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[@faithsmith8114]

Girlllll , I’m married 22 years … my mother helped us raise our kids until she passed In 2019! My kids are WONDERFUL.. because of God and GRANDMA 🙌🏾🙌🏾. The bond they had with her was Everything. She gave them every ounce of Love and support she had. She prayed with them, encouraged them, cheered them on AND KEPT Their little secrets😢.. I am forever grateful they Got to experience the UNMATCHED LOVE of a grandparent and we got to witness it all. 🙏🏾🙏🏾. Thank you Mama … rest well😢😢😢😢❤❤❤

[@kelliontamason2009]

The love of a grandparent is unmatched. Sorry for your loss 🥹🙏🏽❤️❤️

[@canwejustloveeachother2550]

Awwwwww. Sending you 💕 love..I'm so glad you knew her love, as well as the children

[@jonnellholley316]

I tell my nieces and nephews all the time how blessed they are that they have a wonderful Grandma who would bend over backforwards for them. The youth need that perspective on life and the grandparents get revived from the younger generation.

[@mrkinla]

❤ 🌻🌻 Flowers to your mother. I loved my Grandma because I felt unconditional love from her all my life until she passed.

[@kylawilliams5951]

I felt this post... beautifully written

[@MsWhitneyS2]

Don't yall bring the kids to work cause Miss Jackie is not having it and will tell Robert in a heartbeat 😂

[@kytticockroach2299]

My sagging spirit needed this video so I could see this comment. ❤

[@queenreg7]

This comment is so upsetting to me…..

[@kelliontamason2009]

Just as long as they stay away from her lunchbox 😂😂😂😂

[@kimcham9949]

​@@queenreg7: 👍🏾😂😂😂

[@raziwellabdulrahman2362]

How big is her pot of pinto beans?

[@jonap5740]

I was a single auntie who took the kids every Saturday I could get my hands on them! Did homework, made Halloween costumes, went swimming, we did it all and I loved it. Picked them up at 8 a.m. and brought them home at 8 pm.

[@thasfun]

Bless her Jesus, bless her ❤

[@songjames4609]

This was me too

[@kamwilliams5541]

What is a single auntie?

[@apara2005]

​@@kamwilliams5541she wasn't married or had children.

[@songjames4609]

@@kamwilliams5541 no kids

[@lakishajenkins465]

My grandmother passed away when I was five, so I spent a lot of time with my great grandparents. They lived two flights up from us. She always had a snack ready when I came home from school and always kept me with some pocket change. She passed away in April at 102 years old. I will cherish the memories of watching the stories, Dynasty, Dallas, Family Feud, I Love Lucy, Carol Burnett, and Alice. It really takes a village

[@papondahoops]

I am so sorry for your loss. I don’t know about you, but my great-grandma loved me more than anybody else could. She’d even sit up straighter when she saw me coming. I miss her dearly. Wishing you comfort and many happy memories. ❤

[@pigalottafattenton5003]

One grandma lived next door. If my folks were looking for me, they knew I was at Gramps house. My other Grandma kept all the grandkids and every morning in the summer time we were chopping the garden, or in the pea or butter bean field. She kept us, but we worked in the hot Mississippi summer sun. I wouldn’t trade it for the world 🥰

[@veelee4117]

My husband and I struck out on both sides; mother & mother in law are inactive. Being married for 13yrs it been impossible finding ppl we trust to watch our 3 boys for a simple dinner/movie date night. This really hit home for me. Thank you for recognizing married couples need a village too.

[@jojoangu901]

Facts! We’ve been married 10 years and my MIL has come before, but my SIL has her tied up with her gchildren, yes her great grands, that when does come here she checks out. My oldest does more watching than her. It’s not fun. Hopefully, you can find a family in a similar situation to trade with so y’all each get a break. i.e. We got Friday, you got Saturday.

[@nameunknown1519]

We struck out over here too and it’s a hot mess 😩

[@LoveyourzAF]

This! I have been divorced for 7 years and the trust level is at zero so its genuinely a just me situation.

[@robyngillum8577]

Atleast you got 3 kids. I’m having to stop at 1 because we don’t have enough help.

[@cherwallace6026]

That’s sad, because the grandparents have missed out on a lot of love, joy, and laughter not spending time with their grandchildren. SO VERY SAD.

