Being a Husband Is Unfair. Period. | Dear Future Wifey S5, E513

The etymology of husband is powerfully defined as “householder”. Taking on the mandate of “husband” is willfully being enlisted into the service of servitude. David Burruss, a husband of 19 years, shares what he’s gleaned in his journey in an episode titled, “Defining a Husband.”
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[@acampbell3795]

I’m a habitual cheater. through out my marriage I’ve been hoping that I would get a sense of fairness and admiration. I’m a broken man that didn’t really understand the role of a husband. This episode has blessed me, I now see the flaws in my ways and will seek therapy. Thank you !

[@nenenikole]

I’m so happy for you!

[@mintchocolatekeyz4055]

God bless you!

[@collegegrad2235]

I'm so thankful for you. We all have made mistakes and can learn from you on how to confess. Bible says if we confess our sins and repent (turn away from them) he will forgive us. God bless you!!

[@jamieedwards9352]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@goldenlifelove7251]

That's awesome! However, why get married if u know you're not going to be faithful?

[@briquelleg54]

He came out the gate swinging and didn’t take his foot off the gas the entire interview. This was TOO GOOD!

[@SetapartMinistry142]

Soooooo Good!!❤🙌🏽

[@simplyjudy8229]

Yes He did

[@chryslindaniels7671]

Facts!!!

[@charlenethompson5120]

@@simplyjudy8229 yes 🙌🏾 loved every word

[@simplyjudy8229]

@@charlenethompson5120 me to. I’ve been sharing it with my husband and all my brothers

[@collegegrad2235]

I get married in seven days. I stumbled upon this video yesterday. And I listen to it the second time today. I’m so thankful to God that he has my back to send the two of you to create this podcast to cover me right before I step in to marriage. Now I feel like a warrior because I have all the tools and weapons I need. And I know exactly what I’m getting into instead of having these false expectations. Thank you guys so much you’ve also Shown me what the ministry God has for me looks like. I’m 25 years old. And I look around me and I don’t see many black men my age that are desiring marriage or look at it as a good thing. And I wanted to change that. And you guys are showing me the ways to do so. Thank you so much

[@DearFutureWifey]

Dm me bro on IG. I want to stay connected to you

[@collegegrad2235]

@@DearFutureWifey Yes sir. And thank you.

[@SAVAGEoLIFE]

How has your experience been so far?

[@collegegrad2235]

@@SAVAGEoLIFE it’s been exactly what I asked God for. I prayed for a woman to love me my God. What I didn’t realize is that Jesus loves us even when we don’t deserve it. She’s giving me love that I don’t deserve and I’ve given her love that I don’t deserve. But that’s because outside of Christ we don’t deserve anything. However inside Christ we inherit the kingdom of God. so we both trying to stay in Christ as much as possible. We encourage each other to stay connected with God is a true prayer worship. We pray together every morning as much as we can. This is helped us a lot not keep grudges or stay angry or upset at each other. But more importantly it’s helped us love Each other way beyond we could even imagine. We don’t serve each other based on our own merits hey Siri which other night each other based on the love we have for God. It’s So Good.

[@SAVAGEoLIFE]

@Collegegrad 22 thats dope to hear man. Im praying your marriage continues to be rooted in Christ as you guys grow together. Ive been married for going on 10 years and i will say this video changed my perspective a lot. I often found myself doing more for my wife then i got in return and at times it caused some resentment because it is "unfair" and after years you begin to feel a certain type of way but this video has been a game changer to how i look at it now. I wish i would found something like this early on in my marriage woulda saved me a lot of headache lol. Props to you for doing the good things early man. Your wife is lucky to have you!

[@chrissyECee]

I wish more single men watched husbands and men in fellowship. There are too many broken men being mentored by other broken men. I love your podcast.

[@misstee922]

This episode should be part of EVERY premarital counseling session!!! 🤗

[@Thobi92]

God help me! My future husband should watch this! At least 20 times😭. I'm going to watch it at least 20x as well.

[@shellyshantel1]

I will definitely be a part of mines!

[@teresanunn3793]

Peridott

[@yolandorobinson8110]

Agreed!!!!!

[@LuxSquareLlc]

Huge facts!

[@ianthasinsight]

LATERRAS! We MUST hear from his wife! We HAVE TO hear the other side of this. He learned “the secret” by keeping the main thing, the main thing. He cracked open the Word and applied what the MARRIAGE MANUFACTURER provided for all of us to win in marriage. We HAVE TO hear how his application is blessing his wife. We want to hear from her how she now responds versus how she used to respond. Listeners WILL benefit from seeing both sides of this coin. No doubt.

[@MichaelJohnson-yu3vo]

I am so thankful that you posted your comments. I love this brother's message and agree with the word of God about a husband serving and loving in his marriage as Christ loved the church. However, I'm concerned about how such a message speaks to a wife's personal relationship with Jesus. My hope is that a wife or wife to be, knows that her "response" to God in her relationship with Him is not dictated by her husband's relationship, or lack thereof, with Jesus. Thank you for sharing. I started reading the comments in search of exactly what you expressed. Be free!

[@LoveiDora]

Seconded! By all means we need his wife’s perspective, Laterras make it happen! This was super wholesome to the touch/ear!

[@feliciajohnson140]

Yes indeed!! We need to hear his wife’s insight to bring this all together.

[@evahtakawira9607]

Am sure we'll hear from her when she comes.

[@jasminjohnson2088]

Yes! Hearing from her will help us. He is Becoming and I want to know how she endured it all.

