The 'Tension Secret' That Makes Her Chase You (Most Men Get This Wrong)

[@BobbyRio]

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[@zigler-h6p]

There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal

[@loverofart-j2i]

Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other

[@sherryanderson-y2p]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.

[@loverofart-j2i]

I feel your pain dear one, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.

[@sherryanderson-y2p]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?

[@loverofart-j2i]

Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@sherryanderson-y2p]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@GMacII]

Fellas, listen up! This man is dropping some serious truth. When a woman says she’s “bored,” it often means the relationship has become way too comfortable. Unfortunately, they crave a little bit of drama and need to feel those emotional highs and lows. They’re wired to seek out those roller-coaster vibes. That’s why I always tell my boys: _“Create the controversy or SHE will.”_ Keep things interesting, don’t let it get too predictable. Give her those little surprises and moments of excitement, or she’ll find her own way to shake things up. While she’s stewing, utilize this time for YOURSELF. Once you figure this out, it’s like playing Madden on EASY Mode. Have fun.

[@BobbyRio]

yep, the roller coaster keeps things fun.

[@asianstud7]

nice. thank you for dharing your wisdom sir.

[@justinava1675]

Wdym? Men want peace. Not having to play stupid games to entertain some thot.

[@donpeltier6059]

@@justinava1675😂 facts

[@jendabekCZ]

Better not to be in such relationship where you need to play such games.

[@kevinegesborg9729]

Outstanding advice, and completely true about the need for a woman to fear losing you. I simply put my phone on silent and resist the urge to look at it, for a few hours at a time. Very liberating and powerful.

[@BobbyRio]

yep i keep my phone on silent by default until about 5pm, I do it for productivity, but it has the side effect of making my time more valuable to people, and making sure I'm operating on my agenda, and not somoene elses.

[@ModernDatingMastery]

*When done right, this technique keeps her guessing and amps up attraction without ever seeming desperate.*

[@ozgurlukant9119]

If a woman doesn't respond to your messages, if she has a hard time smiling and talking to you.... SHE DOES NOT LOVE YOU. STAY AWAY PLEASE...Be with women who will give you the beauty you want and will never get bored of you... stay away..Those women either have psychological problems... or psychopathic tendencies that feed on tension... run away

[@Vaiz15]

Tension is always a time to learn and grow. Learned this a little bit too late

[@BobbyRio]

everythign great that happens in life, happens outside your comfort zone.

[@KevinpWalker]

The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalized

[@oferzeira]

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@KevinpWalker]

Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white

[@oferzeira]

This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.

[@KevinpWalker]

You wont regret it

[@rogue_spirit]

👆🏻😂

[@JolPil]

If a soldier in war can not handle Tension he is not a soldier. If a lion tamer can not handle Tension, the lion will attack. This is Deep As Fuck and a topic I and most men would Never think was relevant! But wow, this is Kings Gold, This wisdom maketh kings out of men!

[@BobbyRio]

yea, in sports, the ability to perform in high states situtaions is what takes a player to the next level, i'd assume this is for poker players, stock traders, and many other areas of life

[@cizzymac]

The way I look at it is this: if she's not talking to you, she's talking to someone else. If she's not responsive, move on. She's not interested.

[@RC-lc6ph]

Yeah, I put more effort into listening now. In the past I would have been rude e.g. talk to someone else I don't have time unless u want me to solve somrhting. Now I will listen. It's painful but needed unfortunately or she will lose interest at best cuz the connection dissipates if ur not.providing the approriate amount of support/attention.

[@somnath077]

This video is one of the best in recent times in the dating space.

[@BobbyRio]

very glad to hear you found it helpful

[@codewithluq]

Tension is a feature not a bug 😂😂. I love that. Great analogy 😂

[@musicandairplanes6330]

Never fall in love with a woman. You have to play the game your whole life. If you get comfortable with her, it’s over. I’m talking from 20 years of experience with the same woman at first. It was intention attention all kinds of things going on keeping her chasing me the last six years of the marriage I became relaxed happy retired. Boom it was over with.

[@seyahatt6843]

You let yourself go and are surprised your relationship broke down? Life never stops being about progress, never.

