Borderline Personality Disorder | Misdiagnosis

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Borderline personality disorder is often misdiagnosed. Here to talk about why and when this happens is leading clinical psychologist Dr. Ramani Durvasula. Dr. Ramani ends the interview with the top things someone can do to avoid a misdiagnosis.
She answers:
Which disorders is BPD most often misdiagnosed as and why?
What happens when BPD is misdiagnosed?
What steps can someone take to make sure their BPD doesn't get misdiagnosed as a different condition?
If someone is misdiagnosed with a different condition, what are the possible side effects of taking medication?
How can someone help a loved one who might have BPD but was misdiagnosed with a different condition?
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[@MedCircle]

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[@bigsexy8707]

MedCircle you’re very easy to hate, annoying

[@donnanoe6736]

From everything you say, I do not I BPD.

[@Spudcracker]

I have months of depression and have months of been as high as a kite but never so high as to be hospitalised but over the 6 months I lost control of my emotions and would cry at the drop of a hat. Over absolutely nothing and I have been coming out of a 6 month depressive episode that involved the uncontrolled emotion. The Psychiatrist diagnosed me with Bpd, with 50% traits of Type 2 Bipolar and 50% of Cyclothymia. I have watched lots of your videos on Bpd and only in the last 6 months have I related to about half of the things associated with Bpd. I just feel confused Because I'm now diagnosed with Bpd yet I have distinct episodes of low and high and only in the last 6 months have I displayed symptoms similar to some aspects of Bpd, is what I described still Bpd with the other traits or do you think the diagnosis is incorrect? Any advice greatly appreciated

[@evolutiondez2.092]

Thank you to everyone who replied!!❤🙏

[@amandanichols375]

These personally disorders are bullshit. It’s all trauma. This is a scapegoating for what is intergenerational trauma and/or neurological in nature. Borderline is Complex PTSD. Borderline/Narc mothers were traumatized in childhood and pass it on. To discover being on the autistic spectrum through a soul-destroying, Medical-PTSD inducting system that missed the developmental delays, physical underdevelopment, sensory issues, food and seasonal childhood allergies, dyspraxia, stimming, connective tissue issues, and later hormonal ( “pmdd” ) issues etc etc. Guess I was masking too well, or being manipulated into thinking I’m damaged, inferior, crazy, too much, too sensitive, overreacting etc! Get off meds! Like she said “ Trust Your Gut!” Then heal it with real eating.. Nutrition healed depression. Healing the scapegoat role and seeing the undiagnosed autistic baby boomer father in family system shed light on opportunistic unhealed and undiagnosed borderline baby boomer mother. She was traumatized. He is on the spectrum. What isn’t labeled repeats. Women on the spectrum who have no idea they’re on the spectrum, eventually burn out! To come to decades of misdiagnosis and undiagnosed autism/pdd-nos has been unreal. Came round the back way through autoimmune hell and cptsd. Years of studying/researching/investigation because it is a Special Interest! Very autistic . I had no choice to buck the system that won’t look at diet/lifestyle and decades of malnutrition/early physical breakdown from trying to do as neurotypical individuals do. Clean eating sorted depression. Healing family wounds from being made the crazy one isn’t as easy. It all comes down to building positive self regard, gut health and many many rounds neural retraining. Those will heal your. chronic anxiety state too from a nation( or parents) that wants to numb you to feeling unsafe which is a natural reaction given the lack of true empathy and compassion when most aren’t aware they’re regularly dissociated,. ADHD and brain fog . Chronic histamine issues and mood disturbances . See Child allergies and behavioral changes! Hypervigilance and irritation /strong reactions to loud noises/auditory sensitivity in cptsd and autism. Wax earplugs at night were the norm for 8 years after last med withdrawal( snri-venlaflaxine) You heal from the meds and then you heal from the thing that put you on meds. The answer lies in the nutrition, healing the intestinal lining and calming an overactive fight/flight/fawn/freeze being. .

[@TinasCrazyLife]

The hardest part of having mental illness or a personality disorder is that people are so willing to accept when a person says they have kidney or gallbaldder or other organ issues- but refuse to acknowledge the brain is also something that can get sick also. It sometimes compounds symptoms

[@ReiShinigami]

Well, the thing is, those are disorders that can destroy human bodies entirely. Without kidneys, you cannot filter toxins, and gall bladders can rupture when infected, and cause many other issues (Mine were removed for said reason). I get what you're saying. I have MS, and I fall in between- Invisible *physical* ailment, and it is also in my brain (lesions). I do understand your point, and the brain is a motherboard that needs treatment also- but organ failure of any kind can cause major issues, too. And degenerative disorders of the brain *are* acknowledged.for the most part.

[@angelm6497]

I think Drs who don't understand medical conditions just tell you its psychological. I was involved in a car accident age 21; it was a high speed T bone impact and damaged my spine. I walked away from the accident and was told I had whiplash. I've been in pain 24/7/365 days ever since that accident. I cant remember what it's like to be pain free. The only thing that varies is the severity of the pain. It took 10 years to get a diagnosis of chronic pain; I was told it was all in my head and psychological, I was attention seeking. Then I spent the next 10 years being told that my chronic pain was caused by my personality because I had a traumatic childhood. Because I am constantly in pain I find it hard to cope some days. Because people cant see the pain I am in they get upset and offended when I don't smile or I get seen as being miserable all the time; they take offence on the days I get withdrawn because I'm struggling with the pain. I even find that my tone of voice is also an issue because quite frankly being in pain constantly is a strain and that is sometimes reflected in my voice; it lowers my capacity to take shit from people and they get easily offended. It generally ends up with conflict and I've had to withdraw from the workplace because of it. I've also had decades of Drs telling me I should be used to it and because I have difficulty coping I've got mental health issues. Then there is the general perception of what constitutes a disability. If you cant see a person's disability then apparently its just that person's perception they've got a disability and again its a mental health issue. That's just reminded me of a podcast about stupidity.

[@FeistyFox82]

Or eating disorders...

[@angelm6497]

I also find that a lot of Drs are Narcs. Especially working in the field of mental health. In the UK, I think medical students with mental health issues or a history of abuse are encouraged to go into this side, one because they have a better understanding but also it gives them the opportunity to work on themselves via supervision. (Supervision is the term for mandatory therapy sessions for therapists) Sadly, that's means too many therapists with blind spots and their own issues. I've found the standard of care for mental health in the UK to be quite disgusting. If it can't be handled with a pill there is F all anyone will do. The best therapist I ever got access to was via prosecutorial diversion. It seems like the only way you will actually get support is if you break the law. It's an F'ng joke! Police wonder why people stand in front of a security camera and shoplift, its to get therapy!

[@mimi42428]

nope this is not why, the illnesses you describe do not affect another person. if the person who has kidney or gallbladder issues refuse to acknowledge or get help for it, it only affects them, noone else. with personality disorders they affect people arround them severely especially those unwilling to acknowledge their mental illness and seek help. People aren't obligated to just accept them and their issues especially since they can sometimes be a danger to others. yes they are ill but others don't deserve to sifrer because the bpd person chooses to live in denial

[@fillinggaps1975]

"They're not labels, they're maps to treatment." That is so powerful!

