Boost Your Confidence as a SAHM (Stay At Home Mom or Dad!)

[@debbiefytopoulou3881]

I am a proud SAHM of four and the reason I say that it's because this is by far the hardest job I have ever done! Physically and mentally!!! Homeschooling, housekeeping,entertaining...... etc! Congratulations to all SAHM parents out there!!!

[@samiedennison1550]

I would argue that being a stay at home parent doesn’t mean it’s because you have the financial privilege of doing so. We sacrifice a lot as a family for me to stay home. We also know we cannot afford childcare at it’s current cost. I love being a sahm and feel like it’s the single most important calling in the world 💗 thank you for sharing your thoughts 💗

[@olivelasco5587]

I was thinking this as well. The only reason I am staying home (and I'm not trying to complain) is because we cannot afford childcare at all and do not have reliable family or friends to watch our baby for me to get a job. I worked my entire pregnancy up until 2 weeks before I gave birth. I've worked some pretty disgusting, labor intensive jobs but this one by far is the most difficult. I love my baby, but it's not easy. I try every day to make it through the next day. I hope things get more fluid for me, also everybody has a different story and a different situation too. But I agree with your comment ♡

[@olivelasco5587]

And we do struggle with money because of it, so that's always a huge stresser on our relationship and our lives. We only have one car that's insured so I can't just go out and work... also, childcare costs. Its like paying rent at least where I live. 😬

[@chantalyt]

I was a full time academic and career person before having a child. Now I am a SAHM with my second on the way and it's been the most challenging thing I've ever done. I agree it is a huge service to society by raising physically and mentally healthy human beings. Zero to three is the most fundamental development period for the human brain. It is very difficult but I think we should all be proud of that dedication. Also it's a beautiful time to be with our children for us emotionally as well. Thank you for sharing this it is a very important message.

[@christiana_mandalynn]

Avital! This is incredible. I’ve been on the brink of mommy burnout the past few weeks, feeling exhausted and devalued, and it turns out that I really needed all of this advice. I am re-energized after watching it. So much love to you and your precious family!

[@jyotsnajha8767]

I needed this advice as well !! Thankyou Avital 😊🙏 ur glowing and I love you baby’s cooing ♥️♥️

[@janeprebble2443]

Thanks for this, Avital. I work 10 hours a week from home helping my husband with his business, which I love, as it gives me lots of flexibility to be with our kids and run our home the way I want to. But several friends of mine often make comments like “do you think you’ll go back to work soon?” Or “when do you think you’ll work in your own field again?” as if the work I do isn’t valid because it’s only for my husband’s business. This really irks me! Thanks for your empowering video. :)

[@adararelgnel2695]

I love the CEO idea. Because my personality type is very much CEO material. People in my life were disappointed in me for choosing to "waste" my passion, my brains and my skills on staying at home with babies. BUT, why should I use the skills god gave me for corporations and not for my OWN, children and husband?? So this is how Ive always seen it. Anything I choose to do, I do WELL.

[@LoveAtHome]

I had a tough day yesterday and I really felt lonely because i am losing confidence and not having "social interactions" and "adult conversations". Today, i chose to do my makeup and dress up and it really lift up my mood!

[@DeannaShelton09]

I’ve been stay at home for 8 years now, most of that was and is spent watching others children. I do love it but at times it can be very isolating. My two kids are both school grade now so I currently have one toddler at home to watch. The hardest part of this job honestly is the loneliness..

[@oc2538]

Yes it is so isolating, nobody understands this. Having almost zero adult interaction for 8-13 hours a day is hard. I always listen to podcasts and audiobooks but that is just me taking it in.... It doesn't go back and forth.

[@phoebehope6549]

I prefer full-time parent/I take care of the kids full-time. I find it helps people stop to think for a second of the responsibility, rather than be dismissive of it as not being hard work. Thank you for advocating for us 💜

[@DeannaShelton09]

Love this!!

[@pondering1840]

You were missed.. Welcome back.. Love your videos and your family.

[@burcuerdogan7499]

I a hundred percent agree to each sentence of this video, as a 3 y o mother and also a manager in her corporate life, who spent only 11 months at home with her kid. I must say that this 11 months was probably the most difficult time of my life. I have the highest respect to all mothers, but especially the stay at home ones! Managing this whole thing causing continuous anxiety and running the entire household business definitely requires the highest management skills!:) Kudos to you all!

[@nicoleschwyzer6022]

I am a new mom and stay home. I want to hug you. You said so many things I’ve been thinking about! You are so very articulate, I really love the way you addressed everything you did and examples were very realistic and relatable! I felt the video really validated how I feel and seeing this really helpful to my mental help! Thank you!

