What Happens When Women Are Emotionally Unavailable? Dr. Delatorro McNeal II Shares His Heart

Have you prayed to meet the person of your dreams, then got scared and ran away once you met them? Rarely do we hear about the emotionally unavailable woman. Today's episode is a deep dive into the hearts of men who've experienced heartbreak after falling in love with women who weren't ready for love. Dr. Delatorro McNeal II opens his heart and reveals his failed love journey in "Heal With Integrity."
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[@elsf]

There is this older guy at my gym. He mentioned to me his son was getting married this year. When I congratulated him, his response was nah it won’t last long. He’s a player and no one in his family ever stayed married. When I told him not to say those things over his son because words and thoughts are very powerful. He literally tells me “see that is why I never got married cause y’all women wanna always be in control” and I said, wait how is that? Because I suggested he pray over his son and not say those things about his marriage not lasting? How does that make me controlling? He couldn’t answer me. That happened a month ago. He used to come up to say hello to me and chat but now he’s completely avoids me. He’s in his 60s. Just made me sad that there are some people that think this way and the mere suggestion of positive thoughts and encouragement is a problem.

[@rhondaj3117]

That tells you that he himself has alot of toxicity, you don't need his friendship. He needs Jesus and therapy.

[@dramafree412]

You struck a cord in him and may have shown him an area of lacking in him. Claim his deliverance for him until he can claim it for himself.

[@elsf]

@@rhondaj3117 Definitely!

[@FleurRebelle]

​@Nicole Stallworth I would not claim nothing for the old fool.. yall women love caring

[@elsf]

@@FleurRebelle it was baffling that my suggestion that he should stop saying negative things about his son’s upcoming marriage was him translating it as me being controlling. It’s a shame and concerning that there are people out here teaching the younger generation 🥺

[@brooklynforever1990]

“Chronically churched but clinically depressed!!” 🙏🏽 this man is truth!

[@shannahbonner]

I've NEVER heard of Dr. Delatorro, but I LOVE this type of man! Spiritual and emotional work done. Check! Honest, open and transparent. Check! Oversharing to make you feel safe. Check! Communication. Check! C'mon, SIR!!!!

[@TooReaLForMeTV]

Right! I Was like....come here love! I got you, I've done my work and actually turned my pain into my purpose...well God did. Doing the work makes it so worth it, with this type of man is out here! Love it!

[@Realness4sho]

💯💯💜

[@andrealobo9260]

Right she is gonna regret that decision ! There are not too many men out here this emotionally mature !

[@charitymasango2649]

Wow, I've never heard over sharing rationalized like that ✨✨🥺 Thank you.

[@juliestarks1279]

He is the exact male version of me..I’d scare him away by mirroring him.

[@moniquedavis4608]

"We're all born looking like our parents, but we die looking like our choices". 😳 Wow!!! This is for us all, but especially this generation!

[@Marci_Rich]

"Most of us are chronically churched but clinically depressed." " It didn't happen to me, it happened for me." This man dropped such wisdom. It makes a difference when Godly, healthy, whole men speak. This was therapy. Blessings to you Sir🙏

[@timbawangu3038]

​@@paulettepra oh wow, this is a lot! Could it be he's changed and wants to do right by the one he marries next? Are these the kids who his fiancee asked about the color of wedding clothes? He says he's raising his daughters, he's lying?

[@Blackstallion417]

You right about it! 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙏🏾

[@timbawangu3038]

@@paulettepra I can feel your hurt. Am sorry about what happened to your cousin. I hope she's sought healing 🙏🙏

[@DawnieM]

I hear the hurt and frustration in your post, but I honestly believe that there’s ALWAYS two sides to every story. In my opinion, this information would’ve been better to have been sent to Laterras in a personal email directly from the ex-wife. Plus by posting here, you have not given Dr Delatorro a fair chance to defend himself

[@tasmieabroomfield3495]

Great gems right there

[@BreenyLee]

Yep! He was definitely in Jamaica with us but he was not with us, he was really doing the work!! Dr Delatorro is an intentional man filled with wisdom, His wife will be one blessed and filled woman and he should not settle for less. Kingdom Conversations, let’s go!

[@Delatorro2]

Hey Hey Sis. Thank you so much for expressing this! I was with you all as much as I could be. The excursions were sold out, so I used the time to continue the healing journey! Love ya to Life! Honored to connect!

