6 Ways No Contact Affects Your Ex’s Brain

[@surajjaleel8423]

I am going through a breakup and no contact, Ive watched many videos..but this is the best

[@BradBrowning]

Thank you so much! Your support means a lot to me.

[@askquestions1236]

SAME!

[@Michael-ol7tt]

Well done.

[@kemdncucuirnwnnwhcucjje166]

Either be miserable in the relationship, or breakup and feel a period of pain until you’re fully recovered. Choice is yours.

[@BradBrowning]

True. The 30-day "no contact" rule is often underestimated though but there's so much you can gain in those 30 days if folks do it right and push through the pain.

[@jodybucci285]

@@BradBrowningthanks for the encouragement. I needed to hear the voice of strength. I initiated no contact a few days ago. I’m sure he thinks I’m done and I sort of am, but I miss him. I’m not backing down. If he does, great. If not, I’m moving on, as painful as it is right now.

[@jodybucci285]

Thanks for the voice of strength. I needed to hear that. I initiated no contact a few days ago. As much as I miss him, I’m not backing down. If he does, it needs to be under different terms or it’s not going anywhere. Thank you for helping me stay strong.

[@noamaanahmad1595]

@@jodybucci285if you don’t mind me asking, what exactly happened as in did your ex cheat on you or was the breakup because of other reasons ?

[@larryhurley2314]

Hey Brad. What about no contact on a ultra guarded woman that is a little older ?

[@therage909]

After 8 months my ex tried to return but I have moved on with my life and found someone better!

[@BradBrowning]

Like I always say, the decision is ultimately up to you. You know your situation and your ex best. Sometimes a relationship can be salvaged and worth the save but sometimes it isn't, especially if there's cheating or some other type of abuse involved.

[@debashispatbandha7356]

Great

[@martiniloganmartinilogan83]

💥

[@jhavajoe3792]

Luckiest Person on Earth!

[@Amen7801]

Very 🤞lucky person

[@Chadx81]

I’m glad I’m moving on, I don’t want to get hurt anymore. Move on don’t wait don’t beg just walk away.

[@BradBrowning]

Happy for you!

[@techgameinggeeks7321]

Yeah so ture bro

[@gabrielleescallier1275]

I can’t do this. It’s breaking me😢

[@dhruvshah7545]

Me too​@@gabrielleescallier1275

[@dhruvshah7545]

It's breaking me trying no contact she texts and I long for them too.

[@wookienutsack5481]

I'm on day one, I feel so much guilt right now, I feel awful, terrible. But I'm here to remind myself why I'm doing it, thank you for this advice.

[@christopherlevy3340]

How long was your relationship

[@angelvalladares9201]

I’m exactly like you rn is hard man

[@lorrainehagan9044]

4 years and today is day 1 for me

[@christinecronk9234]

You got this!! Stay strong and focused. Before you know it, you will have years behind you.

[@merrax7773]

how is it going? ive been in no contact as much as you. 2 weeks 😁

[@DTechnologyservices]

My ex was a narcissist. No contact actually helped me move on tbh. When you are ready to actually move on is when no contact hit hard. Somehow, they feel when your completely moved on and that's when they hit you up.

[@MacChicken-up2rl]

Right? Lol 😂 even when I ended up with someone new he still was trying to contact me. He once kept calling did it 100 times I’m over his bullshit. He couldn’t even be there for me at the hospital making all these excuses “I have work” is one he made. I actually was so hurt I hit him on his hand and his response was, “if you weren’t a woman I’d hit you.” I slept in his car homeless when I said, “I need to go to the bathroom he was too tired to take me. I feel so damn stupid but I know others can possibly relate I’m realizing now i was in an abusive relationship. How depressing.

[@MacChicken-up2rl]

I feel like Gabby Patito or whatever that one girls name was who’s ex murdered her. I think that’s what’s so heart breaking I don’t trust anyone

[@Ikarus_Riding]

@@Dahackabarade they hit you precisely when you START to get confortable moving on

[@BradBrowning]

9 out of 10, yes. This is why it's crucial to really ought to let go and working on yourself when you're dumped.

[@fecalipay7386]

True

[@lydiaomari5119]

I just bumped into this at the PERFECT TIME! Thank you so much. So far I have applied the NO CONTACT rule and it's working. He keeps texting wanting to know whats going on with my life.For some reason, I feel awesome knowing that He can't hear from me even when he texts.Thank you for giving me hope.I am grateful.You just got a new subscriber

[@BradBrowning]

I'm happy to hear I've been able to help. You're welcome! And hey, don't forget to check out my other videos if you're not getting my guide so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bXvXnomYedCVotk Best of luck!

[@àzzurrò-o]

FRRR

[@christinemukoroli820]

Im definitely going to try this..frm tomorrow....

[@stephen_dmg2003]

i am 10 weeks no contact and to say i have found peace is an understatement. he left me for someone 14 years older than me. it hurt like crazy, and he went no contact on me for a couple weeks and came back. we of course hit it off and i was thrown back into the cycle of toxicity, and getting hurt over and over again without any repercussions for him. i decided i would finally pull the plug on it, and when i did, it opened up a whole new world of possibilities. i enrolled in school after putting it off for years, i have been focused on what makes me happy instead of what's wrong with me, and i have built myself back up to a point where i feel stable again. it is life changing to remove someone who hurts you repeatedly out of your life.

[@BradBrowning]

Glad you've found your strength. It seems like you've dodged a bullet and I'm happy for you!

[@deborahsmith737]

Just try to be strong sis

[@Yo.222]

Someone who loves you will never go for long with no contact unless he took you for granted and you are always there waiting for him/ her to come back so you should definitely move if it’s too long, and never take him/her again this is very disrespectful to go for long then come back whenever you want . you definitely don’t want a partner who only knows damage and game ..

[@LORD_1805]

How long is very long?

[@Yo.222]

@@LORD_1805 it depends but it shouldn’t happen at all , but me personally I can’t go more than a month.. I would move on.

[@ליאורארז-ע4ו]

What shuld i do if he tries to talk /sms me in the "no contact period"? Must i ignor him?

[@GBPOGI2]

I am doing this because she disrespected me big time.

[@trinityp8575]

Agree. When NC is too long (over 2 -3 months) there is no point as if they can go for that long, they don’t truly appreciate it and will know that no matter how long, you will be there waiting. And that NC cycle can keep repeating. Can you do many NC of months and weeks and months and weeks? It’s very damaging. Saying that, a short NC also isn’t good as there wasn’t enough time to truly reflect, realise things and make some changes.

[@IceBlueThug]

As I’m going through no contact and I start missing them with the urge to contact them, I watch this video and remind myself why I am in no contact. I also begin to feel better and better I’d probably just move on tbh.

[@BradBrowning]

Great! Always put yourself first. And yes, always prioritize the 30-day no contact rule first regardless of what your final decision is. Take care!

[@davidallahgod3217]

You hit the nail on the head with this one Brad!

[@BradBrowning]

I'm glad you think so too. Thanks for the support… please like and subscribe if you haven’t already: kzbin.info”

[@SarahPitcher]

Your videos and advice gives me so much hope, and positivity thank you🥰 I’m not giving up I got this!

[@BradBrowning]

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[@meordanish7188]

hey did no contact work for you

[@Frostbite_MLBB]

Trust me this method really work's like magic ✨

[@BradBrowning]

Yes, it does!

