BPD Can Be Worse Than NPD

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RICHARD GRANNON

RICHARD GRANNON

Күн бұрын

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@zachburkey447
@zachburkey447 Жыл бұрын
I miss the woman I was deeply in love with. BPD and NPD are absolutely horrible. I felt like I got glimpses of the real her, the wounded child in between the fits of love bombing and sudden distance. I've never loved someone so much while being torn to shreds by them at the same time. I wish I could forget her
@jomansson5742
@jomansson5742 Жыл бұрын
The wounded child is heartbreaking
@rebeccaj7164
@rebeccaj7164 Жыл бұрын
I had the same with a narcissistic ex of mine. So difficult to get over the pain of the break-up and I do think it's related to the wounded child as opposed to any of the other aspects of it (which I attributed it to thinking we had a lot in common when we actually didn't). With the wounded child you get a glimpse into that and develop some kind of maternal or paternal bond with them so severing that feeling heart-wrenching. It doesn't seem like it now but you will forget her and you will love again. Love is the strongest force in this world. The relationships we had felt like love and we did love them but they didn't love us properly and so we have to realise we are deserving of something much better.
@Nerdy-By-Nature
@Nerdy-By-Nature Жыл бұрын
I've concluded that so much of the bond and inability to forget is due to our own inner wounded child. Usually we had a wounded parent (maybe BPD/NPD but could have also been less severe). As children we were desperately trying to make them happy and heal them. In some form or fashion we were unsuccessful, and so we subconsciously choose a partner who will play out the story with us over and over, trying to make the story have a happy ending this time. This is what the inner child wants and *they* are in the driver's seat of our adult life. If we heal our inner child, and their need to save mom or dad, then we heal our need to feel connected to the BPD/NPD ex. We can truly grieve the loss (more about the loss of childhood and parent) and finally move forward. We release our inner child to go play and be happy finally, and we get to adult with a whole lot more energy and zest for life. You will heal, stay hopeful and keep moving forward.
@jomansson5742
@jomansson5742 Жыл бұрын
@@Nerdy-By-Nature Unfinished business. Well said.
@angeladegomez8134
@angeladegomez8134 Жыл бұрын
Very tricky themes 🥲
@ladyofthecreek279
@ladyofthecreek279 Жыл бұрын
If you meet someone with BPD, DON'T BRING CHILDREN into the relationship. My mother had BPD and it was hell.
@cherrylane79
@cherrylane79 Жыл бұрын
The BPD can heal with long therapy.
@da1zed
@da1zed 4 ай бұрын
The bpd is a reason i dont want to be a parent. I agree
@semplybalanced3210
@semplybalanced3210 Жыл бұрын
At the end of the day the labels don’t matter! If a person is exhibiting any of these behaviors, you leave, period! But now you know why they act the way they do.
@EnglishAaron
@EnglishAaron Жыл бұрын
Would you be opposed to providing euthanasia for those with the conditions and exhibition of those behaviors from brain damage whether from psychiatric abuse of antipsychotics or otherwise? I would especially if the consequences of being unable to change due to brain damage they didn't ask for is abandonment and suffering
@gracelewis6071
@gracelewis6071 Жыл бұрын
Try telling that to a kid... Kids can't leave.
@paula622
@paula622 Жыл бұрын
​@@EnglishAaron they could take their ass to therapy and keep it there, they know the difference between right and wrong
@CordeliaWagner
@CordeliaWagner Жыл бұрын
Kids? Think before you breed!
@gracelewis6071
@gracelewis6071 Жыл бұрын
@@CordeliaWagner ...I was the kid.
@lululestat
@lululestat Жыл бұрын
I have BPD it is a terrible disorder to live with thank god I got help for it otherwise I wouldn’t be here ❤️ there is help out there for you you don’t have to live this way forever
@walkingbyfaith2885
@walkingbyfaith2885 Жыл бұрын
@ Lulu Lestat, so you're the right person to ask , What's bad for you ? What's good for you? What are you missing in life, what do you need, how do you feel? Please Elaborate on this BPD, as I don't really understand, is it something people are born with? ❤
@user-ju6zx3rm8d
@user-ju6zx3rm8d 6 ай бұрын
@@walkingbyfaith2885 do your own research
@DuckTunes79
@DuckTunes79 Ай бұрын
But how did you decide you needed help? Most people with BPD can’t accept the fact that they need help or that anything is wrong with them.
