Body Comparison / Subject and Assessment Bias

[@EmilyK95]

What really knocks me out of comparison spirals is when I find myself (a 25 year old woman) comparing myself to a teen or preteen and wishing I could have their legs or whatever. I literally get so shocked at myself and then I just get angry. I get angry at a world and a mind that has made a prepubescent body the "ideal" or something to strive for, and I get so mad for that little girl that I'm looking at and how unfair it is that she has to grow up in the same fucked up world I did. I find anger to be a great motivator in recovery. Sometimes when things are tough the thing that motivates me the most is thinking of eating as a giant middle finger to all the people and companies that make literally BILLIONS of dollars convincing people to hate themselves. I don't always comment but I always watch and I just want to say thank you so much for making this content and your IG content. It's helped me more than I could ever say. All my love to you and yours x

[@megsyrecovery191]

So glad to hear that the videos/IG can help, and also that you can do this massive F YOU! Keep going, being a 25 year old YOU xxx

[@girl-in-a-treehouse]

I'm 34 and relate to this so, so much. I compare myself to teenage girls and it just fills me with horrible feelings.

[@Amy-ow1bp]

You are such a self-less and golden hearted gem, making these insightful videos and sharing your life. Thank you🙏

[@haespl3341]

Dear Meg, I'm so grateful that you're making these videos despite going through grief. You're so brave and I can imagine that it would be so tempting to turn to ED behaviours to froze your emotions. Seeing you taking care of yourself, nourishing yourself properly, being kind to yourself is so important for me personally. I'm also going through hard time in terms of rejection by someone that I still love. I feel like I'm torn into pieces. And I did slip back into ED behaviours which make everything even worse. Surely it doesn't help. Now I have to go back to recovery, which scares me. If someone reads it, please, don't let even tiny ED behaviours creep in. Because it will snowball like shit. And you will have to go through recovery once again. It touched me when you said that we have to take care of ourselves and wait it to pass. I hope it will pass... Thank you Meg for sharing your psychotherapist's tips. I have watched you both on MEEDA channell. She is truly amazing. CBTE is still very rare. Here where I live there is no single therapist who works with CBTE protocol. That's why your channell is the only place I can learn about these technics. You are GEM, Meg

[@megsyrecovery191]

So glad you’ve watched those videos. She’s truly wonderful & has taught me so much with cbte. I’ll keep trying to share it forward 😘 & im sorry you’ve have a hard time. You’re right, it doesn’t help 😔 but you can break the cycle & get yourself back 💪💪. Xxx

[@h_2503]

"You can't compare your orange to their apple". So much love and admiration for your Meg! This video was filled with wisdom, thank you

[@megsyrecovery191]

🍊🙅🏼‍♀️🍏 xxxx

[@kate123blue]

I’ve just thrown all my low calorie mayonnaise, salad dressing ect In the bin, !

[@TN1-2]

Omg yes! Well done I'm so proud of you ❤️ stay strong and keep moving forward 😘 stay safe xx

[@abigailmitchell2198]

I’m so proud of you 😍

[@rebellioussimmie8029]

Great job there love! Real mayo etc. tastes so much BETTER imho

[@megsyrecovery191]

Yayyyyy!!! Well done for breaking that cycle. No going back now, once it's in it's in. Regular stuff all the way xxxx

[@milicaristicevic]

It's such a shame that not a very big amount of people hears this. This is important and rarely talked about. Thank you so much, enjoying and taking important things from all of your videos ❤️

[@EnyaKellermann]

Omggg I used to always eat eggs and ketchup!! Nobody on youtube eats this, love it❤️❤️ such an inspiration you are to so many people❤️

[@megsyrecovery191]

Soooo good together!!

[@silent_amy]

Salsa on eggs is also delicious 🙂

[@kaitlinjohnson145]

Your videos are so grounded and thoughtful and honest. They really help me with the shit show that’s constantly going on in my head! Thank you Meg 🤍

[@goosegirl3424]

Thank you megsy. Never is this more true than when for years we see actors and musicians etc in the media and world who are held up as 'the ideal', only for them to talk years later about the immense pressure that they were under to be a certain size and were put on strict diets and exercise regimes which made them miserable. Or they open up about having had an eating disorder. Suddenly the reality comes to light that to be in a body that is not naturally one's personal healthy body: so much torture and time and energy is diverted away from what one really values and one's true calling and life. Sending you so much love xxxx P. S. I love the shanties /music!!!!

