BLACK MEN are DONE dating BLACK WOMEN. Going white!

These BLACK MEN are DONE dating black women. They are going for white girls. From bad attitudes and masculine tendencies to the complete emasculation of men, black men say they are turned off and have had enough.
They are now turning to interracial relationships, and not just with white women. These men say they are tired of being ignored for years by women in their community only to be criticised when they move on to another race.
Tune in now. Leave comments (attack the argument, not the host and not one another in the comments section). We're all here today to TALK. So, keep it respectful.
This video includes clips from the following KZbin channels"
The Q Pill
FreshNFit
Derrick Jaxn
Donovan Sharpe Shorts
I address the hard topics. If it interests me, I'm talking about it.
Join this channel to get access to perks:
/ @thisbahamiangyal
NEXT GOAL: 100,000 SUBS!! 📈 (Let's get it!)
Subscribe to my channel and hit the notification bell 🛎 so that you are automatically notified when I publish a video.
WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW:
My name is Rogan (rhymes with Roseane). I'm an island gyal originally from The Bahamas, but now living in the big city - Washington DC. I'm an award-winning writer, award-nominated blogger and overall digital content creator.
On this platform, I do social commentary and reaction videos. I encourage my audience to have private conversations in public. What do I mean by that? Well, I want my audience - regardless of their background - to feel free to have honest discussions about social issues and hot-button topics. We lay it all at the altar of the comments section. Everyone is welcome and everyone is free to participate in the conversation.
This is a NO BULLY ZONE. I don't tolerate it towards me and especially towards my audience members. So, feel free to weigh in on the conversation, but do so with civility. Remember, attack the argument, not the person. That being said, let's talk!
Follow Me Here👇🏾
☆ Blog: thisbahamiangyal.com
☆ KZbin: / thisbahamiangyal
☆ Instagram: thisbahamiangyal
☆ Facebook: thisbahamiangyal
☆ Tik Tok: @thisbahamiangyaltbg
Rumble: rumble.com/c/t...
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
FOR SERIOUS BUSINESS/INQUIRIES ONLY:
Please reach out at [e-mail]. Before reaching out, please ask yourself these TWO very important questions:
1. Do you have a BUDGET for this sponsorship deal/project?
2. Does the service/product make sense for This Bahamian Gyal's platform?
If the answers to both questions are no, I would respectfully ask that you not reach out, as I am not interested in gratis sponsorships or reviewing products in exchange for product or commission. If you ignore my request, please expect to be blocked. Thank you.
Tips are NEVER required, but ALWAYS appreciated 💕 They help the channel big time.
CashApp: $ThisBahamianGyal
#dating #blackculture #interracialcouple #blackwomen

[@HealPTHD]

A college degree does not come with moral fortitude. I’m so sick of this narrative that a college educated person is somehow more emotionally intelligent than a person without a degree.

[@azazel_playz7055]

yea wasting 4 years of your life for gender studys is not making you better than me

[@ScottieMitchell-f8y]

I hate she say it's unfair to give up on a whole race. It's actually fair. When you're raised by a single black mother and she treats you horrible, that's just a start. Then you try dating your own and you get a bunch of attitude. Then you look at how they're least married, first divorced, highest std, highest single parenthood, elevate baby mama's, idolize people like cardi b sexy red, and you just don't want part of it. Then when a woman gets online and bashes black men, it usually gets hundreds of thousands of likes. You absolutely can give up on a whole race inside the US.

[@dgarzaart2000]

Especially nowadays. Education standards have taken a nosedive. Some of the dumbest people I know have master's degrees.

[@cotati76]

@@azazel_playz7055a STEM degree is the most valuable degree. Almost nobody that has ever gotten a good STEM degree struggles. I have one and I can get a job almost anywhere. So keep staying uneducated and thinking everybody who goes to college gets a “gender studies” degree. You think you’re saying something intelligent but it just outs the fact that you probably did the bare minimum in life and only have a high school diploma and are extremely jealous of those of us that actually did the extra hard work in life and wanted more from life than a job in a factory, a bunch of kids and lifelong poverty. I told my nephew that if he wants to make sure he struggles his entire life he should stay away from college. I bet you live paycheck to paycheck.

[@just_frankie_yall]

Preeeaaccchhh now imagine what the classrooms look like

[@sp3ci4lkpo]

White guy here. Dated a black girl once. She was an absolute lady. Interestingly, she wasn't "black American," but Nigerian American. Black as night and absolutely beautiful. Incredibly fun, personable, witty, and intelligent, too. I'm certain she's found "the one" and wish her the best.

[@yessir8805]

Foundation Black American women are different from Africans. I dated a white Africans from South Africa, and she was the same way. She taught me French and actually made me get a passport when I was 19. Never forget her ❤ she was feminine, funny and very smart.

[@antoinemartinjr.710]

This is about American black women

[@reggiemckinnon3126]

Unfortunately she probably caught hell because of her color. It's a shame...and that's why I think a lot of them are bitter.

[@servdv]

Yea but the type of black women that dates white men are usually not the same women she is talking about trust me no disrespect.

[@blacklyfe6881]

​@yessir8805 what is a white African? All Africans are from Africa therefore they are black!

[@d.thompson7464]

People are out here blocking their blessings and focusing on the wrong things. I don’t understand… why aren’t we focused on attraction, commitment, and compatibility?

[@NatN0812]

@@d.thompson7464 💯💯💯

[@darkNovaskar]

@@missklassy9783 and BW wait at the finish line instead of helping a decent BM build the "patriarchy". You only date other races of men but they will never wife you.

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

@@missklassy9783 exactly. They just want to dominate a woman. That's it.

[@thatcrazymick]

I have a black gf. I've dated white, black, latin girls all my life so I never even think about it. My gf is feminine, traditional, educated, compassionate, and goofy funny. Exactly what I look for.

[@deciuswtasby]

Well said. It’s weird to me that men complain like angry, bitter, crazy, and etc don’t come in all flavors of the rainbow

[@lukewalken1316]

She's definitely not from the hood

[@jakedover5301]

Amen to that sir. Feminine women are so attractive and natural

[@BELLASPEAKS-g1b]

Is she light skin ?

[@flawed2001]

Really? Where you find her at?

[@ambzskiii]

and then there’s me.: the quiet black girl who gets told she is too nice and needs to be meaner... but still at the same time have to deal with all these stereotypes. it’s so confusing and annoying i just want to be me.

[@meka1816]

This is completely true; I was always told I acted too white, and I need to toot it and boot it because my ass was flat. I wasn't ghetto enough. I also listened to Evanescence, so I wasn't going to find a black man to like me. There's always talk about the black male nerds but what about the black female nerds that was an Oreo and got bullied for being an outsider. My biggest bully was a dark-skin black men and funny enough is name was Raquan, he preferred my very light-skinned friend and a white girl named Megan who is now finishing up a 10 year-bid in prison. He went on to have multiple kids by different mulatto women.

[@annasingsohsnap]

@ambzskii@ people will tell you to be what looks best to THEM, what makes THEM feel more comfortable. And yes ma’am, that’s all you have to do- be YOU. Be what YOU are comfortable as- yourSELF❤️

[@sidvicious647]

Don't change Miss , you're worth more than Gold !

[@Speakinurmynd]

Please don't change who you are! I'm a 49-year-old black man who was told all my life I was too nice and talked white! I found my black woman and have been married for 16 years now.

[@11104936]

"To oneself, be true." You have to look yourself in the mirror every day, so continue being you.

[@coolguy6654]

Dating is harder also due to social media. Everyone always feels like they have options, plus it builds toxic competition

[@ShamosKnight]

Exactly 🙄 then be the same folks crying about loneliness and depression 😂

[@Mike-ce6vr]

They wouldn’t think that if they knew how to do math, because based on the standards of what most modern women are looking for, there is only a small percentage of men who meet their standards. That’s what the data shows, not my opinion. They end up competing with 100 other women fighting over the same small group of men who meet their 666 criteria.

[@malwads1836]

It doesn't matter whether a person 💭 they have a bunch of other options or not though🤔... It's what they actually choose to do with those perceived options.

[@GIJadaSmith]

Ooo I can relate to the compliment thing. Just the other day I had complimented a sistas tattoo (nightmare before christmas) and the eye rolling and “ugh” I got made me laugh. It’s all I could do. Sheesh ya try to be nice lol.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

It's so sad, isn't it. Frustrating, too. Like I told someone, it's in my nature to compliment people and show love. But, some of these folks make it hard.

[@brandih8972]

A gal (black) at work took out her braids and started wearing her hair natural, and I (white) thought it was so beautiful, so I told her. She was gracious that time, but I saw her again with her natural hair tied back in a scrunchy that time, and I loved that too. The second time I complimented her, she acted suspicious that I was not genuine. I recognize maintaining her hair type takes skill, work, and time, but her hair is beautiful and I'm low-key envious. She's so beautiful, and it makes me sad that she thinks she's being mocked out something when someone tells her so. When I have told other women, they may not realize how pretty they really are, but they don't assume I have negative intentions when I tell them I consider them beautiful. My grandma always told me I'm pretty, so that's how I learned to be toward women.

[@SuperSirfresh]

And that’s the common response a black man gets tryn to talk to a sister! So years of getting that response why keep talking to that to keep getting that response! Nah man is waking up not just black men!

[@mleecthulhu]

Heard that

[@biegebythesea6775]

Are you trying to be nice? You misogynistic username suggests you're not a very nice person, actually.

[@Csalters12]

I dated a white woman she was the first and only human that ever told me I was enough and it changed my life

[@glamglam8347]

LMAO grow some please. did she tell you you were the prettiest princess in the ball too

[@edt4080]

Keep her bw would never they are insecure narcs

[@justsayit476]

we do but to men that deserve it@@edt4080

[@tiffanyeyoung1800]

​@@edt4080 Some of us, not all of us. I lift mine up daily. It's a real shame though that so many blk women aren't taught to respect black men

[@rublenoon932]

⁠You mad brah?