[@tecktonalex]

one week into the no contact. i still wanna have this relationship. Growing and improving, undertanding our mistakes, attachment theory , and waiting for her to realize and maybe improve. I got a plan and will give it a chance, i will fight for the relationship and for the life that i want with this person. Right now focusing on my strategy and living my life. not giving up though.

[@BradBrowning]

That's the spirit! Check out my updated 2.0 version Ex Factor Guide, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenario and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!

[@ArticruciA]

update?

[@sibusisocedric01]

Thank you for this information Brad, i broke with my girlfriend this week and I've been begging not to live me but she says it's for the best if we separate, today will be my last time seeing her she's coming to drop off my sim and take her things from my place, ill definitely give her the contact treatment and see how it goes, i really love her and would like to get back with her soon, i hope alll goes well, started watching your videos today in at 2am till now. Thank you for making my mind clearer and giving me hope

[@BradBrowning]

You're welcome. Glad you found it helpful! Thanks for the support… please like and subscribe if you haven’t already: kzbin.info”

[@RAMIC-tv1ye]

Any update?

[@haroldcook1638]

youre videos are so refreshing too listen too and for us all to learn from them!!!

[@BradBrowning]

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[@melzathabede7914]

Definitely needed to hear this..

[@BradBrowning]

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[@owenmatheusu8774]

Am now feeling confident via this video. Thank you very much

[@BradBrowning]

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[@robertknox1964]

When my ex walked out of my house. I went full no contact. No touch, no talk, no phone calls. My life has been so much better since she’s gone. No drama, no stress, no headache or heartaches. Just peace in my home and in my life.

[@BradBrowning]

Good to know the breakup was a blessing in disguise! It may be what's best for you both.

[@jsnmha]

My ex broke up with me exactly 3 weeks ago but not for the reason that he doesn't love me or he met someone else. He admitted that he still cares for me so he has been writing me every once in a while asking how i'm doing. I wrote him today that its best if we cut off the contact in order for us to move on as well as i'm having a hard time letting go. He seemed shocked and really cold, guess he didn't expect this?! Hurts so bad, i've been crying ever since. Feels like he didn't care but in fact he does and it hit him.

[@gamenotfound9376]

how is it going?

[@BradBrowning]

That was the right move. Otherwise you'd be strung along and unknowingly used as an emotional sponge.

[@lissafuller947]

Hi Brad, I broke up with him. On the second night of no contact I woke up at 230am sweating wanting to text him how much I love and miss him but for some strange reason I KZbin breakups and you pop up. Brad you saved me from making the mistake of contacting my vex after two days apart. It's been five days and still no contact thank you!!! I'm holding on everyday that I don't contact 🙏🏽

[@BradBrowning]

Yeah it's too soon. I'm glad I was able to help. Love yourself first and take time to heal. Get my Ex Factor Guide so you'll klnow how to go about things and avoid making any of the pitfalls so many have made during this time, at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy You're welcome!

[@Yourdaddy_2024]

You are crazy. If you love home, tell him. Playing mind games is stupid girls. It no longer works unless your guy is a simp. Try it with a masculine men. They have abundance, you will regret

[@khomotsomothobeki2221]

Cold turkey no contact drives them mad. They try by all means to contact you like they are lunatics.

[@BradBrowning]

No contact is key but it must be done for at least 30 days. The dumper loses his or her right to be mad all the time for the lack of response unless they're trying to communicate about something important. That's only one of the exceptions though, check out the rest from my other vids. Good luck!

[@tannertarggart8304]

She broke up with me after getting back together two times prior. We have been dating for 2 plus years and broke up two times prior. I’m her first boyfriend. She broke up with me after I left her house early saying I don’t make her happy anymore . I wrote her letters saying how much I love her etc and texted her but no response. I am on day three of no contact . Am I doing this right please help

[@BradBrowning]

3 breakups in just two years is a bit alarming, if you ask me. With on-and-off relationships, oftentimes this is a sign of underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. It may be time to put things into perspective while it's still early because in 14 years spent as a relationship online coach alone, I find that a breakup is often NOT just one person's fault, so look at the roles that you've BOTH played that led to the breakup and if the issues have a chance to get resolved, and how to go about it. In most cases, the problems that led to the breakup can be resolved, but in some cases, it can't. So take time to evaluate, okay? However, I have to warn you not to ask the reasons from your ex. This is what I've discussed here along with other stuff that might help you, so this is a must-watch: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKKkdpxvhcd4d6M But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot. Good luck!

[@perthforme]

I'm 4 weeks no contact and I am so much stronger then I was just 3 weeks ago. I'm not even sure I would take her back if it was an option. I am focusing on my strength and self building. As Brad mentions though I can imagine her saying ' I knew he didn't love me '.

[@skeeazunited7120]

im on my 3rd day :(

[@perthforme]

@@skeeazunited7120 its hard and I wanted to message over Christmas. Its the not knowing. I was going to message her after 3 months if I never heard. We never had a very bad relationship which helped. Stick with it 🙂

[@refiloemolefe7394]

I’m on my 4th day

[@allthingsjana7870]

I'm 4 days no contact and I can't wait to get to your place

[@richirich615]

I’m on 3rd day, it’s hard. We can all update our thoughts here

[@milank2765]

What if I was a problem and she doesn't want me back and I was apologizing to her but now she block me on every social media??? She told me that she is no longer for relationship and just block me. We was together 2 and a half years. Someone help please

[@BradBrowning]

What did you do? I suggest you heed my advice from this vid, first and foremost: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oJrOiGePjqhsr9E and from my other vid here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hn-QYWqhdtl8oNk but also make sure you aren't being defensive or deflecting the blame because that's as annoying as ever. It may help to apply the tips here first: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p5-oYmxom7p-rqs

[@MikeAyye]

Been five months now, went to school dance with a new girl and my ex was asking my friends all dance who she was, and she followed me around the whole time. She also asked one of them to get coffee 🤣 We winning boys and girls

[@BradBrowning]

Nice!

[@Oriental_Express_USA]

@@BradBrowning Damn, never put N.C. in the perspective of young people... but i forget that they need to apply it just as much as us seasoned and weathered adults. This is teaching them discipline at a young, tender, impressionable years of their lifes. In this regard, invaluable KZbin videos >>>>>> parenting. This generation has is great. Keep on trucking Mike... you've got a bright future ahead of you. Xenons.

[@gregggaldo9181]

Thank you Brad...working...doing artwork...writing music....and band are keeping me busy during NC....also hanging out with my dad and step mom....love your videos!!!

[@Trex7124]

Hmm. He walked into MY church group. Tried to keep in contact with friends but theyre not interested in my progress since befriending him.. Doing no contact on them as well.

[@BradBrowning]

Being friends with an ex after a breakup isn't a good choice. Watch and listen to what I've discussed here first: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pqfClJ2wnbt-d7s

[@Trex7124]

@@BradBrowning Dont think you understood the statement.

[@BrysonLeeHarrington]

My breakup was pretty bad, I was told to move on, that she no longer wants me in her life, that we'll never be together again, she put thoughts that there's already someone else etc...I'm doing no contact but I think my ship has been forced to sail unfortunately. Great info nonetheless Brad 🙏🏾

[@BradBrowning]

You're welcome. Whatever the case may be, it's definitely a good idea to give each other space first. It's a highly emotional time for you both and talking simply will not make sense at this point. Watch this free vid presentation to gain some more insight: www.breakupbrad.com

[@AlexGomez-ur5eb]

Legend brother, greetings from Sydney.

[@BradBrowning]

Hey hey... thanks for dropping by!