[@HiFamLife]

That’s awesome Nicole! I’m so happy you found it helpful. (BTW If you loved this you should check out my membership The Studio it closes today, you’ll love it www.hifam.com/studio )

[@Oniichanmomo]

Your videos are amazing and something I’ve been needing for such a long time. You make being a parent much less scary and overwhelming with each video.

[@christinakim9184]

Thank you, Avital! I’m at SAHM to a 7 and 5 year old. This video was a breath of fresh air as those devaluing thoughts creep up on me from time to time!

[@MayanPrincess3]

Avital, how are you making this video with a newborn?!?! I couldn’t even shower let alone put on makeup or put a video together. How do you organize your work/life to feel like you’re actually taking care of yourself too? I feel like I can either take care of home or myself but not both. I’m an exhausted SAHM

[@sonjawinkler6023]

I totally hear you! 💜💙💚💛🧡❤ She's got an amazing course called present play...also an app where she shares maaaany golden nuggets!🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 I felt the same. Her encouraging videos and zoom session in the course truly have changed my entire life! I though she shares so much wisdom on her YTchannel there can't be more in the course.. Oh my, I was so wrong!😂😂😅💪 It was the most needed step I took to create family bliss! I don't know you, but I highly recommend the course to every mother! 💕💕💕

[@afrolofi]

This message is beautiful!

[@aranoguera8945]

I love your way of delivering your message - calm, non judgemental demeanour. I've been a Sahm for 6 years by choice, but not everyday is easy, exciting or peaceful. I am thankful for your content because it has been of great help and comfort during the hard seasons.

[@amydeterman1678]

You are reading my mind, Avital! This is exactly what I needed to hear!

[@IamRedeemed5]

Five minutes into this video and I’m shouting “AMEN SISTER!” .. One year in to being a SAHM. Thanks for this encouragement! God bless ❤️🙏🏽😌

[@missnazstylee]

Thanks so much for this video Avital!! I really needed this boost I’m a stay at home mom of 3 kids 🎉 this video found me at just the right time ❤😅 I appreciate your channel and all your videos thanks so much 🥹

[@HiFamLife]

So much love! So glad this helps!

[@lilypandeles8487]

Avital you are a huge inspiration to me thank you for your work! X

[@radhikanair5437]

I cannot tell you how much I needed to hear this!! Thank you

[@rayyg786]

I am lucky enough to be a Sahm, and I would choose it a thousand times over. It's so hard sometimes, but I'ts my path. No doubt.

[@ourancestralhomestead]

You're back! Yay!

[@siobhanoconnor376]

These are helpful reminders! Thank you. ♥️ (I love how you challenge people with what you share, and the advice to ‘be interesting’ is great, love it!)

[@MissNamaSlay]

I’d love to tell u how much I appreciate you in this well thought out comment however rn I do not have the time 😅 I will be back to detail exactly how helpful your channel has been 🧘🏾‍♀️

[@rayyg786]

Yep aging is a freaking priviledge. It's literal life. My mum died at 59, never got to be a grandma...my literal ambition now is to be there for my grownup kids and their kids.

[@perennialgypsy6491]

😭♥️I feel your pain.. Sending love and positive vibes your way

[@sugarfaryprinces]

Really nice video. I love the parallel you made to aging. That is so true and such e real and positive way of seeing it 🥰 I'm a stay at home parent and feel so happy and blessed for staying with my children (after they fall asleep and I have a free minute to think about the big picture lol cuz all day I am on autopilot)

[@aixabal]

Avital, this was beautifully empowering ♥️

[@kellydimuzio1785]

Im so happy I found your channel

[@jordanlee5586]

Showing up each day like you are (bc you are) the CEO of your family! YES!!!

[@jyotsnajha8767]

I love your confidence!! And how do u manage the home with 5 beautiful kids? Can you pls make a video on how to be organized as a parent with a big family and how to be organized with all the work around ?

[@lydiah2577]

I love the term radical homemaking as it matches the way we live and is a confident and empowered term to describe home based life!

[@Heart_LikeChrist]

So happy I found your channel God bless 💕

[@etaokha4164]

Proud sahm here. Mum of 2

[@juliaesparza6973]

What a thoughtful and encouraging video. I walked away feeling uplifted tonight. Thank you!

[@danijelaostojic6182]

Oh, how I've missed your videos!