[@DeXLoaded]

I find it strange how a man could be at odds with all the women of his community. As a college educated black man with no jail record, I am glad that I've never had issues engaging, attracting, or being with a black woman. The best woman in the world! No race of woman is perfect. You just have to be mature to understand that everyone isn't for everybody.

[@sosimple7594]

Right, I agree. I just don't understand the war created.

[@calebcrusher]

Maturity. Spirituality. Creativity. Positivity. Accountability Being The Biggest Challenged Subject. All Women Need This.

[@Petals234-w2s]

I think this highlights a deeper problem in the black community, it's not race that's the issue, it's black American culture. I am not an American but anyone with eyes can see that rap and gang culture has been extremely detrimental to the black American community and it seems both the women and men don't want to be held accountable for an evil culture they created, all I see is feminine men blaming women and masculine women blaming men, none of the members of the black community want to find a solution instead they are busy blaming the other gender.

[@calebcrusher]

Preach Brother!!!!! As Long As She Is Virtuous And Cannot Be Bought Or Sold........

[@gramcliches1980]

Live more, you'll see 😮 Also your personal claim of experience dismisses what too many brothas around you have gone thru with the sistas. Don't dismiss your friends testimony just b/c of your pleasant experience

[@gordonworth5461]

It has nothing to do with black women being "black" . its the ATTITUDE .Men, all races, are attracted to looks , you can be green lol if you fine u fine. But if your attitude stank , it dont matter how good u look , if youre just rude and mean and think youre being strong you are very wrong lol

[@tomyum6163]

Not to mention the intense anger that's a hair trigger away. I've seen it in black women much, much more than any other race category male or female.

[@Kira-berry]

It’s seems as if these stories try to define EVERY bw.. make this statement after you have dated EVERY bw. Lived with every bw.. witnessed every bw attitude. ❤️

[@Sleepy_Apocalypse]

If you aren't black we deadass don't care.. She doesn't have the same energy for you that she'd have for a black man 💯

[@Kira-berry]

@@Sleepy_Apocalypse I am black maybe BM are attracting the wrong BW. And that’s says something about BM maybe a reflection of who they are.we date our reflection until you grow and ready for union. 🌹 I don’t care about color.. I love to see happy colors of any race together 🌹

[@the_viper_mc4404]

@@Kira-berry didn’t he just say it doesn’t matter if you’re black, you can be green. The race doesn’t matter I can tell you’re a black women lol.

[@bvang0520]

In regards to the Myron video, trauma does contribute to how one behaves but it does not fully excuse a person from how they treat other people.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

I agree. Thanks for watching! 🖤

[@malwads1836]

Bam!🎯🎯🎯

[@Gsgift484]

You are so right,I'm a black women,and I love complementing people,but black women I think twice to give a complement because of the attitude and negative vibes we give each other,we need to love each other more.

[@LocdAnnLuvly]

Agreed... I'm like TBG...I love to compliment and receive compliments from other women but I have noticed that with other Black women there's either an attitude when receiving the compliment or an asterisk when giving the compliment... It's good to know that it's not just me

[@JamesBrooks-hj3dz]

I no longer hold doors for blkwmn, I refuse to.Everytime I do try to give the benefit of the doubt they ALWAYS disappoint so I figure don't do it for any of em unless a family member

[@LocdAnnLuvly]

@@JamesBrooks-hj3dz Wow! That's unfortunate that you will let a handful of foolish women change your mannerisms and character... Sir, you are a gentleman and unfortunately we live in a day and age and society that no longer appreciates gentlemen... Whether it's other men who may think that you are "soft" or "weak" or if it's women who may think that you are suspicious...Because of where we are in history, the gentleman's way gets disparaged. But I beg you please don't let that change you...Stay true to yourself! Because we need gentlemen and our boys need to see how ALL women really should be treated

[@gamingbrothers1890]

This is not true they want men and to keep fighting

[@EBURINTHA]

I have always said this . Black women themselves have altitude towards themselves.

[@BjtheLawyer_]

Black women don’t want to rush into marriage, but rush into getting pregnant? I just don’t understand that logic! Having a child is a greater commitment than marriage!

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

You are absolutely right!

[@mrowe40]

Children are more loyal to their mothers than men, besides most women take birth control that doesn’t work on us. So if they don’t abort then everybody call them gold diggers, and they do abort they call you a murderer.

[@soniacastro-sanchez5726]

From the look's of it the blacks guys do the same don't want marriage but make babies all over. Not just to their own but to other women to. My dad always would tell us don't go for the b guy's because they don't value marriage or family

[@parisian_nicole]

Very true and I say this because I grew up seeing it in my own family and it was generational, a lot of black women get pregnant because the gov't will pay them to do it. A child becomes a meal ticket and a monthly paycheck, and the more children they have the bigger the payout. Also, the gov't tells those black women that they can't have a man in the picture if they want to keep getting paid, but that's another conversation entirely.

[@BjtheLawyer_]

@@parisian_nicole sad because that’s such a low level of thinking. And it creates generational trauma from the circumstance kids are brought into. 🤦‍♂️

[@BlushingRoseDiaries]

I noticed every since I moved to the southern US the black womens are sweeter and kinder than up north. It’s a breathe of fresh air!

[@JaNaeSmith-vk7uk]

So true

[@antares3097]

I'm from the north east currently residing in the south east and the women down south are the same for ass attitudes is concern.

[@cotati76]

I grew uo in the north and noticed the difference almost immediately when I moved to Charleston SC. I grew up near Oakland and the people there seemed a lot angrier than their southern counterparts. I know it’s a kind of generalization but I definitely know what you’re talking about.

[@servdv]

Yup my family is from texas mom moved to PA so I have seen both worlds its throws me off everytime I visit downtown houston or anywhere else in Texas the women just speak and they accept a simple hello without any stuck up responses.

[@BrandingAblce]

I am a 42 yr old melanated woman who was raised by my father. He always provided. But from my experiences, most melanated men that I've dated didn't know how to treat me. They were always trying to mode me into what they thought I should be, and that was by any means necessary. Including verbal, physical, finacial and mental abuse. I went from being very submissive to very defensive, especially when I saw red flags. So that masculine energy in my opinion is a form of self protection. Peace and love sister. Ur videos are very insightful and u are so authentic. Blessings.

[@Frindiegames]

My dad, a white man, married a black woman and they eventually got divorced. She was a sweet fun likeable lady but my dad was disciplined financially and wanted the same from her. They met at the same job with the same salary. She always wanted to live outside of their means. I remember one day she bought a range rover with rims and my dad was so angry because it cost twice as much as his own car payment. He left that relationship $25,000 in debt.

[@booneboone9705]

Damn

[@JamesBrooks-hj3dz]

Blk wife effect😮

[@bertranddumond2914]

Women that usually makes the same or more money than a man don’t like to submit to his authority and guidance. That’s why men rather date women that make less but more family oriented.

[@MsLotusBlooms]

He was lucky. My fiance is white and his white mom left his white father in $100k in debt due to being a shopaholic. This problem is a personal not a racial one.

[@SeanWalker15]

I don’t understand why some white men put ourselves through that. We are incompatible with blacks & black culture.

[@globalpilot76]

Youre absolutely correct in that a father in the home will be the biggest determinant of how a daughter makes her choices.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

Absolutely. I love two-parent homes and I say this as a woman who grew up in a single parent home.

[@NicoleTaylor-zx3hg]

Again, what would these people have to talk about if they weren’t denigrating Black Americans, and Black women in particular, as if the men in their cultures don’t have whole second families down the street? Not to mention the colirism, skin bleaching, and classism? They have ZERO laundry of their own to air out because the goal is to denigrate and assess Black Americans. We are tolerating it anymore thiugh

[@MarsharenaLee01]

You are absolutely right. It could make or break a young woman. In my case, it almost broke me...ALMOST!

[@AnjalekeSims]

hopefully if the father is in the home he won't turn out to be a child molester, that's why some black women either become gay and men or masculine

[@JAM661]

Yea he will be the one who will teach you as a women do you need to protect yourself if the parent get divorce. That is what I learn from my Dad? Always make sure I can take care of myself and have my own income, money, and bank accounts in my own name.

[@andrespicer8351]

Just stumbled across your page and I am hooked. Love your perspective. Please keep the content coming.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

Thank you so much! Will do!

[@nopenope7777]

I'm mixed black and white but look white. I was bullied by black women throughout my younger years in school. My worst teachers and managers were black women. I've tried to date black girls, the attitude is a SERIOUS cultural issue. What's worse is if you call it out they light you up. Or when I have tried to date black women, I open up about how I was mistreated and how it's difficult for me to be around black women at first. they called me racist, ignorant etc. I literally just walk away as soon as they disregard what I've been through. Not realizing I'm trying to push through those issues and date them still. I don't even try any more with black women

[@johnwilliams2313]

Facts. I was one of those "corny" guys. Today, I am an author, CEO, music artist, and Bible teacher.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

Amen!!!!! Like I said...I'll gladly take the "corny" guys that some women pass up. They are usually the ones doing something great with their lives. Thanks for watching and congrats on your success!

[@johnwilliams2313]

I will continue to watch with great interest. @@ThisBahamianGyal

[@pamelapeters3342]

Although I agree with much of what is said in this video just to give you an example of what many black women are dealing with is that Black men will have all the same credentials that you have displayed in your comment but once you get to know the guy you discover that he's an author of a book that he self-published and put on Amazon and no one has bought or read it but he did it just so he can say he's an "author". He's the "CEO" of a company that he created but makes no money because he created an LLC just so he can say he has a business. He's a music artist of a few pieces that he put together, but he doesn't perform, or he uploaded to iCloud and it has no listens and he's a Bible teacher because anyone can volunteer to teach the Bible in church. So she's met with a man who's given himself many titles but in reality, works at Walmart for minimum wage and lives with his mom. And yes, there is something wrong with that because you meet so many black men like this who are "corny" and, on the books, seem decent and nice but you realize that these are lies, masks that they wear to cover the fact that they really aren't going anywhere with their lives and many women (rudely) ridicule them on the date (which I don't condone) or just ghost them.

