Black Love Live | Growing Through The Changes in a Relationships

On this episode of Black Love Live, our couples discuss how as they change and grow overtime, so must their efforts to continue to get to know each other.
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[@ayesjusta.9410]

"I had to stop trying to fix my wife to accommodate the thing's I needed to fix in myself. " That resonates. It works both ways. Very insightful brotha. A true jewel. I'm keeping that one.

[@FreedomofSpeech865]

This is so deep

[@jasmyne332]

Saaammmmee

[@sdwilliams1913]

IF ONLY my brother could hear Dondre, and "his wife" of 49 years can hear the woman who has evolved into her own person in "this last year..."🤞🏾True testimony that it is never to late to get to Happy! 🙌🏾

[@myrandomrants]

Dondre needs a WHOLE show of his own. Brother's full of wisdom 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@norapeace6526]

Yes!

[@rosej5029]

He had his book ready to promote. That's a true businessman.

[@norapeace6526]

@@rosej5029 I’m going to buy it for my little brother

[@striving1]

Yes. He is Amazing! He needs his own podcast/show!

[@jessicalewis2508]

Please lord! Daytime on a prime network... Yas

[@marthal8862]

Melissa made me cry, I'm SO proud of her. Kev always said that she's a force and when she reaches her potential he's gonna be a trophy husband, I see the vision! She's gonna be a supernova.

[@gracemaina6593]

This comment makes me want to go watch her videos, though they are so long

[@MsMEAGAIN1]

Grace Maina they are worth the length though!

[@prbydominiquepryor4198]

She already is supernova

[@yolandayvetteantoine4689]

I love Dondre even more now and I got that book and it saved my marriage.

[@unLEARNwithDineo]

Every time Melissa speaks, I just gotta wake up n pay attention! I love how she thinks, especially how well she can articulate her emotions 😍

[@mikosan77]

Yeah I was never taught to be a wife...only a strong independent woman.

[@lordgully5951]

Sadly the state for a lot of our women. It’s like boys being raised to Men who fend for themselves not necessarily “husbands” & “fathers”

[@FreedomofSpeech865]

Mikosan 77 and Lord Gully - it is up to us to now create some shifts. This is all remnants from slavery times when they purposefully destroyed our families. We were raised to survive now we can full embrace all facets of being.

[@shevaunbryant8554]

Same, I'm married and the hardest thing I've ever have to do is learn to be a flexible compromising wife.

[@rosej5029]

@@lordgully5951 How single mother parenting is so "NORMAL" in our communities as if the role and impact of fatherhood is expendable and easily replaceable by the child's mother so it can't be that valuable.

[@rosej5029]

@@lordgully5951 Like Dondre said, for BOTH BLACK MEN AND WOMEN, I didn't grow up with models of healthy marriages. I didn't see a married Black couple in my life until late adolescence or early adulthood.This is the early 70s- early 90s and I've lived in neighborhoods of color all of my life.

[@rodwillis4080]

Many Black males carry the "persona" of being a man, but actually are not. I am a Black man of a particular age and happily married (almost 13 years). I, too, had to evolve from a male to a man in my marriage. I had the degrees, career, home, and financial stability when I married. Those were goals of a boy. I became a man when I began to understand myself thru my interaction with my spouse over the years. The fighting was not about us, but about me. I began to look at myself spiritually and emotionally and that is when I became not only a man, but the man that my spouse (and family) wanted me to be in the beginning.

[@simplyredislandgirl]

Well said!👍

[@angeleyes3386]

Thanks for your transparency.

[@1980tiffani]

Thank you for this... a lot of our issues are us... so that’s a powerful realization and I’m sure it changed your marriage for the better! Wishing you and your wife many more years of happiness .

[@ItsBridjanay]

Thank you for sharing!

[@dionnew7994]

Thank you for sharing. It seems like so many of us run from self-reflection. In hindsight, do you think there is anything that would incline a man to look in this direction for growth sooner in the relationship?