[@leaharchambault5796]

And incorrect- there is so much stigma with BPD, many doctors refuse to even see these patients.

[@tinybrit3225]

Loved this part “medication doesn’t address a disorder, medication addresses symptoms” . You can’t take a magic pill to make depression go away.

[@Julia_BH]

I agree. So enlightening. Kind of a call out for me when it comes to my anxiety & depression.

[@AB-ws4kt]

The medication can help ease some symptoms, so that you then have energy to address the disorder - the final step is what so many doctors neglect to recognise. Especially when a person can find healthy coping mechanisms to deal with some symptoms and don’t want medication, but they still struggle with their disorder, then Doctors are far more likely to say “well if you don’t need medication then what’s the problem?” 😔

[@seanbangerter4145]

No but magic mushrooms work wonders.

[@berserker3414]

Pills don't work if you don't work on your emotions as well. It's so easy to just turn patients into a zombie than actually listen to them. It happened to me. I told my psychiatrist my abuse, they got uncomfortable and tose it away. But hey, happy pills all the way up. Sometimes the only think you need it's someone who actually listens and validates your experience but even paying they aren't willing to do that

[@drabbit61]

@@seanbangerter4145 hi. Shaun. I have a nuerological disorder, whether BPD or which set of letters it's hard to say. Cannabis helps and I believe mushrooms may offer ...an alternative. Are you willing to talk about your experience? Dan

[@faiza7533]

I am in my second year of psychology and all I can think of, with this series going on, is how amazing it would be to have Dr. Ramani teach me. I feel like I'd look forward to her classes.

[@bcpr9812]

She's such an excellent communicator; she lays out so many details, but in a way that most laypeople can follow, too.

[@davejones4799]

I've been in therapy on and off for 20 years and she is great...very easy person to warm to and great communicator

[@jmanderson84]

I'd get a little distracted, she's really hot lol

[@MsBevis-ib7fe]

YES

[@JDforeveralone]

Hope u finished your uni and become a great practitioner!

[@Indigohoover123]

Please please do more bpd videos it helps so much

[@thomjefferson841]

Of course this got pinned by MedCircle :P Maybe they should do one on how to pay Dr Ramani's exorbitant charges. Feh.

[@MedCircle]

We just released a full series on BPD - how to spot it, how to treat it, how to cope, etc. :) You can watch it here: bit.ly/31DvGQM

[@shanagordon1429]

@@MedCircle no results found. thats useful

[@kimberly25christinesmith72]

Check out dr daniel fox

[@how.disability.justice]

I found Borderliner Notes really super helpful too in understand Borderline Personality Disorder

[@ScottMcGoldrick]

I could listen to Dr Ramani for days!

[@ariellalima7229]

She's so knowledgeable, well-spoken and pretty!

[@ambie19832665]

Same!

[@captainfairysparklz]

I have been listening to her for days 😂

[@darlastarnes-lee1579]

Me too

[@ryana411]

Same... I wish I could have her as my Dr.

[@swfcindy]

I've listened to these videos night after night, tears on my face, and figured out--finally--that I may have BPD. Please post more on BPD with the lovely & amazing Dr. Ramani. She seems to make everything OK when my world is exploding. Thank you.

[@madd7e]

did you ever get diagnosed

[@aliciascat9433]

I’m a mental health nurse in a psychiatric hospital and MOST people with borderline personality disorder are misdiagnosed with bipolar... it’s so frustrating! I’m so thankful for this video. Medication for bipolar causes extreme weight gain, I see so many patients on this for no reason, it’s so sad. They don’t even receive the right psychological therapy because of misdiagnosis and never recover.

[@karmenweiss9252]

I am one of the people that has been misdiagnosed as a manic depressive with bipolar, anxiety and ptsd and never having anything help with my issues leading to multiple suicide attempts failed relationships and addiction (sober from opioids 10yrs and alcohol 3yrs now) now looking to therapy to help with my underlying issues to help if possible seeing your post on this makes me think that help may b possible ty for showing me that even people in the medical field can see that there are many issues in diagnostic

[@michellejudd5060]

That's disgusting

[@auroraborealis6398]

oh yes, thank you for saying it! I've seen people being misdiagnosed I'm glad that a healthcare worker said it.

[@aliciascat9433]

AUroRA BoReAliS thanks 😊 recently I have learnt that sodium valproate/eplium can help with mood swings. But a personality disorder (although it may be a horrible name to categorise) can only be cured by psychological therapy or a change of perspective/attitude.

[@abbyrivers9971]

@@aliciascat9433 if IT s Bipolair, that aint ever curable

[@kathykardashian7750]

I was "bipolar" for decades but I kept telling my psychiatrists that the meds did nothing for me. They didn't believe me. Now the tell me and I am past 70 years old. I had no highs, either, believe me.

[@darklord220]

I'm so sorry. I hope you find a way to enjoy what is left.

[@sagedakotalmft7763]

Dr. Ramani, I would love for you to do a video on BPD vs. ASD/Asperger's. Some people on the spectrum can have emotional "meltdowns" and I think these can be confused with BPD emotional outbursts. Coupled with relationship difficulties, rigidity (with BPD being from the personality D/O, with ASD being from a desire to avoid changes in routine and/or because of cognitive deficits and executive functioning challenges) it can be difficult for the layperson and sometimes the professional, to tell the difference.

[@Gobble_de_Goop]

Females with Autism especially, given their sophisticated way of masking and mirroring, can easily be mistaken for BPD in terms of the identity piece.

[@AspieMoonWoman]

In autism . There's no constant meltdowns In bpd there's constant mood shift. Autism has sensory processing difficulties. Bpd doesn't or their sensory problems will show differently as part of complex trauma. Autism have obsessions Not with ppl but subjects and things The pattern in obsession in bpd is relational. Autism has identity. The person doesn't feel empty and can clearly identify his identity based on preferences and obsessions and their ritualistic needs. Bpd can not stay alone and be okay with it It will trigger maladaptive pattern of self harm issues or sthg yo numb the emptiness. Autistic have over logical brain. Bpd have emotion and reactive brain filter where logic is rarely part of their reasoning. Both do not understand ppl but in BPD it's coming from s constant shift in perception due to constant shift in moods and affection. Autism is not like ADHD or BPD on terms of mood shifting from extreme to another on one same day. Unless they have BPD as comprbidity In autism The person doesn't have fear of absdonned so dysfunctionally..in fact the most common style of attachment in ASD is avoidant dismissive. BPD is preoccupied/anxious. Other things in autism Incapacity to generalise. Or the opposite Generalising way over the necessary Autism is big in problems such interoception They is not accurately getting my emotions in intensity nlr priority So may bleed and not feel may forget eat. In Autism thrted difficulty that the person may mask by hiding their stims and their obsessions to avoid monologues .but will not identify the personality of someone else from religion to system of values. They will mask only by hiding or by smiling . The style of verbal communication in autism along with eye contact and body language will have some signs of diversity that NT will notice after a while. Autistic ppl have tremendous difficulty to lying .. Gaslight. Turning tables..never. Finally. BPD have a sort of coping mechanism that usually involve impulsive manic Like state. Autism when anxious will either repeat.. develop OCD like tendencies..or become too rigid all the time. Functional towards others emotions Finally again 😅 asd shows up since birth With sensory processing. Motor challenges.. Tolerating a very stimulating environment. The sensory processing is as huge subject In add not BPD. Thrtrs actually more ways totellyou the difference...the partner of autistic ppl mostly feel avoided. On BPD he feels not stable... whole Autism is very predictable to the ppl who knlw the person. Having said that Some pp Have both. But the BPD dominate totally the traits of as autism. Also when blth o occur..the over logic brain will have a huge impact on the clinginess and splitting that happen with the BPD. Autism is a neurodevelepmental condition. Born with it . BPD starts in teens and a personality disorder. Very close to ADHD and Rejection sensitivy dysphoria. Those mood shifts don't happen in autism like that