[@goldenlifelove7251]

I listened to this episode 4 times! When I started seeing my current boyfriend, he was so intentional, open & honest about what he wanted, it scared me. Actually I was terrified because he was so different. He was everything I asked God for & it scared me. Instead of running away, I checked myself, got my fears in order & let God move how I'd prayed to I'd asked Him to. This is the best, most peaceful, loving & open relationship I've ever been in. Dr. Delatorro & Laterras seem like great men & I hope God blesses them both w/ amazing women soon!

[@latoyabasden4725]

Amen!!!

[@ieshaa4624]

This episode was 🔥. I went searching for a therapist the minute I ended it...already had my first session...on my way to being healed 🙏🏾

[@brooklynforever1990]

Congratulations

[@1234nfd]

Aaaaw. ....this comment blessed me. ..

[@ttatum7101]

Yes sista!!! God is doing a thing here!!! ❤

[@DrRachelSilver]

I'm not even 25 min in & he done mentioned a SWOT on the relationship, The 4 Agreements, conflict resolution styles, boundaries & more!❤️ This is good!

[@pksensation]

Yes, I was like, we did that in LIT 101

[@arlettemvondo6613]

Hello 👋! What is a SWOT on the relationship?

[@memp9786]

@@arlettemvondo6613 S.W.O.T. = Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, Threats. It’s an analysis technique used in many fields, but typically for analyzing business-related things (launching a company, landing a sale, accepting/declining opportunities, financial analytics, etc.). However, It can also be used in pretty much every aspect of life that involves decision-making; hence, him using one to analyze the state of their relationship & what is still needed to feel ready for the next step

[@stephaniemacklin4162]

I wish he would slow down. He his dropping lot of knowledge for us to sift through.

[@DrRachelSilver]

@@pksensation You know it. I love a good SWOT analysis.

[@ninasimone9984]

"Healed is the new sexy".....I passed out bout 3/4 times during this interview. This was an overload of wisdom. So thankful for this episode. 🙌 ty

[@Diva6751]

Yes! I agree

[@Realness4sho]

💯💯💯💜

[@Chiyembekezo]

Nina Simone, is that you sis..? We missed you girl

[@alethasmith1515]

Definitely 💯

[@msjayl0vely]

I agree. I also have watched this probably twice per week since it aired. Diamonds are being thrown and I’m making frequent trips to catch them.

[@Kizzyfran]

I pray that I am emotionally and mentally ready for my soulmate! I don’t want to hurt anyone the way that I’ve been hurt in the past because they weren’t ready! But I felt the podcast deep in my soul ! Thanks to a friend that shared it with me ❤️❤️❤️

[@shawanda.denise727]

THIS is the prayer!! Thank you for sharing this - I'll be praying this over my life & over all of us who are in this space and genuinely want to be READY for the person God has for us. 🙏

[@ttatum7101]

Amen. I also pray this as well. Which is why I will not make a man pay for what a boy caused. May God bless us all with true love, the love that he shared with us, real love.

[@MyVlogTherapy]

“1st conversation shouldn’t be what are your love languages, it should be what are your conflict resolution skills, and styles? When challenges come, how do you handle conflict with the person, how do you treat them? “ 🙌🏽 “Be mature enough to look eachother in the eye, and say what you need to say, respectfully. Don’t text.. ghost, silent treatment, ignore.” Over communicate and leave well regardless. Or stay and have an open and mature relationship. He’s an excellent teacher 🙌🏽.

[@vinceatieno9766]

The one thing I have learnt to pray, "is Lord as I pray for my future husband as perfect as it is in my imagination, prepare me for the wife he is also praying for", most of us ladies pray a one sided prayer and when the prayer is answered we fumble because we don't know how to handle the blessings.

[@ij_709]

But God in he's infinite mercy would not leave you hangin' , even in the limited human understanding he's still makes a way

[@curvaciousbeautychi]

As a woman this has happened to me. Men saying I am too good to be true and they aren't ready but I never thought they were my husband.

[@chrisparker6249]

This episode was unlike any other and I've watched them all. This hit home because I too experienced a break up in February. I was in a relationship where I nearly gave my soul. And after the break up, I realized that it was all the way wrong and God never intended me to be involved with this woman. Where we think we hear God, we hear our own yes. God goes silent before we pop the question. He knows our hearts, we don't! Thank you both for the enlightenment and message💪👑🙏☝️🤔🔥

[@sandras2479]

Wonderful podcast! Thank you gentlemen!

