Before You Give Up On No Contact, WATCH THIS!

[@2.22am]

Day 39 of no contact. Guys I'm loosing it now !

[@BradBrowning]

Once you've completed the "no contact" rule for at least 30 days straight, then it's time to RE-ESTABLISH CONTACT with your ex. Start out with the tips from here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jqDRfqeCe9RjZpI Also check out my other videos on my channel for more tips on what to do next and/or get my Ex Factor Guide for a comprehensive step-by-step process on how to go about this. Good luck!

[@greglavers]

15 months for me.

[@ijv5567]

@@BradBrowning 30 days is absolutely nothing. If you contact your ex after 30 days you are only gonna push them further away. I dont understand why you say 30 days in every video. It should be closer to 3 months and even then it might still be too fast. Since the dumper has to reach out. What makes you so sure about this 30 day mark? It seems extremely dangerous and in most cases you will push your ex further away by contacting them that soon

[@dmitryisaev5955]

@@ijv5567yes, especially DA ex…

[@mohits1]

@@BradBrowningdon’t contact plz Let it go

[@PaulW1954]

NC day 616 .. I feel much better now .. 🤷🏼‍♂️

[@BradBrowning]

Yeah, the route to trying to get an ex back and moving on follows the same initial (no contact) path.

[@irenenogales6546]

I didn't know the no contact rule for 30 days and I after 2 weeks in silence i started feeling good with life, I contacted him after 2 weeks because i thought was important considering him for something. I thought i was ready to start sharing messages again after the call and he didn't answer, neither a like in the message so now i am back into the rejection deeply sad feeling that gets in the way of creativity. It screw me up. I regreat deeply. Back to square zero.

[@BradBrowning]

It's okay, it happens. Just try to give it three or so more weeks to regain yourself and when you're ready to try again, you can send one of my text messaging examples here on the channel. Best of luck!

[@magicisreal111]

Thanks for the pep talk. Today I was feeling so much better that I thought, maybe we can be friends and maybe I should just call him. I just miss him. I had to remind myself why I’m doing this! I don’t know that I want him back because he has healing and work to do to be able to receive a healthy love but I don’t want him to take me for granted and I want him to feel the enormity of what he lost because he didn’t feel enough to commit to me.

[@BradBrowning]

This vid is more appropriate for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pp3KoICNa6ylg5o

[@magicisreal111]

You are the best. Thank you, Brad. I'm BINGEING your videos for comfort and inspo. I'm actually doing really well but there's that everyday pang just sitting in my heart. @@BradBrowning

[@swethas3403]

@magicisreal111 Heyy in the same situation too!!! What happened did he come back??

[@korntageous]

When I feel the urge to reach out, I write her a letter that I don't send. It takes the urgent pressure off, for me. I am still holding no contact.

[@BradBrowning]

Good thinking! It helps to see where your ex is at as well when it comes to trying to get them back. This vid is for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mqLRonqNhNBshKM and/or better yet, read the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide to help you out with the process, at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy

[@DogMommy.]

I contact him everyday . I can't help it . I'm constantly crying everyday. He left me and my 3 year old. Today is the first day he left. We been broken up since Sunday.

[@cd-jk4rh]

I liked this girl and spent fair amount of time with her. One day she sent me a picture message that just said depressed. So I bought her some flowers because she likes plans and dropped them off with a little note for her, just wanted to try and be uplifting. The next day she sends me a picture message of the ground, I open it but dint reply because I was at the gym, and dident really knownwhat to say to that, she instantly texts me back saying "great your not talking to me now fantastic, guess the flowers were a goodbye. I messaged her back a few minutes later and she never opened or responded to Me again. Been in no contact for about a month now.

[@BradBrowning]

Save yourself the headache by getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Sending her flowers was a bit much. Try to tone it down if is was an ex you're dealing with. Build positive rapport instead if you're already done with the "no contact" rule.

[@cd-jk4rh]

@BradBrowning I got her flowers when she told me she was depressed, this was before we stopped talking, since she likes flowers and plants, wanted to try and be uplifting I dident get her roses just got her a nice plant

[@cd-jk4rh]

No contact for months.

[@koragoalsport2362]

I think she is really toxic

[@donovanlemos]

So mine reached out after 3 weeks with the classic "Are you alive?" We spoke for that evening and 2 evenings after that then she just disappeared... I thought it was her coming back, as its been the case before. She also initiated those 3. I never brought up getting back together at all. Fast forward 2 weeks of NC again, i unfortunately had to reach out to collect some stuff and something I couldnt avoid. She then said "She thinks its the right thing for both of us that we split" and "Time apart helps make clearer choices". I just said ok i respect your decision and left it at that. So Im going to get my stuff, without her being present, just easier. So not sure if this one is now done or what to do. Im just going back into NC...

[@BradBrowning]

Complete the 30-day no contact rule first. It's important you ask yourself these very important questions before starting the process: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qmesZp5ratWheac but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com

[@ReesesPieces634]

We all move to the proverbial "NC" in the end

[@nottyrotty8973]

Very bad situation, but gonna try no contactl..because, it will help to get her back, or get me back to reality. Win win either way

[@BradBrowning]

Trust me, the no contact rule is your best choice. Always take time to heal because the route to getting an ex back (initially) and moving on actually follows the same path.

[@elijahjaxsogwuche8044]

Hi Brad. It’s been a week and she’s blocked me on all platforms. I’ve been having a bit of anxiety although I’ve implemented the NC

[@BradBrowning]

Hi! Try to chill. Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!

[@greglavers]

We ARE co-workers. It's been 15 months of no contact and now she has a BF. I'm so sad.

[@BradBrowning]

Hey man! I know it's tough but since it's been many months with no result, you may want to consider moving on from this relationship. I understand it's extra challenging for you, granted how you work for the same company but this may help you process or deal with the breakup accordingly: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bavTaIZ8l8p2iLc but if you find you need more guidance on how to lead a more fruitful life, get my Beat the Breakup Guide at www.beatmybreakup.com Take care!

[@64rustyjets]

Hang in there brother. Sharpen your tools/self. It's a win/win for you

[@DFRetha]

I'm on Day 47 of NC. I immediately implimented it and haven't heard anything. Even though I've passed the 30 and 45-day recommended NC periods, I won't be breaking it myself. Perhaps if somehow I learn from his sisters that he is scared to try again, but I suspect he left me for his ex; plus I threw him out in the end, so I'm pretty sure he would not respond to contact well.

[@BradBrowning]

You wouldn't really know unless you give it a try though. Once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jqDRfqeCe9RjZpI AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!

[@Guitarmfig]

If your ex is a narc forget all this stuff, they are wired differently to us

[@BradBrowning]

Discussed that here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZpulnZKieZhogLM

[@BeccaL2016]

It really depends. Some exes are no longer interested so just move on

[@BradBrowning]

It's a case to case basis.

[@SabrinaDacosta]

True. Or maybe you just tell yourself that so that you move on

[@TheBronzeArmy]

How would you know that they are no longer interested? Any signs?