@user-oy1fj6vq8f
@user-oy1fj6vq8f Жыл бұрын
If there are any fellow BPD persons out there, you can “get better”. Improvement is probably a better term. It’s not easy and and it’s not quick but you don’t have to give in to some self fulfilling prophecy. My doctor told me there is a spectrum to the disorder and just because you have BPD doesn’t mean your at the worst end of the scale and that your going to go bezerk one day!
@user-ju6zx3rm8d
@user-ju6zx3rm8d 6 ай бұрын
cope
@justmeiam4996
@justmeiam4996 Жыл бұрын
My parents have narcissistic trades,i used to have a roommate who was - at least i think borderline and I found them equally damaging.When i finally moved to live on my own, although I couldn't afford it at the time,the first 2 years i didn't even go out and would enjoy the silence 😅.I guess that's what 20's and early 30's are for.
@benshaw2306
@benshaw2306 Жыл бұрын
I have recently been diagnosed with a personality difficulty and the psychiatrist suggested it is Borderline in presentation. I know I have been hard to live with and unable to regulate. I live with a lot of regret, shame and pain as I have been unaware and unable to get better. I am currently going through therapy and trying to rebuild myself. I am a person. I am not a condition. Or a "Borderline". Ive done alot of things wrong, especially in relationships, but it doesnt end my humanity. Youre videos make me feel like a monster. Like i cant change or get better. I can. I am and I will. I can take responsiblity and attempt to apologise. I am a person.
@summersalix
@summersalix Жыл бұрын
Bpd is treatable and can be nearly cured after two years of intense therapy and dbt. U didn’t cause this, trauma did. U can heal esp w how motivated u seem! Emdr might be helpful too. Hang in there…the stigma is harsh, but I believe in u and know u can have healthy relationships 🤗
@alejandrodominguez7211
@alejandrodominguez7211 Жыл бұрын
You will make it! We love you
@ismush8
@ismush8 Жыл бұрын
Stay strong! Me too i remember i was like this and i was never diegnosed or treated, but im doing the work and it helps! Preyers and self improvment with love can cure anything! ❤ thanks for that comment, it is important
@lizericsonn9367
@lizericsonn9367 Жыл бұрын
Have you been assessed for Autism/adhd? adhd emotional stuff mimics borderline
@lizericsonn9367
@lizericsonn9367 Жыл бұрын
that you can self reflect so well and so easily own where you made the bad choices really is not a cluster b personality trait. Really, get assessed for autism and adhd
@caseteamcouture8633
@caseteamcouture8633 Жыл бұрын
They can be soooooo moody and then literally emotionally explode on you
@einHaufen.
@einHaufen. Жыл бұрын
Out of my own experience these ppl are hard to manage and sustain a modest relationship is impossible. They live in a world of self destruction, which can be triggered by litterly by anything you say. You need alot of love as welland a lot of patient. I couldn't do it.
@anettas.1751
@anettas.1751 9 ай бұрын
and a lot of sacrifice from everyone around them
@libbylandscape3560
@libbylandscape3560 Жыл бұрын
My mother is long gone now so getting an accurate diagnosis isn’t possible….not that she’d comply. My closest guess would be some form of narcissism because of her sadism, absolute lack of empathy, thin skin, need to be the victim where she’d make all the arrangements for the set-up, chronic lying, etc. Her mood would swing so fast, one pristine example of being in the car while I was backing out of the driveway, the day had gone well and both of us were laughing & giggling about something, she was facing forward then turned to look out her side window for a few seconds then turned back at me in a full-on seething rage. It was that fast, in 3-4 seconds her mood did a 180 from relaxed & happy to fury. I don’t know what she saw, thought she saw, I didn’t say anything. The only thing I can think of is that she put her purse on the floor near my feet, which can be dangerous, so I put it on the seat next to her. Maybe she was enraged because I touched her purse….but then maybe not, I never knew what would set her off. She was bizarre about things, had weird rules & ideas that apparently no one else knew about, and had zero common sense.
