Best Friend Spilled Red Wine On My Wife's Wedding Dress r/Relationships

[@Batmanapplejax]

If the wine spill is an accident you apologize and offer to pay for cleaning. The second she refused to do either OP should have had an “oh shit, wife is right” moment.

[@MizzShortai]

That's what gets me. If it was an accident why didn't she apologize.? Like at all.?

[@debl3063]

She should have offered to pay for dry cleaning on her own without prompting. Even if she wasn't being a jerk the other times, someone who doesn't apologize or offer to make things right isn't a good friend.

[@patty-pat-pat]

OP seems to be making a lot of excuses for his "friend"...

[@ajjean2720]

Right? Take a shot every OP says “she’s just awkward” as an excuse for her behavior 😒 like even if the red wine was an accident you still apologize.

[@MsAnonymous1981]

Almost bet he's cheating or at least likes the attention. He seems awfully keen on defending himself and his "friend"

[@natnuss98]

Wow even Allies husband knows that she's the problem.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

Hold on sailor. He proposed paying for the dress as a gracious magnanimous concession and was pleading not to upset his "wifey". He's an idiot like OP

[@sovereigncrux]

The husband could see it and OP still refused to really believe it. He called the woman on his honeymoon, after all. And kept calling after she pulled his strings and hung up on him. You can tell who he is truly concerned about, his wife was in the next room and had no idea.

[@TheSergio1021]

Her husband has no self respect. Imagine offering to pay for your wife being petty and jealous of another woman on her wedding day

[@TheArnaa]

“Where do I go from here?” Straight to being blindsided by the annulment/divorce papers if you keep defending the person who has been purposefully upsetting your wife over a significant time.

[@megzarie]

You not only took the words out of my mouth, you've said better than I would've.

[@catandrobbyflores]

Into the trash with his garbage friend.

[@Kayenne54]

Allie was keeping OP has her backup. Not happy when he escaped the net. OP is, quite frankly, not seeing the big picture. Any friend, of either gender, who seeks to exclude the Primary Partner from activities is acting jealous. "Let's go swimming" ... well we all know what kind of swimming that would have been. Eliza isn't as stupid as OP thinks, either. He's keeping Allie as a friend as a backup too, or a side piece. Eliza will be better off out of that mess. Would bet my last dollar that Allie flatters OP at every opportunity, not subtly either.

[@catalinaplaza7909]

I came to make this comment, awful husband

[@SakuraMoonflower]

You put that way more succinctly than I ever could have.

[@LunaMane]

It sounds like Allie from the first story hated that OP got away from her and wanted to teach Eliza how she was OP's number one woman. The fact that Allie has a husband, too, makes it worse.

[@HaleyJo1992]

And OP keeps talking about Eliza being sensitive. I hate this. You can't control how sensitive you are, but a blunt person can hold their tongue.

[@poojas2547]

He deliberately wanted to stay dense so he didn't had to let go of Allie. Wanted to have his cake and eat it too I guess.

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

I know some women who pretend to be clumsy for attention especially male attention. The coffee and red wines incidents are not innocent.

[@thehawkseye3412]

Maybe, maybe not. But she is having her fun since OP's infatuation with her fans her ego, even if she has no romantic interest. OP is the one still chasing her like a puppy. His wife should dump him.

[@ElleD308]

Sounds more like she liked having OP worshiping her A.ss and got angry to share his attention and validation with someone else. Like how dare Eliza steal her puppet

[@AnnMegFair]

He said Eliza, you know, his WIFE, was in TEARS some evenings after things Ailie said. THAT should be the point where he should have cut ties. Not the wine. The wine would have been the final straw for me if I was Eliza, that wedding would have been annulled the morning after.

[@socialmoon]

Eliza has anxiety & a history of misinterpreting the behaviours & reactions of those around her. I'd take what she says with a pinch of salt tbh.

[@persephoneszeliga]

@@socialmoonthere’s no misinterpreting red wine thrown on your wedding dress.

[@nurselinda2155]

@@socialmoonHer anxiety and misinterpreting is from husbands view. He needs to wake up.

[@socialmoon]

@@persephoneszeliga Accidents happen. If you honestly think wine's never been spilled on a bride by accident in the whole history of humanity, then I've got a bridge to sell you.

[@lynnw7155]

I can't stand sarcastic people who insult others 'for fun', especially someone who has no social awareness. They would be out of my life. OP should trust his wife's feelings and intuition. Allie either has zero ability to read social cues (in which case she shouldn't be 'roasting' anyone) or this is all intentional.

[@hi_stranger9156]

Story 1: "Eliza has suggested we try marriage counselling - I was a bit shocked at first because we’ve only been married a month lol! So yeah, me and Eliza are going to try marriage counselling and my future with Ailie is uncertain." This guy i swear😑 I'm not sure if he is this dumb, has feelings for her or that kind of people pleaser who pleases people at others' expense.

[@floraposteschild4184]

Why not all three?

[@miminana-hd6nf]

marriage is doomed. OP does not want to give up Ailie, Sounds like Ailie's husband is on to her, knows she is inappropriate towards OP, and Eliza, and is not addressing it either. I bet we soon see a post, either from Eliza, or Ewan, saying their marriages imploded because their spouses were in love with each other.

[@juliemcgugan1244]

“My future with Allie…” that right there says it all. Not ‘my friendship’ not ‘things on the Ailie-front’… my relationship with Allie. I bet he’d say ‘marriage counselling’ in a way that sounded like a prison sentence.

[@wickedlysyckk]

They, in fact, needed pre-marital counselling. I don't even know why he would find that funny. I'll be surprised if the marriage last five years.

[@jackspring7709]

The guy's a complete moron.

[@georgiawilliams1096]

How do you spill a drink on someone, if you’re running away from them?! OP is so dense and I feel sorry for his wife. Also, the fact that Allie NEVER apologised to the wife for spilling the wine, at the time or even after, says it all really.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Even if I was embarrassed for doing something so stupid, I would still be there profusely apologizing to the bride, not making a joke and sauntering off to enjoy the rest of the party!

[@bug-in-a-rug]

As someone who is socially awkward and has a hard time talking to people, if I spilled something on someone I would apologize! I wouldn’t crack a joke and run away! Which, if the friend was “running away” from Eliza in the beginning, why did she only run in the opposite direction after spilling wine on her???

[@judelbugsrutter6727]

💯

[@ineedhoez]

It's easy when the wife wants you to spill the drink on her. Now, that the wife has her hooks and the husband, she can complete the final stage of isolation. Like every classic abuser.

[@MizzShortai]

Thank you.! I would have called bs right then an there. "So if you were running AWAY how exactly did you spill wine on her dress.? Embarrassed or not, why didn't you apologize.?