[@sagedakotalmft7763]

@@AspieMoonWoman Thank you; you've explained this very well, although I don't agree that everyone on the spectrum avoids their partner. I think if we know a person's history it is easier to tell what is going on, but when we meet an adult we can't always know the mechanisms and history behind the behavior. And yes, actually many - but not all - autistic people have emotional meltdowns, and people can mistake it for emotional "outbursts" which are not the same. I think Dr. Ramani should make a video delineating the differences. She could use your list of things as a start, because you have a lot of good points here!

[@user1.8.2.]

That is happening to me Right Now! I've taken AQ & raads-r & the therapist wants to diagnose me as borderline...won't listen, bc she met me during the 3 months I couldn't get my adhd meds...after consistently being on them for 15 years. I'll tell u this: my quality of life is a thousand percent better.

[@bobtheburger1984]

​@@AspieMoonWomanI disagree on a couple of points, especially around ASD not becoming obsessed with people as that can definitely happen if there is one special friend or a special interest for example in a band. I think as well although ASD is present from birth, many go undiagnosed for years and constant masking can lead to confusion in identity because you essentially train yourself to fit in to avoid the "you're over sensitive" or "weird" comments. Further, constant masking can indeed lead to frequently occurring meltdowns or a long term shut down that can appear like mood swings or instability that are actually autistic burnout. There are also so many I could go on about such as eating disorders etc but I can see very easily how ASD can be diagnosed as BPD, especially when treating professionals are short on time and don't take time to fully understand what's going on.

[@rodneypitman7111]

Living with borderline personality disorder as a male in a healthcare career is so difficult, however manageable. Thanks so much Dr Ramani.

[@Gobble_de_Goop]

Males with BPD seem to present a bit differently, for sure. Would love to see a video outlining their more commonly associated or observed symptoms.

[@wuzic4145]

I have a friend who was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in her early teens. I always thought that her diagnosis didn't really fit, but I didn't really do anything about it until I watched a documentary about borderline personality disorder. I had heard about the disorder before, but I didn't know much about it except of the fear of being left alone. It was like they were describing my friend, so I told her about it and that she should mention it to her therapist. After years of drug abuse, self harm, broken relationships, internal stress and suffering, she was finally diagnosed with BPD. Having the right diagnosis is extremely important in terms of getting treatment, but also understanding. I think I've always been quite tolerant to different kinds of people, but dealing with someone with BPD can be extremely draining and become a whole day job when you're being used as an emergency call center. To be honest, I felt like I had enough and was ready to leave at any moment, and because I felt like there was nothing more to be done, because it would be the same kinds of problems over and over again. For the first time in a long time, I'm feeling hopeful that we can have a more balanced friendship in the future. She really is a good person, but that kind of disappeared in all her problems, needs and reactions. I realize that she'll never become normal, but hopefully to a place where we can be friends instead of me feeling like I'm caring for a defiant toddler.

[@calinorby10]

This makes me very worried of myself. The way you described your friend is probably how my close friends/bf would describe me. I've never seeked diagnoses for mental illness but I'm aware my emotions and reactions arent healthy. I believe I have a good heart and good intentions, but when I'm (easily)triggered, it's like impending doom/sadness and disgust towards myself. When this happens I feel hopeless and break down to my bf. I'm scared because I put him thru a lot when I feel like this, and I'm realizing I've done this to friends too at a young age. I break down and express how much I hate myself and how I wish I was different. I'm so grateful that he puts up with this. However, when this happens, there's nothing in that moment that will make me accept his love or help, yet I need him there, he's all I want and need when I feel like that. But at the same time I'm going thru that break down I'm pushing him away, feeling undeserving of his affection and support, saying I want to hurt or kill myself, etc. I don't mean to act like that. The last thing I want is to put him in that position, to where he feels like walking on eggshells to save my life and make me feel better. I'm so afraid he's just gonna get fed up because I'm such a burden but when you love someone of course they're not gonna see u like that. I don't know how to regulate or control my emotions or even expect it. It's ruining relationships with everyone in my life but luckily they're patient enough to not push me away(completely). Somedays I feel better abt myself, but I can't help but feel so bad about what I put everyone thru all because I hate myself. My mom is a narcissistic and I think it's a big factor in my constant self shaming and misperception of myself inside and out. I'm constantly watching mental illness videos reading everyone's comments trying to relate and this is the first time I've commented. I really hope I can get advice and relate to other people's struggles because these types of problems are hard to express and talk about.

[@jacqz7520]

@@calinorby10 Oh sweetheart, I’m so sorry you struggle with this too. My beautiful daughter does also, & I know the constant pain & torment you are in. I hope your partner stays, & helps you get treatment if that’s possible. Hang in there. Hugs from Australia. 🇦🇺

[@mariaeugenia578]

@@calinorby10 me too. All of it. I really don't know how I'm still alive. Not many people talk to me anymore, I try to isolate as much as possible so I don't hurt people and they hurt me less. Or I hurt me less, they are not guilted of this, I am. Relationships are just endless torture. I don't know how to be alive

[@meowmom3296]

@@calinorby10 I felt guilty reading his or her post. I bpd and yes, I'm isolated. it sucks.

[@jdub99]

​@@calinorby10thank you so much for commenting. It helps to know things from your perspective

[@svinland3446]

My ex boyfriend has been diagnosed with bipolar but he kept ghosting me after a conflict. I started researching bipolar and read that it was often misdiagnosed as borderline. When I read Borderline symptoms I was relieved. All the symptoms make so much sense on him. He is an undiagnosed Borderline who is not in treatment. I know now hes not doing all this crazy shit on purpose :(

[@ellentevault6244]

I want a video comparing bpd vs. c-ptsd.

[@samanthacrawford945]

I second this!

[@theartofmelbournecollectiv1251]

Yep Me too

[@dylanknight859]

The way my psychiatrist explained it was that my bpd was most likely caused by my early childhood trauma/neglect. My childhood was so hectic that my personality started to mimic it to get my needs met. I started showing trait of bpd once I hit puberty.