[@megsyrecovery191]

Yes so agree! Taylor swift has a documentary called Miss Americana on Netflix & she talks about having an ED

[@goosegirl3424]

@@megsyrecovery191 yes! I heard that. In makes me sad and upset that possibly young fans are feeling there is something 'wrong' with them because they aren't the same shape. Feeling faulty in some way, when in fact it is like a sprinter beating themselves up for not being as fast as another, thinking they are not good enough, when the competition are actually damaging themselves by secretly taking performance enhancing drugs due to the immense pressure on them to basically be Superhuman?! I don't know if that comparison works at all. And in some ways I hate even talking about the size and shape aspect of EDs because they are not fuelled in most case , by anything to do with that (more likely trauma, anxiety, lack of self worth and many other complex underlying issues). But, then, there is such a pervading problem with self worth balancing on appearance unfortunately. A bit like 'EDs are not about the food', but equally, food and eating IS a huge aspect of the illness that needs addressing, too.?!?!? I don't know. I'm going to shut up as I'm not very good at articulating things and don't want to say anything that may be wrong or misguided. Lots of love 💘 xxxxxx

[@sarahfretwell557]

Literally everything in this video has helped me to get a tough time into perspective. Insightful, inspiring, comforting, humorous and completely heart-warming. It could not have been better-timed. Thank you so much!

[@DOdO-_]

You are a very good "teacher" and explain everything with good examples and with your own input, from your experience. Thanks again Meg💕💕

[@deyaniraramos1396]

I loved this topic you talked about. It's sooo true...comparing just overall drives us insane...it's like we are wanting to be like this other person (like you said) or better than them. It's sad because we don't appreciate any of the great unique qualities that we already have, we don't appreciate the physical features we have which ARE great...at least I like to think so. Thank you for saying this, it was very informative, helpful, motivational and truthful (realistically). Also I really love how you incorporate pretty much in all your videos not just the educational/supportive talks but what you do/eat/experience... throughout your day as well as adding cute-sy clips with your babies. I'm soo happy how far you have come. Your experience, I know, has helped you realize all the sh** others don't realize are doing or saying (low calorie dieting, excessive exercise, promoting unhealthy things, saying triggering things...) Not to say you deserved to have an ED but that's how I kind of picture my life this far... However, lovely talks, amazing foods, I adored those cards too and great vlogging of your day and your love ones 👏🐾🥊🕊️🖤👍😊plus, I do still like that song you put in 😂

[@livylytaube6963]

Wow!! You're spoiling us!! I'm so happy and thankful for your tips and motivation and encouragement! Lots of love!!! :**

[@amandasmith3306]

Sounds like you have an amazing psychologist who really understands you and eating disorders… a rare blessing indeed

[@lunarhealer6667]

omggg this is so true. my thighs are my body check area and my brain is like magnetically drawn to anyone who has skinny thighs around me. this is so helpful!

[@ebersolnaomi]

I just found your channel and I love watching your videos! Thanks so much for sharing! It it so helpful to my recovery..

[@EmilySaysRed]

I cannot express how grateful I am each time I see you post new content! In your earlier videos, I know you used to set up your laptop and watch recovery-positive videos whilst eating - you’ve literally become that for me (and countless others, I’m sure)! Breakfast with Meg is now a thing 😂 ❤️ Such a helpful video - you have such a gentle but clear way of communicating advice, and it really resonates. I’m very early on in my recovery and am at a stage where I compare myself to severely underweight people in the street (on the occasion I see them)/Instagram, and struggle with that awful competitive “but I need to be sicker than her to recover” crap. I’m going to try to hold your advice in my head, so that when I next see an individual who really should be in hospital, I’ll try to eject the DVD there and then as really, “being thinner than her” doesn’t validate my sickness, nor does it make my recovery more acceptable, and try to step back and clock three other people to remind myself that this is the REAL world, that this is what I want, and that a terribly sick, small body brings with it a terribly sad, small life. Anyway, thank you for your wonderful content. I find the snippets of food you show throughout your day SO helpful for recontextualising what normal eating actually might look like - but I love that you balance it with actionable advice and life/talking segments. You mentioned on Instagram you’re having a tough time today, so imma send you a virtual hug through the screen - please know that you bring so much light to so many ✨❤️

[@megsyrecovery191]

Awww you’re so sweet, thank you!! 🙏🏻 & so glad you find the stuff actionable, that’s what it’s all about. & well done for thinking about looking beyond bodies, when you catch yourself comparing you can’t just think about the body in isolation, you have to take in the reality of what your life would be like. Bodies don’t exist in isolation. & a weight suppressed body will mean a whole host of shit (cold, food obsessed, isolated, disconnected, trapped in your own thoughts of food etc...). What do you want from life? I’m sure it extends beyond a certain body type 😘😘😘

[@lauramcrae7837]

you are incredibly gifted at sharing what you have learned. bless you for the love you pour out!❤️

[@catherinemccarthy885]

I love your tip to choose 3 other people to look at when we are obsessing on one. I definitely, subconsciously choose the most “perfect” bodies to compare myself to. I also think remembering that people are so much more than whatever physical attribute we are choosing to focus on is helpful. Their lives are not perfect. I try to use your body neutrality idea for other people as well as for myself . Bigger, smaller, rounder, straighter bodies are not better or worse, they just are. I’m so glad you are posting again. I find your videos so helpful. Seeing you fully recovered and truly free from the ED is so helpful and I love seeing The animals too. Always brightens my day. Bertie is so cute and playful. Thank you so much for sharing your journey.

