books about LOVE that are actually realistic and good

A 3am stream of consciousness about my thoughts on love meddled with 10 relevant literary recommendations. / Get access to the Consoles Sale and everything else at G2A here: www.g2a.com/n/... :)
love always,
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[@dakotawarren]

Get access to the Consoles Sale and everything else at G2A here: www.g2a.com/n/dakotawarren1 :) love u all

[@vedikasharma7513]

'I want to read about a love that hurts just as much as it heals' Best sentence I've heard in days

[@shilahriddell813]

lovergirl era except it's just a mad fascination on human nature in a different font

[@mikailacore]

LOVE THSI

[@user-di8or2yv8d]

lt is a mad fascination for those who never ever thought of falling in love with someone in their wildest dreams... but now they know nothing but love and all those feelings once they called "weak, worthless, meaningless"

[@flamingaish]

stealing this

[@pvnkswag]

I call it being in love with romance itself

[@shottasam]

@@pvnkswagi love love

[@n0va_-]

The “I critique literature based on love because I don’t relate to it/an aspect of me feels so out of place anytime i attempt to engage with it because of silly clichés and unrealistic depictions” to “All I want is love in its purest, most raw form. All I think about is the human state in its most vulnerable shape, the one where it’s silly, and it’s frustrating and it hurts - but it feels so, so good and I want it to stop because it’s new but to continue because I’m alive.” Lit girlie pipeline.

[@goodnightsocialite1064]

I'm currently reading the letters between Albert Camus and Maria Casares while also starting to fall in love myself and it's one of the most beautiful things I've read and felt

[@ellagrace7456]

Where did you find a copy available? I haven't been able to find it anywhere :(

[@goodnightsocialite1064]

@@ellagrace7456 I found the EPUB online to the translated edition published in my country, because the physical version was way too expensive. So maybe I would recommend finding an online version

[@sausana2501]

@@ellagrace7456same! I only found a copy that contains his letters to her. But not her letters too.

[@ClaraRehle]

Falling in love with yourself is the best feeling ever, I am so happy for you 🎉

[@maryammaghrabi5070]

same !! @@ellagrace7456

[@mikailacore]

for the lovely people out there x 🍓 everything i know about love by dolly alderton (memoir) 🍓 de profundis by oscar wilde (a letter) 🍓 on love by alain de botton (fiction) 🍓 crush by richard siken (poetry) 🍓 all about love by bell hooks (creative non fic) 🍓 okay days by jenny mustard (fiction) 🍓 beautiful world, where are you by sally rooney (fiction) 🍓 the poems of sappho (poetry) 🍓 erotic poems by goethe (poetry) 🍓 love is a dog from hell by charles bukowski (poetry)

[@nicxz_11]

Thank uu

[@hortense8073]

thank you so much !!

[@mimirants7935]

*dolly alderton

[@mikailacore]

@@mimirants7935 thank you 🤍

[@thisuserdoesntexist780]

tysm

[@Anajele]

Had me at De Profundis!! It's one of my absolute favourites and I hardly ever hear people speak about it. My favourite quote from it is "Love can read the writing on the remotest star". I think it's such a gorgeous piece about love BY someone who's so very enamoured with love and has known it so intimately, yet feels it has cost him the world. Beautiful as always dakota!!

[@JennyMustard]

oh! dakota thank you! how beautiful is this video, and for my little novel to be a part of it 💔 off to read bell hooks now xxx

[@abigailelenas]

two lady dakota videos within the same week? we are truly blessed

[@juliagarzarella2113]

i didn’t know you could be both a realist and a dreamer. now i will be thinking about this all week 🕵️‍♀️💫

[@whoreforjaneausten]

De Profundis is one of the best things I've ever read

[@evelinaisidorou2608]

i love how much brighter and essentially happier you look from your last year self. my greatest applause lovely...

[@jacobjohnson8595]

thank you Dakota for making book recommendations an art form. This video is definitely worth a rewatch.

[@gerilamce9399]

"Directed by: Wong Kar-wai"

[@erraticskul]

me being in my lover era the same time as Dakota just feels superior

[@liepasadbaraite8160]

was thinking the same thing!

[@valeriuxe]

if you want a portrayal of all-consuming love that hurts, devours, and grips you please please do the honour of reading Qiu Miaojin’s works - “Notes of a Crocodile“ and “Last Words from Montmartre”. just look up the trigger warnings because both are also incredibly depressing.