[@lovemusic751]

Wow! Powerful!

[@achicabawwow]

I Totally Agree!!!

[@gmcnair33]

Sometimes, we take things into our hands. Don't take anything personally.

[@chrisparker6249]

@@gmcnair33 That's the toughest part, to never take anything personally. Though a lot of the times we are the offender when we didn't use discernment.

[@TT-wh1dw]

I’m exhausted with fast talkers. His message is good, but living in a world were everything is moving so fast, I’ll be glad when I can connect with a calming (yet healed) soul.

[@lovefelix1566]

I understand you perfectly! #goodinformationbutineededtobreatheseveraltimes

[@mimilove5302]

When he said “Dating the same person multiple times”, I had to pause the video. I felt this.

[@vs0063]

Anyone else laugh everytime Laterras makes his high pitch shrill sound?!! 😂I love it because it's like it hit to his core what was being said!! This was a BLESSED episode, when I tell you so many people will be healed, including me..I have gained so much more clarity as a woman, seeing the heart of this man and how much he and Laterras shared in common on their healing journey. 🙏❤🙏🌞 🕊️

[@gingermarcotte1]

Laterras’ laugh is one of the best I have ever heard. It seriously brings me joy hearing him laugh. There’s something about it I can’t explain.

[@missj9879]

Sounds like the Holy Ghost just keeps poking on him, doesn’t it? 😅❤

[@rondriasmaller6598]

Yes I was cracking up. I be dither tho when they day something that hits me lol

[@IAmJamieAlexander]

Yess!! 😂😂😂. I holler every time!!! 😅

[@resilience4680]

I came to post about it! LOL! That's his version of WOW this is SO GOOD!

[@jasminehammond9916]

I’m only 20 minutes in and I think this is probably the best episode. WE NEED TO EXIT BETTER!

[@ThatGirlGiGiNYC]

For real!! No lies

[@Delatorro2]

Jasmine. Thank you so much for this. Wow.

[@jasminehammond9916]

@@Delatorro2 No, Thank you!!!!!!!!

[@LiLiscreations]

Whew that hit!

[@kpierce52]

May all of us who are healing have ears to hear and a heart to understand this message❤

[@micole83]

Healing with integrity

[@kendramcneil8959]

Mannnn I passed this episode a few times but each time I seen it Holy Spirit said click on it. Today I finally did and this is a healing experience for me. I’m a giver, I love HARD, and I needed this THIS morning. Thank you

[@faithfavorvictory4658]

You are absolutely right!

[@reign_fleur]

Lord have mercy! I just had a therapy session watching this. THANK YOU! God knows these interviews are healing the masses. 🙌🏿🙏🏿

[@rosannefarley828]

Me too

[@tamarajohnson2315]

Amen!

[@Blackstallion417]

Yes there is healing ❤️‍🩹 and a lot of Nuggets and notes taken Powerful! 🔥🔥🔥🙌🏿

[@beverlyjones263]

When my ex husband left me I talked to his children and told them their dad and I was divorcing but it doesn't divorce us. I stressed to them I would ALWAYS be available to them. ❤

[@LRamey]

Beautiful ❤

[@user-yf2ls1zj9t]

“ I don’t chew my gum twice”, “healed is the new sexy”… Christ works and so does the right therapist. Plz bring him back to the show in the future.I’ve already watched this episode twice. Great information a lot of golden nuggets being dropped.

[@kenyacarl3626]

I think there’s another category of women that need to be discussed - they are not dating around and getting hurt by men because they are purposely dating to marry and being wise about who they get involved with. They are waiting patiently for these evolved men…. They ready and not hurting and emotional damaged. They are healed and waiting….

[@KristaV]

Chronically churched but clinically depressed. Whew My Chest 😧

[@kaurenndede8971]

We need Jesus and a therapist! 💯

[@zenacockrell3858]

I was screaming in the car!!! So many good nuggets are planted in this conversation! Glory to God!!! On the other side of healing is God's goodness. A wise "mother" told me "Never waste your pain" so I use what happened for me to comfort others and to speak hope and joy through Jesus Christ to them. We are victorious indeed!

