How to know it’s over

[@sadiapsychology]

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[@v9b23j]

She nailed it! : "you're just learning how to categorize every ex of yours as a narcissist, but not about what behaviors or traits in you attract or even are narcissistic". If you hop from relationship to relationship without self reflection, grieving, healing and growth, you'll rinse and repeat the same pattern over and over and keep causing train wreaks everywhere you go.

[@Yehonathanatos]

Begs the question, was the ex really the Narcissist?

[@dahliafiend]

Yes the ex was. I dunno why this is hard for people I’ve been in about eight relationships good and bad. One was a covert narcissist who destroyed years of my life. Believe victims especially men. I haven’t gone through life playing the victim card but I was with a monster. More education on the subject is needed and less nitpicking on semantics.

[@v9b23j]

@@Mochi039 A therapist who specializes in trauma said people who haven't integrated their own trauma attract each other.

[@Focus293]

​@@dahliafiend8 Relationships? Eh you need to check yourself. That's too many failed relationships to not be taking self accountability and looking within to see what part of you keeps attracting those types of people. Trust me I was like you before but after some self reflection I realized I had some red flags I needed to work on myself to stop attracting toxic women.

[@heltristan]

FK yes ... trainwrecks !

[@mszen1129]

Listening to her advice is validating that I actually have a healthy way of connecting and communicating without all the games. It seems people have been programmed to think playing games is necessary. Any relationship established on manipulation (through games) just doesn’t seem like a relationship worth having. I pray people can be genuine again. Great feedback !

[@chriscorbart]

@@doves9204Sometimes what appears like playing hard to get is a person just taking their time to get to know you and being cautious. I agree though, no time for games in relationships or friendships 👍

[@danieldoca7158]

The real problem is that after a divorce with someone who wasn't very healthy, I can't trust genuine people, those who do the right things for a relationship. How can I when 98% of women say I am not like that only to prove that they are exactly that?

[@danaparfitt2491]

​@@danieldoca7158lower your statistical antenna ? Try taking everything less seriously? 98% of how many? Not to insult N these are things I've had to apply to deal with "98% or more of men"

[@barbara9051]

@@mszen1129 u said it right “programming” ,……… that’s y it’s called “television 📺 PROGRAMMING!”

[@benray4fun1]

Love this woman, she’s so beautiful, intelligent & brutally honest…❤

[@meagandekkar6377]

Set boundaries. When a problem occurs- Examine yourself first! Be willing to compromise on negotiables. Embrace differences. Agree to disagree. Give your man respect. Watch your words.

[@Small_is_Beautiful_]

Great ❤

[@davidreynoso8593]

Love is Patient Love is Kind

[@HayderAlkharkhi]

I’ve always said this.. she is spot on. So many distractions. I’m typing as I’m listening and praise is so important!

[@bestill7698]

Empathising with your partner, feeling his or her pain... not an emotional disconnect.

[@MichaelFranks-j5z]

If only one spouse would hear this and put forth a change of behavior, it would revolutionize their marriage and relationships. And make this world a better place for families to thrive in. The family is the backbone of society.

[@verocimil]

Those talks with you have been such a discovery and blessing! Thank you for this enlightenment and much needed and appreciated help in the current chaotic times of personal relationships.

[@LionHeart567]

For a man, this women is a lighthouse in the night, in every culture, not only american one. Thank you very much

[@mahaenazy]

She is middle eastern and it’s known that middle eastern women are great in relationships but she is also an expert so that’s added bonus even .. 👌

[@beaumeez4717]

🎯💯 damn I almost cried listening to this. This hit all the way home

[@davidsonk5701]

Shes so Smart with a beautiful Voice

[@MichaelFranks-j5z]

This lady has it spot on. What a blessing to men and women.

[@chriscristah9178]

Yep! Practicing Divorce Skills... exactly what I said ❤so grateful my man learned our new healthy skills after his marriage to a narcissist.

[@ShimelisDessalegn-ow8no]

Love you Sadia, you understand human nature more than any gurus. It takes great wisdom.

[@muktasane6046]

Wow thanks so much, I do exactly what you said - on guard bcoz of social media and self-help books telling me what to do in terms of “self”

[@vktravellog1242]

This all makes sense. I myself gave up on dating especially in the Western world as the dating pool has become toxic. I will continue my dating when I leave the west and pack my bags to the east!