[@KT_177]

i’m glad someone else talks about Last Words from Montmarte when talking about Qiu Miaojin. The opening to Letter Eleven ‘My soul is lonely, lonely in a lonely way that I'm unwilling to express to you. How can I describe the depth of my loneliness to some one who cast away my soul, cast away my life, brought me to the brink of death without a care in the world, someone who caused me such catastrophic suffering with hardly a care, and cruelly condemned me to live alone, in another country far from home. I hate you a little less now, but there is still this profound loneliness.’ resonates in such a hauntingly beautiful way

[@ccassbarker]

yes! these two works are just absolutely incredible, i can’t begin to describe how much they moved me.

[@martasgreatlibrary]

drinking game: a shot every time dakota says love in this video!

[@huniicat]

I would count....

[@adrianalacroix]

i read "all about love" about a month ago and it did in fact change my life. it is such a simple yet soooo important book. i love it so much.

[@seniorloser]

i am so in tune with this video and the one last year about love and romance. my viewpoint on love also has changed since then, so i’m happy to watch this video(and perhaps last year’s video) with the things I know now that I didn’t before.

[@tania4781]

I LOVE the way you speak so passionately about LOVE and literature

[@cordieberke7195]

You are cozy. You are lovely. You have allowed me to experience a specific sort of indescribable warm comfort I have only ever felt in nature. Thank you.

[@ka_eldstrom]

All About Love by Bell Hooks has moved to the top of my wishlist recently, it looks like De Profundis might be one of my next reads as well. I remember when I picked up Dorian Gray for the first time the bookstore owner mentioned that Oscar Wilde died on the same day as I was checking out. So I had a certain intimacy with the author before I even started reading. If I may, I also recommend Pablo Neruda’s twenty love poems and a song of despair. The novel Insel by the poet Mina Loy is also a favorite of mine. Thanks for the video! ❤️

[@arabian800]

The love you love is the one we love to find in literature, also, since you minored in philosophy it would be interesting to recommend some books related to that.

[@MariyanaRay]

Yesss!

[@bethysbarn]

Girrllllll the total impulsivity and romantic abandon of that trip, how did that not turn into the absolute love story of your life?! That sounds like it would be so inspiring if nothing else and I would love to hear all about it if you felt comfortable enough to share it one day! Or at least any writing that came from it ❤❤❤

[@tarredion]

I’ve unfortunately had a hard time finding romances that I really felt seen in. Be it books, movies, comics, anything. The first time I ever read Good Omens I never had realized I would feel so seen in a romance as an ace / trans person. This was the early or mid 2010s and even then there were no mainstream actually-ace books that were actually about romance and not just suffering, at least not ones I could bear- I’ve also always loved so much that the love story is so central but it’s not just about that. It’s about other things too, and not just romantic love when you look at all the relationships and concepts of love in the text. I think the fact that it was written in the 80s blew my mind, not that I couldn’t have guessed bcs my dad read it when he was way young. But mainly just because (sadly) not many of my contemporaries were able to capture those feelings accurately, and even fewer of them respectfully or they themselves weren’t even ace or trans. (To go beyond literary works, I am delighted the series is expanding on what the book set up. That it’s able to include a lot more of the things from the book that just one adaption can’t.) I just wish authors of many kinds would discover what they like best to write instead of sticking just to mainstream conventions of couplings and romance and love in general. That not everything had to fit the standard “two straight allo people + a trope” or that romance in and of itself has to be the primary genre all the time. Great recs!

[@Tobi-ce8nm]

I really love yr comment! I have been a fan of good omens since I was about 10 years old and just felt so seen by it in a way that I couldn't really grasp until I got older realised that I'm a queer ace enbie and reread it. I identify so much with aziraphale and Crawley their both just two sweet gender benders with a subtle yet ineffable love for eachother that can't really be put in a box and its beutiful! I'm so glad the tv show is actually taking them down that route as well and giving us some more explicitly queer content. I think Terry and Neil were really ahead of their time for it and I'm so glad it's found a home in queer spaces :))

[@FesJ]

I'm writing my first book, and while it's an epic fantasy adventure on the surface, it's secretly or indirectly a romance underneath. It's a very somber, confusing side of romance, just based off my experience/perspective, and what inspires me. thank you for the recommendations

[@alexandrecosta5095]

@FesJ Can i read it?

[@syawura]

your way of words makes me want to cry but in a good way, it feels touching? idk, i love it

[@rebeccahaefeli]

i’m so happy for you dakota ❤❤❤

[@Pagani123]

Her voice is so soothing

[@laurenschenck5355]

The poems of Sappho sounds intriguing ❤

[@pbpbp]

i'm 15 and I guess at a different stage of love, but i too can't stand modern unrealistic books about love (i love romcoms though, don't get me wrong). books about love targeted towards my age are generally the opposite of love that i want to attract, i wan't love from the inside out. so so many books represent love as an external artificial feeling but from what i know, it's so so so much more. i'd rather read about the way love feels than the way it looks because that's how i want to experience love, through feels not looks. anyways, thank you soo so much. Dolly's everything I know about love is a book that i've always loved, i knew right way i could trust you. thank you thank you :)

[@a-yam943]

My aromantic ass will enjoy all of these books thank you

[@elisazouza]

The way I knew you were gonna pull out everything I know about love after the title screen ahah ❤

[@durivian]

The lighting in this video is beautiful ❤❤💛

[@sophiaisabelle01]

Thank you for your recommendations, Dakota. We look forward to see more from you.