[@pattywilliams788]

I love a Fred cameo! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@natashabrooks4188]

Me too 💯

[@Only1_Me]

Giiiiirl.... I'm so glad and grateful my kids are grown now. My mom didn't babysit and his mom didn't either. When they said they were through raising kids, they meant that ish.

[@samanthanorton4538]

Same! My parents live down the street were not watching kids or coming to sports games. They did that, they are done. It was exhausting with no breaks, and I'm glad my kids are older now.

[@lifewithangelina92]

That’s so crazy why people don’t want see their grandkids… I hopefully they’ll have people around when they need it. 😢

[@Only1_Me]

@@lifewithangelina92 You're exactly right. They never wanted to be bothered but now all these years later, they expect the grandkids to visit them and run all their errands.

[@proverbs3126]

@@lifewithangelina92 Facts!!

[@lifewithangelina92]

@@Only1_Me crazy I learned early you have to build that type of relationship with people, you can’t expect just because you’re family for people to call and want to be around you. I used to hate when older ppl ask why you don’t call or stop by… um maybe because we don’t have that type of bond!

[@mzsunshine91]

My granny would watch our kids but my mama said she not watching no kids and she meant that. So we took our kids to my granny and my mamma was always there so she was watching them anyway. 😂😂

[@junkanoobaby1]

😂😂😂

[@Macsrus5]

Oh that’s funny 🤣

[@MorenaCubana]

😂😂😂

[@dyoung2739]

My mom🙏🏽🕊️was wonderful. I didn’t want to take her for granted & push my baby off on her so she begged to babysit. She raised 7 of us & I’d call her anytime my baby was sick. Her diagnoses were always right but she’d say take him to the doctor just in case I’m wrong. The pediatrician would ask what was your moms prognosis & he said your mom really should’ve been a doctor or nurse practitioner.

[@lesliewit]

Not the doctor asking, "What did your mom say?" 😂❤

[@plantbasedunicorn7995]

@@lesliewitI love this 😂🥰

[@VieraXXII]

Your mama sounds like an angel. I am glad you and your babies enjoyed time with her. What a blessing.❤

[@ms.n4878]

This post made me laugh out loud!! My Mama was the same way!! Nieces and nephews are grown now and we are incredibly close, but we all still laugh at Mama's response to this question, "Grandmama, can I come over your house?" "Sure baby, just make sure you bring your parents with you!"😂😂

[@angeliaimeanttoloveyouharr8404]

😂😂😂😂love it🥰

[@Prairie1960]

I raised my two children and then acquired an infant at 50 years old. My daughter had bad post partum and then did not want the baby. My husband and I adopted him because we didn't want our grandchild in the foster system. He's 14 now, and honestly it has kept me younger.

[@MySUPRunnethOver]

My mother in law was and still is a WHOLE God sent blessing 🙏🏾 to me and my hubby! She says she was ready to have grandkids 😊 and secretly I feel like I can never repay her. Much love to her for all the support she has provided!

[@lcam9241]

❤❤

[@AccessoriesAddict5528]

I CANNOT STAND my MIL. She didn't NOTHING for our kids but somehow, now that they're grown, (33 & 37), she's now obsessed with what they're doing.

[@ludiemilhomme3615]

This is so sweet. If my husband's mom was alive, she would have been that supportive of us too. But, we lost her too soon 😢 ❤

[@MySUPRunnethOver]

@@ludiemilhomme3615So sorry for your loss. 🙏🏾

[@MySUPRunnethOver]

@@AccessoriesAddict5528 She don’t know what she missed out on. Her loss. 🫤

[@briamckissic8373]

I put I want my husband to be able to afford a nanny on my prayer list 😂

[@Musicball]

There used to be a time when "the village" took its role seriously, be it grandparents, aunts, uncles, the people across the street, etc. They took it seriously because they understood (a) how much hard work went into parenthood, and (b) that those children are the future (cue Whitney) and would one day be leaders of society. They were invested in a future society that was productive, successful. Fast forward, and you have a lot of grandparents- and other elders- who are as immature as the grandchildren. You also have lazy parents who take advantage of the village, usually in favor of nonsensical stuff. The role of the family is not what it used to be and it shows. "Nobody's responsible for your kids except you" is a symptom of the problem.

