How to stop being unconfident

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[@metamorphosis_77]

Confidence is not “they will like me.” Confidence is “I’ll be fine whether they will like me or not.”

[@joshmoxey.]

this

[@ozunu1437]

You could take this too far as well.

[@SomethingSomewhereJustOnce]

@@ozunu1437 Tbh that depends on the ability of a person to analyse oneself.

[@ahmedyousfi1466]

Confidence is " will i like them?

[@Koraxus]

@@ozunu1437 all in moderation, nuance and taking into account the situation at hand

[@Desticy]

I literally embraced the idea of "Whatever happens I will be fine anyways, might be a little uncomfortable in some situations but in the end its not like it matters" and it really is a blessing once you get use of it

[@raflyrivaldi4555]

It's basically "stoicism"

[@michelroy5473]

Another Spike Spiegle follower

[@Nycolas9929]

I am trying to implement this, but it's very difficult. In the future, I will get there

[@ldude3662]

"it is wot it is" this idea of being fine and accepting wotever has happened has help quite a lot. I still have many insecurities and many problems but it's not as bothering as before after accepting that a few things are out of my my hands and will fix themselves while sum cam be changed and i just need to put sum effort

[@tamie341]

@@ldude3662 such iz lyfe bruh.

[@MrAmansucks]

This man is building up an entire generation's self esteem single handedly

[@PinkPanther1402]

He cured me

[@Thomas-jg7lj]

TRUE

[@Mike-sj1jv]

I feel better now

[@A_Man_with_a_Dream]

Absolutely

[@tekknorat]

I'm not sure if one can build generation "single handedly" 😆 "Single handedly".... get it?! 🤣

[@NBTJacklyn]

I love the way you shot this Perfectly showed the idea

[@986manav]

shot really well

[@HeWhoGreetsWithFire]

Nice seeing you here Jacklyn ! Thinking about making some self development videos too ? 🤣

[@NBTJacklyn]

@@HeWhoGreetsWithFire hahah it’s a niche I definitely consume a lot 😎

[@IsaacJoshi]

Was expecting some "thanks I'm cured" type ideas, but this is actually very actionable

[@JK-uk3ih]

I was thinking the same thing. "I hope this isn't gonna be another just don't care what they think bullshit but isn't gonna tell me how." And the video delivered.

[@jonathon6933]

😂😂

[@tylerworley9734]

man all of his videos are like that! I love his channel

[@cdcm17]

Hahaha I knew I wasn't the only one who thought most of these type of videos tells you some bs solution and expect you to "wow, why didn't I think of that" your problems and boom, you're magically cured.

[@ryanharuo]

Whenever you're faced with a challenge that seems insurmountable or rejection that strikes deep to the core, just remember this powerful one word question: *So?* "They won't like me" *So?* "She said no to me" *So?* "What if I fail?" *So?* "What if I make a mistake?" *So?* Really think about it...how does worrying help in anyway? This one word offers liberation and awareness of just how much we really stretch things to an unnecessary degree. *So?* doesn't mean that you don't care, it means you don't stress over it bc you don't need to. In the absence of our judgement, everything is just fine. Remember, *worrying doesn't mean you care, it means you fear.* So smile! Now you're feeling the sleeping confidence within you begin to awaken as you remove the need to worry over. Be patient with yourself ❤

[@auntienyannyan]

Playing devil’s advocate here-rejection tends to hurt because you gave it your all and had hope but it wasn’t enough. So your cognitive bias shifts to: “Why try at all if it won’t work?” I tried so hard to remember her name and smile and be polite…she rejects me…so this must not be enough-I’m hurt because I put in so much effort for failure. Instead of saying So?, I feel like we should address this misleading bias and say, “My best didn’t get me this now, but as long as I feel at peace for doing my best, my best self will succeed”.

[@SwordWieldingDuck]

That only works if you get succeed sometimes. If it is failure after failure, it is a natural reaction to give up.

[@ryanharuo]

@@auntienyannyan you're so right on point. I love what you said "my best didn't get me this now, but as long as I feel at peace doing my best, my best self will succeed". Thank you for showing me this awareness. I don't often feel as if I'm doing my best. Many times I feel like giving up, like I don't have it in me to keep going, to keep living, but if I can hold on in knowing my best is in due time, then maybe this whole mess will begin to have a meaning to it all and I can be at peace.