[@abhijeetghosh27]

Amazing conversation. If everyone understand these and apply even half of it in their daily lives, relationship can be saved by atleast two folds. Thanks for sharing @Sadia 🙏😊❤️

[@RPGElite]

My goodness. Sadia just killing it. 👊🏿

[@jameshay8595]

Both of these people are providing good information. Thank you.

[@themuslimmum]

Subhannallah sister, it's always great to hear you speak, may all our daughters grow up to be like you Inshallah

[@imranxalamin]

that's why I always thank God I'm muslim. We don't have most of these problems.

[@J1304-z3s]

Lmao 🤣 I've had 2 Muslim girls and both took it up the rear. It's universal bro get out of your bubble

[@Rose-mystic]

@@J1304-z3sWhat does that say about you?

[@Peter-bc2iv]

wow you're such an alpha

[@MS-ns4ki]

Express needs and boundaries . Heavily heard and learned .

[@MigdaliaMendez-v2j]

Just walked away from a situation where he only wanted my help and then he became very disrespectful to me , shaming me brought certain things in my face which I told him when I let my guard down he always claimed and promised and swore he would come see me he never did this went on for years he would ghost me for a week or for 3 days on end especially every weekend so when he said was I cheating I knew right there that he did cheat. I don't have time for games and he used me so much for money. I walked away GOD finally woke me up and let me know that he was lying all this time. Now I am healing from it and I know what true love is. It was a long distance relationship but it was always one sided and he hurt me so much. He never cared about my well being all he cared about was self and then when it started to become a competition I just walked away for good I will love myself more now and still be the loving person I am I want a Kingdom Marriage one day. I had to completely look in the mirror at myself and say I deserve to be loved to be cherished to be respected to have my needs met I knew nothing about a narcissist at all. But I am learning.

[@Christobar777]

The truth catches up to us too

[@muhammadsteinberg]

Excellent conversation!

[@ninh05]

This was an excellent segment. Thank you Sadia.

[@PhoneNHe]

excellent knowledge and takeaways.

[@ralucamera6574]

This is so true. These times are teaches us how to be better alone than in a partnership.

[@Harmony.faith1177]

Well empaths attract narcissists bc they are too empathetic to narcissists needs. It doesn’t mean you have the same characteristics as the person you attract. However, if your motives are superficial, such as the guy meets superficial qualities you want, chances are you will attract a superficial person. Motives are also important.

[@flbellman]

The lady is 98% on average and 100% on the distraction part. Thanks for sharing very good insights.

[@Majorhavoktv]

Love is a word that is overused way too much. A relationship is built on mutual respect and communication.

[@mattanderson6672]

Thank you so much

[@EqDior]

Sadia is an amazing woman. Extremely beautiful and wise! keep up the much needed knowledge that you share to us all! 🙏🏽

[@paulkenyon1830]

I like your approach and how you explain the dating game. Fresh and fit and some off these other red pill channels are so extreme and one dimensional

[@onlyone2948]

One problem with success is that it can be a very long road with many diversions. I may add to this later.

[@ColaBaby888]

I love the fact the you are "rewriting" the narrative. Men and women need this analysis.🎉❤

[@gwynnielsen5081]

Engagement is what makes a marriage last, so she is totally right. People who love each other well never get distracted.

[@coolyfdfhdcgdf]

Thank you!

[@waleedwaleed346]

Well said. Brilliant Sadia

[@janebraun4482]

Both partners need to feel seen and heard. Every question esp via text that gets ignored, no feeling for me, just his problems. I am not preparing for separation, I am preparing to build, but it takes two.

[@gridrunner1319]

Been saying this to friends for a few decades now ….totally agree …we’re being desensitized to divorce …

[@carlosizz89]

Women have divorce parties

[@niongg8042]

This woman is nothing but the truth 😍

[@LouiseArmstrong85]

Good advice 👍

[@blackrustcoffee2894]

Excellent ! Time to address the Instagram problem

[@leanneright888]

This is so true 🙏🏼♥️

[@SpeakerGregoryDwyer]

Thank you for your wisdom.

[@claub5438]

Such a good video.. yup everyone wants to pretend they are cool with whatever but there are not but don’t speak .. Speak up people and if they leave then so be it..

[@mjanulis3603]

Beautiful Brilliance!