[@aaronalvarado2791]

My great grandma told my father you can never give a Woman all your love or they’ll run all over you. She couldn’t have been more right. If you can’t lead you will be lead and that never ends up well with an emotionally wired being

[@arminkisic8666]

Yeah last months i got comfortabil and She yust found another

[@Alex-zj9lf]

That’s okay falling in love is still amazing …just always be ready to leave and know it’s temporary either to divorce or natural death no relationship is forever on earth

[@Doggo505]

Foh foo. Why would any man want to play that stupid game ​@@seyahatt6843

[@maihitianu1425]

I discovered you a day or two ago and this is the second video I’ve watched. I used to be a master of getting with women, but then my game just died. You’re the only person on KZbin who I have gravitated towards because of your ability to make me understand things that I’m doing and not doing. I think all of these exercises that you lay out for us, can help in short game relationships, and even better, in long-term relationships. I WANT TO THANK YOU VERY MUCH. I’M WRITING MANY NOTES DOWN AND I’M REPLAYING THE VIDEO’s MULTIPLE TIMES. you’re not teaching us how to manipulate women, you’re teaching us how to be better men for them. THANK YOU

[@BobbyRio]

Thanks for the comment, and I'm glad you're finding the videos helpful!

[@chrislayne3598]

Some of the best advice I’ve seen, and the best, most understandable and relatable explanation of the concept I’ve run across. This video is gold.

[@BobbyRio]

I'm glad it resonated with you!

[@chrislayne3598]

​@@BobbyRio it definitely did. You have a new subscriber.

[@deodorodafonseca8035]

I work in a place full of ladies and over a period of time talking to many of them. I found ways to ask the right question to make them reveal if they are in a relationship. Most of them have boyfriends and husbands. Funny enough, I go through these moments of tension with many of them and I don't back down with the eye contact, smile and moment of silence. I'd only make a move if I'm certain they are single.

[@Dean-qt3rp]

"Thank you that was really sweet." 😂😂😂. Oh man that's brutally funny.

[@mm-zn5hh]

Bobby is one of the best when it comes to this kind of topic. Some of his approach is unheard of and unique.

[@BobbyRio]

glad you find the videos helpful

[@Oblisk]

Some of the best things in life are on the other side of discomfort. Comfort does not only kill attraction within relationships, but attraction of all the things you want in life. Comfortbility leads to being stagnant. Change is required to achieve and reach the goals and aspirations you have for yourself. Once you obtain this mindset of being able to dwell in any discomfort, everything in life will start to come to you a little more easier.

[@BobbyRio]

yes very true. being willing to deal with discomfort and handle long periods of uncertainty, makes a huge differnce between success and failure in almost all areas of life.

[@alexflips393]

Nice. I’m trying to “fix” something right now. I’ll stop.

[@stevepops4450]

As commented on by others, this context is super relevant and kinda outta left field. Well done in explaining it so well. Whamo! Woman are charged with 'choosing' a man. So its reasonable to expect they need to see if you measure up. Hence the tests etc to see if you make the grade. Its just life guys, but Roadmaps like Bobby and others provide are super helpful!

[@BobbyRio]

thanks for the comment, and yes, guys get frustrated by these tests, my woman tests me daily, and I love her for it, becuase it forces me to operate in a more masculine frame, that sometimes I forget to do.

[@Dcdc425]

I'm going through something rough in my life right now I really needed to hear this, thank you my friend ❤

[@BobbyRio]

I'm glad it was helpful, we all go through hard times.

[@Chris-r1t9q]

It's a good feeling when you and your girlfriend get back together after not talking for a couple days, and you just noticed the woman who was barely replying to you once a day on a dating app, much different from how your last 2 healthy relationships started, messaged you back yesterday and you just delete the app

[@Stressed10user]

Great video Bobby, thank you

[@BobbyRio]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@kebman]

I went to this local store, at the hospital where I had to visit my mom. There was this incredibly cute girl there. I asked her name at some point. And then we just kinda stared at each other... Lingering. So I just smiled, paid for my stuff and left. This went on for - oh - about three or four times. Each time I'd ask her a few more things. And the air was just ... THICK .... with tension. I was getting nervous, and I hoped she was there every time lol. So, next time I saw her, I managed to stay casual, but the tension.... Oh, man, the tension... Buuut just before I left for the last time, I asked her, "So, this is probably gonna sound strange, but... Do you want to see me later?" She just burst out "OH HELL YES!" and started scrambling for a pen and paper. When I pitched when, she said "Is tomorrow good?" We had a really good time, but... idk she was way too young for me, like 26 years younger lol. Super, duper cute though.