[@EpicGamer-fl7fn]

i get what you're trying to say and to some extent you are right about it. However it's a lot more complicated than how you present it, and asking yourself that wont always solve these issues. the "they won't like me" and "she said no to me" are propably the worst ones to ask that question to in my opinion. And thats because it's not always so simple. Adding context to it shows that. say, you're not liked at your workplace, or hell even school. Its not really mentally healthy to be in these places when everyone around you hates your guts, no matter how confident you might be. Of course the good solution would be to switch to a different work/school but we know that its not really possible 100% of the time. The "she said no to me" isnt a good one either because if we are talking about a date with someone you knew for a few weeks or just someone you met through an app, then yeah this is a correct situation to ask yourself that, if you feel shit about it. But it might be a lot harder or not possible to do so, when its a person you were deeply connected with and knew for a longer while. Its hard to really accept that someone you thought liked you a lot and you cared about a lot just reject you when you finally ask them out I know that from my own experience, and i was more than confident at the time, yet for all this confidence it didnt help me to feel shit because of a rejection like that. Its painful as hell, and makes you feel like all that effort and caring was for nothing. asking myself "so?" only led to immense spiral of overthinking shit and misery. Again, i dont mean to discredit your message, but its not a "golden solution" or a cheat code to gain 100% alpha yogurt male confidence. its not applicable to every situation, in some cases it can even do your more bad than good, especially if you're not a confident person.

[@Wolf10media]

I also respond with "Okay." Thanks to Saitama from One Punch Man.

[@berkepaksoy8718]

Joey's production quality does NOT disappoint!

[@betterideas]

thank u :)

[@MohamedMohamed-qd2hc]

Real shit lmao

[@MohamedMohamed-qd2hc]

Well I'm sure better ideas appreciates the view lol

[@anonymousanonymous-tw3wm]

Ever !!

[@blackledhawk1801]

Questions from video you can write down: 1. What kind a person do I want to be in this world? 2. How can I live my life in a way I would be proud of? 3. What kind of habits does my ideal self have? 4. ... and if I was my ideal self - how would I interact with the people around me? 5. How would I spend my time when nobody is around? 6. Does my ideal self make mistakes sometimes? 7. If so - how does my ideal self respond to them? 8. Would I learn from them and encourage myself to do better? And I think there are some questions you need to answer to in order to compare: 1. What kind of person am I now? 2. How am I actually living my life at the present moment? 3. What kinds of habits do I have now? 4. How do I interact with people around me? 5. How do I spent my time when nobody is around? 6. Do I make mistakes sometimes? 7. If so - how do I respond to them? 8. Do I learn from them and encourage myself to do better? Enjoy

[@drewmaywheader5291]

Thanks i was just looking for Someone who did write down those questions, and finally found them

[@rositavisentin4323]

Thank you man! Be proud 'cause with your little work you are helping me in my way to be a better person!

[@december7541]

thank you so much !!

[@vericca775]

Thankyou! You're really helping 😁

[@catemcm]

Thank you!

[@madhotfry]

I cracked up when he groomed his hair, it's the best shot

[@amelialalllalala3914]

Honestly perfect 😂

[@mustafxildhibaane6026]

Indeed😂

[@zokuse4083]

Admit it his hair looks so smooth

[@madhotfry]

Zokuse And super shiny, too

[@classicmustang5065]

But his subconscious knows there is no hair, so it's telling him it's disingenuous and thus not being himself.

[@williwurst187]

normal people: how to become confident Joey: *how to stop being unconfident* 😂

[@bashdota1553]

IMO it's because "becoming something" sounds like an action one should start doing but "stopping an action" is just relaxing. I love this guy :D

[@xandiloquencebizarre]

me: how to discontinue diffidence

[@amelialalllalala3914]

@@xandiloquencebizarre 😂I like this

[@roshaniranabhat3441]

Wait his name is Joey ..!

[@betterideas]

It's the big brain algorithm strat

[@alexdelsocorro781]

Confidence is all about character building. Doing something outside your comfort zone, trying new things, putting yourself out there and doing something physically demanding have been my go to confidence building exercise. Particularly martial arts, which is the best form of character building in my opinion.

[@blockmaster156]

0:20 mmmmmm my The only way I could do this was if you

[@officialkombo]

violence. now thats good character building

[@SnackaJax]

@@officialkombo Martial arts are primarily about defense, certainly not about violence

[@RealJamieBarclay]

Confidence doesn't come from being the best at everything. It comes from being ok with your short comings, and being ok with failure. You aren't confident when you ask someone out because you know they'll say yes, you become confident when you ask someone out if you're ok with them saying no.

[@Pigborg]

But then you don’t really care about the person youre asking out, so you need to care about the outcome, or theres no point in doing it.

[@RealJamieBarclay]

@@Pigborg You still technically care about the outcome, because you want them to say yes, but you don't need them to. You gain confidence by being ok with them saying no, because you know that in that case it just wasn't meant to be, and you'll find someone better for you, who appreciates you for who you are. Hope this makes sense.