[@josephross3926]

As a “ Then Married Man” and a “Now Single Man” desiring Marriage again… this episode has blessed me tremendously. I Celebrate and Appreciate this episode so much. 😭😭😭 WOW!

[@RichCousin]

Don't do it again.

[@josephross3926]

@@RichCousin are you telling me not to get married again?

[@RichCousin]

@Joseph Ross you know these girls out here ain't no good. I just don't think it's worth it. But i was just commenting. Don't mind me. Do you pimp.

[@josephross3926]

@@RichCousin I completely agree with you, there are some, well most that are no good🤦🏿‍♂️👍

[@RichCousin]

@Joseph Ross wish you the best though. Especially as a black man.

[@kemi_oj0]

“We didn’t marry fans , we married forever and we wanted forever to act like a fan” WOOOW & then his explanation of the difference of the forever & fan code 🥵. This is probably one of my favourite episodes 🙌🏾✨

[@crissy7able]

Same.

[@Raray200]

Maybe its me, but I think he needs a Fan! He doesn't see it, but he wants her to Affirm him. I'm thinking, just say it to her. That is your love language.

[@kwilliams3770]

This is probably the most impactful relationship advice I have heard my entire adult life. This was literally a masterclass

[@MrsMovieLuvr]

As a woman and a wife this is the most insight that I have ever heard of about men and husbands, and Godly men in general. Thank you for this.

[@DrELewis2014]

Absolutely!

[@jadat4944]

I TOTALLY AGREE

[@GreeneyedAmbition]

I agree wholeheartedly

[@melodaley1966]

MASTERPIECE CLASS. This was one of the absolute relevant, best, down to earth, mature advice, discussion I have ever heard & witnessed. Outstanding gentlemen!!

[@ubaok24]

I'm in a relationship. My girlfriend been saying I've been taking her for granted and been unsure if I'm the provider and protector she's looking for. I've had these struggles but after watching this episode I'm going to do what's needed to be the man she needs.

[@shelbylong2022]

You understand it now...

[@od1076]

I wish you all the best. I pray you both have a fulfilling relationship

[@MaiyaJade]

This is so beautiful to read! WOW that’s right brother🙏🏿

[@lifewithnatu]

There you go👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@kimberlybowden2340]

Hi, this is the first time hearing or seeing your podcast. It was beautiful, informative and heartfelt ❤️. I write this comment with tears rolling down my face because it touched my heart to know there are men that understand their assignments. So, continue to walk in your purpose. Yes, it was for the man/husband but it was also for the woman/wife. We both man/woman have to hear, listen and respond to one another needs, wants and desires. The most important part of our journey here on earth is to grow, serve and fulfill our God given purpose so keep up the good work. I'm inspired ✨️ 😊 I most definitely will be praying for you and your journey 🙏 ❤️

[@patria4724]

This man was not playing. He dropped so many gems. Please bring him back

[@antonio42695]

Update..after having all my pride checked after listening to this....I listened to this and his other teachings multiple times. I encountered the Lord deeper because of this and my wife has felt the impact.. this is is required for all husband and people thinking about getting married

[@officialdavidburrus7425]

I am so proud of you, king. Keep doing the work, and watch the work start working!!!!!

[@KweenKiara]

Respect, sir! Keep growing, keep going! God bless your union🙏🏽

[@StephenL128]

AMEN Brother, continued Blessings on top of Blessings to you and your household!

[@ruthbright4449]

Our of him house band hold it together! Wowwww

[@coritaburks758]

I'm a woman and I'm having to stop this podcast every 3 mins to catch my breath bc of the WEIGHT coming from this truth! GOODNESS!! So GRATEFUL for this episode! 🙌🏽❤

[@stephaniewhitby3894]

Facts 💯

[@loveangelgray]

me toooooo

[@lolitamcneal5812]

YESSS!!

[@MrsRildaReads]

Same!

[@gck_replayzz1029]

EXACTLYYYYYY!!!

[@simpletechreview3632]

MY GOD MY GOD!!!!! As a 17yr husband y’all helping me today!!!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 I’m at work and I almost took off running several times!!!!

[@beesknees213]

Run son!!

[@monicabrownhayes]

Run on, King!

[@simpletechreview3632]

@@beesknees213 🏃🏾‍♂️🏃🏾‍♂️🏃🏾‍♂️💨

[@Vickytoria33]

Hercules Hercules Hercules!!!!

[@prettycaramel9237]

Good to see men watching and learning. Many blessings to you and your wife. May the future seasons of your marriage be the BEST seasons of your marriage.

[@Lauralyn_Lauraa]

I’m only 22 minutes in and I’ve learned more than anyone could have taught me about men/husbands in my 3 years of marriage. Lord!!!

[@CHOSENWOMAN777]

Im looking at this way differently now. My mind is BLOWN.

[@SuperPalesa]

"If you are making it about you, why should she feel safe with you". That's all I needed to hear. 💯

[@DrParisnicolePayton]

Love the fact he did not use his circumstance or being without a father to define being reckless as a man. He stated that he had great examples outside the home; therefore, there is no excuse. ❤It‼

[@achievewithdrcee9248]

THIS! I am waiting on men to mature past the sob story no father and learn you step into and define the man you want to be for yourself!

[@bunkeepitmovingjoseph]

Real Talk, and ALL credit due to his MAMA, cause THIS is how you raise your Male offspring as a SINGLE MUM....(and I have 4), and this is what I've been doing...and the fruits of the spirit that ooze out of my boys (even strangers) compliment me for how I've raised them, and I give all glory to God, cause its ALL THE LORDS doing. IT IS POSSIBLE LADIES.