[@briandiggs3508]

If you was a good person to them. They will comeback majority of the time.

[@greglavers]

@@TheBronzeArmyThey have a serious workplace BF now.

[@galitisg12]

I've been in NC for 6 months now. We had a 3-year relationship and my ex gf broke up with my at the end of 2022. I unsuccessfully approached her, however it didn't go according to the plan. Part of me wants to approach her again, especially after that much time away from her, although I'm not sure whether this is the right thing to do.

[@BradBrowning]

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/b32mYpitnKeef7M If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE

[@KingDev30]

Hi Brad if I liked one of my ex posts in Facebook during No Contact - should I restart it or just to keep going ? Thanks!

[@2.22am]

I had a similar situation where i accidentally face timed my ex and cut the call immediately but the call went through. He suggested me to restart no contact.

[@BradBrowning]

No need to restart but do try to stay away from all forms of contact. So stop trying to look at your ex's profile/messages/snaps, posts, etc.? An essential part of the "no contact" rule is to turn your focus inwards for a good 30 days straight, and looking at what your ex is doing and whatnot largely deviates from that point, don't you think? Discussed that here, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/g6PSfY1tjbBsnbs

[@安赫里]

Hi Brad! I just purchased your EX factor guide. Thanks a lot. What do you think I should do for NO CONTACT as my husband is divorcing me but still lives with me? He said he wants to make sure that I'm ok before he moves out. Also, he doesn't have a place to go ATM as he is graduating and doesn't have a job yet. He told me about the divorce a month ago and we are now interacting daily normally except we call each other by name and he makes it clear that he doesn't love me anymore, but still cares about me as a family.

[@SabrinaDacosta]

Read your paragraph and see how focused you are on him. Everything is about him. Put the focus back on yourself, especially self care such as taking care of your appearance. Buy new clothes that sleep “single hot girl” and focus on your body by working out an dipping your energy. Look good everyday and act as you are single and going out with friends having the time of your life. But do all this FOR YOU and not with the intention of getting him back… Let’s see how he will feel about that! Lol

[@BradBrowning]

It doesn't make use of the no contact rule. Please have it switched to my Mend the Marriage e-book. Contact support at support.exfactorguide.com

[@VeronicaJohnson-rn1cm]

I have been on NC for a exactly 30days today but l had to break it this morning because l got a call from his sister who told me he is currently in the hospital undergoing treatment. I sent him a prayer note and reassured him that God will surely heal and restore his health to nomility and that am on bended kneels praying for his wellbeing as always. Though he has not responded because of his critical condition but am hopeful as he recently told his sister he wants to come back yo me but he is too shame of his actions towards me. Was it a bad thing to reach out during this trying period of his life? Please reply me🙏🙏

[@BradBrowning]

Not bad since you've already completed the no contact rule. Just wait for him to reach out to you at his own pace, yeah? Especially since it's been a trying time for him.

[@timpowell8689]

I’ve been married to my wife for 33 years, been with each other for 36 years, we’ve raised 3 kids, have 3 grandchildren but slowly over the past few years we just just got distracted and didn’t work on our marriage, and I acted in my weakness and got caught, she told me to get out, she’s made it clear she does NOT want a divorce, she wants to sign separation papers instead of divorce and we have talked a couple of times, is there hope for us?

[@BradBrowning]

Right now she's rightfully pissed so it's best to keep distance for the time being. Do your best to offer your most sincere apology but at the same time, allow her the space needed to process things, yeah? If this was a one-off incident, maybe she will forgive you if you play your cards right. Not so much if it's a recurring mistake though. Hire me as your coach so you and I can discuss what's going on and what moves to take next, at www.marriageguy.com/coaching

[@nuhamin-r5o]

Dear Brad My ex dumped me by text “Am really sorry for what happened just live your life” And I am in NC for 50 days May he come back?? 🙏

[@BradBrowning]

If you take on a passive approach, you will be wondering forever. The no contact rule is only supposed to last for 30 days straight and if done properly, it shouldn't have to take any longer than that. So when reaching out to an ex after the 30-day "no contact" rule, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bYHGl3qbf9aIj9E including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qmesZp5ratWheac but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com

[@nuhamin-r5o]

Thank you coach

[@Biologist557]

If they are already hooked up with the rebound it will take longer.

[@BradBrowning]

That's right.

[@raymondvasquez9227]

So if they monkey branched right?

[@agrianafrianta6033]

Hi brad. I have a question. I was breakup 2 weeks ago. And do “No contact”. The question is, after no contact 30 days. Should i reach her? Or still waiting until she reach me?

[@BradBrowning]

Do the work on yourself and reach out first. Follow my texting tips on my videos or for a step-by-step process, get my Ex Factor Guide. Start with this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oJzEZYZsqN6NhtU

[@rudymootoor9032]

I broke it off with them because it was toxic. I initiated no contact. Are there any support videos for us?

[@BradBrowning]

You did the right thing but yes, I know how much that hurts. I suggest you get my Beat the Breakup e-book. I made sure it takes a wholesome approach so everyone can relate to it (including spirituality) and I spent a lot of time writing this and have given it careful thought, so I guarantee you'll find something useful in it to help you out. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com

[@LunakieCherrie]

Brad, it’s day 2 of no contact, how long should I do it when the relationship became toxic and he broke up with me?

[@BradBrowning]

How was it toxic though? Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact on your end, however, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. Cheating instances are different if you've cheated, could be longer or shorter depending on how your ex reacts. Do take note that in some instances where the dumpee just couldn't take the hint and continually bugs their ex for months, there comes a time where the ex reaches a "breaking point" and confirms it's the right decision to break up and becomes hellbent in moving on from you. So the bottom line is the "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKiTdJurjah4o9k Also don't forget to watch my other vids so you'll know what to do after the "no contact" phase, especially if you're not getting my 2.0 version of the Ex Factor Guide. Good luck!

[@Whynotvikrant]

Still help if they say they’re out of love or they’re not interested at all

[@BradBrowning]

Hey man, no contact (for 30 days straight) is your best bet because doing the opposite, which is communicating with your ex, when your ex already feels that way about you, will only push her away & therefore complicate things between you two further. Apply the tips here, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/iZayYYSOpr5pZtk&lc=UgwxFyIk-iETWaiIIPZ4AaABAg

[@Whynotvikrant]

@@BradBrowning what should we do when our ex reaches out and say happy birthday .

[@smoothvelvetsinger]

But my ex doesn't care about me. She's happy with her new life without me. She regrets ever meeting me. How can no contact work for me? She didn't even move out she can't afford her own place. What do you suggest I do? We have 2 kids.