[@BobbyRio]

awesome, glad you went for it. Too many guys wait too long, and the tension fizzles.

[@MewKnowNothing]

You said super duper cute. Go for her brother 😂 my dog was 3 months when I got her and I fell in love 😻 sometimes we just don’t know what the world has in store for us

[@strikingmaverick9071]

@@MewKnowNothingdog? What are we talking about lol

[@isaactorres5908]

I know someone who is dating 28 year difference he's 50 looks 37..dating 22 year old. Also my friend is 42 dating a 19 year old . If you're compatible that's all that matters also f what people say they are just jealous. As long as ur not creepy and preying on young girls and have that vibe about you.

[@newfreedom21]

Nice story bro

[@barnold62]

Sir, this is really good. I'm in a bad spot though becasue she's a VP in HR and I'm not in management. This tension make me think I can lose my job. I still stay silent and aloof. Let go of what I can't control...

[@MrJackmagnet]

This is GOLD, Bobby!

[@BobbyRio]

glad you enjoyed it

[@lokey987]

Indifference is the key to everything

[@BobbyRio]

i don't think its as uncaring as indifference, but i recommend the attitude of "enjoy her, but don't need her".

[@saycap]

Unfortunately. Destroy the world, destroy the community, destroy the self in pursuit of pleasure.

[@avasdv]

Too much tension without escalation leads to boredom and resentment and very icy behavior in my experience. And they want escalation fast (a relative term i know) I'm not into speed seduction or fast seduction but there's a reason they chose these concepts. Its not for busy men with busy lifestyles, or impatient men. Its also because a woman has a boredom threshold too, and she needs arousal. Instead of letting things be tense and relaxing your mind during the tension and pretending you're all cool and don't care, there should be physical contact i think.

[@ernestocolosimo6634]

You got a sub. This is good advice, thank you.

[@BobbyRio]

Glad you found it helpful!

[@Steveaky]

This is one of the best videos I’ve seen at last someone has come up with this

[@BobbyRio]

glad you found it helpful

[@dipayandey773]

This dude just disclosed The Real Secret.

[@Freakinkat]

Dang on the cool my dude i can give a nod of approval with this video. Not bad.

[@BobbyRio]

glad you liked.

[@bobgoodwin6916]

Gentlemen! As a 59-year-old widower, I thought maybe I would comment on this for the benefit of others. I hated this video. Why? Because he's 100% correct and nearly everything he is saying you can do wrong, I did wrong. After my wife passed away, I decided to try dating again. I was in a state of fear of being alone and just plain tried too hard. I lost a woman that I dated in high school and was crazy about. Everything worked out for the best, but I was devastated to begin with. I just had to comment because everything he talks about here, describes exactly the kind of Simp I was being, to put it harshly. You're just as good as any woman you might be chasing! Anything you believe she deserves, you deserve also. There are things a man should do in the name of chivalry and ways a man should be but my point is she should feel as though she has to work for it and contribute to it also. You are worth it! Just don't sell yourself short. Don't be a 59-year-old man who realizes he has done this his whole life. Take care and be kind. old man, Bob.

[@zordonzordon531]

Your channel change my life! For real!!

[@BobbyRio]

very happy to hear the channel as been a good resource for you, thanks for watching, and keep making it happen!

[@genzo_-sensei5719]

This is why men in a relationship have a much better time attracting ladies than most single men. They know they already got a woman and are secure of they lose the other women.

[@BobbyRio]

yea that mindset is very powerful for sure

[@westcedar]

So much wisdom here Bobby, thanks so much

[@BobbyRio]

I'm glad you found it helpful!

[@theargonat]

bobby bro i love you..i wish you keep going well :DDD

[@BobbyRio]

glad you're enjoying the videos!

