Borderline’s False Self Unlike Narcissist’s

[@Chris-lt9hb]

Holy fucking shit this is so spot on I don't even know what to say. It's literally what happens inside me. Of course all my worthless psychiatrists and psychologists have been unable to catch it. I hate living here. I don't know why I am the way I am but I find myself wishing I would have been less functioning and have fallen into deeper dysfunction earlier, and gotten a proper diagnosis. Or some other catharsis... I guess I don't really mean that, but it's been a long and painful void of a life. Just something tangible would have been nice.

[@tsungalisunshine-h6u]

'A long and painful void of self' amen to that! I am a borderline and I experience my existence the same way. I would be ok with it if I could at least express my experience creatively but emptiness is emptiness, there isnt really anything to express and that's what's so painful. I feel my life has been stolen.

[@LawrenceofOliviaO]

🎱From day to day just letting it ride You get so far away from how it feels inside... You can't let go cause you're afraid to fall But the day may come when You can't feel at all....🎱

[@LawrenceofOliviaO]

Comes a time.... when a blind man takes your hand and says .... Don't you see....🎱

[@LawrenceofOliviaO]

Phantom Ships on.... Phantom Seas....Set sail on, Phantom Tides....🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿

[@LawrenceofOliviaO]

🎱Went walking all morning.... Went walking all night.... I can't see much difference.... between The dark and light I can't feel the wind, and I don't taste the rain but, Never in my mind have i thought twice to Cause so much Pain 🎱

[@rebxthom]

These are tough to watch sometimes but always appreciated by us dealing with it. Thanks yet again for another information-filled vid!

[@valentinvillalba9016]

All I know is I do know when my narcissism is going into a galaxy far far away, I’ve noticed where it ends is where my intense emotions begin into where I am in a state of self efficacy. I’m not injured nor am I mortified, I am just in reality attempting to accept myself how I am yet I don’t believe I will ever so that is why I am constantly irritable and not concealed or compensating.

[@MegaJonkelly]

My man, Vaknin! Good day to you✌️

[@MegaJonkelly]

The "self" is a skill we don't fully appreciate until something goes wrong🤷

[@Liisa3139]

"The borderline person has to reinvent herself every morning." This brought to my mind some people I have known that change their hair style all the time or who move on from one hobby to the next and the next. Also those who become activists in this cause and then that and then something else.

[@mewowcat]

Prof. Vaknin, thank you so much.

[@tammyleeford]

Bravo Sam! 👏 this is exactly what I have experienced when helping others, thank you for the suggestion of DBT. 20:12

[@SunflowerFever]

Good day Sir, I'm interested on this topic and subscribed to your channel. I'm grateful that you made so many videos explaining about BPD. I'm sorry to bother you, my english is not really good at listening but it's better on reading. If you don't mind, could you put text or enable the text feature on your videos? Thank you for reading my comment 🙏

[@gregpendrey6711]

Agree. Keeps me focused. This is hopeless shit. 😢 It is better to know. 😊

[@TomJohn-y1w]

No justice,( only just us)

[@JoeVellaMalta]

Perfect. In depth and Interesting. Thanks

[@elizabethbednar7770]

I disassociated when I was a child because I was scared all the time. Or at least that’s why I think I did. A habit i kept alive without realizing until very recently. Part of the problem is i remember so little of my life I think from this dissociation. The empty feeling inside gets better with age and is practically not even present for the first time, but the only correlation I can find to it going away is becoming religious and the relationship with my boyfriend that I’ve had for 15 years now. Yes he acts as my caregiver. The more that empty feeling goes away the more self aware I become of my behaviors which at times can be very uncomfortable especially for someone that always thought they were just a victim. Maybe the love from your parent is supposed to take that empty feeling away?

[@samvaknin]

Dissociated, not disassociated.

[@elizabethbednar7770]

How did I know you’d by the grammar police type😂

[@Chris-lt9hb]

@@elizabethbednar7770 hahah 😂 and yes I agree, the parent's love/safety/care is what was supposed to be there. The sad part is when parents really try (well I mean I guess things can be a lot sadder than that lol, but uuh, yeah...). Like my mom REALLY tries. To the point of exhausting herself as well as becoming WAY overbearing. While dad's just... not really there. So the choice becomes nothing or someone living your life for you. And undoubtedly they deal with the exact same issues themselves. Sigh... I wonder if it can ever truly heal, this wound. And I wonder how many people more aggressive than us, but with similar wounds, that are out there fucking the world up as we speak. I guess you just need to look at a singular newspaper to get the answer to that these days.

[@MayvenFunk]

This is an extreme narcissist world. God protect me. My true friends and family support my goals. I support them.

[@Jshdg0192]

Thanks for this

[@Bettergoleft]

Can a Borderline be drawn to an autistic person in a similar way that they are drawn to a narcissist? I know autists are often mistaken for narcissists because of their many similarities. I’m wondering if an autist may also soothe/stimulate/ activate the Lachkar V spot.

[@elizabethbednar7770]

I have had a boyfriend for 15 years I’ve gone between wondering if he was autistic, narcissistic, psychopath. I recently came across schizoid personality disorder and that fits him he was even happy when i told him about it he finally understood himself then i listened to Sam’s video about the schizoid narcissist and i think that might be it. I recommend looking into that

[@lauragasoian7503]

True True

[@palmina77italiana]

I'm sick :(

[@RickJames-302]

I swear she's a borderline but now I'm wondering can my sister be autistic

[@joe-yuugen]

Thank you Dr. Vaknin. Your discourse makes sense and I am certain you will solve it. Can it be postulated that DID is a self awareness of the false self and host self maintaining temporary continuity of the brainstem level awareness fear of life/death, limbic level adjustment to resolve fear and emotional dysregulation, and prefrontal level machiavellianism to resolve distress through perceived regulation and satisfaction of an external outcome while attempting to ignore the dissonance of fantasy/reality when it fact is some sort of autonomic dysreflexia phenomenology? It is the sense of escaping the maze and ascending to the light of awareness, self control, discernment, and mindfulness that there is some semblance of control over disappearing from reality or accepting that development is stuck as a prodigial whiz kid that must conceal that projection from others that find that behavior unsettling through the uncanny valley phenomenon?

[@futsinen]

How do you respond to the claim that Grey matter in the brain is responsible for empathy? Doesn’t it actually mean that the dumber the person is the more evil they are?

[@Agnieszka-sj1xt]

🎧🏹📻

[@Luana-nandaa1]

Can anyone help me, how can I translate this video into Portuguese to watch, or if it has subtitles??

[@noracja9496]

He mainly refers to borderlands as a female trait only in his talks alot