[@megsyrecovery191]

So glad that the focusing on 3 other people thing helps, I love it too. its so practical. And so true about body neutrality for everyone xxx

[@alisonjohn]

The food you made looked delicious! Love the sound of apple, cinnamon & peanut butter.❤️

[@megsyrecovery191]

It's great, and you can play about with it by adding raisins, greek yogurt, granola etc.... It's a good way to be flexible with snacks and with what you add to your food xxx

[@chilltalkswellbeing]

thank you meg! it really helps me to realize that even though i‘m not happy with my body, i have a good mental health, wonderful relationships and other blessings that other people might not have☺️☺️ wish you a wonderful rest of the weekend🌸🥰

[@megsyrecovery191]

Yessss, life over body 👏👏👏

[@livylytaube6963]

Love the music 🎶😄😄

[@ClandestineGirl16X]

Meg, you are so inspiring! You always make me want to try harder in my recovery and stop the BS excuses I let myself get away with when it gets hard. Sending love and hugs!

[@livylytaube6963]

I struggle with comparing a lot as well.... I focus on just girls who look better/thinner/fitter and feel bad then

[@megsyrecovery191]

Hopefully this can help with expanding your vision to take in the full diverse reality of the world. It was so helpful for me the actively do that 😘

[@kaylesandbean]

I always feel the same Livyly. Xx

[@celliehwyn]

"Feel shit and do it anyway" is my main philosophy now! its helped my anxiety sooo much! Thank you for all you do.

[@megsyrecovery191]

Ah brilliant! I love that one so much

[@kaylesandbean]

Last night I was going through my clothes and came across the clothes I wore at my sickest, iv now bagged them up and taking them to charity, if I kept them it would just torture me knowing I'll never be like that size again. 💪❤

[@megsyrecovery191]

GOOD FOR YOOOOU!! So proud of you for that, it's such a hard thing to do, but so important. Just remember, you can't look at those clothes in isolation. There was a whole life which existed around them, and I'm going to guess it was a pretty small and food obsessed one. So picture the full life when you think of those clothes. Our brains can trick us to thinking we'd be 'so happy' if we fit into things which are smaller than our natural size, but in reality we wouldn't be at all. We would have an equally small life and existence, and a brain saturated in thoughts of food. Keep reality punching yourself in the face if you find it hard. And a big well done from me xxxx

[@kaylesandbean]

@@megsyrecovery191 thankyou Megs , this really means alot! I'm well recovered, or I thought I was. I'm classed as Obese now and docs tell me to lose weight, I'm making sure I'm making healthy choices, not based on my previous restriction habits, but something nutritious. I will NOT let my ED back in matter how strong the thoughts. I got a protein yogurt out of the fridge last night and instantly thought "can't eat past 9pm especially something with so much protein" I instantly thought "kayles my body doesn't know the time, what's good or not, if your hungry, ur hungry, we don't do that shit anymore". I got down to a size 8/10 and yet I wasent happy and still thought I was fat! Ridiculous thinking. Do you know of any good books that help with all the things youv learnt? Xxxx

[@megsyrecovery191]

@@kaylesandbean A really good podcast is 'don't salt my game'. Have you listened to it? The latest series is really good, she's reviewing her book (with guests on) called 'How to just eat it'. I haven't read the book, but the podcast is really good. It covers body acceptance, breaking food rules, and also how there is so much more to health than a number and so much more to food than the nutritional value (how it is part of social, emotional, financial and mental health). Are you getting any help from any medical professional with eating disorder training? It's so important to be able to look at your life and lived experience holistically (beyond a number), like you're trying to do. Restriction and rigidity around food is never going to be healthy for you and your lifestyle and happiness. Some one specialist should be able to help you as an individual, and not as a number xxx

[@kaylesandbean]

@@megsyrecovery191 I tried to get ED help, but all they offered was 4 sessions of CBT and a rigid food plan of lots of carbs (even though I need to lose weight). They said after the 4 sessions if they think youv improved then u get 6 more then discharged. Ridiculous! How on earth 10 hours of group CBT is going to sort 20 years of ED behaviours I have no idea! I'm trying to be body positive but a little difficult at Size 16/18. They actually told me to go pay someone 🤬. I'm going to listen to that podcast, thanks Megs! Your a super star xx

[@kaylesandbean]