@user-oy1fj6vq8f
@user-oy1fj6vq8f Жыл бұрын
I feel like I need to check if I posted this. I am so sorry. I pray that you find peace and happiness.
@lizericsonn9367
@lizericsonn9367 Жыл бұрын
hey so, that instant snap? That's not Personality disorder unless you actually said something that caused Narcissistic injury, that instant snap sounds like RSD, that comes with ADHD, and is fkn nuts in females. Its a genetic switch that is instant rage or other strong emotion, and if you say, moved her purse with a sigh or indicator of disapproval that can be enough to trigger RSD flip, plus bizarre rules and you had to parent her somewhat, she was probably undiagnosed Autistic/adhd. I am speaking from my own perspective of how it is with me
@savethechildren2
@savethechildren2 Жыл бұрын
​@@lizericsonn9367yes, rage can deff be a part of adhd. Unfortunately
@lizericsonn9367
@lizericsonn9367 Жыл бұрын
@@savethechildren2 yup usually triggered by the RSD part of adhd
@marcycat
@marcycat Жыл бұрын
My dad has NPD. Growing up with that was like living in hell.
@walkingbyfaith2885
@walkingbyfaith2885 Жыл бұрын
Being in " Situations " can't call it a relationship, it takes Two to have a relationship,) with BPD, NPD, is like slowly expecting to die , it's draining, lonely, unsettling I Pray for ALL going thru with these beings realize you don't have to, what I do realize is that if I stayed in there must be something "WRONG" with me, my EX Narc chased me for 4 years, we worked in the same building, I finally said okay to dinner date, oh he was super sweet , got engaged and out of total " situation" in less than a year, the mask came off after I received the ring, it was pure hell to say the least, I'm No contact, ❤
@Nerdy-By-Nature
@Nerdy-By-Nature Жыл бұрын
Yes, there ARE plenty of male Borderlines, thank you for including that. The range within their moodswing is mindblowing.
@CordeliaWagner
@CordeliaWagner Жыл бұрын
Men are most times stronger than women. A borderliner rage can end deadly.
@wingknight7132
@wingknight7132 Жыл бұрын
I mean there are more females than males
@Nerdy-By-Nature
@Nerdy-By-Nature Жыл бұрын
@@wingknight7132 all we know is there are more females diagnosed. That doesn't mean there are literally more female BPD than male. But that doesn't actually matter, the point is there are plenty of male Borderlines and it's very important to not overlook that.
@wingknight7132
@wingknight7132 Жыл бұрын
@@Nerdy-By-Nature "that doesnt mean there are literally more female bpd " Could the same be said in the case of psychopathy as well (men are diagnosed with psychopathy more)
@Nerdy-By-Nature
@Nerdy-By-Nature Жыл бұрын
@@wingknight7132 absolutely. I think gender bias with the DSM is a huge issue. They don't take into account that symptoms may present differently for the same disorder.
@Softman264
@Softman264 Жыл бұрын
Lol.... I cannot cope with any of them to be honest.
@kiaraj.7809
@kiaraj.7809 Жыл бұрын
I have BPD and my husband has NPD, we have a very very rocky relationship
@j.l.w9563
@j.l.w9563 Жыл бұрын
I agree. There's so much more vulnerability and just raw pain with the borderline. So you are more sucked in. At a certain point you tell the narc to f off. But you can't really do that with a borderline they just kind of wilt. Or if you do there's no sense of victory or satisfaction.