[@Blackstallion417]

Yes it was 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿💃🏾loved it

[@demoore5938]

You tooooooo🙌🏾🙌🏾💜💜

[@christiesmith5109]

Hallelujah 🙌🏽. Thank you Jesus. God bless you 🙏🏽❤️🇧🇸

[@Realness4sho]

Beautiful!💜

[@adilahbrodie]

When I finally healed, I wrote everything down that I wanted God to do for me in 2023. So, January 2023 I wrote who, what, and how I wanted my husband to be. In April, my kingdom husband was no longer hidden in plain sight. Why? Because I was finally ready. Thank you for this impactful episode!

[@Realness4sho]

Yaaaaaza!💜

[@SMLamb2678PA]

In order to change the mate...you must change the bait....This right here is life changing! I am walking in my healing and still have a journey to go; but I embrace my change and all the emotions that go with it. Abba wants us all to be in great health. Great episode!

[@jazmineg.3325]

This was a great episode. Lord, help your healed and ready sons find your daughters who are healed and ready 🙏 Signed - Sis who has done her work!

[@tabitha9636]

Amen and Amen!!!!!

[@blessings28]

Come on! and amen!

[@tylynn256]

This is powerful.

[@twelch0215]

Say so sis! Amen and amen! We touch and agree!🙏🏿

[@missnurseeri]

Amen! 🙏🏾

[@memp9786]

This guy is PHENOMENAL!! I never heard him speak, or heard of him at all until this episode… now I’m searching for his book on Audible right now. His oration, organized thoughts, ease of quickly transitioning between points, the amount of SENSIBLE BARS (not just a bunch of silly rhymes people mistake for bars), & his knowledge in psychology, bible, education, marketing, etc… he’s a BEAST at what he does!! I’m very impressed! Thank you soo much Laterras for introducing your audience to this great speaker!! I loved this episode (as I do many)👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@margaretdebellottems.dthej6555]

He’s amazing and gives so much in his works.

[@thyrajoseph2720]

"The breakup is like a death. You have to mourn all the losses that didn't happen in the relationship." I am paraphrasing this, but this was a true gem from Dr. Delatorro. I learned this after my last breakup in 2019. The guy I was in the relationship with didn’t give me any closure either. I felt this conversation deeply. This was a great episode!! Good job, Laterras ❤❤

[@babyjells]

What a refreshing interview. Healed is absolutely the new sexy! I started on my healing journey 8 years ago after the end of an engagement- had a tower moment in my life. Everything that could possibly go wrong in my life, went wrong within the span of one ☝🏾 week. I lost everything- home, job, fiancé six weeks to the wedding, health insurance. Had to start over from scratch and rebuild. I felt that my life was trying to speak to me and that it was high time I started paying attention. I decided my next relationship would be different and I set about becoming everything I wanted in a mate. It’s been an incredibly beautiful and rewarding journey. Therapy has been the icing on the cake- been in therapy for 3 years now. One of the first questions I ask potential partners now is what self work have you done or are you doing to heal from your past traumas. Many guys I’ve dated haven’t been able to answer that question. So this man right here is a unicorn right here and I love that ❤️ So happy to know that men and women are collectively awakening and seeking better grounded, self aware and healed partners. And yes, my therapist is on speed dial 😂 she literally saved my life.

[@mgm2923]

Another great episode. One of the many gems I took away is "The pain of discipline weighs in ounces while the pain of regret weighs in tons."❤

[@OneMellMell]

🔥

[@vivivoom6080]

OMG… as a giver, all I think about is the well being of my partner on all levels. I gave it all without boundaries, and I didn’t care about receiving back. And that broke me! This Dr. Spoke gold.

[@AmarisLW]

YESSSSS. This sums me up! 😫❤

[@pamelajackson4247]

I too am a giver and learned so much from this Dr. Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for your words of wisdom, priceless nuggets. 🎉

[@latashameschelle5647]

I love, love, love this episode!!! Transformation conversion should be a love language. I’ve spent countless hours learning about myself through transformation and I’ve only seen a handful of brothers that have done the work. We need more representation in this field and my hats off to you (Dr. Delatorro) for raising awareness in our community. Thank you 🙏🏽

[@saraworthington9245]

I could listen to Dr.Delatorro, every day all day. What a wise mighty man of God. Laterras R. Whitfield you did it again.🙏🏾❤️💪🏾👍🏽😘

[@tabitha9636]

An exit strategy requires maturity and empathy! How does a healed man judge the character of the person he is pursuing? My heart goes out to both of you and I am so happy to see the work God is doing in your lives. You both encountered women who became frightened in the expectations that come from matching a man of God walking in healing. I pray the Most High continues to be glorified in your testimony and in your healing!