[@Yulisourcing]

so true, love is in crisis

[@bennofourie8564]

And this is why i am still not married today because of the lack of commitment from the partners i had, and the list goes on, its very sad and frustrating 50 years or even more ago, relationships were healthy, beacause there was not as mutch alternarives in life like there is today Clearly i am born in the wrong era But deep down my heart i will always hope the some woman will commit 110%, beacause if can do it, why cant they?

[@jarkachalmovianska7812]

They were never healthy u were just trapped in aweful marriages forever without an outlet

[@RTSBone]

Because they have instagram

[@ronalarid9537]

So many people settle for relationship s leaving living life behind paint themselves into a corner and a routine halfway except able and time goes by ❤

[@ПавлеСтошић]

4:38 *

[@Small_is_Beautiful_]

Excellent insights Sadia ❤

[@amonrapictures]

Yeah Sadia after the rainy days and later the snow falls now I can move ahead with the green tea and honeys and walnut is ideal for the recovery... And catch a new relationship 😇

[@ПавлеСтошић]

11:24 *

[@Christobar777]

We should model relationships like our grandparents had

[@dajanastojchevska]

KZbin needs to implement double like. In the middle of another point I literally went to click like again and I was like ah I've already done it

[@Christobar777]

Im a child at heart responsible child i have fun

[@dominiknewfolder2196]

My mother hammered me and my father hard in his absence while snitching on me to him. I grew up to be highly insecure. Not because women are evil. She was. This deplorable human being. Facing that was very hard but it was worth it.

[@alondratorres2877]

You're so beautiful!!!❤

[@AzharSinga12]

It's all about lust, if our partner wants to be on one side again, saying he's tired, we have to understand each other

Social media isn't good! I get jealous, and get a subliminal feeling about the whole thing, that "love" is not enough, but a continouos sacrifice, I am not willing to take right now! Perhaps in the future, but it hurts!

[@pierre931]

we are living all in a race where anyone must be bette of the others.the word collaboration is disappear from our lives

[@2by3]

Excellent Overview.

[@justlivin900]

Sadie high value, woman, highest value, woman. if I had someone with a quarter of the value of this woman. . Happy holidays

[@Christobar777]

Yupp

[@ПавлеСтошић]

7:43

[@carlosizz89]

The bit she says about emotional connection is why dating single moms dont work, either her mental bandwith is drained from baby daddy drama or she is too consumed with the kids.

[@LaitoChen]

This is what happens when you get rid of religion. I'm a hardcore atheist and I still recognize the values of love, forgiveness and HUMILITY that the Abrahamic religions teach. We have become our own gods. We are now the most important things in the universe. But the only lasting love is the love you have to your fellow human. Religion taught this. But in our hubris we threw away religion , baby, and bath water and we wonder why we feel lost and alone

[@jarkachalmovianska7812]

Religion, not church.

[@javireyes7333]

I totally agree with you on this

[@-glitch-8195]

"They're so hurt when she doesn't like them back. So they're not paying for s*x. They're actually paying for intimacy" "You can't buy intimacy. You can't buy it. This girl, you can buy her a bag and you can have s*x with her, but you're craving connection."

[@Christobar777]

People visualize the model person so expectations are purfect person were not perfect

[@ПавлеСтошић]

5:08

[@ColaBaby888]

I tell myself to be patient. What I want is here. Everything that I have is everything that I need to be the person God created me to be. So I know all things work out for our good. This sort of climate isn't sustainable. (Was social media really just a big social experiment?) It's pretty crazy when I think about how we witnessed the evolution of the telephone. ( Even though the tech was developed in the 60's.) Were they trying to "rob" people of their intellect in the first place by distracting ppl with access to corn?🤔 When I had my son I realized I was part of the problem and there was no way I was going to raise him on the same #redpill that his forefathers were raised on. FIRE pon dat mindset!

[@rajwinderkaur7786]

No body can make relations forcly and can broke relations.

