BJJ Blue Belt Worried About Losing and Disappointing His Coach / Mentor

[@lowreedman]

I tell people all the time. I am not a purple belt. I am a 10 stripe white belt. I rarely actually try to win. I like to learn.

[@timandersen2386]

Awesome mindset mate 💖

[@codyh6825]

I dig that. Well said.

[@tonyhew8482]

I'm a 3 stripe white belt and never hardly win a roll. 👍

[@lowreedman]

@@tonyhew8482 If you win a roll, you maybe learn one or a few things. When you lose, you learn a lot more (at least in my experience.) So you either win, or you learn. I like to learn. oss

[@shadymilkman443]

@@lowreedman at some point don't you learn enough(from losing) to start winning?

[@phredbookley183]

One of my coaches said to me, "You either win or you learn." Then he paused, and said, "Man...I hate learnin'." 😄😄😄

[@BarringtonLewis]

Peaks and valleys... peaks and valleys... but keep going.

[@edmondlau511]

I gotta be honest, I have been training for 5 years off and on and it feels like there’s more valleys than peaks 😂

[@mraBJJ33]

Trying to keep my ego out of being a freshly promoted blue belt, I can tell a lot of the white belts roll with me differently knowing that my belt color has changed. I know that I have a lot that I need to learn during my time as a blue belt so I'm focusing on trying new things outside of my comfort zone so that I can expand my game.

[@Torey1976]

Same here brother. Once you get your blue belt the white belts roll harder, purple belts roll harder and even the people who have been blue belts longer roll harder. It's all about learning and growing which is hard to do if we're always worried about "losing" or tapping.

[@tauras2490]

People need to understand that the person on the other side of the mat is looking to win as well. Probably doesn’t want to disappoint anyone either. You have to go out there and do your best, thats all you can do.

[@Roll_Vids]

Precisely!

[@admillerr]

Just got crushed In my first tournament, stings is a understatement but this video was what I needed to hear, I worried what coach and others thought of me afterwards, kinda hard to show my face again but wasn’t a big deal to anybody but me

[@PsychologyOfTheFight]

It's all good bro. Just the fact that you signed up and competed is a win. Keep going homie

[@donniehallaman7685]

I just saw meme by the Machados and it said you failed, congrats most people won't even try

[@Roll_Vids]

As you clearly expressed, losing can be the best thing to happen. My biggest leaps forward have been sparked by my worst losses. Thanks for addressing this situation!

[@cjdavis9289]

I honestly learn and reinforce so much about life from you, not only martial arts related. Very grounding and fulfilling content

[@toughfff712]

One issue with the belt system is that there are no clear guidelines on what each level means. White and black are easy to understand, beginner and expert. But blue, purple, and brown are a little messy. I think of the belts as an education pathway. White is K-12, Blue High school-AA, Purple BA, Brown grad school, Black is when you earn that advance degree. Also competition adds a different element. If you are placing 1st in all the white comps, thrm blue is needed to promote growth.

[@matthewoneill5354]

It so obvious that you have studied and work hard to apply stoic philosophy to your life and the advice you give. Good on you brother. 🙏

[@gandalfthedev200]

Not really sure why i even watch these videos since i dont train bjj, but same thing happens in track and field, once you are constantly improving everything is great, but at some point your progress slows down or stops completely, thats where the doubts come in. However, if you have a good coach, as long as you keep your chin up and continue working hard, your coach will probably be happy to have you around and not feel like you are ruining his image.

[@Chewjitsu]

There’s a lot of similarities in the human experience. The specifics change but the general idea are often very much the same.

[@SM-rn4qe]

I love the Alan Watts analogy. I listen to AW often. Thanks for everything Chewy

[@ChristopherCarpenter]

I needed this one today, thanks chewy.

[@USALibertarian]

Coach probably promoted him because of recent success where he proved blue belt level. New blue belts are statistically worse than the average blue belt. Coach probably understands this.

[@Cropsykills]

Dude! You're a fan of Alan Watts? Holy crap!!

[@kenc8472]

Been addicted to your channel since I joined a gym 3 weeks ago at 38 yrs old. I got a bruised rib at last weeks training and have to take some time off. I'm really bummed and a little embarrassed about it but these videos keep my mind sharp. Appreciate you.

[@timandersen2386]

Hey mate 38yo white belt here, how’s the rib? I had a busted rib also, it’s not much fun ey 😊

[@kenc8472]

@@timandersen2386 Hurts most in the mornings getting out of bed. Throughout the day is just mild pain during certain movements. Any tips for faster healing?