[@BradBrowning]

That's not exactly her new life if she still lives with you. Who's keeping custody of the kids when she does move out? Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@Jack_von_Baron]

Does no contact work on a 2-month short relationship? We were still in the dating stage and had gone out 10 times, celebrated Valentine's together, exchanged gifts, etc. Our last date ended on a good note even though we had a small argument about her not prioritizing the relationship. Since then she's been pulling away, saying that she was busy. I just told her to contact me when she's available and now it's been a week since the last contact. She will be on vacation this week and won't come back until mid-March. Should I wait for her to contact me? I have a feeling that she's an avoidant although she said she isn't.

[@BradBrowning]

Depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKiTdJurjah4o9k

[@aizalaiba4684]

During long distance breakup in no contact is it ok to post on media and after how much time of breakup you've to post

[@BradBrowning]

Yes, you can. Just make sure to be mindful of your post so it won't catch attention the wrong way. When done right, you can leverage social media to your advantage. Here's how: kzbin.info/www/bejne/emKqoYVrgqajh80

[@naseemkhan-go8ky]

Hey Brad my ex unblock me after 23 days of no contact we live in the same apartment I try not to se her she just came back from holidays what should I do now?

[@BradBrowning]

It's a different set of rules if you live together. Do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!

[@Annewt445]

How do I do this if we ve got 2 kids and need to see each other all the time. He comes back to take kids to their clubs etc every night after work 😢 Been together for 20 years, married for 15 and now he is turning 40 he decided he is not in love with me “in that way”

[@BradBrowning]

It's an uphill battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYXNdnR9f7yHq6M AND kzbin.info/www/bejne/mnW9o6GEnZ1_hck

[@herbertvonsauerkrautunterh2513]

It's great. I tried it before and she contacted me lol. I know what she wants but I'm not giving it now. Maybe later. It's a good test to see how much she loves and wants me. It's her birthday soon as well and I won't be getting her anything or contacting her. See what happens😅

[@BradBrowning]

Good. Just take note of the mistake most people make here so you won't be making them: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z5SloYGoeal7pNk Also don’t wait for this person to have an epiphany. If you want your ex back, then keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not. Here's a quick overview to hopefully help you out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rpi1YWaImLpro9k it's best to go by the golden rules here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z5ytYqyYqqt8fqc Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Good luck!

[@aishhikaps]

We’ve been in no contact since past 2.5 months. I’d doing fine just the late nights and mornings are painful & sometimes difficult to pass. I’m not able to build a new connection with anyone else and I have a feeling that he will come back but don’t know when! how long should I wait before I give up completely ?

[@BradBrowning]

Never wait around for anyone. Watch this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bXLKhKyNj8uKjJY Give each other space, yes, but put some boundaries up especially as to when and how long you'd try but also don't rush it. It's complicated to explain it all in one go but my updated 2.0 version Ex Factor Guide should give you a step-by-step process on how to go about it. In the meantime, here's a quick overview: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bXvXnomYedCVotk

[@emiliep479]

Hi. She text me after 5 days of break up (she dumped me) to say her cat died and ask how am I. Should I break no-contact?

[@BradBrowning]

That's what I call the "check-in" text and believe it or not, your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message and when and/or how to reply, including what not to text, (so watch to the end of the vid) here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qpbZY2Cip6-kbdE

[@LowQualityVideos-gl5bi]

I need some good advice, me and my ex broke up six days ago. I am doing the no contact rule for four days i guess. I am focusing now on my self improvement but i still miss her. The problem is before we stop talking we agreed to talk after our exam, it will be on 1 week. I felt anxious when I scored 69 on your quiz it says my relationship could be save but I have to act quick. I did beg her to come back and fix things. Do you think it is a good idea to reach her out after exams and break no contact rule?

[@BradBrowning]

Hi there! Fading fast and therefore the need to act fast means to play your cards right from the get-go and not mess things up further, basically. Here's a quick overview: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rpi1YWaImLpro9k It's time to find a more positive outlet for your emotions. It's totally okay to cry your eyes out (just NOT in front of your ex and definitely not in social media), this is healthy, but try to balance it with other stuff. So keep your mind occupied, get busy with a lot of stuff like hobbies, work, etc. focus on what makes you feel good and take time to heal as well. Also read my Ex Factor Guide, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenario and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!

[@randomjean]

what if i am the one initiating no contact but i am the one in the life and death situation? Should i reach out for comfort and support?

[@BradBrowning]

Yes, you should. But try not to do that with your ex. This is where trusted friends and family come into play!

[@adyntadduni8962]

So we broke up in june and after 5 days she reached out and we got back together. we dated throughout july until now. she told me she can’t be more than friends with me right now and we broke up on august 4th. i have been employing no contact since. she texted me after a week to say good luck to an event i was working at and i replied hours later with thanks. she has blocked me since on social media and hasn’t contacted me again since. do i still have a chance?

[@BradBrowning]

Is this your girlfriend or just someone you're getting to know? Whatever the case, you need to back off completely and give her space. Never force things, yeah?

[@neilR4501]

Me and my ex broke up. She moved out and took my 6 year old stepdaughter. I did no contact but broke it after 2 weeks to ask when i could see my stepdaughter. She has not responded. Should i continue to ask to see my stepdaughter or go no contact again. Very confused.

[@BradBrowning]

Sorry man, but it's best to lessen if not totally omit those visits from now on... especially since your ex is not receptive to it, which seems to be the case here... because the harsh truth is since you've already broken up, you have no rights whatsoever to her daughter.

[@Teresaformark]

What if during No contact your x reaches out to tell you they went to rehab for 30 days … so I keep them blocked & no contact ? Or do I wish them after 30 days congrats? Or wait till they reach out again

[@BradBrowning]

You can reach out to your ex after the 30-days straight of "no contact" period is over. In doing so, it's best to treat the situation with fresh eyes, so it's crucial to keep things fun and light and gently coax your ex into responding the same way. Here are the basics on what to do when it comes down to it. I also suggest you watch from start to the end and NOT skip any parts so you can maximize these tips: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bYHGl3qbf9aIj9E including asking yourself these very important questions to ask yourself before starting the process: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qmesZp5ratWheac but if you need the step-by-step process on what to do, including what to text or say during the process, either hire me as your coach, refer to my other vids or get the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com

[@williamlindon6623]

May be a foolish question but..if you caused the breakup, is no contact still effective? Does anyone have experience with this? I’ve said everything I possibly could have to her to let her know I’m sorry. We’ve seen each other a few times since the breakup. Now I’m attempting no contact.

[@BradBrowning]

Yes, very much so. If cheating is involved, you may want to check this out, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nn7Fq4qoaLamoKc

[@johanduvernay1957]

The last time we had contact was when he sent me a snap. Before this I had told him “being friends,” didn’t work for me, and we had a small discussion about us that lead to him still contacting me despite me suggesting that we break contact after he broke things off. He texted me last, and I’ve been initiating no contact ever since. His birthday is tomorrow, and I really don’t know what to do

[@BradBrowning]

It’s fine to send a quick one-line Happy Birthday text (or meme is maybe even better actually) during No Contact. Stick to NC for the remaining duration of the 30-day rule though, even if your ex replies to your birthday text.

