Black Love Live | Vulnerability is Strength

"My homework is not to fix her. My homework is to fix me." -Dondré Whitfield. On this episode of Black Love Live, Dondré discusses his journey of unlearning the bad examples of "manhood" he learned from his father.
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[@Realrap2727]

Dondre said THAT. He said ALL OF THAT. That is a Man. Invaluable conversation/testimony

[@acharich]

👑

[@karenalara212]

I love the statement “you don’t have to be fathered by your biological father but, you need to be fathered. Every man needs a man. “. Absolutely a profound statement single mothers need to hear and understand.

[@norapeace6526]

Single mothers u mean

[@eebz5]

Agree with the overall sentiment, however, all people (male or female) need to be fatheree.

[@scheenafarmer3979]

I'm not sure if we need a man in our life to be the person we should be, truth is that most people went down the "WIDE" road without giving yourself or your partner a chance and that's real. Personally, I would have never gotten a relationship that I wanted and needed just because most people we leaving the life and lies of other people's who knew that the way they were living is wrong but now that god have allow the universe to open up by the way of virtual reality it was a chance of a life time to show the man I chose in my mind that I could give him what he wanted. You already got it and had it since birth but you had to remember her cause she was you and you said it that she would have done anything for you, like the time you had to go back home she welcomed you without judgement and that is something that some parents will not do. She knew you and loved you and that love will never stop. A woman's love is like a mother's love but men have been taught to tell his woman, partner, that "you ain't my mother. We know this but this is the love and self care we have for ourselves that is snatched away from us and begin to not trust others because our hearts have just been hurt. We know that we are not our partner's mother but it is our innocence and our nature of love you guys didn't want to with one who needed love and wanted the same thing back. Women were rejected and not given a real chance to love for real men used the same excuse year after year, girlfriend after girlfriends that I saw happening to other generations before and after. All we have to do was try something different for self.

[@adventpotatoes1118]

I do too! It’s the responsibility of both men and women to understand this. It’s on men too show up and be accountable.

[@brooklynforever1990]

Damn that was deep so many men and women are corrupted by seeing these moments like Dondre experienced.

[@sanelisiwendabezitha1309]

I felt every single bit of what was said. The homework bit is such a truth omg!! Wow

[@TheMichelleRena]

This is the conversation everybody who's beating up on Jada and Will need to hear.

[@purpleprince2598]

Yes ma’am

[@Luvinlife71]

This was deep and powerful!

[@tsargent5001]

Love love love Dondre and Salli! Its apparent they are sincerely committed to their individual self development and enlightenment...which gives their partnership soooo much depth and security. They are two solid self aware beings. Dondre is truly teaching and dropping gems. Authentic and deep.

[@acharich]

💯💎💯

[@aprilbrown7333]

I love Diondres' platform. It comes from such a place of genuineness and healing. Much needed and thankful for what he is doing.

[@juliavaoitamaevamareko4661]

Vulnerability is the birthplace creativity, joy & peace. Just like Sally, my mother wasn't a textbook nurturer by design. So in all my life, I gravitated to mother surrogates with unconditional love and warmth to shape my womanhood. We do not have to let our traumatic life experiences dictate our journey to self discovery and truth.

[@Heirlife86]

While it's not our job to fix each other, we are both definitely avenues that are meant to expose the weaknesses in one another and work together to resolve them.

[@CocoSpeaks4HIM]

I LOVE DONDRE!!! He is such an example! I oray that they are continually growing and happy. He is so sincere and committed.

[@kekeps07]

Dondre, He got it! Its real refreshing! Honesty, Humility, Truth, Love, Respect, Leadership...Much Respect!!!! A true King!

[@remarkablylegendary9952]

I needed to hear this lord knows 🙏🏾🙌

[@lashayanesmith1019]

Absolutely stirring.... God intentions you to be....every man needs a man.....damn...I love this!

[@Tenai.T]

I love seeing black men be vulnerable. It’s a healing feeling when you can show the power of your vulnerability. 🙏🏾

[@tashmoore3825]

I am learning how to live vulnerability. And, I was raised with a one-sided matriarchal mindset, which isn't the worst thing, but can be very naturally combative to listening, or letting myself be open to him. Or more open. Whether he's in the wrong or not, if I can't receive that vulnerability, then there's no space for dialogue.

