Before DATING HIM Ask A Man THESE 5 Important Questions

[@nantompkins140]

1) What is his love language?, 2) What are his priorities?, 3) What are his views on social media etiquette?, 4) What does he feel makes a good woman?, 5) What are his views on God and spirituality?, and 6) How long does a man need before he decides he wants to marry?

[@SamuelLee-kc3rh]

Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other

[@linamoon-mi7wd]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.

[@SamuelLee-kc3rh]

I feel your pain , after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.

[@linamoon-mi7wd]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?

[@SamuelLee-kc3rh]

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@linamoon-mi7wd]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@cp9023]

RC Blake has a video on such a topic. When the man finds the one, the man really does need to clarify things.

[@woah_millie9931]

Asking questions is key. The guy I'm currently dating, we will have conversations and those conversations covered questions I haven't gotten to asking. Like you said, the more he talks, the more you know.

[@mariahnursedivawilson5133]

This is so helpful. You have changed the way I approach dating. Thanks for the amazing tools 🙌🏽😌

[@wejoin]

Glad you mentioned social media because I have seen this be an issue with jealous, controlling partners.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It definitely is a big deal 🙏

[@user-zw2rp4qp3j]

This is extremely important! I’ve sent a “love language” and “attachment style” quiz to a couple guys whom I felt compatible with and when I tell you they were so shocked but appreciative of these exercise lol. An eye opener to both parties before we even go any further!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing 🙏

[@applebomb8924]

Yup, I've done the same

[@jacquelinetucker1050]

Hmmm👍

[@hotamolly72]

So many don't understand how impactful attachment style is!!

[@AshleyNisbyLMT]

​@@MeetStephanSpeaks Happy Holidays Stephan and Thank You for your time and dedication in offering this material for us all at this time. May you always continue to be guided blessed and inspired for following bravely and living in your purposes💯 🙏🏽🙌🏾

[@mariacolucci6958]

"Be mindful not to project the potential you see" Oh my, that's SO me 🤣Still working on that lesson... Thank you for posting another video with great advice! Merry Christmas!!!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏❤️

[@erikamagallanes8181]

This is helpful. Thank you I appreciate this. 💚

[@ceomariamaboney]

Thx for this video! 👏🏾 God first. Then family. Then career. We must watch our words, heal, and manage our personal brands. Plus have the emotional and relational intelligence within ourselves to be prepared for our truest purpose. Be ready to communicate deeply, honestly, and transparently in future relationships & partnerships. ❤

[@shantewilliams7684]

So helpful... thanks Stephan🙏🏾

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏❤️

[@tinker2217]

This is such a good video ❤ I love it

[@RoyalSweetness22]

Indeed, this was helpful, and yes, you always give good advice on many things, and I appreciate your wisdom, "My Good Man." 💯💜

[@HopeWins777]

Purpose above everything? Absolutely, yes. The reason we live on this Earth is the most important thing because we have to keep God happy Above ALL Else. If we do that, everything else will fall into place as it should.❤ Even if your person ends up miserable or upset with you, let them deal. Maybe they are in a growing season. Maybe they are not actually your person and are here for just a season. Trust God with all, and keep Him happy, and he will put desires in your heart that He will fulfill. You won't be able to take credit.

[@essiebrandon5543]

Thanks u so much, I wish I had this info before I married my husband. What u are saying make good for a good datingship and marriage.thank u very very much.❤

[@DorothyWilloughby-v2v]

HONESTY IS THE KEY

[@JackieS812]

Another great video! I believe in the man being in the lead because that is the order of God! I’m absolutely not waiting 5-10 years to get married but I would like to develop a friendship with him rather than get married shortly after we meet. As far as his belief system goes, I would know right away if he’s a follower of Christ. Not a Christian but a follower of Christ. Anybody can say they’re a Christian and still not follow God’s precepts. Thank you! Much appreciated!❤

[@tinalove8197]