[@dad102]

This is so good. There is nothing else like this on all of KZbin.

[@samyaahmed_]

i always thought love was a societal thing we're made to do, i honestly don't believe anyone is actually in love with someone else- aha maybe i'm just dead inside

[@tine272]

yeah you are lol

[@athanasia222]

I was in the bathtub eating haribo's starmix and counting tiles when this dropped

[@tartpickple]

just another Tuesday night

[@anitamaar]

I wanna be you

[@HeatherMascara]

The setting and the music was so cozy, I loved it! 😍 Now I want to read De profundis!!! 💕💌

[@Maugrimm]

This video came at a perfect time for me, since I am in a "fallen in love era" as well right now and it's kinda great but also kinda sucks. Since I own De Profundis and Crush, I am really in the mood for a re-read now. Thanks for bringing them to me attention again.

[@ampisthebest3139]

The lightning in the video is just perfect

[@gillianmariepearce]

This is SUCH a great list. THANK YOU! When you have time, can you please make a poetry recommendations video? I would love to hear about your favourite poetry books. xoxo:)

[@sophias9686]

One of my favorite books about love is definitely Sputnik Sweetheart

[@aahnavashistha8650]

Loved loved these recommendations especially the poetries, keep going ✨

[@laurenschenck5355]

Love you Dakota you have best book recommendations ❤

[@alaska7086]

I haven’t read any of his books but my professor had us watch Alain de Botton’s interview on the SRF Kuktur Sternstunden channel and I absolutely love it. Funnily enough I was dissuaded from picking up his books from your friend too haha (I’m looking at you Jack!!) p.s. i will definitely be reading de profundis so thank you!

[@smelis2755]

I don’t know if you’ve given him a chance yet but when you talked about love as a verb, I instantly thought of Eric Fromm. He changed the way I view love and I thing you’d adore it!

[@abh1ta]

the best love novels are the non fiction ones

[@casketpaint397]

Other romance books i recommend :) - Giovanni's room by James baldwin - Open Water by Caleb Azumah Nelson

[@hamshaiwb5849]

2nd giovannis room😢

[@casketpaint397]

@@hamshaiwb5849 It actually made me cry:")

[@laurenschenck5355]

Please write more books and you are amazing writer ❤

[@loomon2610]

"Like a rockstar, but literary" my new motto

[@catenrgy]

perfect video at perfect time, thank you for your recs Dakota

[@ellebannana]

Take a gander with Neruda, especially if you can get a copy of the original and translation side-by-side. The great thing about literature is that the right thing is always there waiting for you when you need it.

[@_alexkerr]

I love all about love by bell hooks! I've been reading it for months because every time I pick it up I learn something new about myself and need to put it down.

[@ramdassubba2006]

Oh dokota love is worship I've thought of it that way all along and I'm so glad u said it loud

[@ccarduelismm]

Hello, very unrelated from the video though I do adore how The Goldfinch portrays love when it comes to trauma bonding and trauma in general, but I really want to know what your feelings on tgf are? I know it’s a long read and quite frankly a drag for many people but if you have read it I’d just like to know if you like it! It’s one of my favourite books from a narrative and writing stand point, the characters are so real and the unreliable narrator that Theo Decker is creates a beautiful chance for analysis. Just like to know your base opinion on the book!

[@florencealice40]

hi dakota! one book i could not recommend more about love is 'olivia' by olivia...incredibly painful portrayal of an unrequited lesbian attraction in the edwardian era. it's very short as well with absolutely beautiful prose

[@ruhnova]

hi! could you share a few more details about that book, or perhaps the goodreads link? i can’t find it

[@vitoriar8753]

two uploads on the same week??? we're being spoiled and i'm certaintly not complaining 😁😁🙏🙏🙏

[@dariayats]

oh yay dakota posted!!🥳

[@redstar7292]

Great recommendations! MY favourites are:- The Madonna in the Fur Coat by Sabahatti Ali, The English Patient by Michael Onaddatje Liaison Dangereuse by Pierre Choderlos de Lacos. Love in the Time of Cholera by Gabriel Garcia Marquez

[@laurenschenck5355]

On love sounds amazing and pure beauty and definitely going to read it ❤

[@aq6536]

Gosh I´m addicted to your vibe

[@nikki4436]

You are so beautiful and ethereal I love your vibe and this video brought me joy!!