[@rubenssiomusic]

Exactly! It's not like you WANT them to say 'no'... You do want them to say 'yes', but you're ok IF they say 'no' ;)

[@RyRobio]

i approve this message

[@mnovab3101]

This mindset you just wrote down jamie, i've imagined it, and it feels like this is something that would work for me. Thank you for sharing 👀

[@leonielisaleitner2505]

i genuinely think that your confident self is always there, always in reach. you don’t have to build self-confidence, because you already have it since birth, it’s just being hidden under many subconscious beliefs or fears that you have developed over time. so all you have to do is get past these limitations and there it will be! confidence will be all yours!

[@kristianleonard7625]

Literally been wondering where my confidence has gone the last few weeks and here is this man again reading my mind

[@adityakumawat8112]

Fucking same! I woke up and felt oh man I feel really shitty, then I saw his video in my feed.

[@subhambiswas8374]

Same

[@redeemingmemes901]

I've been saying to myself recently a lot "unapologetic". Meaning, your social interactions are not mistakes and you do not need to be ashamed of them unless you honestly realize you messed up and hurt someone else. Otherwise, you are who you are and you have every right to exude self confidence and character as the ideal confident guy. You don't need to hide your positive self esteem so to speak, which is something I had never realized I struggled with until recently.

[@ICEcoldJT]

Things that kill confidence: - Social inhibition - Negative thinking - Overthinking and doubting past actions - Caring too much about what other people think - Focusing on your insecurities instead of strengths

[@richardtbohnen5070]

- Being rejected all the time

[@cornevanerk9981]

@@richardtbohnen5070 that's good though, rather have them reject you, then you waste your time and energy on them :) positive thinking my friend

[@camerondavis9055]

Damn this feels like a personal attack. You just listed all my problems. It feels like I have negative confidence a lot

[@georider]

-brain surgery of one's left cerebellum

[@keemoify]

I have all those. Its just sad really.

[@tylerworley9734]

0:45 this was hilarious! 😭😭 the look of pain in your eyes had me dying

[@nonames1572]

but he looks attractive and handsome person though i am a boy(straight), dont know about girls' opinions...

[@AhmetKaan]

*"You will always have a good excuse to start later, just don't listen to yourself."*

[@OhCadinho]

thank you

[@MonikaSharma-lu8ut]

But I really believe I will do it tomorrow

[@deem1322]

"And this what confidence feels like, is to be UNAPOLOGETICALLY YOU". This is very deep and touched me so much.

[@Filya-chan]

Plot twist: he really has a twin-brother and that’s why he is able to produce so many videos and be more efficient than an average person.

[@Jimmyeatshrimp]

well that explains how he could pass the notebook to himself

[@nexusshadowfax9687]

And one of them is confident, one is not

[@ChristianProtossDragoon]

😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Its.Me007]

many videos !!! one video per month :) but goood quality (y)

[@nonZensically]

"to be unapologetically you" really hit the nail on the head for me

[@samuelclearman6035]

I studied my behavior for years, and I always got to the same conclusion : I can be so confident to people around me, the thing is that once my brain caughts me acting confident a terrible sense of fakeness voids my thoughts and leaves me cold and scared untill I start acting weird and chuckly 😐😐😐 self destruction is a thing.

[@aurora_boketto7746]

Ya it's like we don't believe we deserve to be confident. With time this fades tho as we get a better understanding in who we truly are. Our subconscious starts to believe that this confidence is natural. Just takes damn long lol

[@aurora_boketto7746]

@@samuelclearman6035 comfort = confidence. Love that! It does suck that as we grow the things that make us confident change so having a core belief that can never die is important. But remember comfort can change to! xD Its definitely a tuff one to nail down. But I think you're right. As long as we have a deep sense of comfort within ourselves we can truly be happy with who we are

[@jimwalsh2001]

Confidence is a function of having something to offer the world.

[@GoldenMushroom64]

Bingo

[@oscardasilva971]

No it's not, there are a lot of successful people that achieve a lot in this world but still struggle with low self Esteem issues, confidence is about accepting yourself and not giving a F about what other people think of you.

[@olliebaksa3309]

Confidence comes from understanding one’s own worth, and that takes a long time to learn. But once you find it, you become a different man. Another great video man, keep it up.

Being confident is overrated anyways. Being absolutely authentic with yourself and others is way more courageous and makes you feel much better about yourself because you're being true. Lying to others is part of what got you to feel so worthless.

[@Rem-fg2yd]

@ “confidence is overrated” Lmfao it deserved every praise it gets man

@@Rem-fg2yd ​ depends on what you mean by confidence. The confidence alluded to by most people is outwards and external confidence, not actual confidence. Being comfortable being yourself leads to natural confidence instead of running an anxious facade of being comfortable. True confidence is being able to appear as yourself.

[@ChaseBlue20020]

Or woman

[@GoldenMushroom64]

@ thank you for this comment.