[@naomio1709]

I cam across this literally 5hrs ago and cannot stop watching. As a black young adult, I cannot thank you enough because these are controversial topics that parents aren't able to have with us now a days.

[@twosaints4147]

I literally just came across this too...and I'm NOT that young and this is helping ME TOO. Blessings to you and your future Naomi O.

[@StandupGirl-ym3ey]

Right i got off at 8 and I cannot sleep because I'm watching these clips!! Good stuff!!

[@HBoyzFan]

Same. Well yesterday for me haha I am LOVING these

[@stepgirl305]

Literally, same

[@dd470_]

Girl I’ve been binge watching these little clips ever since as well! I have yet to sit and watch the full interviews !

[@itsmekiaratee]

“I’m the leader of my house.... Period!!” I commend that mindset and attitude. That is an ideal man.... Leadership 👏🏾👏🏾

[@caroltaylor205]

Stop trying fix someone because what's broken in you .thats real talk..🙏🙏

[@katharine1285]

Omg!!! My husband and I both came into the relationship broken. He wasn't raised by ANY MEN, mom was a drug addict and his grandmother over Compensated for that. I came with women bossing their husband around bitter being cheated on just sad all around with a dad that left and remarried a woman he met 6 months after leaving my mom.🤯 We are now married 11 years and when I say its hard? We've changed soooo much and learned so much and need more to continue our journey! I watch this and think to myself they need our story cause our story is not bliss but it was destined. I just love to feel that we weren't alone because through it all physically we were, we didn't have any support BUT GOD.

[@tanaeb.2671]

Beautiful story it's so powerful. So happy for you bless your family!

[@jazzyjazz2749]

And then kevins wife spoke up and its was powerful

[@ladydee7099]

Preach “Pastor” Dondré! Let the church say Amen! 🙌

[@chynaedwards5979]

Thank you for this..." Shrinking inside myself".....very true....having an opinion doesnt make Me difficult...💣

[@divinelychosen5554]

Absolutely gurl, speak it. I was called "difficult" because l dared to have an opinion.

[@purpleprince2598]

That’s so true

[@jenniferlivingston1776]

Nice , and straight to the point

[@Climatepolice]

I think the approach is important though

[@Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect]

This was golden from start to finish especially Dondre's part.

[@Klgray7373]

Dondre is bringing the knowledge!!!

[@MSquHaired]

So Y’all just let Dondre come on here and preach like this!!!!! He was saying it louder for the people in the back. 🗣🗣🗣

[@bogolontombela3650]

To thine own self be true. Powerful discussion. U marry who the person was, who they are today n who they will become tomorrow

[@rosej5029]

I respect Dondre just for being prepared to showcase his book, let alone the preaching about being a leader in his home.

[@Reeses710]

"Every man that you meet is a male, but not every male you meet is a man"

[@purpleprince2598]

😆

[@purpleprince2598]

tdd93 yes ma’am

[@Realrap2727]

I'm not even mad at Dondre for his promotion bcuz That Man be Speaking!!!!! Males n men Need to hear the sentiments of his words.

[@ronaldmcc48]

Woooooooow, this was breakfast, lunch and dinner. Talk about being full. 💑

[@allthingsbeautiful7967]

That brother broke that thing down about man vs male! I hope the men and women took heed to what he said.

[@write2ap]

It's official! I am in love with Dondre.😍💖He needs his own show as an actor or host. He is magic. Salli is incredible. Great couple!

[@TheMichelleRena]

Dondre brought it. When the man rises up, c'mon Sallie tell him preach. So can relate to Melissa 2.0, I got married at 19 and I've evolved and no longer hiding how I really feel, learning that I don't like eggs all that much (Just so happens) shocked my husband when I told him I don't like waffles LOL its the little things. God is making us better in the shift.

