BEFORE YOU START DATING DUTCH MEN

[@chiara-ju7mt]

I'm Italian and I'm with my dutch boyfriend for a year and a half now and I could never go back! In the beginning, I needed time to get used to his ways of saying or things in general. He was really honest and direct and I was not used to, but what surprised me most (in a positive way) is how he approached me: in a very sweet and respectful way. Now, after I learnt how he is (especially his weirdness), omg I can't think to stay with other people of other nationalities (even mine) ahah. Dutch people are amazing! I have, of course, a subjective view, but this relationship taught me a lot, exactly how you said, so I can definitely say that no matters how will go between us I'm already grateful for the possibility to have a dutch person next to me. I learnt so many new things and new ways of seeing things that I can't even explain! Loved your video! :)

[@osayanmon]

you are lucky. it's not easy to find a good man.

[@wanderlust_lulu]

When I was in Holland, I went on some dates with Dutch men and I was incredibly impressed. The honesty was so refreshing. So, I’m gonna spend the rest of my life looking for a Dutch man. 😁

[@DenizF]

😂😂❤️

[@eskaban_edits_beats_and_more]

im dutch man. thanks for the compliment!

[@temarytemary8083]

Hey girl! I feel you..

[@jasminr5197]

keep trying girl!! They are the best

[@zougharyahya9607]

Hello. The name is Yahya, Moroccan nationality, blonde, handsome, 32 years old. I am looking for a serious wife and I am not looking for a relationship via the network. If we agree, you can come to visit me to my country to conclude the engagement contract. Wat Saab 00212603189148

[@PeterM_K]

When a Dutch person does not comment on something that is 'wrong' (i.e. a stain on clothes, a spot on your teeth) you should be asking yourself if they care enough about you..

[@DenizF]

😂😂 true!!

[@Nowaynoway50]

Hahahaha this is so true 😂

[@MsMesem]

They dont care. You can point out endless times how you are really unwell but it wont register. Obviously not used to real honest dialogue..think you are acting despite your palour and obvious fatigue.

[@zzcoffie75]

Exactly!

[@StevanOutdoor]

I even tell it to strangers.

[@soccermommyNPC]

This type of honesty feels so refreshing. It feels like most younger men here in the US, when they realize they aren’t interested anymore, continue to do just the bare minimum to keep someone interested in them because they like the attention, or are scared of rejecting someone, and it creates a confusing and miserable experience that only ends by ghosting, which I find to be incredibly cruel. I’m sure women do this too, but I don’t have experience there. I’ve only had one man say “I can tell you want more than me, sorry it’s not gonna happen,” and it bummed me out for an evening, but after that I was able to completely respect him, and occasionally stay in contact on friendly terms. It was great.

[@pollyanatanaleon5972]

I have a current online friend who is a Dutch and I can really say he is very direct to the point and he will tell you what they really think and feel about. I can say they are really confrontational people. Hehe

[@zougharyahya9607]

Hello. The name is Yahya, Moroccan nationality, blonde, handsome, 32 years old. I am looking for a serious wife and I am not looking for a relationship via the network. If we agree, you can come to visit me to my country to conclude the engagement contract. Wat Saab 00212603189148

[@dannyhughes4822]

WhatsApp. [phone]. The spell caster who helped me attract my ex after the breakup can help you too. Good luck.

[@daisyv9364]

I’m Mexican American, but I’m very genuine, direct, honest/ transparent and highly value those qualities in others. Here in America it’s difficult to find people who don’t sugarcoat things. I enjoy genuine and direct people. The what you see is what you get types. It’s refreshing. 😊👍✨

[@foxblaze512]

I think straight to the point is good

[@DenizF]

Definitely!

[@MsMesem]

When they want to be. Don't ask and they won't tell.

[@val-schaeffer1117]

But they DO NOT appreciate when YOU are straight to the point.

[@TheJust22az]

As an American, that was how I was brought up, honest and upfront. Most guys don't handle that well.

[@annettebonteri3234]

Nice profile pic bro

[@gellidanielle3931]

After reading the title, I said to myself: too late for that. I am already dating one before watching this. Lol. 😂

[@DenizF]

So you can sorta rely to everything I guess 😂. But it’s true right? You gotta get to know us first

[@dannyhughes4822]

WhatsApp. [phone]. The spell caster who helped me attract my ex after the breakup can help you too. Good luck.

[@candiceanncapao3138]

Relate!😂

[@vernajuliettetiro9904]

My boyfriend is Dutch, I am Mexican, and we have had some cultural shocks... but with time and honest conversations we have learned to make everything smooth. We both have grown up so much together. I am not sure that I wouldn't have achieved this much if I were with a person from another country. Dutch men rock!

[@jemrellmorell8860]

So refreshing, I’m an American and the indirectness of people in some of the cities here...the one I live in now, is frustrating.