[@hypermomentary]

the scene when you spotted your own subconscious and just said ' wassup ' . i really felt that .

[@MindsettoMastery]

Authentic confidence is not something that you "step up" to. It's something that you relax into. It's about being genuinely comfortable in your own skin and with all that you lack. 💫

[@L4gordon]

Exactly. In other words, at some point you have to let go of worrying what other people think. At the end of the day, it won't matter at all.

Or... Work the courage up for. If fear is holding you back, it takes courage and exposure. You don't simply "relax" into it if there's a reason you have such difficulties with being authentically yourself..

@@L4gordon that's lying to yourself. Of course it matters. Not as much as we make it out to be in our heads. But it does matter. We're social animals that have status from biological to sociological and cultural levels..

[@L4gordon]

@ What I meant was instead of constantly investing outwards and thinking how other people percieve you, spend more time investing into yourself, and self-reflect. If you are not striving for turning it around, you will ultimately be a prisoner of others.

[@AHuve]

I Love this!

[@sma11zstudioz67]

This man is spitting straight facts. I’m 23 years old now, of course I still have much to learn in life but I gotta say, I feel like I went from the age of like 15 to 60 within just the last year. I feel like I’ve matured and have come to understand life and the key to happiness so much more when before I was totally lost and clueless. Still have plenty of things to work on myself and a lot more to learn like I said, but like he said, and as cliche as it sounds, you have to truly be yourself and accept who you are. Whenever you force shit, it never works out and people see right through your bullshit as well as you being upset with yourself that you’re being this fake person forcing yourself to always talk cuz silence makes you uncomfortable, or trying to make a joke everytime you open your mouth because you feel like you have to entertain people. That’s how I used to be for so long, and just recently I finally said fuck all that and naturally I began to improve my social life so much more and I would be able to actually make funny jokes every now and then naturally than make all these forced cringey jokes. Idk if anyone relates and I’m kinda jumping all over the place but there’s just too much to cover how this broad understanding of life works. I’ve just been so much happier than I’ve ever been and finally feel at peace with myself, whereas for years I was just beyond miserable and just such a depressed negative person that nobody wanted to be around. I would always question and Google, why am I treated differently than others, why am I picked on in every group of people I hang with, why does nobody respect me, and so on and so forth. The way I carried myself and my body language screamed how insecure and unconfident I was, and I still am a little, but I’ve learned to just stand up for myself more, represent myself in a much more respectable way, and just appear more secure and confident around others and it def showed results.

[@999loaderu]

Feeling of self confidence: "It´s to be unapologetically YOU in the presence of others or while you are alone. It just doesn´t really matter. You are YOU no matter the circumstances."

Authenticity Amen.

[@RomkaPoigral]

Thanks, friend.

[@richardtbohnen5070]

what if you're shy?

[@johnfran3218]

When things were at their very worst: 2 Suns, Cross in the sky, 2 comets will collide = don`t be afraid - repent, accept Lord`s Hand of Mercy. Scientists will say it was a global illusion. Beware - Jesus will never walk in flesh again. After WW3 - rise of the “ man of peace“ from the East = Antichrist - the most powerful, popular, charismatic and influential leader of all time. Many miracles will be attributed to him. He will imitate Jesus in every conceivable way. Don`t trust „pope“ Francis = the False Prophet - will seem to rise from the dead - will unite all Christian Churches and all Religions as one. One World Religion = the seat of the Antichrist. Benedict XVI is the last true pope - will be accused of a crime of which he is totally innocent. "Many events, including ecological upheavals, wars, the schism in My Church on Earth, the dictatorships in each of your nations - bound as one, at its very core - will all take place at the same time." "Arab uprising will spark global unrest - Italy will trigger fall out" The Book of Truth.

[@losiloso8178]

@@richardtbohnen5070 its not about being free and spontaneous or sth like that. You have to find that perfect spot where current you and ideal you meets. At that point you being shy doesn’t matter anymore is what i got from this video.

[@vtheory7531]

I think it's also important to consider that confidence comes from experience, especially experience from overcoming struggles. People who have performed a job for a few years would usually have gone through a few hard projects and survived, and are now more confident in dealing with similar situations. So don't be afraid to struggle, and focus on overcoming them. The experience you gain will add to your confidence

[@rgex570]

The subconscious character lurking in the shadows while keeping notes was genius :) Your acting is getting good!

[@K-xor]

This actually makes a lot of sense. If self-confidence is by definition thinking positively about yourself, you have to do things that make you think good about yourself. Just like with other people. There's no "because I myself am the same entity, I can be negligent about what I see about myself". No, just like with other people, you have to build a good concept of yourself to yourself.

[@SaifAlikhan-wy1zs]

Confidence is known as SELF EFFICACY in sports psychology. Self efficacy = The belief that one has the necessary skills or abilities need to perform a task or execute a task.