[@lovingme1st973]

The problem is that people should assemble the village before they make a baby. Its no guarantee that they want to be involved with watching kids just because you assumed they would

[@pigalottafattenton5003]

Society has changed. I’m 40 neither one of my grandmas worked, some of my aunts were housewives so there was a village around me growing up. My neighbors could punish us or send us home and tell our parents we were acting up because they helped raise my dad and his siblings. Now grandparents are my age and still working. There are few stay at home parents that can take care of their own kids let alone a niece, nephew, or grandchild. I can name my immediate neighbors, but couldn’t tell you how to get in touch with them. A lot of parents aren’t receptive to “the village” correcting or talking to them about issues with their child. The “village” no longer has a reason to be involved. No one has to be invested in other people’s kids for their own survival now.

[@leshcamp7281]

Agreed 100%

[@pri_shay_dior]

You said it better than I would have. My siblings, cousins, and I had a pretty good village on my mom's side. My grandmother and aunt on my dad's side were supportive too. I think the difference I've noticed is that my parents didn't just casually drop us off and it was usually because we asked to go over there, my grandparents asked for us to come, or (on rare occasion) my parents had no where else for us to go. I remember being at my grandparents', aunts', godparents, and play family houses WITH my parents a lot, too. Parents these days don't go to peoples' houses until they need their child(ren) watched. The village "raised" us in the sense that they disciplined us as they saw fit. Other than that, all things were taken care of by our parents. It was a blessing that I want to give my kids and grandchildren. But first, I need whatever financial blessing my grandmothers had, because they were living good in retirement. 😂

[@Musicball]

@@lovingme1st973 I think it goes beyond watching kids. The village is supposed to be more than babysitters. One shouldn't have to assemble the village. It used to be already in place, not because anyone assembled it, but because it just existed from birth.

[@Grace2shar]

My mother in law laid down the babysitting rules way in advance. 1. I will only watch your kids when I want to. 2. Have them dressed, clean, fed and ready when I come to get them and send lots of extra clothes with them. 3. Your kids are the receipt for the fun you had! ( 😅 I didn’t have that much fun!) Having said all that, she was still a terrific grandma. She fed them, clothed them, disciplined them and took them to school. She was my support. My Mom did watch them occasionally but not as much as my mother-in-law. She and my father-in- law made up for my husband! Loved them! ❤

[@sissinoklahoma2057]

This was me when my son got married. Told them before the babies ever started, I don't babysit. I will gladly interact when you bring the babies to me and visit. If there is a Real emergency (not a lack of planning urgency) I will be there right Now, otherwise, see you for Sunday dinner at our house.

[@Childfree334]

​@@tryna_be_better4549Actually it's not BS. How are you gonna have kids with the sense of entitlement that other people should actively be involved in raising them for you? Seriously? 😂

[@lorigee1]

My sister and I got married in the same year…got pregnant at the same time, had similar lives and when I needed a break she had mine keep hers company and I had hers when she needed a break. The result is that our 7 kids grew up together in two homes with their siblings AND cousins. We have both been in our marriages for 20 years this year. Mummy didn’t have to do a thing. She already had to raise the 8 of us. We just made sure she was comfortable.

[@ifeefee6964]

I am the single auntie && I always take my nieces and nephews when their parents ask, even if I know they have absolutely nothing important to do….. && because people at my church know me && I work in the children’s ministry I babysit those nieces and nephews too!!! 😂❤😂❤

[@pigalottafattenton5003]

I told my cousin last week I’m going to kidnap her baby for the night. I don’t wait for them to ask, I call ask for the kids. I love being the fun one with no kids. I love to babysit but I love giving them back even more 😂

[@misslee3700]

Same here. I'm the fun auntie that loads up the neices and nephew. We have fun & food & sleepovers. Auntie is paying for everything. Leave your coins at home. I spoil my babies ❤

[@shirleyjensen417]

I watch my grands three days a week for my daughter and her husband to work. It’s tough at times, but us Nana’s do what we got to. I love my grand babies though! 🩷💙

[@bossladykey2]

My mom helped me with mine, however I did not take her help for granted. She also said DON’T HAVE NO MO KIDS THAN YOU CAN AFFORD. I stopped at #2. I help my son with my granddaughter HOWEVER I set boundaries.

