BIGGEST RED FLAG in your relationship

[@sadiapsychology]

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[@WilliamNordeste]

A rare gem.

[@WilliamNordeste]

Stay humble in the Creators arms.

[@shireenv413]

dont waste your money its the same shit she says in all the podcasts nothing different nothing new

[@rogerward3390]

Anyone else feel that he keeps on talking over her

[@SairaSabir1443AH]

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[@jeswmuke]

This is amazing. My favorites among what you said - 1. Illusion of options (because of social media) 2. Woman replaces her requirement of validation from her man to "Likes" and "comments" on social media. And Man replaces woman to pornography. It's brilliant.

[@dsstudio76]

It’s shallow and desilusional

[@imperfectillustration6261]

I think the biggest issue is that most of us shouldn’t get into relationships so quickly. We need to vet more carefully. I submit that most of those 75 percent of relationships that fail should never have been established in the first place…

[@AhmedSmith-r9m]

The spiritual and philosophical vacuum of western colonial civilization which dictates the media has manifested its results. The stage is set for a more holistic and complete belief and culture to gift its wisdom upon our empty purposeless lives.

[@WilliamNordeste]

That is a great point to make.

[@Princess15732]

I think almost 95%. I see my friends and girls around me getting into relationships they should've never but they're either naive or have some intention behind it.

[@imperfectillustration6261]

@@WilliamNordeste Indeed. I’m guilty of getting into my last relationship when I knew there were a few red flags in the beginning that I overlooked. Of course the “relationship” ended 4 months later because of those very same red flags. Strangely enough I still consider that experience as a success, because I learned to trust myself even more now going forward. If during the dating phase there are red flags that can’t be explained reasonably then I’m out. No question…

[@blueheaven4838]

@imperfectillustration...You don't know how right you are

[@atomicgeisha]

I feel dating apps are the worst way to meet someone new. Get a hobby and meet people that way.

[@wendythabisomvula9180]

Trauma plays a role in your new relationship. We enter with past traumas😢....healing & being whole is key before entering a new relationship 😊

[@FreeSoul132]

True well said

[@SethNobrega]

Preach!!!

[@janes3170]

The illusion of options....very spot on I think.

[@georgemubanga1878]

If you never heal from what hurt you, you'll bleed on the people who didn't cut you.

[@shadiap]

Wow! That was deep !

[@JohnDoe-qq8et]

What is the technique for healing? I always hear the word and that its necessary but how do you employ tools to heal?

[@ireefree2024]

So on point ❤

[@ireefree2024]

​@@JohnDoe-qq8et Therapy is the key. Go through all the bad experiences and close the wounds through forgiveness, mostly on yourself. Sometimes learn to forgive the people who hurt you or at least process them.

[@tptarh]

Is it a red flag when people you bleed on don’t feel compassion?

[@hanooi7450]

So like the old Sun Tzu quote, "Know thy self, Know thy foe, and you will be successful in every battle. Know neither and you will be in constant danger."

[@northshorelight35]

The biggest issue is personal insecurities that sabotage the relationship. I ticked off all the boxes for a person but he sabotaged the relationship because he didn't feel that he could measure up. He then entered a long-term relationship with an abusive woman who he put up with for almost a decade. The entire time he kept his options opened, too. He stayed with this woman because he was getting just enough of everything from her, sex, companionship, part-time family, etc. but he never wanted to marry her and he knew that whatever she did would never hurt him. This man had a lot of emotional trauma from his first relationship with an ex who cheated on him repeatedly. Then he he was also in a marriage with a physically abusive woman. I finally realized that he was too broken to know how to be in a healthy relationship with a healthy person.

[@melmel7011]

The healthy person must be you, right? I think not. The moment you think you are healthy, you actually not healthy. Everyone, I mean everyone has flaws and have some toxic traits.

