie so much.

[@beansprout_apg886]

I love it... simple conversation.... love the insight..

[@GunnerM60]

It's the great thing about our elderly. Through experience comes wisdom, & they just know things!

[@LightworkBeacon]

Such a well acted scene.

[@graciepelsue1591]

I love Kate in this movie

[@jenpeterson3712]

I love Cameron Diaz, but Kate is more likable in this movie. Cameron Diaz overacted a little

[@lisnamoljoseph4681]

Nope. She does not overact it

[@garimabhatt2299]

one of my fav. movie scenes❤

[@janbarrett4544]

I knew Eli when I dated his son,Peter,in high school.I was invited to a party at his apartment before I knew who his Dad was.I looked around the room and there was Barbara Streisand and Eliot Gould,Maureen Staplelton,Martin Balsam and many others who I recognized from the movies. I said,"Peter, what does your Dad do?"....he said,"He makes pizzas"...I thought,"He must make A GREAT pizza!" He and his wife,Anne Jackson brought me back a pair of sun glasses from a location shoot in Italy....wish I still had them.

[@tamsinparker4247]

Oh, Eli Wallach, why can I never get enough of you?

[@haz2721]

Me either!💖

[@jenpeterson3712]

Me too. He was so cute

[@87alsjth]

Sometimes you just need someone to lovingly read you for filth in order for you to get yourself together.

[@tashadent150]

I agree, sometimes you need to punched in the face to wake up

[@NK-it4um]

1:16 the way Iris reacted to Arthur calling her beautiful was honestly pretty sweet she shook her head and was thinking "No i'm... i'm really not." And he is right on all 3 points. 1. Iris (and Kate Winslet herself) is very beautiful. 2. Jasper is a schmuck for not seeing how great Iris is. 3. Iris is the leading lady but she's acting like the best friend. We all could use someone like Arthur.

[@xoxoaminandco]

When I say this scene resonated with me... I still remember it verbatim ❤

[@MediaLover194]

R.I.P Eli Wallach.

[@kkitten8183]

Excellent point and another reason I like this movie. 😊

[@quickbooks]

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[@claudiaborges8503]

Miss my grandfather... My only father ..❤️

[@bexyevans777]

What about your Heavenly Father?

[@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS]

​​@@bexyevans777 SHUT UP KAREN! STOP EVILIZING EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING YOU SEE!

[@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS]

​@@bexyevans777 Hag.

[@7377211]

mi escena favorita, fabulosa!

[@cotygv]

Amo esta escena también.

[@wonderlandgirlable]

My favorite scene ..😥

[@moniqueortiz3208]

Does anyone remember the movie Arthur recommended to Iris? A black-and-white film about, you guessed it, a leading lady with remarkable gumption. >:D

[@lisnamoljoseph4681]

Movie name??

[@carolstephanietaypeaspilcu6508]

I've been looking for it too :c

[@kerriethompson2073]

She mentioned Itene Dunn so I'm thinking the movie is "Thev Awful Truth," which is one of her signature films. I could be wrong though.

[@haz2721]

I love you, Eli. 💖 forever!

[@dj5384]

Great lesson❤

[@ryanawilson8549]

I regularly use the word schmuck bc of this movie

[@heathermetz6576]

1:47 “An ex-boyfriend, who got engaged, and “forgot” to tell me!”

[@eduardomenna4762]

"So he's a schmuck"

[@czarinagalang9375]

I no longer want to be the "bestfriend" in my story. I want to be the leading lady..

[@pernillestorbjerg8418]

Its fantastic!!

[@Weebs82589]

RIP Eli Wallach!

[@oliverconway6960]

Kate Winslet's response in this scene makes me cry.

[@ednajeanamos7224]

I love this scene

[@haz2721]

I love you, Eli! 💖

[@tereborgonia6780]

I love u Kate.