[@rooroolaboo]

As someone who does have a fair few platonic friends, I can tell you categorical that Allie is being deliberate and catty. There are lines you don't cross as a friend and she is not only crossing them, she is peeing on them.

[@ChrisAndCats]

Then jumping up and down on the whole mess.

[@sandeesandwich2180]

S2: "I'm not trying to be a jerk." And yet, you are succeeding massively.

[@Snowshowslow]

Yeah, maybe next time they could try NOT to be a jerk. Small word swap, but so much more helpful.

[@MiniKitty27]

"i'm not trying to be a jerk" is giving the same energy as "i'm a nice guy!"

[@AngelaVEdwards]

I saw this story the other day. Like someone else pointed out, how many of us have EVER spilled wine on THE BRIDE on her wedding day and who collides into someone you’re running away from? It was deliberate.

[@mdlizzy]

You know the neighbor is wrong when he complained about the sound of the toilet flushing. That level of entitlement to silence in an apartment complex is extreme.

[@error_4004]

I had a neighbor that would complain that he could hear my shower running when I’d get home from a late night shift and asked me if I could shower only during the day since it bothered his sleep. Some people have some freakn audacity

[@Trijem]

Last story - If you live on the bottom floor, you've GOT to expect noise from upstairs. If you live in an older building, you've GOT to expect noise from the neighbors and pipes. If you NEED quiet, get a place on the top floor in a new building. That's a 'you' problem. 🐾🐺🐾

[@josieundecided]

​@@Trijemtbf that can also be an economy problem, given the state of housing across the western world these days. but if you've not had any choice than to take subpar options part of that deal is understanding and doing your best to accept those less than stellar aspects, such as the noise in the apartment block

[@sparklemotion8377]

Yet everyone enables his entitlement. It's says it all that a crime has to be committed before the police will do something. How is the police keeping people safe when they're are just there make reports? The only thing that would help is if OP did give him something to complain about but I am afraid the enablers would come to the aid of 'an old man on dialysis' with nothing better to do than terrorise the neighbours. Ps: I mean OP could take up online tap dancing or clog dancing, flamenco, Irish dancing etc.

[@ineedhoez]

It's not entitlement, you should not be able to hear your neighbor's toilet flushing.

[@AndyyWithAY]

He called Allie on the honeymoon?? I would be furious. OP shouldn't have called her at all. Eliza just needs a divorce/anullment. F Allie. OP's behavior is unforgiveable

[@floraposteschild4184]

The only acceptable phone call would be to completely break off the friendship. But he's still so concerned about Ailie's tender feelings.

[@skyelindsey687]

I think they were back from the honeymoon when the call happened. And even then if it was during the honeymoon his wife said that she wasn’t enjoying the honeymoon because of everything that happened.

[@MizzShortai]

​@@floraposteschild4184which is funny because he says Allie is this blunt and sarcastic person. Yet treats her like a flower and tells his wife "get over it, it's how she is".

[@angierucinski5694]

Story 1: It's the classic "I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you". OP should have nipped this in the bud ages ago, yet still says he doesn't want to cut the ties? I hope he enjoys playing third wheel with the"Friend" and her husband when his wife decides she deserves respect from a future partner. Red wine on a wedding dress? That's no accident.

[@paigehansen8944]

I’ve been to two weddings in the past six months wherein folks got quite extremely inebriated.. and no one spilled on the dress, on the groom, knocked over the wedding cake, etc. I’m thinking that very few of these incidents we hear of are accidents 🤔

[@mdlizzy]

Agreed. I’m 100% convinced that she ordered it and waited at the bar for her chance.

[@MrsWheezer]

I am super clumsy and awkward with people. So when I’m going to be walking around people I make sure nothing in my hands can stain. Also, I stay sober at formal events. The ‘friend’ is absolutely doing this on purpose.

[@suem8591]

Agreed .. I guess Ailie loves her husband but still wants the attention of OP regardless whether he is married or not. Maybe she regrets in some way not having a relationship with OP because of her now husband but could be she still needs validation from OP.

[@scheneli000]

Also, I feel if you order red wine or have anything in your hands that could cause a mess, you would make it your mission NOT to go near the wedding couple

[@ElleD308]

Please... It IS intentional 😂 Spilling red wine to a bride is a .0001% chance to be an accident. Especially when it comes from a person that makes sure your wife keeps knowing "her place". Your wife deserves a better husband. Edit to add... OP answering to the Redditors just to advocate in favor of Ailie 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ absolutely horrifying to marry a person like him who's hung up on the person he never got to have and is making you pay for it.

[@juliemcgugan1244]

Right?! When I’m attending a wedding, I’m not going anywhere near the bride with my wine. And if I do go over to her, I’m putting that glass of wine down on my table and asking somebody else to keep an eye on it.

[@socialmoon]

Dyspraxia makes people super-clumsy, & it's not beyond the realms of possibility that if Aillie was trying to get away from Eliza (who makes her feel as awkward as Eliza claims Aillie makes her), then they could bump into each other & the wine got spilled. The only malicious vibes I'm getting are from Eliza, who has a history of misinterpreting things other people do. This alone makes her an unreliable narrator.

[@ElleD308]

@@socialmoon seriously? Does Dyspraxia also make others cry and feel terrible about themselves and their relationships for years? Does Dyspraxia make people lie about what happened? Does it make people laugh, mock and make fun of others? STOP making excuses for bullies, that's just horrible. Do better.

[@kaitlynbennett4348]

@@socialmoon she seemed more like an asshole to Eliza, what drugs are you on man

[@trippinggauntlet4520]

​@@ElleD308I have a family member who is dyspraxic. Yes they've spilt many things, my floors and carpets bear witness to that. They've spilt countless things down themselves but weirdly in over 2 decades they've never spilt anything down anyone else.

[@NovaTheAngel]

Red wine on a wedding dress is such a classic. It's never not on purpose. If it had been water or a soda, maybe, but the most destructive liquid on an expensive white dress? It's not a coincidence.

[@Snowshowslow]

Yeah... And not like it was two drops either but most of a glass? I have never spilled most of a glass of anything on anyone other than myself.

[@lindalehr1551]

Who even gets anywhere near a bride with a glass of red wine?

[@B.Harper7]

Yup, I spilled sprite on the back bottom of my cousins wedding dress when she backed into me, almost at the end of the night. I was a fucking MESS still, in tears, apologizing repeatedly; she was laughing and saying it's ok, it's her fault for not looking, bottom of dress/clear liquid, etc. I can't IMAGINE spilling red wine. Op is a coward and Eliza needs to get the marriage annulled. Can you imagine him being your support for the hardest and most intimate parts of your life??? Ick. Just, beyond ick...... it's pathetic, and frankly he would make an awful parent. I really hope Eliza is on birth control for the next 5 years until they divorce. There is a GREAT guy out there for her; sweet, loving, loyal- not a fcking moron, truly her match. She needs to go find him.