[@churlish_hoecake]

Just because I have a kid doesn't mean any of my family members are required to help me raise it, nor would I ever expect them to. I made the decision to bring life into this world!

[@lwkee7143]

That part!! Never required or expect anything from anyone for anything tbh, but it is nice when it’s there anyway, and that goes for anything in life. Anyone's assistance can leave in an instant , Go do it for yourself. Then if any extra is an extra.

[@FamiliaSuri]

Thank you! Couldn’t say better myself 👏🏽

[@Childfree334]

Thank you. You have the right attitude. I will help my nieces and nephews with occasional babysitting and financial help if I deem it necessary. But this sense of entitlement that people have about grandparents and extended family being free childcare is ridiculous. If you can't handle being a parent, then don't have kids. This is the reason I am childfree.

[@angelamoss5156]

Chiiiiile, "today's" grandmothers be at DA CLUB and smokin' weed!!! 🤣 Grandmas back in the '60s and '70's stayed in the kitchen talkin' bout "BABY, YOU WANT SOMETHIN' TO EAT?!!! They cooked, baked cakes FROM SCRATCH, and let you lick the spoon cause they babysat the grandchiren ALL the time!! Real good memories!!!

[@juicee30jc]

Or they’re still working. Not everyone has the luxury of staying home for someone else’s children.

[@Childfree334]

Nothing wrong with being in DA CLUB when you are done raising your own children. Grandma's are under no obligation to raise grandkids.

[@teenacherry4958]

I had a whole village. Thank you, Lord, because I had twins and was clueless. 😂😂😂

[@machaungreen9343]

My mama told me when I got pregnant Senior year and I quote "I'm not yo" built in babysitter" and I took Freddie Mae at her word. I can count with fingers to spare the times she kept my kids. They're grown now with kids and I'm very active in their lives but don't just drop them off and leave.

[@hpr2008]

One of the reasons I was super cautious about sex when I was younger was my mama telling me since I was about 12 years old, " I ain't raising nobody else's kids." I took Kim at her word too. 🤣

[@nys1072]

My son is absolutely blessed! My mom has always been active in his life. She picks him up from school on certain days and they have their time together. She now lives with us and he LOVES her being here! I catch them cuddling all the time and he’s 11!! He loves his granny!!!!!

[@MsElizabethharris5704]

I keep my grandbaby whenever his mother allows us to see him.

[@alysarenee3915]

My mother in law watches my toddler during the day. My mom will have them this summer and travels to watch them when we travel. My sister lives two states away and comes to help frequently. I’m blessed on every side.

[@junawallace7315]

I truly LOVE my auntie time with the babies. Whenever I see that the stress is getting to mom and dad, we go out for an Auntie hangout day. Please, parents..know that your people (especially us single, child free folks) love you and you can lean on us when you need it.

[@Trudloops]

I am the single aunty too. My friend let me take my god-daughter and her twin brother on trips, to the office, on weekends. People at my office thought that her kids were mine, as they spent a few days every vacation at the office. I also took them to church on Sundays. Now that they are grown up we still keep in touch. I'm grateful my friend let me experience a teeny bit of motherhood. And yes, I got to send them home at the end of the visit 😊.

[@dietrich2894]

I really appreciated my son's grandmother. I got consistent breaks.

[@treectrice9180]

You lucky

[@MzSweetzTalk]

"It be help, I be needing" Facts

[@marquitahammock6603]

My mom has been a huge help with my kids, but she wasn’t the only because my stepdad, older sister and younger brother and sister were very helpful. I call them my village.

[@vegascece]

I helped with my grands so much that I bought a bigger house so my daughter, son-in-law, and kids could move in. Getting the young family through their lean years till they were stable afforded them the opportunity to eventually buy their own...did the same with my single dad son and his daughter. My grands and I are all close and I still fill-in when their parents aren't available or just because I want to. Love em'!

[@karoltowns8384]

I would NOT have made it without my Mother’s help with my children. She watched them after school almost every day!

[@afrikurl]

I didn’t have parents or siblings for relief with parenting. I have been making it work. I’m the mama that brought her kid everywhere or didn’t go out when my friends asked because I didn’t have childcare. I paid extra for before school and after school care. I left work early when need be. My kid is a teenager now and I can see the finish line in sight but I’m tiiied. I can assure you that when the time comes, I won’t be available for babysitting.