@@megsyrecovery191 iv started listening to this podcast. It's brilliant xx

[@majaep123]

Thank you for your videos! They always inspire me and remind to prioritize recovery and not compare myself to others. You seem like such a kind person, and I am grateful for the time and thoughts you put into your videos. I hope you are doing well

[@tabbymyers]

Thank you so much for always sharing insights/tips that your therapist has taught you! It has been very helpful to me personally, and I have shared it with others as well! ❤️❤️❤️

[@megsyrecovery191]

Goooood, keep using & sharing forwards 🤗

[@jenb682]

Thank you for making these videos 💛 Honestly the most helpful and caring videos to watch. So informative but not preachy, the way you deliver your messages is so kind. You’re just a pure beautiful soul. Thank you. X

[@jenb682]

Also the music in this video 👌🏻

[@megsyrecovery191]

Oh my Lordy, such high praise. Thank you, glad I’m able to get the stuff across which has helped me. & I LOVE a sea shanty at the moment 👌👌

[@marmarmarg]

I’m now addicted to your microwave apple/cinnamon snack...oh my goodness. 🥰 So good! Thank you for sharing that!

[@megsyrecovery191]

Ahhhh so glad you like it!!!

[@goosegirl3424]

It's lush with real vanilla ice cream too! Or yoghurt and granola! I love a hot and cold combo!!!

[@sarahottway427]

thank you for sharing this advice and your experience with it. THAAAANK you. Such a big help and inspiration. And you are so right. I still to this strange comparison. And now I know I can make myself aware of it and snap out of it. All the best to you. Sarah

[@JoJo-vg9sj]

Brilliant video Meg. I’m need to really stop following people who are having negative impact on my ed recovery. Your words are so helpful Thank you. Sending lots of love from Australia

[@megsyrecovery191]

Yes!!!! Unfollow unfollow UNFOLLOW 💪

[@Abi-wy3jm]

Yes!! It always stresses me when people have egg on toast or cheese on toast without ketchup!!!

[@megsyrecovery191]

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[@Cessie93]

Thank you for this video, I struggle with comparing a lot! I notice I always zoom in on people's legs and if someone's really thin I just assume they also have an ED and compare myself to them to see who's "sicker", which I never win (binge eating is a big part of my ED so I've never lost a drastic amount of weight). I have no idea what's actually going on in their life, they might have cancer or a drug addiction or something that has just made them lose their appetite. I really like the saying "different bodies different paths". I kind of use it as a mantra whenever I get stuck in comparing.

[@megsyrecovery191]

Good for you! Even if they’re naturally & genetically that size, they have a different body to you so you’ll never be “then sized” anyway. That helped me a lot!

[@angelaspielbusch1237]

Thank you for always saying things that truly help me!!!

[@friendoftherese1]

Okay, that drinking song is officially stuck in my head. Lol!

[@megsyrecovery191]

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[@adayinthelifeofvenellope671]

Im new to your channel but im so thankful i found it. This video was so helpful to me and I love that you don’t do full day of eating videos

[@harmonyhope1709]

Aww Meg thank you so much for this video. I have really missed your helpful, sensible, factual Ed recovery advice instead of just 'what I eat in a day' recovery KZbinrs (don't get me wrong, they are OK and have their place, but can lead to more unhealthy comparison) Omg, you've literally just said exactly what I just wrote!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Bertie is such a cutie!!! Must be a comfort and distraction for you with everything that is going on and you have been through. I loved the 'Mr Potato head' analogy!! 😂 It's so true!!!! I do feel like lockdown I has helped me be less bothered about how I look /what other people look like as I really want to look at myself and others through an emotional lens and am more focused on making sure I feel OK mentally and emotionally and they are OK emotionally. I just want to be a kind and caring person really which is more important and will make me happier than being any particular way. Also us all wearing less makeup and wearing more casual. I think generally people are less focused on others luckily!!! (I don't feel as judged) Haha you are like me in describing things as a shit show!! 😂😂😂 It describes stuff perfectly!!!! Great to see you acing the cheese toasties these days 💪❤️ I remember you challenge and repeating them, lolllll. Bless you. Such an inspiration. That's not to ignore that you still have your own shit to deal with but the way you persevere is just admirable, like doing the painting instead..... As you say. Distractions don't always work but still better to try than do something self destructive. Take care Meg, enjoy the rest of your weekend and have a good week. Such great advice. Especially the Instagram accounts and KZbin!! Loads of love xxxxx

[@megsyrecovery191]

Awww thanks for the lovely message. I love the expression ‘shit show’ & also love a cheese toastie. It’s amazing how scared I used to be. Thank the lord for challenge repeat 💪 lots of love xxx

[@harmonyhope1709]

@@megsyrecovery191 challenge repeat goes through my head so often and I always think of you... Aced a Biscoff latte today and thought of you. Liquid calories, challenge repeat! 💪❤️ Take care of yourself lovely xx