Ladies as a married woman. You should be asking HUNDREDS OF QUESTIONS BEFORE THE BEDROOM. Ask many INDEPT QUESTIONS 1. WHEN was your last heartbreak R u healed 2. When was last time you loved a woman 3. Give me your top 10 expectations 4. Chart future with you what will it be like? 5. Why have your relationships been unsuccessful? 6. How do you know youre ready to love a woman again? 7. Have u done any self improvement ? Etc

[@lizzieb6901]

I have found more healed women who have boundaries no matter the age than healed men. This came up on my random FYP. You should address the issues with what men face fully. You’re doing soft assessments to appease both rather than the hard facts and lack of accountability on males when it should be on both parties. I wish more men would acknowledge the discrepancy of lack of self-control, cheating and the meaning of an emotional competent male/man and seeking the right Black woman . Because if that is the case….why the abundance of speaking to more women than men when the stats are against it. I agree in some points but there were cases with myself 2 first generation Nigerian American men ( one being a Doctor) a Jamaican American man, a Ghanian American man and with 3 Black America men. They all stated all of their mothers would’ve loved me but personally Wanted to be seen as New, they wanted s3xual relations with me but nothing more. I declined on all offer. I’m glad I stayed true to who i am and never had relations. They would state I was shaped like a Houston dancer but was a Nerd with a charming personality/no drugs/trauma/who could speak about Sports/Black history/world history/fun/proud of being Black American/easy to speak with/ nerdy/patience and looked IG level. Lives alone, works independentmultiple brothers who are great and career oriented, No sexual trauma, 2 parents, natural before BBLs. I would always ask. Questions. So I agree with dating with intention. I would ask questions noem with children. All 4 of 7 stated why they liked me which was based on colorism and beliefs that I wasn’t Black because “I was too pretty to be black l” and too video vixen thick to be innocent. When my family have been in the US since the 1700s and served in the Union I never had relations with them (thankfully and seen signs) I grew up with no trauma, thankfully, and in a loving two parent household. Perhaps that added to it. I always asked questions and left when red flags were shown but the black men I listed above would date BBL baby mommas of different back grounds and state I wasn’t a big enough ho. Despite their own racial Back ground…”they stated they wanted something new, be seen as new and something easy.” Their words. I live in California.I don’t nor really delved into social media/podcasts. I don’t have social media except KZbin. For the last 7 years. I seen enough the many instances since twitter days and music of the disrespect of black women Black men such as this need to make a video of doing research and calling out the disrespect that Malcolm X stated that’s rampant today. But it has turned me of. Living in California has made me believe most black men prefer others.

[@TanyaOden]

Excellent Video! I like all of those questions that you presented! Sometimes you gotta rock the boat in order to have smooth sailing. The earlier the questions are asked the less time is wasted. Confession: The part at 31:49 Where you said "Oh HELLL No" in regards to someone's parents dating 15 years before getting married...That was EXACTLY what I said! LOL😆 Other questions that came to mind (and there's no right or wrong answer just open-ended questions) I would ask a man are : 1. What is your life's vision/mission statement? (goals/ambitions) 2. What is an ideal first date? (creativity/planning/time management) 3. What do you like to do for fun? (leisure) 4. What makes you laugh? (sense of humor) 5. Preferred method of communication? 6. Do you prefer natural beauty in women or add-ons/enhancements 7) How do you handle conflict resolution? 8) What do you do to maintain your health? (self-care) 9) Are you healed place or in the process of healing from past relationship trauma 10) How do you express affection in a non-sexual way? 11.) Can you cook? (This will determine how many "free passes" he will get in other areas! LOL (I'm playing) and so many other questions. Again, no right or wrong answers. Do I expect someone to check every single box? No. Just looking for open, honest, transparent communication!

[@Reverendtheresaharding]

Thank you for touching on that spiritual level thing. I can relate to that….I’ll definitely be mindful about that..

[@zoraydazayas1]

Priority #1 Purpose Love it.