[@Lordmark62]

Wow…great video! My only question would be, do you keep up with these principles after you’ve won her heart and you’re both all in on the relationship?

[@BobbyRio]

yea, to a degree. You always want a little tension there, because that's what keeps the spark alive.

[@eth4n580]

He has really good points but I seriously hate all this inauthenticity in today’s dating world, dating is complementary to your life it doesn’t complete it. If you feel like you have to be someone you’re not in order to get them to like you then they’re most definitely not the person for you. Imagine resisting yourself, acting ‘cool’ ‘mysterious’ and so on just to try and attract someone. Doesn’t that sound exhausting. I get it if you have problems and are looking purely towards them for acceptance then yea, sort your shit. But otherwise just learn to accept, embrace and love yourself, no one is perfect. If you find someone who loves you and all your imperfections sick!! If you don’t, you got urself for that!! So also sick!!

[@BobbyRio]

two points, 1) what is the "real you"? Most guys confuse the "real behavior" with what society programmed to believe it was. 2) If you take your advice, and apply to any other area of life, it would be illogical, if someone is fat and unhealthy, being authentic, might mean eating Mcdonalds and a milkshake. So if they choose a salad instead, because that will get them what they want (better health) is that inauthentic?

[@eth4n580]

@ The real you is being someone that doesn’t feel the need prove anything to anyone else, showing up for you not for them. Not to get in their pants, not to try and attract them, a lot of what you provide are ‘simple or quick fixes’ for possibly deeper problems (most likely to do with themselves). Don’t get me wrong though, a lot of what you said I agree with, it’s still a game at the end of the day, and you can always play it better, so why not give it a try. I might’ve taken it too literally in the sense of ‘not being authentic’. Although I don’t fully see it that way. But you’re also taking what I said too literally, I never mention being unhealthy was a good thing. Being unhealthy isn’t authenticity, it’s laziness, lack-of-discipline, lack of drive. The only illogicalities is your analysis. The reason I feel your video appeals to many other people is because they’re a younger audience, they don’t fully grasp. They see your ‘examples’ or ‘fixes’ and think it’s the answer to all their dating problems. I guess the reason it kinda tips me the wrong way, is because your advice focuses on the fact that >you aren’t really doing it for yourself

[@iniquitousman8251]

Thanks for being a good teacher

[@BobbyRio]

I'm glad you found it helpful.

[@MrNiaman]

*Summary:* The video by Bobby Rio focuses on how to handle tension in dating to increase attraction and desire from women. Here’s a summary of the key points covered: Key Themes: 1. Understanding Tension: - Tension is a natural part of attraction and should not be feared. - Many men struggle with maintaining coolness during tense moments, often leading to missed opportunities. 2. Embracing Discomfort: - Leaning into moments of silence or tension can create a powerful dynamic between you and a woman. - Overly trying to diffuse tension can make interactions predictable and boring. 3. Pullback Tests: - When a woman becomes distant, it’s often a test to see how you handle the lack of attention. - Chasing or seeking reassurance can signal desperation, which is unattractive. 4. Silence and Eye Contact: - Allowing silence to exist and maintaining eye contact can show confidence. - Hesitating or feeling the need to fill silence can diminish attraction. 5. Escalation Through Tension: - Tension is necessary for escalation in romantic interactions, such as moving in for a kiss or suggesting intimacy. - Hesitation or overthinking during these moments can kill attraction. 6. Masculine Frame: - Operating from a masculine frame means being secure in yourself and not relying on external validation. - Confidence in handling tension showcases strength and attracts women. 7. Avoiding Common Pitfalls: - Avoid excessive apologies, nervous laughter, and seeking constant reassurance. - Instead, use playful teasing and humor to maintain an engaging vibe. Action Steps: - Practice holding eye contact for longer periods and allowing silence to linger. - Delay responses to texts slightly to build anticipation and tension. - Focus on being comfortable with discomfort to demonstrate confidence. Conclusion: The video emphasizes that true attraction grows outside the comfort zone. By learning to manage tension effectively, men can enhance their attractiveness and deepen connections with women. Bobby Rio encourages viewers to embrace discomfort as a pathway to stronger relationships.