[@ngabagodlovendi6482]

Hiy brad. My ex has blocked me even though hour's before our break up? I was the best in the World. I still love her like crazy but I'm respecting the no contact rule. We have 2 mutual friends but I'm just ebit use to one of them. Always try to come closer to her to see if she has a message from my ex to me but to no avail. And you instructed that we should never ask them anything concerning our ex. So my problem is should I continue the same way till I finish the no contact or I go out with another girl so she can see and knowing well that she will tell my ex?

[@BradBrowning]

Stop making an effort towards her and focus all that attention towards yourself instead. Go out when you're genuinely ready and wanting to meet new people and explore what else is out there. In the future, if you're still not sure about what you're doing, I really suggest you sign up for my coaching program so I can assess your situation properly and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@Stranger-vg3jv]

Will u offer any personal coaching to get ex back

[@BradBrowning]

Yes, I do! Please check availability first and sign up accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@BrandelSaundh-i7p]

Hi brad when should I take my girlfriend on a first date

[@daddyshark]

If you have such low self confidence that you need to ask another person, then you shouldn't date. Work on your self confidence first. Then you will know within yourself that you don't need to ask anyone except the person you want to take on a date.

[@BradBrowning]

Find something you want to do together.

[@TarisKit]

Its hard but so true that once he hang up or wish me best, i feel worse. By contacting them doesnt do any good except giving them ego and idea that we are not over and sitting around waiting for their mercy. I do NC now not because i want him back but to gain my self respect back

[@BradBrowning]

Yes, relationships teaches us things and help us grow, sometimes together as a couple but other times as an individual. The latter of which can only happen after some introspection after some time apart. Glad you've found your peace. Take care!

[@As-cc9ug]

Hey brad i brought up that i was frustrated with lack of communication or effort on his part ..he kept saying things like well if you feel that way leave ..the argument ended was congratulations you win.. i hope its everything you wanted ..i was like tf ?? Umm i wasnt breaking up with you ..i said i dont want to fight so lets keep in touch but not talk about thos stuff thtough text lets hang out and just try to reconnect with each other... and cruckets from him.. is it a good idea to go no contact ?? How would this help

[@BradBrowning]

Give yourselves a few days before talking to each other again. When you do, be sure you're both calm and in the right state of mind, so pick a good time to clarify things with her.

[@phiniaguy3435]

My husband of 4 years left me and our 2 year old for another woman. Ive been doing nc. Hes reached out twice, saying he wants to talk to his daughter. His phone is under my name. Do I continue to pay for it, or cut it?

[@BradBrowning]

Really sorry to hear that. Is he making an effort to at least make amends to fix your marriage? If yes, you can try to apply the tips here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fH_EaaGPo9Wiqa8 Otherwise you can change it accordingly unless you're still sharing finances.

[@phiniaguy3435]

At this point he is not making any ammends. He has moved in with the other woman. Who I guess he's been seeing for awhile. He hasn't really made any effort to see our daughter. He called for new years saying how un happy he is but also blaming me for everything. I've pretty much carried the financial weight our entire marriage. I'm keeping his phone on because it's my connection with him. I just don't want it to be counter productive to the no contact rule. I don't call him, or message him at all.

[@hannahblair9862]

what should i do when i have the same friends with my ex

[@BradBrowning]

Hang out with other friends as much as possible, start a new hobby, etc. This is for your own good.

[@coolbeans870]

Hey Brad, what are your thoughts on the “be there” method after no contact if they immediately got into a new relationship?

[@BradBrowning]

Take only what applies to your situation. The 30-day "no contact" rule can work for you in the following ways: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKiTdJurjah4o9k Your ex is diverting his/her attention to someone else, which is the easiest thing to do and is really just his/her way of coping. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bXyoZ6GYaZKhmqM So that's what you ought to be doing too. Here, watch this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nYalf5dspal8hK8 so try to put your focus elsewhere because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control whether the rebound ends up working out or not. Watch this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/inPXk2ZqnN5psNk Now lastly, keep in mind that your ex is suffering too, even though they try to cover it up. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA

[@dorneeeuring6103]

I’m going to be honest, I should have used that no contact rule in my first marriage when it failed but used it in my last relationship and it drove my soon to be ex wife crazy. She wanted to apologize for accusing me of cheating on her but I told her the truth but she was determined to destroy our marriage. My love for her is pure even when she shattered it.

[@BradBrowning]

Sorry to hear that, man. It's truly painful when a relationship turns toxic. Use this breakup to perhaps allow your ex time to realize her mistakes. This may help: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pp3KoICNa6ylg5o

[@annabarone8727]

He's not my ex.We saw each other on March.The 12th I said Happy Birthday on March 15th and I've never heard back from him other than him saying.Thank you, but nothing has happened between us.He just has not contacted me

[@BradBrowning]

If there's a problem in communication with your boyfriend, it's important to let him know how this is bothering you. How long have you two been in a relationship though? It's possible he doesn't see you as anything serious and/or he's not ready for a serious commitment at the moment judging by how he's behaved towards you.

[@annabarone8727]

He's not my boyfriend we are in a complicated situation. When we are together it's great

[@bobthebuilder69429]

Idk if my case is weird or not, i went hard no contact they day she broke up with me. It took me a while to finally start feeling better about it, i never reached out and neither did she. Literally the day I had some epiphany of feeling closure she sent a friend request on snap chat (our main form of communication for a while) at this point I don’t think I should get back with her if given the chance. I may reach out and see what she wants, strict no contact got east for me as I got older but their absence still hurts.

[@BradBrowning]

It does, but it'll get better in time. The first path towards moving on and getting an ex back follows the same route and here's how to tell you're doing it correctly: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nGjdpouhYtiJqas Anyways it's always best to take your time in deciding first so there'll be no regrets in the end. As I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved. It's your life and it's your decision.

[@miamibrando3471]

Should you break no contact for their birthday, or no?

[@BradBrowning]

It’s fine to send a quick one-line Happy Birthday text (or meme is maybe even better actually) during No Contact. Stick to NC for the remaining days of the 30-day rule though, even if your ex replies to your birthday text. Good luck!

[@shaikhdeebarukhsar1084]

Hey Brad, my ex and i got into a fight which led to our breakup. The fight happened because he was being cold and i was frustrated because of it. I did not react well. He broke up with me after that. Since i was at fault, i tried apologizing but he made it clear that he doesn't wanna be with me. So i went in no contact after that. He reached out to me 17 days after the no contact and he said he is trying to forget what happened. But he also said thankyou for the love and experience. And he wished me best for life I am confused. I wished him the same in response. Since i was at fault when the break up happened, should i initiate a conversation? Also from what he texted, does it mean he does not want to get back?

[@BradBrowning]

You may have a valid reason though. How long has he been cold? And how long have you two been together prior to him acting that way? Were there any fights prior? To answer your question, yes, you're supposed to reach out after 30 days of no contact. But since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@PriyankaSamajder-wj6be]

We always hv this kind of brkup but after 10 to 12 days he comes back always but today is 10 th day he is not unblocking me wht to do...