[@ellielord3769]

Appeciate you and all of your wisdom so, so much. Sending you positive thoughts for easier times ahead

[@megsyrecovery191]

Thanks pal 🙏🏻

[@anavicky335]

When the music started at 8:15 I thought it was Bren walking in and singing 🤣🤣 I predicted what was gonna happen later in the video 🤯😄

[@megsyrecovery191]

🤣🤣🤣

[@ZoeShears]

I love your videos, I have recently been discharged from the eating disorder clinic because I am no longer in treatment. I am still battling bad thoughts around eating and struggling to get in the right amount of food. I was angry that I was just dumped like that but I am changing my thoughts and saying I was given the tools I just have to use them. Just wish it wasnt so fricking hard, I feel so sick after every meal.

[@megsyrecovery191]

It is hard, but you really can do it 💪 & it gets easier the more you do xxx

[@ZoeShears]

@@megsyrecovery191 I just felt so let down but I know its part my fault as I wasnt fully engaging and was just saying things that I thought they wanted to hear. I have a belief in my head that the centre never really believed me and now this, it just really got to me. But I'm going to try this on my own one step at a time. At the moment I am concentrating on getting the 3 meals 2 snacks they recommended and later I will look at what I am eating just trying not to overwhelmed myself

[@janni1820]

Loved the music 😍🙏🏻 Thank you so much for this new video! Comparison is something I definitely still have to work on... Your tips are really helpful! ❤️

[@megsyrecovery191]

Hope they can help you as much as they helped me 😘

[@lenam4240]

Thank you, Meg, for another inspring and honest video! I totally agree that "full day of eating" videos are totally unhelpful. It only instigates comparison 😞 So thanks for being considerate and sharing your helpful videos! Best wishes for you! ❤ Keep on going your path!

[@livylytaube6963]

Dear Meg! Could you do a video on having trouble eating in front of other people? Being judged for eating too much, too little, weird combinations or eating habits.... I feel so stressed and would prefer eating just alone :(

[@megsyrecovery191]

I think I did a video about eating habits, I can’t really remember what I covered in it. Not sure if this helps, but I had the weirdest eating habits when I was ill, like honestly mortifying to eat in public with. Even now I cringe about them. But what’s most incredible is they got better completely on their own as I gained weight. I didn’t need to do anything to challenge them, I just all of a sudden felt no compulsion to do them when I wasn’t starved 😘😘

[@livylytaube6963]

@@megsyrecovery191 thank you, gonna have a look at those videos if yours again! I hope it does get better... I feel so ashamed in front of my flatmates and treat them so unfriendly in those situations..... Lots of love 💕

[@sarahsiave2532]

Honestly so thankful for you! Sharing such amazing tips and lessons thank you

[@itsmalkamusic]

Your hair looks AMAZING!! 😍😍 great video as always xx

[@trailrunningpixie]

My recovery has moved on leaps and bounds, but even so you and your videos always offer a reminder to keep pushing against the ED thoughts when they pop up every now and then. I love the “me sized me”, and ‘different bodies, different paths”. That’s the one that I hold onto the most. I did want to ask (although don’t expect a response), are you both doing OK? Thank you for being you, as you are. Bertie popping up and down during your toasties cracked me up! 😂

[@megsyrecovery191]

Hahaha he's so funny isn't he. It drives him mad because the plates are just out of reach for him. Poor little lad. Thanks for asking. Honestly still very up and down, missing Alfie every single day, and we seem to be having one of those times in life where thing after thing keeps happening. But we're still very fortunate and many people have it a lot worse. So just trying to get through and not 'control' it. Lots of love xxxx

[@Emma-ut1rb]

Thank you so much Megsy, your videos have helped me so much in my recovery. Stay safe and best wishes to you and your family! Emma ❤️

[@user-lg3vu3hl9p]

I'm just so impressed by how professionally you present ideas such as the comparison and subject bias one. I think you'd make a great eating disorder public advocate, therapist and/or coach if one day you feel like you're in the right place to. Although you already are a public advocate I meant someone that holds awareness events ect

[@megsyrecovery191]

I really struggle speaking publicly 🙈 but luckily this is quite a good platform for sharing. These are the cbte techniques which I’ve learned 🙏🏻

[@katydavis3390]

❤️❤️❤️❤️love all your videos..you’re always so well spoken. PERFECTION :)

[@annemarkstein6277]

That’s such a great thought! Because I have some friend who are smaller, leaner, more fit etc. But because I know them so well and love them so dearly they are so much more than their bodies to me. I don’t feel ‘threatened’ or like I need to compare myself with them because that’s not why I love them. The comparison comes more with strangers because I don’t see them as these complex creatures. You’ve definitely made me think! Thanks meg. Sending love 💕💕🥰