[@auroraborealis6398]

Bpd has some PTSD in it. It's just that it has become deeper and rooted in the personnality for borderline, so from the outside it may look similar. In facts it is very similar

[@tristanrapin7556]

Hey they made a video comparing the two, not sure if you saw it!

[@seanbangerter4145]

For ten years, I was taking pills for bipolar (Quetiapine and Prozac) as prescribed by my doctor. The only change I noticed was that I couldn't sleep at night if I didn't take the Quetiapine, and my rage symptoms subsided a bit with Prozac. The rage was the issue in my relationships, so I just assumed the problem was bipolar and side-effects were just part of it. Suicidal thoughts were the norm, and I swatted them away like flies. It was exhausting. Only recently did I follow through on my suspicions and start questioning things. The first video I watched with Dr. Ramani knocked my socks off! It was like all the stuff that didn't fit bipolar suddenly made sense. I consumed every video I could find on borderline personality disorder. A couple of weeks ago, I scheduled an appointment with a specialist in my area in borderline personality disorder. At the end of our first session, his exact words were, "Even a blind person can see your're borderline." I started sobbing. Forty years of searching for answers. An outcast who destroyed relationships with the efficiency of a Panzer tank division. And now I finally have one. DBT therapy and hypnosis starts this week. I can't wait! NOTE: Been off the meds for almost two months now, and my suicidal thoughts have completely gone away. Even discussing it here is the first time bringing it up in weeks.

[@yopueelin7300]

“Be willing to tweak the hypothesis as more information comes in”- so key in probably every aspect of Life. We tend to focus on tweaking labels when it’s all about finding the right course of treatment. Maybe if we drop the labels and just focus on treatment plans people like myself can stop frantically searching for a category to fit into. We are all unique variations of humans on this planet with diverse experiences and intensity, but it’s how we cope with and express ourselves that should be the motivation behind our quest.

[@vsml333]

Dr. Ramani, the mom we needed, the therapist we all want to have. 💜💜

[@le_th_]

Excellent video! It is UNCONSCIONABLE that universities are not making Personality Disorders a requisite part of their degree requirements in both undergrad and graduate degree programs in psychology and medicine. Personality disorders are commonly misdiagnosed and especially BPD and other Cluster B disorders.

[@le_th_]

@@bigddlover1 If you're a narcissistic male of course you're going to attract those types. Healthy people attract healthy people, and healthy people can't deal with BPD individuals for very long at all (I know I can't). Unfortunately for some of you, there is no cure for narcissistic personality disorder so you will continue to attract females with BPD.

[@Not_a_number_]

@@le_th_ Oh, it's you again. The one that runs around calling random strangers narcissists. 🙄

[@le_th_]

@@Not_a_number_ Oh it's not random, it only with specific people who make revealing comments.

[@anastasiamurawski6179]

anyone can throw together a bunch of "symptoms" and call it a "disorder". Anyone could be diagnosed as having one of the many supposed disorders, anyone. That's why they are not part what the universities teach. Did you you know, that if one says they believe in God, according to the DSM they are considered to be delusional??? Don't believe everything on the net, especially here on youtube. Look above at the the title/description of the video, bet you didn't see that she is asking for money for doing these videos. that's a sure sign of a quack to me!!If you are a real professional, you should know better than to believe people like her. You are probably being paid , along with all the other people on singing her praises, for backing her up.

[@le_th_]

@@anastasiamurawski6179 They teach this is post-doc training. They also teach it at the International Masterson Institute. ...and I stopped reading right after you stated "that's why they don't teach it at universities" because they DO, but it is not REQUISITE to receive a PhD. I'm sure it must be difficult for those of you who have Cluster B disorders. It's really unfair, actually. I wouldn't wish a Cluster B disorder on my worst enemy.

[@elnara1]

This is best doctor psychologist I have ever watched on KZbin. Everything she says is so true and she keeps it interesting-I wish I had her at my college as a professor. Can't wait for another video with doctor Ramani!

[@bigtimefans100]

Dr. Daniel Fox too!! He's so good, I love that man:')

[@anastasiamurawski6179]

How do you know what she says is true?? let's see her credentials before she gets on line and doles out misinformation that will confuse people. She wants your money, that's it that's all, look up there by the like/dislike and description of the video, she's begging for money. She should be kicked off KZbin for the lies and half truths that she spews on here. KZbin why don't you do something about this. If the so called expert wants donations, don't put them on here, they can't be trusted. She's another wolf in sheep's clothing. you can trust me on this because I know, I've been through doctor after doctor, who have no compassion for people with mental illness.I swear they are in league with the devil, a lot of them are just actors did you know that?? they get degrees from unreputable schools, and some have not received a college education, then they think they are qualified to come on here and just spew lies!! "but they are trying to help people." This is what some believe and they are dead wrong. Don't be a victim.

[@ferretrunner09]

I was misdiagnosed with BPD in the Marines. My history didn’t indicate any personality disorder symptoms. I was told there was no effective help available for BPD. At least they didn’t kick me out for it. I was honorably discharged 9 mo later. Because there was “no effective treatment” I didn’t seek help until three years later. l was diagnosed with depression. It’s just been in the last couple years that I started talking about the trauma issues. Got diagnosed with PTSD. The experience in the Marines made me distrustful of mentioning the traumatic incidents. If you are ever diagnosed with a personality disorder get a second opinion.

[@goodboybupbup]

BPD is often misdiagnosed in females. They may actually be autistic. Autistic females fall through the cracks because most clinicians think autism is a male syndrome. Autistic females present differently than males and since some clinicians don't/won't recognize that, females are diagnosed as having BPD and/or BP 1. It's really sad that this happens. Also, older/geriatric adults are misdiagnosed with dementia when in fact they are on the autism spectrum. This causes so many problems because the females and older adults are given the wrong treatment modalities. I urge people to get a 2nd even 3rd opinion. If the diagnosis doesn't feel right or doesn't 'click', then see someone else. Trust your gut feelings. Also, do your due diligence and research your diagnosis or suspected diagnosis. Talk to someone whom you trust and ask questions. Lots of questions. Also, know your rights as a patient. Check with your local / state regulatory agencies to garner information about your therapist or psychiatrist. Thank you.

[@goodboybupbup]

A Message. Thank you for your reply. Receiving a correct diagnosis is important in order to get the help one needs. It's unfortunate that stigma is attached to those of us who aren't neurotypical. It is my hope that you and your mother receive the best care possible and that things get better for both of you. Thank you again for your comment.

[@thisbipolargal4458]

Wow 😮

[@julesbc9031]

I would very much agree with your comment.

[@goodboybupbup]

Jules BC Thank you very much for your reply.

[@Antoine2208]

I think some Asperger and BPD traits are similar. But we tend more to diagnose women with borderline and put men on the autism spectrum. I think this is because of a cultural gender bias : Society tend to emphasize the importance of relational intelligence in women and social conformity in men. So mental health professionals maybe are more likely to inconsciously favorise different treatement based on the gender of the client. I think I could be wrong but that’s my opinion of the moment...

