Being Social Is a Skill

Robert Greene is the author of the New York Times bestsellers The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction, The 33 Strategies of War, The 50th Law, Mastery, The Laws of Human Nature, and most recently, The Daily Laws.
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Thanks Robert for your invaluable lessons. Will like to meet you someday

[@halchemy]

Being a good listener is an incredibly important skill to have.

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[@gameboardgames]

Great video! When I was young I read the great book, 'How To Win Friends and Influence People' and one of that book's points was the same golden message: by taking authentic and real interest in others, and asking them questions and learning more about them, anyone finds that flattering and a positive experience, because for 95% of our lives or whatever, we are stuck in our own world thinking about ourselves and feels like no one cares much about our own experiencer. If you find someone interesting (and EVERYONE is, in some way, or has an interesting story) the other person naturally feels a positive reaction from that and will engage with you beyond the surface level as it's a positive experience. This works in all kinds of relationships, be them with making new friends, long term relationships, networking events, at the bar, wherever.

[@ramyelya11]

After watching this, I realized that I always listen to responses with something about me, my story, my suffering, or even my success. I will try to always look for the interesting thing in others and try to forget myself as I am watching a movie! Thanks, sir. I love to see you and your videos. Your thoughts are so precious and rarely found in the world. Your books should be considered as holy books; that is what the world needs! Love you from the Middle East.

[@gozdesar]

"Pleasure is other people." Wonderful, thanks.

[@TheExistenceClass0]

Nay wrong Miss ! Pleasure is Me

[@robertimmanuel577]

“Hell is other people”

[@TheExistenceClass0]

@@robertimmanuel577 True ! HELL IS FUN .

[@TheExistenceClass0]

@@robertimmanuel577 Why ? Did You Tried to see What They Hide From You ? Yeah Admiration And Praise For You

[@TheExistenceClass0]

@@robertimmanuel577 They All Acting And Showing Infront Of Others ! Did You Tried To Listen What They Say About You When They Are Alone With No One Around ? When I Listened Them , All I Hear Was Praise ! Then the Next Day When We Were together in Coffee shop , all I hear Was Same Nonsense they trying to hide How Much They Want To be Like Me

[@diamondastar8734]

Thank you, Mr. Greene. Your books and your videos, helped me to improve myself, leave my toxic work environment and meet new people. And I’ve also met a new man I’m romantically interested in. You’ve helped me more than you’ll ever know. Thank you. I wish you all the best.

[@realMartinHamilton]

Adlerian psychology says all problems are interpersonal relationship problems. Social skills are paramount as you point out and remind us. Thanks Robert.

[@dimitrifyodorovickaramazov]

Great advice as always. I have been a top performer in almost every part of my life. However, I find social interactions difficult, in fact, i paid not much attention to them, just like Robert explains. 😂 and of course, for years, I have watched people being promoted, buying house, cars, getting married, etc., while I am left behind. It really sucks when you know you can do almost any given task, but the social realm always gets in your way. It’s as if the world works against you and everybody thinks you are a loser. Robert actually tells about Franklin, he used to be a top performer, but a very bad social human being. But he changed for the better. Reading and listening to him helps me. Thank you Robert.

[@Greenbambu78]

Yes, absolutely! Learning to quiet the mind and reduce internal noises can improve one's ability to listen actively and attentively. When the mind is less cluttered/chatty, it’s easier to focus on what the other person infront of us is actually saying, rather than being distracted by your own assumptions, biases, or preferences. Social skills are important in all aspects in life.

[@drebugsita]

4:21 facts. Very good point. Being self absorbed is pretty darn boringggg

[@FergBent2.4]

Not for an introvert!

[@biasedknowledge]

I love how you frame social skills as something that requires active effort and desire! I had a client who struggled with feeling disconnected from people, and it turned out they were just too focused on their own thoughts during conversations. After we worked on getting them to engage more deeply with others-taking an interest in the people around them, as you suggest-their relationships transformed. This advice is pure gold and makes such a difference in real-world situations!