[@timandersen2386]

@@kenc8472 hey mate, this was my routine- 3 Panadol (paracetamol) + 2 nurofin (anti inflamitory). Spoke with coach who suggested drilling and rolling with snr belts for a bit (less spaz, more control). Had to manage pain through grit teeth but it eventually can good. I had torn rib cartilage. You chatted about it with coach yet?

[@dgonzaga17]

KZbin: New chewjitsu video notification. Me: We will see!

[@Malarkey-ks4un]

1) Even if you never meet your coaches expectations I’m sure he doesn’t mind THAT much. I imagine he still likes your money at the end of the day. 2) I’m not crapping on the community. But as much as I love Jiu Jitsu and everything that comes with it, at the end of the day people need to realize it’s just a martial arts class when everything is said and done about it. How some people lose sleep over stuff like this is a little beyond me. If I advance, awesome. If I don’t, that’s fine too. I still have things going for me in life outside the gym.

[@shadymilkman443]

"It's just a martial art". I understand that YOU don't take it seriously but for a lot of people this sport is pretty important. I'm sure you have things that are important to you(outside of necessity). Try to empathize.

[@jesuscabrera5599]

Phenomenal video as always. On a side note, did someone go a little to hard on the mats? Looks like you got a nice bump above your eyebrow!

[@r7killer]

In my experience I agree with you . Your coach is looking for growth and development mostly I believe .

[@beaglefishgaming4568]

The way of the warrior is resolute acceptance of death - Musashi

[@Nuhjeea]

Love your videos and I've never even looked inside of a BJJ gym before... Reached out on Twitter with questions, hope you see them. Love all the positive energy and advice you give!

[@tonyhew8482]

2 of our bros were promoted to blue this week they both smash me every time. And I don't think I will ever be anywhere near as good as they are. Somehow I have 3 stripes.

[@newyorksbeerreviews1280]

Honestly, as a blue belt Chewy and his videos has helped me cope with the fact that It's ok to tap to white belts. Better tap than a snap or a nap !

[@mfkowboy885]

Great videos Chewie. Just wanted to let you know that after stumbling onto your channel a few days ago, ive enjoyed all your white belt beginner type vids. I got the BJJ bug from hearing a former navy seal named jocko willink talk about it all the time and now coupled with you. I have started looking at gyms and ill be going to my first fundamentals class this Saturday at one of the Gracie academys. Im excited and nervous at the same time. Of course if I was in Kentucky I would be going to yours (jersey is konda far😂) but the vids do help a lot boss so keep coming. Very insightful and educational. Wish me luck!! P.S. sry for the comment being long..i like to talk as much as you do lol.

[@USALibertarian]

Good luck. Never quit. That's all.

[@mfkowboy885]

@@USALibertarian thanks for the support!

[@melzy0146]

Man i almost turned the car around on my way to my first class, and I'd been going to the same gym for 3 months because my daughter trains. Got smashed, had no idea what I was doing and did it all with the biggest smile on my face. Now my only regret is not starting when I wanted to way back in my early 20s lol. If you keep showing up youll keep getting better.

[@brandonm4747]

Hey chewy, I need some advice, every time I roll in my gym, I tend to get winded or fatigued after just 1 match, I tried doing some cardio but nothing is working, any advice?

[@vitaly6312]

Upvoting and commenting so that chewy sees this. I’m woefully in need of the same but what has helped me has been interval training. Things like dynamic movements, sprints for time. So I’ll pick up a 50lb bag for 30 seconds and then chill for 30, or do the same thing with sprints, hills, kettles, etc. Again I’m coming from level -1000 but it seems to be helping me a lot.

[@donniehallaman7685]

Maybe try to focus more on faints and good frames, don't force things, try to find space before moving so u conserve your energy more , less scrambling and more frames and technique, or better body position for more pressure so if your on top your not "squeezing" so much but are still heavy and have control

[@stevenconnolly28]

The best cardio for rolling is rolling. I used to easily gas out then think that's me done for today. Then someone said to me to keep rolling even when really tired. Best thing I ever did. Now I don't really get tired

[@brandonm4747]

@@stevenconnolly28 Thanks for the feeback! this will help

[@Italiangentleman2394]

Look we all know our coaches are not going to judge us when we lose but we all feel like we let them down I lost my first 3 matches at blue belt but I use that I motivation to get back on the mat and improve my game

[@timandersen2386]

I had to leave a comp on Saturday for this exact reason. It feels shit. If anyone else ends up in a similar position, stick it out, hopefully you can avoid my mistake. 🙏

[@timandersen2386]

I don’t mind losing but don’t want to embarrass my club.