[@BradBrowning]

That on-and-off dynamic between you two is unhealthy. How many times have you broken up already? Anyway here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still have want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz

[@adyntadduni8962]

should my approach change if my ex is an avoidant who has trauma from parents

[@BradBrowning]

It's the same.... but your ex has to work on their own issue/s.

[@avelinaenoya2194]

I was block....what to do

[@BradBrowning]

Chill. This isn't really a concerning issue, at least initially, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/a4a3amV_d5qondU Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5aqf4N4mdWhqas and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : kzbin.info/www/bejne/emKqoYVrgqajh80 Good luck!

[@arvidlitz7437]

Hey Brad. Me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago. She wanted to stay friends. We've seen eachother 2-3 times example on the buss to school. Played basketball(a couple of friends). Is it too late to start no contact?

[@BradBrowning]

Being friends is not a good idea. This vid is for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pqfClJ2wnbt-d7s

[@jonatz793]

Hi brad my my ex did not blocked me in messenger. What is that mean?

[@BradBrowning]

Hi there! Sorry but it doesn't mean anything. And you deserve more than that. For solid signs, though, here's what to be on the lookout for: y2u.be/KMer79OQ_xo

[@hclmt97]

My ex found an excuse to text me and asked me how i was doing after 3 weeks NC. I told him i have missed him. He told me he missed me like crazy. Sent pic of us. But didnt wish me happy bday only 3 days later. It really hurt. Why???

[@BradBrowning]

How long have you two been together? It's possible he forgot.

[@myllenelopesgrzinic8654]

I broke no contact 1 week after breakup, he said he‘s not ready to start to talk. I said that i want to repair this und some more things and he never answered. Its been 2 months. what should i do?

[@myllenelopesgrzinic8654]

@jayo.6232 called him accidentally today, was trying to take him out of my favorites. I hong up so fast that i thought he didn’t see it, but he called back i couldn’t pick it up. He saved a picture on snap (yk “xxx saved a picture that u sent”) but i didn’t send anything so it was something old. i asked him about it he said it was for his barber then he asked why i called. i said it was accidentally said sry and thats all. I’m so sad, he didn’t answer my text about repairing things🤷🏽‍♀️😞

[@BradBrowning]

Hi! This vid is for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bYG1qWuOjdKaqLc

[@eliassata9284]

Cmon you should put a disclaimer on ur every video; cos this ONLY works on insecure ppl. Both my exes moved on and never came back during no contact 😂😂

[@UlissesRdz]

I've done that to people too so it's really situational. But I think the no contact helps the person with "hope" ease into moving on too.

[@BradBrowning]

They're not supposed to. The on contact rule is NOT the magic pill. If it were, people will all get back together after some time apart. Check out my other vids for more tips if you're interested in getting your ex back.

[@raenarco6614]

Delusional

[@nickolazcarters]

hey brad, should i make my instagram and facebook PRIVATE when doing no contact ?

[@BradBrowning]

That really doesn't matter. Try not to intentionally post about your ex especially if it's about how you're feeling. This should help guide you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/emKqoYVrgqajh80

[@diormanager5481]

No contact works even After one year of silence and no contact ?

[@BradBrowning]

If you've already been doing it, then it's time to reach out and test the waters. Are you both single though? Since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: kzbin.info/www/bejne/j4e5mo2jjperZqs and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!

[@Shahid-ld6wb]

Its been 3 months she ghosted me and i made her to do that she broke up with me for multiple silly reasons but the main reason is she's feeling guilty for having sex with me because her parents will not allow for our but i know for sure she loves me she loves to spend time with me but now she's trying hard to forget me if i try to speak she's speaking like a stranger what should i do ..?😢

[@BradBrowning]

How old are you both? If your ex is in the right age to make her own decisions that’s independent from their parents, then there may still be a chance. Otherwise, it's best to consider moving on from this, okay? I’m not quite sure why parents had to get involved in the first place. It's either you're both too young to date or it has something to do with culture. Understand that the choice is ultimately up to your ex on whether to fight for you or not despite the opposition going on. Good luck!

[@chriscastillo-my1zs]

my ex broke up with me about a week ago, i never cheated or did anything to break our trust. she told me she loves and care about me but isnt ready for a relationship. we known each other for years, finally gotten into a serious relationship for about a year. im totally confused and frustrated at myself. i just wanted to know when i can see her and when will i be able to see her. im in no contact right now i think about her and want to check on her but she said she wanted to be by herself i totally don't understand, should i keep no contact or try to reach out to her?

[@BradBrowning]

After the 30-day rule, you can try reaching out using my texting tips from other videos.... or if you need the step-by-step guide, consider getting the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Good luck!

[@msanonymous704]

I wonder If NC is working in marriage. My husband went on a trip in the middle of an argument a month ago. He texted me, but I was too hurt and didnt want to talk to him. He did not call or text me since that day. I texted him a couple of times and called him but he didnt answer my calls. I dont know what to do. Should I call or text him? I think NO just made him give up.

[@BradBrowning]

The process of saving one's marriage is a bit complicated and in fact, does NOT make use of the "no contact" rule... but this is why I've released a second book called Mend the Marriage. Check it out at www.marriageguy.com as everything is on there, from how to communicate more effectively, down to how to handle the kids (if applicable), monitor your progress through worksheets and stuff. But while I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU or sign up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program at www.marriageguy.com/coaching Take care!

[@voicevlogdiary3290]

Hey Brad. Thank you for this video! May I clarify what does the full term no contact means? Can I keep in touch with my ex's parents everytime they reach out to me and wanna see their grandchild? Coz my ex and I have baby together. Only his parents have been reaching out to me. Not him. And I am also not reaching out to him, ofcourse. Awaiting your feedback. Thanks!

[@BradBrowning]

You can but only if you've had enough time to process things. If the breakup is still fresh, it's best not to do any of that. No contact means cutting off unnecessary communication with your ex in any way, shape or form for at least 30 days. It also means ignoring unimportant or random messages from your ex for at least 30 days straight. This also involves NOT looking at any of your ex's online profiles so you won't overthink things. In other words, the "no contact" period is a time where you fully focus on yourself and take time to heal.

[@vitocorleone1423]

I did your quiz several days ago and i still don't have a mail with results. When i do the quiz again and write the email, then the system tells me that the email is in the list. So when does the result arrive?

[@BradBrowning]

Hi! Have you checked your spam folder? Please send a message to my support team at support.exfactorguide.com

[@Beefy-m6q]

What about when there are kids involved and she has told me I can’t see them

[@BradBrowning]

I'm afraid you may have to go through custody battle on this one, man.

[@barbarakamps3440]

When I’ve broken up with someone it was for good. The relationship was toxic.

[@BradBrowning]

Yes, not all relationships are meant to be salvaged. Some are best left in the past where it belongs, so use discretion.