[@evanmiaanderson4666]

I cant tell you how relieved that makes me to know that when I go to the psychiatrist I'm not looking for a label but for a clear path for success instead of spinning my wheels. I went to a Psychiatrist that told me that I shouldn't focus so much on labels and that she's not diagnosis-driven. and I'm not! I just want to be a part of my diagnosis and I don't want to waist money

[@grubbilove6338]

It's like you're describing me.

[@RakuenKakashi]

I believe that one of the worst things that can happen to you when you have a borderline personality disorder is when you have no one, because you are REALLY abandoned. My own parents did not even believe in my illness even after diagnoses of professional psychiatrists, and thought that I was only pretending not to go to work because I am unfit for work. I am starting a therapy soon, I hope it will really help ... At least not living with my parents already helps me a lot.

[@evolutiondez2.092]

I was diagnosed with bipolar two 25 years ago. I was also diagnosed with severe anxiety/PTSD. I've seen over 8 therapists and multiple psychiatrist who have treated me with many meds. I left a comment in another video idk if anyone reads them but long story short. I'm a survivor of childhood abuse from age 4-23 physically and mentally till I was 30. My father was a narcissistic sociopath functioning drug addict and alcoholic. I by the grace of God was able to function and maintain somewhat of a "normal " life. Multiple abusive relationships of course. I'm a 5 1/2 yrs cancer survivor!!! I've been on lamictal for 10 years I went off couple others but couldn't manage this one. It's a mood stabilizer/ antidepressant?? But some days I'm no so sure its helping. I stopped therapy because I was tired of the textbook talking and not genuinely listening to me. I would pay to finally after 25 years talk to someone who knows what the hell they're doing. 😥

[@thisbipolargal4458]

I was diagnosed type II too I never even knew there was more than one

[@isabellac5669]

I understand! Much 💜✌🏻✨

[@evolutiondez2.092]

@@isabellac5669 Thank you!💜🙏

[@mimidec]

*hugs* A good mental health professional is so hard to find :(. I hope someone is able to help you soon. ❤

[@isabellac5669]

Desirae Lucio You’re welcome sweet sister! You deserve much love! Remember, regardless of how you feel at any given moment, you are a survivor! Never stop reaching out, moving forward; we can!

[@mikemccabe8015]

These videos about BPD have been so insightful as I believe my Mom suffers from it. She hasn't received a diagnosis yet, nor do I believe she will unless she's compelled to. Me and 2 of my siblings have all received therapy due to the toxic relationship we've had with our mother, and all 3 of our therapists have suggested my Mom has BPD. Obviously an official diagnosis can't come unless my Mom meets with a therapist and is fully truthful about her past, but I'd like to think an unofficial diagnosis from 3 independent therapists means something.

[@hunterrage7591]

I've been preaching the very first question for a few years now. I've watched my mother and stepmother struggle with mood disorders my entire life. I've spent the last 3 years self-analyzing as well as researching online and in books. Learning the difference between BPD mood swings and Bipolar disorder type mood changes was a LIFE CHANGER!

[@kittycatobsession]

Thank you so much for these videos. I've been getting treatment for depression and anxiety for the past 4 years and I've felt like my diagnosis is not complete. I also struggle with undiagnosed substance abuse and ED. Now I know what has been the missing piece and causing so much distress, confusion, and suffering in my life.

[@evija1159]

I was diagnosed 3 weeks ago. Put on medication. It saddens me that I did not seek for help earlier. These have been the most stabile and happy weeks of my life.

[@liveatyourlocal3622]

Dr Ramani is a really good professional. I have not split on her yet. enjoy everything she has spoken about. and after watching your Vids Medcircle have decided to go and try some more treatments. With all the information i have learned about BPD and myself from your vids I can confidently engage with more people. These vids have helped alot and set me on the right path to understanding myself. Thanks Heaps.

[@totf6359]

Thank you for explaining these topics in a way that’s easy to understand. I love your work!

[@SnakeAndTurtleQigong]

Sending support to everyone seeking and vetting a good healer! It's always worth double and triple checking to find the best doctor for you.

[@blahblahwhynot]

I was misdiagnosed as bipolar 2 by two licensed psychiatrists in India. I was on medication, including lithium, for more than two years. Each time I brought up chronic feelings of emptiness, I was told that it's the depression. And I studied bipolar to educate myself and kept thinking when would my manic episode come because I always felt like my days are all over the place, as if I was being bipolar in spans of an hour or two. It was last year when a licensed therapist here spotted certain others symptoms and borderline made so much sense to me than bipolar ever did. Not saying getting diagnosed with either of those is a happy thing, or for that matter any mental illness, but it brought me a hell lotta peace to have a name that actually matches what happens in my days and life these days build up. I have relied heavily on this channel for educational purposes, and I am super grateful to y'all for making this content so accessible. It gave me a perspective that, like in any profession, there are not so awesome professionals in psychiatry - it's still hard to not be angry about my history of misdiagnosis, but there are therapists that focus on actually treating people for cure, rather than ensuring a constant supply of patients in health system. My relationship with my family has changed drastically, and while I'm still borderline, I'm not misdiagnosed and I'm working through this and this channel has been a part of that journey. Thanks a lot, y'all. This has meant a great deal of help. 💚

[@tarini92]

Hey babe! I feel like I’m misdiagnosed too.. I’m in India. Do you know of any good therapist here? I’m seriously seeking good help but this is getting me no where with the therapists I know here.

[@DianVx]

Ok but could you also talk about the OVERdiagnosing of BPD

[@DianVx]

Because the misdiagnosis of BPD kinda ruined my puberty

[@atavi7322]

They don’t love talking about misdiagnosing

[@relativelyjilly]

that's so weird to me because from what i know, and i could be wrong, but they're not supposed to diagnose personality disorders in minors so its awful that you that to go through that

[@DianVx]

Yeah that's true for DSM 4, but they're allowed tot diagnose it way earlier with the DSM 5. I got diagnosed when I was 15/16 when they still used the DSM 4, so I have no clue how that was allowed. Eventually it has been Autism this whole time, including some childhood trauma.

[@relativelyjilly]

aww man that sucks hope things are better now

[@readingsandguidancebyangel4557]

I’m so glad I found this KZbin channel, as I suffer with BDP.. and the Mental Health Treatment is very limited. I see a therapist one a month or once every 6 months.

[@BCHODOSH01]

Dr.Ramini is so knowledgable and has such a wonderful way of giving and explaining information on whatever topic is being discussed. What a blessing to those seeking information concerning mental health issues.