[@johnwilliams2313]

I am sorry that this happened to you. However, not all men are the same. The fact that his books are not taking off yet, or his business, artistry, and teaching ministry are still in the formidable stages, doesn't mean he is a fake person. Many people will not attempt even one of these. They all take time. If he is willing to trust God, He will help him, and he will succeed. People ghost others because perhaps they lack to courage to be honest with them or want to avoid the risk of confrontation. Either way, Black men who are willing to attempt these things, need the type of women who are willing to encourage them and build with them. These days, black women want a man who is already at the pinnacle of their success. They tend to be self-centered and focus on themselves. Men like that need a partner who prays, reads, is prepared for a relationship, and is ready to support an artistic partner. In closing, creating an LLC enables a business person to file for a DUNS number, open a business bank account, receive grants, and obtain business funding.@@pamelapeters3342

[@eac-guy7272]

I oce started dating a "corny" guy. He said he was God fearing too. He grew up in the SDA church. A co worker qho atends the same church said she knows his mom to be a woman of God.His mother was an elder in the church so I thought I was safe. He has 2 beautiful daughters and his mother who he adores Did I have a cruel awakening. If I didn't read the bible myself I would've been caught up in a whole lot of ish This guy in his 40s only looking for hook ups. He wanted threesomes and wanted poly and he used the bible to justify it. I ran for the hills

[@timsmith8506]

43 year old white guy for whatever that’s worth. I have found black women attractive since the first time I saw the singer Brandy in like 1998 and I’ve dated several women of color over the years. I don’t think that they have been any more or less “difficult” than any other female. I never really thought about it until now, but I’m wondering if maybe there is truth in the idea that in general black women are “difficult”. I don’t know it doesn’t seem right to generalize people.

[@DerellRutherford]

Why haven't you married any of the black women you've dated ?

[@timothysmith7080]

@@DerellRutherford I never really wanted to marry anyone. To me the system is so absolutely against men what is the point? I've been contributing to my 401k since I was 19 and, no I'm not "rich", not even close, but I've been consistently taking steps so that I don't have to eat cat food when I'm 70 and I don't want some judge that doesn't know me or give a sh*t about me to give anyone half of that money. It's bad enough the government cannot wait to get their hands on it.

[@GetRIGHT24452]

​@@DerellRutherfordare you married?

[@michaelwallace2487]

The question that needs to be asked, and rarely is, is why, if true, are females like this? Because, then, you'd have to open up the discussion to other factors: sociological, economic, cultural, etc. reasons as well as co-sharing the responsibility that black males play in this little drama, instead of just laying the blame on black women, which is really what's going on here.

[@sosimple7594]

​@@michaelwallace2487excellent point and observations!

[@dominiquespencer373]

I’ve dated multiple races and I’ve come to the conclusion that’s who’s for you is for you regardless of skin color.

[@sibzism]

Truth! 😊

[@lawrenzo_12]

fr

[@lavores]

Keep that free spirit thinking shit over there these new age fake ass cxxns is the new real for some black men and damn there all black women this is why we can't get shit together because most of those cxxns worship white people and other races of people

[@SDS-ee9js]

I’m half black and half white. I feel like this problem goes both ways, black women need to be more respectful of black men, and stop dating thugs and guys that are abusive and commit crimes. There are good black men out there but they’re often overlooked because people think they are “boring”. However, there are also a lot of disrespectful black men that are abusive, cheat, and leave their women to raise their children by themselves, and keep perpetuating the problem of fatherlessness. I’m a woman and I’ve dated both black men and white men, I’ve met some amazing black men, but I’ll be honest and say that the majority of assholes I’ve dated have been black. Generally speaking, the white men have treated me much better. So like I said it goes both ways.

[@userJFK]

I swear even if it would be world war 3 today somehow the world will find a way to blame it on black women. This why I don’t care what people think about us anymore it’s more peaceful this way.

[@Wartorcher]

Thank you for your perspective

[@vmlksm9]

Why is the answer never black men need to be more respectful to black women?

[@FelipeSimmons-zq4qn]

Just as well, respect is earned not given and second, Black Men need stop chasing women who are about nothing simply because she looks good, cannot speak let alone write a complete sentence and have sex on demand even if she's not interested so he can show off to his buddies as eye candy.

[@yourfavoriteblackbaddie6629]

@@vmlksm9 That part!!! They never answer that. Its always put on black women to be respectful. Stereotypes and the negative view black men have on black women only fuel that. Respect should go both ways a relationship is a partnership it shouldn't be put on one person.

[@SL-uf5zi]

Damn, the part about not having a father and seeing your mom trying to be both a mother and a father and then as a daughter ending up with masculine/I don't need do man mindset hit me hard!

[@ctruth6185]

Let's finish the sentence for those with slow comprehension "I don't need no man to bring me grief, heart ache, infidelity, misery, violence and poverty." "I don't need no irresponsible man." Such women have had several traumatic relationships. So they are done. There are also many bw who have given up on "black love" and dating altogether, proving black women are tired of the gaslighting offered by the BC. Perhaps people are just too jaded by the falseness of the BC?

[@lydiamorgan9952]

Not all men can lead, I have seen men goes behind his wife,s back and invested a big chunk of her money without her knowing, and it was a fraud so he didn't get any of this money back .

[@ljones9841]

Women are sometimes masculine because the mom did have to play both roles bc the dad was not involved or in the home.

[@MrWood-qd6kr]

So how can a woman be taught to be masculine when no masculinity is around?

[@TheSunGoethDown]

I had an absentee dad and my mom did everything. I grew up nearly fearless. I struggle to follow my husband because I have sharpened so many skills. Sometimes I feel like I have to dumb down to be feminine. I wish I had a perfect answer.

[@patriciadavis5939]

I’m with you on that. I’m a hairstylist retired. I saw a young woman and told her how pretty her hair . That girl told me she didn’t go that way. She was stupid I was insulted. At the time married about 30 yrs. I feel the same as you do. Good women are not at the clubs.

[@justthinking4421]

We can't fix what we won't face!🤷🏾‍♀️

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

Exactly! Thanks for watching!

[@GOTHICMAMBA35]

That's a good life lesson in general thank you ! 🎉

[@MissKlassy]

@@ThisBahamianGyal Isn't it funny how you didn't fix your mindset, you said WW were better and married the lowest WW and chased Single parent WW only to end up alone at 69 years old with poor health Maceo *So why didn't Maceo take his own advice, lots of women went right past him. He whined like an old Sickly Broke 69-year-old boy dying alone!* KARMA

[@ByronDuhon]

Say Brother, some things you can’t fix!!!!! But so-called white women are NoT the ANSWER😢!!!!!!!!!!

[@royaltylordprinceshamiyah1229]

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

[@tiffanyeyoung1800]

As a black woman I don't blame black men for not wanting black woman. So many are taught that bad boys are the cool ones and nice guys suck. I will be the first to tell you that thugs are not cool. I have been down the " ride or die chick" road and it has destroyed years of my life. I'm very thankful for my nice sweetie who is black

[@KayDejaVu]

Why are so many of them into crime though?

[@ctruth6185]

Then don't blame the black women, who don't want black men. So many black men are taught that light/white skin, a straight or loose curl pattern and a fat ass is cool and desirable. Most of the good black women are shunned because they aren't pale with a big ass. Goes both ways. Life is a two-way street. Every black male on the internet including, broke ones expect a Beyonce to fall all over them paying 50-50 or more.

[@Smoothballoon]

too bad your sweetie gotta used up 304, I hope he leaves you and gets someone he truly deserves.

[@tiffanyeyoung1800]

@@Smoothballoon LOL! A 304 is someone that's like people such as Sexy Red. Second, since you don't know anything about him, you have a lot of nerve saying that one. Guess your third baby daddy spent your child support. Plus, considering that he's not a thug or fool ( obviously your type), he already knows himself and who he has as his lady. When you have that in your life, lay off with dumb terms like 304

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

And u don’t deserve to be in the presence of other blk women

[@ashleyking7161]

I was married for years to a white man, we divorced because he was abusive to me. I was at work the other day and got asked why I wasn't married or in a relationship, and when I said I was divorced the person said "oh well you must hate guys then." And I told em, no I don't hate a whole group of people because of one person, I came out of it with many more boundaries and I see a lot more red flags. That's the thing, it has nothing to do with grouping whole peoples together. You just have to keep your eyes open and choose your partner for who they are as a person.

[@sveinkikals7876]

As a European White man living in Canada, I dated Black women and married one, some Black women, like many women of all races, had "issues" but others had values similar to yours. I'm afraid I have to disagree with the man who wants a woman to be submissive and respect male authority. I don't look for a submissive woman, because a relationship is a partnership of equals. As for respect, respect is earned by how you interact with others, etc. I do not believe that a man, because of birth, is a boss. Respect must be mutual. I lived in the US for a while and even served in the US Military and found Black culture there very different from Canadian, Caribbean & African Black culture. I left America, because, I found the culture/society there, in general, unacceptable to my values. I enjoy your podcast.

[@DaisyChain3339.]

🤮

[@sibzism]

Thank you for seeing black women as individuals and not a group 😊🙏🏾

[@Србомбоница86]

We are not equal nor we should be

[@jenayrandall9358]

Sigh, as a black American girl who lived in Europe for 10 years…Americans are very socially delayed. They still believe in these old fashioned norms and dynamics in relationships and see them as transactional. My ex and most guys I’ve dated have been European, and the first date I went on with an American since being back, let’s just say, I miss Europe.

[@vanaphill2454]

This is why black women should divest and date white men. They want marriage and partnership. Black men don't.

[@nicolew4877]

As someone who grew up in a country with 100% white population, I remember coming to UK aged 19, and I was blown away by black women’s bold confidence. I was impressed. I loved it. In my country, us girls are taught to be humble. But after a while I started to grow tired of the constant drama, loudmouth attitude and all the headache inducing sass. I made friends with all the quiet black girls who were like me, and I had to let go of the drama queens, as I couldn’t handle them long term as friends, they were exhausting.

[@dznowskimarshall7475]

say less

[@namkebanyanklariti]

Imagine what we have to go through when our wagons are hitched to those friends you distanced yourself from. Imagine no peace, loneliness, high BP, liver and kidney diseases from excess friendship with J, Wray & Nephew.