[@kiaretta405]

RIP

[@dietdrpepper15]

Iris...he didn't 'forget' to tell you anything.

[@snowbird1381]

I need her social skills.

[@leob231]

Tuco forever💗

[@wombizclub]

Hey from Women's Business Club - thanks for sharing.

[@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS]

*OKAY AMBER WE HEARD YOU CUMMING!*

[@shellyzepeda]

♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@taniareginadias6670]

E a iris do oamor nao tira ferias eas poesias?

[@JMac7395]

After researching "old school" Hollywood, I've come to the conclusion that Hollywood is only "golden" for the men who ran it & profited from it. If a man like Arthur survived Hollywood, he most likely kept his head down & ate his food🤨 or he had a very tough exterior in his hey day

[@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS]

Or you're just as woke as everyone else.

[@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS]

You Hollywoke bitch.

[@mkitahara]

Blooonnnnndeee!!! Eweweuuuuuuu da da da

[@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS]

Woke fagot

[@martianwalker31]

What did he say at 1:53, he's a.....?

[@susansmith493]

Schmuck, or shmuck, is a pejorative term meaning one who is stupid or foolish, or an obnoxious, contemptible or detestable person. The word came into the English language from Yiddish (Yiddish: שמאָק‎, shmok), where it has similar pejorative meanings, but where its literal meaning is a vulgar term for a penis.

[@martianwalker31]

@@susansmith493 thank you so much for that explanation :)

[@allornothing432]

Ehh thats your problem right there, too many leading ladies and men and too few best friends!

[@geetjay8579]

😍😍😍😍

[@tereborgonia6780]

January 2019 anyone ?

[@Queen_Springsteen]

Tere Borgonia september 2020

[@honeyot425]

Oct 2021. Story of my life. Time to move on

[@cathou9]

everytime is was a huge smocke

[@bijibadness]

I bet the screenwriter found it really really really hard to call their lines "brilliant" like that. it's a tough life. nah, I'm messing around. screenwriters have the same amount of pain as all us else of us do.

[@amazingyear9042]

what EXACTLY does that mean “Be the Leading Lady in your life”?

[@jx9936]

It means take charge of your own life. We don't live to please others, and most importantly embracing your inner strengths and weaknesses which separates you from others. Simple!!

[@marycanary]

Exactly, I couldn't have said it better if I'd tryed.,;)

[@Smd3580]

This is easier to understand if you think of the alternate role - the best friend. The best friend is in the background, a supporting character. The best friend's personal life never gets in the way of the plot. For instance, a protagonist may have to miss a best friend's wedding because of work, but the best friend will never miss the protagonist's wedding. If the best friend misses the wedding, it's a plot point for the protagonist's character growth. The best friend's story is written in such a way that it is just a foil for the protagonist. Iris was living like Jasper was the protagonist and she was the best friend.

[@snowbird1381]

You’re the main character. Play your life like you would a video game. In a game, you explore everything. You talk to the other people, you search and explore for treasures. If you did this in real life, you’d meet people and find new opportunities everywhere.

[@MissBooful]

@@Smd3580 I don't get the whole context of "He's a schmuck ... he let you go. This is not a hard one to figure out." Does he mean jasper let her go because he's a shmuck and wdnt know someone great (like her) if she was staring him in the face or he let her go because deep down jasper knew she was a leading lady?

[@asadshaikh8429]

Who hates kate... Muaaaah luv u

[@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS]

BIG DAWG DOES. HE SAID BLONDE EUW!

[@aatkinson2607]

I have always been the leading lady of my life

[@wombizclub]

Hey from Women's Business Club - thanks for sharing.

[@wombizclub]

Hey from Women's Business Club - thanks for sharing.

[@wombizclub]

Hey from Women's Business Club - thanks for sharing.

[@SLOTHSRIDEUNICORNS]

Shut up Karen no one wants you here.

[@wombizclub]

Hey from Women's Business Club - thanks for sharing.