[@orls9068]

That and she sped up walking towards her and ran away? Joking? She never apologised either, not apologising to the wife says a lot, she done it on purpose if you didn't very least you would apologise

[@PuppyKatt]

Story 1: Married or not, Ailie is very into you, and extremely jealous. Get her out of your life; number one should be your wife. YTA if you continue to allow Ailie to bully YES, BULLY Eliza. That wine accident was no accident.

[@natnuss98]

There's a new update and youre spot on. She sent used underwear in the gift basket

[@PuppyKatt]

Would not allow me to remove the first "allow." sorry

[@PuppyKatt]

@@natnuss98 OMG, where is this new update, please?

[@nikkismith2858]

What?! That’s outrageous!

[@aphelion4616]

@@natnuss98 Link?

[@Wander85942]

How can it possibly be intentional when charging at someone full force with red wine? OP is so dense

[@BlackTheBerserker]

And she seriously tried to claim she was running away despite the fact that she charged toward her.

[@gxr7777]

But, but, but I was running away, directly at you and threw I mean spilled my drink on you, women logic, its your fault for being in my way.

[@Wander85942]

@@gxr7777 it reminds me of Alice through the looking glass. The white queen screamed in pain before pricking her finger with a pin to save time. By that logic, she was running already knowing the wine was going to be spilled

[@idontgiveah00t]

​@@gxr7777why does this need to be misogynistic? Jesus Christ

[@dianeessex300]

Not to mention the part where she was running AWAY from the bride, not TOWARD her. WTF!?!

[@lyragwen1895]

OP tenant needs to record the old man banging on his ceiling so that the office can hear what he is doing. Also record whenever he confronts him about the noises he hears.

[@lindah3803]

Agree. A guy from work did that. The couple downstairs was always complaining. The office was no help. The 3rd time the cops were called,1 told him to set up a camera with audio. He did. After 3/4 weeks he took the video to the office. The office still did nothing. He ended up sending the video to the owner of the building. The owner didn't know about all that was going on. After about 4 mths there was new management for the building. The neighbors were notified that they would be evicted if they didn't leave the guy alone. Evidently there was 3 different apartments that were dealing. All 3 got raided at the same time. He didn't have to worry about the neighbors after that.

[@thefallennero5265]

There's a second update to Story 1, OP ended the friendship after Eliza and him received a condolences hamper meant to have luxury items that Ailie had swapped with leftover soap and Ewan's Y-fronts that OP described as grubby. OP calls Ailie to confront her but she kept making dry remarks about to Ewan about there being a strange noise on the phone, OP then insisted on speaking to Ewan and explained to him what happened, Ewan became hugely apologetic and embarrassed and said he'd pay them the cost towards the lost items. OP asked to speak to Ailie again where he tells her she had the chance to make things rights and blew it, Ailie blames Eliza's jealousy and insecurities eventually saying “none of this would be happening if Eliza knew how to take a joke” which led to OP saying a joke isn’t ruining her wedding dress and then sending her your husband’s stinky Y-fronts. Ailie then says OP sold out his principles for a girl who’s threatened by other women. OP then explained to Eliza what happened and that Ailie cut him off for standing up for her.

[@badkitty4922]

Thank you so much for this update!😮😮👏👏👏 Sadly, I'm not surprised about Eliza's behavior. Smfh. At least OP finally wised up. Thanks again! Much Love!😘💖🫂🐾🐾

[@floraposteschild4184]

Thank you for the update -- hope OP got the message at last, but who knows? He still sounds so feeble. And so does Ewan. I'll believe the compensation when I see it.

[@American_Liberty]

What is a y front?

[@YellaBellaReno]

@@American_Liberty men’s briefs. Like tighty whiteys. I knew that, but had to look up hamper to see if there was some non-laundry related definition I did not know about. Apparently there is. It’s a gift box/basket type of deal.

[@karenburchell4918]

Y fronts = men's underwear ​@@American_Liberty

[@phionella7]

How can you say in one sentence that this woman is everything you want in a woman and you love her very much but somehow this other girl is more important than your wife.

[@SakuraMoonflower]

Right!!?! 😂❤🎉😅 I was like, "This dude is Delulu or is hoping he's still got a shot with this hot bitch. 😅"

[@imweakfordeaky]

Story 2 : If the “old man” downstairs is *actually old* (like 70+), it could be that he’s experiencing dementia-related auditory hallucinations. It would explain also his fixation on OP’s routines and his escalating aggression with the banging.

[@asmith8692]

My sister would hallucinate helicopters buzzing overhead. Or that the house was on fire and she had been abandoned. Or meter tall bipedal talking ants. Or that we had thirteen siblings. Or(most dangerous) that I was a drug dealer and major criminal that needed to have the cops called on me.

[@kitarrah1422]

​@@asmith8692A former friend hallucinated that there was a werewolf in her room, staring at her, and it was going to eat her if she moved off her bed.

[@affsteak3530]

Imo he's just a miserable, old git who enjoys bullying women who live alone.

[@nicolelawrence7722]

I immediately went to that when he complained about her making noise when she wasn't even there.

[@orls9068]

@@asmith8692My brother thought I was a hacker and hacking into his phones and that our family friend was coming in the window at night I was playing a video game, he overheard me accusing someone of hacking, my cat comes to the window Oh and I spoke about a photo frame and he thought I was framing him and having an affair with his gf? We are both straight Fucking hard times when they hallucinate

[@Ospyro3em]

OP must be dense as hell to not realise Ailie was deliberately antagonising Eliza.

[@psychickumquat]

Even if every action Allie did was innocent (which I don't believe), OP is so absolutely uncaring for his wife's feelings it's off the charts. Does he even care about her? Crazy...

[@LisaApril]

Story about the banging on the ceiling: when I talk to managers I always mention possible damage because that's the only thing that seems to get their attention. So for the banging on the ceiling I Would say the next time You are reporting Say that the banging is so hard that you're pretty sure he's damaging his ceiling. This will get Them to go and look and possibly charge him for the damage.

[@impishrebel5969]

If OP thought Ailie was laughing because she was nervous he's even more of an oblivious mouse in front of a cobra

[@rosemartasgaminghoard]

Some people DO laugh when they are nervous. I had a prof with the same issue.

[@crowdemon_archives]

@@rosemartasgaminghoard In this specific case, it's more like a cover for her cruelty and jackassery.

[@pazvega5895]

​@rosemartasgaminghoard I do that too. I laugh or go frozen at awkward situations. BUT I also don't laugh or make jokes at the other person's expenses (my jokes are self depreciating in this kind of scenarios) and I definitely don't ran away. I stay and try to help correct my fuck up. I also wouldn't laugh after my friend tells me how much I hurt someone even if it was not intentional . Like someone said you cant control how others feel but you can definitely control what comes out of your mouth so you don't hurt people.