[@timphillips9954]

Excellent advice.

[@BobbyRio]

glad you find it helpful

[@timphillips9954]

@@BobbyRio I always have trouble with this managing the gaps in conversation and the tension. I always want to talk out and fix any problem in a relationship within minutes and it never works but makes the situation worse with the woman loosing all respect for you. The best thing to do is to stay quiet as possible, give her the chance to come to you or come back yourself after a couple of days.

[@johny8113]

Nice video.

[@BobbyRio]

Appreciate it.

[@Brandon-0300]

Thought this was going a different direction in the start when you talked about how you “murdered” those opportunities.

[@borokinnihabeeb5412]

Insightful video bobby

[@BobbyRio]

glad you found insightful!

[@zhunterd9589]

I needed this video last wwek Point taken. Thank you.

[@DakBic25]

Great advice

[@SteveRieck-Music]

When it’s actually right, you don’t need this song and dance.

[@BobbyRio]

if you don't need it, its because it happened naturally. For instance, if you are very busy and caught up with work, and your attention is very focused there, you won't be playing games, you'll just be genuinely busy, which increases the tension, since you're less available.

[@guru_bro]

This is gold 🎉

[@BobbyRio]

glad you found it helpfu!

[@terrywilliams2349]

This is Good stuff!!

[@abstract-thoughts]

This video is packed with good stuff!

[@BobbyRio]

glad you found it helpful

[@mindsetmotivation9124]

Damn this IS your best video.

[@BobbyRio]

glad it resonated, this was a lesson that I learned the hardway lol.

[@oladepoolalekan2261]

​@@BobbyRio Rio. I would like you to answer this. I am in this level high level of tension with a girl whom I know is interested but I haven't asked her out on date because I am too busy and not really comfortable inwardly. I have playing the normal game like pull and push, mid signals, I am not really flirting. Although on my normal days I am confident I can really attract ladies till they sleep with me. But we are in part of the world where we can't afford to trade our dreams or afford to throw money anyhow because of ladies (fear of poverty) My simple question is how do we cope with this kind of tension when we still want to be somehow into the game yet we can't afford the real deals because of money? How we cope with interest that is now seemingly like resentment because we are hesitating to long to make proper moves?. I know this girl likes me, but now it feels like my presence intimidate her. She tries all means To avoid me. be honest I feel I Will be fine with the tension because I don't really care but I am feeling the need to ease the tension on her side. Do I just leave the tension or I can kind of release it a little bit on her side?

[@tripleseven8361]

Great video…Thanks!!

[@BobbyRio]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@arboghast8505]

I appreciate Bobby layout these techniques so honestly and precisely. However, it is plain to see that the dating market has become so weaponized and counter-intuitive. Remember: there're girl version teachings to all these, while the men are upgrading their arsenals, girls are too. It is a constantly evolving battlefield. A prisoner's delimma.

[@donbechtelini]

Prisoners to no one. Let women save themselves.

[@donbechtelini]

The winners 🏆 have already exited the game.

[@opoleboy]

wow that's a pure science :) so interesting thanks

[@BobbyRio]

glad you enjoyed

[@rockingjoe8769]

So, what are the examples of keeping a woman attraction high? What if they're texting someone else and smiling at work? What if you're older than the person you are attracted towards a younger woman? What if you've already express your feelings and asked them out and they reject you? Do you think there's still going to be friendship between work colleagues? Do you think they will be willing to meet up for things outside of work?

[@Oppo-f9i3s]

Excellent

[@BobbyRio]

I'm glad you're finding it helpful!

[@luiscases9190]

I would like you go deep in the contingency test women do in relations. How do they manifest?

[@THEREALAKRINIM]

Just get a dog and find a good massage parlor. F*ck the games, and this guy's hustle

[@Unknownsuccessor]

thank you for your wisdom i have used some of your points in my recent video i posted today

[@dpc107]

This is excellent info

[@BobbyRio]

glad you found it helpful

[@sebastianplacencio5762]

bing bing bing , found my coach

[@jaredvaughan1665]

Amazing video

[@BobbyRio]

glad you found it helpful

[@djcaly84]

I delayed my response time for 4 days, by being busy with some things other than her.