[@larabraver]

This is encouraging for us single mamas 💜🤲🏼

[@trevintaylorthe6_7veganttucke]

The Bible teaches us Servitude from the very beginning and it is so OVERLOOKED at the lessons given. Great job breaking in down brotha

[@tiffanysilvera6691]

“Sacrifice doesn’t have to be seen, to be felt” SO TRUEE! I didn’t have to see Christ get crucified in order to feel his love for me! THIS MAN IS CLEARLY SPIRIT LED!

[@melissaann2866]

"You not gonna out counsel me" "You not gonna out fix yourself me" had me ROLLING 🤣 this entire episode isn't full of gems, it's the while darn diamond mine

[@nevergoin28]

I was cracking up too 😂

[@tammyikama-obambi7641]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@MELissaHerbee]

Literally spit the water in my mouth out 😆

[@ArtLee68]

Latteras, you did it again. Another great episode! This is a ministry that The Kingdom needs. The red pill community doesn’t want to take responsibility for their own short comings. Every man needs a personal mirror that no one else looks in but them. We seem to be blind and not see ourselves. Your ministry helps me to see me. Again, thank you Sir

[@jeshurunhazelton7789]

There may be some red pill men or men in general that are like that but it doesn't matter or is an issue since society n the law force men to be accountable for there actions they get worse sentences for the same crime or even smaller crimes than women the mgtow movement stands for men going there own way men aren't treated like human beings in the west n marriage is extremely risky n divorce can lead a guy to suicide he has no rights in a divorce n he can lose literally everything n be forced into financial slavery forced to work to pay for his exes lifestyle give her child support that she can use for her own luxuries he can lose his kids house car dog n everything

[@organist055]

Im going try this for 30 days. Im married and I haven’t been at my best at all times. My wife and i have come from traumatic experiences and we both have not had good parental leadership. Yet i want us to grow and heal and have a healthy marriage. I would love to stay in touch with you personally. Thank you my brother for helping us brothers level up in our lives. God bless you and your family.

[@Kofimagne]

Update?

[@carolloylamunu1344]

Hey, I hope you tried it out and it helped your marriage 😊😊

[@christinecharles3097]

'When I find out what a husband is then who she is will appear'. Oh my God have mercy upon the generations of men that don't have this revelation... Thank you so much for serving the Lord to restore what devil tried to steal, kill, and destroy. Thank you for letting Jesus use you to bring to life the abundance part he gave on the cross. 'Unto death, means everyday there is an aspect of me that has die to be with you' this statement got me to 😢. Please allow this anointing to reach many. More prayers for.

[@sealinalashelle5126]

I needed to hear this. This explains why a wife is a help mate and why submission is critical in the hierarchy of marriage. The burden a husband has to take care of his household. It's rough. He doesn't need contention on top of that. As a woman it helps me to understand what I need to see in a man's character to feel comfortable submitting/trusting his leadership. I gleaned so much from this.

[@michelelindo47]

Scripture says we are to be submitted one to another. If your man is behaving as described in this episode, he is in fact being submitted. His woman will quite naturally find submitting easy; safety allows this.

[@Raray200]

Yes, but he also has to serve you. His stance is service. You both serve each other. He also should value your insight. Most men marry women who are much smarter than them.

[@sealinalashelle5126]

@@Raray200 This is so true. Servant leadership.

[@sealinalashelle5126]

@Michele Lindo All women don't submit. You have to have the heart posture and relationship with God to accept this. A man can provide safety and his wife still may not submit. This is not natural if you've never seen it in action or believe it's relevance.

[@bereajohnson8906]

@sealinalashelle5126 most do.. not all but most women will play the role of teammate if her husband has an heir of servitude... husband is to submit to Christ 1st.. before expecting a woman to follow... from a Christian viewpoint

[@needa5000]

I need to send this man an offering! He just taught a whole Master Class.

[@rogerduclos5331]

Brothers! Thank you so much. I've been married 37 years and really thank God for my wife. This conversation you guys just share with me is priceless, it is God breathed. Humility, meekness, compassion, honesty and most importantly the fear of God, reverence to God and die to self daily like Jesus did for us

[@liv4u109]

Word!!!!

[@kevino3881]

Just subscribe and share this video

[@annegichanga4000]

"Sacrifice does not have to be seen to be felt". Beautiful Lessons Learnt.

[@karentjackson86]

He walked towards his wife in her time of tears......my God. This has me crying. 😭😭

[@officialdavidburrus7425]

It made the difference.

[@brittanyfigaro]

As a single woman, I needed to hear this perspective to continue honoring my standards. It's tough at times because you can't help but to see other people relationships, but mine will come. Another great episode, as always.

[@nursegaines3519]

Don't rush. Trust God

[@m.amberspivey3472]

In Jesus name

[@ajbeezy]

Agree sis. This is great for the single woman to hear so that we will know how to recognize it when we see it.

[@danawright8306]

Yes. Having standards and knowing what you deserve is tough, yet I'm believing in God for my husband.

[@-uniqueamari]

Amen

[@abaxter0326]

This is awesome! For centuries churches and many Christian influencers have only targeted women and “ how to be a wife/ found” but nothing for men and their role. 😊

[@edenise07]

So true Ashley!

[@LisaRoseTMBMakeup]

Amen

[@LisaRoseTMBMakeup]

@Neo Anderson Don’t generalize for one gender. Some men still don’t know how to be husbands. The point is, we now have more testimonies from different perspectives that can bless men and women and help marriages last!!! Be solution focused and not problem focused!