[@Jt-kl1yy]

Arrogance and delusional is more like it

[@southernafricanboy4148]

Nicole where are you from if you don't mind me asking I moved to London from South Africa in 1996 and I never ever dated a black British woman. They are too much for me unfortunately 😢

[@nicolew4877]

@@southernafricanboy4148 Poland

[@Artsycocoa_0.1]

It doesn't matter which race you date just domt insult the your races women easy peasy

[@swats214]

As a BM, I preferred BW since I was raised in tradional two parent home. So, I was looking for a mate that would align with my goals. Unfortunately, most of my ex black girlfriends were not serious or party girls. After awhile, I no longer wanted to waste time and money on dates and eventually met my wife oversees. She is a Filipina with tradional values.

[@EBURINTHA]

Enjoy and leave us alone

[@dude7816]

To be honest, I’ve experienced the same thing with white women as a white man. Still ended up marrying a white woman. So….Yeah, anything can happen.

[@renalove7123]

Thanks for sharing!

[@RockyAllPurpose]

Thanks for not running

[@malwads1836]

Let's be honest there's not that many 🚺 out there nowadays that are really good wife/mother material.🤷🏻‍♀️

[@m.b.1702]

😢I agree with you! Unfortunately something has changed with the manners, being kind, polite & thoughtful to one another. Its obvious we don't really care & love our neighbor. It reflects in every area of society, just watch the news. Its deeper than I can express here. I wish things were different. 😢

[@RS33381]

I feel like it’s class thing. I grew up in the suburbs (which was diverse), and hardly had an issue until I moved out to one of the roughest neighborhoods in Miami for college. It was all I could afford unfortunately. Woman of all races in that neighborhood were rough. The environment they lived in was violent, dangerous, and stricken with poverty. Not to mention the school systems failed them horribly. I refused to make friends and stuck to myself until I moved to the Keys a couple years after. But I see why they are the way they are.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

You are spot on. It IS a class thing.

[@RS33381]

@@ThisBahamianGyalvery few roses grow from the concrete ❤

[@1984isnotamanual]

May I ask did you have friends elsewhere like at college and you didn’t make friends with the women in your neighborhood?

[@drehardin]

@@ThisBahamianGyal It's both.... Culture & Class. (I'd say more about culture). There's a black woman on KZbin right now screaming about how giving compliments are racist 🤦🏾‍♂️. The attitudes are often too much to deal with. Complaining, Entitled or Confrontational. The hot song of the summer was "my booty hole is brown"... And the women will curse and burn you with fire if you said it was a problematic song. To say that.... Means it's culture.

[@khristionlouvatin6874]

Welfare food stamps

[@BlushingRoseDiaries]

Also to add, I’m a very feminine woman. I was raised with both parents in the home whom were married. (“Were” because my mom has passed on May she RIP). Anyway, dating was very difficult for me with black men. Too many were wired in a more “modern” way unlike what I expected as a traditional woman. Men that expected 50/50 relationships although they never helped with traditional feminine roles in the household. These same men would demand me to be submissive while still expecting me to pay 50% of the household bills, plus cook, clean and take care of a child. How can you expect a woman to be soft and feminine in a situation like this? A lot of black men do not create the environment for a woman to feel comfortable and secure so that she can rest in her femininity. This is a recurring problem that needs to be addressed. Instead of complaining do better and women will fall in line. The black community puts the value of a woman on her accomplishments while other races value their women for just being a woman. BTW I am married to a black man with traditional values. I have no problem submitting to my husband because he is a traditional man whom created an environment for me to rest in my femininity and be a woman.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

AMEN TO EVERYTHING YOU SAID!!!!! I absolutely agree. By the way, my condolences on your mom leaving us. Nothing like a mother's love. Thanks for contributing.

[@try8042]

I agree I actually had a black man tell me, “He wanted to break me because I grew up in a two parent home and he wants me to suffer like women from a single-parent home.” I've never discriminated against anyone, but I have had a better engagement and relationships with men outside of my race.

[@BlushingRoseDiaries]

@@try8042 I hope you left that situation ASAP! That is just horrible!

[@kingstrong5351]

A lot of Blk Women today expect a traditional man while not being traditional women, which is another reason why Blk Men tend to date outside of their race a lot. I've been married to a Blk Woman for 11 years by the way that is extremely traditional. Sadly, thats not how a lot of modern day Blk Women are. They are too busy chasing degrees and wanting to be in charge. Blk Men who date out seem to have less of these problems with other races of women, hence, why they tend to not have much of a problem providing for other races of women.

[@johnwright8620]

While I agree with what you said about the state of circumstances why isn't it a woman's fault if she's masculine? Nobody grants that same pass to weak men. Regardless of circumstances the individual is responsible for their disposition, teachings only go but so far. Being a feminine man or masculine woman is ultimately a self issue regardless of your environment

[@Senjeii]

I am a 27 y/o Black man, Grew up in Louisiana on a Ranch with my father, went to a small Catholic church with Mexicans, and mostly grew up introverted. My experience with black girls when growing up kind of conditioned me to not date inside my race. I didn't wear cool clothes, or didn't appeal to blacks, I was kind of a geek, went home played video games after school. Now I am 6'3, and in-shape making around 112K a year as a senior developer in Las Vegas. I kind of just give the energy I get from specific groups of women. I don't go out of my way to target specific groups though.

[@MT-hk9cp]

I'm a black woman and don't care if some Black men prefer other races. I'm minding my business and focusing on the men that like me! I don't spend energy worrying about those people who don't want me and advise other women to do the same.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

Agreed! Thanks for watching.

[@AmenRa-ck3ep]

Hows your ATTITUDE?

[@MT-hk9cp]

@@AmenRa-ck3ep my attitude is great and I have no trouble with black men that I vibe with.

[@misterhappy5462]

@@ThisBahamianGyal - black men aren't "going white"...they're going FEMININE. 🤦🏽‍♂😁

[@misterhappy5462]

@@ThisBahamianGyal - clearly your channel doesn't possess much credibility if you needed this bm exodus explained to you. 😂

[@rockyblaq510]

Whoever said WW are less dramatic than BW is CAPPIN! Women will be women no matter the color or race, as much as some may not want to accept this, the truth is there's masculine type women in every ethnicity and nationality but most of the modern women discussion topics evolve mostly around mostly black women on social media to include several podcasts. It's not just black women that can be troublesome, the "sisterhood" knows no color, it's a WESTERN WOMEN issue.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

I absolutely agree.

[@HumptyMcFly]

I dated a WW and a HW who were very dramatic. The WW was the worst. I gave her one too many chances. She lives in a different state. Although it went against my gut feelings, I agreed to let her come visit me. That was the last time because she irritated me to the point I kicked her out. Sent her to the airport in an Uber a day early than when she was supposed to leave. I paid for the ticket change because I was that miserable.

[@ChaunceyBennett-l8o]

A woman will be a woman and a man will be a man.

[@brandnew9834]

Not about drama, it’s about a nasty attitude.

[@ChaunceyBennett-l8o]

Exactly.

[@00justsayin00]

I am listening to the analysis, but keep getting distracted by how fantastic ur eyeliner is done. I am envious! Sorry, I know, off-topic, but it's kind of needed to be recognized.

[@emilychase5620]

I concur with being shown leadership before handing over the reins. I prefer to be submissive, but must have faith in other’s abilities first. Does this man keep his head cool under pressure, can he act decisively and logically, or will he falter and I must step forward out of necessity? There’s so much nuance to complementary partnerships.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

Precisely. All good points!

[@FlamingCockatiel]

Lovely! Exactly my thoughts.

[@jamescarter5041]

The man is the head; you are not partners.

[@danamania150]

My brother-in-law dated a black girl for 2 years. Constant drama and break ups, mostly over financial issues like her losing jobs and going on expensive vacations (by herself btw). The final nail in the coffin was her asking for a $10K engagement ring. The entire family breathed a sigh of relief when it was finally over.

[@AmberColeman-gq1wn]

Sounds like BS. Her losing jobs… he couldn’t afford anything or..??? Yeah

[@mariedrake1291]

she also could have just as easily been white. She was obviously financially irresponsible, period.

[@Oxygen257]