[@donpeltier6059]

💀

[@Stop-loss-BoSS]

Always wondered why there was a hard tension like it’s almost a battle type of thing.. ya what is that??

[@BobbyRio]

its just something that helps the spark develop

[@Ghryst]

yeah, na, _F_ that kinda woman. no man needs a high maintenance woman. get yourself someone down to earth who doesnt play games. divorce, breakups and arguing will be _exciting_ for her too

[@BobbyRio]

its not about a high maintenance women, its about tension being necessary for attraction.

[@Ghryst]

​@@BobbyRioand the kinda women who requires tension in order to maintain attraction, are high maintenance women. you really do appear to have a very specific type. of all the vids i have seen from you, are very specifically focused towards attracting high maintenance and narcissistic women. good luck with that toxic rabbit hole. give me one of personality types who do not play games. (you're not honestly trying to say all women are exactly the same, are ya? that'd be absurd)

[@BobbyRio]

@@Ghryst i think you're focusing too much on one aspect of tension. Sexual tension, a large part of what i discuss in the video, meaning, holding eye contact, not getting nervous and feeling a need to fill silence,... how is that only related to high maintenance and narcissistic women? ALL women enjoy sexual tension. as do most men.

[@Ghryst]

@@BobbyRio not once in this video did you used the term "sexual tension". your ad-hoc deflection is invalid. and my point still remains, the type of women who your "techniques" will work on, are high maintenance women. F that kinda woman. #SimpTrainer

[@AndrewLT07]

​@@GhrystTalking about deflection when you're the one deflecting his question is peak gaslighting. Keep coping my boi. You'll have the results you want that way😂

[@andyh444]

I think you've just explained my past love life in one video 🤔

[@BobbyRio]

hope you find the ideas helpful. i learned this the hard way myself lol.

[@Rootstar1]

You are great

[@BobbyRio]

glad you enjoy the videos

[@Rootstar1]

@BobbyRio ya, that is why I now understand girls now, but I still have my female lodge member insulting me because of owning a cat. I don't know why.

[@vijaydeejay15]

Omg we have great sex when we are together, but all of a sudden she seems like she is losing interest in me. Like Bobby says I'm gonna inject some fear in her losing me for her attraction to grow, so dam important and I always text her back in a second no matter what, which im gonna stop and give it an hour before texting her back :) Thank You Bobby for your words of Wisdom 🙏

[@BobbyRio]

yea just make small changes, add a little tension, and see if it pulls her back in.

[@decconan4230]

How to handle when if we were friends before but after a few years of not connecting constantly, when we speak over the phone this time, she just rants that we don't have that zing and shouldn't talk anymore and says goodbye. Now should i explain she got things wrong, or should i give no explanation and leave or how to handle such tests to get back together? Your thoughts on this

[@aarong8457]

There are a lot of these videos that are in a lecture type format. What is really needed are some demonstrations. Lean into the tension? How? Don't tell me show me.

[@jaspergabriels8933]

Bobby please how to react on a high value way over text without Being boring if she ask you how was your day ??

[@BobbyRio]

i've a got a few videos on that on the channel, I think I did one where Calvin does a breakdown of "masucline texts"

[@Chris-r1t9q]

High value women and high value guys won't tolerate someone else's barely replying behaviour. And we won't even have the courtesy to give them an explanation as to what happened either, ie: getting back with my girlfriend

[@ChadThundercook]

Coach Corey Wayne - "the illusion of action"

[@marakiworld]

You nailed it!🥰😇

[@BobbyRio]

glad you enjoyed

[@marakiworld]

​​@@BobbyRioI am afraid not, but let me think about that.... (Tension on the ground)😂

[@Anghel2blessed]

Does this apply to relationships?

[@felipeecheverry8155]

.. To his pocket..for sure!

[@BobbyRio]

yes, tension is necessary for sexual tension, if you want things to not get too 'comfortable' where the attraction fizzles, some tension is necessary from time to time.