[@meganlister5907]

I’m on an anti psychotic and a mood stabiliser as well as an anti depressant for my bpd and it’s really helped me a lot as it’s helped my moods not be so severe so I can engage in therapy 🥰

[@tonycompton4313]

I'm curious to know what medications have worked for you I have been on a fairly similar regiment for almost 2 years but as my circumstances in life and external influences have become worse I feel that I need something more to help manage the severity of my symptoms and mood swings I take an Effexor daily Lorazepam 1 mg Seroquel 200 mg Prazosin and I feel I need something more to get through the day and also be able to function. Also working through DBT programs and an inpatient program however I was just served with divorce papers and my wife is taking my children and without any support system I find myself downward spiral and input would be appreciated to hang on

[@Lockystephenson]

Omg thank you! I’ve always been searching for a diagnosis that is correct so I can recover and stop suffering so horrendously and it feels like no one understands how important getting a correct diagnosis is. I was obsessed with getting the correct diagnosis and people would say to me “oh it’s just a label, it makes no difference”. Yes it fkn does! It’s literally life changing to receive the correct diagnosis. Reducing the stigma associated with mental illness is my passion. It’s so important. Thank you guys for helping educate, inform and guide people about this topic.

[@Juaniallermann2]

she's so eloquent, thank you

[@isabellac5669]

Learning techniques is definitely important! Comorbid is typical, whereas meds can be necessary! The important factor is finding well versed, very constructive therapist & psychiatrist, and team approach! Thank you, for pointing out how important it is for clinicians to be in therapy too!

[@DUB-sential]

I've got 5 diagnosis, generalised anxiety disorder, agraphobia, chronic depression, borderline personality disorder and adhd.. So if we group them together what the hell is it, apart from being bonkers? Or maybe different dare I say it, but if I believe that will I be more bonkers or different.. That's the issue fair enough Co occurring disorders but at some point you have to wonder what box you fit in.

[@sruti19jan]

RELATABLE

[@kjellbergh4554]

Thanks to these videos I'm finally getting treatment! It is such a relief!

[@lorikayhaws6032]

Dr. Ramani is so amazing! So intelligent and explains things so everyone can understand. I'm sure she is a wonderful psychologist. I would love to meet her!

[@minshubay6740]

Yes! That's why I'm seeking for the right diagnosis. My current diagnoses only explain a little portion of my problems. There's still a lot more that l need to understand.

[@appleroad112]

I was diagnosed EUPD too easily and wasn't even asked relevant questions to the DSM-5. They were asking questions more geared toward psychosis/hallucinations because i was reporting seeing/hearing things which was probably caused by environmental mould or other factors like domestic abuse, sleep deprivation, anorecia. I personally blame the mould as it stopped when the carpet was replaced. I lost my temper during the assessment at my mother for invalidating my childhood experience as i was clearly neglected but she said i was happy. Due to sleep deprivation etc i sadly wasn't able to stifle my reaction. I havent been able to get a second/third opinion, but this diagnosis drastically impacts how people treat you.

[@jaymeehleigh170]

I love this lady ! I'm so glad I stumbled on this video !!! Very reassuring and refreshing perspectives!

[@Coromi1]

MedCircle is missing out on ADHD/ ADD. Those can cause impulsivity and short term mood swings, too and may be (amongst others) confused with BPD.

[@Coromi1]

@@bigddlover1 Also, ADHD can cause people to misread comments :-)

[@FlorenceLeonardo]

10:05 I love THIS so much. I'm very encouraged. I have only "dated or interviewed" 3 therapist. Frustrated, but feels empowered right now to keep going until I meet an energetic match for me. Thank you!

[@susansargent3799]

Thank you, Dr. Ramani, for your expertise.

[@hi.moriarty]

My God! Why didn't any of the therapists explain that the medications treated the Symptoms SO THAT the essential therapy could BEGIN in order to LEARN THE SKILLS on how to manage the disorder?!! I am in my 50's now and just learning this??!! Had any of them said it straight up like Dr. Ramani did in this video I feel confident that treatment would have been more successful. I am still walking away with a piece of great knowledge to help others around me. Thank you!

[@naheelbardaweel2725]

The best Psycologist I heard of. I love listening to her videos.

[@kfg7248]

Couldn't agree more. My ex messaged my friend that, his Psycholgist told him I have BPD. Meanwhile I literally live on the other side of the world to him and have never met his Psych, let alone had a thorough medical assessment done by them. Also my ex had complete access to contact me himself to inform me of said diagnosis. It's funny how he'd rather try to mock me instead.

[@JgHaverty]

I was misdiagnosed with IED for 10 years. Been seeing a fantastic therapist and ive been doing things ive never thought possible. I have a LONG way to go still but im getting better. This happens. This is real

[@suekelsey1329]

Thank you. I am using your information to help my therapist and psychiatrist with my treatment. I live in a small town in Alaska. They are both good and are working with me. My therapist is specializing in PTSD. I have C-PTSD, Borderline personality, and psuedobulbar affect. At least that is what has been trimmed down to. Before it was a long list of "almost everything" disorder. Thank you again. I talk to both my mental health professionals about your information giving your name and site on Utube. My days are a constant struggle to maintain a balanced healthy attitude. I live in Alaska, my son in Oregon, my daughter in now Kansas. Been divorced six times with an extreme number of male friends. And I chatter a lot. Thank you.

[@TheSWEETY0708]

Thank you I was diagnosed with Bipolar and you have helped me so much find my true diagnosis !!! It’s still Scary but at least I KNOW. I have all 9 symptoms I am still scared about all of it.

[@seangarrett1567]

I only began watching this series when a psychiatrist I saw indicated that I could have borderline personality disorder. I’m still in the process of having the clinical interview and more assessment done, but as soon as I first saw the different traits of someone with borderline personality, I’m at seven out of the nine as being ones that I had. So thank you for providing this clarity for me

[@deniznicole4143]

I am a MHC-P and new to the field, so I highly enjoy these videos. They are incredibly helpful.

[@anastasiamurawski6179]

Don't believe it honey, she's a snake in the grass. Listen to real professionals in the field, not people just looking for attention and money on youtube. You are probably one of her cronies, you twit. stick to modeling that's what you're good at.

[@bethsimm3144]

This makes so much sense. Thank you

[@KJMobby]

Dr. Ramani is so good at explaining everything thanks for the informative video 👍

[@uneekch]

I am 56 now, and was diagnosed with BPD 10 years ago. Depression is a comorbidity, and I had so many therapies in my life, but regularly fell into burnouts. Now I‘m getting treated with Schema Therapy, with Antidepressants and in addition I will try a trauma therapy. I would like to hear more about BPD and early child trauma, and how trauma therapy can help from Dr. Ramani. 😊

[@terretulsiak]

All this stress on 'see mental health professional' yet so many just want to see patients for years, get them dependent on THEM then often actually abandon them.

[@yelyahfan88x94]

A few years ago my Dr diagnosed me with BPD and I never felt it was right. While I displayed signs (like self harming when I was really sad) there were things that just didn't add up. Two days ago my new doctor ( who I opened up to more and after doing research to talk to) confirmed that I have OCD and he believes based on evidence that I was misdiagnosed ( as I stopped self harming when I got away from my abuser and have no suicidal plans) and while I still feel like I'm a bad person and doubt myself and think everyone thinks I'm lying ( CPTSD) I really feel happy knowing what's really wrongs and finally being heard by a therapist who isn't also speaking to my abuser and taking sides. I hope to get better soon and I've already stopped hoarding and have been working on avoiding compulsions and to stop washing/sanitizing my hands and everything so much and I no longer recoil/flinch and sanitize myself when touched for the first time in decades. I feel like I'm finally making progress.