[@alex2stan76]

what if both are using no contact rule? 😂

[@BradBrowning]

Well, the "no contact" rule comes naturally to the dumpers. :-) Learn the 3 basic phases I teach in my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 because this lets you know the basics of my 3R system here first, so you'll have an idea on how to go about it on your end: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3Smi6CVotatgck Good luck!

[@dylan5349]

Hey Brad I’ve got a question. Recently my ex of which I am practicing no contact on replied to my Snapchat story complementing me, it’s been 5 days without contact and don’t want to get my hopes up, what should I do?

[@BradBrowning]

Give a simple thanks, keep it as casual as possible. Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/m5zCZaqmoLtpbMU AND kzbin.info/www/bejne/jWjMdGCdfdKNaKM it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYXNdnR9f7yHq6M So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mJiyeGypZsuUmZo

[@baldersn4474]

But how do you go no contact of they were the ones who finished it and blocked you etc after youve upset them and made them mad..? Unless i go round to her house i have no way of contacting her, i went round there and sge was realky angry and told me to go ? Shes gone from love to hate in under a week Brad ?

[@BradBrowning]

You're supposed to give her space instead of going over to her house. Here are the most common reasons for being blocked and my thoughts about it, including what to do: y2u.be/s52sRweJlm8 and don't forget to take the quiz if you still want to know what your chances are and/or still have questions on what to do after, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz

[@baldersn4474]

@BradBrowning Thabks fir replying she since unblocked me Brad..So u sent her a nice message sge read it amd didn't reply ? So I later I stupidly sent her a message having a go at her for bit replying after unblocking me, sge said I unblocked u lije u asked me doesnt mean I have to talk to you, go away and leave me alone !? I apologised next day sent her nice inboxes , sge told me tk clear off and hasnt readmy inboxes ? I dint understand Brad ? Is she interested or not, thank u do mixh for relying mate by the way

[@Manchestertreblewinners]

@@baldersn4474she don’t want you grow a pair and move on 😂

[@AnjananiYohane]

He broke up with and be with another girl coz i meesed up but i want him back now its 3weeks no contact but he said i should move on and find somebody better that him

[@BradBrowning]

What happened and how was it your mistake? This only works if it has nothing to do with you cheating on him. Watch this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oJrOiGePjqhsr9E and from my other vid here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hn-QYWqhdtl8oNk but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p5-oYmxom7p-rqs If there was cheating involved, then this vid is for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nn7Fq4qoaLamoKc

[@accadacastkr4912]

im available sweety

[@zataman]

How long do you stay in no contact

[@BradBrowning]

The average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact on your end, however, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. Cheating instances are different if you've cheated, could be longer or shorter depending on how your ex reacts. Do take note that in some instances where the dumpee just couldn't take the hint and continually bugs their ex for months, there comes a time where the ex reaches a "breaking point" and confirms it's the right decision to break up and becomes hellbent in moving on from you. So the bottom line is the "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKiTdJurjah4o9k Also don't forget to watch my other vids so you'll know what to do after the "no contact" phase, especially if you're not getting my Ex Factor Guide. Good luck!

[@thearmaanshaik]

Yesterday, at night 11 pm my ex posted a sad reel which had a song saying I’m still here and missing you! Day before yesterday she posted all happy and silly reels. Brad now I’m getting anxious and want to talk to her what do I do. We are a week into no contact last time we spoke was on Thursday eve

[@BradBrowning]

She's processing her feelings, so let her. It's not your place to do that for her. You do the same so you won't become needy, yeah? Maybe stop trying to look at your ex's profile/messages/snaps, posts, etc.? An essential part of the "no contact" rule is to turn your focus inwards for a good 30 days straight, and looking at what your ex is doing and whatnot largely deviates from that point, don't you think? Discussed that here, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/g6PSfY1tjbBsnbs

[@annabarone8727]

I don't want to lose them by doing no contact its 9 days hes not ny ex he just hasn't texted me in 9 days

[@BradBrowning]

If there's a problem in communication with your boyfriend, it's important to let him know how this is bothering you. How long have you two been in a relationship though? It's possible he doesn't see you as anything serious and/or he's not ready for a serious commitment at the moment judging by how he's behaved towards you.

[@SinSin-u1x]

Hey Brad , you are great coach . You hep my anxiety too much . I have a really serious question . We separate after 3 years strong emotional relationship, we lived together around 1,5 year . Last 6 months I pressed her with jealous way cause I had insecurities, btw she broke up with me with very rude way after a ‘fight’ we had and she was extremely cold , she just asked her keys back , told to her parents the next day and she said that her limits are off and she can’t turn back . I begged around 1 week and then I just asked for my staff back really angry ! She said me ok but it’s 1 month now with NC and she don’t do it . One day asked mutual friend how I am , that she really misses me and she wanted to call me but she handle it but she still don’t want to get back , the other week told them that she is better without me , she live better and she understand it now who is away from me . She is not gonna come back cause she had the same issue with her last bf and she wont go through again . Also after 1 week we separate I called her , she cried and she send me a picture of us . I am really confused, why she don’t send me my staff ??? She see a mutual friend every week , she could give it to him !

[@BradBrowning]

Glad to hear I've helped! It looks like she needs more space from you, especially with all that begging that happened in the last 6 months. Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@Champman543]

Mine started dating a guy 2-3 weeks after the breakup. Said to me our relationship was a big disappointment for her. 2 month later she found out i was in contact with my other ex from 10 years before(ngl, was a weak moment and i probably wanted revenge, but i was just texting, i dont want nothing from her). Said to me how weak and disgusting i am, after she calmed down she said i could do whatever i want, i don't have to explain myself.... Well, she will probably never come back, our ending was very toxic...

[@BradBrowning]

Exes are a controversial topic and your current beau is expected to react regardless of your intentions with that ex. It's probably over for good especially if trust hasn't been solidly built between you two yet but if you're really curious, you can take the free quiz to find out at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!

[@AnthonySmith-ts7qv]

I’m not to sure too I’m sure she misses me and I know she loves me but she is an Aquarius

[@BradBrowning]

Regardless of astrology signs, everyone is capable of feeling a ton of emotions at some point but a lot of factors have to be taken into consideration. How long have you two been together? When someone loves you truly, you can most likely tell. The same is true if the opposite is already happening, which will most likely be followed a breakup, and that's when you ought to give each other space first. Take care!

[@AnthonySmith-ts7qv]

@@BradBrowning been together for 6 months it’s been now over a month since the breakup

[@6ixide]

Hi Brad, I begged and pleaded for 2 months. We had a heart to heart conversation last week and agreed on 3 months of no contact - however, she's been emotionally confiding in other men and still has me blocked everywhere. Should I just move on or give her some space. I'm thinking of giving it a month. Please advise

[@Wild1KY]

MOVE ON!!!

[@jihnyap8479]

If you both agreed on 3 months. then give it 3 months and give her the space. Just enjoy these 3 months by yourself , don't communicate , have faith in your relationship and see how it goes after 3 months.