@jomansson5742
@jomansson5742 Жыл бұрын
💯
@ThrivePurpleHeart
@ThrivePurpleHeart Жыл бұрын
I'm sorry but if you think that 'at some point you can just tell the narc to fck off' you haven't experienced a person with NPD (perhaps some narcissistic traits but not narcissism) I fled with my youngest child across the country, now have protective orders in 2 States and they drag me to court casting thousands, making me leave our child and my job, only to reschedule FOR YEARS. There are videos about the dancers of leaving a narcissistic. Telling them to fk off doesn't yield them fcking off. Punishment will be shooting at your feet and then past your head, if you're lucky. If you're unlucky Punishment will kill you dead. It's in the news regularly
@CordeliaWagner
@CordeliaWagner Жыл бұрын
Think before you breed. Luckily more and more people are educated about toxic personality disorders and stay away from dangerous people.
@j.l.w9563
@j.l.w9563 Жыл бұрын
@jenstevens2998 Well, to be blunt I don't have a vagina so i) there is no incentive for a male narc to be that obsessive with me, ii) they are more frightened of me in general.
@lizericsonn9367
@lizericsonn9367 Жыл бұрын
@@CordeliaWagner get over yourself. I worked in behavioural sciences running interventions with people who are cluster b for 20 years, with all the relevant education, and I am autistic with insanely good pattern recognition and I still miss them, every professional does, and you are not better than the experts
@messk7542
@messk7542 Жыл бұрын
AMEN 🙏 YES LIVING with borderline IS WORSE THANKS RICHARD
@lawofliberty3517
@lawofliberty3517 Жыл бұрын
I see their eyes now and will not entertain them. These people have a "look" about them. Recognize it and do not reciprocate or feed their demons. Period. Ask wisdom from God. It works. I testify to it.
@saintjabroni
@saintjabroni Жыл бұрын
How would you describe their eyes or “look”? Please try to describe.
@lawofliberty3517
@lawofliberty3517 Жыл бұрын
@@saintjabroni "soulless", "empty", "blackness". I lived with one for many years. I looked back at photos and can now see the emptiness in my ex. Identifying them is a gift. Truly, ask God and believe in Him.
@saintjabroni
@saintjabroni Жыл бұрын
@@lawofliberty3517 Thank you for your response.
@dannysims5914
@dannysims5914 Жыл бұрын
Straight Facts.. Stay very close to King Jesus and let Him fight our battles for us. I deal with this @ my work and i can see God working in my behalf but for His Glory. Pray and give it to King Jesus..
@lawofliberty3517
@lawofliberty3517 Жыл бұрын
@@dannysims5914 Glory be to God
@rudhisundar
@rudhisundar Жыл бұрын
NPD is bad, BPD is mad.
@jengrosso4802
@jengrosso4802 Жыл бұрын
My mom has BPD. it’s been a true nightmare.
@AyeWitness
@AyeWitness Жыл бұрын
Don’t live with Anybody!!! Problem solved..! 😅
@pm660
@pm660 Жыл бұрын
You just described my husband. I never know what to do. It's like walking on eggshells. I never know what will or won't trigger him. It feels incredibly tiresome sometimes.
@Kristen10-22
@Kristen10-22 Жыл бұрын
Knowing my parents did a great job at leaving me with the shell of who I might have become infuriates me. Bpd here.. cptsd here.. Yep I’m hard to love, I have a super difficult time trusting even my hubby of 25yrs among other great negative qualities I have. The self hatred & deep sense of shame is a bottomless pit. However… I am a bad a$$ bitch! Kicked Cancers ass 13yrs ago, Kicked an addiction to pain pills 20yrs ago, kicked a pulmonary embolisms a$$ too & left those toxic parents & extended fam 13yrs ago too! I love hard Loyal af. They can’t say that
@verzeda
@verzeda Жыл бұрын
I have BPD but are in therapy. My NPD partner made me mask my disorder because she "couldn't be around it". I accept that. I really tried to hide my emotional dysregulation from her and avoid disassociating around her. She would not change for me though.