[@dineshwaran236]

Put subtitle boby easy to follow

[@BobbyRio]

they are there, just click the CC

[@kanhtoo2641]

Hey bobby,so is the free class of turning you into a man she chase going to be live?if i miss it how do i watch it again

[@BobbyRio]

there are replays on-demand for this one.

[@nicolasnicolas6280]

Gary Chapman The 5 Love Languages:The Secret to Love That Lasts

[@adamlekki9592]

I can imagine that every guy hasn't made that text mistake.. at least once 😖

[@BobbyRio]

lol, im sure. but i still cringe thinking about it

[@adamlekki9592]

@BobbyRio You kind of wish you had used that card on someone you were less interested in just prior..to prepare you for the one you felt a real vibe with that you just fumbled the ball with 😆. Thank you for your videos they're very helpful 😉👌💯

[@MrGilbear101]

Ignore her

[@onone1100]

What to do if I was talking with a girl and went out few times just held hands but not have to go back home

[@BobbyRio]

not sure what you mean, always go for the kiss. if she turns her cheek, respect her boundaries, be cool with it, and try again when you feel the vibe

[@nobody123-b5r]

How can you take the risk of quiet moments and tension if boredom is a possibility? What if she experiences boredom instead? Please elaborate on both.

[@BobbyRio]

its largely on how you act during moments of silence, and when they occur. if the conversation is boring and a struggle for you and her to talk, yes, that's boring. but if the conversation is flowing, and comes to a lull, by not panicking, and instead, relaxing into it, and using it as a moment to create intimacy, you're creating tension (instead of relieving it), and tension isn't boring.

[@nobody123-b5r]

@ so technically before tension there needs to be excitement? Maybe drop a video on that because I can’t imagine having a boring conversation then creating random tension….

[@RedRumble14]

i like a girl but she is in a long distance relationship with a foreign italian dude. she s 22. is it realistic that they are gonna mary? or it may be a stage in her life and practical things and langauge barrier will be to much ? i’m obviously not gonna make any moves now, asking for a future. pls don’t tell me chase different girls, i know this, she is just “that girl” in my life and been showing me choosing signals in the past

[@rbr8931]

Are you guys from the US? What I can say is to keep in mind that if she leaves him for you there's a chance she'll do the same thing to you...

[@RedRumble14]

@ no bro ive said not gonna try to take her from him. i ll just wait and see. just wanted to find out if what she has is real or a stage

[@rbr8931]

@RedRumble14 honor to you bro. I guess you've already been in a relationship(s) before right?

[@RedRumble14]

@@rbr8931 no not really and i’m 21. never felt much urge cuz had to heal my acne before and now working on my fincance. i wanna step in into relationship when i ll be a good version of myself and i’m not where i wanna be right now. i know it’s probably unrealistic, but i d like to try finding a one decent 9 or 10 outta 10 girl and spending a life with her. that’s why i preserve me feeling for one person. this girl i’m talking about seems like one perfect for me and we surely been mutually attracted before, yet i’ve never made a move cuz was focusing on other stuff so she s been with a several dudes in the last couple of years. she s also 21 now.

[@abcd-md6lp]

@@RedRumble14how are you waiting to someone who’s in a relationship ? Be a man

[@CameronWentzel-x1x]

Hi Bobby Rio I need your help can I please have a free technique there's someone I really love but she dislikes me I just want to die please help I beg I'm 20 i don't have a credit card yet but when I do I'm buying the scrambler which I have been waiting 5 years to get 😢

[@thebigtruckguy]

What kind of small changes like this can work for a marriage of 15 years having 2 teenagers? Validating feelings sort of helps , but it doesn't change the dynamic of the marriage bcoz like with every couple, there's some hate, anger, sadness, etc. there's got to be a subconscious way to trigger a love and chase emotion without including all the "marriage helper" techniques bcoz that shizz doesn't work.

[@BobbyRio]

Eventually I plan to go deeper into this. Two books I recommend in the meantime are: The Masculine in Relationship, or The Way of the Superior Man - They are written in diffrent styles, so it depends on who you resonate more with. but I'd start with The Masculine in Relationship, as its easier to read. The lessons from those book have helped me in my marriage more than anything else.

