being in relationship with a healed woman (at least well on the way)

[@edfishburn]

lol. .. I too, am "chaos in a bottle" ... I have learned the painful way, that until I can have a relationship with myself, it is pointless even considering a relationship with another. ... I am ok with being alone. I realize I am too broken to have anything to offer to a partner, and too broken to be able to cope with an additional "chaos in a bottle". this journey is more pain, by far, than pleasure. Healing is sloooooow. .. the shadow is deep. love, Ed 💚

[@flower-forest]

Ed, healing is slow for sure. I am glad it is possible and that so many of us are healing ourselves! It is a beautiful thing. Sending you love and strength.

[@pagandreamer1145]

You can be vulnerable, real, honest in a new relationship about how broken you think you are, and how you are healing and learning daily, then you'll see how mature and accepting the other person is of where you are at and whether they themselves are doing the inner work too. Unfortunately at the moment it is still rare and it's likely people will run away. Good luck to you on your healing path ❤

[@blueeyedmolly]

Much, much love Ed! I'm finally to the point where there is more pleasure than pain, but it took a good 24 years to get here, and at times it still gets REAL shakey. m

[@johna6291]

Blue jays are noted for being spirit birds and envoys of divinity.

[@blueeyedmolly]

Thank you!

[@lightvisions22]

Healing , Holy , Whole 🥰

[@tronegaddis119]

Thank you so much for sharing your perspective and for teaching teaching men about your perspective but also just sharing what's been on your heart and on your mind I appreciate it and I will tell you right now you're a very beautiful soul

[@REZNAP]

Great message Molly!

[@OumMohammed_360]

Your reflections on relationships are deeply insightful. You highlight the challenges of balancing emotional intensity and the need for security, emphasizing the importance of a supportive partner who can handle and grow with you. Your focus on healthy boundaries and mutual understanding underscores your commitment to meaningful connections. Thank you for sharing your perspective-I hope you find the connection and support you're seeking.🔍💭❤🤝🌟💪💬🚶‍♀

[@slimdusty6328]

Excellent & interesting perspective . I agree that men and women are able to be more complete whenever they'd create a harmonious relationship together. And i agree that now there's a problem more often with this today. But from my own perspective i suspect that perhaps the real root of this problem isn't necessarily about men and women alone. I suspect that the root of this issue is directly related to dysfunctional family. Which is also directly related to religion and the extreme capitalist system that the religion has been utilized as a tool to help to impose and enforce that capitalist extreme system onto families across the board, with specific intention to have that style of system to create sources of extreme wealth of which the elite at the top end of the pyramid would then also get to reap the benefits of this form of system most of all Within an extreme style capitalist system, its also desirable that family cooperative ties, which were once very commonplace in days gone by, would need to be severed & broken down, and be slowly dissolved and removed over time, in a subtle way so that the people wouldn't necessarily even be one bit aware of how its happening. The reason being, than an extreme style of capitalism would naturally also have greedy-reasons to desire that such division would take place, because of how this division can also serve to "open up the market prospect" for larger sale of goods and services. Being as each and every family member will be bound to need to desire "their own" houses, cars, boats, TV, holidays and so on. Simply due to the steep decline in humans ability/nouse TO SHARE THINGS, together The problem is that not only do men need harmonious relationship with women (and vice versa). But because of how those men and women are bound to have their off days, when the trials of life may cause pressure and strife, it is for this very reason that a harmonious family is in fact of the most greatest importance of all. Being as the harmonious style close-knit family base, can also serve as being like "the whole village" type of scenario too. And the original whole village type of lifestyle was in fact originally THE REAL KEY to what had allowed for the human to "circumnavigate their off days", far better. Too help assist the prospect for harmony. As it had once allowed for families to be tight-knit enough so as to help one and other to pull through those sorts of tough times too. As the whole village closely knit cooperative style family could all still pitch in, to help to provide "the love" that's naturally bound to be required, and EVEN MORE so too during "off days" periodic of tough life stresses that humans face Humans had evolved to cooperate (similar to how the buffalo and other social groups of beings still do). And in fact the human might have very likely become extinct as a species unless they did so. Same too with the buffalo today, who'd otherwise be quickly overcome by their predator, even now, unless "they'd cooperate" Humanity is not only made up of man and women, but also of people with a number of different personalities and qualities and specialty-skills. Which had evolved to be this way, "as a extra bonus", so that everyone then wouldn't necessarily have any need to be great "at absolutely everything". As they'd all be able cooperate-closely together, as tight-knit teams, and therefore share and care(even their quality skills and all) Society today has become deeply broken. Its broken down far deeper than merely being about a brokenness between the women and men alone That's my perspective of the situation anyway

[@REZNAP]

Holy comment! Thanks Slimdusty

[@slimdusty6328]