[@zougharyahya9607]

Hello. The name is Yahya, Moroccan nationality, blonde, handsome, 32 years old. I am looking for a serious wife and I am not looking for a relationship via the network. If we agree, you can come to visit me to my country to conclude the engagement contract. Wat Saab 00212603189148

[@dannyhughes4822]

WhatsApp. [phone]. The spell caster who helped me attract my ex after the breakup can help you too. Good luck.

[@joshcabal]

no idea why i’m watching this in the middle of the night but i’m hooked 🍿👀

[@cabincookie]

I made a mistake, I fall in love with a Dutchman. Its too late now since adapting to the culture and customs wasn't that hard. Admiring them even more, and one thing I liked bout my lad is we don't even have to be fancy and also their bargaining skills.

[@duchesspodcast]

I'm American and with a Dutchman. I can see why we get along - I'm super direct and also a bill-splitter and a bunch of other similarities. Frankly the Dutch way of speaking - being forthright about everything - is the most sensible way to exist in the world!! I just don't understand why people in the States don't communicate in the same manner. It causes so many headaches. The Dutch way is what we call assertive - not passive-aggressive, not aggressive, not passive. It is a sign of true psychological health. I think most US men just found me to be offputting given all my opinions and directness, but now that I'm with a Dutchie I feel understood and loved!

[@lisamunoz7686]

I have just started a relationship with a Dutch and he is very up front and very direct with his wants and how he thinks things should be, these videos are helpful, because I would normally back away, but he really is special, so thank you... I'll give this more time to build 😉since I'm learning that it's just how they can be. I'm from California, so we're definitely different.

[@Tigress_Lilly]

I have a online friend who is dutch, he pretty much made me want to date a dutch guy because of how straight forward he is. Like everything you listed! I love it. Wish more dutch came to the US lol.

[@StevanOutdoor]

Dutch people (also guys) are everywhere but we are also very willing to travel. We love traveling. Everybody has a passport here.

[@StevanOutdoor]

@@ItsTheAlfaa He probably just listens to our media and is most likely left wing like our media. No real Dutch man refuses to go there. Maybe he has a criminal record and knows he can't get the ESTA?

[@Jesse-FenixRizin]

I couldn’t agree with you more. I am very direct person and have learned throughout my many different culture experiences who I can do that with. If I know someone is very sensitive and they ask my thoughts on something, I always let them know I would rather not or let them know my thoughts directly. And if they get offended or hurt, then I just shut them out. I’m sorry, but this is not a picture perfect world we live today. You must be strong minded, but compassionate. I never say anything negative about a person and if someone is negative around me I separate myself from that person or toxic relationship. There is enough negativity in this world and I don’t feed into it. Sorry! Got a little out of hand there, but since you asked (no pun intended!).

[@Andreaboitel]

I started talking to this dutch guy and after the first day of texting, he started saying how much he liked me. At first I was kinda like huh this is weird cause its only been a day but now it makes total sense.

[@Pulmonary.Tuberculosis]

Relatable lmao! But in my case it was after one week! XD I was like "?!!!! Well that was quick?! O.o"

[@manalbadawi6044]

Did it work in the end ?

[@manalbadawi6044]

@@Pulmonary.Tuberculosis same here ? Did it work ?

[@Pulmonary.Tuberculosis]

@@manalbadawi6044 we're together 2 years so far lmao

[@Hati_i]

Damn maybe im secretly dutch, i could relate with a lot of things you said maybe i should date a dutch guy

[@youniqca1489]

My Dutch friend is genuine but never make me uncomfortable. Very delicate and not piercing at all.

[@StevanOutdoor]

Ik like this video. You explained it well. I'm gonna send it to my USA gf I'm talking to and wants to come visit The Netherlands. I'm sending her more videos (links) about The Netherlands anyway. She already knows I'm very direct and honest (and did meet me some years ago) and she is the same. Now we are to old to have (more) kids but most of all for young people into an international/intercontinental relationship I think it is very important to talk about this stuff in an early stage. It could prevent you from investing time and money in some relationship that's never gonna happen. Same with religion, political views, where you wanna live, etc. They don't always match. You did mention the honesty and efficiency and that's what it's about. I think the difference with other cultures are often the cause of misunderstandings and therefor expectations. Chatting with a female (or person) abroad on a regular basis does not automatically mean we see it as having a relationship like in partners. We'll usually tell if that's our goal. To prevent this different expectations and disappointments we need that honesty.

[@DenizF]

Yes you should! I’m gonna make some more videos too

[@StevanOutdoor]

@@DenizF Keep the vidz coming ;)

[@DenizF]

One coming up today!

[@Eu553ify]

i am brazilian and i identify with most of what you said even though my own culture is pretty different from yours. that said, i thought i was straightforward, but you guys are on a whole other level. i dated this dutch guy for more than a year and he once said he found his own opinion on films (i study cinema) to be very poor and unintelligent with the utmost honesty that i found it almost heartbreaking to hear, but he was completely unbothered by it. that kind of brutal honesty about everything, himself included, made me fall for him (he's my fiancé now).