[@tashmoore3825]

I like that. Home work.

[@BluDrop5]

Have you considered going to therapy to help you resolve your issues?

[@meekaa2812]

WOW!!! Everything about this was spot on!! Being vulnerable comes with a lot of trust. You have to trust that the person won’t hurt you once you let your guard down. But if it works out, it can be such a freeing feeling

[@Study4Yourself]

Wowww!! This was so powerful.

[@blessednabundance75]

I love this, I wish I had this type of love, respect, and understanding. This show let's me know it is possible! God bless!

[@tboss3276]

Jesus loves you!😊❤ All so very very much!

[@norapeace6526]

This brought tears to my eyes bc I know a lot of men grow up with that mentality!!! It takes recognizing that that is wrong!! And trying your absolute best to fix it!

[@acharich]

💯💯💯

[@BluDrop5]

Lovingly accountable...amen.

[@MrsMoore1]

I love that you said “Lovingly”… very key.

[@ulricka2131]

Loved this segment. Every black grown boy needs to hear this👂🏽👂🏾👂🏿

[@gcromer903]

So much wisdom

[@metropcs7560]

I have literally sent, this video to my 2 living sons, thank you so much, God bless!!!

[@sevenlyfe5609]

LOVE Dondre !!!!!!!!!

[@AngelasTravelAdventures]

So needed this confirmation!

[@christielove9000]

This was Everything,Thankyou!🔑

[@nursesth]

This is powerful! Thank you. You will never know how these conversations impact lives.

[@MrBlactye]

This is so profound and powerful.

[@eileene]

That was truth ......

[@ObstaclestoOpportunities]

The truest thing is us doing the Homework. I see alot of pointing fingers and no working, the importance is the work, not the blame game. You have causes and so does everyone else.

[@iamsadeashley]

This is the best black love clip ever.

[@elizabethfernandes4370]

It's beautiful that this man is this vulnerable. 💯 It's beautiful feeling to have that vulnerability with your partner that's how me and my partner are we are vulnerable it took time we r there now. 💯 I'm grateful my man has his father in his life even if his dad's a little off he's always there

[@TreneaSays]

Absolutely the truth! Every man needs a man to guide him.

[@angelakafunda6212]

This is sooo deep and powerful I love the vulnerability 🤍

[@ambermccutchen8451]

I am loving these black love session I am learning a lot sincerely yours Mrs Amber McCutchen

[@kenamasunsmith3976]

I am the problem and I am the solution. Every man needs a man. Great talk. End to artiface!

[@sisterlinda4688]

Dondre, very well said. I gotta get your book... thank you for sharing with other men...

[@ekakhumalointombi5286]

"You can love a woman but can lust after many"... Mmh...

[@TilTheBreakADawn]

I'm so glad that he explained how this hurtful message from his father's actions showed him how to not do this and be a man vs. a male.

[@mwandikay]

Negative masculinity

[@Gaffersly]

Most of us learn like that you can love a woman but lust after more zulu guys are taught that

[@TilTheBreakADawn]

@Storm If the question is not "women" in general but wives professing love for their child's father in one breath and then catcalling another man in the next in her son's presence, then no, of course not. It goes both ways.

[@valerie4912]

I could listen all day!

[@Callhermsross]

Love Brother KevonStage!

[@cuprunnethover2509]

I am the problem but I am also the solution😊

[@jamiajowers270]

Whew chile, this blessed me

[@MzTinkerbell]

Wow..that homework part! Powerful!

[@lifewithenhle]

Wow... this amazing. Thank you

[@vITALEmpress]

Damn that is a WORD

[@sassysamuel4554]

Powerful

[@TenealeBenderMusic]

Powerful conversation

[@thegirlcode9453]

Love Love Loved this!

[@MsDean09]

“You can love a women & lust after many” powerful.✨

[@acharich]

😤💣🔥

[@dd470_]

So beautiful

[@clarkclarke]

NUF SAID ....💥

[@faithmasila6935]

Wow.. Beautiful

[@shondalesstudio]

That boy came!