[@hurkiz7225]

Not gonna lie, I am here bc of a SITUATIONSHIP that ended because of basically nothing. We had a little argument and I apologized genuinely. He told me to stop annoy him and I realized that I deserve better. Overall he was not the right one for me. Even though it hurts, no contact is what I intend to keep my dignity and maybe show him that I have high maintenance that he cant reach.

[@BradBrowning]

True. If you're not on the same page to begin with, it's really just best to let it all go. If there was a true genuine connection, I'm sure he will reach out first as time passes. Then you can set boundaries or feel out the situation first and assert your own needs and wants first. Best of luck!

[@hurkiz7225]

@@BradBrowning Oh, I am so happy to see a response. It has been over three weeks and he started to reach out constantly. He tried to lure me into contact many times but since his approaches were childish I never agreed to meet up. Two days ago he asked a mature way to see me and now I said yes. He must have felt slightly relieved since he started to drag the convo into subjects that we both were passionate about. I answered coldly but polite enough. Now we will meet up on wednesday and I really do not know what to do or expect.

[@hurkiz7225]

I would love to see changes or at least him admitting that he likes me more than he himself has expected so we could work on all this with the intention of having an official relationship. If thats not what he wants, wednesday will be the last day ever! I deserve to be loved and to love someone wholeheartedly. We were in this situation for 2 years and I doubt that he realized his feelings for me now. If there were none in 2 years, there wont be some feelings that have developed during no contact I guess.

[@Rick-xq5mu]

​@@hurkiz7225so how did it go?

[@princessjackeywesley]

informative....subscribed🤗

[@BradBrowning]

Hi, welcome to my channel. Thanks for your support! :-)

[@JeffreyGillespie]

Just one comment on the social media thing. I don’t post on social media when I have an ex in time out. It gives them too much ammunition. I just go completely dark everywhere.

[@BradBrowning]

That's a good technique as well as it lets you release any codependency towards anyone (and their opinions) as well as lets you fully focus on yourself.

[@MaggieAustin-tl9hg]

We aren’t broken up… yet. I suggested we do no contact for a week for him to reflect and decide if he can commit to our relationship. He’s 4 years out of a 40 year marriage and I’m his first relationship. He actually contacted me on the first day with something that does not need an answer. Thank you for the advice of not responding. I’m also happy that he’s thinking of me…

[@BradBrowning]

If he was he displaying signs of stepping out of the relationship you had with him, then it may not have anything to do with his divorce as 4 years is quite a while. If you meant you're taking a break from each other, then this vid may be for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/h4GtoaWAqstgn7c

[@kiaragross9861]

Hey brad. I’ve been dating this boy for a couple of months then out of nowhere he said he “lost feelings”. After that I’ve been trying the no contact rule. How long do you think it would take to effect on him?

[@BradBrowning]

Just a couple months in and he's already losing interest? That's not good. Depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKiTdJurjah4o9k

[@camilaaguirre6119]

Awesome video

[@BradBrowning]

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[@moinuddinsummit2378]

Hey Brad! It's been my 33rd day of No Contact and I really miss her... I wanna talk to her again but I dont know how to approach her since i'm very nervous she broke up with me due to loss of attraction. Can you help me with my next move?

[@BradBrowning]

Hello there! Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gX6wp2yin8mloc0 AND kzbin.info/www/bejne/q3_CiXSdfc-UfK8 but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!

[@TheMadArab138]

I spent two months in no contact with her before establishing contact again. This apparently was enough time for her to find out that the guy she cheated on me with wasn't all he was cracked up to be. Meanwhile, I've been playing guitar and getting really good at it, and she's noticed that and some new clothes (even stuff that are in line with her interests...) She's talking to me again, and I saw my opportunity when they were on a week break, and even though that's over now, she STILL talks MORE to me than she talks with him, but she will still prioritize him over me. Is it ok to go no contact again for a like a week or two? I'm really getting sick of playing second fiddle.

[@BradBrowning]

Sorry to hear that, man. It sucks when that happens but whatever the case may be, it's never a good idea to play second fiddle to any guy. Don't communicate with her if she's still dealing with someone else and let her miss your presence and allow time for her to see your value. Here's a vid that talks exactly about that topic: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qKW7mWpomrynj6s Also here are some tips to remember if you're trying to win an ex back and how important Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) is: kzbin.info/www/bejne/iYWvm6yYrs6UeLM but to get the full gist on how this works, read my Ex Factor Guide 2.0 at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy Good luck!

[@nelsonalvarez5526]

3 months of no contact and she unblocked me on Facebook. She sent a text but nothing about our relationship just about a cable bill and nothing else. She still has our photos on Facebook. Don't know what to do

[@BradBrowning]

That's a neutral sign. Since you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule, and assuming you've done the "no contact" rule properly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jqDRfqeCe9RjZpI This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5aqf4N4mdWhqas Good luck!

[@nelsonalvarez5526]

@@BradBrowning I forgot to mention when she sent me the text I replied if she wants to talk reach out,but she didn't reply

[@seemapankajtardeja7084]

What if they don’t reply or read text message after 30 days of no contact

[@BradBrowning]

If you've reached out to your ex only fairly recently, and assuming you've correctly employed the 30-day "no contact" rule, then that's a normal reaction from your ex. Here, watch this to help you understand things better: y2u.be/CP8FQlvDuVU But I would worry about what sort of messages will you be sending your ex? Needy, desperate messages will get nowhere fast regardless of how much time has passed. It's a different story if you've been trying for so long with all the right moves and still no progress. It just depends how this plays out really. Focus on the second and third phases instead. It helps to learn the basics here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5aqf4N4mdWhqas and/or better yet, read my guide to guide you every step of the way, at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!

[@snapeloveslily17]

Hey Brad, we broke up last month but been in contact even during breakup, we talk casually and shes in this hot and cold behavior with me. She easily gets irritated in one moment then goes back to being friendly. The situation has been very hard for me and she knows I am needy and she knows I cant resist her. But today i found the courage to leave the situation and asked her some space, i also explained to her the reason. She then admits to still have feelings for me but she respects my decision. Any thoughts? Will the 30 day no contact still work in my situation?

[@BradBrowning]

This could mean you need to give her more space. That kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z5ytYqyYqqt8fqc

[@snapeloveslily17]

@@BradBrowning thank you, Brad! Binging on your videos has been a comfort for me.

[@tonitonz92]

This is my first time ever trying a no contact/ detachment. My ex can naturally detach so he hasn’t been in contact unless it was to collect his things 😢 this shit is hard. It’ll be 1 month tomorrow

[@BradBrowning]

Breakups are never easy. Sorry to hear you're going through this. Just make sure you don't make the number one mistake here: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw So once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jqDRfqeCe9RjZpI AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!

[@madsproscooter1143]

hello brad i have done no contact with my ex girlfriend. we broke up 2 months ago and nothing seems to be working on getting her back. I have met i few times, but how do i make her l desire me once again.

[@BradBrowning]

Stop trying to meet her. Focus on texting and try not to meet up when one of you or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on is the second phase (assuming you've already cut off contact for at least a month) where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!

[@jonbanks653]

It works!!!! It honestly works

[@BradBrowning]

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[@damientheomentrites6463]

No contact doesn’t work if you wait months it only works right away I’m living proof my ex has been gone 4 months after a 8 year relationship. Getting your ex back is very hard and allmost impossible especially if she dumped you.