[@SewSoUnique]

True

[@MsKISS6]

🎯

[@rashadhayden8457]

"When I find out who I am, who I am will come out of me, not to me." This is the gem of this podcast. It set the tone for the entire podcast. The Most High is doing great things through this content!

[@Nitra813]

Man he said that fresh out the gate! I was not ready for that blow 😅 beautifully said.

[@breeNikki42]

This piece on him feeling her is ACCURATE! This is why my husband is my safe space. He feels me. He knows me better than I know myself sometimes!

[@timbawangu3038]

"While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us" that hit! And it goes both ways, it's a take away for me👏👏

[@antonio42695]

Yes that hit me too

[@nakenyiasheree]

Sacrifice doesn’t have to be seen to be felt !!! This was one of my favorite episodes!!!!

[@officialdavidburrus7425]

: )

[@chryslindaniels7671]

@@officialdavidburrus7425 sir you dropped so many 💎 in this interview. Thank you.

[@officialdavidburrus7425]

@@chryslindaniels7671 🙏🏾👑👑🙏🏾

[@brownshugakale2410]

​@@chryslindaniels7671 the culture needs this teaching desperately 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@takialawson705]

I watched this podcast several times. A matter of fact, I just finished watching it again. There’s so many nuggets in this interview alone that it’s impossible for me to unpack it all In just one setting. IJS! As a single Christian woman who has a genuine respect, honor, seriousness,and love for the “institution” of marriage and it’s “covenant” these podcasts are “helping” a lot in gaining understanding in all facets of the dynamics of marriage. From understanding the husband role. To the wife role. Getting therapy (if needed) Servant hood. Competing to “serve”. Effective communication. Learning and understanding intimacy. Learning to be suggestive to a man and not commanding. The list can go on and on. My goodness! This is so wholesome. I’m sitting here thinking how gracious the Lord is… That he would even allow content such as this to also help single people. Like really. It’s as though he’s allowing y’all to pour out and be Brutally transparent so if we glean we won’t have to walk through some of the hard knocks others experienced. If we would listen and apply it. My goodness! Thank y’all for not keeping y’all personal experiences to yourselves. Seriously! Trust me. MANY are listening! Many are paying attention. I guarantee you there’s more paying attention to all these podcasts that just won’t publicly or openly admit it. Just continue doing this. Keep the content coming. It’s so awesome. God Bless y’all abundantly.

[@CBrantleylmft]

I just taught this on my show a few months ago called "Are you sure you want to be a husband?" I had no idea being a husband took ALL OF THIS!!! As I was preparing to teach, I was like "they are not gonna like this. I don't like this...but it's how God designed it." Good stuff!

[@DearFutureWifey]

Exactly! Thanks for teaching the truth.

[@BetterLoveMovement]

THIS is THE episode men and husbands didn’t know they needed! Manhood is NOT fair and the word “man” equals responsibility in my mind. You are held to a HIGHER standard by God. Men and women need to “die to their flesh” as well. They desperately need EGO work. So many marriages end over this one thing. This was a powerful episode and I’m sharing it now with several of my male clients.💯🙏🏽❤️

[@jeshurunhazelton7789]

Men are only held to a higher standard in the context of being a leader so it's husband's since women aren't the leader n the one in charge so yes of course the husband is responsible cause he's in charge but nowhere in the bible does it say men are held to a higher standard in general simply cause of there gender it's in a marriage context the fact that men get way tougher sentences for the exact same crime n even smaller crimes is crazy men are treated worse than animals in the west especially america if u think women shouldn't be accountable for there actions ur a doormat western american women are entitled masculine spoilt vain superficial n selfish n the reason for that is cause men allowed it men gave them the privilege to vote even tho it was supposed to be only war draftees that had that earned privilege women can kill there baby n have all reproductive rights while men get none they can get away with false accusations with zero evidence n destroy a man they want u to believe there's a gender wage gap men allowed feminism to destroy society if men led properly women wouldn't be these childish children who take no responsibility

[@nataliarichelle4962]

ALL men groups need to have a watch party for this episode! This was EVERYTHING!! 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽❤️ There was so much value in it for me as a woman as well! God bless you both! 🙏🏽

[@LawandaBethel]

THANK YOU.🙏🏽 I’m a minister and newlywed of 6 months tomorrow. This was more beneficial than the premarital counseling class I took.

[@conniekirventhecomebackque1445]

"You're not going to out counsel me!" Hilarious and I love it! This is such a great episode!

[@WordsPictures997]

Gentlemen, thank you for refusing to allow toxic male voices to be louder than Godly men's voices. God bless you and may you both reap exceedingly more than you could have ever asked for or imagined in your lives.

[@kaywisseh]

He was dropping bombs left and right! I’m just going to pass the collection plate around and let the church say AMEN!!! And another one!! I am enjoying these episodes from a healthy married male perspective ! I’m here for it!!!

[@JiggOnline]

“Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives” (1 Peter 3:1-2)

[@babycakes5629]

Amen! well said. Some women may not agree, but I have no problem submitting to my Husband and we could both be covered because the Lord did not promise perfection in any marriage. It's too much temptation out here and easy access to sex that a lot of us are not taking the time to make things grow. Also, some are having role confusion men are acting like wives and women are acting like husbands 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@pamelaswain1551]

I love him saying taking on the mind of Christ. So much truth in that statement. God says “Lean not to your own understanding but in ALL your ways acknowledge Me”.