[@tabitha9636]

@@paulettepra I wrote my comment hoping to invite conversation as I felt there was something missing in the story. This woman ran from something! I don’t want to take away from the positive things shared during this interview, however In transparency we all find healing!

[@monicasoyombo3360]

​​@@paulettepra Sis. This is very disturbing and concerning. As a giver I recognize my new need for sharper discernment. I made a comment within the first 15 minutes of the conversation, but then walked away and some red flags started to pop up for me - as I commented . ....people can be easily blinded by fast talkers. We all need to pray for an increase in discernment!

[@gldavis6938]

Healing is the new sexy !!! This conversation is everything .. To see EXAMPLES of what it looks like to care and go into these emotional levels for men is so beautiful to see .. I meet so many hurt men , men who suffer in silence because they don’t know how to unpack their emotions.. women aren’t the only ones who hurt .. we just talk abt it men bottle it up AND then it ends up manifesting in other ways .. unfortunately BUT what we know for sure is HEALING is GODS WILL .. period! Great Convo ..

[@annawilliams1793]

Wow “love was performance base rather then position base!” I am the exact the same way! I overextended myself with gifts and knowledge to grow this man into an entrepreneur, and all he did was take from me. Now that I am healed 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 and with God‘s guidance, I know how to set boundaries. Living a soft life now😊.

[@drritathornton8191]

Based on how a person was raised as a child, some people just don't know how to do anything else. But, these same people show you who they are early in the relationship if we are using God's gift of discernment when interacting with anyone. God bless!

[@authialove5275]

"Is it possible that God trust us with trouble?" Woooow❤❤❤❤

[@Jesuslovechild1]

Bless them and release them.

[@lynellb]

Yes! Louise Hay taught that many years ago. May she rest in peace.

[@alelasmith811]

When he said that “what is your conflict resolution style/skill set” should be at the top of the list! I saved this episode! 🤯

[@audreykornegay281]

Just a few weeks ago, I decided that I was going to get therapy because a lot of people come to me for counseling. This is so awesome. He’s blessing me so much.

[@MrMotherofdivinity]

I saw the broken hearted video, and I didn't know what to do. I wanted to heal yu, I realized that everything yu guys are saying is so true. Yu guys are the symmetrical reflection of my female self. What the doctor said is so true about why we love so deeply, that we weep as deep as we Love.

[@valaisesmith5689]

Dr. Delatorro IS anointed to do what he does. 💙💙💙 I am blessed, yet again, by the wisdom he is sharing here 🔥🔥🔥 Thank You!!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@sweetumsDenise]

Oh wow 😯 You seem to have some insight 👀

[@sheswhoiam]

Shifting from "to me" to "for me" works "for my" Good. Now I am a victor instead of a victim!!!! Sheesh

[@latasha8581]

Let the hurt, hurt.....yes indeed....I do just that. Amen!

[@jamiedeansmith9985]

S.W.O.T Analysis‼️ You cannot help someone by giving them more of what they don’t appreciate‼️ Literally EVERYTHING about the “Heal with Integrity” podcast was so on point that I believe I sent it to all of my iPhone contacts! 😂 Laterras, King, you continue to amaze me with your guests, the questions you ask, and the vulnerability you continue to show as a King. HOWEVER, 🗣️THIS episode totally blew my mind and knocked my socks off. There are so many gems in this episode that it can literally help the youngest boy or girl to the oldest Queen and King. I think I hit pause and play so many more times than I have on other episodes, taking so many notes that it has left me with a little knot on my finger. Dr. Delartorro you totally bought the 🔥and yes King 😉you have a new follower‼️ I know you advertised one book, but I believe this episode will be the basis of your next book. As I was taking notes, another book coming from you regarding the matters of your heart while protecting her’s is what I saw. As you continue to grow spiritually, personally, and professionally, I’m excited to see what & who God has next for you. TEACH 🔥 TEACH 🔥TEACH‼️

[@mariemuhammad7983]

This is why I will forever be grateful I stayed separated and waited on God. I didn’t want to unravel anything God had fixed. ❤

[@prudencechambwe6331]

This teaches me to ask God to prepare me before I receive my blessings. Dear Lord make me ready to receive the man that I am praying for, in the mighty name of King Jesus. Amen 🙏🙏🙏

[@sh3rrylov3]

The Good Doctor did NOT come to play on this episode!!! THANK YOU!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@ParisDavisDean]

Many are not mature enough to exit with respect and responsibility; because they don’t know how. They will flee first, so they don’t have to face reality. You can do the best you can for an individual and if they are not the one, God is gonna show you💯. We have to GO through things in order to GROW through things .