[@nafees-hasan]

Sorry to hear that 😔

[@BradBrowning]

Were you relying on the no contact method alone? You ought to watch/review the tips here first, especially the first part, although I recommend you to watch the entire video to get the full gist: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eH23cmevn7mWaKs and a quick overview here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bXvXnomYedCVotk Once you've completed the "no contact" rule for at least 30 days straight, then it's time to RE-ESTABLISH CONTACT with your ex. Start out with the tips from here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jqDRfqeCe9RjZpI Also check out my other videos on my channel for more tips on what to do next and/or get my Ex Factor Guide for a comprehensive step-by-step process on how to go about this. Good luck!

[@mht9752]

To be honest, i don't understand until now how to make NC right. My question, should we block our person's number from our phone or blocking from WhatsApp, or change our number and use the new one? Many people teach different explanation..

[@shodan198]

My mind set when approaching no contact is simply this no contact should be seen as forever if she comes back it's a bonus but If they do remember why u broke up an choose if u wan them back or to let the break up stand

[@liamcastellanos8150]

my ex broke up with me less than a week ago and said that she didn't wanna lose me completely , we still follow each other on ig and hasn't deleted our pics and neither have I tbh, still have our relationship set on fb and watches my ig stories even tho I don't cus it's painful, I haven't contacted her since, can someone tell me what may be going on?

[@BradBrowning]

A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing herself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let her feel what it's like not to have you in her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKiTdJurjah4o9k An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nYalf5dspal8hK8

[@bpbqzrazaadi6925]

Hi Brad, I started the no contact right after the breakup and I went out with my friends after two days of break up (there was a mutual friend (boy) of us. I posted a story, my ex replied like why he’s not there. I didn’t reply. He texted me to ask about some personal questions but I didn’t reply, even he tried to call me I didn’t answer. Is that okay? Since I’m in my no contact period I didn’t answer the call. He didn’t mention anything serious or urgent so I didn’t pick up. I’d like you to give your opinion. Thank you.

[@BradBrowning]

Try to see if your ex has been calling you about something urgent. Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/m5zCZaqmoLtpbMU AND kzbin.info/www/bejne/jWjMdGCdfdKNaKM it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYXNdnR9f7yHq6M So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mJiyeGypZsuUmZo

[@loonpeng8816]

It’s all about mind game and that’s the number one thing you should not do. If I don’t contact her for a couple of weeks or she doesn’t want to talk to me for a week, it’s over and no way back for me.

[@BradBrowning]

Yes, a break in communication for no good reason is a huge red flag while still in a relationship.

[@nycic2393]

What if you do no contact for a month then reach out to them, getting no reply then going back into no contact. is it the same?

[@BradBrowning]

Oftentimes there's no need to redo the no contact rule unless there were some major mistakes on your end like begging/pleading or have acted in less than pleasant ways which end up pushing your ex even further away. So if you haven't done that, then chances are you're on the right track. Watch my other vids for more tips. Good luck!

[@nycic2393]

@@BradBrowning Thank you!! How long do you think I should wait until i try to reach out again, if ever

[@jermainescott3746]

Thank you Brad,I'm gonna listen to you.

[@BradBrowning]

You're welcome! Thanks for the support.

[@lobsterbisque7567]

I completely walked away and moved on when I found out my ex was a narcissist. She tried like hell to hide her true character during the love bombing phase. As soon as the devaluation started, I walked away without warning, or explanation. I changed my number shortly afterwards. I realized she was only using me and never loved me. So I'm never going back!! Looking back, I realized that she had nothing to offer. I'm fortunate I got away from a narcissist unscathed. She has no way of finding me either😆😆😆

[@BradBrowning]

If she's truly a narcissist, you might want to think twice before trying to get her back, because even if you can change her mind, you can't change her personality, especially if she has a narcissistic personality disorder or the traits being shown to you. It's a mental illness that should be looked into by a medical professional. The best you can do is to encourage her to seek help. Now if you aren't sure whether she really is one and/or how to best handle the situation, consider signing up for my coaching program so I can look into this with you and what's really happening that you may be too close to see or have an outside perspective on. Best of luck!

[@lobsterbisque7567]

@@BradBrowning Trust me, I have no need for revenge. Before I ever met her, She had already ruined her own life in many ways just by her life choices. When I realized that she was a borderline with strong narcissistic traits, I knew that by her outlook and her mentality alone that she was stuck. Destined to struggle with any form of relationship with anyone in her life(Her family, her friends) I understood early on in my research that she had unknowingly condemned herself to a life of loneliness, paranoia, guilt, shame, and self loathing. Making herself extremely self destructive. TBH, knowing what I know now about personailty disorders, I wasn't even angry at her, or regret the relationship. I basically got away unscathed. At the time, I made a concerted effort to not hold on to grudges any longer. I realized that by doing so would only cultivate bitterness & resentment. which is counterproductive to my personal development. It was something that I noticed early on within her during our time together along with a completely different person in my life who chose to live in his past as well: My own father. By holding onto his past hurts, He slowly compromised his health, emotional well being, & all of his relationships incl. with His wife(my Mum), & myself. The life that my ex has lived for the last 30 yrs of her life has been of her own making through her own selfish choices. I met her in late july '22, and disappeared in early nov '22. So I am completely satisfied with leaving her alone to her own devices, and her never being a part of my life ever again. I walked away to protect my own identity, self worth, and emotional well being. Plus, by walking away, everything is in my favor when I stay away from her with absolutely no contact at all. She, on the other hand, is forced to deal with multiple difficulties alone with little to no resources(which includes emotional & cognitive techniques) to handle or cope with all stress that floods her thoughts & perceptions every waking second of every day of her life. We agree that as someone who lives with 2 personality disorders(borderlines & narcs share a lot of overlap in their list of traits, the strategy is what differentiates them including discarding), CPTSD, and having been stuck in a survival mindset for 30yrs: she is deeply troubled, and carries with her many deep emotional scars along with a warped perception of reality & magical thinking. Things that can only be handled by a licensed mental health professional. But my ex has openly rejected any form of accountability b/c she sees no need to change in the first place. Unless I am in close physical proximity to her, I do not consider her a threat, so I have absolutely no interest in starting any sort of fight with her since she has left chosen to leave me alone as well. I consider that a blessing in & of itself. Admittedly, It has taken a bit of time to heal & work out my feelings, but now I am almost to the point of apathy when it comes to her. I intend to leave her in peace & to her own devices. If she improves, it will have to be by her choice alone. No one who is still close to her can force her. I refuse to involve myself any further. I'm content with working on my own problems, and improving my own situation & relationships instead

[@mangolollipop_]

I definitely have been getting back with my ex as completely different form of people. Losing a child was mentally hard for me and I pushed him away. I wasn't aware that I had big feelings with him. I initiated no contact and I didn't want to have any contact with him, but we live in a big town with very similar interests, it's hard not to bump into each other. The break up made me realise that I did in fact missed him a lot

[@BradBrowning]

Sorry for your loss. The incident has for sure affected your mental and emotional state but it must have been hard on your ex as well especially if you pushed him away. How was your most recent interaction with him when you bumped into him? Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@sarahkarl1748]

​​​@@BradBrowning @mangolollipop May I ask how everything went on with you two? I also lost my baby in the 23rd pregnancy week and had to give birth to my daughter in March 20th, 10 days later my boyfriend broke up with me saying that he lost his feelings for me with our child and that he doesn't miss me anymore... he never reached out to me asking how I am and he is very outgoing, made new social media accounts says he already worked through everything mentally and now wants a to start a new life after our childloss. He says, I will always have a place in his heart, but he doesn't want a relationship with me anymore and he wishes me all the best and I should look for a partner who will make me happy... It is really hard dealing with the loss of my daughter and losing the love of my live 10 days later makes everything even harder. I really tried to be a good and understanding girlfriend after our loss, gave him space when needed and talked with him when he wanted to. But I didn't get the chance to fully recover from my trauma and he took the very first chance to break it off. Although he knew and still knows how much this loss hurt me... I really don't know how to act, I went into NC the day after the break up, wished him well and that I don't want ro be friends, since then I only reached out once because of some financial topic and his birthday. I really don't know how to handle this situation, everything I always wished for, loved and worked for so hard is now gone within 10 days....