[@menaj2954]

I am excited to hear this man's perspective. There is a pastor by the name of RC Blake's he talks a lot about relationships. I think he would be a good person to be on your podcast Latteras - Jess

[@delightfully_doris]

I concur

[@teecee1678]

Agree! In addition I would love to see Tony Gaskins and Pastor Jerry Flowers (Redefined TV on KZbin)

[@lookupandlive365]

I agree, RC Blakes would be an excellent guest!

[@kjack3211]

Yesss 🙌 pastor RC Blake's or Tony gaskins are good ones.

[@Passion84GodAlways]

I concur with RC Blakes & Tony Gaskins! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@amywilliams8514]

Bring him back!!! This was awesome for me. Even though this is about the unfairness for men but as woman it makes understand the inside of a man more. I like how he broke everything down. I wish him and his wife more great days. I love how he understands his wife and his wife understands him. This touch me. I love when women do this but when a man can talk like this then men can have that submissive woman that he wants.

[@shaterahsawyer1887]

Yes!! Bring him back Lord some of us women needed this too!

[@Raray200]

Yes, bring him back. I loved his perspective on his role as a husband. He was good... But I did identify that he is not communicating with his wife for the love he needs. In some ways he is sacrificing himself where he doesn't have to. He actually wants to be celebrated. He didn't respond to what his love language was, he just wanted to be left alone. It is quite clear, his love language is words of affirmation. He has to let her know what he needs as well. I think impact is better than effort. Ask her what she needs the most, and deliver. Doing things 10x harder with little impact is not a good use of energy.

[@WellnessForMoms]

Hallelujahhhh!!! 🙌🏾🎉❤

[@KelechiBenny]

Yesterday I heard in my spirit, out of the blues, that we’re called to serve because we’re deposited with something to give, and today this? God talking!🙇🏽‍♂️

[@salomewilliams1831]

Mr.Whitfield, your guest is an amazing MOG. I would like to see him counseling a young man getting ready to marry live on your show. This is so needed.

[@WordsPictures997]

Laterras, I love how you steer the conversation for clarity. You're doing such a great job Sir! Thank you! "Don't walk out, walk towards her" 😭😭😭 That changes EVERYTHING!!! "She can feel when you can feel .. " 😭😭😭 THIS!!!

[@ChipDizard]

This was excellent! My Coach David laid it down. When I heard this term "unfair" I didn't like it at first but the more I "leaned in " and I see we must sacrifice for our mates. Thanks for this podcast and for all you do for men, it doesn't go unnoticed. My future wife thanks both of you!

[@amandachristine9286]

My man doesn’t embrace me when I’m upset or having a tantrum about something after I’ve finally ran out of options and talked and talked and talked. He meets me with cursing and saying I’m ridiculous and childish and just rips me to shreds. It kills me. I’ve tried so many times in so many different ways to help him learn and grow but it’s like he just isn’t receptive. He has no empathy. This podcast had me in tears.

[@Peace-ow3vr]

❤

[@karadiberlino]

Walk away…

[@jazzye_92]

If you're not married you definitely need to leave. If you are married I recommend counseling, even if you start off going solo. You don't need to stay in a situation that's literally destroying you. God loves you too much and that is far from His plan for you.

[@frederickweeks4962]

You BOTH have a problem.....HIM, He's either experienced (seen) this type behavior before or He's never had a father(present or absent) around to see set the instructional standard or even MODEL it for him to see....Ephesians 5 for him. As far as you are concerned.......you MUST learn your man's heart.....you WON'T win him with your mouth,BUT you can by your CONDUCT......1 Peter 3......for you ma'am.....by the way, if you're NOT married I suggest you BOTH work on your conduct INDIVIDUALLY BEFORE YOU MARRY.......If that's what you decide to do.........hope this helps you.

[@judith018]

Im ignored when I cry as well. I feel unloved.

[@wearhiheels]

I’m a woman and I was in awe as well as educated. I can’t even imagine how this will help a man. Awesome!

[@888hereandnow]

In my opinion as a woman a woman's natural response to a husband's sacrificial love is gratefulness , respect and adoration.

[@sheswhoiam]

"Fans are only here for victories, Forevers' are here for defeats and when there are no trophies forevers say level up" -David Burruss

[@siricaben7]

I cant believe how much Manna is being fed to us through this podcast i mean i froze and had rewind to make sure i wasn't trippin my soul just leveled up. Feathers lets go!!

[@SetapartMinistry142]

This man said I had to love her first for her to love me back. Then backed it up with scripture. My God!

[@hisname2009]

This episode spoke life into me! Despite the fact I filed for divorce and have being dragged in court for two years now, I am seriously having a rethink! And trying to fix the issues in my marriage… The Holy Spirit has been dealing with me with the same biblical examples shared on this episode. Our God throughly speak in a mysterious ways.

[@SimplyKea]

Just prayed for you 🙌🏾

[@szzonen]

Turn it around. Do it!! Another relationship is waiting on your success for it to survive

[@woolridge2498]

It was a reason why it dragged for 2 yrs this podcast is not by mistake that u watched.. God can restore and mk new, the marriage u had that had to die now u two can start A new Union!!!!!

[@IAmMonicaDenise]

This is a refreshing conversation! I’m excited to see men that are teaching other men how to be accountable and responsible as husbands and Ephesians 5 men. As women and wives we should definitely love, honor and celebrate the men in our lives. Letting them know they are loved and appreciated! ❤️🙏🏾 Thank you Kings for blessing us with this insight & amazing conversation, and keeping it L.I.T. 🔥🔥🔥

[@quisams6205]

This is awesome!! All I have been hearing is how women should treat men , but this right here is the truth needed. Am sharing this with my husband right now!!