[@audreyfacey8347]

Thank you Laterras, I have been waiting for over a decade to hear someone say this word. "" I know I heard GOD voice clearly, but the other party do have a choice ". GOD bless you bro ,you are Chosen, you are called, and you are annointed for a time like this, a season like this to help a lot of us who know we heard GOD voice..I just can't text the blessings enough that is over your life. Blessings

[@theresakern1687]

I have always advised ppl to take time and dissect the failed relationship. We need to see what part we played in the demise. Even if we didn't cause it....our ignoring what is happening is our contribution. We need to make sure the wound has stabbed over before bringing someone new into your life and using them as aspirin for the ache. It isnt fair to anyone involved.

[@patferguson6087]

I stopped the 'shacking' and joined you. I am a very happily married woman. I am married to a king. God is so good! I remain grateful and thankful to Him for the gift of my husband. However, I still have a heart for unmarried singles and remain keenly interested in God's purpose for their lives. 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤❤

[@daphenernorwood]

“Chronically churched but clinically depressed!” Deep.

[@Execstyle8]

Jesus! you can’t pick us up and put us down at your convenience! "You weren’t ready for me"…took me a long time to realize this…he was not ready and had not experienced the type of love I showed... Keep blessing people by telling your story

[@SuperLovelye]

This episode was so good and the gems were coming faster than I could process. I will have to rewatch and dissect. From relationship, self-awareness & healing, self-governing with integrity, to the duality of purpose and calling, the public speaking tips, vision pitching tips. This was an impromptu master class. Thank you both Kings. Absolutely phenomenal!

[@divineenergydancefitness9754]

Yup, they got you! Lol.

[@shavonnecooper8815]

For men over communicating is very rare.

[@alexishill3342]

It's hard to imagine that there are women praying, literally begging God for this type of man to cross paths with them, and there are other women running 100 miles an hour away from that blessing. That makes NO sense to me. God bless you and heal every person that was broken by what happened. Especially the daughters and niece.

[@aprilcastellon7087]

Wow! The pain of discipline weighs ounces, but the pain of regret weighs tons! It sure does. That’s gold! ❤

[@treciadavis2874]

How to exit a relationship is a great topic and I’m so glad he touched on it. I’ve met grown men with poor exit strategies or none at all. Too many adults in their 40s and 50s with lack of maturity and no conflict resolution skills. Great episode.

[@ramonaphillipsteach3284]

Chronically Churched!!! Yes, Church and Therapy!! My Testimony. God showed me this 30 yrs ago in my 30’s. Thank God that He meets us where we are. My God!!!

[@yobekslife]

So then the prayer should be, "God help me get ready for the man I desire." He preachinnnnnnnnn!

[@patricebrown777]

Whewww!🔥 I've experienced another Masterclass listening to Dr.Delatorros! I came away with so many gems , I had to write them down! So powerful. Its a joy to see what YAH God, is doing in the hearts of our men and women. This healing journey is so powerful.💖 Thank you, for introducing your brother to this platform, Laterras. I'd love to hear from him again.🙏🏽❤️

[@Aqudance]

I’m writing my 4th book on how NOT to go back. As a woman, I’m one of the very few women who - does not believe in going back for anything. That’s the hardest thing to do in todays society, especially for women. I’m divorced 11 years and I have so much wisdom and knowledge to share! ❤️🙌

[@patriciabailey8999]

Turn back and turn a pillow of salt

[@tylynn256]

I agree about not going back as well.

[@cassandrasmall5189]

I knee someone who went back, remarried, and divorced the same person twice.

