Best Dating Advice from Netflix's Jewish Matchmaker, Aleeza Ben Shalom | Star Struck w/Sarah Pachter

[@chanieweiss4288]

19:00 It just occurred to me that in today's times many of us have an attention span that's shortened to make us impatient. Instead of observing how you feel about spending an evening with the person, maybe observe how you feel about meeting and talking with the person, for a short time. From there you can build to wanting more time together ince you develop shared history.

[@mvg5165]

I love Alysa ! She’s so good I’m not Jewish but I learn a lot from her. Not a fan of the other lady talking she needs more energy

[@aleezabenshalom]

Thanks for the great interview! Such a pleasure to meet you ❤

[@joshuaodewale8013]

I stumbled on this on Thursday night and couldn't leaving the station. Your process is fantastic. I pray that the LORD will make each of your effort a good success!

[@ONEFAITHofJESUS]

Amén

[@chanieweiss4288]

13:45 Good point about revealing yourself slowly and carefully. It's seems that if we pay attention we can learn about ourselves and how connected we feel with the person, if we examine how comfortable/uncomfortable we are in sharing with them.

[@TheCountryMouse]

I loved the show! I wish everyone could go to a match maker! I hate dating apps! They rely too heavily on looks alone. After a certain age, none of our pics look all that fabulous, lol! So being judged on your appearance alone isn't so fun. A matchmaker seems like a much more rational approach! 😊.

[@julest5767]

Aleeza you are adorable, love your energy and your talking with your hands! So cute!

[@chanieweiss4288]

25:00 I think it came through in her demeanor that she wasn't intending to be demanding. She was probably broken hearted and frustrated. If he could see that, despite her demanding statement, then he may have developed compassion for her with her heartbreak. Just a thought.

[@sandypeters5790]

I just watched the series last night. I watched the whole series in one night, it was GREAT!!! You need to watch it,,,🇮🇱💙🇮🇱. It is about Jewish dating, which can be different especially if you’re more religious. There’s more of a focus on marriage, sooner than later.

[@mvg5165]

I’m 38 and I’m freaking out I want a family but I haven’t find someone that wants commitment.

[@julest5767]

what an awful story of the poor Jewish man roughed up on the street!! May he have a smooth path forward and find love!

[@_xBrokenxDreamsx_]

dating is a horrible way to meet people. romantic dating is oxytocin bonding and it's reserved for people who are already in relationships as its purpose is to be a precursor to bonking - obviously that's not appropriate for getting to know strangers. even a 'coffee date' is awkward as you're still one-on-one with a stranger and the subtext is romance. non-romantic group activities are the best ways to meet/get to know people. if you can't find someone after 4 years of high school, 4 years of college and x amount of years at church/synagogue you're in trouble. essentially this would fit into the category of vasopressin bonding or team building. stress bonding is also a much faster way of getting to know who the real person is as anyone can make it through a dinner date but it's a lot harder to hide who you truly are when you're under pressure. unfortunately the government/corporate system wants women in the work force/to be consumers so there's an enormous push to trick them into student loan debt and keep them single. the harder you work at school and at being independent (single) the harder it's going to be for you to break out of that habit and get into a male/female relationship. women are the ones with the biological clock - a better degree and a higher salary just means you're pricing yourself out of the relationship market. men don't care one iota about these things so you're going to have to make a decision. it's up to women to set the tempo of the relationship by restricting access to s*x. don't bonk him until he's emotionally bonded to you and just let him know what stage of the relationship you feel you're in. men are like computers, you have to input your request or they're just going to sit there and not do anything. obviously you should consider your communication method but there's nothing wrong with telling him that it's been a year and it's time for him to put a ring on it.

[@brachagoetz9140]

GREAT!

[@dyardsale5475]

she needs a better camera

[@suncat9]

If a woman I was dating said to me "I'm not looking to mess around, if you don't have a ring on my finger in one years time let's just call it quits," I would run for the hills. It would place far too much pressure on a fledging relationship, diminishing the enjoyment of it. It would also reek of desperation. Good for her that it worked out, but I can tell you that most men would not respond well.

[@chanieweiss4288]

@Suncat9 In the Orthodox Jewish world people tend to only date for a few months and then either let it go, or get engaged. Typically we marry within the year at most.

[@amitamir1413]

Fay totally messed up, shay is a great guy who she let go of for no good reason , at 28 years old she will never find a match at this rate , also her mom should bud out! , FAY YOUR 28 AND SINGLE BECAUSE YOUR NOT REALISTIC!!!!

[@irenetanzman3976]

I was disappointed that Fay and Shaya didn’t work out. He was such a mensch & had that good character Fay was looking for. However, it looked like it might work out for Takysha and Evan and maybe Stuart and Pamela.

[@chanieweiss4288]

@Amitamir maybe she wasn't realistic, or maybe she didn't reveal her private thoughts to the whole world. What she wants in the person she'll share her life with is very personal. The same for him of course, and for all of us.

[@amitamir1413]

@@chanieweiss4288 face it, she fkd up big time just like most Jewish conceded but just average looking Jewish girls often do