[@DraneaLee]

I'm so grateful that it was expressed to get a proper diagnosis, it could take weeks or even months. I was determined to get the appropriate diagnosis, which I finally gained after seeking unhelpful guidance of a few therapists.

[@MastaSergeantShelly]

Thank you so much for educating others on BPD. I have gone around the mountain a thousand and one times trying to rain in my emotions and Joe fast the go from one to 10. Thank you. I’m trying the 4 components of therapy for bpd. In just 2 weeks I have been able to redirect my emotions and realize I can change my thoughts to change my feelings thus emotions and helping me to recognize the situation.

[@iantolee]

More videos please! More! You are making a lasting impact on many

[@tisminnit]

"If you were closer id high five you for that" Me watching in 2020: HAH..they didnt even know yet 😢😭

[@ReiShinigami]

I were misdiagnosed with Bipolar and BPD in my early/mid teens, and placed on psychiatric meds to "control moods". It weren't until I weaned myself off them solo, and actually felt normal doing so that doctors listened. It turns out I am on the spectrum (ASD). It were always suspected as a child that I had Aspergers. I do NOT advise this for anyone at ALL, also. I were a special circumstance. It just can show many times BPD can be confused with other ailments.

[@Jackles22]

Thanks again Kyle and Doctor Ramani you guys are amazing xo

[@moriah1394]

Vetted by "Experts" on MedCircle....anyone other than Dr. Ramani?

[@thisbipolargal4458]

Yep. I was treated for "chronic depression" for 10 years before I was finally diagnosed as bipolar II about 14 months ago

[@phylvalen9991]

Your videos are such an amazing blessing Dr. Ramani. I was diagnosed bipolar II 30 yrs ago and the stigma of the diagnosis caused so much harm to me and terrible side effects of 100mg Amitriptyline/600mg Sodium Valproate. The Amitriptyline caused such terrible mania etc etc. I had a very traumatic life and my intense distress anger lostness impulsivity and constant crying (TBI 2/52 LOC) L Hemiplegia age 18 just about killed me. Wrong decisions while severely depressed so much heartache. I stopped all meds a year ago apart from 25mg Amitriptyline for sleep and have withstood 18 months of bullying from an older sib and not a single peep have I made. I've just discovered I'm a quiet BPD who turns my helplessness and rage inwards. I feel so liberated but unfortunately am now 64 and live on a farm with my sib miles from town and no medical aid. He has an explosive demeanor and traumatizes me on the trips to town, drives so recklessly is he insane not to see the danger? and his covert jibes at me are now becoming overt and causes great distress. An hour later he's completely blasé as if nothing happened. And I being a kind person lack the courage to tell him but enough videos imply that he may have some covert narcissistic traits so it's useless even speaking to him. He's had me a gibbering mess doubting my own sanity for months. It's just totally crazy making stuff lol but we have to find someday to avoid the arrows not so. The overwhelming anxiety is terrible. The worst is, there's nothing at all wrong with the way he treats me is there...and see someone? Why, hes 71 and there's nothing at all wrong with him we must be crazy. Grow a tougher skin my dear....

[@allnmfe8972]

This is a very good doctor. I liked the window and the view, I think it would be a great treatment for some clinical conditions

[@djdjcw]

It was the decades of professionals misdiagnosing me, not random people. And how would I have known BPD was the diagnosis??? And I knew was things weren't getting better. Bipolar, chonic depression, MDD, GAD, and dysthymia were the diagnoses. A friend pointing me toward BPD, and they weren't a professional. After talking about BPD to the therapist at the time, did the switch flip and diagnosis finally fit. But I still fight with new therapists for the not bipolar one. It is like their training didn't include understand of what the actual diagnoses are.

[@keelyrosario8923]

I want Doctor Ramani to be my therapist!!!! I desperately need her!!!!

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you for a very informative and supportive video.

[@LuvBugBlaqkHart]

Kinda off topic but it's something I've noticed A LOT of. So DBT skills includes mindfulness and a lot of self-help gurus and new age spiritual gurus talk a lot about mindfulness too. I've noticed individuals with BPD are very vulnerable to these con artists. There are a decent handful of good self-help gurus out there but from my personal experience and my own research MANY of them are not trust worthy. I see a lot of individuals with BPD get caught up in new age bs because they're selling over simplified and twisted DBT skills. I think that's something that should be talked about a lot more considering so many people are falling victim to these con artists and sometimes even cult leaders.

[@msmariapaula23]

I am obsessed with Dr. Ramani!! Clinical psychology is so fascinating and I am definitely buying her books, especially the one called "You Are Why You Eat"

[@ellenhofrath]

I've been in Hospital 2 x, diagnosed as "burn-out" and Depression, anxieties and had over 15 years 3 different therapists. Also been called bei-polar or anti-social. It always felt closed but not right, something missing. Now, 6 month ago in the age of 54 Borderline first time was mentioned. I read about it and heard angels sing. Finally! That us so much me!

[@hannalowercase5928]

amazing video, thank you so much!

[@AT-zr9tv]

Dr Ramani is just wonderful.

[@rebekahlou0109]

Thank you for this. Can you and Dr. Ramani do a series about PTSD?

[@nallanw4329]

Would love to see you interview Mark Freeman. He has recovered from OCD and anxiety without medication and has been recovered for years now. Think a lot of people would benefit from that interview.

[@rachelsteinlove]

New favorite channel

[@yesymo9]

This is awesome information! Congratulations 🎉 on this great information you’re giving in all of your videos. Kyle you read mi mind when you said “ And people get frustrated!” When you think that there might be a misdiagnosis” Because I was about to say it myself! Thank you so much!

[@anastasiamurawski6179]

Shill!!

[@sheralimalik5525]

This women is awesome. Hats off to her.

[@harmonychiyoko]

YES. These videos and other ways of communicating this information, it’s so important. My mom has ALWAYS told me, “You probably just have depression and anxiety. It’s what I have. You should take this medicine, ask your doctor if he can put you on this. It works for me and your dad.”

[@BloodyClash]

Took my therapist 6 weeks to diagnose my BPD and he didn't want to tell me - only when i insisted. I knew (at least was sure) i have it but now it's confirmed. The confirmation was both scaring and freeing

[@TJKingDJ]

Dr. Ramani, you are a really good psychologist, you've helped me so much! Please keep doing what your doing, your awesome! Thanks for make our lives a better and easier place!

[@catherined6399]

Could you cover the depersonalizaition/derealization disorder ? than you! keep up the good work!

[@catherined6399]

I'm relieved to see i'm not alone :) I feel like it's a less represented disorder. It just made so much sense about my struggles when I heard about this disorder!

[@sevenMOons666]

Yes!!