[@purpleprince2598]

AMEN

[@greenghost3756]

We all do a lot of fake stuff in relationships thinking that's what the other person wants from us

[@2Lovelifedaily]

I’m paused at 9:25 to buy the book... so I can identify the difference between a male and a man a lot FASTER than what I’ve been doing. Wasting my own time. Nothing wrong with being proactive 🙌✊🏾🖤

[@MyVlogTherapy]

Okkayyy... yassss girll same. 🙌🏽

[@kingdomkeata]

Same.

[@divinerae4966]

I completely agree; a man is the key to the home and they set the tone for the relationship. Women, we just want to be loved, acknowledged and respected very simple; if your doing this, your woman should treat you like a King because your already treating her like your queen. Period

[@prudencek7087]

Sadly, sometimes only one person in the relationship grows up and the one that is still stuck, can't understand what's going on.

[@Deen1223]

You said my mind ,what you said is absolutely true .

[@dionnew7994]

Speak on it. We have to invite growth into our lives and not all of us are receptive to it.

[@toffecrunch]

Right-then what do you do. Do you ditch and level up or do you stay and chip at it? It’s too draining. If all people could communicate. *sighs

[@sheambitious29lachelle17]

It’ll never work! One one is going right and the other left

[@1980tiffani]

toffecrunch usually the person leaves and levels up... and the other person remains the same ... such is life 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@melipooh1986]

Come on mel and kev “wha chu talkin?”🤣

[@domoniquepurnell2115]

Mel is her sister. She is Liss.

[@jordynrosabella3346]

I watch a lot of content and this right here was magic!

[@twosaints4147]

Same thing I said. There were def some great nuggets in this.

[@Aritul]

Well put!

[@KamielleKaye]

So many Gems dropped here! Thanks for sharing

[@KayBeOnline]

Kev said I did not get that email 👏🏽🤣📱 You'll be aight, bro

[@TrevWILL79]

Andre set thing in order at 7:50 , Men set the tempo when we embrace what HE’s called us to be!! 💪🏾

[@stephaniejsmes8991]

Thank you for these in depth discussions about marriage and growing together within marriage.

[@ericaball]

PREACH PREACH PREACH...Somebody please pass THE offering plate!!🙋🏾😁💰

[@janetreed4360]

I absolutely LOVE Sallie and dondre! I've learned so much from them and Blacklove! I'm buying the book😀

[@msprettyyoungthing20]

@Jacqueline Stennis male vs man

[@sl2427]

In agreement!!

[@gaillastof837]

LEAD THE WAY! Yes I've seen the change in my Hubby and I'm clearing up my mess and fixing myself so we can continue to move together in the Lord.

[@bytiffanynicole1044]

THIS IS GREAT!!!!....COME ON BLACK LOVE!!!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥💕💕💕💕💕💕

[@lb1798]

Melissa's iPhone analogy is PERFECT. The home button...it aint there no more...I've updated...swipe left ...LEARN THAT!!

[@coco0076]

I completely love the raw honesty of Black Love. Incredibly

[@DarlaReborn]

He preachin’ at 6 min!!!!!!! Wooooooo!!!

[@sharudd75]

This was a whole word get your life together moment. I was married for 17 years got divorced we were young.But I'm still growing and doing the work on myself.

[@sarahkwebihaw.7564]

After 17 years together, I thought you are so close. I hate divorce. All the best hun

[@SAFFRONSAVANTSTRATAGEM]

Thank you Dondre.