[@SkyEcho751]

I remember someone claiming Aillie was autistic and Eliza was somehow trying to Gaslight her. But Aillie literally used a Darvo tactic. She claims it was an accident yet simultaneously that Eliza charged at her to cause it? Either Eliza intentionally caused it to happen, or it was a total accident. At no point did she say "I'll apologize but in return I want her to apologize for all the stuff from before". No she basically tried to say "It goes both ways" and even OP, who's as blind as a bat, can tell Eliza never clapped back despite everything Aillie did.

[@AndyyWithAY]

This one was also on AmITheDevil. As if it was possible to unintentionally spill red wine on the bride 😒 The "friend" is playing cat and mouse with OP. She's married but still toying with OP. OP only married her bc he couldn't marry the woman he actually wanted. She spilled the wine AND made a joke. OP just needs to STFU. He's intentionally being obtuse

[@lindah3803]

Obtuse,oblivious, ignorant,shall I keep going.

[@juliemcgugan1244]

Yep! He slipped up big-time when he said ‘My future with Ailie.’ Who refers to a friendship as ‘my future with bestie?’

[@wmdkitty]

Like... it is possible to accidentally spill on the bride, but *_in this specific case_* it was 100% intentional.

[@UR-HIGHNESS]

THE LAST LINE CLEARS EVERYTHING "MY FUTURE WITH ALLIE IS UNCERTAIN😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@terrieBTSOT7]

The way he started off the story with him and Allie says a lot to me. I would have started with how great my wife is, but there is this friend who..... Your wife deserves better

[@tydyebrownie]

The latest update for S1: So after the rightly deserved bollocking you gave me in the last post, you’ll be happy to learn that Ailie and me aren’t talking anymore, and it’s probably for the best. Eliza and me received the condolences hamper in the post and it was primarily … soaps. Not in the sense of fragrant body lotions or luxury packages, or even organic bars … just regular, run-of-the-mill soaps. There were two dispensers that were faintly rose scented but it was so mild you had to really look for it. There were several white soap bars that didn’t smell of anything, really, it was so confusing. The only items that suggested it was a proper gift basket were a £6 bottle of Chardonnay and a box of Roses chocolates that looked a fair deal more effort than the cleaning equipment at the nearest pub. The weirdest item though? A pair of women’s underpants. Not lingerie, not anything lacy or risqué, like - just a plain pair of white pants. They were actually kind of grubby, there was a faint orange lining on them. It just didn’t make sense to me because if they were meant to be for Eliza, they were at least six sizes too big. And if Ailie really WAS making a move on me, they were again around six sizes too big - also, why would she choose such disgusting pants to try and “seduce” me? It weirded me out so much I rang up Ailie, asking why I had soap and grubby knickers in our condolences hamper. She kept making dry remarks to her husband about there being a strange noise on the other end of the phone. I didn’t get anywhere with her and insisted that Ewan should talk to me instead because getting anywhere with her was like pulling teeth at this rate. After some disgruntled remarks, she passed the phone over. Ewan asked what was up and I explained the whole situation. He was momentarily surprised when I described the hamper as looking like the luggage of a janitor that lived under a bridge. He said that it was a small package, but there should have been several luxury gifts that weren’t simply sanitary items. Apparently there was a bottle of Chardonnay, a bottle of Shiraz, one box of Rose chocolates, a Lindt bar, a selection of crackers and some assorted cheeses. Somehow that got replaced with leftover soaps bought in bulk and his Y-fronts that Ailie found ever so hilarious and apparently found ever so hilarious to send to my wife. He was hugely apologetic and embarrassed, stating that he’d pay us the cost towards the lost items. I was raging at this point but I tried to be collected and said “right, let me talk to Ailie again please” and he got her on the line. I told her that she had the chance to make it right and she blew it, and she groaned and told me that Eliza’s jealousy has crippled our friendship and she was sick of having to flatter her insecurities. I said no, you ARE Eliza’s insecurities and we rowed for a bit. Eventually it ended with me saying that this had been building up for a while and that her attitude had been giving Eliza grief for years. Ailie said “none of this would be happening if Eliza knew how to take a joke” and I just told her that a joke isn’t ruining her wedding dress and then sending her your husband’s stinky Y-fronts. She said I sold out my principles for a girl who’s threatened by other women. After the phone call Eliza was not so much hurt as she was confused at first, because she was wondering if there was a mix-up until I explained to her the “joke”. She seemed pretty much resigned to the idea that Ailie would always be a shit, and I told her the likelihood of that happening was very slim considering she’s cut me off for standing up for her. I think the counselling has made us stronger and in a weird way I’m glad this happened. Because if your friendship falls apart the moment you try to protect your loved ones, then they probably weren’t that strong friendships at all. Shame I won’t be speaking to Ewan from now on, he’s a top lad.

[@tydyebrownie]

On Reddit he replied to more comments about the situation as well.

[@marycrawford9428]

Note that Ailie cut him off. He never did stand up and sever ties with her.

[@damien678]

​@@marycrawford9428 and he describes it as "probably for the best"... I feel so bad for his wife

[@CurliFox]

​@@marycrawford9428He's still pining for Allie.

[@oompaloompa83]

S2: I had this exact same situation in the flat I just moved out. The guy downstairs was banging and complaining every day. I think he must have been possessed. He only stopped after he came to complain one morning and we told him that we had all gone to bed at 9pm and no-one got out of their beds all night, so it couldn't have been us. Then he started going around accusing all the other neighbours.

[@ChrisAndCats]