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

I love meaningfull conversations ,not the gossip type , and i always Includes questions once its a person of intrest.but my greatest fear is getting an HONEST answer ,men are so tacty Stephan espicially when dating

[@Ifeoma999]

Thank you 4 sharing your profound wisdom 👑❣️ It's much appreciated. Peace With Love ☀️💫🤲🏾🙏🏽

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

I tell my Bubba if he wants messages then he better be in the mood for something else, because my messages are not just...messages

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

@ORANGELILY4U No..That is actually GREAT. I am sure the special.other person would really appreciate that.

[@ORANGELILY4U]

@@TawandaClark-ii9ps I'm as single as a dollar bill, for now....HE so never was can use my massage chair when I'm not in it.🤣🤣🤣

[@kaylam1252]

I never thought I would be one to lay my man down and massage him especially after his physically demanding job but it's crazy the things one does in love

[@SharonVillareal-t8j]

Recently, I had a challenging split. The breakup of my five-year relationship a few months ago has been quite difficult. I still harbor a deep affection for my ex-boyfriend, and I can't seem to stop thinking about him. My attempts to win him back have been unsuccessful, and at this point, it seems impossible to be with anybody else. It may seem strange to admit this, but I miss him terribly and can't stop thinking about him.

[@user-yn9wk5cx3w]

I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without him, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring him back into my life if you're open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference.

[@SharonVillareal-t8j]

How did you find your spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with them?

[@user-yn9wk5cx3w]

His name is Father Obah Eze and he's an incredible spiritual counselor known for helping restore relationships.

[@user-yn9wk5cx3w]

He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.

[@SharonVillareal-t8j]

Thanks to your useful information, I just looked him up online. amazing Father Obah Eze is really sincere, based on my online research. Once again, thank you ❤

[@DorothyWilloughby-v2v]

COILD YOU PLEASEEEEE DO A DISCUSSION ABOUT LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS.....THANK YOU

[@angeliquagrange9345]

This right here !!

[@Tampabae_realtor]

Right!

[@jmarie11]

Amen 🙏🏼♥️ You’re always delivering such good stuff. Thank you 😊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you ❤ I appreciate that

[@LynnetNjoki]

Thanks Stephanie this came at a better time with my life.❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I’m glad it was helpful to you

[@nicondaallen]

A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP IS CONSIST OF TWO PEOPLE 👫

[@Cindy_Love_2025]

I really love this video & the topics! 👏🏼💯❤️ Stephan, you made a lot of valuable points! It’s in the Bible that men should be the head of the household… woman should submit to their husbands… husband love your wife…

[@kaylam1252]

**being mindful to how you react

[@dianatorres8449]

Met someone who was ready to move in with me within 2 months. He was or is living with his mother. Also at the beginning a lot of texting then slowly the texts became scarce. I made sure to be clear what I was as looking for. Full of excuses busy with work, mother etc.

[@DorothyWilloughby-v2v]

I MADE THIS MAN MY PRIORITY BUT HE NEVERRRRRRRR MADE ME HIS PRIORITY 😔

[@h8h215]

If you want a man who make you the priority then date a man who will do that.

[@giftsonyou501]

I understand people are human but I believe we should be equally yoked. We need to fight to help each to be accountable as Christian. Not be condemning, but being understanding and loving enough to be truthful and trusting God in our relationships. It’s not easy but we must pray. Non of us are perfect.

[@2019-c8x]

My daughter's father was one to basically say that I had to LISTEN to him and do as he wanted within situations. When I asked WHY on different occasions , he couldn't answer me. One time he told me to go talk to other women. He was NOT a leader then and definitely not with his current girlfriend. He literally only want a woman to take care of him

[@MaryCourtneyMinistries]

Awesome

[@ALICIAAUSTIN-j2m]

Men always ask what do you want out of a man? And I’ve learned to do a psychological evaluation of what they want from a female? Sometimes when you are honest, this may make the counter part fieel you are to much for them! Not holding back your expectations and not giving them any consideration to be honest with you is a very important part of your relationship with your partner! My thing is this stop pretending to be someone that you are not! 🤔We all are still working on ourselves daily!🙋🏽‍♀️ but when you start out lieing 🤥 the truth will evidently surface! Be you, find the best solution for your life to be shown throughout your journey! 🌍

[@stephlon6757]

4:04 😂😂so funny But thanks you for this .., I’m learning 😅

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

😂 you're welcome 🙏

[@nicondaallen]

BE FAITHFUL IN MARRIAGE.