[@robbiewho4745]

This video came out at the perfect time! Thank you Robert Greene

[@LauraParke]

People are your greatest joy or biggest grief. We are all capable of being both sides of the coin. Robert is so right even Dale Carnegie said, "learning how to get along with people is your number one asset. We all attracted to honey more than vinegar.

[@filhodadonadiva]

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Hy my brothers This Is The Way To Be Good At Social

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[@silentbullet2023]

when you're walking in public, you're walking in a library.

[@wesadu]

Indeed

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Interesting idea ❤

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Wow that sums it up so damn well

[@piyushmarde9877]

Hello sir, before this video I saw your other video (The Tedx Talk ) it was probably 10 years ago you were much more energetic back then...cut to today's video, you are getting old but I saw the same energy as before, I'm glad that your doing good and I wish you a healthy life ahead....and thank you so much for the "The Laws of Human Nature" it really helped me to discover myself.

[@zahararay5611]

He had a stroke in 2018, which contributes to his lack of energy.

[@gloriyahboregah6384]

I really like how as time goes on, Robert continues to highlight the significance of his book on seduction. At first glance it may appear to be the least meaningful of his works, but shifting my perspective outwards has improved every aspect of my life. I now believe the best defense is a good offense; when I stop worrying about myself, my conversations are more fluid, and I see more clearly the value in all of my surroundings. I don’t know how it never clicked before-I was always just telling myself “be confident” without even knowing what it meant. Thank you for the guidance, Robert.

[@RoyPinkman]

This was the most impactful video on my life.

[@Jollofpappi]

Very true. Your story about Benjamin Disraeli opened my eyes to the benefits of having good social skills. I wish I can have a one on one with you Robert, I’ve learnt so much from your books

[@samueljholly]

glad to be alive in a time where I can absorb the knowledge of Mr. Greene

[@AlamoCityCello]

Bobby, you are extremely generous to give this wisdom to us. Many thanks!

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Why Bobby?

[@HMadalin]

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[@TheExistenceClass0]

​@@HMadalin I swear By Your Life I was Typing the same To Ask Then found you did it Thanx

[@davidbrobb]

@@HMadalinhahaha right

[@MM-fd1zg]

Lol 😂

[@seagull5000]

Dear Robert, I have the exact opposite problem. I listen to other people all the time. Whether they are friends with a few exceptions, or just acquaintances, they talk about themselves and their problems all the time but they are not at all interested in reciprocating. Whenever I tell them about a problem of my own they will dismiss it, when I express an opinion they don't like they are quick to judge me. This has become a lot worse now that I have moved from a big city to the countryside. The initial interest and connection I feel turns into boredom, to say the least. If one is not self absorbed how do they deal with others who are self absorbed? I would very, very much appreciate an answer. Thank you!

[@mogulmade]

This is where I am at currently. I'm letting everything die now by not listening and it is eye opening. People are users

[@denisse.duobert]

It's true. I need to discover more interesting people. Thanks Robert, you are the first most interesting person. 😘✨

[@dailyrepsofficial]

Being social is an art, not just an instinct. Aristotle believed, 'Man is by nature a social animal.' Cultivating this skill enriches our connections and expands our influence. Mastering it transforms interactions into meaningful relationships.

[@michamichalak6200]

Most people are not interested in anything but themselves, projecting your own attitude is not wise.

[@beastoftalvar]

Thank you for what you do Sir.❤

[@UniUnfiltered]

Your wisdom changed my life thank you sir ❤ 🙏

[@abdelrhimhagag8835]

Teacher Robert thank you so much

[@MoonGlow22]

You already know your ideas, memories, Phantasies and cant learn anything new from them. But you can learn from other people. And the other side will have extreme amount of pleasure by explaining themselves and like you more. Its a win win for everyone

[@julijakeit]

We are definitely not all narcissists, once you deal with a real narcissist, the difference between a healthy self-interest and clinically malicious behavior becomes as clear as sunny day in July the middle of a dessert and a night in Alaska in December.