@@REZNAP might i add, that i also suspect that perhaps the active opposing stance that could be said to have been taken against countries who's systems were more socialist/cooperative styled system, could also be related to the desire for options what would serve to allow the extremely wealthy elite to gain wealth well over and above what many others would ever end up to have ability to share in. So the act in attempting to demonize such systems, perhaps wasn't without its own secretly purposeful greedy desire. But worse than this, is the reality that those countries with socialist/cooperative style system, were also unable to evolve within a world atmosphere what would be absolutely void of powerful opposing value, which also might have had "bad intention" on their minds too, and especially in relation to extremity of greed. So those socialist/cooperative systems were almost predestined to fail. Being as they'd still be forced to need to at least try to stay relatively competitive in regard to maintaining their own military force. As otherwise they'd potential end up in dire situation where thy might be like a bunch of sitting ducks, or a shoal of highly vulnerable fish swimming around in a barrel We didn't often get reminded of that reality though did we? No, not really. Mostly we were only fed up on the well and truly biased viewpoint alone. Bias black and white styled thinking, which lacked the more holistic view of situation, the type of which perhaps would sit in nice & neatly with perspective only from a brains left hemisphere type viewpoint, alone All of it relates to the underlaying desire to obtain riches for the greedy elite. Slavery never ceased, it was reshuffled around into way what at a quick glance might be easily overlooked, and therefore be able to be freely legalised . Even allowing it to have certain ways in which to be attached with charitable acts too. For the PR purposes of such I would think that a large part of intention behind the creation of the capitalist "extreme" style system, might ultimately in fact been directly related to a desire to be able to create a powerful military base, large enough, what would in turn. in time, begin to offer options to take "the desire for greed" , global

[@blueeyedmolly]

Totally agree. I've talked about the disintegration of the family structure a few times the past while. Thanks for your thoughts! much love! m

[@slimdusty6328]

@@blueeyedmolly same here too Molly. Arohanui ! 💞

[@tides_of_truth4245]

. I think this message is on point. One of the roots of current dysfunction is the blame game. Men blame women. Women blame men. Blame does literally no good.

[@AdamDavidSoloman]

Very good talk, Molly, glad I heard it!

[@AdamDavidSoloman]

I'm listening a second time now.

[@pagandreamer1145]

The childhood damage i had led to a ten year long relationship of abandonment, ghosting, cheating and lies and i thought that was normal, both of us completely unconscious and emotionally unavailable, then the 13 month relationship where i was waking up and wanting to improve and work through things was met with constant resistance, anger and drama, now i've been single for nearly 5 years and have learned so much, diving so far into my childhood and shadows and haven't put myself out there to try to date again, a male friend wanted sex as friends with no emotional connection so the friendship ended, so many of us have had terrible role models in childhood so there is a lot to work through but I've become super honest with myself about what I've been through and if i try adding a few vulnerable words to a conversation people have run away, so i let them and carry on working on me. The shadow feels like a neverending pit but surely we can learn to become mature enough to meet each other where we are at and have those deep conversations, i do hope so, it's hard work but humanity needs it.

[@blueeyedmolly]

Pagan, My shadow actually leaves every once in a while. lol. It's no longer a never-ending pit of despair and heartache. There are some genuinely good moments these days. Even some good days! So keep sitting with the darkness, the shadow, and you will eventually come out the other side. I did not know I was even close to being close, until suddenly, there I was!! love you so much!! m

[@OumMohammed_360]

Why not give this a shot?” 😄

[@user-xp3kg9ys1u]

🤗💚👍

[@edwinbelet5303]

Hope you find someone soon. ❤ Have you ever watched Eckhart Tolle? Grtz

[@blueeyedmolly]

I've tried a few times, but either I don't resonate with him, or his wisdom is still beyond me. Some one will come when they come, not a minute before. lol. You would think my patience muscle would well developed by now..... hugs! m

[@mitzikolody4569]

Hi Molly 👋 ❤

[@blueeyedmolly]

Hello there Mitzik!!

[@deanspanley4472]

Yes, woman, the book, reading of, has never been finished and is still being written 😂, sorry joke..in fun. Chaos I understand, Being true surname of the judge who swung the Jaw bone, but had his hair cut 😮😅😢😮😅. I'm of the tribe of Dan and chaos is our middle name...but for good though, as prophesy dictates 🎉😮😂😊. I have always liked women, lust, one of the trip ups of the Dan. I have chosen Celibacy for about 5years, by choice and dedication to God, as we have a job coming up. A Gen 49 type thing so holy war yardy yardy. I love to see people in loving relationships, a blessing it is. For me, it's in God's hands if ever to be 🎉 You think you might be a handful, can you imagine how it would be for some poor gal to be with me😮😅. Its good for people, but love must be before lust. Speaking of experience 😮😢😮😅🎉😊 Happy Days. 🖐️🙏🤚☝️🔥⚖️🐍🤠

[@blueeyedmolly]

Chaos for the good. I like that. Thanks for sharing! m

[@Zack500-abc]

God knew what he was doing when he made women and youre proof....

[@blueeyedmolly]

That's really high praise. I wouldn't say I'm there yet, but working at it. much love! m

[@DisenchantedProphet-2425]

So a woman is allowed to flip out lose her mind and go chaos anytime she wants to.. but a guy has to stay very sober-minded and gentlemen like at all times.. you're speaking insanity

[@pagandreamer1145]

No, women who are becoming conscious working on their childhood issues, shadows and being vulnerable and honest about it desire a partner who can hold space for them in tough times, exactly the same as a woman being able to sit with a man who is consciously working on his shadows.

[@blueeyedmolly]

Nope, that's not what I said, and not what I want, and not what I do.

[@DisenchantedProphet-2425]

@@blueeyedmolly thanks for correcting that ❤️

[@DisenchantedProphet-2425]

@@pagandreamer1145 👍