You asked for opinions, so be prepared, I had a lot to say and here it is. I loved the response of the young man in the car who defended BW. It was like a breathe of fresh air. It is rare I ever witness, hear or see that on these public forums. It is usually just denigration from both women and especially men. On the BW/BM antagonistic dynamic: Here are two statements by a 2 different BM from something I heard recently about the nature of BW/BM antagonistic behavior on social media platforms. He said, “Black women are the most educated, most entrepreneurial, most upwardly mobile of women. They have lifted themselves out of poverty, many working 2 to 3 jobs while going to school and raising their child or children alone. They have done this because of their strength. “BW are action motivated where as BM are grievance motivated.” It is always someone else’s fault, it’s what someone is doing to them, what someone is not doing for them, what they can’t do or have because of someone else. And when they can’t blame their failings on others in society and society in general, they blame BW. They compete with BW because they can not compete with other men. Instead of being proud showing admiration for the accomplishments of their women in spite of adversity, they are jealous of their BW, their strength and accomplishments and therefore feel they have to be taken down. I agree with him. Next, paraphrasing the other BM’s statement: One of the most ridiculous things they say, is the BW won’t let him be a man, well it is not up to a women to make or let you be a man. Either you are, then be one or you are not. Stop being the man child who needs a woman’s subservience (mommy’s indulgence) to be her big little man. I agree with him too. Now on BW femininity: There is also a bigger picture and complex dynamic here that people need to understand, always remember and never forget about the daughters of black American men when comparing them to non black women. In this case, WW. Unlike WW, BW generally do not have the luxury of reigning in their feminine energy like WW and other non black women. Many BW, too many did not grow up as (daddy’s little princess) and raised in an environment with the support, protection, security and provision of their fathers like WW. They have the luxury of reigning in their femininity. Many BW, too many grew up with absentee fathers (for various reasons, death, prison, abandonment). They as little girls, growing up had to develop the strength (what you call masculine energy) to protect & provide for themselves (what their absentee fathers did not) just to survive and defend themselves from the predators in their community as well as the things WW do not have to deal with and experience, like racism, discrimination, bigotry, biases, prejudices, micro aggressions & misogyny of society in addition to supporting BM on the front lines when some horrific racist acts has happened to them. BW do let their guard down and reign in their feminine when they feel safe, protected, secure, provided for and treated with the sensitivity and understanding they need as an unprotected class of an oppressed group of people. IF they do NOT TRUST that you can do that for them unconditionally, they will not put down their instinctive guard of self preservation. (In other words, Strength needed to survive, what some black men call masculine energy) That is just human nature. Even WW will bring forth their strength (so called masculine energy when they feel threatened and or disrespected, i.e Tiger Woods’ ex, etc.) And all this crap about being submissive and subservient, when one is of an oppressed people, and have to be be subservient in a society to be acceptable to survive, they don’t want to have to be subservient in their own home, in a personal relationship with someone who more than anyone should understand the toll how that suppression of your spirit can be taxing. Home and in your relationship is where you should be able to be free. With this said, why is it that many BW (with their so called faults according to some BM) can find love and happiness and successful relationships with non black men? Statistics show, There are many, many black women who have very successful marriages with WM. Statistics and research also validate that this marriage combination WM/BW is the most successful of any male/female combination, especially interracial. This is because many WM & men of other groups in marriage see themselves as providers and protectors of their women and families. Many will do whatever it takes to protect their family. (From laws to even violence) When BW in successful interracial marriages are asked “Besides love, what is characteristic in their relationship that makes it successful?, this is one of the things they ALWAYS discuss. (He makes me feel safe, secure, protected and provided for. He is sensitive to my specific my needs as a BW in this society, he doesn’t demand or ask more of me than he does of himself, something she may have never experienced. ). Once that security and caring is established, She can then let down her wall of strength for self protection and let her femininity reign. From numerous interviews, documentaries and surveys, WM in successful relationships with BW have said, how they are surprised at how vulnerable BW are, how the simplest of things like bringing her flowers, cooking a meal for her, listening to her, just giving her a hug if she has had a rough day as a BW out in society, standing up for and defending her can just reduce her to tears because that has never been her experience. As a man, this makes them realize the underlying dynamics and then want to protect them even more. Things WW generally have always had and take for granted. They mention the loyalty (as black people would say ride or die) and how BW when they love and TRUST you will have your back in any way you need them to and do for you not because you require or demand it, but because of the love and trust and the happiness you bring into their lives. Example: Supermodel Naomi Campbell, who is a strong, independent BW and I heard in an interview of this celebrity WM who was his favorite supermodel He say her because she made men just want to take care of and protect her. They could see her strength was just a shield. In a documentary, I saw years ago, an AA man in a relationship with a BW, said in the beginning of their relationship, he said something and she immediately got angry. And instead of coming back at her with all his masculine energy, he realized she was in a fight or flight mode, a basic human instinct of self protection. He noticed how BM tend to be hyper masculine and realizing with her living in a world of hyper masculinity, fight or flight mode would be her natural go to. So he suppressed his masculine response down a notch and used another approach and became sensitive to what she may be feeling and why. He said, “I’m sorry” and asked “As your boyfriend, how could I make the situation better? Her reaction was a surprised look and she responded by commencing to break down and cry. He hugged her and she cried like a baby on his shoulder. No one had ever cared about her feelings as a human being. They have been married over 20 years. As the Otis Redding song says “Try a little tenderness” and add patience & understanding. There are many successful BM/BW marriages because there are BM who do that for BW they are in a relationship with. And BW respond accordingly because it was a give/receive relationship from BOTH parties. However, men in the black society chastise and condemn men like this them and call them simps. (ie Russell Wilson). btw, I name celebrities as examples because you wouldn’t be familiar with the names of all the other BM/BW I can name, like my parents, aunts and uncles who were married until death of one by old age). Today, they would have called my dad and uncles simps. smh All human beings will act and react based on the environment in which they lived their foundational years. All human beings will go into fight or flight mode when they feel threatened. Humans beings will respond and come out of that mode when they can genuinely TRUST the person and the environment they are in. If a trust had been broken many times, they then put up an even bigger wall for protection and become leery of trusting again. That is just human nature. This nature can be also found in other living beings as well. Men are the providers and protectors of the women (mothers and daughters) of his race. You are the keepers. So each time you want to condemn black women and compare her to WW, always remember and don’t ever forget, their experiences as human beings in America are totally different historically, socially, emotionally, and psychologically. And just as black men have specific needs as men in this society, so do black women. (NEEDS, NOT WANTS!) If and when BM and or BW find someone of another race who loves them, just say why you love that particular person without comparing and vilifying your own race of women and men as some kind of justification for your choice. And if you only love them by default of not getting what you want from the blk person, then that’s not fair to the WW or man to know he or she is only your choice because they couldn’t have a successful relationship with one of their own.

[@michaelwallace2487]

Well said, and thank you for this.

[@AlliterativeAtheist]

Well said ! It’s pretty long so so the ones that need to read it may not. The illiteracy rate is pretty high in that demographic

[@musokescovia9630]

Many thanks for this, as a Black African Ugandan woman I've learned a lot...

[@AlliterativeAtheist]

@@Oxygen257 however I despise the statement one of their own,

[@thatdude1810]

Well said thur n thur. Maybe u need to start your own "platform"?

[@cmh8241]

"Masculine" tends to be very broad. I think of the "Fiery Latina" stereotype. Latinas are "allowed" to be feisty, headstrong, opinionated, outspoken, confront her man. But if a Black, non-Latina woman acts that way, she's "masculinized" or an "angry Black woman."

[@meka1816]

I am a black-Puerto Rican, you cannot tell unless I told you I was, with a strong vocal tone and get told mid-sentence all the time, it sounds like I have an attitude. When it comes up that I am Puerto Rican because I talk about going there a lot. People's demeanor seems to change and it's as if they open up more but before, it seems like they care less about even having a conversation with me.

[@Bornagainvillain]

Because when yall do it, it’s typically done very disrespectfully. My ex was like this, and she gaslit me when I said something about it. The shit she said to me, if she were a man, I’d have raged out on em.

[@priincelegiit]

That's typical has nothing to do with black women it's just pretty privilege both men and women will let the opposite gender get away with more bad behavior just because of sexual attraction alot of black men find them latina attractive trust me they don't keep dat attitude if they Don't find the woman attractive

[@plantbase7755]

Fiery and masculine aren’t the same ma’am. Masculine is when a woman with masculine tones and actions wants to oppose and challenge a man in every way possible. Fiery does not come with all that extras.

[@RockyAllPurpose]

@@plantbase7755 challenging men is deemed Masculine or h just don’t like being challenged which one

[@nettelove2283]

Denouncing your strength, allowing yourself to be used as a doormat doesn't ensure that you will not be cheated on, beat on, rejected, abandoned, or murdered. The strength of a woman, of any race, is what keeps her from being a victim. Women are the same, no matter what their ethnicity is, some women except abuse, others don't, women shouldn't have to denounce their strength in order for a man to feel his masculinity.

[@Voyager8297]

SPEAK THAT TRUTH !!!!!

[@keepitsimpleplease9039]

Yeah some of this video was giving pickme energy.

[@chuckforeman2580]

Many get upset when a guy doesn’t make himself available to be rejected or be cut from the process.”

[@LalaDepala_00]

I'm white and had a relationship with a black man for 4 years. As soon as we were together, his sisters told me that I shouldn't date black men and that I should stick to my own race. His mother called me a white devil. It is a miracle we lasted 4 years 😂

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

Whaaaaat?? They sound straight evil. Who DOES that??!

[@LalaDepala_00]

@@ThisBahamianGyal I can laugh about it now. But yeah it was insane 😂

[@ladyk7317]

That happens to beige black women as well .His very dark black mother never talked to me went out of her way to ignore me and his very dark sister has a very nasty attitude with me ..., I gave up and advised him to find a dark black women his two favorite women will except and respect.., I'm gone ✌🏾💋

[@LalaDepala_00]

@@ladyk7317 It's insane and only makes racism worse. The color of our skin matters so much to some people, it is really sad.

[@denajenks5342]

Your experience was unfortunate, but it happens in reverse, and I'd wager, a lot more frequently. Traditionally, even if Black parents would prefer their child date/marry within their race, usually, they are at least cordial when you visit. If you marry, they will love and accept any children from that union. I can say from personal experience, that some white families made it crystal clear that they didn't want their daughters/sons to befriend a Black person, much less date/marry them. In my opinion, better to be called a white devil and a black "n".

[@LDrumsOhio]

Throughout my adult life and career, I've only dated two Black women. I grew up in a two-parent, upper-middle-class household, surrounded by families (both Black and white) with similar backgrounds. My summers were spent in predominantly Black environments, like camps and private schools, or traveling. However, as an adult, my chosen fields (professional musician and now technology engineer) and work experiences abroad often placed me in environments with few Black people. Despite self-improvement efforts focusing on style, conversation skills, etc., I found that more white women approached and pursued relationships with me. I take responsibility for not resonating with many Black women I've met, and for not being the right partner for them. Ultimately, happiness is paramount, regardless of race. For me it wasn't a choice, or anything negative about black women; it was about me and who was more interested in me and reciprocated consistently. While I'm not religious and might be considered a lifelong "nerd" or even a bit "corny" and alternative, I've always been successful and career-driven and currently work in big tech while my wife is a politico. I'm happily married to a wonderful woman of a different race, and we both have fulfilling careers. My family adores her, perhaps even more than me, and my extended African family has bonded deeply with her as well.

[@AF-uk5ug]

God bless you two as a couple!

[@thatsrealroughbud...2394]

Just going to put it out there, women are allowed to be defensive if a strange man approaches them in the street (rude) with a mic and camera (weird) and asking rude questions (obviously rude). She owes him nothing, especially not being palatable

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

She could have just declined. A simple no thank you would have sufficed. Her friend was palatable.