It's actually surprising which sounds carry and which don't, even the tiniest of sounds can be amplified through walls. I live in an engineering brick semi detached house with concrete floors, so built to withstand a bomb blast, but every day I heard what I can only describe as someone loudly lugging a wardrobe around and dropping it. The family next door were violent, we had been assaulted by them before because we put fairy lights on our house, so I couldn't ask but eventually worked it out that they were yanking an anti slip mat with suckers out of the bath on the adjoining wall, then slapping over the bath to stick, rather than easing it up carefully like I'd do. He complained about me switching on the switch for my bedroom lamp, saying it was "slamming plugs in". He complained about us taking a shower after or before work as he felt our hours were an "unsuitable time" yet i had to be woken up by his wardrobe moving sounding bath mat. We werent allowed to clean the house or mow the lawn but his family having friends over for a barbecue with raucous laughter, a large group of screaming kids and loud music which was still going on at 1AM, right under our bedroom window, on a warm night where you needed the window ajar, was "enjoying life", even though I was working the next day and my father was end of life hospice care at the time, so I needed to get some sleep. He didnt work for most of the time next door, so didn't have the same time constraints as we did and so was inconsiderate of others who did. They screamed at the kids all the time, loudly enough that I could hear every word over at the opposite end of the landing, and the person on the phone with my partner asked who was in the house yelling. We were banned from doing anything after 7pm despite it being legal to do most things after work and were often prevented from leaving the street - its a cul de sac with him on the was the entrance/exit side of the road - allowing the kids to put their ride on toys in the road and play on them then leave them there, but would thrw a wobbly with threats if we were to want to or try to move them. He gave the lead of his lurcher to the youngest child once then kicked the untrained dog hard in the ribs when it took off and pulled the child over. The dogs have badly injured more than one animal in the village before he moved. We were told we could not do anything and were not to defend ourselves if assaulted, as he was "disabled" (he wasn't - he was fitter than I am and my late husband was an amputee.) and we would be the ones in trouble even though he was the instigator. My point is, strange things that sound quiet in your home can often be amplified & be loud when they travel through the walls and if you couple that with an unreasonable person like we had, its miserable. This guy in the story probably IS hearing stuff that is loud at his side but are actually incongruous on OPs side. If he's not feeling well or stressed, it likely makes him more irritable than usual and generally angry at life, which OP could be the unwitting target of. He may not have wanted to move but had to. Any number of reasons, that aren't OPs fault but are contributing to him being bad tempered. Thankfully in my case, the guy moved and the entire atmosphere of the road changed. Everyone gets on with and helps everyone else now, my new neighbours are lovely, I never hear them apart from a window banging around 5am when their cat goes out, which I've taught myself to sleep through, and they don't hear me either. Then again neither of us are looking for anything to complain about either. The one tine I did need to do something noisy they instantly messaged me, but not to complain, they wanted to check I was alright and wasn't knocking for help. One thing I would say to this op though, is there have been cases where people have snapped and killed a neighbour over noise or being bothered by them, so you have to factor in any threat level the person may be to you, even if you feel you're in the right abd they're being unreasonable. People can do irreversible, irrational things when they're angry. I winder if it's worth op truing to befriend the guy a bit, even though she can't stand him, maybe offering to fetch groceries if he's under the weather from his treatment to cook an extra portion of food when she's making for herself. Such things can go a long way in unruffling feathers. It didn't work in our case, even though I saved his child from being badly cut from playing with broken glass, he just carried on as before, but it might work in this case.

[@missingbobsburgers]

Friend lived below someone we called “heels”. She wore them constantly and seemed to forget things all the time. Clacking back and forth at least 7 times when going out in the evening.

[@sovereigncrux]

@@missingbobsburgers lol One of our upstairs neighbors wears only heels. The only saving grace is she does not wear them inside, but once she is outside she likes to parade up and down the landing up there until she finally leaves. 8am. 12am. 2am. Doesn't matter the time, she just stomps all over and anyone in their bedrooms on the floor below has to tolerate it. I don't think people realize how incredibly loud they are to everyone else, or else they just don't care.

[@nkoistrash]

I had this happen too. Except it escalated to where my downstairs neighbor assaulted me, got in my face, followed me etc. They ended up getting evicted because it wasn't just me but other women in the complex.

[@oompaloompa83]

@@nkoistrash Yeah, it was getting dicey in our situation, too. The people above us were literally moving what sounded like a trunk every day at around 4am. Then he would do loud workouts at 5am. Living in some buildings can be maddening.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Story 2: Also had a neighbor complain I went to the bathroom during the night, and that it bothered his elderly mother. I told him I'd piss and sh1t in my own home whenever I pleased lmfao

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

I don’t get why people complain and make everybody else’s lives miserable because they hate living in an apartment. If you don’t want to hear overhead noise, then either don’t live in an apartment or move to the top floor! Noise is part of apartment living. The only time I would get upset is if the neighbors were having an extremely loud party late at night. I had an older lady move into the apartment above us when my boys were younger. She started complaining because she said my kids were jumping off their bunk bed and making loud sounds, all whilst she sat in her car (during late afternoon hours) and watched my kids through the bedroom window. Never had a complaint until she moved in, so maybe the problem was her. My husband even helped the UPS guy carry a “treadmill” up the stairs to put outside her door (before the complaints started) and wished he hadn’t helped after all, just let the driver leave it at the bottom of the stairs and let her figure out how to get it up to her apartment! Want to buy a machine to pound away on, but have the audacity to complain about my kids playing in their room…during the day.🤦🏼‍♀️ Some people just can’t be pleased and have no business living around others!

[@wmdkitty]

@@stirrednotshaken4823 On the contrary, being aware of and reducing your noise levels appropriately is part of living in an apartment. You don't get to disturb your neighbors with constant noise.

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

@@wmdkitty except it's not constant noise. Hell, I'm childfree and still understand kids are allowed to play in their own damn homes during waking hours. Don't like it buy yourself a house. I'll piss, sh*t, eat, cook and watch TV (at a reasonable volume) at all hours I wish. I pay for it and am entitled to it.

[@maniaclaugh]

@wmdkitty when my brother and I were small children, our downstairs neighbour would stomp his way up to our door the moment we arrived home to yell at either us or my poor single mom for 'being uncivilised shtheads' until his face turned dark purple. Then he would totter down to his home and yell vulgar profanities at his equally potty mouthed wife until 4 AM. I learned soooo mamy new words I was never meant to use, lol! Our level had 3 apartments, all with at least 2 kids. He never yelled at them, because he was only comfortable with terrorising women and children. Thankfully karma got him, because one day he drank himself to death while his wife was away for a week. His next door neighbour called the cops when he started to stink up the building.

[@wmdkitty]

@@maniaclaugh Maybe you should have behaved better, then, and he wouldn't have yelled at you.

[@jennywhite2462]

If I was Eliza I would be annulling that marriage. If anyone made me cry my husband would tell them to f off. It's not just the red wine on the dress it's everything leading up to it and OPs response to it. He's a cake eater and Allie is petty witch. I hope her husband wises up.

[@affsteak3530]

The part that convinced me this is 100% intentional: Allie is able to act sorry/mortified when confronted by OP but makes a joke and runs off from Eliza. If I had dyspraxia, was holding red wine, and there was a bride anywhere near me, I would freeze and put my hand over my glass, not run my drunk ass around. Also if she was trying to avoid Eliza, why run close enough to her to cause a collision????

[@thepkitty]

I cannot count the number of times I have had my feelings invalidated as the person upset about not being treated well by people. Always, nah, you're too sensitive, or they're not really doing that, you're reading too much into it and the # of friends I've lost because of manipulative women like that girl from story #1. So glad that husband finally smartened up and stood up for his wife. Girl really showed her true colours when he wasn't having it anymore.