[@rogerward3390]

Another red flag, blaming the other person and taking no responsibility, like you just did there! Read your message again

[@rogerward3390]

Secondly marriage isn't what it was 30 years ago. Divorce rares are 60%..90% initiated by women...marriage doesn't make u happy..the honeymoon period ends quickly....only difference is he'll loose half his stuff

[@GBU61]

She brings up a good point about understanding our flaws and recognizing how that will affect our partner. Most people are damaged from childhood because our parents are human and can not meet our needs. If we would admit our flaws and look for someone who compliments us, our odds increase. If we are lucky, maybe 10% of the opposite gender is what we really need to be happy.

[@blueheaven4838]

​@@rogerward3390💯

[@redvinekilla]

I agree with you 100% and thank you for the blunt, honest discussion. I also think values has to do with it. Terrible parenting from the start. Not teaching kids empathy, good communication skills, gratitude, the golden rule, etc etc. has raised generations of self centered, emotionally ignorant, self unaware dopamine junkies who use people as tools. And the internet, social media and pornography is so destructive for so many reasons. It makes me so sad and idk the solution

[@Blessed.Allwin]

Smart parenting. Family values upbringing should be emphasized.

[@alexaa928]

0:29: 😔 Many relationships fail within the first year due to struggles in finding a great partner, dealing with personal wounds, and navigating traumas. 2:28: 💔 In relationships, our insecurities can resurface and impact the relationship negatively, so it's important to be aware of them and create buffers to prevent them from ruining the relationship. 5:07: 😕 The rise of social media, online dating, and feminism has contributed to the creation of a generation of narcissistic women who blame others for their poor choices. 7:44: 💡 The speaker discusses the idea that women have more options for validation online compared to men, who rely on pornography. 10:06: 💔 The video discusses how the inability to commit in relationships can lead to an identity crisis and a lack of care for others. Recap by Tammy AI

[@beegee5305]

Just bc you had some jealousy in the past ... doesn't mean that the present guy who flirts obsessively, ghosts you for 6 weeks every year, lies, and gaslights, doesn't mean he is not a jackass ; )

[@alfoster667]

This Lady is just super BRILLIANT..I like the idea of self evaluation first ..even exposes them to the person of interest ... Bottom line get yourself together first and stop blaming another for not repairing us ...

[@bodhi9464]

Mick and Keith said it best ~ “you can’t always get what you want..” especially in relationships .. it’s all about commitment .. I don’t always like being at work ; but I mostly love it and I’ve been “committed” to it for over 20 years .. the money is a bonus; but I’m not in it for the money only .. it’s the work itself .. 🏄‍♂️💦☀️🎶🇦🇺

[@victoryang3220]

This me too. A great point to consider for a relationship with a man or woman

[@HowDoesItMatterAsNoOneCares]

Bang On. Availability of options due to Social Media has changed the equation. Always in hunt of someone better, rather than being happy with what you have.

[@esnova11]

We need to learn to love ourselves first and accept ourselves as we are, and apply that type of love to our close one, try to accept someone w/o changing other person w/o any acceptations just let that person be and see how do you feel around that person. If u can't accept that person with all their good, bad, and ugly w/o hurting urself its not ur person.

[@kujjitafari8509]

Exactly!!!!

[@victoryang3220]

Completely agree 👍

[@tylerlavoie1708]

Just found this podcast. Thank you so much @sadiapsychology for the information and wisdom! You're brilliant!

[@vilkers2211]

I love listening to you. I'm sophisticated and have been trained in counselling. Your podcasts and videos are music for my ears.

[@SunnyForestTarot]

Every single relationship is simply a reflection back to us. It’s actually about a relationship with yourself. If you start to lose attraction for your partner it’s really you seeing yourself thru their eyes. You have started to not like yourself… has little to do with the other person.

[@matthewlafondfamilyanntics]

She speaks the same message as Jorden Pederson.

[@abstractfvlogs7389]

i find your voice and your advice so soothing i can literally listen to you all day !! Your advice is much appreciated and i learned so much about myself as well!!!