[@BradBrowning]

A lot can happen in 3 months. I won't suggest holding off living your life for anyone. It's important to work on your goals at this time. But yes, you can try to reach out after a month using one of my text messaging tips and see where that leads you.

[@6ixide]

@@BradBrowning I tried with a simple kind message after a month. She sent 2 emails at separate times with anger and frustration telling me to rip the bandaid and move on, saying she has love for me but not in love with me anymore and 3 months doesn't guarantee anything. I gave her too much power in the post breakup but this time around I just replied with "lol, noted with". I have started my healing process, working on myself and decided to see someone else - am I wrong for that?

[@ngabagodlovendi6482]

The problem we had was that she invited me to come and have a drink with her and her sister. Then I told her I was busy for know and when I finish I'll let her know. After some hours I tex her to know if she was still there she said yes. I asked her if she was the one inviting me or it was her sister? Then she said if I want to come then i come if not I should leave it. I replied to her yes sar I'm coming. But in my mind I said I won't drink nor take anything when I arrive there. So when I came she asked me to take some drinks she already bought I said I'm not testy.

[@BradBrowning]

You can refuse drinks if you're not really up to it even if it's coming from your ex. What's more important is how you interact with her. Always make it a point to keep it fun and light. Avoid drama or asking questions that will only cause drama. Here are some tips to help you out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bZqtap9oZZpons0

[@alyssadonegaglia6053]

Hi Brad, My gf and I were together almost 4 years. I moved from Italy to Germany for her and I started my life from 0 . She Isn’t happy with me and my behaviors since one year , she wanted to end the relationship a few time but I always begged not to leave me. She got the attention that she needed from someone else and she completely changed towards me. Since I found out I kept on asking for a chance to make things better, but she said she has no feeling for me at the moment and she is far away from me. She said the only chance to miss me, is for me to move out our flat. Now I listened to her and I will be soon living on my own. Do you think that I could have a chance with the No Contact?

[@BradBrowning]

That's your only choice at the moment. I know it's tough especially if it came as a shock but don't be needy as that is only guaranteed to push her away further. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jYelYZKia5WGpq8

[@glenroyharper4533]

Hi brad

[@alekspopglam]

You Italians need to get the job and don't moan

[@JessiHellaViews]

How long should a no contact be?

[@BradBrowning]

Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact on your end, however, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. Cheating instances are different if you've cheated, could be longer or shorter depending on how your ex reacts. Do take note that in some instances where the dumpee just couldn't take the hint and continually bugs their ex for months, there comes a time where the ex reaches a "breaking point" and confirms it's the right decision to break up and becomes hellbent in moving on from you. So the bottom line is the "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKiTdJurjah4o9k Also don't forget to watch my other vids so you'll know what to do after the "no contact" phase, especially if you're not getting my 2.0 version of the Ex Factor Guide. Good luck!

[@JessiHellaViews]

There was no cheating involved but there was endless begging in the beginning on my part. I managed somehow to go 2 days no contact but I did have flowers and edible arrangement sent to her house on Valentine’s Day. Would it be safe to say I should do the 2 months no contact?

[@reecejones51]

Hard to do no contact with children any tips???

[@BradBrowning]

This requires determination. If you're hellbent on trying to work things out, let me just set expectations that it's a tough battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule instead of the full on silence associated with the no contact rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible, in addition to my newer vids I've posted: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYXNdnR9f7yHq6M AND kzbin.info/www/bejne/mnW9o6GEnZ1_hck or for a comprehensive guide on how to go about things, consider getting the 2.0 version of my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com

[@couldstrife1]

Been 8 months 2nd week of NC for a third time she got her stuff and said she’d gone NC with me when she’s the one who left as it was to hard for her. she’d message. Herd Nothing yet but I’m not reaching out, she’s still watching everything I post as well

[@BradBrowning]

The waiting game rarely works. And her checking out your stories doesn't mean anything especially if this has gone on for many months now and still nothing. Anyway since it's been many months since the breakup, it's best to consider the facts I've mentioned here first as this lets you determine whether there's still a real shot or not: kzbin.info/www/bejne/j4e5mo2jjperZqs and/or take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!

[@couldstrife1]

@@BradBrowning just watched the other video so apart from her not reaching out, I just don’t know right now, we was together 10 years both wanted kids but I wanted to be a bit more settled or at least in our own place. She never made me un happy. Trying to move forward but it’s really tough for me

[@Manchestertreblewinners]

Was my ex a narcissist I need to know

[@BradBrowning]

Hi! Some people do have narcissistic tendencies but Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is something that's diagnosed by a licensed professional. I think this vid is for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZpulnZKieZhogLM

[@Manchestertreblewinners]

@@BradBrowning I am at 24 days I am still blocked by my ex only thing she ain’t blocked me on is her instagram art account but her main instagram account I’m blocked

[@normagonzalez37]

How do you do this if you are having a in home separation?

[@BradBrowning]

It's a different set of rules if you live together. Do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!

[@joshp146]

Hey brad. I did no contact for over a year! Me and my ex broke up a year and half ago! 4 days ago she reached out to me! After a couple days of texting back and forth of catching up thru text, she stopped responding to me & the talking stoppped. I didn’t over text or talk about my feelings or any relationship stuff. I still have feelings for her and still would like to get back together, idk why I still want this. What should I do ? How should I proceed & why would she reach out to me after over a year of not talking ?? Please help !

[@BradBrowning]

Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/b32mYpitnKeef7M If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE

[@sublime_]

It’s been too weeks and i’m itching to text her.

[@BradBrowning]

Ah, perfect timing for when I released this vid! Consider yourself lucky and watch this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l2O1pXx-n9abec0&lc=UgxUeg23ZFbBD3r41Tp4AaABAg Good luck!

[@ngabagodlovendi6482]

My story is deferent because we didn't spend more than 3weaks together but it felt like we spent more than a dacade. But she is very rood and commanding and the little misunderstanding, she will just say let's go our way. The first time I apologised to her and latter on she also apologize to me and promised she won't do it again. The second time again she didn't talk rudely to me but said I'm too proud and we need to take our ways. This time around I didn't Bec her again. She is financially more stable than me that's why she is doing all that.

[@BradBrowning]

How long have you known her. It may or may not have anything to do with her being financially stable but it could be the way she is in relationships. Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@nini6438]

Hey so... i have an ex its not like other relationships that i have been in. i really love him so the thing is i have tried no contact before but it only lasted a few days for me it's really hard for me and yesterday he told me he lost some feelings for me..and like it hurts but will no contact work for me again? Cause he never texted me first when i tried my "no contact" few months ago... but he told he still gets jealous when i talk to other guys And also yeah it feels worse if u break no contact and it doesnt work like i told him things that hurt me but he still did that i really dont know what shall i do should i do "no contact" again?