[@ChosenDeeDee]

Wow! So powerful

[@AceHardy]

✍️

[@faithdobson3983]

This was deep!

[@THATS_CHARMING]

Wow I’m speechless !

[@Nicole77sweet]

Love this!

[@xanderlee4733]

He is lucky as hell. His wife is gorgeous!

[@AldermanFredCDavis]

Like most men, I was well into adulthood, nearing middle-age before I FINALLY knew anything about women and what (the overwhelming majority of them) respond to. Knowing what I know now, while Dondre is a good-looking guy, and certainly was back in the day when they got married, yet at the same time, Hollywood is FULL of attractive people. There were certainly guys with more money, however, I can't help but think that a major reason Salli stayed with him despite his 'running the streets' is the same reason that (most) women stay, subconsciously, she likes knowing that her man CAN attract a lot of other women. When I was young and dumb, I used to think to myself, 'Why in the hell would a woman want to be cheated on?' It's not that she wants you to cheat on her per se, it's like the late, great Patrice O'Neal used to say, 'She wants to know that you CAN attract other women.' It's a subconscious thing with a lot of females...................from 15 to 75. It's the same reason why, 14 times out of 11, when a guy has a girlfriend or several, he will often find other women sending him choosing signals. When he's in a drought, women won't give him the time of day. Your 'energy' is different. Men wearing wedding bands has the same effect. I have seen it first hand, several times.

[@kimberlysnoddy9068]

THIS IS SOME GOOD STUFF.

[@ObstaclestoOpportunities]

v/with the right person

[@keritho5578]

Wow!!

[@scheenafarmer3979]

All we have to do is live right and stop coping what has never helped if we want to be better then do the work. Lots of women and men got used and children were without one or both parents because they did not own their mistakes.

[@persistanced280]

@Dondré Whitfield you said a word! "You can love a woman, but you can lust after many." (Quote @4:36) Messaging is everything. kzbin.info/www/bejne/bKHPaICNotOlhLM

[@Reeses710]

Deep!!

[@janecallender8936]

💯👋👋👋

[@eog2133]

Love it !!Fix me!!!#Hastag#fixme

[@ga9100]

Do u guys just have regular blk couples there because I want to hear the in love regular folk not famous people who don't live from pay check to pay check because money helps with there marriage give me regular folk like I'm say making it work

[@filmadcamp1512]

Kev and his wife (are on the right) used to live from paycheck to paycheck. They're not superstars or tich. They worked hard to build their status.

[@acharich]

@@filmadcamp1512 💣💣💣

[@changetocome100]

This needs to be what black kids listen to in school, heck I'd take detention!

[@scheenafarmer3979]

Very few people care about walking the narrow road because society has taught us that the women need to accept the idea that there is...women for one man. Y'all believed the lies and lived that way I the moment rejecting women who didn't agree to this way of living which in turned caused some men to lie and cheat to have the women they wanted and still be able to dipped their big toe into another woman's pool. Now we have a melting pot that was chosen by the majority. "We The people" created this mess but want someone else to clean it. No one forced us to live the way we did, it was chose to do it. Y'all rejected the true women for a bit of fun and pleasure.

[@amcra1]

Sometimes Dondre irks my nerves when he tries to be deep. It comes off very preachy. I can’t get into his Male vs Man series because it’s like he goes out of his way to pontificate. He’s wants to always lecture people. He’s become self righteous.

[@allyb5156]

Always trying to promote his book 😂

[@kj7682]

Turn around

[@mocity5]

Odds are it's years of learning. Alot of it is passion. But hey just like a preacher take what u need

[@amcra1]

Bianca Nauls he’s annoying

[@amcra1]

Shay Just Shay how bout you shut the hell up. Dondre is pretentious as hell. He’s not even speaking entirely from his experiences. He’s lecturing the audience and everyone else on what they should or should not do. That’s his M.O. So excuse me if I’m not dumb enough to hang on his every word.

[@prettyspectrum3281]

I am the problem and I am the solution... Bars...

[@prettyspectrum3281]

Thanks Black love team ...

[@sharonbrown6202]

So powerful!!!