[@StephanieNiecey]

Exactly!!!!!!! We don’t have to entertain anyone. What do they not understand about leaving us alone……

[@StephanieNiecey]

@@ThisBahamianGyalOr he could’ve not came up to her with a camera or a microphone without her permission.😑😑😑

[@boudicca272]

My experience with giving other women compliments have been the same as yours.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

It's disheartening.

[@ctruth6185]

Maybe they think y'all hitting on them? Why not say where did you get that whatever it looks gorgeous? What salon did your hair?

[@boudicca272]

@ctruth6185 I usually only ever do, compliment the hair, nails, shoes, or outfit. And, I have, at times, thought of your possible 'scenario.' However, as that I am an older woman (Gram 6x), it's not very likely. And, even at that...they don't act surprised, uncomfortable, or awkward; as one might be expected to act if put in such a position as you propose. No. They behave rude, hateful, snotty, nasty, bitter, & abhorrent. No excuse, really. I've held doors for these same type women & their behaviour is disgustingly entitled & rude. As if it is my 'old Black a$$ job to hold the door for them & be grateful.' It's most likely not a "me" & my perception problem. Now, where your theory gets disseminated is: you are expecting ME to assume that "maybe" they think we're 'hitting on them' & never, for 1 second hold them to the same standard that THEY, COULD POSSIBLY make the SAME effort to ASSUME that, "Maybe this old lady is just trying to be kind." Exhaustively making 'what-if' excuses for poor behaviour just fosters more nasty hateful results.

[@debbismelser6536]

I have complimented many women and now that I think on it not all of those compliments were appreciated. I have no idea why. I can live on the high of a compliment for days!

[@NalDeryoga]

People fail to realize because in the moment your feelings are so strong. The amount of people in this world this country you can find someone. But the issue for a lot of people is theyre dating to just date and not go any further. That one or 5 bad relationships you had doesn't qualify you as some expert on the millions of different men/women. ESPECIALLY if you dated the same kind of person each and everytime expecting a different result

[@27lmoney]

I'm a black guy and my wife is black and Trinidadian and will say she is the most caring person ive ever met. We've been together for 6 years and married for almost one year and almost never have a problem. Good Black women are still out there, its just extremely difficult to find. I just got really lucky and found a woman thats worth my time.

[@shugbz1]

It’s so funny seeing anything from Jaxn seeing how he treating his ex

[@janiceleffingwell2672]

I am a 70 yo white woman. One day in Olive Garden I saw a black family enter, and the woman's dress was GORGEOUS!. I could tell by other aquaintences that she was wearing Nigerian dress. I excused myself and said I thought her clothing wasso beautiful and how nicely she wore it She gave me the nicest smile and said thank you, and her husband ALSO say thank you! Her children did not speak, but they grinned at me! The man said "You have made our day!". Well, I have to say, they made MY day seeing a great example of a loving respectful family outt for a Sunday lunch! When I speak up to American Black women, they tend to be suspicious and not quite knowing what to say to a genuine compliment. Sad.

[@Tenafotena]

I think the whole “I’m a black nerd that’s why black girls never liked me” is always so interesting cause I always wonder if they tried to date the black girl nerds 🤔or maybe those same black male needs decided the black girl nerds were undesirable in the same way they are. Just a thought.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

That's a great observation. I am sure many of thrm try to go for the popular girl. That's the problem.

[@FlamingCockatiel]

Are female nerds rarer than male?

[@bigbawlzlebowski8886]

The female black nerds were always taken, didn't date, or too "unique" you don't wanna date them.

[@1984isnotamanual]

If you are in a poor black neighborhood then the thug seems to be what attracts more women. I admit I don’t have direct experience with that but I’ve heard that said, in so many word, by black people who grew up in rough neighborhoods.

[@sickofguysnamedtodd2293]

From my experience growing up in the late 90’s, even the black nerd girls would still go for the thugs. They wanted excitement and danger, they wanted to “live on the edge” a little so who better to give them those cheap vicarious thrills than a thug?? Also the thugs were more socially popular and they wanted to boost their own popularity and social status and their counterparts couldn’t do that. They wanted to date the guys that the pretty and popular girls wanted.

[@princellasmith7562]

Okay, so now, do a video about the nerdy, dark-skinned black girl who didn't have a curvy body in high school and who was ignored by all the hot athletic black guys. She shows up to the 20 year high school reunion, looks great at 38, and has those guys trying to holler at her now with their receding hairlines and 5 baby mamas.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@blackdrument]

@@princellasmith7562 who cares? The boys that were skinny and boring in school got no play either. You have no point.

[@latoyablackmon9033]

​@blackdrument the point is you wasn't the only one rejected, crybaby. Plenty of skinny boys got play and still do, maybe not you.

[@rickhoelie7114]

@@princellasmith7562 that type of is rare... and you damn well know this.. do not deflect !!

[@Dell7788]

They just trying to hit 😂. No such thing as a hot 38 year old women

[@michaellafrance6454]

I watch all of your videos to the end, because you make sense the whole time and you don't bait us in just to let us down with some lame conclusion at the end. Thanks for letting us know that watching (or just letting it play) a commercial during your video helps you out. I will let them play out henceforth.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

Awwwwww....thank youuuuuuuuuuu!!! You're so sweet. I really appreciate that. Yes, that's how you can definitely support my channel. I really appreciate your kind words.

[@raptoress6131]

Men can't just blame women for ending up as single mothers... Most women don't want to be single mothers, their man just ends up being no good. The men need to take responsibility, a parent needs to be there for their kids no matter what.

[@plantbase7755]

You are one of those females that’s talked about. Men don’t blame women, good men end up realising the mistakes they make by passing their seed to those undesirable females. On the other hand, females just go after that small pool of useless males they know are useless but then ends up blaming all BM.

[@aqd4089]

It always comes down to the details. In Germany, women are statistically more likely to cheat on men than vice versa these days. Generalizations are made to give simplified answers to difficult questions.

[@badgerden7080]

No one can say anything about most women nowadays. If you're a man, it's "who hurt you?", or beta. If you're a woman, it's "you're a pick me."

[@ak5659]

The 'who hurt you?' is just deflection. It's an attempt to make something that's not about you appear to be all about you.

[@nerdiloo9863]

I know a couple of short to medium height black guys. Some have degrees, some incomplete degrees, all professional and responsible. They said because of their height the interest is not returned from black women (at least the ladies were up-front about it). Over the years they have/had relationships with Latina, white, Asian as far as I recall. They said they don't get bad vibes from "sistas" (probably because they're short). So one group's hang-up is another group's hang-on, and that may be another reason why some guys look outside. You go where you can find harmony.

[@DarnellCorbin-nn5df]

I’m a black man grown up in Philly and my experiences was similar I still deal with black women but I been rejected many of times growing up I was treated like I wasn’t supposed to not be here or something. I once asked my mom was I ugly to my surprise, she answered no, long story so I’ll leave it like that❤.

[@sheilakatz8377]

Adventure outside of Philly. Travel more and you will see how different black women can be and how your attraction Differs. It also depends on social class. Are they from the hood? Then you wouldn’t necessarily be their type. I don’t believe it’s because your ugly, women also like a confident man. Confidence is key!

[@Laura-mi3nv]

Come to Durham, so many intelligent, successful, kind black women.... you'd have to try to fail. Much of the south is like this too.

[@sosimple7594]

Sometimes it's not what you do, it's how you do it. Some women in Philly are harsh. Philly men are very pushy. Most women like flirts and we don't like men to push themselves on us or not try at all. I say start out saying pleasant things like you are so smart! Everyone says your beautiful!

[@sosimple7594]

Get to know people through friendship! Once people see your personality, you get used to one another!

[@bakionigeri6414]

I've been all over the world and long story short all black women like that street or thug appeal. Jersey New York Georgia Florida North Carolina South Carolina Jamaica Trinidad England and france. That's the places I've been to so far. Black women just genetically need a roughneck.

[@cjampack2011]

I used to be one of those corny guys. Maybe I still am. Black girls NEVER liked me in high school. If they did, it wouldn't last long because the guy with the J's would easily steal her attention. That said, it doesn't matter because today I'm a great husband and father. It taught me a lot. I say just go after who is checking for you.

[@bulldogger71]

Truly. Focus on what likes you.

[@VenusManTrap-777]

As a black woman, black boys never liked me in high school either cuz I “acted white” Goes both ways bro

[@Hebrewson72]

​@cryaboutit7499 Yes, they probably picked up on that "code switching". If you can't be your true authentic self, why would a man date you?

[@smileycakes9593]

I bet the “corny” black girl in high school liked you but you wanted the popular girl. I wish a lot of you would be honest lol

[@allanluis3696]

@@smileycakes9593 not true. Women really have no idea about men. Men have to get women. Men chase women not the other way around. For this reason, men are WAY MORE REALISTIC about where they fall into the dating market. Men with low social confidence DO NOT go after the most popular girls. But, women dont understand the "hunter".

[@stevelloyd5621]

White British man here went to school in Brixton south West London. Most of my friends were black most even in their teens were looking for white girls. But if I wanted to go out with any of their sister's watch out. Now I'm happily married to a beautiful black Kenyan woman who loves me the whole family love that I have married into the family......

[@caprumra782]

They used to tease my big nose. Now 4 kids and no husband later, I'm handsome. Get the you know what outta here.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I am holleringgggggggggg!! Way to go, buddy!!!

[@amagoddess507]

😂😂😂😂😂 screaming right along side y’all. As a black girl with nerdy straight black male besties-They tell me this all the time. The BLACK GIRLS THOUGHT THEY WERE LAME ASS LOSERS & WERE VERY DISMISSIVE TO THEM….but now these same women with multiple felony baby daddies & no support somehow wanna be with them now. 🤦🏾‍♀️ the sad truth.

[@kirkhepburnmiddleagedwhiteguy]

Sorry. I don't understand the post or the response. Must be a middle aged white guy ignorance thing.