[@flo.1018]

my favorite thing about you is how you've been evolving since last year and you secretly want to tell us about yourself although the sense of responsibility makes you believe (righteously) that you shouldn't. love changes people. one day you don't believe in it and think it's almost pitiful, the next day... no choice is left other than adoring love.

[@izzydavie5505]

pablo neruda!!!!! i repeat !!!!! pablo neruda!!!!!

[@anacayse]

i wrote an essay on Crush that brought me the greatest writing opportunity i've had of late, i adore that collection

[@sierramehler]

I swear you have the best recommendations!

[@veniceicesea]

when you post about books i am revived

[@LaeilaMoon-bg9tc]

I haven’t finished the video yet..however this is exactly the video Ive been looking for lately. I would also recommend The Broken Wings by Kahlil Gibran

[@mrj8rie]

i love u omg this channel is amazing

[@222emilia]

'literary rockstar' is how i would describe you to other people. 🖤🐈‍⬛

[@forest.greens]

the way you use words tickles my brain

[@LadyKutera07]

Love you Dakota

[@murakamistea6491]

does anybody know the name of the background music that is playing in the video pls i want to know its so ascending

[@theUroshman]

I wholeheartedly suggest reading Daniel Glattauer's book Love Virtually.

[@sublimeister9630]

OSHO is a must read… Love is Sex, and his book “From Sex to Superconsciousness” is the most profound. 🙏🏻😊

[@readingaster]

i bought de profundis on the day my nephew oscar was born because it seemed fitting, had no idea what it was about up till now but my nephew is now a year and a half old and you've finally made me ache to read it

[@readingaster]

going on a first date to a random foreign city is on my bucket list, good for you

[@AdrianasWonderland]

we need more viedos like this

[@01109]

I love this woman

[@elisazouza]

I’m truly a lover girl but I’ve gone through a recent breakup and now I can’t read any books :((

[@Robin-ej7rn]

Breakups always suck, wishing you the best 💛💛

[@liam3814]

Not me playing the sims rn while watching this

[@ssslace]

12 seconds in, my thoughts are "Gaspar Noé"

[@dakotawarren]

may or may not be in the midst of a Gaspar binge

[@ionablunt7659]

Pls Dakota, my love, my angel, can you make a video on how you annotate books? I’m terribly lost

[@lucianadiaz2999]

Lady Dakota, have you read Nightshift already? I read it two days ago and I really liked it, and while reading it actually I thought that you would enjoy it. Anyway, side topic I love your rockstar alter-ego and hope to see her again.

[@cheris3668]

Thanks 4 your recommendation, I'll try them soon

[@swagpon3]

I LOVEE YOUUUU

[@IndieGuvenc]

thanks for the suggestions, I'll check them out, I thought Jhumpa Lahiri stories are pretty good, it's like the day after the wedding and maybe having children

[@marianacastro5579]

dakota!!! by these recommendations i can tell you're gonna like the double flame: love and eroticism by octavio paz!!! like bukowski, he was a shady (and terrible) dude irl lol but his writing is beautiful, especially that which concerns poetry

[@patricia2078]

You radiate love

[@ranasaleh5432]

So nice to hear a fellow enthusiastic love lover❤. I think you would also love ‘Love and Saint Augustine’; the dissertation from Hannah Arendt.

[@ranasaleh5432]

Will definitely read the profundis!

[@neuaeoi]

Omg now I can buy on g2a with lady Dakota link

[@corruptauthor]

Thanks for this video. I'm an author and I'm doing research for a woman that dates an older man. I want it to be real and down to earth and most of all believable.

[@antropofilia1318]

Hello Dakota, have you read Clarice Lispector? I have a feeling you will love her writing, especially 'an apprenticeship or the book of delights' for a wonderful introspective gut-wrenching love story, or agua viva for a rabbit-hole of a diary entry

[@ffm595]

Please read How We Love by Clementine Ford!

[@Theycallhersofia]

I just finished reading They Call Her Sofia by Doris Ladino and LOVED it! Such a great romance novel ❤️

[@GraveyardShift-tl6ri]

girlies with tall uneven unhinged book stacks on the floor>>>>>>>>>>>> we're hot

[@katierisley]

CRUSH IS SO GOOD

[@Labinzel]

Downloaded De Profundis from my library because if that excerpt🖤

[@GraveyardShift-tl6ri]

i loveeee loved a dog is from hell, love seeing it in this collection

[@limkhh]

oh how i love love