[@jab3323]

What's awesome is that once you're married and found the one, and she truly is the woman you will be with forever, none of these dating unwritten rules and guidelines matter at all. I don't miss dating one damn bit

[@richaswritten4203]

Wounds… oh she’s totally right. We are blind of our own wounds, we don’t take the time to heal properly and we get into relationships and we even get married and realize after that we made a huge mistake. Which is my case, just after couple months of marriage I realized that I wasn’t ready due to so much trauma I’ve been suffering from…now known. I’m ending it but most of my people turned their back on me just because they don’t understand my choices. We need to love ourselves first, it’s important to know yourself as a person before even thinking about being with someone and expecting from them to be our savior or anything we may be seeking.

[@AS-vq3wt]

Never ever take relationship advice from a woman.

[@Askthenurse1]

Amen

[@christ422]

That 5:45 area where she just lights it up! She’s so on point.

[@fredcorbin3571]

I am a firm believer in giving myself to everything in the Connection and the Reason is ; - because I want to establish whether there is a Spiritual Connection first. No Spiritual Connection Reciprocated - Its not going to work.

[@jasminjagpal7496]

Absolutely haven't found the same spiritual connection in any guy yet! We all live in hope. Amen

[@geyavendano]

@Sadiapsychology Dr. I just became a widowed and my husband was the best. We have a 5 year old daughter and he was her world. How do I make sure she grows up healthy and not anxious or feel less because she doesn’t have her father. She is very anxious and gets worried easily. I appreciate you and all the amazing advice to people that can hold themselves accountable. I am trying my best to raise strong healthy girls but also not be looking for what is lost with things of this world. Thank you 🙏🏼 God bless!

[@LiquidfirePUA]

Make sure she is also surrounded by the rest of the men of the village, grandpa etc etc

[@rafaelbabar3494]

To be honest, you could apply this at a deeper level in the UK at least. We have a NationalHealth Service which should really be called a national illness service. It focuses on treating symptoms rather than root causes. I see this in the rise of overweight people who are not necessarily obese, but have a host of problems or symptoms, which are solved by the treating the symptoms rather than the core problem. Invalidating people’s treatment until they lose weight sounds to me extreme but on the balance of probability it would work. We could start by telling people to lose a bit of weight or do some more exercise. I would also take this opportunity to suggest that in the UK at least we are a nation of functional alcoholics. If you ever have cause to go to A&E on a Friday or a Saturday night, you will see a system swamped by people who have had accidents because they drank too much, but no one dares say it.

[@travelnurseadventures3225]

"There's no England anymore..." the Kinks---of course UK has high suicides, diseases, obesity, addition, etc, etc, etc--your govt and monarchy hate u and are replacing you and u are expected to pay for it and "you will be happy," WEF 🥸 Can't have a healthy relations with a sick dying culture-that's the EndGame

[@bl7817]

So you're suggesting bullying people to cause eating disorders. You're extremely uneducated in obesity, which is a disease. Many people have lived unsatisfactory lives or even died because of uneducated "advice" like this. You haven't read obesity research in the past 20 years! Just stop.

[@JeanCharlesSantini]

I‘ce never heard something more true and relevant than this brillant social analysis !!!

[@professional.on-line]

Hello sir, Mam's talk is a verbal a narration She scoped the case "broken relationship" What has eroded in last 80 years or, so second world war Can't be reversed a very sad reality if the technology age. This has challenged me. It isn't possible to roll back technology, which will create huge conflict covid 19 demonstrated it. I live in kolkata capital of Bengal my country has huge population huge oppression suffering government at center and state are every day in firefighting mode. Both internally and internationally. Best regards ✨️

[@napez4126]

MashaAllah well said as always Sadiya

[@Lucynasarenko85]

I do have options because I am pretty. But I’m single because I won’t settle. I don’t need to. I have my own money I will only be with someone who makes my life better.

[@vilkers2211]

We live in a narcissistic age sadly

[@i_am_processing_]

Dopamine highs result in lows. I couldn't relate more!

[@kimstrandberg9529]

She missed the fact that these poor choices women make are and always have been supported, encouraged and financially rewarded by a patriarchal society. Women didn’t make the rules, we weren’t even allowed in the room. And when women play and make money in this game of life, because now they understand the game that they can never win, they are condemned not by other women, but by the very same men that moments earlier paid his OnlyFans subscription for the month.