[@Primorkusha]

If more people knew about the book Social Secrets Mastery, they'd realize how easy it can be to attract the girl they want.

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Where do I find the book?

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@@lakpoam4816 It's an eBook with a youtube channel that has an AI voice selling it. It's exploitative garbage, don't do it.

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[@Mr.kaijyn]

​​@@bathemeinchampagne people change behavior when they are with other people. your behavior around your friends, do you behave like that to your family?

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[@amitbarc]

Another masterclass of Robert as expected...keep this coming master ❤

[@lauraboyes6345]

It's exactly what we were taught in comparative literature - the OTHER perspective is just as valid and equally as interesting as your own, or what you are already familiar with.

[@sylviaowega3839]

I struggled with poor socials, but at the same token I always saw the great importance of developing them as it helps improve the quality of life and move up in the world.

[@JoseMorales-bh8xp]

Thanks sr This information is really helpful and good time to for me.

[@MsTosha1111]

Thank you for sharing ❤

[@prs_81]

Thanks robert

[@jonahjolie7466]

I want to practice… sounds like an adventure and fun!

[@jodie1997]

You say it so well! ❤❤❤ i struggle socially- [i want to be introverted by default. ] ican mix and mingle but its those longer lasting interactions i see at work-- the silliness and goofiness… or the connection … what are THEY doing different??? i always feel like i dont quite fit in…. 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

[@schoolneverteach]

Great point that desire is a key step for developing social skills. Perhaps the other very important thing is the acknowledgemnt that no one cares, so social anxiety is indeed quite a waste of time and energy....

[@dawahkim2931]

Exciting & impactful video. You guys comments are quite educative as well.

[@kirstisamuelsen3177]

For me it is. I try to be better with people all the time.

[@shawnburr8692]

It is absolutely a skill, not everyone can do it at a successful level.

[@theantboy]

those two things negate each other. if it's a skill everyone can LEARN it with practice.

[@shawnburr8692]

@@theantboy just because you practice at a skill doesn't necessarily mean you'll learn it AT A SUCCESSFUL LEVEL. Being social and communication goes 2 ways, one you have to learn is yourself, the other is how others perceive you. You may be able to do it at an acceptable level to yourself, but others may not feel the same. You seem to be leaving out that metric in order to make yourself sound correct. That's ok though, use it as an opportunity to sharpen your social skills.

[@theantboy]

@@shawnburr8692 i cba debating with some dude on youtube. If we we're to debate we would have to define what "success" is within communication. You could argue that being able to function in society socially is success, but as it's subjective there's no reason for us to talk about it. My point was that even a person with communicative issues could become great at if he/her puts in, let's say 10+ hours of daily practice and added analysis for YEARS. The only thing that would hold someone back from that is being mute, deaf mentally challenged, but that's a minority and the minority doesn't make the rule.

[@annihilationHaven]

I've had 0 interaction with other people and I'm perfectly fine. I can't hardly believe it turned out that way, but you can't force people to interact with you, it's their loss.

[@phileo5312]

So i was right for putting “great social skills” on all my resume

[@davidbrobb]

Ironically a bit of a faux pas imo but maybe that’s just me

[@Santafefashionweek]

Great advice

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Brian demonstrates an excellent understanding of market trends, making well informed decisions that leads to consistent profit

[@deltahomicide9300]

I needed to work on my social skills when I was new to certain job fields. I’d never get good leads and it was probably because I came off fake like I just wanted their business and not a mutually beneficial partnership.

[@perfectlymydaze]

I love you, Sir

[@liebingf]

Thanx Mr. G. !