[@Valhalla710]

I’m going through a break up right now and she was definitely the one till she just went ghost on me. I don’t know if I can do full no contact considering she is always in a live stream of my friends and I’m always there to help moderate the chat. How do I navigate that if I do no contact? She still also watches every social media post I make as well.

[@courtneyermoian823]

Hi Brad. So we used to go out every Wednesday for trivia with a group of friends. I’m worried about neglecting our friends by not going Wednesday’s. I didn’t go this week but I figured it would be good for him to explain what’s going on before going to trivia again. Should I go next week and let my friends know I’ll be taking a break from trivia?

[@BradBrowning]

You can take a break just to help you deal with things and accept the breakup. Otherwise you may find it more challenging than it has to be. Might be time to find a new hobby just for a bit? Once you've cleared your head, you can apply the tips here with ease: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mnW9o6GEnZ1_hck

[@LaneyMae-d5h]

Day two of cutting contact entirely, I try to make things work. He begs for me to stay every time I tell him I’m gonna leave, but when I ask him if we’re gonna get back together, he’s unsure about me. Staying strong I’d love to see where’s he’s at in the future, my highschool sweetheart of three years very tough time right now.

[@BradBrowning]

Of course he is. He has just broken up with you. This is why you ought to stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jYelYZKia5WGpq8

[@trash2478]

Hi brad! my period of no contact ends sometime in November The issue here is that in November, there's this event that a group of our friends have planned for. My ex is going to it and so am I, and it's not something we can necessarily back out from. So right after no contact, we'll be forced to see each other. On top of that, soon we are going to return things, like clothes and some other stuff. Because of all this, should I push back talking to him properly until December?

[@nafees-hasan]

Only answer the questions he will ask you . Don't tell anything else.

[@BradBrowning]

That's all right, just apply the tips here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mnW9o6GEnZ1_hck

[@mmommo10]

keep it simple, 10 words or less., don't blame, complain or explain.

[@basicinfo2022]

Indifference.

[@nurhaseedeng3484]

Hi​ Brad, I​ and​ my​ ex​ broke​ up​ for​ 7​ month​ ago​ and​ we​ back​ to​ talk​ again, but​ it​ s​ not​ easy​ to​ get​ back​ together​ bcs​ he​ s​ seeing​ with​ someone​ now​ but​ he​ told​ me​ he​ still​ care​ for​ me​ do​ really​ cares for​ me, we​ still​ keep​ conversation​ but​ seems​ like​ nothing​ happen​ but​ he​ always​ text​ me​ when​ I​ m​ gone​ idk​ what​ he​ want​

[@BradBrowning]

He may be trying to keep you as a backup plan. Don't do that to yourself. Watch this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qKW7mWpomrynj6s

[@riyasingh-jx8hi]

Hey brad...Does feeling hurt and showing anger and hatred towards your ex even after 3-4 months after the breakup shows u still love your ex?

[@BradBrowning]

Well you still have feelings that for sure, albeit not positive ones. Once you've moved on or fully healed and learned from the experience, you'll learn to forgive and let bygones be bygones.

[@Ethereal359]

My boyfriend breaks up with me saying no matter nothings working and he wants me and him to live peaceful, doesn’t want to hate me and then says he will call me, we can talk and make everything peaceful. I’m bit confused when he says he’ll call me to make everything peaceful (this side of him I’ve never seen). Does it mean he is unsure? Should I just block him and imply no contact rule. Need you insights. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@BradBrowning]

Things are always confusing at the onset of a breakup, which is why 99.9% of the time, it's always best to cut off contact first just to clear your heads even for a little bit. So do just that, all right? Employ the 30-day rule. Just make sure you don't make the number one mistake here: y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw So once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jqDRfqeCe9RjZpI AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!

[@munkelt7090]

Hey Brad, in the previous video I layed out my situation in the comments, and long story short: I've been trying to implement the no contact start, kinda successfully, we spoke last week and yesterday, we exchanged a few words (I started the convo), asked if she could borrow her guitar, because I've always wanted to know how to play it, she was a little skeptical about it, but she agreed to meet so she could lend me the instrument. I'm also going to try teasing her, she has a new job (teacher), and I'm going to try the hot teacher tease or the worst student she has that needs to be punished (kinky, I know), I also wrote a letter this morning, which I'm going to give it to her. It talks about me saying sorry for all the pain that I've caused, and that I really feel the pain she shares, thank her for the "oportunity" of the breakup, that made evolve as a man, I've lost 5lbs in 2 weeks, started doing meditation again, listening to podcasts about "how to become a better man", me getting a new job as well, and asking her to lend me her guitar so I can start practicing. What do you think? Right tracks?

[@nafees-hasan]

Looking for your update

[@BradBrowning]

Yes, just make sure you're reading the situation well and not force things. If your ex is open to lending her guitar to you, then that's awesome. Otherwise don't push it, all right? So far it looks like you're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bXvXnomYedCVotk Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com

[@chiobabe2180]

Don’t give her the letter. Women hate letters when their mad. Makes you unattractive. Don’t do it . The hand written letter never works your gonna set yourself back

[@nbee6217]

@@chiobabe2180 I agree.

[@Belleza_Life]

Hi, what about when his reason for breaking up with me is he doesn't see me in his 5 years from now?

[@patrycjakowalska312]

Hi Brad, What if he started dating another girl immediately and seems to be happier than ever now? (It’s been a month after he left). He works with that girl and for at least 6 weeks, before he decided to move out all of sudden, he was emotionally cheating on me (admitted that, she was his “escapism” from the problems we had at home, he could not wait to go to work and see her smile etc. Thank you for your videos, they help me a lot to deal with feeling rejected ❤

[@BradBrowning]

You're welcome but I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. Being cheated on takes its toll and re emotional cheating yes, that's very common. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. I understand what you're going through. You know moving on is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZmLap3-Jlrhslas And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aHTEnIKFiNx8n7s or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup at www.beatmybreakup.com

[@younesnakach1841]

Hi Brad i love your video . In my case i am still loving togheter with my girlfriend for two weeks . We dont have conflicts but still see eachother almost every day . What is the best thing i can do till we can have a no contact time ?

[@younesnakach1841]

I mean living together

[@BradBrowning]

It's another story if you live under the same roof after a relationship ends. I suggest you do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!

[@younesnakach1841]

Thanks for your help , i wil follow your advice .

[@SONofTWD]

Hey brad, I’m in the reattraction phase. And we had positive talks a few times and last talked 4 days ago. Should I initiate contact again or wait for her to come to me. And if so how long should I be waiting?

[@BradBrowning]

Ideally wait for her to contact you as well. Otherwise you can reach out after a week or so, depending on how the interaction went really but the benchmark is about a week if it was a good interaction. Good luck!

[@julesswitchengage28]

what if we're just dating and there's no label,is this still counted and included on the rules of this video?

[@BradBrowning]

It helps out a bit, yes. But not as much if you two were in a serious commitment especially for a long time.