[@bl7817]

But it's still your choice to be a gold digger looking for a spe*m bank/meal ticket instead of a real partnership. Yes, I do agree that's what women are generally socialized to be. And now the Red Pill Movement is further brainwashing men to seek this kind of low value woman. But foresight is our responsibility. Obviously, Mr. Red Flags moneybags is not going to be a great husband and father! Stop doing it. Got to school, work at a career so you are never some man's dependant. If you don't make great money or find a real partnership in which to raise kids, you can still foster or volunteer with kids.

[@MsChow]

Successful relationships comes down to real compatibility.. looks and chemistry alone will not equate to a successful ending. If you’re religious and he/she is not.. why even go on a first date. Asks those type of questions..

[@How.Dare.You.]

So what about hot women who dont use social media to show herself off? Shes a hell of a catch and she still struggles with men who dont appreciate her fully

[@linal2068]

She is so gorgeous!

[@enricopolsinelli4929]

This is why I stay single permanently. Too much BS, and no one want to work at it in this generation. If you find someone that really wants to work at it, its a bleeding miracle.

[@mickyfingaz5132]

Luck is involved in finding a great relationship

[@michaelangelo6947]

Very intelligent and insightful analysis indeed.

[@lindamorgenstern3519]

Many Blessings from Germany, dearest to my heart💝- i can 100% relate, from my own observations & experiences👀Insha Allah🙏

[@apureenergyme8573]

I liked Steve speaks said: most marriage and relationships these days are not a real good match anyway. Why? Because people conditioned by what to look for in a partner? We have such cognitive dissonance what we really want with what the society taught us what we want. We looking into a person who must have some money, some good education, good looking, good status, good background, that’s how we choose a life time partner. We don’t go into our true self, our soul to find that real love. We call what we have is “ love”. Almost all of us came down to earth with traumas, it is just at different levels. We came to earth as a soul to learn how to truly love, how to go back become love in us. If we don’t understand that we all have some self work to do, heal what we needs to heal, we all set up for a failure in any relationship. Because if you don’t facing your own problems, the universe will use another wrong person ) which in our eyes we found “ love) to cause you pain and suffer, to use pain to eventually wake you up. Either way, we all will get there.

[@angelinagonzalez3543]

Very well said. This is an extraordinary psychology lecture, but it is very sad.

[@henrydog5747]

Sadia Khan you are Brilliant… thank you 🙏🏼 for saying this . Thank you 🙏🏼 ❤

[@brithopper]

Brilliant Sadia .. 🙏

[@zest6932]

Don't jump into a relationship..just ease into it..if possible move at a snails pace..start at 60😂

[@TruthFinder7839]

Perfect interview for me to engage with now in my life’s journey to relate to. I’m divorced now 5 years after a 23 year marriage to a beautiful Persian woman, and now I’m looking to find another life partner which will be of a high value relationship that was similar to what I had before, or even possibly better which is my preferred choice. Great content and I appreciate your efforts to bring in quality vs quantity of content, just to get viewers to your channel.❤😊

[@melmel7011]

Why did you get divorced if she was the great woman, were you the problematic one?

[@TruthFinder7839]

@@melmel7011 she was previously married and just off a bad divorce and an 8 year old boy, she was wounded by her previous relationship and I’d never been in a relationship before that was serious let alone a married. I was ill prepared for the experience which had many levels of trauma due to her previous relationship. Yes eventually, I contributed to the toxicity of the relationship as a highly reactionary person. We had some of the greatest times of our lives, and like wise some of the deepest saddest days of our lives as her past could be triggered randomly. We are best of friends and better friends than husband and wife now, and stay in daily contact most often or sometimes go a week or two without talking to each other. My stepson has his first child now at 42 and we have navigated the past to create a positive future but separated financially and not living together. I’m 67 and she is 66 years now & I plan on moving to the Philippines to live full time next Oct 2024 and go back and forth to USA every year to keep up with my businesses and maintaining my healthcare, and stay in touch with my first family, while hopefully having a future to share with another in my life.