[@poeticprincee9750]

@@kirkhepburnmiddleagedwhiteguy he’s saying black women would make fun of his big nose and now those same black women have 4 children, without a husband in the house. Then he ended his statement w basically saying, they better gtf outta here. 🫡

[@FlyIslandGuy]

​@@kirkhepburnmiddleagedwhiteguy He's basically saying that that he was rejected for how he looked when he was younger but now these same women are in a position where society deems them as less desirable (unmarried with kids), they have dwindling options and now want to give him a chance (hence the reason he says "Now, 4 kids and no husband later, I'm handsome). The last sentence is him just saying you can go look elsewhere because I'm not interested The response is just agreement with his thought patterns and decision..I agree is well..if you didn't want me back then, don't look for me now.

[@GiveHimGlory]

Listen other cultures protect and raise their women. My grandmother my mother and I was always told to protect black boys and black men. We are tired and I am so tired of this same conversation while everyone gets richer and we are not moving. I have dated outside of my race and I will never talk bad of black men because I had a father and 4 brothers.

[@cmh8241]

Ahh the classic "nice guys finish last," or "they only want thugs, not nice guys like me!" I have found that many self-proclaimed "nice guys" actually aren't all that nice... "Nice" just = "I never went to jail and won't commit DV against you."

[@IzzySalami]

This is interesting to me as a black woman who’s not attracted to black men. Basically, I get to see what challenges my younger sister might face if she ever started to date again. Same for my older sister and mother.

[@vapidculture]

Same here, my older sisters have gone thru it because of their preference. Luckily, my niece is openminded and following my lead.

[@cocolokoflacco]

yet over 300,000more blackmen are married than blackwomen and its like a million more of yall😅. it's obvious who's really the "challenges" in the community

[@jbrestless4180]

You claim to be a black woman, but you seem to be clueless about the culture or in denial. You may have to watch this video again and give it all your undivided attention.

[@Lovebrix99]

@@cocolokoflaccothat’s because black men are more open to dating nonblack women. Also y’all have extremely high divorce rates with nonblack women. It’s obvious who’s the common denominator here 😂

[@biegebythesea6775]

@@cocolokoflacco yes, black men. those women who aren't married probably have your kids and you run off, so go and educate your men and lose your misogyny before you do it.

[@Foreal-f9n]

Black women please stop being afraid to date outside your race get who gets you end of story Let them go.

[@Sam-rh3vz]

@@Foreal-f9n Damn y'all really don't get it this shit really run deep 🤣

[@amanda34639]

Tall, blonde white woman here. Most every match I get on my dating apps are black men. But within two texts they realize I'm just the same as every color woman and most drop off bc I have actual OPINIONS. So, no, it will never stop. I will say that my longest relationship ever was with a Palestinian-German who respected, cared for, listened to my opinions, and loved the Bejeezus out of me. Also never hogged the duvet.

[@jiggaman000]

why aren't you with the Palestinian-German Man?

[@amanda34639]

He died of a heart attack while cycling.@@jiggaman000

[@adeyesufu7142]

@@jiggaman000 - He got fed up of the attitude 😉

[@terrencetaylor8196]

@@jiggaman000 Great question.

[@terrencetaylor8196]

@@adeyesufu7142 That was sweet!! White woman with a bad attitude!

[@Againsttherulescouk]

Just came across this channel and I completely agree with everything she said ..I’ve subscribed … love listening to sensible and smart women ..

[@ckazrael5590]

Great video. I love your content and have been binge watching a lot of it. You do an amazing job at keeping a very unbiased, factual view on the topics. I can't wait to watch more.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

I appreciate that! Thank you so much! ❤️

[@vachelmcfarland4886]

I have dated women of various ages, nationalities and races. Truth is, women are not all the same. But my experiences with modern black American women have been mostly poor. In fact, I stopped dating them because they wouldn't date me. When I turned to other women, esp those from other countries, I was much more accepted and appreciated. My ex-wife passed for black but she was Indian-latina from the Virgin Islands. I was engaged to a white Canadian, I've dated a Swedish woman, and I have had friendships with others from abroad. My present fiancee is Filipina and I couldn't be happier. I truly believe it is less about race and more about culture because one of my best loves was a darkskinned Nigerian woman. They were all women who appreciated my intelligence, curiosity, humor and romanticism. None of them cared about my finances. They only cared about me and how I treated them. What more could I ask for?

[@sosimple7594]

I honestly wish yall focus more on the women that makes yall happen. Even when black men move on to other races, they tend to keep reflecting on that one black woman that mistreated him. If black women are so bad, why are we spoken about so much?

[@Ikeep2myself]

Try an Ai girlfriend. Best option. 🫂

[@leelee185]

All that matters is that your happy brother.

[@jayeverything]

I saw 6 of my cousins slowly give up and leave. Now they living their best life in the Philippines 🤔 im beginning to understand why.

[@justin75358]

I am a 47yr old blackman from the Midwest, I am 6'4" 220lbs, have all my teeth and hair. I am a 25 yr Army vet and transitioned to a career field that affords me a good annual income of $300k a year. I have dated interracially for most of my adult life, and relationship problems are universal across the board. Bu I have to agree with most 90% of the statements you made in your video based on experience. In my youth and over the years, I have been repeatedly ignored African American women, within the first minute, as corny or boring. Idk why, I dress casual lean toward the modern man style, well groomed and demonstrate positive qualities when interacting with anyone especially the women. But oddly, I am initially perceived as corny, boring or broke lol; now I know this not to be true, since you have to have a little charisma to function successfully in the combat arms. I travel a lot and not to just Orlando, or Vegas but globally, I have pilots license, I taken up boating in the last 3 yrs, I have a degrees in engineering, cyber security and business administration, always rode a motorcycle, I hike, I am a hobbyist photographer, I can converse on my worldly subjects very deeply. But when it comes to my black women having a 9-5, not dressing like a rapper, being me the original me to the fullest and caring myself with respect comes off as corny apparently. Now in the pass, I have dated black women from Africa and the Caribbean with success. To be honest they were extremely different culturally from women in the US, the character, values and demeanor in general were above par. They acted more lady like and support traditional gender norms as well as modern women norms, ie they were educated, had great jobs and accepted letting a man to man things and women do women things. We navigated life together 50/50, not a I need you take care of me while I just look good situation. It was very enriching. But the truth be told; my opinion here based of life experiences, I definitely feel more accepted by white women I the US or Canada and overwhelmingly overseas in Europe and Australia. If I strolled down the street in Lituanina, Romania, Hungary, Slovenia or Croatia and said hi to am woman chances are they would likely have a drink with you, exchange phone numbers, social media, share personal details, let you court them etc. They would in general be more intrigued and attracted to different values and characteristics vs black women' not saying they lower the bar but your income, clothing, superficial stuff is not the initial attraction I feel. IIDK what's is going on in the community and at this point in my life I do not care, but I do recognize the patterns, we men speak about it, the if it is not true it doesn't matter because the perception is reality especially with social media being an echo chamber for bad behavior. I honestly feel bad for the good women who have to navigate all the BS and heartache to find a good man. Finally just to be clear I do like black women, I like all women, but I think a guy wants to feel wanted, needed, encourage and APPRECIATED at the end of the day and my black women have this wall up initially and only allow certain type of men in. This contributes to the narrative of the black women masculinity nonsense, I also agree with that Fresh N Fit looser for once. Non of my comment should be looked at as hated but constructive criticism from my limit worldly experiences and observations..

[@kittenlang333]

I've found with my black women friends that they match better with a lot of white men too. One close friend described it like this: white men were more gentle with her, gave her a respectful distance and weren't pushy. We're meant to seek out those feelings and treatment. Could it be a natural balance? She's someone I'll die respecting and means a lot to me. So, I go with what she said.

[@chrismog286]

Whatever works for you as long as you are happy! Just don't shame black men for dating white women🤷‍♂️

[@Keys4healthcanada]

I am white, my husband is very black and this is the way we see our relationship, He is everything I am not and I am everything he is not. We put character first. I am a very traditional wife to him and he leads and protects our family flawlessly. We are both Christians. These should be the only things that matter. Love and Respect!

[@kittenlang333]

@@Keys4healthcanada blessings to you both!

[@queenie514]

ABSOLUTELY. BLACK MEN ARE, AND HAVE ALWAYS THE AGRESSORS IN BM/BW RELATIONSHIPS, BECAUSE THEY KNOW NO ONE IS GOING TO COME TO HER RESCUE, NOR CARE ABOUT HER AND THE WELFARE OF HER CHILDREN. I SAY 'HER CHILDREN" BECAUSE BLACK MEN ADDRESS A BLACK WOMEN'S CHILDREN AS "YOUR KIDS," NOT "OUR KIDS." BLACK MEN ARE ENRAGED WHEN BLACK WOMEN DATE WHITE MEN, BECAUSE IF THEIR OWN INTERELATIONSHIPS DON'T FAIL, THEY NEED AND EXPECT A RELIABLE BACKUP! IT'S HEDGING THEIR BETS. A SOFT PILLOW TO LAY THEIR BROKE AND BUSTED HEADS.

[@kingstrong5351]

@@kittenlang333 She just debunked your friends entire false narrative lmao

[@sandrajaramillo3523]

Thanks for another great video! I agree with the points that you made and see the same things.

[@jim5148]

Wanting a woman to be feminine sounds fine to me, but SUBMISSIVE? Is that really a required trait? Submissive sounds a lot like servant in that context.

[@sinead2264]

@@jim5148I agree. I have learned that the men who use the word submissive mean it as a code word for “let me cheat in peace and don’t ask any questions” lol 😂

[@Spectral-Senpai]

When you're in a relationship please remember one thing choese happiness if you're unhappy in a relationship and i mean truly unhappy if you chose to stay there you're only gonna sulk in that unhappiness. Life can be too short to live it unhappy ( sorry if this is a side tangent)

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

Side tangent or not, it is soooo true and relevant. LOL. So, thank you for that. You make a valuable point!

[@Spectral-Senpai]

@@ThisBahamianGyal I enjoy watching your videos and I like the points you make. You do a great job in my opinion. Thank you 🙂

[@trinettefletcher]

The gentleman that spoke at 21:29 said everything that was on my mind and your response was perfect. I am happy to follow or stand next to an actual leader. I refuse to follow someone that's not leading or leading me down the wrong path.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

Thank you! Precisely! Some men want their women to follow them, but they are not leaders. Nope. Not me. Thanks for watching, babes!