[@FindingLoveWithTarot]

Hi thank you for this message. I want to date someone and I’m afraid. Perfect timing 😊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I’m glad you found it helpful 🙏

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

Can,t be lucky and coward😅😅

[@DorothyWilloughby-v2v]

SOME PEOPLE DON'T KNOW WHAT TRUEEEE LOVE IS.....😢

[@h8h215]

You have described that you are alone, no offence but you dont neither or you would be experiencing it.

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

I already let my Bubba know I don't flirt in nobody's dms. I give positive support to others, and make sure my profile pics are appropriate to the public.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

@MeetStephanSpeaks ☀🌺☀

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

@MeetStephanSpeaks I know one thing...If TMH ever bless me with more children that would definetly be a sacrifice to my Bubba , because I have not lost this much weight since in almost 11 yrs, which is a long time to turn around and gain it back. The things love will make one do..😌

[@HopeWins777]

Question. So how long do you think a person should wait before explaining they are a recovering addict. My opinion is that it's a big deal when both people are affected by those lifelong boundaries. I felt betrayed when he withheld that until after many weeks. It took 4 years to find out other things I should have known in the first couple of months, in my opinion. Thinkers and brooders are slow to open up, so how long is long enough?

[@zitaranics7128]

Very good question. 😊

[@Jonesybabie]

Before sex.

[@Anisky123]

No, am new to online dating and every single guy has turned it sexual before we even meet. Am NOT asking his “love language”.

[@NicoleSmith-to4dr]

Helpful video definitely gonna apply it with the next person who i date

[@lisan8007]

Time codes are needed, please

[@lindamedina3178]

I dont believe is asking about love language. Part of discovery phase is learning about him and what he does and does not like..

[@LigiB]

The list question, must be the first.. Bro..

[@nicondaallen]

MAN SHALL NOT LAY WITH MAN 🔷️LEVITICUS 18:22 🔷️LEVITICUS 20:13

[@marlene9391]

Does he give personal sessions?

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

Your wonderful nieces would really appreciate all of this advice I am sure.👍🏾 They're probably like "OK Uncle Stephan.😒😊"😅

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Lol 🙏

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

@MeetStephanSpeaks 🤣

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

@MeetStephanSpeaks They're Like..sighhh.."Our uncle is at it again.."🙄😅

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

@MeetStephanSpeaks I can hear it now...👉🏾"You both better learn to have it under control, because I am trying to not have to turn anyone into a trash can!"😤😑 🤣😅

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

@MeetStephanSpeaks 🎵🎶🎵I can hear it callin' in the air tonight..oh nooo🎵🎶🎵🤣🤣🤣

[@cypresse1620]

Do you have to have all 5 questions matched to continue dating?

[@h8h215]

If they are not chad then yes you need all 5.

[@evangelistdenisestephenson113]

I know a friend who married after 15 years in her 50's....

[@nicondaallen]

EVERY MAN SHOULD HAVE HIS OWN WIFE, AND EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE HER OWN HUSBAND.

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

I know my Bubba is only into just me...That is why we are connected...It's the same for the both of us.

[@DorothyWilloughby-v2v]

WHAT ABOUT WHEN THEY GET HOSTILE N HAVE NEGATIVE ENERGY ABOUT WHAT I WANT ?!?!?

[@h8h215]

Then move on to someone else, you cant change people, the amount of seperate comments you have made in this comment section if i seen this in your character traits i wouldnt tell you to stfu i would simply see you as a mismatch and leave, i have no interest in changing people.

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

Hey hey😊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

@MeetStephanSpeaks I miss you honey.

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

Who don't want to rock the boat? Not I..O

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

😂🙏

[@nicondaallen]

BREAK NO WEDLOCK.