[@AdorzAaliyahSince94]

I'm thankful that my mom lived until my daughter was 19 (2014). She loved all of her grands and great-grands so much. Everybody wanted to keep my daughter because she was a sweet baby. She was the first and only live-in grandchild & my mom rarely let her out of her sight, lol!!

[@kelliontamason2009]

I'm not a parent yet but some of my best memories are of growing up with my grandparents. I feel that influence is definitely missing in the social media generation...just my opinion. But when it happens..Mama, come get these kids!! 😂😂

[@jessicaaudate]

So many questions to ask beforehand.. 🎶if i could turn back time 🎶

[@iriscostner9204]

My father-in-law was very active. When he passed my (out of state) mom walked in on an abundance of love because of how my kids honored their grandfather. But let me be clear my mother gave everything in her soul to raise her children well. She honestly had little left for grandchildren. I had to learn to honor that her mental health and tolerances changed. We all love her without reservation. When she comes to visit, she is just visiting not babysitting! 😂

[@PAL16]

My grandma lived with us until she passed. My mom lives with me and my family. I told my husband before we got married that my mom was going to be a part of our household. It’s been 4 years and a set of twins later. We all live together with my in-laws. Best thing that ever happened to us. My kids get to have two grandmas at home everyday.

[@stephaneenos2997]

My mama comes through when my husband and I need help and im eternally grateful for that. :)

[@djdean9881]

Just got off two weeks of grand baby keeping!!! I'm going on VACAY next week!!!😂😂😂😂 My patience ain't what it used to be😅😅😅😅😅

[@TMYPiscesSunandMoonRising5548]

I was so blessed with a village (auntie, cousins, both grandparents) to help with my daughter (grown now). She has informed me not to hold my breath because she has no desire to have children her words, "I love to sleep and travel' lol. But if she did, I would definitely keep my grandchild.

[@ruffinarector541]

Yes my grandmother took care of my kids as well as they Daddy’s mom!!! I am eternally grateful for these wise women.

[@treectrice9180]

You lucky

[@trulykeisha]

Thank you for saying this EJ! ALL of us need help.

[@tamale261]

All of us

[@pockahantiss]

This is why I have no children! Too much babysitting as a youth. ….And the parents “forget” they have kids!😒😂

[@kamwilliams5541]

This!!!

[@Childfree334]

Exactly. No kids for me thanks.

[@GeminiD90]

I feel her. My mama doesn't help me with anything but her mama RAISED us not just helped her she should thank her.

[@lovingme1st973]

😂😂😂😂

[@GeminiD90]

@@lovingme1st973 why is that funny?

[@darlingdaisy6633]

My mom has 4 kids and her mom kept ALL of us. As a parent myself now with 2 girls I always tell people I wish my maternal grandmother was still living because she would have graciously offered to be our live-in nanny rest her sweet soul ❤. However, our support system is EVERYTHING. We literally have 4 different sets of people in our corner who will keep our kids in a moment's notice and we are both eternally grateful for them. Our girls have aunties, uncles, cousins, and 3 sets of grandparents who are always wanting to spend time with them and spoil them and their involvement definitely comes right on time especially when my husband and I are both exhausted from working so much. Prime example: we're both part-time military and had to be away for our annual 2 weeks training at the same time and we were able to fulfill our obligations worry-free because our support system like I said earlier is literally EVERYTHING. We thank God for them daily and I pray for others who may not have that type of support because parenting is hard and you definitely need good people in your corner as you try to be the best examples for your children that you can be.

[@hazelwitherspoon2721]

I have no kids but I spent plenty of weekend Big Sis time for my Mom and now I do Auntie time for my niece. My great nieces regularly ask when I am coming to spend the night and play with them. My Mom did the grandmother thing into her sixties and my sister is raising her grandkids. I pull her up north every so often to have adult time without hearing "Ma, Ma, Ma...Grandma, Grandma, Grandma." I call her every few days so she can safely vent. Love my sister.