[@ПавлеСтошић]

6:40

[@Darrell7777]

It's ironic that more men are diagnosed as narcissists than women considering how narcissistic women generally are. I guess most women are so narcissistic by nature that in order to be clinically diagnosed as a narcissist, she has to REALLY be narcissistic, otherwise she's just a "normal woman" 😂

[@ronalarid9537]

If the divorce rate doesn't change what s isn't just a matter of time before you break up or end up single again 💔 so not marrying who wants to be married three times in one life time or before your 40 but I don't believe finding connection and lasting love is a type of success if you achieve it ❤

[@thetruther954]

Well, this is where you get the sincere questions from people who want to know how you did it. “Sorry, I missed most of, could you aim at me”. And it’s really strange here on KZbin. The words and the issues can come out of nowhere sounding very familiar, giving you the false impression that someone is interested. But, look at the clicks, look at tracking, those people aren’t there. It seems like they’re addressing what you just said on a different channel, but there is no way to do that. No obvious way. So, maybe those questions won’t come. The hardest part is not reaching the summit, it’s not toppling back down the mountain, when well intentioned, we’ll meaning people just want to stand beside you on top. I do not have a limber mind.

[@Christobar777]

Im a cerial killer not

[@ПавлеСтошић]

12:56

[@Eng4555]

Mrs Sadia how fit is your relationship? Just a question

[@leeboriack8054]

I’m a Gay male, my heart goes out to straight men. It’s grim. Movies, tv shows and commercials degrade men in a way women wouldn’t tolerate.

[@junfrias9188]

Yeah..u hit the nail on the head...one ex. SHES NOT URS ITS JUST UR TURN!...

[@FabianKim-z9u]

I think I have a healthy relationship with my partner. However recently he wants to move across the country and Im not so sure about that. Could you do an episode of such situation

[@tictoc5443]

Good insights imo We are such complex animals😂

[@xXFoleXx]

Just Tell me Whats your sun and moooon sign?

[@Christobar777]

Tolerance levels are low

[@ToTheWolvesTony]

Fun fact: if you don’t break up that means y’all are in something super toxic and can’t let each other go for the better.

[@heatherhawkins7566]

So everyone who is married or have been together for 10, 20, 30 years are all just in toxic relationships?

[@adammoyer5037]

I want to marry this woman

[@mistyvance4544]

These men want that soft, nurturing woman that can take them out of their head and into their body. The problem is then men that are desperate for it come through angry and boarish, having the bare minimum to offer and Demanding of it and being mean to the woman that don't give it to them free of charge, that they scare off or anger the women that are capable of being that dream woman.

[@TheForgotten__1]

The whole, 'Ex's (men) are all narcissistic' by women, really takes the biscuit! Every bloke I've ever known, football mates, rugby mates etc takes 5-10 minutes to get ready to go out (and don't really care how they look) but women? 2-3 hours minimum! This bizarre attempt by women at calling out male Ex's as narcissistic, is the biggest deflection in the history of the world 😂

[@martakiana4915]

I dont think you realise what NPD is . Please google as people think that narcissistic is a person from Greece myths who loved his look . Narcistic personality disorder is a huge thing .. and it is usually caused by trauma in the childhood . That trauma can change development of some parts of the brain and nervous system .. and then this person as an adult lacks of empathy, can be controlling, and never takes ownership for own mistakes . These are big three traits for NPD . There’s lots of articles and videos about it so you can learn a lot from it 🙂

[@TheForgotten__1]

​@@martakiana4915So who are more controlling and manipulative? Women or men?? It's not a difficult question is it? 😂😂😂

[@heatherhawkins7566]

@@TheForgotten__1 That wasn't her point at all. NPD is a psychological disorder far more prevalent in men than in women. It has nothing to do with looks (it can, but that's just a minor part of it.) You can't make the claim that "women are more manipulative than men" without data to back up your hypothesis. It might be your experience but one person's experience doesn't define reality as an aggregate.

[@Azaleaflame]

​@@TheForgotten__1Narcissism isn't diagnosed by the length of time somebody takes to get ready! It's an entire complex personality disorder!

[@TheForgotten__1]

@@Azaleaflame Read my reply above to Martakiana.

[@Belarus2012]

Those guys should date))

[@naylorbroughton1159]

How do you know its over? SImple, when the credits roll up on the screen

[@DandelionSpring96]

The title of this vidoe needs to be changed bcs why use ur username as the title gal 😅 i forgot what i, watching tbh

[@AntiDoctor-cx2jd]

Are we sure it's not rejection of attention like they say, and actually that the partner is just lazy and rejection of bids for attention is just one way it shows up?

[@oanling917]

What is over ?

[@fa1473]

Lovely woman❤

[@kagisowealthmoseki5100]

Damn.

[@carlosvaldez8266]

Es mejor vivir en el desierto que convivir con mujer peleonera y agresiva. Proverbios 21:19