[@BradBrowning]

I think you should watch this, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/a4LGc6tvpqZ0gbM

[@Kinshu-l9e]

Hey brad, please reply My ex is traumatised from being in a relationship due to something bad that happened( i did not cheat or anything) . No one did wrong in my relationship . It was just a case of fate . He is now scared from relationships . He told me that he does not want to be in any relationships with me or anyone else and broke up . He for sure still loves me but he is traumatised from this concept for relationship . He also broke up saying that i cannot be a relationship now with this mental state . He is exhausted . I am in no contact and giving him space and time . How do i change his mind and get him back again in a relationship with me. He loves me but is scared

[@BradBrowning]

Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/kKariHaNmqxkrtU However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my new version of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5aqf4N4mdWhqas and the golden rules here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z5ytYqyYqqt8fqc

[@annabarone8727]

I know no contact works

[@BradBrowning]

Yes, it does. Please don't forget to check out my other videos if you're not getting my guide so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bXvXnomYedCVotk Best of luck!

[@fariayoumi8261]

What if you’re the one who’s at fault? Will NC still work? What if you hurt your partner and they are so upset that they blocked you everywhere? Don’t you think chasing them and apologizing will make them think you’re actually guilty?

[@BradBrowning]

If you're actually guilty, then you ought to make your most sincere apology and then back off to give your ex the time and space needed to process things on his end.

[@saviourdarrenyoung4874]

I initiated no contact from the 14th June all of a sudden over an issue we had and it been on for a year. Two days into no contact she use a foreign number to chat me either she ask a friend of hers. Then around 10th July she chat me with a new number and it was sensed she's the one but I hold on guard. Last week 16th July was her birthday and I never posted her on my status wishing her. But I got her gift which I posted on my status with a quote saying happy birthday, come for your gift. She's chatting me with this new number asking if I were single or not. Saying I should try contacting. She acted through the chat like it was someone else chatting me. Tried calling me on video call but I hanged up. Played a lot of test. Called me on her number 18th July 4 times but didn't answer. But yesterday 19th July it was like she's feeling sorry about everything but then I opened up something to her which was from a voice message she sent to my friend and it circulated till it gpt to me. That place a fear in her but I told her I'm not offended by that. I only thank God for my past experiences but I am okay now. Now my question is should I keep up the no contact or not?

[@BradBrowning]

What was that issue between you two though? It's best to not let it fester because as you can see, it does affect the relationship... and her passive behaviour is not helping -- if it really is her that's contacting you. So stay silent unless she matures up a bit. Anyway since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@saviourdarrenyoung4874]

@@BradBrowning actually I've been struggling with my life when I finish the secondary. I tried much I could do but to no avail. She at that point lost her mom and I was everything to her with my family. She always comes to spend all her holidays at my end. She's aware about my routines since I am a percussionist and I hide nothing from her. I had been faced with an adversity which source to destroy me of my success approach and she too was mounting a pressure on me all because my family is well to do. All this pressure she was giving me were from her cycle of friends. I lost control and attack her on phone one day whilst I close from a crusade which wasn't by my intentions to do so. She took that up and even had a recording of the conversation because according to her she said I spoke negative about her and also belittled her, insulted her family too. I regain my mind after some prayers were laid on me. But before I should know it people advise her to walk away from me. I tried to explain things to her but I've been rather taken for granted. She treated me poorly after that. From then I began facing serious attacks which by intervention I got rescued. She was concerned about me in this periods but the influence laid on her made her to not identify any harm she's causing me. I decided to follow your channel and went into no contact with her. And after 30days of no contact she started to chat me up with other numbers trying to know if I am single or I've moved on but I ignored her of that question. She was calling me on video call but I don't give in. I am single and she's claiming to still be single which I can't tell. I am now working and pursuing a course in UX/UI design which I will be graduating in few weeks. She too is working and pursued a course in pharmacy which she'll be graduating in few months. I don't know what to do about this now because we're first time lovers and we've been together for 6yrs before our problem begins. She's also a damn jealous girl, very emotional as well.

[@shanez1215]

Should I tell them if I go no contact after they say they need space or time to think about things? Or do they just know?

[@BradBrowning]

There's no need to mention that. It would be one of the biggest mistakes if you do.

[@peterpiper6878]

Day 14 no contact found someone better already lmao. Bumble

[@BradBrowning]

Nice!

[@peterpiper6878]

@BradBrowning thanks Brad keep up the good work.

[@elenalimberg7364]

My ex was writing with me alot. Watched almost all my stories. Said he feels like we are connected. Shared some personal details about himself. Was warm. Then he said I should tell him if I want to have sex. I was very stupid and I went to him. Had sex. And after that he said I better go home. I left but made sort of a scene, said it's not ok. After that he didn't answer my message. And hasn't watched my stories since. I am devastated. I don't know what to do anymore. Could You give me some advice please?🙏 I just recently got out of the hospital after almost losing my lufe to bliod poisoning. I can't afford a 1on1 coaching.

[@BradBrowning]

I think you're way too attached to the situation to be able to do the best moves. How long has it been since the breakup? Make sure you don't rush things and that you actually give it the appropriate time for you to heal and emotionally distant yourself for a while to be able to make clear decisions.

[@elenalimberg7364]

@@BradBrowning broke up end of january. Then no contact for almost 3 months. Then he started communicating. And been hot and cold since. Said he has to learn to love himself before he can love someone else. But he has been seeing this other woman too.

[@kimmichaud7741]

I did no.contact for 4 months and when.i.contacted him.i found out he left the state now what im devestated

[@BradBrowning]

The no contact rule is only supposed to last for 30 days but I doubt you can stop him from leaving the state if he really wanted to. Sorry to hear you're going through this but it's best to move on from this. I know I can't say anything right now to make you feel better. Healing is a process and everybody has their own journey. They key is to regain confidence and in due time, you WILL feel better. It's important to experience some sense of progress in your life to make things somewhat bearable after a life-altering and excruciatingly painful event such as a breakup. So try as much to set personal life goals and start small to make sure it's attainable, such as going to the gym, planning a healthier diet, etc. You can also get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup at www.beatmybreakup.com to help guide you on what more to do during this grieving process. Take care!

[@kimmichaud7741]

@@BradBrowning thanks for replying yes I did no contact too.long but what's done is done I'm actively trying to move on

[@ngabagodlovendi6482]

Her sister told me that y I'm I a type like this I said there are sometimes that ur not ur self I'm not usually like that. She said ok then my ex was angry when her sister left she told me that she's not happy with me because her sister comes to see me then I'm reacting like that. I told her she caused it by giving others like she is a colonel and I'm her body guide i didn't like that from her. Then she started saying I'm too proud of myself I said yes that's how I am b then she started ignoring me on and wss talking on WhatsApp for several minutes. I was anoid and ask her to continue the conversation when she'll be back home. But she answered saying she's not having my time and that we should take our separate ways. She continued ignoring me then I left her table and worked out without drinking her drink's

[@BradBrowning]

She obviously needs space and time. So give her just that, yeah? Stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jYelYZKia5WGpq8