[@nicolem8122]

I was young when I had my daughter (20/21). My mother is an amazing grandmother. M daughter is now 24 and currently with my mother in Mexico. It's such a blessing to be with 3 generations of strong, independent, compassionate woman. And it all started with her. I love my mother dearly 🥰

[@cynthiacummings0917]

I'm that grandma that DOES NOT BABYSIT PERIOD. 😂😂😂

[@nikkimoore19]

I just knew EVERYBODY was going to be all over this baby aka the second coming, the prince, the one we've been waiting for...cause I was 31 when I gave birth and they all thought I was not going to be a mom. They called the dog, their granddog lol. But anyway 50 people showed up each time to all 3 baby showers, 15 folks showed up for the delivery...in the room while I'm pushing (sidenote that's probably why my anesthesiologist stuck me in my back wrong and his boss had to come in and do it again but never kicked anyone out the room). Needless to say after he got here it was crickets, tumbleweeds, and silence. Why did they leave me alone with this baby and no instructions? I mean everybody got gone even the dad. But God showed me something. Nothing is impossible with Him. I struggled emotionally, financially, and mentally. Now every blue moon I could get a little support when I got stuck with a crazy shift at work, or if I had a whole meltdown and begged for a break, my mama would come through but then she had to get back to doing her single girl thing at 61. Anyway 14 years later and although I don't want to ever go back to those times, I look back fondly on the times me and my son spent together, just the 2 of us and the dogs. He's a teenager now and so now I get a lot of alone time because he never talks to me 😂.

[@Chickadee_]

Some grandparents are still working and will never be able to retire! As a wise woman once said, children are a choice, so choose wisely. #MarriedandChild-free

[@papondahoops]

I’m grateful my husband was with his grandparents so much. They were loving and stable. And his grandma taught him to cook! Their blessings are still with us.

[@markittaellerson8044]

I felt this post in my spirit. Because if I knew, then what I know now life would be different.

[@lwkee7143]

Mhmm, You ain’t LYIN mhm.100💯

[@chrism9294]

My mom told my sister that she’d retire and watch my nephew but she needed 3 more months before she could get the max. So, my dad and I each had a specific day of the week to watch him until she retired. My sister had it so easy but not just anyone could watch OUR baby 😂🤷🏽‍♀️♥️.

[@LW97672]

I know that’s right!!!!

[@katiesmith2985]

I love that "Our baby" ❤❤❤🙏🏽

[@LW97672]

@@katiesmith2985 That part!

[@Tricey.89]

My mother watches her grandkids proudly and i have yet to bless her with one . I have personally seen the stress people have when they can’t catch a break and I look at the exact same thing! You ain’t gonna be having my mom the only one doing the work lol

[@QueenMoFyah]

What's Ms. Jackie number? Tell her I'll bring her a new burgundy lunchbox with her fav scripture if she can make time for mine😂

[@sayless1445]

😂

[@imamasterpiecexlnt]

My grandmother was a God send. Not only did she raise her daughter's children after she passed, she helped me with mine. Three upbringing was a little different from generation to generation because grandma was very laid back with the great grands. Nevertheless she was my ride or die!!!😊

[@aprilrivers436]

This post about to have me write a song to my parents....they HELPED me while I was married ...Helped after divorce....helping right now. I never took advantage of them and just did the drop off and get missing. They are were a blessing. We all NEED help!

[@MsChapman]

Chile! My mama is the PURSE, not the SITTER okay! She’ll buy him whatever he wants/needs; she will bring him back a carry out or a souvenir from her outings and adventures; but she definitely will NOT sit still for no chil’ren! She OUTCHEA!!!!!! 😂😂😂

[@deannaterry6875]

If not a grandparent/grandparents, someone who is truly on your team. In my opinion, being a parent is the hardest job in the world. It takes a village.

[@shelleybailey2978]

I am the grandparent who helps with the kids. I have been chasing school buses for over 40 years now!!!😂 My kids , my older grands, the little grands and now the great grands .

[@misheleb.4340]

Never got the help from my mother but my grandmother raised me and gave her help go figure.

[@katrinab7657]

Nothing to figure out. It's clear as day. In the relationship, one was the giver and the other was the receiver. A receiver doesn't magically become a giver. Ask me how I know.

[@user-mz3ii2cr2u]

Same why I have one kid no village

[@crystalsunlove5284]

My Mom was a single Mom of 5 children and she was living her life. Told us... her house is not kid proofed and neither is her car or office. No help babysitting at all. She is now more grandmotherly but my children adults now. I need a Grandma now to Grandmother me. Lol!!! Miss my Nana!