[@dgo9121]

I have unfortunately experienced the narcissistic behavior in women she speaks of….it’s gone off the deep end that many have become so unaware of their behavior and have cognitive dissonance when being held accountable

[@kish2187]

You know it took me 6 months into my relationship to call my boyfriend my boyfriend. I think having open communication is important and I asked him for our titles because I didn't want to assume a relationship that wasn't even there and I think that's really a problem for younger generations. Even in my Millennial generation, when I was young I was shocked at how many people labeled their status a relationship so quickly and then was disappointed when they were broken up in a month. Personally believe a lot of those "relationships" weren't even there in the first place,just dating phase. Mainly because a lot of people date other people or doing other things while saying they're with so and so.

[@jackdeniston59]

Chicks always say communication. Nope. Narccist. Women need to learn to actually LISTEN.

[@dustinquinton]

Pertaining to my past relationship. What does someone (myself) do when you tell your partner to stop emotionally hurting you. And you are also vulnerable enough to tell them what your insecurities are. I guess since she didn’t listen and it didn’t work out, we weren’t meant for each other. Unfortunately, it ended in divorce.

[@blueheaven4838]

Don't you think it the best thing to happen. You can't stay with a person who is emotionally hurting you

[@dustinquinton]

@@blueheaven4838 definitely agree!

[@TheNifster]

Good night this woman needs here own cable network channel.

[@lucyr5213]

Sadia is very insightful and clever, however I don’t think she should pass herself off as a psychologist because she has a masters degree. To be a psychologist, a PhD is required. Her advice is good, she’s a therapist but NOT a psychologist.

[@professor_thunder]

Sadia tolerating these losers interviewing her is commendable.

[@mimi_elk.7614]

She has right for this 🙏🙏🙏

[@Wombat-y7t]

I see what starts as good friends, sliding into Attachment and Expectations issues…..

[@themagneticguy6145]

im from pakistan. such a intelligent person you are sadia.

[@Brad-t7e]

I cannot relate to any of this. If people listen to what God says about relationships there wouldn't be any failed relationships.

[@obaidpayenda7587]

The greatest teacher, greatest psychologist I have found in youtube

[@Blessedlove8325]

Beautiful words of knowledge.but when we going look into yourself and change ..

[@steverobinson5677]

She's cookin......👀🔥🔥🔥🔥. Had to Subscribe

[@pav378]

Hi Sadia, you are like a genius in man and woman relationship psychology. Type of Maria Curie-Skłodowsk but in uderstanding humans brains. In this video (and all others) you exposing all ours secrets 😊❤️ It is optimistic vision that our weakness are mostly closed in age 15-25 years old. If kids aren't supported (and shown example) in young age by parents it will not end in age of 25.

[@a.achirou6547]

Beautiful mind. Thank you.

[@nellie...]

Great interview.

[@lilstkngal]

try to grieve the old past, trumas, etc too much old wound, too much insecurities then to try to fly onto a new person to meet the expectations you want. Traumas, baggage, insecurities, high expectations it's too much on the new partner to meet your requirements.

[@melissatehyc]

YALL SHES SPEAKING FACTS. LIKE BRO NARCISSISTIC WOMEN IS AN ISSUE NOW🙃

[@creationsoffarzid1154]

I think the description of assigning , 'Narcism' to women, is a bit exaggerated and too strong to describe young women for simply having lots of choices and validation options. Narcism is more than just being someone with choices who does not have to give in to badly behaved partners. Narcissism breeds in men more than women because womens' interests are fulfilled when she receives loyalty and marriage whereas mens' interests can be fulfilled with the easier option of fornication only ie without marriage; given that marriage involves financial commitment from the husband. So it is the male gender who has lots of reasons not to marry whereas women need the marriage in-order to access a safe home for child bearing and child raising.

[@Inmyownleague]

But the reality is that most men are not attractive to most women, so they don't simplybhavecthe options to just cheat and sleep around.