[@SaifAlikhan-wy1zs]

Confidence is skill based For example if your basketball skills are good then your confidence in basketball will be stable. But that doesn't mean your confidence will be stable in cooking skills if your cooking skills are not good.

[@SadisticKillerXx]

@@SaifAlikhan-wy1zs Yes, or socially. I know people that is very capable and good in their field but suck big time socially, 0 confidence in human interactions. I'm not even an expert in my field, but even if I was I wouldn't be confident socially unless I practice social skills.

[@DeathRunner7564]

I feel like this is one of the most valuable videos you’ve made, it’s not just for confidence, it’s helping you understand yourself more and hoping you find peace within yourself excepting the good and bad parts about yourself that everyone has and can’t get rid of

[@zerg230]

Literally was just thinking about this topic. Then your video appeared writing: 1 minute ago. Really feels unreal, not going to lie.

[@GMC997]

Happend to me aswell. And also in the past with other of his videos. Like TF?

[@herbertlandschmid3012]

Tip for confidenve boost: stop having girls hairstyle

[@Ihavemadeit999]

@@herbertlandschmid3012 no. long hair is nice and not a girly thing.

[@amineboussettine3774]

@@Ihavemadeit999 yes it is a girly thing and just makes u look gay and that’s bad

[@herbertlandschmid3012]

@@Ihavemadeit999 May be nice and not girly but wont get you the girlies

[@fatasscom]

You should write a book called “better ideas” with all the lessons you have put in your videos. It would definitely be a best seller.

[@archivedaccount2049]

this is a great idea

[@dedrik1461]

@@archivedaccount2049 you might even say it's... Better. I'll see myself out 🙇🏾‍♂️

[@ReVDeatH]

I would buy that book

[@raimibuki4234]

This technique is really the only one that has helped me grow in self-confidence, and I come back to it whenever I’m feeling low again. Consciously living out your own values is a game changer guys. Love this channel!

[@MaManOfficial]

4:08 Please give Joey some admiration for these editing skills, it's so good!

[@DanDan-yy5bo]

I‘m to be quite honest really confident in myself and very extroverted, that‘s the way I‘ve just always been and i can assure everyone that being confident always helped me more than it hurt me. Two of my best friends are actually the complete opposite, pretty introverted people, so i know you can‘t change that so easily. One thing that takes any fear out of me when I‘m around people is that to them I may be just a tiny spec in a huge pile of social relations, just as they are to me. Always analyze the people sitting in front of you and make a list in your head which includes things you can and things you can‘t say. And if the things you can say actually are the same as the things you want to say, you can stop behaving adapted to their personality and just start being yourself. I know all of this sounds weird and that‘s just the way i act in such situations, but maybe this was helpful to some xD

[@TheDhammaHub]

Once you really _know_ that you behave blamelessly, your outer composure will reflect that. The Buddha named "confidence before assemblies of people" as a major benefit of moral behaviour

[@pixelstudy9246]

I don't know why but almost every time I watch your videos I tear up a bit and can't help but be excited to change myself and the future. Thank you for showing me light

[@QuanTheAlchemist]

Confidence is one of the most attractive traits a person can have.

[@MrMoeGaming]

I've realized that the main antagonist within myself, that holds me back, is in fact, low confidence. It really do be holding me back from racing after those things I really want to do, learn and achieve. And in the process it just puts me at a stand-still in which I just go about like a clock, ever really reaching the goals and the growth I want. It's tough.

[@DemetriPanici]

*”However difficult life may seem, there is always something you can do and succeed at.” - Stephen Hawking*

[@Alex-wt7dp]

I love that the bleep at 3:54 served absolutely no purpose Great insight tho, thank u for the vid nonetheless

[@drschwandi3687]

Confidence is the result of a lack of shame. As long as you are ashamed of something about yourself you will never be truly confident.

[@True38]

No shame in my game ;-)

[@Digitalman271]

I feel like you deserve a lot more exposure. The production quality and quality of the actual material and ideas presented in these videos is getting insane. Like I feel like the only reason your channel hasn't exploded is because your videos are actually realistic, helpful, and actionable in contrast to more "10 Steps" clickbait. Good luck dude!

[@TommyGregory13]

Being 'confident' to others is only valuable if you are confident in yourself.

[@randomr-hit5502]

I feel like it was fate that I ran into this channel. I’ve been wondering if I’ve gone bipolar, if my weird behavior has resulted in me closing myself off against other people. I lost some friends because I never truly opened up to them, never properly communicated with them, always repeated my weird behavior patterns around them where I didn’t give them my focus and attention. I fear I’ll never have friends as real and honest as they were but life will end up going on for me regardless. I believe that this resulted from me being in complete chaotic war with my own subconscious and mind. Always doubting if im doing enough with my life, always wondering if im even a good person or not, always wondering where I screwed up to end up driving myself to loneliness and the social dilemma im in. Always wondering if these friends were going to stick around in the long run and actually benefit me career wise in any way. I think what this video taught me is that even if my situation is slightly different or similar to everyone else’s, I don’t seem to be the only one at war with my own subconscious. At the very least, I feel less alone now about my situation.