[@veezopolis]

The cop is vaguely threatening the op by saying "well now he'll know you called the cops sooooooooooo"

[@devegas4910]

Yup. It’s clear that cop didn’t wanna do his job and making it clear that he was make things worse for OP himself

[@gostavoadolfos2023]

Bro your wife truly loves you if she put up with all of this BS, don't waste all of this over a psychotic bad friend. and by the way you are a bad bad bad partner.

[@michamocha]

S1: Even if you were to humor Ailie and believe it was an accident, she would still be in the wrong because why on earth would she joke and flee with Eliza but act mortified and apologize to Op when confronted? She should've immediately agreed to pay for dry cleaning costs and apologize to Eliza directly.

[@_letstartariot]

In my 34 years of life, I only seen drinks spilt in such a dramatic fashion in movies. Seems like Ailie used a tactic she has seen in movies.

[@bluecrocodilus6594]

Story 2 I am wondering if the old man has onset dementia. My uncle's mother had dementia and her talking about sounds that werent there were sometimes pretty scary and sounded similar to what OP was describing. I know the OP said there are actual sounds, but who knows exactly what the man is hearing. Especially in the cases of her not making any noise and he is still banging on the ceiling.

[@2Bjaded1]

'Trying to run away from her but ran straight into her'? Yeah, right.😏 Either she was running down a one way corridor or the Soul Train line.

[@rebeccahayward9607]

I've bumped into people by accident before while holding a drink. I confess I was far more likely to spill the drink on myself rather than the other person. Because your automatic reflex is to pull your drink back, not throw it forward. The way this is going, OP won't be married for long. Honestly, his wife deserves better.

[@MeghanBean]

It’s the way she didn’t even apologize that tilts me from 95% to 100% Eliza’s side

[@ellorasg4525]

Story 1: My wife left me and I don't know why.

[@keishaizawesome2836]

Its clear as phuckin day that Ailie did that on purpose, i knew that soon as I read the title. She rejected OP, now he's with someone she's going to try him just cause she can. If OP doesnt fix this he's going to be divorced real soon

[@dantoinettem6825]

The fact that she hasn't apologized, even when confronted is pretty telling.

[@domoniquer.4342]

If I were the last OP, I would get a camera system with sound inside (small area of the living room) and outside (doorbell). The neighbor reminds me of a person I spoke with who was complaining similarly. Turns out they had an undiagnosed mental issue that involved delusions and hallucinations. No one caught it b/c all of it seemed reasonable.

[@stephenpalmer7278]

The way OP has described Allie and talk about their relationship potential and way OP disregard Eliza's feelings sounds like OP likes Allie and wants to be with her while Eliza is a placeholder. OP deserves whatever happens to him. I pray Eliza is happy.

[@debbymccormack6525]

When my husband was single, he had issues like this with his downstair neighbors. So one Sunday, he attatched his tv to his stereo speakers and laid his speakers on the floor facing the carpet. He then turned on a Nascar race at full volume and left his apartment for the day, lol

[@nathansheldahl]

Well they were complaining about noise you might as well give them some real noise to complain about. 😝 I bet they didn’t complain again after that day.

[@JupitirAscending]

In the first story it doesn't even sound like he likes his wife.

[@krisniznik3953]

Even non-pet friendly apartments have toilets. lol

[@Byt0101-gh5fm]

As soon as he said his BFF is a girl I absolutely knew she did it on purpose. And why are you marrying someone you wouldn't even defend when she tells you she's uncomfortable.

[@aceanarchy5554]

Story 1: Eliza should've left the second Ailie made her cry and OP did nothing about it. I feel bad for her and I have a feeling that OP still doesn't understand or care about Ailie's actions and clear feelings for him. I think that the marriage counselling will end up leading to divorce, especially with the "lol" comment when she suggested it

[@natnuss98]

There's a recent update from like hakf a day ago. The gift basked was swapped out from what Ewan wnated to send. Instead Allie picked out all the good stuff and swaped it for multiple bars of plain soap and a dirty underwear a couple of sizes to big. I think OP gets it now.

[@Passions5555]

What? Elaborate?! WTF ​@@natnuss98

[@cb9825]

Allie's personality seems to be a huge mess. I am surprised she has a long-term relationship that led to a marriage and even manages to have any friends. Usually people don't really want that kind of personality around them.

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

And that Ewan only offered to pay for the dry clean to 'smooth things over,' rather than because his shithead manic pixie dreamgirl wife 'accidentally' destroyed someone else's property is mind blowing.

[@rosemartasgaminghoard]

People with mental health issues can't have relationships I guess?

[@maniaclaugh]

Well, based on how both her husband and OP dealt with her craziness, her type of man is a spineless doormat.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

I was fully convinced that the beef between Ailie and Eliza was just a misunderstanding, two people that have very different personalities and quirks that just simply don’t gel well, and all the incidents that occurred we’re just unfortunate circumstances. But then I got to the part where Ailie told the wine spill story from her perspective and questioned how you spill wine on someone if you’re supposedly trying to get away from them. What kind of Looney Toons shit is this? It doesn’t make any sense. So yeah, there’s something off about Ailie an OP has been blind about it.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Or she was walking but then saw Eliza coming out so Ailie had to dig her heels, skid a few feet forward, and the inertia on the wine glass caused the wine to shoot out to drench Eliza.

[@thehawkseye3412]

Then instead of apologizing sincerely for the spill, she made an off hand joke and left. That part says OP is a moron or knows that his marriage is just a safe excuse to still hang out with the girl he still loves.

[@Myelllie]

I could see that but the fact that Aille hasn't apologized makes me more inclined to believe Eliza

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Story 1: If someone spilled red wine on my wedding dress I would literally throw hands

[@LunarisArts]

Yeah... why not add some other shades of red to the stain?

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

@@LunarisArts LMFAOOO GIRL 😭😭😭😭

[@Theaissu]

If I spilled wine on anyone, I would cry my eyes out, apologize nonstop and offer to clean it up. If I spilled wine on a BRIDE, all that and a hefty compensation. Ailie is STILL not apologizing, which tells me everything.

[@radish6740]

Marriage counseling a month after the wedding…. Why bother? Eliza would do best to walk tf away.

[@momo382844]

She deserves better, honestly.

[@petunijadu]

Agree. Ailie wants him to yearn for her forever, because it makes her feel good. She is a master manipulator and OP si actually quite willing. It is more important for him to be Ailie's fateful puppy, that a husband to his wife.

[@zerobolt9506]

Someone said there was an update where to make it short, OP & Allie aren't friends anymore after Allie's husband sent a gift basket that Allie swiped the stuff in to out with bars of soap & her husband's dirty underwear, OP got super mad at her & one or both ended the friendship, though I think Allie only did so that it was HER that ended the friendship & not OP as it sounded like that's what he was doing

[@skydivekrazy76]

Marriage counseling usually fails because it's begun far too late. Learning how to be a part of a healthy couple is overlooked so severely that you were comfortable saying something so ludicrously idiotic... I'm not saying you are an idiot, but the line of thinking and, more importantly, the culture that leads to it is beyond stupid.