[@neardeathexperience1111]

I've started this today and it's really hard. I was only in a relationship for a few months but we fell deeply for each other. He is living with his ex and I found that very difficult as we couldn't speak unless he was away from the house. Also his PTSD and mental health was incredibly bad and I felt suffocated under it all. I was getting depressed too. If things were different we could've made it work but we live hours away from each other too. He said he can't give me the relationship I want or need right now as he's got a lot of inner work to do. I decided this is the only way to heal as my heart hurts incredibly bad and he wants to remain friends but I need this no contact time first. I hope I've done the right thing as he has depression etc? I have had to do it more for me as it was too painful trying to be friends still. And I found myself checking my phone constantly and social media.

[@BradBrowning]

I really hate to burst your bubble here but let him finish whatever unfinished business he has with this ex. Sorry, but there's not much you can do at this point, especially if your relationship only lasted a short while and more so if he’s seemingly (subconsciously or not) used you as a rebound, for your ex to jump back too quickly with her. You deserve to be chosen and not kept as a backup plan, yeah? Good luck and I hope you find the right guy for you soon!

[@neardeathexperience1111]

@@BradBrowning thank you for that. I successfully am moving on even if it's painful right now. I should have never begun anything with him in the first place.

[@siddhantramteke3834]

Don't worry you are not alone. Even my i broke up with my gf 2 days back. I can't even tell how it is going. I now realised that it was very toxic relationship. She dumped me for some other guy. I was with her in her worst, in her ups and down and now she got the job where she found the new guy. It is unbearable that someone has chosen other guy over you. All the efforts all the emotions gone waste. Feeling fuckin so low

[@terrancestewart8276]

​@BradBrowning ....my girl friend said we needs some space...I haven talk or seen her in 30days...I have notice she had been on my Facebook page looking..am I on the right track

[@debosmitachakraborty1609]

My sp blocked me from everywhere from 1 week..our relationship was of 7 yrs... will he unblock after no contact

[@BradBrowning]

There's really no telling what future actions someone will do. As to being blocked, I don't see this as a cause for concern really, unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/a4a3amV_d5qondU Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5aqf4N4mdWhqas and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : kzbin.info/www/bejne/emKqoYVrgqajh80 Good luck!

[@josephcognetti5608]

Contact due to the kids has been excruciating. Wish I saw this earlier.

[@BradBrowning]

I hear you. Stay strong, man! If you need my help, you know what to do. Best of luck!

[@chilukurikch]

Hi Brad, does the no contact work if ex's parents are influencing her to separate?.She left to parents house with my kids since eight months. Please advice.

[@kimberleyann51]

This happened to me too!

[@BradBrowning]

Other people's influence and outside opinion are all outside your control. It still has to be your ex's choice whether he allows himself to be influenced or not. Just continue to do you and focus on stuff within your control, yeah? Apply the tips here along with the other tips on my vid on what you can do in each phase, especially if you're not getting my guide: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aoLIXmd3YqijjLs

[@unstoppable6215]

Its better to move on with no contact rule rather than getting hurt again and again.... I beg.... I cry.... I lost myself.... Went into depression..... But he kept on hurting me.... Made me feel like hell....Finally i decided to move on.... It took 1 year to get back to my life..... Even though there are unseen scars on my heart...... But happy with myself...... I tried as much as i could to save my 4 years relationship..... He cheated on me got married to someone else and informed me before 15 days that he is getting married by giving excuse that his family wanted that...... After suffering for a long time i choose no contact and it really helped..... Coz if you try to stay connected it hurts more with horrible memories ......

[@BradBrowning]

Sorry to hear that. The scenario you described is one of the cases where I absolutely think it's best to let go. Don't let yourself get disrespected like that ever again. Take care!

[@unstoppable6215]

@@BradBrowning Yeah thank you....Actually it's the attachment which hurts d more.... In my case i was so emotionally attached to that person after loosing my dad..... He was so loving and caring but one day things got change..... In real life i m a very fun loving and talkative person but i stopped talking and was in worst face of my life...... But somewhere god always helped me and now i m fine and focusing on my career with a better version of myself....

[@mmommo10]

my ex assaulted me on our last day. The scene was like out of the Matrix. I almost admitted to his accusation of me cheating. I never have, never would. He cheated from day one. He checked himself back into the looney bin and threatened suicide as usual. I survived 37 years. I'm free now, so happy I cry.

[@BradBrowning]

So you're saying that he's projecting his behaviour onto you? On initial impression your relationship with him sounds toxic and may be better off placed in the past though. Take some timeout for yourself to see if this is something you want to continue. If you need some more tips on how to move past this and be happy with your life without your ex as well as help improve your life and mindset, you may want to check out my latest released product called Beat the Breakup at www.beatmybreakup.com I wish you well moving forward. Sounds like you dodged a bullet, yeah? Take care!

[@Yo.222]

From my experience no contact for long damage relationship. Unless you don’t want the relationship anymore.. I know there is too much BS game in relationship now days but most people they don’t know the damage they are causing in the relationship. The best thing is to go free game and let everything be natural instead..

[@Joeyc-e4l]

Brad, my ex said won’t get back, 4 year, complicated..LDR ( no arguments etc) I went straight into NC. I didn’t beg or plead but was very upset. 4 weeks later he contacted me to ask me about a hospital appt I was having and how it went, and understood if I didn’t want to reply..I replied..he was a bit flirty with me. I made mistake of saying had been hard not talking and missed him. He then said it’s for the best and then added missed you too of course. I didn’t reply. It’s sent me feeling sad again, felt it was mixed signals??

[@BradBrowning]

How was it complicated other than the obvious physical distance between you two? And were there plans to bridge the gap for good? 4 years long distance is stretching it out a bit. Since your situation may be unique, I think you can benefit by working with me one-on-one so I get to learn more about the situation and therefore be more equipped to help you out, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@anairaham]

Will this work if it’s our second breakup? I went no contact. Then he reached out 2 weeks later about concert tickets I needed to give him. We argued about the tickets because I wanted to sell them instead of give them to him. In that argument he said “you won’t be hearing from me again” 😔 but in the end I gave him the tickets and tried to say “I hope there’s no hard feelings” then I saw him for a minute really quick to exchange things about 3 weeks after that. We didn’t talk at all. Just said hi and bye and thank you. I’ve been in NC for over a month now since then

[@saurabhvimal1008]

It's hard going through same

[@BradBrowning]

Were the reasons for the breakup the same? An on-and-off relationship often signifies underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!

[@briannaabbygail8248]

how bout 10th breakup

[@adamwilliams9487]

Did y’all get back together?

[@allthingsjana7870]

@@adamwilliams9487 yeah want to know the same

[@dannythomas7902]

It can front fire, I had ex come back beg me after 1 month, we had 2 years together 1 year Xmas to the week left again. I never spoke to her again ever!!!

[@BladeGeeks]

I started no contact two months ago after she texted me that she was dating someone new and that it might lead to a new relationship.And she added that she was hoping that I was taking her message well and it hopefully would not affect our contact (she had messaged me as a friend for about 3 to 4 months prior to this event on a regular basis while almost all contact was initiated by her). Well I did affect the contact and everything related to it. Not sure if I ever want contact again, probably not. The last thing I want to find myself in is hearing about her new life/ relationship and so on. It’s no longer my business. Thanks for reading my story.

[@BradBrowning]

You're on the right down on the money on this one. Good job on loving yourself and putting yourself first!