[@randomr-hit5502]

I also find it ironic how I’m able to open up here on some KZbin comment section to a video I find but I’m a frozen stick when it comes to opening up to actual people face to face

[@aleksandrzhylinskiy4304]

What actually helped me through my cognitive therapy, is to ask, what do I actually value ? What is success to me ? What is good ? and what is bad ? Am I good or bad ? Or if there are any reasons to put labels on myself, just like on the others ? Why do I put labels ? Does it really make me feel worthy ? And you know what, I realised, that success to me, is to understand myself and to feel myself. Intellect will solve everything else. Great video, as always.

[@Spgg336]

It’s so weird and also makes sense getting know ourselves. I didn’t know keeping the promises to yourself matters this much. As much as the fun in the editing, very inspiring video thank you!

[@motivationbaychannel6891]

You have it. You have what you need to achieve all of your goals. It's time to stop looking for what you don't have, and put your full attention on what you do have. It's time to bring out the best version of yourself, so that everyone around you can grow too.⁣ All the best fam

[@IsaacJoshi]

True confidence isn't thinking more of yourself, it's thinking about yourself less

[@nicolerenee7]

Isn’t this saying about “true humility” as opposed to “confidence”

[@IsaacJoshi]

@@nicolerenee7 I think you are right XD, sort of works for confidence also. But not as well

[@hoccopus2719]

If you wanna change your subconscious mind try listening to subliminals. There are a plenty of them in youtube. So basically how it works is in that video there are plenty of affirmations but in a really low volume so that you can't consciously hear it, but your subconscious can. And If you believe it works then it will eventualy become your reality. I suggest you do a research on it because a lot of people say it works for them and subliminals can even change your physical appearance which is mindblowing.

[@Skelbiner]

Subliminals and binaural beats are a true life hack. I've been listening to them for 4 years. They have changed my life for the better drastically

[@hoccopus2719]

@@Skelbiner YES I just found it recently and I'm so grateful :)

[@Skelbiner]

@@hoccopus2719 Yes It's a blessing

[@aarongunawardena9111]

Questions from 4:25 What kind of person do I want to be in this world? How can I live my life in a way that I would be proud of? What kind of habits does my ideal self have? And if I was my ideal self… How would I interact with the people around me? How would I spend my time when nobody is around? Does my ideal self make mistakes sometimes? If so… How does my ideal self respond to the mistakes I make? Would I learn from them and encourage myself to do better?

[@Adam-xf8in]

You're the real MVP, thanks for this.

[@AryaStark47]

You sir, a good person thank you

[@TheGaldren]

Thanks! Was gonna write them up myself, but you saved me a couple of minutes!

[@hannahzwic5975]

The edits made me laugh but I liked them In the same breath. Your insights aNo the way you express things I really resonated with me.

[@OliverTheBandit]

Okay dude so, this is the first (and probably last) video I ever comment on youtube. Thanks for creating this masterpiece, perfectly balancing (very) humouristic elements and applicable knowledge bombs. I was enlightened on how to live my life. Keep helping people. Thanks again !!!!!!!

[@bakedchickpea]

Hi Oliver, I hope everything is going okay! I hope to see your comment in one of his future videos soon.

[@betterideas]

Thanks fro stopping by Oliver! Not sure what you mean by “and probably last” but I hope you’re doing okay. Hang in there man. You’re stronger and more capable than you think. Hope to see you around here for the next video

[@OliverTheBandit]

@@betterideas Sorry guys, I realise it could be interpreted in a very dark way, however I just meant that I probably won't bother commenting on other videos. This one just really moved me, thats all

[@betterideas]

@@OliverTheBandit Glad to see you're in a better place than I originally thought, but my point still stands!! You are indeed stronger and more capable than you think, and I do indeed hope to see you around for the next video!! (even if you don't comment haha)

[@marshingo5262]

@@betterideas I appreciate the fact that you took the time to check in on this person. Thanks for everything you do to help people.

[@Alexdanpon]

what a great video. it is so true that sometimes when people are around, i will pretend to be more attentive, talkative and confident. but at the bottom of my heart i know it is fake . it actually happened just today when i was visiting one of my friend and he introduced his colleagues to me. but i try my best to be the same me with people around or just me alone. I try to let people see the real me instead of a fake one. if I think real me is not good enough,I try to improve myself.