[@haslina3018]

Story 2- here in Malaysia, it is very common to hear noises from the upstairs unit, even empty units eg. furniture being moved, marble falling and bouncing on the floor, pestle and mortar being used. The noises happen day and night. Some believe it is like tge building settling, pipes, etc. Some believe it is supernatural, djinns etc. I wonder how widespread is this phenomenon.

[@aubreymorgan9763]

its common elsewhere too, it just depends on the way the building is made (like wood will make more noise). I live in a small 2 story building and i can tell you I hear when everyone opens their door, I hear the main door, I hear everyone's dog barking, and people up and down the stairs. its just part of being in an apartment building (USA here)

[@leaflet1686]

It could also be a trick from the brain. My cat died on the 10th of January, which is like 3 weeks ago. I can still hear him snore, purr and move around. And sometimes I can hear him meowing for me.

[@aubreymorgan9763]

@@leaflet1686 yea my first thought really is there is something medically wrong with the neighbor. he could be having hallucinations, dementia maybe even, or incredibly sensitive to sound. i work from home and have my headset on all day to help drown out the noise and saving up hoping to move into a house in a year or two..i can't take much more of my own apartment noise but i can't blame neighbors for living their lives

[@DEVILS_advocate05]

How does guys like this get wives and girlfriends? So unaware of your significant other’s feelings and whatnots

[@zerobolt9506]

Well to be fair to OP here 1 the friend has that whatever problem, 2 his wife has had problems where she turned or perceived miner things as worse then they were that her friends & I think her said family 🤔 confirmed so taking that all into consideration & the possibility that both his wife and friend are both awkward types of people it's not that hard to see why he didn't think it was as bad as it is, also fyi from what someone else has said him and Allie aren't friends anymore, Allie really pissed him off with a gift basket full of soap & her husband's dirty underwear that was sent as an "I'm sorry" to his wife, he called her & told her off (I think cursing too) for it & she ended the friendship before he could or during when he was.

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

I had a student with dyspraxia once upon a time. From what I understand, the muscle tone became weak in times of being overwhelmed or distressed, not just whenever. I know everyone's conditions are different, but it just seems weird that his example is an all eyes on me moment of workday normalcy among people she theoretically knows, rather than a stressful situation.

[@habituallearner7680]

I predict OP will be shaking his head in befuddlement when Eliza (rightfully) serves him with divorce papers.

[@UsiUsiUsi]

About story 2: The guy spoke about dialysis. I have friend who has a donor kidney and she told me her mind goes gaga when her creatinine levels are too high. Maybe that is with the guy? He hears something tiny way out of proportion.

[@michelledalenaa]

I'm having flashbacks from my own time living in an apartment. The lady downstairs was always up in our business about the noises she perceived us to make, which is fair, because I could hear all of her noise and our upstairs neighbor's noise. We could hear ALL of each other's noises, which was somewhat embarrassing as I always knew when my upstair's neighbor was being intimate with her boyfriend, and I'm sure she knew about me and my husband, lol. Had to move to get some privacy.

[@katbird5872]

Obviously I can’t diagnose anything with Richard (S2) but my grandmother started to hear loud noises (auditory hallucinations) when she started suffering from dementia. She thought they were playing records loud. I very much agree with OP in how she feels uncomfortable and unsafe. She doesn’t seem to be getting any support. I’d get a camera with sound and put in in a living space (preferably one that can also see the front door) so she can record and use to show what Richard is doing.

[@Olivia-hx5co]

S1 I was already rolling my eyes halfway through, if oblivious was a person it would be this guy! Why would you keep hanging around with someone , and have more than just a professional working relationship with, who made your wife cry??! Lort

[@carolroberts4614]

Captain Oblivious!

[@nathansheldahl]

Or he could be on ASD or be the biggest Dunce in the history of mankind.

[@perlamedrano3637]

Story One: WHY ARE YOU DEFENDING YOUR FRIEND SO MUCH ON THE COMMENTS BUT WONT STAND UP WITH THE SAME FEVOR FOR YOUR WIFE?!?!

[@DK-tq3fy]

Cause he's in to her.

[@bunnyslippers191]

It could be someone living on one or both apartments next to Richard's, not OP. I was the upstairs "noisy" neighbor to the downstairs person until one night there was a terrible uproar, then as she started to leave her apartment to come bang on my door to complain for the 50th time(all had separate outside doors) she saw me drive up and park, then get out of my car and walk to the door to the stairs up to my apartment and realized it was the people living next to her, not me. They started blasting preaching on their stereo loud enough to rattle all the windows in the building at 7 am on a Sunday a few days later after she had talked to them about the noise. It was insanely loud and scared me awake and I didn't even live over them. That time she and I both went banging on their front door together, but they refused to answer the door. About a week later they moved out and a lovely family of 6 moved in who made less noise than the original family of three. The kids were really cute and polite, too, and the parents were very nice. We hardly ever heard anything coming from their apartment and they had 4 kids between about 5 and 12!

[@paulclay4229]

Story 2: i initially wondered if OP just didn't realise how much noise they made until the guy mentioned toilets flushing. Thats nuts

[@precious_toebeans]

Ailie's doubling, tripling down is all I needed to know. What a c word

[@ZeniaRose]

I've lived in the same apartment for 12 or 13 years now with my little sister. We never have guests over and our computers are generally kept on low volume and we almost never have the tv on. No complaints at all... until we got a new downstairs neighbour during covid who was working from home. Then hoooooboy! the complaints came rolling in. The kitchen stool makes a tiny squeak? Complaint. The cupboard door makes two quiet thumps as it closes? Complaint. They even tried saying we were making incredibly loud banging noises in the wee hours (midnight to 3am) that were waking their kid up and making him cry. But the thing is, we both get up around 5am to get to our jobs and go o bed around 8 or 9pm. It wasn't us, nor did any really loud banging wake either of us up. I have a 15lbs cat but she is a lazy SoB and sleeps in my bed 23 hours a day. I dunno what they were hearing but it sure as hell wasn't us. If you are gonna live in an apartment, expect normal living sounds. Sucks that you can't wfh in total silence, but that isn't my fault. I should be allowed to vacuum my carpets or make a smoothie during REGULAR NOISE HOURS!

[@kristelneedtoknow3207]

Even from the title and first line. I knew that op was the AH. He was friends with someone who he had a crush on her. I hope his wife leaves him as he doesn't respect her.

[@hiro4344]

If it's white wine it's an accident. If it's red wine it's deliberate. There is no in between. Srsly at this point if I get married there will be no red wine at my wedding, just white. I don't imagine I'll have jealous enemies but who knows?