[@dianewillis2972]

Thank God for my mother❤️ She practically raised my three boys while I worked. She passed away in 1990 and baby the struggle after she died was real! But we made it👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽

[@stown1134]

I can say I have a rarity in my mother-in-law! She is the best on so many levels! She never says no and I make sure she knows how appreciated she is and never take her kindness as a weakness. She don't interfere just full support and with love.❤💐

[@shopece8807]

shout-out to the childfree aunties too! My bestie gets put through the RINGER for all her sisters that have 2-5 kids each.

[@daysiarobinson3563]

I can't be more grateful to my husband's mom to stepping up when is as young parents needed her. Thank you 😊

[@VintageModernWoman]

My in laws helped and it was such a blessing! They didn't live far and didn't have to pay them nearly as much as a day care facility. They have my same values and I of course trusted them. My kids were also able to tap into their artsy side from their grandmother because I don't really have one. 🤷🏽‍♀️. Our prayers were answered.

[@dcharles7712]

Shout out to my mom and dad who sacrifice a whole bunch to look after my one and neice and nephews. The love, the prayers, the clothes, shoes and food shopping. Even when they themselves needed. Days when I get home - grandma and baby girl are fast asleep with babygirl lying on grandmas tummy. Grandad fixing toys, cribs, beds and hangs stuff on the clothes line for the grandkids. Grandparents picking them up from school and just being there for them. I can never pay my parents enough. I really appreciate them their love and support. 🎉🎉🎉

[@everydaylifewiththebrewers7165]

My Mama the only person in thee entire universe that will babysit all 4 of my kids 💯💯💯💯💯 she the real MVP

[@ambrosiakamala5937]

I was blessed to be raised partly by my grandmother while my parents attended college, (high school sweethearts married after graduation), and blessed to have her in my daughter's life as well. Rest in Peace, Mother Dear ♥

[@jaechea7644]

My maternal grandparents got me almost every weekend because they enjoyed having me with them. My parents definitely didn't mind and neither did I. I'm grateful they did this because by the time I turned 5 my grandmother passed and before I turned 8 my grandfather followed. It's like God knew we needed all that time together and ample time was spent.

[@ms2bloved126]

My Mother did NOT babysit. My MIL was a blessing and kept the kids during the school breaks and was emergency contact pickup person when I was stuck in traffic. Bless that woman!!! ❤

[@gbender8859]

I am blessed to have grandparents that watched all of the grandchildren. As a matter of fact, they STILL treat them better than their actual kids (my sister and I)🤣🤣🤣. We got pushed to the side🤣🤣🤣. Thank you for bringing up the married couples, YES, we need help too!!!

[@trinity72gp]

Oh my days😂 it do be help I do be needing! That's taking me back FJ 😂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@spicybrown75]

There should never be an expectation that just because one is related I.e. grandparent/aunt/uncle, that one should always be ready to babysit.

[@Childfree334]

Thank you. The entitlement of these people.

[@kareishaallison2971]

My mom has driven two hours so we can go out for 5 hours to an annual gala. She drove again to stay the week while we lived our best lives in Ha-why-ya (that’s how she says it). She has been on a seven day cruise so we could have our room to ourselves! 😜 it was retirement gift, too. She went on a two-week road trip with us in 2019. We went out a couple times alone. My child is going to her house this Saturday for the whole week for our 20th anniversary. ❤ This the type of grandma live and supports we be needing. These kids need it too! I can say something 50-leven times, but Nana only has to say it once. My son started acting up a lil bit at school. I sat him down and told him that I was just going to have his teacher call Nana. I ain’t heard nothing else bout no cuttin’ up at that there schoolhouse.

[@kimberly3837]

Cousins & I grew up playing under grandma’s kitchen table! She did cut cake slices too thin tho 😂 Rest well Big Mama!

[@apriljoy425]

Thank GOD for my mother in law. Just amazing.

[@teikajackson8103]

My parents were, and still are, the GOATS! My kids are grown now, but I thank GOD my parents were/are a part of the village for my kids! ♥️🔥💪🏾

[@tjluvable]

When my granddaughter was born, I was so excited and blessed that I took care of her every weekend for years. I was divorced and living alone, and she was my heart. Shout out to proud grandparents who are living their best lives while enjoying their grandchildren. ❤ I spent every Summer with my maternal grandmother and both she and i looked forward to it.