[@DemetriosLevi]

My dude, this one was so...fun! Production quality equal with the message. That POV balcony shot and the subconscious first reveal was perfect! Bravo, my bro

[@betterideas]

Ayyyyy thanks bro 🙏 glad you enjoyed

[@miniwarriorsdo]

As someone once said, "self hate is one of the greatest interpretations for self love, you love yourself so much that you are angry at yourself and you want to change"

[@KhannaSparsh]

Everytime I m in the trouble this channel immediately comes up with a solution, don't who why this is so synchronised.

[@williamkiley2328]

I love the duality of the narrative scenario. The lighting says it all.

[@Es-qh8kz]

I was almost crying laughing when u waved at ur subconcious 😂. But on a serious note. I dont know if u realize it. But you actually made that whole spiritual thing about “finding urself” understandable and measureable. While a lot of spiritual/motivational speakers focus on certain aspects of the psychology (which doesnt solve the root cause), you directly addressed the root cause by going to the fundamentals. And u also gave a fool proof understandable guide. U actually said what we all know deep inside. But with a step by step plan! Do u even realize how valuable this info is? It seems like u are figuring out psychology and life more and more day by day and Im here for it. I will definitely try ur method. Its not easy but I am sure it will help with this process called life.

[@betterideas]

Thanks so much Esra. Glad you got something out of it! 🙏

[@energy_waves]

Be Consistent. A Diamond has to be structured in a congruent way all the way throughout, in order for the light to be able to sparkle through.

[@DavidMasson90]

You nailed it when you said we are a fly on the wall of our own lives. I put way too much pressure on myself. Once I was able to disconnect from myself and my ego, my confidence shot through the roof.

[@tapsubscribe]

what did he mean when he said that "we are a fly on the wall of our own lives."?

[@animallover14432]

Leaving the sponsors at the end of the video!!! Thank you so much 🙌🏼

[@BattleOfficial_]

The quality you put into you're videos is insane, glad I found you a while back! 🔥

[@inkedsights4929]

Questions to ask yourself: - What kind of person do I want to be in this world ? - How can I live my life in a way that I would be proud of ? - What kind of habits does my ideal self have ? - If I was my ideal self, how would I interact with the people around me ? - How would I spend my time when nobody is around ? - Does my ideal self make mistakes sometimes ? - If so how does my ideal self respond to them ? - Would I learn from them and encourage myself ?

[@dual_csgo]

Thanks

[@douglasgaunt537]

Define ideal self

[@BadMusicCovers]

Seeing this mans comb his BALD HEAD has changed my life forever.

[@josecucoibarra]

I just got out of a relationship with a girl I met at a summer job that ended up turning into a full time job. During this time I created a false version of myself to make myself seem more like able, and it worked. I had the best time of my life last year , and it came to a crashing end when my cheating was revealed. It’s something no one (except my true friends who’ve known me for years)saw coming. I have NEVER been comfortable with being alone , never been true to myself and never set ANY standards for myself. This video speaks the truth. Being alone and learning to enjoy one’s company is hard , its uncomfortable but creating the best version of yourself must be amazing and I can’t wait. I’m on the road to bettering myself now.

[@johnderpins7161]

The black hooded sub conscious was accurate. I’m gonna start dapping up my sub conscious every morning 🤜🤛

[@hypochondr1ac]

"don't choose miserable comfort over progress"

[@nnair7901]

I love this guy , everytime I see his videos I gain a whole new perspective to things. Wow !

[@maudcorstens7237]

Depicting our subconscious as an actual person is so powerful, thank you for this message!

[@ronalddancaliva883]

Being confident is just a mindset how you make your mind at ease in times of dilemma quite the same as you're in the gym the more you lift much heavier you get used to it, in a nutshell confidence is practiced along the way in different aspect of life

[@jeffreybuchholz9869]

“Unapologetically you.” Brilliant.

[@gurudra]

A deep understanding of one's true self, brings confidence of a different level🙏

[@rage3475]

Agree

[@nave_writes]

That smooth background music doesn't stop me to watch his videos, it feels kind of addictive. What a algorithm strat he uses. Love this guy!

[@bernarddecorail6112]

Thanks Joey. I needed this. I've had some pretty good life habits for about two years now, and since early september, I moved in with some old friends for a month, and now those habits are all gone : my sleep schedule is fucked, I haven't worked out in ages, and I went back to smoking weed regularly after years of quitting. And I'm not blaming anybody but myself, because I made all those choices. And now I feel like human garbage. Your video really hit home and inspired me to turn things around. Thanks again for helping us all 👌

[@scootie5020]

I feel like I don't NEED the confirmation or approval from my peers, but im just curious to know from a third person pov who I am, how I look, my energy etc. cause I feel like people don't compliment each other as much as they once used to. I don't want to know others' opinions of me for selfish reasons, but simply for insight and to be able to analyze what they say and see, and how much I agree/disagree with to better myself. idk am I trippin?