[@megsyrecovery191]

That’s wonderful! We can’t ever take a body in isolation, & also it’s not your body anyway so it’s kind of irrelevant to you, & your path & your needs 😘😘😘

[@Scarlettlovesmusicx1]

Thank you so so much for this video Meg💖Really insightful thoughts and advice. I dig the sea shanty vibes👌😌🏖️I'm going to share this video with my friend. Have a wonderful weekend💞✨

[@megsyrecovery191]

Glad you enjoyed 😘😘

[@emilybirchall5962]

You always have such an amazing way of getting things across, you are SO helpful you have no idea xxx sending loads of love 🧡

[@kmoy]

Yum eggs!! You're a great cook Meg! And of course ketchup and eggs are the best combo. :) Great to see you. Another great video. Thank you. :)

[@cazlovescakes]

Bodies change over time, too. The “perfect legs” someone has today won’t look the same in 5 years. I’m well over 30, and I can envy the legs (or whatever body part) of a 20 year old, but mine are never going to look like that no matter how hard I try to force them. There’s a good chance (sadly) that the person we compare ourselves too won’t be entirely happy with themselves either x

[@luciemcadams9016]

Meg, could you do a video on anxiety during meals? Im having panic attacks during meals that cause nausea/gagging which makes it impossible to eat. Wondered if you could talk about any methods you used to control anxiety during mealtimes. Thanks! ❤️❤️

[@megsyrecovery191]

Have you found techniques to help? Music to listen to, or something like doing a sudoku, or watching KZbin videos? Even doing it before to help you manage the anxiety as well 🤷‍♀️

[@Alyshadevon95]

I learned this in CBT and have also found this so helpful, takes so much god damn time to recover from this illness but my god its worth it! Sending positive vibes xxxx

[@megsyrecovery191]

It really does!! But CBTE is brilliant, and actions actions actions and it does change. Did the treatment help you hun?

[@megsyrecovery191]

Did you get in in Devon?

[@Alyshadevon95]

@@megsyrecovery191 it did help, just NHS so was capped at x sessions, they were kind enough to give me more than their standard amount, but feel like I could have done with more. Still, got tools in the kit and now going it by myself, gotta keep on keeping on!!! Yes, in Devon xx

[@hopeunfinished8462]

I completely agree with not showing full day of eating! I am on a meal plan that is individualized for me and MY body, and feel it would be irresponsible to show everything in an entire day. I still show some of what I eat (because I’m a human who eats EVERY DAY😊) but there are times my meal plan is increased and times when I temporarily decrease it (like now - I just had surgery and am nauseous, in pain and trying to manage things medically) ONLY while watched closely by my dietician with the goal to get back to 100% of my meal plan ASAP. I am looking forward to being able to eat intuitively, but for now I trust my team to know what my FDOE should be more than what my ED tries to convince me it should be! THANK YOU for providing such a safe space for us to come to!!💜😊😘

[@megsyrecovery191]

Hope your surgery went well and you have a quick recovery xxx

[@startfromsquareone2913]

Riding the sea shanty wave😅😅 I am so addicted ever since they went viral on tiktok

[@megsyrecovery191]

SAME!! Isn’t it the best music 😍

[@startfromsquareone2913]

@@megsyrecovery191 Totally, could listen to them all day long...especially that dude who made them popular again...Nathan*something*😄😄

[@alexaelizabeth7393]

You would be a great coach! Thank you for this video!

[@megsyrecovery191]

😘😘

[@rayhino7657]

Thank you so much 💜 Your videos are the most helpful ones I know!

[@saragill87]

This video is incredible lovely. Thank you so much for making these lovely. You are such a wonderful human being ❤❤

[@juliapurcell4022]

I love this, I relate so much to all your ED thoughts. Thank you for the advice!

[@bellebigland6449]

You are a beauty ❤️ loving that you are back doing what you do best! 🌈 🌟

[@nancyplourde1]

Thank you so much! Once again I love your video, amazing way to address the topic and the explanations/guidelines are really helpful. You make it clear and easy to understand. :)

[@Jjjjjjjj27]

This is off topic but you are a really talented doodler! You find such aesthetically pleasing colour combos and shapes and details

[@megsyrecovery191]

Aww thanks. It’s such a satisfying thing to do. Love playing around with the colours 🥰

[@katieann9039]

Ahhh thankyou so much for being fab:) Also nice to see somebody else eats ketchup and mayo a lot - I put them together too (its lush) ! Also those nature valley bars are the absolute best - unsure if you have Aldi in Dubai but they have their own version and the maple syrup ones are wonderful :) Comparison is something I have always struggled with but after years of repeating this behaviour I now just look at others and think - 'you do you - i'll do me , im my version of me and everybody else is taken!!' - Finally regaining my personality which comes with focusing on the important things and the most beautiful thing is nobody even cares how we look , apart from our own minds! Lots of love to you all (obs the animals too) xx

[@megsyrecovery191]

Good for you 👏👏👏

[@apres3131]

Love seeing how you fold the clothes, but i gotta ask, how do you do it without getting the nature valley crumbs all over?! The inventor of those bars never took the mess they leave into account did s/he? :)

[@katydavis3390]

Omg I was thinking the same thing...those things are so crumbly lol

[@megsyrecovery191]

😆😆 they really are!!