[@beluris1445]

Meu Deus 🤣 aí gente, quero

[@sherriecrevoisier1054]

I like a Dutch guy very much but in my culture men usually take the initiative. If a woman does, she is considered desperate or pushy. How do I let him know I really like him without appearing desperate?

[@StevanOutdoor]

In The Netherlands women take initiative also, so I would not really bother about that. You can always just ask him if he considers you just as a friend or more.

[@eskaban_edits_beats_and_more]

by simply telling him you like him

[@Alcmaer072]

Well honestly I think by my own experience (as dutch) just tell him, and don't worry about that it might be sounding desperate. If I experience that myself and liked her aswell that would be so awesome. Like for real haha..

[@stardustmagick]

Thanks for your video. As a Brit-American expat artist living in Amsterdam for many years, this explains a lot. And coming from a culture where the men normally make the first moves and take the risk, i've just thought i was unattractive to the Dutch, rarely being pursued or asked out. and unfortunately, i think from my cultural background, that has also become something attractive to me. Someone wanting me so much From my perspective, in general, Dutch men seem lazy and spineless to not approach me with their 'honesty' when actually interested in me. the fact they don't, makes me uninterested in them. so it's a feedback loop. and having recently made a new good Dutch Girlfriend, i'm beginning to understand a lot more. she says i probably don't realize when a Dutch person is interested in me... the way of flirting and courting is strange and appears non existent to me. but when i tell her things, like a man whistles a tune around me, she says they were flirting, huh? i love to hear a whistle, but never in my wildest dreams would think that was, hey baby i like you. I do find this 'directness' rude, not because it's honest and direct, i love honesty, it just feels like oftentimes the Dutch don't consider how something they say is meant to make you feel. like, what are they being honest about, why and how, like there is a selffishness to needing to know something, i believe they don't need to know nor care all that much,, personally, i'm very romantic and love style, fashion, and creativity aswell, so in general, the 'Dutch' approach is not a match for me. I'm always confused how the culture got this way, when the Dutch seem to take so many holidays and travel so much, i would expect them in general to be more worldly.

[@MsMesem]

I totally agree. They are rather serious and it seems that romantic touches and artful use of language are uninteresting too them. Its all very puritanical except for the sex. Practical is great but whimsy allows us to be transported. I do wonder how they got where they are, obviously close connection with Germany has something to do with it. Ive given up on the people of Allemagne, where ever they are. I grew up in a place with many Dutch people. They were hardworking, cold, serious uninspiring people who seemed to get no joy from life. This is the Calvanistic influence.

[@rjulsing5677]

@@MsMesem As a Dutch guy, I think you're about right in terms of the Calvinistic/Protestant influence of our culture. However, this really depends on where you are. In general, people in the big cities and in the north tend to be the way you describe them, but under the river Rhine and in smaller villages this Calvinistic undertone isn't really that prominent, since it's always been Catholic. Adressing the argument about the stubbornness and lack of joy in life; I see what you mean, and in some ways, it's true, but you always have to take into account that different cultures have different understandings of 'joy' and 'inspiration', and therefore it's more or less subjective. For example, Dutch humour is some weird shit, especially to people who didn't grow up with it, and can be misunderstood quite easily. In terms of 'being romantic'... yeah no we really do suck at that part. So yes, we can come across as cold, stubborn pricks, and some of us are, but it depends on who you've met and where you've been. Amsterdam and it's people don't really represent 'the Dutch'.

[@mairi_de_provenca]

I live in the Netherlands and I'm half-German. Both cultures are the same in the sense that we're both straightforward. It makes things a lot easier.

[@zougharyahya9607]

Hello. The name is Yahya, Moroccan nationality, blonde, handsome, 32 years old. I am looking for a serious wife and I am not looking for a relationship via the network. If we agree, you can come to visit me to my country to conclude the engagement contract. Wat Saab 00212603189148

[@Pulmonary.Tuberculosis]

Last year, a dutch guy confessed to me after a week of talking and then we dated (LDR). This year on February, he broke up with me. I uninstalled the app we chatted on. Few months later, I reinstalled that app. Turns out he messaged me he missed me several weeks after our breakup. It's been awhile but I still replied "huh? oh lmao". I thought he'll never talk to me again but he still did. He told me he has a new gf now. I wasn't jealous, but I still replied to his messages respectfully out of my "people pleaser" habit. Ngl, I was concerned how he still compliments me even if he has a new gf. I felt guilty for the girl. So I uninstalled that app again. Hopefully he'll forget about me and focus on his new partner. Several weeks later I reinstalled it cuz I want to join the live stream of my schoolmates. This time I'm even more shocked. He sent me heart emojis almost everyday. Eventually, he told me he tried to contact me before he broke up with that girl because he missed me (but I uninstalled the app so... Lol). I didn't agree to date him again, but he said he can't help his feelings. Currently, he still messages me. What the heck does this mean lol

[@joycedominguez8997]

Apparently he's still interested in you

[@kimaspurplelife]

Wow... I'm hooked to this story and my heart yelped at the end... 😢.. You two should meet

[@rosameijering5161]

What are these men doing with the new gf if they miss the old one? So messed up

[@BlondeNordic]

I'm a Finn my self and my bf is Dutch and i can see the similarities in our culture. No small talk but straight to the point and honesty is one of the major factors in our culture as well. Keeping ppl at a distance just to see who they really are before really opening up to them.