[@Lydianon]

That's interesting. I didn't know it was a long term thing. It just happened 2 or 3 times with me temporarily I think as a coping mechanism when I had- it used to be called a nervous breakdown, idk what it actually was-

[@catherined6399]

@@Lydianon After doing a ton of research, I found it's a disorder, but it's mainly a coping mechanism for trauma and stress. I hope you are feeling better now :)

[@shimlaahmed4535]

I really want to see a video comparing the difference between adjustment disorder and borderline personality disorder

[@JgHaverty]

Misdiagnosed for ten years with IED. Good work doc.

[@erinconnell7130]

This is a better video than others about bpd. I have been in therapy for over 25 years straight. I was diagnosed bipolar 2 then bipolar1 then scizzoaffective. Which is right on and then it wasnt until 2011 I was hospitalized and determined I had bpd. I rejected it and went on my way. Fast forward to 2018 and I was 5150 twice in a month and given bpd as diagnosed by different dr. I have been hard to Medicare with all that is going on and just this year we have managed to get the scizzoaffective under some control and then trauma happened repeatedly over the past year and made my bpd come alive. Drs thought it was me rapid cycling but it was bpd and now I have been doing therapy three to four times a week with therapist and on the off days I call the hospitals crisis hotline. Yes you can be diagnosed with more than one mental illness. It's like being diagnosed with diabetes which is different than heart disease and cancer and copd. They need to be treated differently. My therapists love me because I am always pushing to improve my bpd as it has destroyed relationships that I wasnt aware of. I'm making huge progress since the past 5 months knowing the bpd is what's the issues right now. My therapist said I have improved greatly in just these past few months recognizing when I'm striking and splitting black. I have someone that is or was my best friend who was also my favorite person. And hes been seeing a covert narcissist the past two years and I've been seeing him more the past year than the previous year and he pulled a bo contact on me one day after saying I'll be back later on to finish what we started and it qas 5 weeks before I heard from him again and it was hell on earth to live through. That lasted about a week until I blasted him again and now he has distanced himself from me it's been 5 days since we texted and I'm way more at ease about it 5his time. I learned from the first no contact how to make it thru the day without him. He blocked me on texts and made it so I could leave messages but my calls went straight thru to vm. So I'm reflecting and responding instead of reacting out of pure fear. Him setting boundaries made me really see how much of a pain in thw ass I was being. Hes doing the right thing to give space 5o mellow out and I'm learning I cant make him my whole world. I can4 put me being happy or sad all on him just because of my severe fear of abandonment. I react out of fear and when I strike I instantly feel deep remorse and try to apologize and what he really needs is space form me. So I've learned that much. Progress. Painful but its happening. Soon I will be going back to icmp three days a week and hopefully after 4 months I will be able to go into dbt classes. In the meantime my therapist said she lives borderline and she promises me to never reject or turn me away. She wants me to call or email her ans rage and get it out and have her refuse the situation rather than me attacking what family and friends I have left. And theres really only a few of them all together. But I'm going to recover from this. I'm determined. I will get regulated on my emotions. I wasnt always like this. Just been under ungodly amount of stress that is so unfathomable but we are working on this everyday and every night to achieve better impulse control. This isnt anything I'd wish on my worst enemies. Bpd is the most painful of disorders to have. Such fear and self loathing and the suicidal tendencies to just make the constant pain go away is more than I can stand . So you see I just get more under control because I refuse to live thw resting my life in the amount of pain I have been enduring. It's just not an option.

[@kurmi33]

Thank you!

[@reighne420]

I was diagnosed with depression and bipolar at the age of 10! I was on welbutrin at 12. I have issues bc of this medication. But finally about 4 years ago, I was diagnosed with bpd. Not bipolar! Btw thank you better helping better explain this disorder. My bf and I watch these and have discussions about how to help him and myself during our issues that happen during our anger periods. I have other issues. Bad experiences in life.

[@dsi7802]

Really? I don't think bipolar or BPD or any PD for that matter are diagnosed before age 18 cuz the brain is still developing. I don't mean to dismiss or invalidate you, it's just something I found doubtful.

[@reighne420]

it's not that they can't be diagnosed, it's the medication that can do more damage then good in a developing mind.

[@reighne420]

and you don't have to believe me. here's the thing, I lived it. not you. your prolly some young adult who doesn't even understand what happens when a child is force fed medications from an early age. so no, your invalid. this was 20+ years ago this happened to me. things were much different. don't soak in which you do not know

[@rastafarita1822]

Her voice and the way she explains things is so soothing and so very easily understood

[@anastasiamurawski6179]

She's a con artist!!!

[@rastafarita1822]

Anastasia Murawski ok either show proof or explain otherwise keep it to yourself

[@anastasiamurawski6179]

No, I won't keep it to myself. Everyone needs to know the truth. Are you threatening me? I'll report you so fast your head will spin.

[@okkid1949]

Thanks for the very helpful and educational video. You are right on the mark as far a seeing a licensed Mental Health person instead of friends relatives etc. They are too close to the patient emotionally and are probably not trained professionals. Also the patient needs help that is simply not available except by way of a professional.

[@tiffanyfosler8850]

I know this was made years ago and nobody will see this, but I would do anything in the world to see Dr. Ramani Durvasula. I have the hardest time being understood, heard or even cared about by mental health professionals. I have bpd, no fam or friends, but I do have a fiance and 2 special needs boys 3 and 6 years old. I want to die everyday because I feel every symptom everyday and dying from the guilt of not giving my children the life they deserve, and most of all scared to death because there's no one to live them. If they are destined to my life, they don't stand a chance. I pray every night I don't wake up and I wish it were different.

[@taylorbarnett1199]

I was misdiagnosed as bipolar 1 on my FIRST visit. Huge red flag. I think they pushed meds at that clinic because on day 1 she sent me for meds for bipolar. I resent it so much! Every symptom I told her about she would just pull out the DSM 5 and read from the bipolar manic criteria 🙄

[@gregorylamar3607]

awesome video. interesting chairs.

[@gaylewatkins6781]

Wow..I was on several medications through my young life I am now 69.... Misdiagnosed with bipolar one medication actually made me so angry I had thoughts that I would not ever share they were so evil and so horrific.. my behavior was out of control for 6 months I was not being monitored because the doctor took a 2-month vacation sabbatical whatever...that 6 months did a lot of damage I was psychotic I was chased by the police I was manic I was hunting spiders I was hallucinating... At the same time my mother was dying of bone cancer at home.. just her and I this story is horrific she finally committed suicide and I'm very fortunate that I did not get blamed.. because she left a note she left a note that the police officer found...I'm totally BPD and c-ptsd and I need to really keep the stress levels down.. got all the training DBT..etc. I still see a therapist every week...I do self-medicate with cannabis.it keeps me from doing damage to myself. I refuse to take any pharmaceutical medication....my therapist would rather I do that than drink.....I try real hard not to drink .if I do I only buy a small amount.I REALLY WANT TO EMPHASIZE; the wrong psychiatric medication can be extremely damaging...doctors have no idea what these things are doing to your brain and how it really and truly feels including the side effects and withdrawal...