[@kae6250]

The "Fans vs Forever" is what I knew in my heart but could not explain it verbally. David made complete sense!!! A LOT of people do not understand that in a relationship.

[@frankieharrison356]

Latarius we need an episode 2 with him and his wife because he is brilliant brilliant and I also love when he says she covers me in public and corrects me in private preach 👃👃👃🔥🔥

[@Mrg524]

Thanks for the podcast!! I watch it on repeat! Some guests I’d love to see: - RC and Lisa Blakes - Beleaf in Fatherhood (Glen and Yvette) - Redefined TV (Jerry and Tanisha Flowers) God Bless 😍🙌🏾

[@devinnicole4733]

I second Glen and Yvette!

[@inspowithro]

I definitely second Redefined TV (Pastor Jerry and First Lady Tanisha Flowers) Yassssss!!! Nuggets dropping EVERYWHERE!! It'll definitely be a gold mine when they are done...lol.

[@hopefulfilled9519]

YES YES YES I WATCH THEM ALL

[@hopefulfilled9519]

YES YES YES I WATCH THEM ALL

[@slimgrande4666]

Yes for Jerry and Tanisha Flowers !!!

[@user-kp2nz9dp2f]

I from the Bay, and I so glad to see that you have a guest from. My region. It shows how open you are to differentiates and points of view, because the axis different from anywhere else in the world. Richmond, CA was developed from migrants from the South who came to build better lives for their families, byworking on the railroads and at the shipyard. Therefore, the men were raised with morals and values, including taking glare of the home by anymeans necesary. This guestis so wise and humble a d real. This is one of my top 5 episodes of all 6 seasons. Please have this man back again, maybe with his wife. Thank you Kings!

[@itsmeBMACK]

I listened and absorbed everything, but what was the loudest to me was, as a woman, if I just go ahead and start then my partner will follow because of my example. I have stressed myself out hoping for certain results, but maybe I should just start taking steps then he will eventually take over from there. Needed this!

[@shanasmith1]

All my life my adult life I have craved to have a front row seat with men being open, vulnerable. To see how both of your wisdom empowered each other was a blessings to men soul. Y'all men make me feel so safe, protected and well taking care of as a woman. The fact that y'all cared enough for me to have this conversation being so open and honest... giving me a birds eye view on what men really deal with within themselves and how you feel. Thank y'all so much. It was a great pleasure to watch y'all have this conversation. out loud.

[@Leoluv813]

Yaaasss Shana! Ditto!!!🙌🏾👏🏾

[@shanasmith1]

@@Leoluv813 thank you

[@janellamurphy5665]

This is the first time watching this video!! Thank you gentlemen for being so honest about the mechanics of how marriages work concerning men!! Excellent job Kings🔥🦁🐑👑👑.. I WILL DEFINITELY SHARE THIS WITH MY MARRIED & SINGLE FRIENDS😀😀

[@janellamurphy5665]

In total agreement🙌🏿👐🏿🙌🏿👍🏾

[@JIJII420]

I think I just found my wedding VOWS in an hour video. "when she's at her worse, that's when I should die to myself more ".

[@kaishaeniwumide]

Indeed

[@bensouki3278]

Agreed

[@derekahtrim8758]

For years I had been praying and asking God to show me how to be a wife, how to be successful in marriage. I had been praying for something that would help me grow and to show me whether to let this marriage go or to pray for guidance on restoration. And last week, my mom sent me the Sexpectations episode and I’ve been binge watching every since. I thank you sir for being obedient, being transparent and sharing with us. It has helped me tremendously! I told my 20 year old son and my 16 year old daughter to start watching. I want them to know that the mess my husband and I have been in the last few years is preventable and is not normal. I’m so grateful for this episode in particular. It gave me do much revelation. Please keep doing what you’re doing. It has just been amazing.

[@larabraver]

Great job in sharing with your young children and having an open conversation with them. May God hold you all close.

[@hollyking9931]

Sooooo good!!! So important for women to hear this from a man’s perspective!!! As a woman who is also on a healing journey, this is so nourishing!! ❤

[@sabrinaclark4196]

"You can't love outside of emotion." "He's going to kill himself and her!" So true for that past episode. There's so much more to it.

[@cynthiak.jackson6843]

OMG!!!!! I am standing through the entire podcast!! I love it!! this should have been around before I divorced my husband of 22 years. I have been saying this a longgggggggggggggggg time. I am not a Fan, I am your Wife! This podcast is helping me!!

[@rainhope769]

@@crystalwitter761 Try prayer before divorcing I know marriage is not easy believe me I know I'm married but pray give it all to God. This podcast was amazing. When u get a chance look up pastor Gino Jennings here on KZbin. He have several videos on marriage they may also help u. Turn down your plate an do a fast for your issues in your marriage. I don't know you but if you need me I'm here for you.

[@optimalscore]

@@rainhope769 Appreciate your message, it resonates with me. But it's a challenge for real! I am in the same boat...17yrs here. The thing is he's not a man of faith he doesn't want to compromise with anything having to hold him accountable, like not talking to other females about our relationship. There's been infidelity on his part, porn is a problem, noone to hold him accountable, no mentor. Thinks he knows everything, won't be vulnerable for anything. Meanwhile I've been giving so much of myself from the beginning of the marriage.to my own detriment. Cried & prayed to God. I'm tired 😫

[@rainhope769]

@@optimalscore This is rain dont give up i know u may be tired but fight thru it. I wish I can talk to u more in depth. If u don't mind send me ur email an I will give u my number thru the email

[@janicerichards8959]

@@optimalscore I am sorry for what you are going through. Hope things will change for you🙏🙏🙏. I was married as well it was a horrible situation. I just had to leave, some men don't and will never change. I did the praying and crying I was the only one who wanted the marriage to work. If I stayed 1 more day I would have gone crazy. We were both Christians and had position in church. The day I left was the happiest day of my life. Still enjoying my single life over 20+yrs. Kids are grown and doing great. God is good hope he will come through for you.❤️❤️

[@ahamed6702]

@@optimalscore Christian or not they do the same things. It is quite unfortunate.