[@jonasjaagur9635]

Ooh, that describes me as well. Can you recommend visiting Finland?

[@BlondeNordic]

@@jonasjaagur9635 Yes i can just depends on what you are looking for ofc :) Summer would be the best time to visit though. Lot of events and ppl are happier over all :D

[@jonasjaagur9635]

@@BlondeNordic I don't really know what Finland has to offer.

[@BlondeNordic]

@@jonasjaagur9635 www.lonelyplanet.com/finland

[@dariot.2375]

I am not dating yet..we met through online. ..and in the process of getting to know each other online.

[@basaka00]

This reminded of my only Dutch crush up to date. He was a semestre in my country, Chile, and we dated. I loved his directness when it came to the honesty about our "agreed temporal, open relationship". However, his directness when requesting something and when meeting new people was sometimes seen as rude, but I knew it was a cultural difference. For example, the first time I invited him to my flat he suddenly said: 'I'm hungry, do you've some food?'. That shocked me, because for me it was too over familiar for the first time. Time later I remembered this to him and told him we almost always ask for things in long kind ways, with excuses and a big PLEASE, overall when we don't know the other person so well. He replied "well, if I said 'I don't wanna be so familiar, but I'm hungry, so would you maybe have something to eat, please'?, it would have been way longer but it means the same" 😂

[@Barbievel]

I dated a Dutch guy and he ghosted me. I messaged him over and over and he ignored me lololol

[@DenizF]

😂😂 ok that’s just rude lol

[@ronkalkhoven2119]

Barbie Velazquez Yep....absence makes the heart grow fonder. To much messaging kills.

[@Barbievel]

RON KALKHOVEN huh? He’s the one who always talked first since he’s 6 hours ahead. It was just one day he stopped talking to me all together

[@deggov]

Im dutch to.... Im somethimes rude.... But not that rude

[@jakesoo9750]

Barbie Velazquez i can tell, sorry for that.

[@athenarose533]

My dutch bf was a compulsive liar SMH. Luckily, not all dutch guys are like this.

[@MsMesem]

They come up with pretty thin stories.

[@zougharyahya9607]

Hello. The name is Yahya, Moroccan nationality, blonde, handsome, 32 years old. I am looking for a serious wife and I am not looking for a relationship via the network. If we agree, you can come to visit me to my country to conclude the engagement contract. Wat Saab 00212603189148

[@TTTIPNSO]

God, I relate to the dutch attitude so much! Unfortunately I live in Italy, and I have to admit that here being so honest and direct doesn't always pay off xD

[@DenizF]

Oh if you’re Italian! Please check out the video that will be tonight on my channel.. I think you’ll love it! And that’s alllll I can day for now

[@tonnyengert]

italian and dutch people are in this the same and not so much different

[@ginger942]

Guarda che tra l'essere diretti ed essere maleducati c'è un confine davvero sottile.

[@Shazzyhtown]

I must find a Dutch man. I prefer the blunt honesty. You know exactly where you stand and no time is wasted. Surprised this is even seen as rude.

[@JessvanDalfsen]

i agree, well, i found my Dutch Man, we're married now with two kids :) x

[@jean-alexandre59]

Let’s be efficient : I’m a 30 yo French junior doctor in huisarts, working in the French speaking part of Belgium. I prefer the « Germanic » part of Europe and just started learning Dutch at the moment because it’s the closest Germanic culture from my place. I am seriously thinking of moving the the Netherlands once I’ll have my specialist diploma in huisarts. I’m gay, single, monogamist, and looking for a serious long lasting relationship. And gosh, I would be more than open to getting to know you better ;)

[@derstud9732]

This is so ideal since I hate how here in America how people aren’t just straightforward with their thoughts and feelings. I value honesty over trying to be “nice” it’s always so isolating since people tend to find me too direct.

[@marcorinkau8969]

Now I see it clear, all those years I was dating in the wrong country. The way you describe the Dutch, that's the kind of people I like most.