[@vacc22]

You trying to make me jealous? It don’t work! I’m NUMBER 1

[@viaramb]

man Sadia is amazing. It makes me wonder what if Said and Peterson had a baby? boom!

[@AzharSinga12]

When it comes to marriage, you must want to be together for life, not just for love. 1) Accept if one has oneself. 2) Together regardless of whether the person is rich or poor. 3) And others to increase. I have 1 question for sadia just want to know. First of all, why is a man who is faithful to a woman and she is left alone because the woman was given to her by your people is what I want to know. Thank you.

[@InspirationInspires]

Let's gather for Sadia!

[@robertgilmour494]

There is one topic that relates to all this these days and that is the….. tick list. Which is related to more opinions. For example, if you don’t meet my expectations (the tick list) then I move on because I have more options or I can do better. The tick list needs addressing and talked about. This just personal experience talking to women.

[@ummabdurahman9254]

Sadia's dressed in her red flag for the episode! Just kidding, great episode as always!

Smart and beautiful woman.

[@kohinoorchoudhury9185]

You had me until you implied that many women aren’t suffering at the hands of narcissistic men. As many are, trust me.

[@peterpalashevky7423]

What in the world is Sadia doing in Dubai?? It's not exactly a place for wholesome people...

[@Abbas-wr1oy]

It has both worlds, but it will turn into Vegas sooner or later

[@deng-kr5cm]

She lives In Dubai with aesthetic work to complement that but also promotes traditional values...please someone spot a logic which I can't find..

[@sir-ali1163]

"I am a strong, independent woman. What can you offer me?" "My Condolences"

[@et1bas751]

A puppy dog 🐕

[@vernvilar6922]

All true!

[@Leslie-es5ij]

It's a red flag when she says yes.

[@tafarachikwanha4164]

that was abrupt

[@VagueGirl]

My favorite part of the interview was when she quoted Michael Jackson 6:39

[@thecoldglassofwatershow]

😂😂

[@MamaBulgaria]

Biggest red flag - and she is all in bright red..😂

[@tinahurley743]

Thank you 🙏 ❤🎉

[@lukeskywalker2116]

Hypergamy: woman could be dating a 10 in looks. Billionaire who treats her like a queen, and she’ll say “I think I can do better”

[@Myrslokstok]

He is soo tost tonight!

[@anamazinglife5628]

Thank you❤

[@suriyawetzler9836]

Great talk ….thank you🌺🙏🌺🙏🌺……just at the end the age rang is so wrong !…..older ages are doing crazy as well!!:(

[@ПавлеСтошић]

2:14 *

[@luhaydan7442]

Why does she act like a “good Muslim woman” if she’s there taking a picture hugging him? 😅

[@SpeakerGregoryDwyer]

Thank you.

[@EagleEyeYouthEmpowerment]

This geh get sense 😊

[@graceamsterdam5404]

Pfff… yeah. I am really glad i am not of the social media generation. However, I see more and more young people choosing to go without social media.

[@BlueskyDenver]

Putting someone else’s wellbeing above your own isn’t necessary, most people don’t do basics let’s not be greedy here. If someone cares for you he/ she will put your wellbeing as equal to theirs. And that’s the bottom line really, when someone cares their actions show it.

[@catcat9582]

How can he think around her

[@heidemariegiessler919]

You two could make a lively couple!

[@raquelr8775]

Girl no. She’s too lovely ❤

[@roi9]

u want south asian women to marry white men do u also say same thing to white women to marry south asian men like u will become locely couple whore

[@mikewolff2432]

Wonderfull intellect that woman

[@ronaldk.sitlhou2914]

Looking at the thumbnail I thought that both of them are in a relationship lol

[@KatieRussell713]

Spot on

[@m.bonginhlanhla6596]

HUGE!!!!

[@thetruther954]

Well Sadia, you’re with a man like I wanted. Can’t even remember who I asked at the moment. Yeah, giving a person in doubt, the two of you, the thing that he wants? Is that such a sin? I mean wasn’t that worth it? One guy, a little less screwed up in the world, like you believe what he’s after? That speaks volumes to me about you two as persons.