[@hollyhickman9952]

As I watched this "strait-laced" centered man speak, and the reactions from you, the host, I was enamored and intrigued. But, when I saw the dynamic shift from an interview to mutual edifying, and supporting dialogue, this episode became all the more Enriching to the point that I had to look up Mr. Buruss. Too many gems and nuggets of wisdom from both sides of the mic "dropped" and dissected to name just one. THIS is a MUST SEE for anyone within the confines of the institution of marriage, those thinking about it, and for those whose knowledge of self and others needs to expand before thinking about marriage! Bravo and Salut!!!!

[@SabreenMutawally]

I had to share this with everyone I knew. This episode was 🔥. The level of wisdom imparted...🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@lynn2thecore]

"You have to feel emotion not live out of it". Gold absolute Gold. This was so amazing

[@Iamblessed-ob3cn]

When he said, "you got to feel emotion NOT live out of it," Wow!!! It's so refreshing to hear a healed man speaks! I'm waiting on the Lord because I can't receive anything less than that type of man in my life! Period. Grrreat podcast!!!🙌🏾

[@marciastephenson600]

This needs to be listened to again and again. So much insight, wish all men could understand this. God bless you both.

[@vershaletyus7509]

Oh My God! Oh My God! This episode is my entire 35 years of marriage, which I have recently filed for dissolution of marriage! I met my husband at 17 years old, got married at 20 years old, and for the past 35 years, i’ve been trying to work this marriage until exhaustion, mentally, physically, intellectually and any other ally you can think of!! I was truly watching this episode on the edge of my seat, saying NOW THIS IS WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT! I wish my husband and I could have come on a situation like this, but I know my husband would have never been LIT about our marriage and the demise of it, I know I would have put the good the bad and the ugly out there, but at this point I’m just focused on the process of trying to heal 37 years of pain, But I am looking forward to new beginnings!!🙏🏾

[@carlettamack5041]

God bless you in your healing and enlightenment process.

[@debwilli2031]

I am in a similar situation with an exhausting marriage of over 30 years. Is it that we each see this marriage as a burden on us instead of a loving relationship that we have to have empathy of each other's feelings and thoughts.

[@jessicamusila5526]

"You need to feel emotion but don't live out of it!" Deep. Much needed lesson.

[@jess_is]

Laterras, You done did it again, brother. This is by far probably thee BEST episode I have seen so far (outside of Essence Atkins). If you haven't already, can you please get a wife on here to talk about what a wife is? I gotta save this episode in my Playlist so I can send it to some men and make them mad. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Rashaadthegr8]

Call me. I want to talk to you real quick. A spouse/friend is forgiving, understanding, doesn't make assumptions, and gives second chances. Most people don't know how to do that these days.

[@jess_is]

@@Rashaadthegr8 your number is blocked and deleted. You need way too many "second" chances.

[@Rashaadthegr8]

@@jess_is When next time you be in the gym?

[@Rashaadthegr8]

@@jess_is No. I just need a real chance in real life and one date and we can go from there. Texting is not a chance. Texting always leads to miscommunication sooner than later. You misunderstood my text messages. Can we just meet at cheescake fater at 8:30 PM?

[@Rashaadthegr8]

@@jess_is When u going to the gym again?

[@aliciamartin5501]

I'm just lost for words with this podcast!! My husband and I are a skip and hop away from divorce. We decided a few days ago to try to work on it for the 10th time feel like🤦😖😟.I felt like even in the second day in its all the same with him and I'm just invisible to him. I prayed and told God I couldn't afford to lose me again trying to save him when he doesn't even see me or know who I am. I was crying and I told God I don't know if I have anymore fight in me to try to save this marriage when I'm fighting alone. I had started watching one of Laterrius podcast and the wife said that she watched this podcast with David Burrus while at the time about to divorce her husband and she sent the podcast to her husband. He watched it and was changed. He thanked David on the podcast. So I found this podcast and sent it to my husband a hour ago. I know its all God because it just popped up on my time line and i was led here! 🙌❤️🙏To Be Continued.....

[@mamak4585]

Did he watch it and did it change anything within the marriage?

[@izion515]

Hi Sis. I actually stumbled on the podcast of the couple that credited David Burruss for thier reconciliation...and that brought me to this particular podcast. How are things going with yours?

[@aliciamartin5501]

@@mamak4585 no he didn't watch it but things are getting better slowly but surely. A lot to still work on with the both of us but keeping God first and trusting Him even when things aren't looking right really has been a tremendous help and gives me peace. Thanks for asking love 💕.

[@aliciamartin5501]

@@izion515 Things are getting better. I just try to take one day at a time and what is out my control I try my best to give it to God instead of leaning to my own understanding. We communicate a lot more. My nephew was in a bad car wreck and he was driving my husband car so that has seem to brought us closer. Still praying and trusting God but also doing the work on myself. What my husband lack I pray for him. I try not to nag him about now and he is trying more. Thanks for asking Sweetie 💞.