[@klarajovanov2011]

Coming from Croatia we have a same approach to dating, we like to know where we stand im relationship or wheter is a starting phase like we dont like to take things slow and we are also very upfront and direct when it comes to getting to know someone. Therefore I relate so much to Dutch mentality

[@VenusEvan_1885]

Croatia is not a European country

[@rosecherono7804]

dating a Dutch Man is super easy, like as a lady if you Go for groceries the few important things for the Dutch man is: Coffee,cheese, Bruin bread ,shag, Heineken or wafels and pinda butter 🤣, this are the most popular things you must buy often

[@missSmile.]

Haha 😂😂

[@Αντώνης-υ3ζ]

There's a very fine line that differentiates "honest" from "rude", and sometimes that line just gets blurred and the two get mixed... Moral of the story: you can't just say everything that comes to your mind without any filters! It might actually be full-on rude! Period.

[@ginger942]

I totally agree with you. It seems just an excuse to be rude.

[@LGAussie]

Dutch men were all over me so fast. I’m an American female and I actually liked the direct vibe. One guy walked right up to me and kissed me so hard on my mouth after introducing himself. He was super handsome, so I wasn’t turned off, but I didn’t expect an instant make-out kiss. I was only there for 6 weeks, but I am sure I would have 3 kids by now how fast the Dutch move. I heard the Dutch love Americans cause our Grandfathers saved their asses during WW2…So, they have this grateful attitude unlike the English who lost America. They can’t get over that failure. Haaa! But I loved Holland. I should have stayed a year. I’m sure I wouldn’t have left tho. 😄

[@lo8393]

I'm italian and we do the same! Never thought to be considered rude lol

[@DenizF]

But Italians do it more smooth.. they know how to say t in a sexy and romantic way hehe

[@magdamagdalenowskalala9917]

:-) , haha :-)

[@amiquigonzales7917]

@@DenizF Of course they do, have been refining this for centuries. Shame on you Lorenzo 😪😪!!

[@zougharyahya9607]

Hello. The name is Yahya, Moroccan nationality, blonde, handsome, 32 years old. I am looking for a serious wife and I am not looking for a relationship via the network. If we agree, you can come to visit me to my country to conclude the engagement contract. Wat Saab 00212603189148

[@potatopotatoeOG]

He literally said: "I can't just be friends, it has to be more or we just can't talk" He said it just hurt too much

[@yshaverse]

my dutch bf and I are COMPLETELY OPPOSITE but it's a good thing that we respect each other's differences

[@liz9294]

I’ve just started dating w a Dutch guy this month when i visited there for sightseeing. He kissed me on the next day we met and i was so surprised but now I understand that is the nationality. I didn’t think it was rude but I thought it was too fast.

[@MsMesem]

Wow, same experience and yes, VERY fast...then he freaked out and has cut communication. Childish.

[@JB-om2od]

Same!! But mines kissed me the day we met🤣

[@DenizF]

Cute

[@zougharyahya9607]

Hello. The name is Yahya, Moroccan nationality, blonde, handsome, 32 years old. I am looking for a serious wife and I am not looking for a relationship via the network. If we agree, you can come to visit me to my country to conclude the engagement contract. Wat Saab 00212603189148

[@Madesobe]

"We always have the feeling that people are taking advantage of you..." this is what I feel is challenging about the Dutch. Also like the way Dutch people don't like when north Americans say "hey! how are you?" is a reflection of some kind of skepticism, lack of trust of others, which is not the Canadian way. As a Canadian our default is happy, open, welcoming and trusting. Dutch ppl tend to lean into stereotypes a lot more; they make generalizations about Canadian and Americans - often sweeping Canadians under the same brush as Americans.

[@throughthewindowpane]

I can imagine, because for many Dutch, Canada and the USA are all 'north America'. I am Dutch and have travelled to both Canada and the USA and from my experience, there is a huge difference between the both of you. Wow! The Canadians were much more friendly, interested in others and knew what was going on in the rest of the world.

[@wawhotel2534]

I was born in different country but recently i found out that I'm real dutch nothing made me surprised when I found out about Dutch people I'm one of them and I have always been it's unbelievable incredible.

[@legaspimaryleah1196]

I actually feel that to my bf🤣 he also a dutch and im filipina soo. There something that big different to us but i understand🤣🤣 and he kinda hurt me lilbit bcoz of he straight to the point to say anything actually.. 🤣 but its okkk i thought hes the only one that like that🤣 The best in dutch men is day so honest.. really honest

[@Sketchygaijin]

Gonna rate your points as I watch! 1. That's...a good thing?? People in North America really really like to ghost and don't know what a straightforward answer is lolll 2. Good. A first date at a coffee shop is so much better than me trying to pretend I'm not dying in a pair of stilettos 3. Again...this is a pro to me! Having to wait 3-4 dates before asking "Do you want kids?" is super nerve wracking. I HATE having to tiptoe around deep questions. 4. YES! GOOD! I AM ALL ABOUT PLANNING MY FUTURE. Y E S WHERE ARE THE CONS SIR?