[@alisonjohn]

I used to think I was fatter than most people, & would feel a lot of resentment for slim people. I was a compulsive exerciser but never saw how it was giving me a lean body. I just assumed I need to work harder on my workouts. I always resented slim people; especially women. I would be so annoyed if people I knew were slim & if they confessed that they found weight gain very difficult because of a naturally fast metabolism. 🙄This was, as usual a well thought out video & therapy session - almost. Many thanks Meg. Take care & stay safe. Axx🌹

[@megsyrecovery191]

Glad it could help xxx

[@laurascott9826]

Love the sea shanties! One film to check out if you like that music is Fisherman's Friends the movie, it's excellent and so heartwarming also! Your food looks delicious especially those toasties! So good. Lots of love, Laura x x

[@megsyrecovery191]

I was on a plane with the cast of that film!! 😆 flying from Exeter to London, I sat next to the producer (or songwriter), Rupert someone. I’ve never watched it though, so I’ll get right on it this week

[@supermleczko]

Lots of love Megsy 😘😘😘 Thank You For all Your work 🥰

[@susannecarlson8337]

Also I’m not comparing or zooming in but your hair is lovely!

[@megsyrecovery191]

😆 thanks xx

[@livinglifetothefull247]

Can I ask you...how do you deal with hearing others comment about calorie counting/being on diets/counting their steps etc, i find so so hard to hear, I just tell myself to brush it off. And I know that if I was to start doing that, it could lead me to go backwards, but yeah, it’s difficult!

[@megsyrecovery191]

That's exactly what I would say to myself too. I would remind myself different bodies, different paths, and I would say "no Meg, that shit is not for you". I also try to hang out with people who have quite healthy and positive attitudes to food and body, that has helped me to shift my mindset a lot xxx

[@livinglifetothefull247]

@@megsyrecovery191 Thankyou, :)

[@lindaraaijmakers2539]

Hey meg, dan you tell me what song is playing while you made your breakfast? I loved it. Thank you for making these video's again. You are an amazing person. Lots of love

[@megsyrecovery191]

It was a sea shanty mix of 'wellerman' xx

[@emilyl1260]

Great advice :) totally agree x do you watch any KZbinrs? What do you do other than draw to help when feeling low ?thanks!

[@nak223]

Meg I am soooooooooooooooooooo glad that you are uploading here regulary. again ;O) Lot`s of love from Germany.

[@clararohde9208]

Fantastic video as always! You are truly an inspiration :)

[@stefaniaperego1602]

Love the music in the video! I was walking today and trying to observe different shapes and sizes. I recognize that I still associate thin with good and fat with bad. I hate it, I don't want to be like that, it's so distorted. I don't want to be thin anymore, I want to be me. By the way Meg, you are beautiful inside and outside!

[@megsyrecovery191]

That’s such a good activity to have done, did you take in a lot of diversity? What about thinking of the people you love most in the world, & then listing out what it is you love about them. They may be thin people, they may be fat, but I bet their size will be irrelevant to your lists, & you’ll focus more on their personality, kindness, sense of fun, compassion etc.... That can be helpful in recognising what you really value in people (& yourself) & that it’s not weight & shape. Also a good podcast is ‘don’t salt my game’. It’s a bit more diet related but it does have some good body stuff. & looking into body neutrality helped me 😘😘

[@stefaniaperego1602]

@@megsyrecovery191 I saw most thin people exercising XD I was at the park, it was a sunny day here today. I have work to do, thank you for your advice!

[@ericadewitt1446]

love your video, as always. can i ask what music you had playing when you were cooking/eating? love it.

[@megsyrecovery191]

It's called 'Wellerman' xxx

[@pennymcdonald538]

Great tips all around!

[@greernorton8419]

Loved your video. So helpful ❤️

[@claire778]

I was hoping to hear your thoughts on using the mayo to crust the toastie compared to butter.

[@megsyrecovery191]

It worked really well!!! Definitely using that going forwards

[@minivegan]

Meg, you have been so enormously helpful. Especially with everything you have been through in past year. Thank you for for continuing to provide motivation to those who are still working on recovering. I am curious, did you or do you still struggle with touching food that is greasy or stays on your hands? Great music btw!