[@gabbymiller9107]

Same here .lets see ❤

[@mariaberry8611]

I love how he Mr. Burruss says ‘I hear you saying’. Great episode.

[@andreahannah574]

Is there a button for "Put on Repeat"? 💖💞I was heading to work standing on the busy street of NYC and I was either laughing or crying. THANK YOU BOTH! I never experienced the covering of a man...not from my father and not from my ex husband. This can bless both, men and women. And we have to understand that without surrendering to Christ we cant do marriage right. There is a reason the bible constantly talks about the relationship between Christ and the church as a marriage...because marriage is way more spiritual than physical. This truth does not change just because someone is not a Christian.

[@dianebragg2302]

Yes!

[@MrsRildaReads]

Talk about it! Yes. Jesus meant what He said, "without Me you can do nothing."

[@1SweetQ]

Ok. Can we get a version of this for wives? This was so rich for men and for women to listen to, I'm curious as to what's the wife's role to a man who is living in this way? Or the wife's role period.

[@mitchella5954]

That's 19 years of experience in truth. When he said "You not gonna out fix yourself me!" That slayed me. I agree this should definitely be covered in all premarital counseling. Another gem of an episode Bro!

[@angelachilds784]

This MAN is blowing me away!! He has brought several "new" perspectives in areas I've given sincere thought to! As a woman I'm highly encouraged with such divine clarity from God's Word and through Your servant! ❤

[@thegraybeardofwisdom4009]

This is POWERFUL. I just had this same conversation. I hope men and women heard this with their hearts.

[@maryhood2967]

“Giving birth to an offspring of stupidities.” LOL that is absolutely hilariously and incredible true!!!!!!!

[@msjones71st]

I was literally screaming “this is FREE GAME” this entire interview! 😂 I am sending this to everyone I know!

[@b-free7086]

I’m here following your last podcast with the Griers!🔥🔥🔥had to see context!!!whooo

[@EOOgunro]

Honestly, this is all godly women want. A man who is submitted to the Lord and understands the relationship between Christ and the church. All the other things, like money and material things are good, but truly don't really matter. We just want a man who loves God and strives to make us feel safe in a relationship. You'll get the most loving, serving wife when you lead her and create a space where she can be herself and not feel judged.

[@janicetaylor1272]

The fact that my future husband would die to himself i would pray daily. Lord teach me how to love him. God will make you an excellent wife 🙏

[@GHOST_2EDITSPR0DS]

Amen

[@righteousmasculine]

This is so true

[@kanyin442]

Amen and amen. I dont care about the money, I will live on that teacher's salary you have. We will grow our finances together......but more importantly, I need you to lead with servitude and you will get in back in manifolds

[@righteousmasculine]

@@kanyin442 they don’t make women like they no more. I totally agree

[@hopethomas9646]

Whew, Forever vs Fans 🙌 This podcast was on point with so many gems. I will be celebrating 11 years of marriage next month and am excited about the continued growth journey.

[@DearFutureWifey]

Congrats!

[@QueenpreneurRachelBellamy]

Hope I threw my phone across the room at that point!

[@briamor5140]

My mom sent me this and I just want to say thank you both for being willing to speak so candidly about these things. This truly blessed me and help me see that I’m not the problem I’m being painted or looked at as.

[@kaydianclarkewalters9411]

A whole level of wisdom from your guest right here...these words are gem. Everyone person married or preparing to be, should given the opportunity to watch this episode.

[@broco6608]

Who hasn't heard this message preached? I haven't. Been knowing about it, just never heard it or remember hearing it. A good lesson on "dwell with her according to knowledge". Thank you, Mr. Burris!

[@womanbygodsdesign6875]

Such a great episode. Thank you!! I truly can understand and share your sentiments about growing up poor. I grew up in Belize and with no bathroom only an outhouse. It humbles you and makes you very appreciative of things. God bless you and your show !

[@audreymcintosh3019]

💯💯💯👍concious reasoning,deep life changing conversation,one of the most deep thought provoking,make you sit up and assess,are you settling.

[@brendam2022]

As a wife this blessed me to hear and understand some things I had not heard before that will bless my marriage. Thank you both for being so transparent and going deeper. What a blessing you are!

[@tomiakat.wingard1021]

I never knew this podcast existed until I saw a reel from this episode 2 days ago. I just watched and I have nothing but praises to share!!! This was an awesome interview!

[@teecee1678]

Love your show. Thank you for the deep discussions. I would love to see Pastor RC Blakes as a guest l (as another commenter mentioned) as well as Tony Gaskins and Pastor Jerry Flowers of Redefined TV on KZbin.

[@DearFutureWifey]

Pastor Jerry Flowers is coming next month

[@ClaudetteTucker]

YES, PLEASE! God gave us Bishop RC on purpose!

[@ladydee7099]

Agreed! Also add Jason Wilson, his most recent book is Cry Like A Man.

[@abaxter0326]

@@DearFutureWifey yesssssssssssssss

[@TheOmegaGamer339]

@@DearFutureWifey Yes!!!!

[@morowarowe1517]

Laterras is so funny. He's like wait a minute. Don't just drop that bomb and keep going...whew. The gentleman is so accountable but I think a great marriage is when the husband and wife are this accountable. My mind is blown. David is a really mature Christian. Lord help us.

[@SetapartMinistry142]

He reverted everything back to Christ and that’s what I loved about this interview!

[@aceyshari]

Who is this man in blue !!!!!!! So much wisdom… the pauses just to reflect on what has been said.. amazing content. Thanks for your share and wisdom .