[@jakesoo9750]

I think dutch people are nice, not only men. I really want to go to The Netherlands 🇳🇱

[@annamarialycklama]

Jake Soo I’m happy to hear that🥰🙃

[@Cyanwow]

Jake Soo go

[@eskaban_edits_beats_and_more]

im dutch. and believe me. 99% of dutch people are dicks

[@bengueda]

Konuyla pek alakası yok ama İngilizce konuşmak sana çok yakışıyor❤️

[@BridgetteBentley]

Great hair!😄✨ thanks for the video, is all true and I think I’m already in love with my Dutch guy😆💙😍🥳

[@zougharyahya9607]

Hello. The name is Yahya, Moroccan nationality, blonde, handsome, 32 years old. I am looking for a serious wife and I am not looking for a relationship via the network. If we agree, you can come to visit me to my country to conclude the engagement contract. Wat Saab 00212603189148

[@laney928]

“we just... don’t” 😂😂😂 this was so funny loved it

[@zougharyahya9607]

Hello. The name is Yahya, Moroccan nationality, blonde, handsome, 32 years old. I am looking for a serious wife and I am not looking for a relationship via the network. If we agree, you can come to visit me to my country to conclude the engagement contract. Wat Saab 00212603189148

[@ceciaguaysol3659]

YOUR SKIN IS SO PERFECT❤❤❤❤

[@missrosie2333]

Omg I love this guy! So nice..thanks for the advices

[@kaylee1058]

Omw this is so true.......😂 the straight forward questions can be a bit weird...maybe its best to give a person time to open up before just throwing questions at them

[@caralifetravelfun9287]

This sounds perfect haha maybe I should move to The Netherlands :P xx

[@zougharyahya9607]

Hello. The name is Yahya, Moroccan nationality, blonde, handsome, 32 years old. I am looking for a serious wife and I am not looking for a relationship via the network. If we agree, you can come to visit me to my country to conclude the engagement contract. Wat Saab 00212603189148

[@westtexasthotpatrol6373]

I’m really curious about dating a Dutch guy I’m planning a trip to the Netherlands hopefully pretty soon and I’m seriously thinking about moving there and I wanna be able to find love there before I make the move and have nothing or no one to talk to

[@salwaslav8442]

Oh God hahahaha " You look so much better now" I am from Brazil and I would feel so bad too haha but I got what you mean...Well, next time for non dutch person you can say: wowww you look amazing today, this shirt fits perfectly :P

[@rosameijering5161]

I am dutch and i would feel the same. No need to say better

[@sibin3732]

You are the one who should learn other cultures, if you go to another country with different culture, of course you're the one who should adapt theirs, you don't ask them to adapt or understand yours

[@maicomurray1221]

haha agree! it kind of goes to both person not just one

[@yohanaagyo6516]

Mas.. saya lagi deket ama cowo Belanda nih...kita berdua nyambung banget sih kalo ngobrol.. kenalny dari dating apps.. dia ngontak saya tiap hari ,,, ini uda hampir sebulan.. dia ceriita apa aja kegiatan dia, nunjukin kampung nenek dia, rumah orangtua dia, carenya uda kaya cowok2 Indo setiap hari itu pasti disempetin chat sblm dia kerja dan stlh pulang kerja. kadang saya bingung ini orang cuma mau temenan apa gimana sih,, dan saya terlalu takut untuk nanya ke dia ini hubungan apa.. please dong mas.. kasih saran,, ga pengen yang namanya jatuh ke lembah php dan baper . Terimakasih ^^

[@sibin3732]

@@yohanaagyo6516 weduuuw gmn ya 🤔

[@yohanaagyo6516]

sigid bintoro iyoo.. takut2 ntar malah alemong mass ndak jelas : D pernah date sama Dutch girl?

[@msfreeelf]

Please be my wingman i’m moving in!! Dutch guys seem just the right type!

[@DenizF]

Would love to do that! 😘

[@zougharyahya9607]

Hello. The name is Yahya, Moroccan nationality, blonde, handsome, 32 years old. I am looking for a serious wife and I am not looking for a relationship via the network. If we agree, you can come to visit me to my country to conclude the engagement contract. Wat Saab 00212603189148

[@maleeharaja]

I met a dutch guy over tinder a few days ago he is so hard to read is he into me or not he is texting me .. but im not sure is he being polite haha .. im usually so good at this also he hasnt seemed to ask me any questions . Its mostly been me ... but then again he was visiting ireland and he has had to travel back so could be tiredness.. i do hope it blossoms into something i like him alot

[@ingridprendas]

I think, well I like many points mentioned. Have not date any Dutch but like to learn, perhaps can be useful. Honesty is great. ;)

[@sriganesh8268]

Im in love with your accent

[@xw6475]

Talking about calling. I have been living in Holland for more than 2 years. What I found is that the culture here doesn't really like calling. Guys prefer texting and they don't call you back when you called them which I think it's so rude

[@jonasjaagur9635]

That is rude. Every millennial is doing that in the Netherlands nowadays.