[@megsyrecovery191]

No I don’t. I used to hate seeing grease on food. & now I don’t care because I’ve had it enough & I know it’s just part of the food & it’s fine

[@minivegan]

@@megsyrecovery191 Thank you for answering! I always wonder whether it is part of the ED for me or something else. Even if I am not the one eating the food, I just can't handle the feeling of grease or food that stays behind on my hands. I have some weird sensory stuff, so it is probably a little bit of both. I am so glad you are doing so well with food, it must be such a relief after all of the work you did to get there.

[@gabbycastle6233]

This video is like gold, honestly it is so so helpful, thank you lovely 💛 I hope you and bren are doing okay xx

[@jennesset1102]

What are those amazing sea shanties?

[@namorthesubmarine]

Fleetwood is back!! I've missed that intro x

[@susannecarlson8337]

Once again this was so helpful. Thank you ❤️ Hope you are well.

[@gabrielemorasca8695]

Ciao from Roma:-) you look soo tired take care of you!!! GRAZIE for share your journey with us...its a so much important gift for me :-)!

[@megsyrecovery191]

Yeh I’m just emotionally a bit exhausted & flat still. But we will get through 💪 thanks for your message from Roma 😘😘

[@kaylayontef5850]

This was really helpful!

[@brooklynbeyer2054]

So happy to see you making more videos again! You’re the only KZbinr who I watch every upload from! Did you have overshoot weight that went down over time?

[@megsyrecovery191]

Yes I actually did, a few years ago. I really should do a video about it. It's a topic I'd need to think carefully about though

[@kaylesandbean]

This is such a brilliant vlog (as always), funnily enough iv been watching about gymnastics and horse riding and I keep thinking "they look incredible, il never look like that but I want to look like that". Jeez, I'm so unkind to myself. Xx

[@megsyrecovery191]

I still automatically think that when I see other people, and then I think ok cool, they're not me. Now let's get on with me.... Not to trivialize it, but they don't have my body, genes or history, so any comparison is actually pretty irrelevant for me, because I'll only ever be me. I don't mean that to sound too basic or flippant, and I realise I am saying this with a naturally thin body type myself. But I really hope that whatever my body I would apply this thinking, because it can free you of so much impossible and invalid expectation. Like we will never be some one else, at least not naturally

[@mariefuhrer5706]

Thank you so much for these videos ! Forever grateful

[@megsyrecovery191]

My massive tip here would be to stop treating your food like something to balance / save / compensate / calculate / allow / make up for etc..... Can you try and get yourself onto a regular eating schedule? 3 meals, 3 snacks, which are filling and satisfying. Rather than eeking and spreading calories out (because that can feel like food dominates your whole day). Plate your food, make sure you're properly portioning it (not grazing), and sit down to consciously eat it. If I eat 'extra snacks' (for example my family always eat crisps when cooking dinner) I make sure I don't compensate for that later or before, because I want to break that belief that food is an equation. I want to be able to join in, eat 'more', not feel compelled to count and balance food etc.... so at some point you have to break that cycle. Yeh I would say big things I did around this are structuring my meals and snacks, and allowing 'going over' as a natural part of being human and not then compensating for it. That seems like a really chaotic response, I hope some of it makes sense? xxx

[@mariefuhrer5706]

@@megsyrecovery191 Oh thank you so much for your response; it does make a lot of sense and it's really complete! I will try this. It really resonates with me so thank you so much for your time ! xxx

[@makayladay7938]

You got a beautiful home. Love if you can show us your home vlog..thx

[@megsyrecovery191]

Thank you! I do enjoy home stuff. I’d feel weird doing a home tour though 😆

[@makayladay7938]

I love the picture behind your bed head. Where did you get it?

[@megsyrecovery191]

In Dubai, a place called The One (my favourite shop haha. I love house stuff) xxx

[@emmadoherty5098]

You help me so much ❤️

[@sabrinasabi4177]

Hi megg😍😀so thrilled seeing u again. Lots of love xxx

[@susannecarlson8337]

Okay sorry for the third comment haha, but what is that song you have playing!? I love it.

[@megsyrecovery191]

It’s called ‘wellerman’

[@maxik.1551]

This video was so helpful! Thanks so much!

[@zahragemoets5288]

Hey, nice video ! What is the song that played during lunch ? :) loved it! xxx

[@megsyrecovery191]

It’s called wellerman 😘

[@zahragemoets5288]

@@megsyrecovery191 Ooo oke thanx :)

[@noemiportmann1958]

I‘m so so thankfull for all this great thoughts and tools you‘ve mentioned in this video! Wishing you all the best❤️🤘🏼 By the way the music in the video was awesome! I would love to know what band it is?😍✨

[@megsyrecovery191]

It’s called ‘wellerman’. So cool isn’t it!