[@tatkkyo9911]

Yup I love red wine at a wedding I drink it as far way from the bride as possible. If I'm within 5 meter of the bride my glass is white wine or empty.

[@samhayet4286]

While it won't be as obvious as red wine, won't white wine still leave a stain?

[@tatkkyo9911]

@samhayet4286 depends on the material but better Chace to repair

[@fuilli]

story 2: this guy needs to stop hitting his cracked pipe, god he's insane

[@brittalex42]

Who cares if it's intentional? If his wife has a problem with only ONE of his friends, so much so that she cries, how is that worth the friendship? Is it not worth ending to make your wife happy?

[@bonniehalf-elven]

The house next to me is a duplex. At one point, there was an elderly lady living downstairs, who was constantly complaining about the noise the upstairs neighbors were making. They were also doing the normal walking around, etc. She even called the cops on me once (I figured out it was her later). I was sitting on the couch watching a movie at a moderate volume - and I didn't have a subwoofer or anything like that. The cops knocked at the door and I said, "Did you hear anything before you knocked?" They said "No." I said, "I was watching a movie and paused it when you knocked." I was home alone. When her lease was up, she moved, so now she's someone else's problem.

[@Girl-Supersonicboy]

S2 neighbor sounds like he has Schizophrenia. A similar story popped up on reddit a while back, and the neighbor actually got help and apologized

[@damien678]

This same thing happened to a neighbour. One ended up having schizophrenia and the one living above him was being harassed by him. He got help after a big incident I got involved in happened and he came back medicated (clearly very different) and apologized to everyone.

[@animeandanimals]

The second story is unsettling. He's acting aggressively and keeping watch on her normal schedule. I would also be scared

[@meghanmckenzie5273]

Why does the first story update remind me so much of middle school lunchroom drama?

[@YoYo-gt5iq]

"I wasn't running to Eliza to spill wine on her. I was running away from her." Um, ok. Then how'd you hit her so directly with all that wine?

[@slothdance2020]

Story 2... My step father is in dialysis and was diagnosed with dementia before starting. since he started, his dementia has taken a dramatic turn for the worse. Sadly this is very common with dialysis patients. The process can dramatically speed up the symptoms. I am wondering if his poor neighbor has dementia.

[@Danie_pixie]

Omg that second story I relate. I once lived above someone, and they kept calling the office saying we were making tons of noise running around at night. He said it sounds like kids running around. We didn't have any and we were asleep at the time he said we were running around. One night he came pounding on our door. We were dead asleep. My husband ran out to answer the door. The guy scream that he was a cop and that we were making too much noise. We called the office the next day about it how he said he was a cop and i didn't believe him. After that we never heard from him again. And we never got an apartment above anyone ever again lol. I have noisy neighbors now and I'm not a bothered as some people get.

[@Betty_Virago]

I live in a downstairs flat, my neighbour upstairs is a nice guy. I don’t think people realise the sound that travels in some flats. He’s got a little dog, his tail wagging on the floor is loud, I can hear conversations between him and friends. He has ptsd (ex-military) and sometimes shouts at night. And yes, I can hear him use the toilet. It’s like our wee times are in sync and it’s weird when I’m sat on the loo and suddenly hear him right above my head peeing in his loo! Took me a long time to deal with it, but it’s something I now don’t worry about (though the peeing above my head still makes me laugh and worry in equal measure). I draw the line at power tools at 2am (he’s also a DIY nut) but it’s life in a flat. On the plus side, he’s great when I need something fixing.

[@sunflowerglo5492]

This man has every single excuse for his “friend”

[@chloecowan5869]

I cannot wait for the update to story one cause you just know there’s gonna be more once he talks to the friend again

[@amandastout1948]

Story 2: Old man may be getting dementia and hallucinating the noise, or the condition causing him to need dialysis is making him already not able to sleep well.

[@catte.]

Oh I was HOPING you would cover this story. I feel so bad for Eliza

[@zerobolt9506]

From what I've read here OP ended the friendship with Allie cause of another stunt she did with a gift basket her husband tried to send as an I'm sorry gift, he flipped his crap on her & he said she ended the friendship, but from what the other person write it sounds like she only did so that he couldn't which is what it sounded like he was doing

[@Gymtoshi]

Jesus, does this guy not know how to set boundaries? Smh

[@SpatialHeather]

Story 2, i wonder if neighbor is having auditory hallucinations? When I get them they're usually loud bang like sounds and its really hard to tell what direction they're coming from (duh because they're not actually coming from anywhere lol)

[@floraposteschild4184]

S1: are people really that clueless? If even ONE interaction caused my fiancee to cry, friend would be sat down and read the riot act. OP should not have gotten married, or even dated, until he sorted out his feelings for Ailie. Or get together with her again. You can make sarcastic remarks to one another, all day. After comments: oh, he'd be "really hurt" if Eliza was deliberately tormenting Ailie. Aww, poor thing. He just "doesn't get" so much.

[@tashahantz4643]

The apartment story gave me so many memories i didnt want back Ive had the people downstairs bang on my floors so hard my glass voss shook and i thought the floor would have a hole.

[@Denuhm]

Story 2, especially if you’re in the UK: RE talking to the police officer, he doesn’t want to do paperwork. They do not want to have to show up. They are telling you things indirectly to make you not push the burden onto them to come out and write reports. Do not, ever, make it easy for them not to do their job.

[@venusbleu5764]

*cries in thankful for such a great husband because WOW*

[@dianeessex300]

Story 2 OP should get one of those sleep recording apps and record the noise in her apartment that he's complaining about.

[@keijogirl]

Story 1: She did it on purpose. Hubs (Ewan) is a good guy for trying to smooth it over, but I think Aillie was being a see you next Tuesday.

[@AleksandarBradaric]

Story 1: Who needs enemies when you have a SO like OP...

[@refinery9co.139]

Rule of thumb.....Guys... if you have a female best friend and "true" BFF they would not behave this way. There will never be instances of your significant feeling this way EVER IF your BFF is REALLY your friend. Your SO if your priority. Period...and your so-called BFF will understand it, accept it AND promote it.

[@tabytastick]

Yes, officer, a crime has been committed. Richard is disturbing the peace after noise ordinance hours.

[@blakbeansoup7540]

and i just know he’s gonna be like “I DIDNT EVEN DO ANYTHING WRONG IM SO HEARTBROKEN” when he’s slapped with divorce papers in his face.

[@Peeges_]

Thanks for hanging out with us ❤ enjoy your weekend !

[@MarkNarrations]

You have a good one too!!

[@kieramaccourt8717]

Have a great weekend @Peeges_

[@Peeges_]

@@kieramaccourt8717 and you as well ! ✨❤️