[@dovegolden1244]

6 days my ex fiancé broke up with me. He lives in Alaska and I live in nyc. I tried the 30days no contact but I can’t. I even call him or text and he replies back. Today, I’m fully committed to do it. Delete his number, and delete everything about us because it making me sad.

[@BradBrowning]

It's a sad situation indeed. Why'd he break off the engagement though? Give yourselves time first.

[@dovegolden1244]

@@BradBrowning he said I do argue with him a lot. Thank you for replying back. I started already no contact method and gave him space. He texted how am I feeling. I didn’t reply yet! Your videos made me strong. Thank you so much.

[@trollywood5373]

Hey Uncle Brad! My girlfriend of 10 months broke it off with me about a week ago and told me that if I fix myself (which I’ve been doing, gym, muy Thai, eating well and cutting out toxic habits) that I could reach out down the line and maybe we could get back together. I naturally didn’t obey the no contact rule for the first couple days and obsessed. But then I found the no contact rule and implemented it about 4 days ago. I’ve been posting on my social media me at the fight gym the weight gym and doing fun things in general. My question is this..should I block her on social media as well so that she is completely in the dark? Or is it good for her to see the positive strides I’ve been making in my life? I feel like it’s a fine line and I don’t want to mess this up. Please let me know brother and thanks for this content it’s really eye opening!

[@BradBrowning]

Looks like you've been doing the right thing so far. When you do changes, however, do it for yourself and not for anyone else. Aim for self improvement and let go of those toxic habits. Also you just have to let time play out. Just take note of the mistake most people make here so you won't be making them: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z5SloYGoeal7pNk Also don’t wait for this person to have an epiphany. If you want your ex back, then keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not. Here's a quick overview of what needs to happen: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rpi1YWaImLpro9k it's best to go by the golden rules here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z5ytYqyYqqt8fqc Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Good luck!

[@therealkeinemoniker]

can you make a video explaining when things might have ended to badly to be repaired... thats whats making no contact harder for me atm. I'd like to know if the rupture was too angry and hurtful to be mended.. .the test is too generic for that insight.

[@BradBrowning]

The messier the breakup, the more reason you need to be giving each other space as soon as possible. Just take a breather from each other first because talking will very likely end up in more fights. That's always the first step. The next steps depends on the circumstances specific to your relationship but in general, here's how to go about it: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e3Smi6CVotatgck Good luck!

[@JesseJames771]

Hi Brad! thanks for the video! Currently 45 Days into NC after a few mistakes early on but I'm staying strong this time. However, does NC work the same if my ex is in a new relationship? My ex broke up with me and started seeing someone 6 weeks after we broke up. We were together for 8 months. In my situation, this new guy isn't just a random person. My ex's best friend set her up with this guy (new guy is also best friends with the husband of my ex's best friend) Would you still consider this a rebound or something a bit more serious bc this isn't some random guy from a bar? This is a good guy who is already well connected with my ex's friends and family. They have already been seeing each other for almost 2 months now and are still going strong. I realize where I went wrong in the relationship (failed to communicate where I stand on things) However, I believe we could easily fix it bc these aren't crazy big issues. Just little things. I'm just discouraged that I may never get the chance to show my ex bc the new guy is already so well connected and they are happy right now. Thanks again for all your videos. Trying to stay positive over here but it's hard :(

[@BradBrowning]

The no contact rule can work for you in the following ways: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKiTdJurjah4o9k Your ex could be rebounding so no contact is the only choice at this point because the opposite is much more self sabotaging and will make your ex lose respect. This vid is for you as well: kzbin.info/www/bejne/g6PSfY1tjbBsnbs&ab_channel=BradBrowning

[@Sskk19]

i broke NC after 4 months, he broke up with me. We are texting but he is sooo dry with his aswers and he takes hours to respond. I know we are not together anymore but it hurts. I just want to be with him

[@BradBrowning]

You're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bXvXnomYedCVotk Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com

[@ashishmalik4334]

She asked me why did you blocked me. Although I didn't replied yet even after two days but I think I sent message to her brain that I am still available. What to do now. Please help. I put my what's app status (hangout with friends) she seen but no response.

[@BradBrowning]

Right. That's what I call the "validation-seeking" text and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message, here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jH6keYmAa9mpia8

[@purrfectmeow]

Living with my ex still....can't move out for another 3+ months. I told him I wanted only minimal contact, just stuff involving pets and bills, aka the necessities. My ex got angry and told me that I was immature and basic for not wanting to maintain a friendship. I told him it hurts too much to be his friend. He then told me how he was hurt for years because I was always so distant. Said I always cared more about my friends and hobbies than him. I said I would change and make up for it he then told me we would never get back together. He guilted me more and In the end I relented and agreed to be friends until I move out. I don't know what to do now - I question if no contact even is right in my situation as they broke up with me largely for being distant. What do I do?

[@BradBrowning]

Minimal contact, that's right. But you don't have to tell him. It's a different set of rules if you live together. Just make it a point to discuss only the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!

[@janepebbs4036]

It sounds like your ex is manipulating you. He wants to stay friends so that the breakup becomes easy for HIM and easy for him to move on. Don’t fall for it. If you really want to reconcile, then don’t fall for the friends scenario. Only talk about essential things like bills etc. keep it friendly and polite.

[@willdoesbjj0514]

Thanks legend 👊🏼

[@BradBrowning]

I appreciate the support. If it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t done so yet, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it, too! :-)

[@starttakinnotez]

My ex wanted to do no contact but she kept communicating with me via spotify. Made nasty public playlists about me. So I got in shape and made a playlist called "the come up". I posted a pic of my new gym bod as the playlist cover photo. I got a new girl and made a playlist called "courtship" and posted a pic of her as the cover photo. Today is the first day she hasn't added nasty songs to a playlist about me. She got humbled 😂 I won the break up by finishing her off. She's an absolute narcissist. The new girl has emotional empathy.

[@sandcrushlove]

Toxic King 👑😂👏

[@starttakinnotez]

@@sandcrushlove she had a 7 month affair behind my back. & Is spreading rumors about me being a rapist, a physically abusive man, a cheater...etc. Basically anything to make her feel less guilty about what she did. She has a personality disorder & she needs to talk shit about me to anyone who is willing to listen and they don't come to me because she specifically asks them not to because it's a "boundary". She triangulated me with everyone with this smear campaign and will look bad if she gets back with me. She's seriously fucked in the head. She cheated on her fiance with me. She was with him for 7 years and I believed her when she said he was abusive. HES NOT! I'm cool with him. He is honest but talks calmly when expressing his feelings of anger towards me. She is without a doubt a narcissist. It's not bipolar or BPD. It's NPD. I'm never buying that bullshit sob story ever again. It's all manipulation to get what they want from you (some dick & $$$)

[@BradBrowning]

Thanks for dropping by!

[@djnickryan4562]

Thank you for this video Brad. Stuck right now where she isn’t sure what she wants. Both moved across country, met here but she’s been here longer. She’s homesick, wants to move back, need to be out of our place by Wednesday. Still together daily, always telling me she misses me so badly and cries. To the point where even if she gets home before me her “heart sinks”. She plans to move back and I found another place. She’s staying here in an in Airbnb to finish her work before she leaves in a few weeks. 5 days into this but every day we’ve talked about our problems and potential solutions such as long distance. I don’t want this, nor do I think it will work but she’s unsure if she even wants that. Even if i said I’d go, she’s unsure. We’ve been best friends, have spent a ton of time together over the last 2 years. Both have been very emotional but I can’t stop communicating with her yet because we’re still living/sleeping together. Do you have any advice on this? Relationship wasn’t perfect. Started fighting more toward the end (mostly due to communication issues) but her opinion of the fighting was worse than mine, she’s also worried we don’t want the same future. But since this happened, I explained I’d compromise in our future to make it work. In the last day, she’s said how “we’re not broken up, I’m still here, we’re together right now” but she plans to leave.