[@andone3540]

Hi, Mr. Greene! I’ve been reading your books in the past and watching your videos lately. I want to know more about people, but what I’m more curious about is why some people specifically hate others in their circle (work, school, etc.) that has done nothing wrong to them. I know it’s about narcissism but I’ve been trying to find a complex answer.

[@mycoachdave]

"Be interested, not interesting." ~Les Giblin, Skill With People

[@vScorpius]

You can be interested in them, but they won’t be interested in you. That’s the thing, people are like tv screens you hear them watch them, but they don’t say much back, or anything.

[@sarahsmith3016]

“We’re all narcissists”. That’s quite a statement lol. Can’t say I agree

[@stitischannel1963]

Some people more than other

[@rajeshenghi7417]

Eye 👀 opening video ❤❤❤

[@ballintogher]

95% of life involves interactions with people? Sometimes I can go days without talking to anyone

[@bennyguitarjamtrack]

Thx Mr Greene

[@DrunkPawn]

Genious and simple

[@alexgibson2871]

It’s your self absorption which is the great impediment to your social skills. Awesome

[@genericascanbe3728]

Thanks, for uploading. I hope the Sublime is coming alomg well.

[@kenji2737]

on of the best writer in my life

[@Kumariello]

Whatever you say my Guru

[@vrahilofficial]

That wat i did and tht why narcs love me. That tiring. Now i'm living in peace. I shut the door. No more care..

[@mcviper270]

Pain is being self absorbed. Pleasure is other people. You must want to know what the other person's story is like. What is it like to be them? Action on this will unlock a higher level of social skill.

[@m9j263]

Robert, I would love you too make a video exploring a little more the Law "Never Appear to Perfect", in specific to the "Natural Perfect" person. And I'm anxious to the book Sublime come out.

[@alien8180]

If a random stranger started asking various questions about me, I would most probably become suspicious of them, and feel uncomfortable. May ask the same questions to them so that we remain in balance of information we received about each other. 😅

[@lyonqueen]

THE cure to social anxiety.

[@rutummaling5143]

Listen 70 talk 30 but remember always focus on urself who you are? Always be better ❤

[@nguyenlucTurtle]

a book that changed everything for me was Magnetic Aura from Borlest

[@Yanchun19]

Never realized how this skill affects my social life. eventually, learned the lessons of it.

[@dragabistreit]

Two comments about this video: first, the more intelligent a person is, in every sense of intelligence, the more they tend to distance themselves from people. And second: this behavior of not being interested in the lives of others is American. Latinos, for example, are passionate, they want to know about you, they ask you about your life. Americans have a different profile.

[@Daniel-ef7nk]

Yes because very intelligent people prefer to spend time alone thinking rather than socializing and ending up dealing with all sorts of conflicts which are inevitable

[@Yarmox]

Only if youre another Latino.

[@BeeRich33]

Avoiding problematic people is a skill.

[@MrMexikin]

You cant be social if you arnt thinking straight. Im a very social person, used to be at least. For going on 3 years you've tried to undermine me and taunt me into making mistakes. Even if you were supporting me you did it through shady means. I tried figuring it out the whole time, I thought it was a civil war. If you would have just left me alone I would have done so much better. Maybe not, but probably. I dont want to sound bitter because truely im not. I finally have my head back and I cant thank Zhang enough for that. I have a new light of confidence and my mind back which is really a beautiful thing

[@belindachavez7687]

Being social is a treasure in disguise, 👁sometimes hard to see and realize. 🙄👀

[@langkahhati]

What if it makes me become a 'people-pleaser'? Don't we need to have a certain level of narcissism?

[@yvettemarshallTWN]

Not narcissism SELF ESTEEM. People that lack self confidence become narcs because they envy others self esteem. See? Build self love to avoid trying to get it from others to validate yourself. Try.