[@PremiumUserUltra]

Gotta be like Homer Simpson and hit her with the roar lol

[@BobbyRio]

lol

[@dattajack]

Who wants to live a life constantly full of tension? Sounds very childish. Why i got divorced this year because i was sick of the avoidable chaos every couple few days. Gets in the way of more important things.

[@BobbyRio]

depends on the life you want, totally an individual choice. but in general, to get what we want, it avoids getting outside of your comfort zone.

[@lint8391]

The Carl story is a great one. I guess some clients can be brought to water but you can't make them drink (from the fount of Bobby's dating wisdom).

[@BobbyRio]

yea exactly, when a guy is in the thick of 'emotional quicksand' its especially hard for him to fight against his emotions and his desire to ease the tension.

[@christopherbic7688]

I flirted with a married woman and it came out like ........ Caution! Warning! Disclaimer! Off limits! No touch! If a man is foolish enough to get between a man and his wife, he deserves what's coming. My only expectation was to have an enjoyable and memorable dinner and experience. I was sitting at the bar about to start my dinner salad, she walks in and sits 2 bar seats from me. (perfect length). She is beautiful and has a gorgeous Rock on her finger. Elegant but approachable. I talk about the food and give her recommendations. We chat like grown adults being in the moment. Eye to eye conversations. She is finishing her food and so am i. I notice we are the last 2 customers in the restaurant. "When do they close?" I asked while looking at the time. She looked around and looked at me and said "I don't know, but I'm sure that they will let us out". I looked down at my food and said "im more concerned about being locked in here with you". I said the same thing she said in a different way. Tension but it was comfortable. I finished our conversation expressing that that experience was one that would never happen again. Be in the moment. That's it I walked her to the door, introduced myself, and bid her blessings. Her smile was priceless. We both had a great time and no touch.

[@gregtarris9057]

Beem there done that

[@keennickolas8575]

I want to feel comfortable though ... so, better keep em at a distance from my life, i guess.

[@BobbyRio]

everything good that happens in life, usually happens when you're outside of your comfort zone

[@kebman]

The sound of your voice is so bright and sharp. It's hard to listen to even if I turn down the volume a lot. The info, the contents, is great! But the _quality_ of the audio (so, not your voice really, but the sound quality) is terrible. Too sharp. Hope you can do something with that to mellow it out. That is to say, you don't need to pich your voice in any way. It's good as it is. But you may want to tweak EQ or even recording volume levels, or mic position. Thanks!

[@BobbyRio]

thanks for the feedback, not sure if my editor adjusted something, but i'll mention to him.

[@Chris-r1t9q]

I wanna see Bobby's game with women, with his techniques and strategies, if he was making $447 in sales per year from dating advice 🤔

[@kidwycked]

So I disagree with the stuff about her asking who you’re with and if there are women there, etc. this is subjective in the sense of a relationship. If you are in a relationship with a woman, it will require honesty and transparency. The second you start giving her reasons to think she can’t trust you, you will be dealing with a different woman.

[@BobbyRio]

yea i should have been clear, I'm NOT talking a long term relatsionship, this is specifically about the dating phase, before you're exslusive. that said, even with my wife, I feel no obgliation to tell her who's at the party or event i'm at. She trusts me, and I trust her.

[@aljoschageller4183]

Im German we say Geiles Video ;)

[@BobbyRio]

glad you enjoyed, thansk!

[@mocococo2877]

All those plays can exiting for a while but I do not see how this would work in long run relationship with kids, etc. At some point life becomes boring, even squashing. So while struggling with life and bills, etc. you have to go on and maintain all that plays and games who is going to blink first ... Totally not realistic way to look for future wife/husband. Not to mention that if he/she do not call or texts for days in a row without first letting you know what is going on is totally irresponsible and it is like the boy who cried "wolf". Better let him/her go as soon as you find it was a just a play. What it think you are explaining is for some players how to deal with other players.

[@shaunkhoza7039]

Real life scenario a woman pulls back when she has seen to many red flags she is gone weather you call or not if you find out better now than.later are you waiting for her to call Goodluck

[@zacariasfranciscochiconela8584]

Attraction does not grow in comfort

[@BobbyRio]

yep