[@BradBrowning]

Hi there! Although I'd like to offer a tip or two, there's simply too many elements to your situation that makes this too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@Cranberryjo]

I feel like this is pretty manipulative and toxic to do if you’re in a mature relationship but also you are providing what the video advertised so I can’t bash it 😂 You know your stuff Brad!

[@BradBrowning]

I'm just laying out the facts, hey. :-)

[@drewby_doobie_doo]

Disagree that not contacting someone who dumped you is toxic in any way.

[@pogrebniak8788]

Hey Brad, I was with my British girlfriend for 6 months, 2 weeks ago on her birthday I got drunk and pushed her to the ground, she broke up with me and left the country, I know I have to work on myself, but she left without even talking face to face one last time and it hurts me a lot, I love her but I know that I can't contact her from my initiative anymore...😔

[@BradBrowning]

That shows how much she values your connection... or not. Depending on what really cut the relationship short, it may be time to consider moving on from this. But don't rush. Always take the time to give each other space first, all right? Do a minimum of 3 weeks of "no contact" and see if you still want your ex and if your ex is receptive to contact AFTER that period. Watch this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKiTdJurjah4o9k

[@AdityaJozi]

What if we both are watching your video🤔

[@gralbr]

When you said “about” , in the first 15 seconds of this videoI, knew you were Canadian

[@BradBrowning]

lol right! Hey thanks for dropping by.

[@pamheiken847]

I have a really bad situation that I want your advice on. So my ex and I broke up a while ago and I, embarrassingly, begged for him back only to break up weeks later. however, we have remained friends since then. And he has moved on from me and is seeing another girl. I heard from somebody that he was going to block me and thought maybe it would be smart to do it first as I have been wanting to for a while. I told him I could no longer be his friend and we needed to go no contact. I unfollowed him on everything and deleted his number. Do you think no contact would still work in this particular situation?

[@breicialett7524]

My husband dumped me, filed for divorce, and now says he's moved on. He is in love with another person. It's been a year and within that year I made way too many mistakes and chased him. Two months ago he blocked me on everything. After a week he unblocked the phone for ending our business dealings together. This is hell! I've waited too long to implement this no contact rule. I am so devastated by all of this! It's not a little pain, it's alot. It's like he died and i'll never get to do things with, see, touch, or hold him again. But someone else does. OMG!

[@BradBrowning]

I hear you. Breakups, grief and other traumatic experiences can be really daunting and I completely understand what you're going through. You know moving on is a tricky process and the emotions come in waves. This video is for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZmLap3-Jlrhslas And if you're still having a hard time, this should help you understand why in order to understand what you're going through: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aHTEnIKFiNx8n7s or get my latest e-book Beat the Breakup guide as that will help you and your mindset to evolve from the breakup and therefore become the best version of yourself. Check it out at www.beatmybreakup.com

[@crystalwildman4874]

Your videos give me hope, I took the quiz, it asked about cheating… I have been accused of it many times… how can I show him I haven’t?

[@BradBrowning]

It all boils down to trust. Without it, you can talk til you're blue in the face and what you're saying to him still won't register. As long as you haven't broken his trust, you really got nothing to prove. Just offer a simple explanation of whatever the cause of misunderstanding had been and then give him space to process the information, yeah?

[@luke.louren.]

The first question is why would you want to get back together with someone who left you? An ex is an ex for a reason. It doesnt make sense trying to get someone back who didnt want to be with you in the first place.

[@BradBrowning]

You're referring to a fairy tale that only exists in the movies. In real life, nobody's perfect, so the right one can sometimes run, and 99% of the time, you play a role in the breakup too because again, nobody's perfect and life oftentimes get in the way of things.

[@7771nasser]

Hey Brad, my ex broke up with me after finding out that she was cheating then I blocked her on everything, she reached out after 40 days of no contact saying she thinks about me but I never replied, what’s your thoughts about situations like this?

[@BradBrowning]

Has she been trying to make amends with you? Unless you can't help yourself but look at her profile, you can actually leverage social media to your advantage. Here's how: kzbin.info/www/bejne/emKqoYVrgqajh80

[@StanZachJames]

I had a break up 2years before I moved away form the city we lived in and got married... I sent an email to my ex when I had a baby... After a month my ex contacts me back wishing me from that we started our conversations she says she loves me and misses me and she is engaged too... We did meet up too... But I am not sure where this will lead. I am feeling that heartbreak again... What do I do?

[@BradBrowning]

Really sorry to her that man, but your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/m2TPZn6NetV8ptk and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc

[@barbararomeo9817]

Hi Brad, my boyfriend broke up with me over silly misunderstanding over communication last Thursday. I gave No Contact straight away but I broke the NO Contact Rules & messaged him this morning, he replied back & I pushed on with how much I love him & want us to get back together & he went silent on me. So I'm thinking of going back to NO Contact Rules again by tomorrow, is it too late fir that?

[@BradBrowning]

Give him space. Play your cards right and notice the world of difference that this can make. Stick to the "no contact" rule this time for at least 30 days. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: kzbin.info/www/bejne/imW2q2l6nryFqbM AND the importance of silence after the breakup here: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw and in the meantime, this is the principle you ought to follow: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5fFmIhtq5WBr5Y A situation with an ex is often fragile, so you'd really want to omit, if not minimize these mistakes. Start with the 30-day straight "no contact rule. It’s one step forward, two steps backward with an ex & there are no unlimited chances with them, so if you can do it right moving forward, then do so. Check out my guide so you won't end up making the same mistakes. Good luck!

[@mariopensotti1015]

Hey Brad, She left me a week ago after 1 year . These past 3 months she went on a spiritual trip to Spain ( el camino de santiago) and later stayed an extra 2 months (3 total) visiting old friends. 1st month contact was somewhat fine. Next 2-3rd months she turned very vague and we barely spoke, I fought somewhat with her for her lack of communication. She came back last week and finished it with me , telling me how much she reflected on our relationship and how I was emotionally unavailable and she was fed up trying to get me to open up, all things pretty much true. I accepted the break up maturely and hugged/cried it out with her . She told me she is going to miss me. I gave back all of her possessions and now its been a week of no contact. My birthday is in 5 weeks. I reckon she might contact me then. Im really sad about the breakup , I really do miss her. Do I have a chance of getting her back even though her mind seems extremely made up?

[@BradBrowning]

Before trying to get her back, I suggest you work on your own issues first. Why can't you open up to her? Being emotionally unavailable won't bode well to a romantic relationship, especially if this is someone you were in an established relationship with already. I can try to help you out on that though and I'll help you get to the bottom of things. Sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching

[@mariia7044]

What if my ex is asking to go out during no contact period? I know what to do if he texts or calls, but should I go out with him if he wants? He hugs me often and wants sex, saying how good I am and beautiful, buying me things. But he doesn't want relationships. Should I reject him? I am so confused. We were together for 8 years.

[@BradBrowning]

That would be a bad idea. Assess the risks first if it's all worth it. Remember, meeting up when you're both not ready will only alienate your ex further, and that's best case scenario. Worst case scenario will land you a spot in the dreaded friendzone or friends with benefits. Watch these first to know how to handle it: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p6Coi5yGo554fpI AND kzbin.info/www/bejne/pomugat3jcaopMU