[@xw6475]

@@jonasjaagur9635 right?

[@jonasjaagur9635]

@@xw6475 Yeah, but I also think it's because calling costs money and using whatsapp is free. Myself,I like to call.

[@xw6475]

@@jonasjaagur9635 I understand. But the connection on whatsApp just sucks. I am also someone prefer calling than text messages 🙌

[@ginger942]

@@jonasjaagur9635 you can do calls with WhatsApp or telegram. Or just say "sorry if I can't call you. I do text "

[@moldar81]

Haha glad this showed up in my feed...5 years late. You're cute 😉. Now I'm going to look for a Dutch BF. Ahh..directness is something we have in Middle Eastern culture too.

[@dennisleporte2327]

So they are honest , direct, and genuine. That's rough lol

[@DenizF]

We kinda are. But I guess I like that

[@gracer.channel392]

I'm scared😂

[@heartmendoza3361]

that's true dutch guy is so direct but sweet hehe😊 by the way new subscribers here😁

[@hannahscott6604]

I am American dating a Dutch man and it’s a bit difficult but we will figure this out

[@izunshirucreepercat3732]

I actually wouldn't be that offended if a dutch person asked me such personal questions-I mean, I would be SHOCKED, but I would be somewhat impressed, and intrigued, and relieved, and see it less as overstepping boundaries, as opposed to letting them get to know you better

[@RVBadlands2015]

I have lived In Europe, and been around the Dutch, and Germany men I fine them very rude.

[@DenizF]

Like Rihanna once said. Cmon ruse boy

[@mariababeeyz]

I dated a Dutch man for a month and got into n argument one day then the next day he stopped contacting me and blocked me. Yeah that hurt a lot. Still haven’t fully moved on.

[@Stefanbites85]

Honesty is great but dating is legit the same everywhere.

[@ruthtrance1065]

You know, while watching this, I keep nodding and saying "Amen" to every single one of your points😂😂😂 Mijn lieverd is Dutch and he checks every single one on your list there😂😂😂

[@DenizF]

HAHHA 😂😂😂

[@zougharyahya9607]

Hello. The name is Yahya, Moroccan nationality, blonde, handsome, 32 years old. I am looking for a serious wife and I am not looking for a relationship via the network. If we agree, you can come to visit me to my country to conclude the engagement contract. Wat Saab 00212603189148

[@babymerman]

im not dutch and what you're saying makes perfect sense

[@cbeautifulworld11]

I loved being with my former Dutch bf because he was so direct. American men in general are not and, like you said, it's much easier to be around people who are truthful and who give us a sense of where we stand with them. I felt like I could breathe (both mentally and physically) around him. On the down side, he was rather selfish and cheap, neither of which attracted me. Still, a good person. Thanks for this vid! I'd never heard anyone besides me say how much they loved the Dutch directness!

[@StevanOutdoor]

Selfish is not good and most Dutch aren't. What you call cheap we call being 'economic'. We hate to be in debt and don't like to spend money we don't have. Most Dutch don't even have a credit card let alone 5 that are all maxed out. ;)

[@cbeautifulworld11]

Of course you can't speak for someone of whom you know nothing, Dutch Bushcraft. What I call cheap is - cheap. As in a well sought after international horticulturist, with a salary which tripled my own, who was happy to attend my family Christmas, receive thoughtful presents, and bring nothing - not even a bottle of wine for dinner or a present for me, his girlfriend. I've one credit card, unused, only for emergency. Don't fall for the false stereotype of Americans.

[@sellyjon2751]

@@cbeautifulworld11 i totally understand you

[@kasia8014]

the honesty though, that's why I need a Dutch husband! thanks! :D

[@jankaas4504]

Go ahead then hahah

[@kasia8014]

@@jankaas4504thanks, wish me luck :D

[@eskaban_edits_beats_and_more]

dutch are like the rest of the world.

[@nabiarts9842]

I think honesty is sexy! Thank you for the valuable tips! Appreciate that! 😀

[@kiren3168]

Marry me right now

[@DenizF]

Did you get me a ring already?

[@kiren3168]

Deniz F. Hahaha ❤❤

[@analicia775]

Any single Dutch guy available??? Hahaha!! I LOVED IT!!! I really like the Dutch style!! BTW: @deniz -> I loved your English... it doesn’t seem u are Dutch... is só American English!! Thanks for the video!! :)

[@MattisNearMello]

I am autistic and american and americans confused me so much and lie so much! I habe a dutch bf and its amazing not having to wonder what he is thinking!

[@Christian_Girl120]

I believe that we should be honest, as long as it's given with tact and diplomacy. I'm German and Irish and always have been honest. But at the same time I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings either. I know all too well what it's like to be in that position. I'm myself. I am who I am. Take me or leave me.