[@angelaprice921]

I’m loving this guy and the knowledge he’s giving. He definitely has me thinking if I’m emotionally available or not and really ready for a relationship because I definitely don’t want to hurt anyone or be hurt again. Thank you both for this episode. Blessings

[@mishawilliams4319]

I am in my late 50s now,but i prayed many years for my husband, since I was a little girl, I was about to meet my soulmate, a prophetess told me about him, and she went to talk to him about me, however, I was not mentally emotionally or financially ready to meet him, he was beginning to talk to another woman, eventually they married, I got the opportunity to meet him 25 years later, we hugged one another, I saw a vision that he was going to die, three weeks later he did, I am in therapy because it was very traumatic, seen an open vision of somebody going to die and they actually did three weeks later,I am grateful that I met my soulmate, no matter how brief the time was, I can attest that when you are not ready, you really do miss out on having your destiny fulfilled, I would recommend to you everyone I really work on yourself spiritually emotionally mentally and financially 🙏🏾

[@WamaithaWamzKaranja]

I absolutely needed this! Was looking for a podcast to keep me company as I did dishes, little did I know God was having me listen in on a whole therapy session! I'm blown away. I've pages of notes, I'll need a weekend to just internalize this. Thank you LRW for bringing on Dr. Delatorro, what an absolute blessing! Love and blessings from Nairobi, Kenya 🇰🇪

[@trenaeborders6192]

This episode is very necessary but I truly believe that what is also necessary is grace, mercy and compassion for those who come to understand that they need healing but aren't ready to face that and relive the trauma that they've experienced. It is very easy to say how someone should have handled a situation, which most time favors our personal needs, not thinking about what it would feel like to wear the torn up and broken down shoes of another, who's just come to the realization that their shoes are not fit to wear anymore. Prayer is the greatest gift we can gift others who aren't whole and healed. Everyone's healing journey is different but the thing that is necessary and the same among those who have chosen to heal, is merely that "the choice". Everyone has to arrive at the place of understanding that they aren't healed on their own and be willing to face that for that process to even begin. Let's stop making hasty, life altering decisions without having God in every single moment and be willing to go through a process in the timing that God sees fit. This young lady was slapped in the face with a cracked up and broken mirror, how would any of us feel after that?! It is a blessing that God carried you men through to your healing, and I pray He does the same for this young lady as well.

[@christiesmith5109]

Love it!! We need therapy and Jesus . I'm in therapy 🙏🏽❤️. I concur, healed is the new sexy. We're chronically churched, but clinically depressed. Help us not to lead while we bleed!!! Mighty God. This is powerful!!! 🙌🏽🙏🏽💯😍❤️🇧🇸

[@DeniseAlicia]

I fell down and got back up, Leaned on the wall and cried.😢

[@feliciarobinson2596]

Most Of Us Are Chronically Churched, But Clinically Depressed….. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@LRamey]

So true.. I’m a witness for my own self

[@MsLaShunda]

What another amazing episode! In the past 2 weeks I have had 2 friends ask if they could introduce me to a great male friend of theirs. I was in agreement until I watched this episode and instead of moving forward with the introductions I have decided to find a therapist and heal to prevent any unnecessary heart break of any kind. Thank-you sooooo much for being transparent and vulnerable.

[@thesoulfulexpat]

Lovely convo!

[@lalapoc2768]

Great episode

[@AnalystAyi]

Whoever this man is, I can tell he is a sweetheart ❤like it oozes out of him. I pray he finds his queen 👸🏽 😊

[@wandamoore9582]

He is preaching! This is my therapy session before the next session with my therapist!😁

[@laurawelcome8418]

This is so well said

[@briaruble1838]

This is so good ❤

[@dareshasnowden7601]

When I tell YOU!.. the amount of times I rewinded, wrote down, rewinded again to catch the next bomb he dropped, this was a mind-blowing episode. Y'all spoke volumes, life and gems to everyone that has watched this one day!. I knew it would be good but Got dog!. This was bananas!!!!! I thank you both!. My goodness ❤️🥰🤩.

[@PJ-hs5gl]

You and I both. I have two full pages of nuggets

[@andresbeltran6309]

I need this whole episode. I have heal a lot after my break-up but they are speaking through a lot of how I felt, We were able to talk after the break-up through what broke it and through the pain and the hurt we both experience because of the heartbreak. We have pour a lot through 10 months of dating and I already knew where I was going to propose to her and knew which ring to buy and had asked God for the date to propose and when we broke up God console me by saying to me “I gave you the date not the year” and I realize she was the one and at the same time she was a lighthouse that shone God’s light for me to meet him. I now know what I want in a wife, I am a much better healthy person than I was before I did life with her, and I was able to meet God and be in a relationship with him. I know God has the best for me and for her and we were meant to be a positive relationship that pour on each other

[@thelightys7687]

Awesome interview! ❤

[@sharmayneivey1239]

Power -Filled episode. To hear the Self Assessment of myself in a man's tone.. I. Am. Healed. Amen.