[@trinettefletcher]

This may be of interest to you. She talks about the "imbalance" at around the 9 min mark. kzbin.info/www/bejne/haqZf5R8dphrbZYsi=dBMB04Sv73F9eF1U@@ThisBahamianGyal

[@StaceyPetersdbspouse]

I can relate to this so much. I’ve had similar experiences trying to connect with Black women, especially in the U.S., though it feels a little easier abroad. Despite that, I’ve decided to keep being myself, offering compliments and staying open, hoping those barriers will start to fade. I also understand where men are coming from because I’ve had friends who, instead of just supporting me, implied my husband would eventually be unfaithful or mistreat me, likely because of their own dislike of men. So much so that I really only hang out with other married women.

[@BettieRage3977]

Wow! The masculine point is really giving me a moment of realization. Now I can’t speak for experience with a masculine woman, i don’t date women. But I’ve definitely met some men that have given me a feminine vibe, but not a gay vibe. And my immediate instinct was “I wonder if he was raised by a single mother”? I wasn’t sure why I felt that way, but now that you bring this up.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

I have heard that, too. Thanks for watching!

[@lukewalken1316]

Of course he was

[@NataliaSeesIt]

Nothing will get better if people aren't honest with themselves!

[@JOEJOECAPONETV]

I know that I am 9 months old to this video but me and my wife really enjoyed it you did a good job 🎥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥👍🏾

[@ChumleeandButters]

Thank you. I am truly enjoying your videos. Educational content and your perspective is honest ❤

[@rucianapollard7098]

I am a black woman who also loves to compliment other women. I will tell women that they are pretty or look good or smell good or whatever. Usually, there is a friendly response that may actually lead to a conversation, such as where did you buy that fragrance or where do you get your hair done? I rarely get negativity. Sometimes, if a woman has a negative attitude, I will compliment her, or ask how her day is going, and her whole personality will change and she will respond in a more positive manner. Maybe it's different in big cities like DC. I live in north Mississippi and I get mainly positive responses when I give compliments.

[@bettyboopsie9836]

Exactly, I've never gotten a rude response when giving another black woman a compliment.

[@CocoMage]

Me either. I guess it depends on where you live.❤

[@michaelwallace2487]

Thank you. Anytime I see people stating absolutes as this host is doing, and not examining both sides. I stop listening.

[@rebeccaklink9714]

I love your energy so much. You’re one of my favorite people and I’ve never even met you. I hope you shine like this forever!

[@JevonMusicGroup]

I've dated Black women exclusively for almost three decades. My late wife of 14 years was a Black American. My current wife is Nigerian. From my experiences I have realized that, in general, there are some challenges with Black women, that are non-existent with women of other races.

[@backintimealwyn5736]

like what, I'm curious, this "issue" is very foreign to me. I'm quite surprised by what I hear on this video. W.W. being more "cooperative" , in my country men always complain about WW because feminism and threaten to date black women instead. In reality it's goes the other way around many ww with Bm and ten the Wm complain about that. lol.

[@JevonMusicGroup]

@@backintimealwyn5736 For example, I've never heard a white woman say "I'm a strong independent white woman" (read "uncooperative"). Although you're right, feminism has a hold on most women in the states, regardless of race.

[@deeebloccc6830]

I’m sorry no disrespect but I just feel like white guys that date black women someway or how need to find the reason to let the whole world know they are dating black or have married or have children with black women, this video was about black men not dating black women and you had to explain all u dated was black women, I just feel this was very unnecessary, just mo. The black guys that date white or have white bm’s or wife’s I never see them bragging or trying to explain how all they date is white women but you white guys always explaining about the BW you have or had lol it’s just weird & I just recently noticed it no hate or nothing just being honest

[@backintimealwyn5736]

@@JevonMusicGroup is'nt it because "white" is not accepted as a positive characteristic when " black" is a heard as a legit statement to assess self love?

[@JevonMusicGroup]

@@backintimealwyn5736 That's part of it. But also white women haven't been trying to distance themselves from white men to the same degree as Black women have from Black men. "I don't need no man" is mostly a Black female mantra.

[@davideddy8557]

Just to clarify, when they say "masculine energy", do they mean being argumentative?

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

Hi. They mean...they want to dominate, be in control, do all the things that men typically do. It's about control.

[@cocolokoflacco]

yes being argumentative is def a masculine trait

[@DewayneBrown-h4g]

​@@ThisBahamianGyalargumentive shit talking quick to jump up in your face that type of masculinity

[@stxphaniee8255]

@@ThisBahamianGyalPersonally I believe the women being Interviewed weren’t more feminine than the other. I think one was more polite and well spoken

[@Alice_offwithyourhead]

I love your videos! You are so funny and beautiful! I bust out laughing at "Interpretive dancing." 😂

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

Thank you so much!! You are so sweet! ♥️ Thanks so much for being a member!!

[@thenumber1karen63]

People…you are not entitled to a “hello.” I’ve spoken to many people of various cultures and was met with silence or a dry response, and my first thought was, “not a good day?” We ALL have them; so we should ALL practice being more understanding of each other.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

Well, by your logic and in the spirit of being "understanding of each other" doesn't it mean that the person saying hello or good day has a right to feel slighted by a lack of response? Especially if in their culture people are responsive? Thanks for watching!

[@elietahari7290]

This! Everyone loves putting black American women in a box and holding us a standard that no one else is relegated too.

[@thenumber1karen63]

@@ThisBahamianGyal hi 👋👋👋best friend in my head…(you’ve watched the Wendy Williams Show then you’ll know what I mean. 🤭) …anyway. Sure, everyone is entitled to be in their feelings. But is that REALLY helping anyone to judge another based on a quick interaction? Sometimes people are just having a bad day.

[@retrosaturn202]

@@neutraliserjanine she simply speaking her experience there is no need to be so hostile about it

[@tiki-kut7494]

When people behave that way, it's on them.

[@19609641]

I’ve had the exact same experience; I’m from Belize and every single time I compliment an African American woman I get the nose up response like “ok peasant”;Glad it’s not just me and I’ve stopped complimenting!!

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

I read magazines like Essence and Ebony and they often talk about sisterhood and black girl magic and all this stuff, and you would swear that we are all so loving and warm towards one another. We're not. The responses I have gotten have been so cold and rude at times that I hesitate these days. It's in my nature to give compliments when someone looks good. So, it's sad.

[@19609641]

Yes!! I thought maybe it was me reading people wrong but definitely a thing !!!

[@badgerden7080]

Yet women claim that they are oppressed. If they were so oppressed, they wouldn't be able to say "peasant". Oppressed people can't look down on anyone.

[@RockyAllPurpose]

People also mistake them for attitudes when it’s actually not. It’s a form of anti blackness n internalized racism.

[@JAYEasty23]

First of all great video and love how you voice your outlook on the topic at hand your amazing.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

Thank you so much 🤗

[@JAYEasty23]

@@ThisBahamianGyal your welcome 🙏 have a blessed day 🙏 queen!

[@LXCD-t9p]

t I wish black women would realize is that many of us are too loud and it's a turn off .

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

It is absolutely a turnoff. It's almost like some of these people just crave attention.

[@RedHeadMERMAID83]

I’m white, my husband is black…well mixed actually…anyways, he says he really doesn’t like dating black woman because of their attitude. They can’t seeem to be submissive. I was raised with a single mom, I can be combating and independent and at times wanting to take the lead…HOWEVER, I know when to take a back seat, I know when to tone it down when I get mad and there are emotional daggers I don’t use/lines I don’t cross….lastly, I cook for my husband, give massages when he gets home from his physical labor job, i provide a soft place to land after a hard days work and make sure to create open emotionally dialog. I find some of my black girlfriend think it’s weak to do most of those things….BUT that doesn’t mean the strong black woman needs to be worried because I’ve seen a lot of shy quiet white guys who love strong dom woman, so there’s someone for everyone 😊❤

[@harley0786]

I have that same experiance, thank you for speaking un on this subject.

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

You are so welcome! Thank you for watching and commenting. Share the video with a friend.

[@MsFirestar21]

Unrelated to your great video, but I kept waiting for that dog statue to move 😂!

[@ThisBahamianGyal]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 It's a plush animal. A guy was delivering food to me a few months ago...At the time, I used to keep the dog at the door. When he saw it he jumped back. I laughed so hard. He thought it was real at first.

[@MsFirestar21]

@@ThisBahamianGyal I noticed it was a plushy later on but had already posted my comment 😂. It's so cute and I can imagine the look on his face 😅 😂 😭!

[@rhanji2n820]

Hi, I am white woman from germany and i was once in a store and a beautiful black young woman stood in front of my line. She looked like a black goddess. I said: "Excuse me but I have to tell you how beautiful you look, your hair is awsome." She looked me up and down and told me how i could be so racist!" Wow i never ever did this again.

[@bondiblugirl]

Black women are confident people because they have learned to manage themselves and households from a young age but when they get into relationships they give of themselves fully and are thrown aside for that Therefore they become warriors ...treat your women gently like white men treat theirs and you will never regret

[@Bornagainvillain]

Incorrect.

[@Bojax-y3z]

Wrong, most inmates come from single parent households, especially blacks.

[@bondiblugirl]

Well because black men are taught not to listen to women

[@jnewton33]

To answer your question directly, YES! I dated black women for decades and thought there was something wrong with me, because they said so. Then I went to southeast Asia for business. A Thai coworker introduced me to his sister-in-law, a college graduate, who spoke English, with no Children, and was the most feminine woman I had ever met. I have never been treated that well by any other woman. Being a provider and protector for her is my pleasure.

[@enishalihoward8119]

African women are extremely feminine & submissive it’s black American women that are not but because they share skin colour people place them into the same bracket

[@nigelthomas6642]

As a black man, I have been fed up with black women for a long time. I kind of knew this topic would happen with my sisters. The thing is, I never dated a white woman or Latina woman, but I am curious to know how they treat their men.