[@gracer.channel392]

Watching this makes me think I'm the one making mistakes whenever we'll have a fight. Imagine, I'll just get angry at him and he's so clueless. He said I should tell him what's the problem.. and I'll say "why don't you figure it out urself"🤦and without knowing that he likes being Frank and have a direct convo ...haisstt

[@Pulmonary.Tuberculosis]

Same! Sometimes I couldn't take it anymore and just burst out mad at him because I think he's so cold to me (rarely messages me) and then everytime i do that he's just "why didn't you tell me that sooner" and im like- 👁️👄👁️

[@eggshells652]

good comments about the getting to know people, skip the small talk

[@cristinenaparato1043]

I find it funny. I have this Dutch guy, we're talking about 2 years now online, not meeting yet cause of the distance. Months of talking, and I confessed to him that I like him, hahahaha, but he never directly says that he likes me too, he just said " I will not be here talking to you if I'm not (into you)". Hahahaha. So, I don't know, not really direct, I guess.

[@luanaaraujo9869]

Perfect place for a sagittarius, such as myself.

[@dinatouz4055]

Well! I am in doubt and still confused! I've met a Dutch man online and yes he don't text much and I would be the one waiting for his replies and when on a call he sound more like an African guy speaking English 😂 and I ask him to have a video call with me but he gave reason saying he installed an app that didn't allow a video call and that's for his security purposes! I can't believe that crap but somewhere I believe him.. idk what to do! 🙄

[@mayancksingh6037]

Hi Deniz, i have been feelin some tension between a guy at work and me for some months now ... a lot of eye contact and all;) ... 3 weeks ago, when i was on my way to the bushalte from work, he was on his bike, saw me, got off, gave me company until the busstop and we ofcourse chatted. He as also complimented me for how easy i am to understand after a presentation i gave at work. But everytin aside, the fact that he gave my company, chatted AND GOT OFF HIS BIKE is sending me very strong signals. Wat do you have to say? He lives in Kampen, a religiously conservative area of NL but i am curious to ear wat yu have to say! P.S. I dont know if he is gay/bi/curious etc.

[@lisagonzales8705]

You are adorable. We would get along and I just might be more Dutch than American. Lol. I can handle your ways. I am currently in love with a Dutch guy. 😊

[@dimonbash]

I think I might be dutch lol...It would be interesting to date a dutch guy, seems like I have a lot in common with the culture. Though I think you can be direct without being rude, also I believe the saying...If you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all.

[@jonasjaagur9635]

I think we could still stay direct, but not completely blunt. We should use more tact.

[@titaniadyer7365]

Keeping it real 🙌🏼

[@TheSonjeongwoo]

06:50 Wait Is he a Gay?

[@aimzexposure983]

My boyfriend is a dutch and I'm from🇵🇭

[@richieviador3304]

and how is he? he could be nice with you,

[@greentea-dg7ht]

What it means, when a dutch guy want to visit you in your country​even though he already has a girlfriend. But he wants to come visit to tell you face to face that he has a girlfriend?? Wot?? Very thoughtful of him 😂

[@betaniamontilha4300]

That's funny, cuz as a Brazilian I can say that we are literally the opposite hahaha You will never find a Brazilian that tells you a "NO" or a negative feedback directly. We tend to use euphemism soo much in order to not hurt the other person's feelings. So instead of saying 'oh, i didnt like the food' we would say 'oh, it was nice, but it isn't my type of food, actually" hahah so yeah, we tend to stray the path instead of speaking frankly. OHH and we flirt a fucking lot, like all the time LMAO Despite all the differences, I can totally see the reasons why the "ducth way' might be more efficient and save time, nerves, heartbreaks, misunderstandings and lots more lol loved it

[@biseylerbiseyler5807]

Çok güzel ve akıcı konuşuyorsunnn!!

[@Pocketdaemon]

My boyfriend is Dutch and he es a damn skyscraper (182cm I think) while my German-ass is down here at 165cm lmfao. I love my gentle giant tho, lovely person

[@jshysh6294]

We German do the same :)

[@DenizF]

Yeah we’re quite similar with the Germans. Although I find Germans more “hard”. Ironic to say as a Dutch lol. 😂😂

[@jshysh6294]

Deniz F. Hahaha Aynen Haklisin , I would agree with you 👍🏻I dated a Dutch guy once and you could tell the differences. Erkek arkadasinla okadar tatlisiniz ki 😉Wish you two all the happinnes on earth 💕-Yigit

[@allysoobratty7565]

I remember when I was in Amsterdam in the red light district,dammm they are very BLOND!!!

[@adrianaadnan7704]

Perfect. No bullshit.Where is this Dutch men market?🤔🙄

[@jonasjaagur9635]

In the Netherlands XD

[@denisedeak60]

I don’t know exactly know how I ended up on this videos, but I think I need to go and date a Dutch man.