[@stitischannel1963]

For not being a people pleaser. You need a therapist, but with scientific background Because KZbin won't tech you how to not be like that(they can explain, but not speaking to you, analyse you etc)

[@JMB1891]

This all sounds good in theory but a lot of the time people simply don’t care. So you can have all the desire you like, it won’t matter, because you’ll just be wasting your time and effort.

[@gothamjoe1001]

Afvice worth millions for free

[@AlamoCityCello]

Yes! When a genius gives, we are all better off.

[@xxChacaronXX]

That's funny because 95% of my life is about avoiding people and that has tremendous impact on my well being and health.

[@joe-y4o5y]

Since the beginning of television social skills have declined. It takes Robert Greene to realize this decline.

[@mitchywraps6373]

Problem is that no one is more interesting then me

[@lazerlabbz867]

That’s why u can’t spell

[@taposmaity5804]

Nice video

[@IK7.]

Problem is i dont know how to ask the right questions, or how long i should i keep asking them about one topic if i do find the right question before it becomes annoying, im bad at judging their emotions based on their responses. And then at what point do i talk about myself to them if at all? How do you keep the conversation going from there? I also dont know how to talk to different people, like ineractions with a child vs interaction with a male or a female is all different. I feel like my interactions are same with everyone. Idk i never learned any of this i thought people just knew what i was thinking but its othwrwise.

[@antoine_richer]

Incroyable

[@TenzDenz]

So obvious, yet I can't practice. Im so unconscious

[@AmeBaoHuy]

it's crazy how nobody is talking about the banned ebook Magnetic Aura from Borlest

[@Empire4Liberty]

Spots club or 5 star dress to impress arena. Both will have women who are single. That's a given. Easy been easy.

[@isaacs5193]

very nice

[@ricardomendoza7]

But ¿what happens when you have a noise in your head? I've suffered from obsessive-compulsive disorder since childhood, and it constantly attacks my head with intrusive negative thoughts. Despite this, I have a university degree and am at the end of my career. But I have few friends. Do you have any advice for me? I find it difficult to be socially active because my head is constantly damaging my relationships.

[@Anonymous-pk8bk]

Interact with people (foreign) 2024

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He even Looks Lika Johan Liebert☠️

[@kahlfred-jodokusquar813]

okay Mr. Flenderson

[@madamemakeupmonologuematur7023]

All these u mentioned Robert sir I hv done but what abt those cases where we r e victims? Whereby we try our level best to engage socially but pple esp toxic colleagues w agenda just clique to themselves n don't wanna engage u regardless what u do. Do u still try and try again? @robert? Sir?

[@jessicamayer2749]

Where you at

[@amigomurcho7321]

Where should i go in Niteroi to try my social skills ?

[@qwasxcking256]

you teach me psychology

[@TheExistenceClass0]

@@qwasxcking256 Yes Why Not! Its Not what they Say Infront of You , Its What They Say When They are Alone , I tried To Listen What They Say When They are Alone , I was Surprised All I Hear Was Praise And Admitting How Good I am and they want To Be Like Me Too !

[@TheExistenceClass0]

@@qwasxcking256 Its Not The Things You Own That Matters, Because He who Owns The Things Don't Know The Things Own Him actually hh

[@TheExistenceClass0]

@@qwasxcking256 its Not what Results You have achieved and Thinking that Success Is what They Call Success Nay.!! Success Is Anything Done With Deep interest by being Deeply Involved in it . Failure Is Not Standing Up Again When You Fall

[@TheExistenceClass0]

@@qwasxcking256 Regret and Remorse! Remorse? When Doing It At once Remind YOURSELF that Doing it Would Be Adding To the First Stupidity A Second, A Work Of Stupidest

[@TheExistenceClass0]

@@qwasxcking256 Whatever Needs Proving it Is Not a Worthy Thing No matter Whatever it is

[@kirstisamuelsen3177]

I am tired of thinking of me

[@SirenNiarahButchikeHanyind-k5t]

And a choice