[@jerlynnghee207]

Yes sir! Healed is the new sexy! Jesus and therapy! 🙌🏿 Also, every counselor needs a counselor.

[@chanellsmith3204]

My goddaughter was married on 5/13/2023 and I shared with her and her husband to please focus on their marriage not the wedding day only. They said yes, they will continue to put God first, friendship and love 💞. I enjoy this podcast and hope to meet you one day, Laterras

[@AlisonSpringer]

Sooo good!!❤

[@rolandasmith1032]

Just what I needed!

[@user-op9pr8le7v]

I just don't have words to express how this podcast has been so good for my spirit! So good in a way that I am constantly sharing with the younger generation, beginning with my daughter and younger brother. I've heard that bad things can often happen to good people. I said that, to say this! There are some really good men and women out there that deserve to be loved the way they have learned to love! We all have flaws and we should learn that grace is received so that it can be given. I love you both for sharing your hearts and your truth. God bless you all so good that you will not even understand the peace you will feel! Now, go on and bless your environment!!!!!

[@DearFutureWifey]

Thank you so much

[@tl6932]

​@@paulettepra What immediately caught my attention is the fast talking and a lot of jargon and tag lines. I heard very little about his relationship and what he learned from it. Also, I find it hard to believe that a woman will pick up and leave a good man for absolutely no reason.

[@alicialevi2376]

​@@paulettepra There's always a back story! Maybe the lady that caused him such "heartbreak" finally wised up before she became another statistic. If there is any truth to the notion that "the best predictor of future behavior is past and present behavior, "Lady Luck" dodged a bullet!

[@alicialevi2376]

​@@tl6932 She saw through the love bombing! Notice how many times he mentioned what he did for her, took her places, paid for hotels, took her round to his circuit of friends and mentors etc! The elephant in every room though were the 4 failed marriages! It couldn't all be the women's fault.

[@alicialevi2376]

Women are too quick to swoon over a few nicely strung together words. Oh we checked out on critical thinking as he played with our feelings. That's exactly how Satan got Eve! Guard your ear avenue!

[@jrg6284]

I was not ready for all this today!! This brother brought the fire 🙌🏽

[@hs-qk9qf]

He came with the flamethrower!🤣

[@cassiesavedbygrace]

This was so good

[@derrikafarrar7436]

He is preaching!

[@lataralofton4663]

I literally just went through everything this man is saying. He ex shut down on me and was emotionally unavailable. He did not end things correctly and did not say anything to my son who adored him. I finally thought this was man I was going to marry and I was so ready. But my God has other plans for me and now I’m ready to healing and to do it God’s way.

[@nickynatro]

​@@paulettepra What evidence do you have?

[@ebangoosa]

@@nickynatro She's replying to almost every post on here; sus, but also he's giving narc, I maybe wrong, in fact I pray 'm wrong

[@nickynatro]

@@ebangoosa Yeah. Something about him doesn't sit right with me.

[@lesleyaddison1999]

Dr. Delatorro and Laterras, I cried so much looking at this episode. I am also a giver and also had my heart broken last year. I am not giving up on Love because I believe My Father knows the right Purpose Partner who will appreciate and love me just as I am unconditionally. Therapy, positioning, patience, and preparation is also important for me to Love transparently. Thank You so much for sharing. Blessings 🙌🏾 🌟 🙌🏾

[@sibiltaylor-thomas5956]

Beautifully said.

[@asiac8505]

This is so good

[@mrscrazedchick]

Soo true, how you’re able to approach conflict in a relationship should be one of the top things in a relationship. Weeds out dealing with avoidant people.

[@kayfleming5180]

This episode is so powerful & necessary. We often hear conversations about men not being ready. We rarely hear the opposite. As my Hunni & I go through Pre-engagement counseling, the Pastor (who is also a Licensed Therapist) asked, “Is there anything either one of you needs to heal from before you get engaged & married.” Such a vital question. We must do our work before entering intimate relationships. We ALL need it.

[@legalmemories]

This was excellent!

[@wandasams6458]

Omg.. I needed this