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

I am spiritual..believe in Haya..the Divine Creator of the Universe..the same creator of the aboriginal ancestors. Their beliefs is historically documented..It always starts "Before the Europeans came".... I'm not racist..it is the truth.

[@DorothyWilloughby-v2v]

HE CALLS HIS MOM BEFORE CALLS ME; EVERY AFTERNOON N EVERY NIGHT AT THE SAMEEEEE TIME; YET HIM CALLING ME AT NIGHT IS AT A LATERRRRRRRR TIME 🕛 AS TIME 🕛 GOES ON. I'MMA ASK U AGAINNN WHAT'S HE ON ?!?!?!? I JUST WANT TO SEE 👀👁️👁️👀IF YOUR ANSWER IS THE SAME AS MINES. THANK YOU

[@h8h215]

You give him a headache?

[@DorothyWilloughby-v2v]

WHAT ABOUT MEN THAT HAS NOOOOOO GOALS NOR VISIONS ?!?!?!?

[@h8h215]

What about them? If they have no goals or vision and you wish for a man with those traits date men with those traits 🤷‍♂️

[@nicondaallen]

👉34:34

[@Sweetwahine]

❤

[@DorothyWilloughby-v2v]

WHAT ABOUT WHAT US WOMEN's DESIRES ?!?!?!?

[@h8h215]

Elaborate, date men that value the sae thing you value, left wing men typically like the idea of 50/50 relationships, if you have goals in life maybe those men would be best for you.

[@nicondaallen]

WHAT ARE YOU UP TO❓️

[@nicondaallen]

WHAT DO YOU SEEK❓️

[@Godchild0000]

🖐️... 👍. 🎄

[@nicondaallen]

ASK HIM IF HE IS SINGLE❓️

[@enaalexis92]

Considering the events of the last 8 weeks, an absolute must question is “what are your political leanings?”🙂

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I think discussing specific issues would be better.

[@enaalexis92]

@ Okay, Merry Christmas.

[@ramonajackson1447]

Too long winded

[@Nita_Beata]

Gotta watch on 1.5x speed and get the message

[@LisaDanley-s2l]

Wrong mate

[@traciesbouncebackbossup]

He can't stand social media and he don't like for me to be on social media

[@Uni_melody]

Why do you almost always go off on women when your trying to help us lol

[@zitaranics7128]

Haha!😂

[@GiuliQGandolfo]

He does the same thing concerning men on his other channel; for men 🤷🏻‍♀️ Once you experience more Long Term Relationship time, you’ll likely understand. #everybodyaintforeverybody

[@Uni_melody]

@GiuliQGandolfo really lol don't get me wrong I understand if he is in their side I just felt sometimes he is ragging on us. Hey some deserve it don't get me wrong lol but I do love good videos and his help.

[@Uni_melody]

@GiuliQGandolfo oh and I was in a long term relationship lol. I know some things

[@Anisky123]

Ok I’m new on hinge and every single man says that their “love language “ is; “words of affirmation and physical touch”. ie: if you ask them this when you haven’t even met or JUST met they think you are OK with a FWB/sexual fling.

[@DorothyWilloughby-v2v]

This guy that I fell in love with decides tells me that he has responsibilities quote on quote. So his responsibilities is his Mom( which is WONDERFUL) yet there's other women that he spends everyday; all day running around n I m the LAST 🕐 🕜 one on his list yet he REALLYYYYYYYY WANTS ME TO BELIEVE THAT HE REALLYYYYYY LOVES ME. He calls the other women his lady friends n he calls me his SPECIAL(QUOTE ON QUOTE) HIS SPECIAL LADY FRIEND. WHAT THE HELL IS HE ON ?!?!?!? PLUS HE ONLYYYYY CALLS ME LATE AT NIGHT.

[@Love2Love927]

Not a good choice Sis ! … Keep it moving 💯 You’re not a priority to him, more like an option.

[@DorothyWilloughby-v2v]

@Love2Love927 THANKS

[@kaylam1252]

That's crazyyy