[@qhawekazi]

no your not tripping , i am also as curious

[@AlexRaptakis]

I really liked the idea of representing the subconscious as someone who is constantly - not just looking, but STARING at you.

[@stephen-finance]

Hey man, I think your subconscious robbed my house last week! 😂

[@lillywu5854]

I think confidence begins by treating yourself humanely - understanding that we are all imperfect, and that no matter how hard we try, we will mess up, and that's inevitable. Get up again, dust yourself off, and know that it'll all be ok. Just keep at it. And all the while treating others with the same kind of compassion. I'm comfortable with myself and have been told I come across very confident. And I know it's because I'm not trying to please anyone or trying to meet the expectations of others. I'm just trying to be the best version of myself everyday, while understanding that there will be moments when I will feel anxious, insecure, doubt myself, say something stupid or interpreted as rude, or flat out fuck up. And those moments don't shake me to the core because I love myself enough to treat myself as the imperfect human that I am, with forgiveness and compassion, and knowing I will do better next time.

[@csorgotom]

4:01 I lowkey thought that you're gonna plug some ad from skillshare or audible like: Then a great way to do that is with the help of today's sponsor...

[@Nturner822]

You’ll always see through your own bullshit…being honest and humble with yourself is always good

[@Alex-ns6hj]

This part of the video also explains why I sometimes feel that I'm not alone... 2:26

[@itzback8265]

I believe the main thing is to be assertive while talking, walking, sharing your ideas, etc. It took me one year to put this studying into practice.

[@williamjesse3148]

I think imagining myself in a hoodie judging my every move will help a lot thank you 😂👍 but in all seriousness I'll legitimately try to match my values with my behaviors, never considered how much it has to do with self confidence. Great video!

[@hikingwiththeshackletons]

I lack self confidence, but that doesn’t stop me having an attitude of ‘I really couldn’t care less what people think about me’ I’m not here to be liked or be popular. I conduct myself in a manner of being polite, decent, respectful, honest, take care of my family & that is all I need.

[@CaseyBurnsInvesting]

Confidence comes from believing in the past achievements of the person you’re being confident in. That’s the same key to self confidence.

[@MasteryOrder]

Real confidence is not built by reading quotes and repeating slogans in the mirror while forcing your shoulders back and correcting your posture. While a positive and optimistic mindset can get you at the starting line, once you are in the arena and you have to perform, the only source of confidence will be the skill and competence that you possess to successfully execute the task at hand. The truest source of confidence is mastery. The attainment of full control of some domain. Develop your confidence through mastery and the world will open up to you. Build your skills and observe how your confidence will never depend on other people’s opinions anymore and nobody can ever take that away from you. All the best to you, comments reader!

[@stephen-finance]

Love the great perspective and actionable advice! Another fantastic video!

[@yourfather3160]

One of my ultimate goals in life is to be able to be my full self in any situation no matter where it is or who’s there-just being my full unrestrained self 24/7.

[@Dray.TheChosen1]

When you step outside of yourself to please others, you lose the path back to yourself. Never lose sight of who you are. 🙏🏽💙💫

[@gorillaman283]

I think this video just changed my life. This is an incredible tip

[@ChaoticSapiens]

Thanks Joey. I had a really bad struggle with this issue. I ruined my whole weekend because of it. Your video was just what I needed. Now I understand how to sort things out and regain my confidence. You have a big point there, Confidence is more like how to be the ideal self, not what seems ideal.

[@matthewfittro8069]

How in the world did you start your KZbin channel off so confidently?? I was watching your really early videos and other than the difference in video quality (b-roll or lack there of, worse gear, etc) they were still incredible!! You didn't seem nervous on camera at all and you still had humor threaded throughout the videos.

[@ironside915]

I’m confident that this is the earliest one can be. Thanks Joey for your advice, it really helped me even before watching the video.

[@aezakmi354]

that's right because judging other people is reflection of our weakness, it's like mirror we see our weak spots in other people

[@JioSleepYT]

While I understand the purpose of this method, I have one question. When answering the questions we're meant to show a friend, wouldn't we unconsciously make them more "realistic" (less genuine) because we know we're going to show them to a friend?

[@uninstaller2860]

I don't think that's less genuine. We just need to translate the ideas into the real world. You can come up with fantastical ideas in your head, but putting them to use, you need to be realistic. The function of brainstorming, in this case with yourself, is to boil it down to an idea that can be fulfilled. Telling your friend what you've come up with will ground you back to earth. All this is genuine, the ideal that you have in your head might function as a leading star to your goal. Have your feet on the ground and your gaze at the sky.

[@playthora6515]

Competence breeds confidence