[@ElAmao_03]

This video, is one of the videos I have liked the most, Thanks! as always keep on the good work :)

[@danielcho3270]

Excellent video coach Chewy. Thanks.

[@godastebuliauskaite4768]

Weekly dose of bjj wisdom ✔️

[@alekcarrera7794]

Imma start my first tournament latter next month and I feel like just trying would make my coach happy but I don’t know if I will 100% win or loose but I have a good feeling I will loose and a good feeling I will also win but personally I would not worry about what other people think because it would just distract me

[@DarthRane113]

Imposter syndrome something I still can't get past don't think I ever will. But I'm more comfortable with it now than I used to be.

[@mattlewallen1832]

Thanks for the upload Chewey! You should come up to Alaska and check our gym, then come fish the Kenai. Ill comp ya a trip! You can do a video upload from the river. Were all fans 😂. 🎣👊

[@Chewjitsu]

Sounds like fun!

[@henryholtz1151]

Wait he got promoted in 8 months? I’m still a single strip white after 10

[@BigTiddyGothGrappler]

Everyone is different. I've never done any combat sport or wrestling or anything & got my blue in 6 months. I train on the mats 7 hrs a day & study another day 3. 5 days a week. I can retain what I'm shown pretty much immediately. Dont compare yourself to others. Someone is always better. Faster. Stronger. Smarter. More passionate. Do what makes you HAPPY! Very few people ppl enjoy my lifestyle because it's living in soreness & being tired & eating super well clean 24/7. Always exhausted & gritting my teeth. Why I went ARSOF when I was enlisted. I thrive on struggle. Most don't enjoy that long term & nobody should be expected to enjoy it.

[@Karen-fs6lf]

Great advice

[@aarongetsyoked6099]

Horse breaks sons leg Jocko: good

[@rubenojeda5462]

Hey coach, I have a serious question, im a heavy set guy but when I roll with my teammates I feel like I hurt them (unintentional ofcourse), but whenever I drill a move I feel like I always need to watch my top pressure, but my teammates always finish the round in pain. Is it me or are my partners over exaggerating? I always try to avoid using my strength(when on bottom) and even watch my top pressure when in side control/mount or knee on belly. I want to keep training hard while drilling technique! PLEASE HELP!!

[@angryengineering7356]

Should I quit a bjj gym where it is 5min warm up 15min random useless bjj stuff and then 70min free rolling? I dont feel like im learning anything

[@mattlewallen1832]

Is that the only class they offer? My gym has lots of different classes througout the day and week. Maybe see if they have a fundamentals class you can attend.

[@scottanderson2796]

Is it random useless stuff because you know it and don't want to do it again or is actually useless because if it is maybe you should move on

[@Morpheah]

That "5-min warm up" sounds alarming...the rest is up for interpretation, though.

[@angryengineering7356]

@@scottanderson2796 I am sure my coach has no real programm he just teaches what comes to his head when he is driving to the gym. I literally had to google basic stuff to improve my game.

[@angryengineering7356]

@@mattlewallen1832 fortunately it is not, we have a naga champion who teaches nogi I will only attend his classes

[@scottanderson2796]

Its not wether you win or lose its how you play the game 🤙

[@דודישראלי-ל1ל]

My coach doesn't care if I lose he only care if I have fun there if your coach have different mentality you should find a different gym End of the month is my first comptishen after year and half of training I don't care about my results I will give my 100% but I looking to have fun there Never be afired traying a failure is not to try that a really failure good luck brother hope I helped you =)

[@TXRoeJogan]

Dude my best attribute IS disappointing my coach

[@davidinawe791]

Pretty funny that you also listen to alan watts. But it only makes sense :D

[@CarlosVerdinOfficial]

No Chewy, you don’t understand… I want it more than they do. 😠

[@jessegandy7361]

If I'm attempting a cross collar choke and my oppoment traps my elbow, how can I stop their shrimp or sweep and continue on with my cross collar??

[@timandersen2386]

Are you allowing too much space allowing them to get their legs in front of you maybe?

[@stevenconnolly28]

When they shrimp switch to S mount and then choke from there

[@Cody.Tafoya]

If he expects me to fail, then yes.

[@jero1918]

Thanx

[@bipedalhominid6815]

Grown man worrying about pleasing another grown man. Confusious says.. that's geigh!!

[@adamricard7055]

Damn dude tell me more about how you hate your father.

[@jayhc]

The farmer says ‘good luck bad luck who can tell’