[@lrrussellrussell8227]

Dondre traumas is eye opening for men and it’s ok to not be ok men. I loved that he shared that part of his life and emotions 👏🏽😉luv it

[@blazebrown9102]

It's okay to have an opinion, grown-folk talk‼️❤️🎯🌟🌟🎯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Communication is essential in a relationship, good & bad‼️❤️🎯🤩🌟🤩🌟🎯 Pls don't loose yourself in the relationship, be woke‼️❤️🎯🧐🤔🗣️🤔🧐🗣️❤️

[@thelifeofamomofyoungmanand6439]

I needed this I was meant to be a wife but the man would not commit he didn't see this with his own parents until his mom gotten married years ago. Met someone who watched married life and look up to his parents this is the difference between a male and a man....I dated a male for seven years but I met a man who knows about relationships and having a marriage and family life. One isn't the bad guy he wasn't taught the importance of marriage but the other one is taught is why I fell in love with him so fast because he is a man.

[@bridgetbaber6679]

Thanks for showing me that black love is alive.

[@JaniceMba]

Its all interesting but for me a marriage with the foundation of God and his kind of love and his idea of marriage, headship, wife.

[@vimbaimaiwasha4421]

Yes very true. People always want to figure it out on their own but God has the answers

[@4islandbeauty]

Amen, without that foundation its a wrap

[@gracemaina6593]

Yes.

[@sheambitious29lachelle17]

Wow many women do that.. yes yes yes just so he can be around when your not being your true authentic self .. I’m so glad she pointed this out

[@nbrown5091]

The way Sally fell out, I felt that 😂😂and his reaction..”You Betta sit up” sooo funny

[@greenghost3756]

Dondre spoke a lot of truth

[@jazzyjazz2749]

Then Kevin got her at the end he said let a brother know when the update gets here HAHA

[@morgan.a.mcneill]

this was so good. anyone else peep tedashii + his wife in the front row?--I love seeing black people support other black people.

[@TenealeBenderMusic]

The couple in the middle is a blessing to so many for being responsible to the call of making this a visible platform. The guests are the icing and the cherry. -Signed single girl with ambitious shy tendencies.

[@JM-qg9bo]

Come through with the analogy Melissa! I adore her. She really reminds me of myself. For the most part I'm soft spoke, and at times people take it for granted. I'm not passive-aggressive, but I will speak my mind. And when really necessary ill give you the buddies. Not everyone is used to that, but that's not my fault. Why is it okay for you to be open, honest... speak your truth, but when i do it 'I just went off out 9f nowhere.' Wrong... I'm telling you something you don't want to hear, but again that's not my fault. I don't need to be loud or embarrass you in front of others to get my point across. Just don't be rude to or disregarding of me.

[@honeymoney23]

Man these clips are great! I wish I could have gone to it in person but I am SO thankful they put it on KZbin

[@destinystarr3837]

That iPhone analogy was GOLDEN 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@melissalawrence2730]

Thank you Melissa!!! You hit the point.

[@sevendagod777]

I smiled the entire time. Brilliant content. Very affirming. Please keep this going.

[@carmenyoung5168]

Good content - gems of wisdom here.

[@chantelcollins8756]

Love This 👏 Know the difference between a Male v/s Man

[@thumbsaloft]

There has always been answers for relationships, in fact the ABSOLUTE BEST ANSWERS, it's called THE BIBLE! You know from the God who CREATED LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGE!

[@ThinkingLikeAVIRTUOUSWoman]

Amen

[@vimbaimaiwasha4421]

Yes yes yes.. thank you for saying that

[@4eversunshinemcclain353]

TOTALLY AGREED with that comment!!!

[@gracemaina6593]

Say it

[@simmiedavissimmiesings8185]

Yes indeed. But the reality is that it takes interpretation of the word.

[@Sharon-vl6xw]

You better preach Melissa!!!!!

[@christielove9000]

This is the Juice!... Be Whom you Would Want... Lead By Example🔑

[@purpleprince2598]

Thank you FATHER GOD for this show. AMEN.

[@kwynkaq]

I love Melissa!

[@kay22100]

Aww Melissa seems so sweet. So true. Have to he able to speak up but also know when to sit down. Many women disrespect their husbands

[@jalessabragg3230]

I can say is AMEN! y’all dropping gems 💎 thank you for being so truthful and real.