[@oc2538]

I needed this, miss you Avital. Regret not doing the course last year. I'm going to repeat daily I'm the CEO of the house. Everyone around me always asks when are you going to work. My youngest is almost 2 and hearing "what do you do all day" or my mother in law will say "I was working 12 hours a day and hand time to cook and clean." it just chips away at my self esteem and if I don't have that then what am I offering to my kids? Sometimes things don't always get done especially if my child is having a difficult day and wants me hugging and cuddling her. And then it becomes a cycle, feeling like I'm not doing enough at home and not doing anything to advance myself. I end getting into a victim mode. I try to own being at home but it certainly is isolating esp with the pandemic. I had this experience last week when the moms at my daughter's ballet asked what I do....the looks on their face when I said SAHM was as if I mentioned I have scales on my body. Maybe they assumed all SAHMs are put together and looking flawless? Here I was looking like I rolled outta bed meanwhile, they were in clothes, makeup and talking about their careers. 😔 But I could also be projecting on to them my insecurities?

[@busymamawellness]

Such a good video! I left a highly corporate position a few years ago and felt weird being “just” at home. But leaned that “jsut staying at home “ was very familiar to my manage my position. So I started it owning it even without the pay 💰 😂

[@theblendedhomemaker3234]

Well said! Thank your for encouraging others!💓

[@missdaizer2058]

thank you ❤️, really motivated me

[@MJ-pm8pb]

Fantastic advice. It helped so much, thanks! X

[@amiliasofia7563]

Avital, how did you decide to have five children? So intrigued! X

[@daughterraa4903]

I love this video, very much needed🥹❤️

[@ronirony2122]

Thank you for this!!

[@FiveEighteenBlog]

Avital ! Wonderful video ! Thanks so much for posting xoxoxox

[@anastasiaromanova2009]

Thank you !!!

[@KelleyRichelle]

I really enjoy your videos. So much interesting and valuable info from beginning to end. 💙

[@materinstvo2.0]

We missed You, Avital!

[@colettelondon8434]

Thankyou 🙏

[@diverstalent]

Thank you! Sousan

[@DanielaClapp]

I am a piano teacher and taught from home and home-schooled all of my 4 children. I gave them the best I could so that they will have a chance to make a good life / career for themselves. Now looking back, I feel that this was great for my boy, but my girls who are heading towards amazing careers, I now worry about this, because one day they want to be married and have children and HOW will they balance work and kids and home-life...do you see the paradox? I stayed home and made sure they can have great careers, but my girls will pay the price now for these great careers and have to choose between their career and being a stay at home moms...so what good did my sacrifices do?

[@priscillaseay977]

After having 3 kids I wake up motivated for the day but right when they start nagging, fighting all the noises make me have almost debilitating anxiety. I snap,yell, and have to hide . I'm stuck at what to do or how to overcome this...

[@JOYSILVERWOOD1]

Yeah same!! Honestly a wee trick now my boys are 7 and 10 I pop in ear buds and listen to pod cast while cleaning. Just quietly and I can still hear everyone and my wee one. But I do find it takes the edge off the noise levels and I can still engage and respond

[@natalieirvine209]

Hi lovely, just wanted to gently recommend to do a bit more research in how you’re wearing your bubba in the carrier. Bub needs to be a bit higher and your back clip needs to go down a little more. Just makes it a bit safer and more comfortable ❤️

[@amberpixie8550]

I have such bad executive skills I don't know if it's a adhd thing but damn stressed cause I want my kids to grow up functional but am not great

[@rayyg786]

I'm not devaluing my work, but I would like to lighten the burden for my husband by making some money! In a few years Maybe...

[@jerryrouns4452]

Do you have drinking flasks in your merch? if not you should. Thanks for your time

[@victoriaaycock1375]

I am a "full-time parent."

[@grapeypear4558]

What’s the name of the carrier you’ve got? Thanks!

[@HiFamLife]

Sakura bloom :)

[@positivevibes4930]

What kind of pack is that?

[@FiveEighteenBlog]

Hardest job, least recognition

[@tonimt1712]

What was your point in sharing that you don't stay at home, you work? And thn refer to the stay at home parents you are talking to through the screen as "them?" Are we "them" or "you?" One of the most annoying things other moms do when they work, at home or otherwise, is share to you, a stay at home mom that they work, but then proceed to tell you about being home. We know you work, ma'am. You have a brand, called Parenting Junkie. To tell me to stay interesting and get some brain stimulation is making a gross assumption that this not part of my day. It's incredibly rude.

[@HiFamLife]

Sorry to hear you didn't find this helpful, Toni! Best of luck on your journey.

[@anastasiiadots3848]

Thank you!