[@angiebratcher8755]

My mother was the babysitter. She raised 7 of us watched neighborhood kids and watched most of of her grandkids and some great-grands. She even started volunteering at the elementary school as the assistant to the Kindergarten teacher. The neighborhood kids called her Ma-Ma just like her grands. Umm I’m not that type of grandmother. I LOVE my grandkids and they love Noni (that’s me 😊) I have to see them often, and talk to them almost daily… but I can’t keep the younger ones, because why won’t they sit down somewhere?

[@ccgrad03]

My mom didn’t want to watch the kids recently and I told her nobody told you to have all these grandkids and now you gotta raise them 😂

[@kamilahk7252]

Felt that in my soul…”we are not fine!! We need help”

[@itzyogurlEleanor]

My Mom and brother (before he passed away) helped with with my daughter in the early years. Her Grandmother is a good friend to her now. I love and appreciate the help she has given to us.

[@ladydia3928]

"It be help, that I be needing". YAZZZZZ!!!!!

[@traceyevans6242]

My mom and mother in law are whole blessings!! They literally split the week and watch our baby while we work and I’m so grateful for them. And even watch the baby so we get a date night here and there.

[@weirdmyst7963]

I was raised by my grands as my mom drove across country. Sadly, my grandmother is with God (don't feel bad, it didn't hurt cuz she doing good up there) and my grandpa is older and being pampered by his kids. My mom had kids when the older ones are about to go to college, and their dad left them. Thank God for for the father's parents who love them and take them off our hands for a few days or weeks. I love them for life! They take so much pre-college stress off and give us time to be.

[@coachkc5308]

Yess ma'am.... My Mother in Law is definitely a BLESSING!!! She come in the clutch for us, because of our jobs.

[@christinastevenson3282]

I'm a Glam Ma that helps with my grandkids full-time, but I made it clear that once they are 5. I'm on Glammy mode - babysit a couple times a week or after schools, make Sunday Dinners, sleepovers once in a while. No problem... But it's on you, once they can walk, talk, dress themselves. I need some ME time 🙏🏽💖😘

[@hanifahevans]

My mother only watched my kids when I had surgery but she was there for the visit when we stopped by real quick… but she wasn’t cooling off long enough to watch my kids. My MIL watched my kids almost every weekend (1 day) so I could pull my life together. I praise God for her. Sadly, she passed in 2019. Then my husband and I were on our own, but thankfully MSIL helps every yellow moon (like 3 times since 2019).

[@blaqmermaiid]

Even though im exhausted most times, i love raising my baby and seeing all the joyous moments unfold. The grandparents arent a "must have" ... only optional of they should so choose to offer to watch the kids. Short term baby sitting, yes... them wanting to full on take over raising my son... is a big NO. Im not shading anyone who had no other options, but for me, im not creating life only to hand my responsibility over to my parents or husband's parents who already had their chance and experience of raising a child. Id like to bond with my baby any chance i get, cuz life is short.

[@tspoonofmiya4739]

My mom and dad are the biggest blessings to me with my 2 chilren!! Whenever I ask, they are there to help. Best grandparents ever

[@AlysiaAnderson-ei5gc]

Bigup to BOTH grandmas. My husband’s mom was waiting at the door the 1st day I went back to work, set up school, etc and my mom came ALL the way thru with the granny Uber before Uber was a thing. They LITERALLY helped us raise these kids ans I could shout right now about it and they are 19 and 15!!😂

[@fefe6311]

😂😂 my mama said “I’ll watch em when I (bold/italic/underlined I) feel like it” but MY granny said, “brang that baby on ova hur”!

[@tsw4210]

My mom flew to Atlanta when I had my first son. She has always been in my childrens' lives. She's so helpful.

[@ludiemilhomme3615]

It's a blessing to have help and support from grandparents. But, my husband and I didn't have that. We had each other and I'm very grateful to my husband for his unconventional support ❤️ ❤❤

[@ItsChristyLove]

I had absolutely zero help from family because I was several states away. Maybe that's why I feel absolutely zero guilt about "BABYSITTING" very infrequently! Visiting is AWESOME though! LMBO! 😅😅 💯