[@meekyw.4010]

"You betta sit up, you betta sit up"! 😂🤣

[@rosej5029]

"You better sit up. You better sit up. You better sit up"

[@thelifeofamomofyoungmanand6439]

This will benefit my relationship the new one so appreciate you all doing this and I need inspiration to be the best wife when we get married I know I am capable I was doing wifey duties for seven years no ring as a girlfriend....I deserve this moment

[@Chocolate.barbie444]

Thank you for the free therapy session.

[@missasuni3537]

I absolutely love these videos....growth applies in any relationship to be fair and people have to learn to adapt and accommodate

[@stevenpokou185]

If you are serious about being in a relationship, it takes patience, love and understanding. Both of yall are evolving throughout your relationship, learning from each other. I'm currently in a relationship, my partner has taught me a lot and bless her everyday with understanding and loving her.

[@geminitwix]

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS SHOW! THANK U SO MUCH FOR HIGHLIGHTING BLACK LOVE/RELATIONSHIPS 😍💜❤💜

[@pheyfit]

I love this! Sit down open communication convos should happen more frequently in our communities like all need each other.👌🏾 communication brings insight. Insight that we are not alone!

[@RONNIELA400]

I adore that couple on the end in the black and white. They seem like they have so much fun together!

[@tracymac713]

This was full of laughs and informal information on “Black Love” 🙌🏾

[@valeciax]

I loved this! Sally hit it right on the head man! Then Dondre said what he said! But Ole girl and the home button focked me up! Man listen! #marriedfor21

[@SoulfulRose]

Loved this whole discussion. Thank you all and remain blessed 🙏🏾🖤

[@rodzaeries1981]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I like this Black Love Live show

[@walkbyfaith2917]

This☝🏽☝🏽 All of it!! Dondre, you betta preach, All that was on point👍🏾

[@SFootman]

I am so glad this was suggested. I am hooked.

[@esreneroache1006]

Amen and amen 🙏. I am delighted when our black community can discuss messages of hope for our black society through these media . Excellent discussion and great and positive energy flowing

[@SaraSmile70]

Dondrea preached!🙌🏾

[@careensimiyu1255]

Waaaaw,waaaaw,I have listened to this several times and am still rewinding it.I feel I need to hear this again and again.Words 👌 that heal thousands of souls

[@octaviakf]

I’m feeling the plug nice

[@dd470_]

“I have to constantly redate my wife” !!!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@brandywarrior]

Come on Mel!!!! 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿

[@Emmy-ru1qt]

Omg!!!! I just found you!!! I’m tuned in and listening. Working to convince my husband to listen with me. Not sure he will but I am in the midst of a major evolution and I need to hear this. 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@shakiachanel_theband]

She sat up though :)

[@Nerryl]

Thank you for writing this book. You are so right. Thanks for being a man .

[@1sontrell]

I was inspired by the show to have gathering similar to black love live format. I was planning it for april and Covid hit and shut everything down. Now I'm re-inspired to try again...maybe next year. Love seeing this!

[@LatashaTrueHeart]

@7:00 Thank you!!!! I've been saying something similar for years. There's a difference between a guy and a man. I fully appreciate your saying these things. Amen! Gender does not = manhood. (Same goes for women.)

[@christinaw.4626]

Absolutely LOVE Melissa's analogy on the upgraded phones. So easy to understand!

[@deborahblackshear3325]

Wow this is really amazing. Glad I stopped by and watched. Beautiful couples. Blessings to each of you.

[@jazzyjazz2749]

There's some sayings such as check out the wife when the man is talking and it can tell you alot

[@ckfields7146]

That’s real talk Liss

[@henanjoof7980]

FACTS - i have to constantly redate my wife!!!! (drop mic)....that iphone analogy is so REAL

[@makeamoveenterprise2042]

This was awesome, loved... ordered the book💟🙏🏽🥰