@mrsc2983
@mrsc2983 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely NIL negotiations with him whatsoever...after 45years i feel I have a lot of insight into these evil jerks😢
@kiaraemblom7306
@kiaraemblom7306 3 ай бұрын
I always imagined it would be worse because of the fact borderline is known to be at least genuine with their emotions & truly care(or think we do) (I'm diagnosed BPD so this is just from my pov/experiences,/thoughts) so when i imagine dealing with me as someone other than myself, its gotta be so confusing and painful to the more sensitive person cause you care and you know they care but after a certain point the behavior is very toxic and they have every right to be done with it.... Like they have to choose between themselves and someone they love basically... I imagine it'd be similar to the guilt I feel for resentment I have towards my mom for certain things but yet I love my mom and I know she loved me to the best of her abilities, she did what she could with what she knew is how ive always viewed it which is probablybwhybit took me 29-30 years before I realized and half acceoted that certain aspects growing up were actually traumatic. And I know talking about it will hurt her or upset her so I can't express any of these feelings to her but I feel I need to but I feel like such a whiney pos just silently thinking and acknowledging these things,.... Like that's hard on a person and I hate that there's a good possibility that people I care about experience the same kind of thing because of me... :/
@qitae
@qitae Жыл бұрын
Nope absolutely not the abuse the narc put me through has been devastating. The borderline was not a psychopath, they were difficult but i felt empathy and sadness for them because they were suffering.
@gracelewis6071
@gracelewis6071 Жыл бұрын
This explains a lot, and is very validating. Thank you Richard.
@mbaratucci13
@mbaratucci13 Жыл бұрын
Wow how true! I never knew what would make her angry, and her anger was over the top!
@Blindfold-Me
@Blindfold-Me Жыл бұрын
If your someone with one of these please know help is out there and life gets better when your work on yourself
@marcginthe5d
@marcginthe5d Жыл бұрын
They all are a form of cluster B types
@sherrysortino7186
@sherrysortino7186 Жыл бұрын
My narcissist put me through hell and still is almost two years later after separating
@MelySarai16
@MelySarai16 Жыл бұрын
I hope it gets better I’ll pray
@CordeliaWagner
@CordeliaWagner Жыл бұрын
@Mely Sarai can you pray for worldpeace too?
@MelySarai16
@MelySarai16 Жыл бұрын
@@CordeliaWagner I mean that’s a big topic I’d rather u generalize it down but okay sure 😂
@Kristen10-22
@Kristen10-22 Жыл бұрын
Hubby and I have now come to the point after so many years of therapy to try to laugh at my extremes. I’m constantly putting myself in double binds now. Contradicting all my selves
@brightstar4321
@brightstar4321 Жыл бұрын
Why does my ego feel a twinge of satisfaction knowing that my ex NPD chose a BPD to marry?
@countcoupblessings979
@countcoupblessings979 Жыл бұрын
Till they team up . Had that happen . They got huge pay off by being a team, to torture , gaslight & destroy self & child . Hope they just pest each other .
@brightstar4321
@brightstar4321 Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately, no one comes out unscathed in a family unit with BPD and/or NPD. Thank you for lassoing my ego, as the suffering caused by the trauma is not worth the satisfaction of knowing the narcissist received their karma.
@user-ju6zx3rm8d
@user-ju6zx3rm8d 6 ай бұрын
BPD longest rel.ships are with NPDs
@trina1962
@trina1962 Жыл бұрын
This happens almost every day in my home. Mind blown!Never ever thought about male BPD.
@Natalie-lf7hb
@Natalie-lf7hb Жыл бұрын
It is not so black and white as your experience has taught you. Narcissists are unable to love and asskisssing all the time seems much worse to me. But I respect your opinion. But there are shades of grey 😉
@CordeliaWagner
@CordeliaWagner Жыл бұрын
Borderliners can go fully berzerk at any Moment. Why should somebody risk that when they can be with mentally stable people? Safety first.
@christiancroom3386
@christiancroom3386 Жыл бұрын
Can you cover more on the male with bpd cause I have been with one for almost 7 yrs now and it has been hell... so much so I no longer feel emotions but it's different then a major depressive low it's basically just non existent emotions now like that part of the brain has just shut down. I know that science says extreme stress causes brain damage over time and I'm wondering just how much stress causes it to be so permanent ... cause I think I may be in hot water if it is.....
@walkingbyfaith2885
@walkingbyfaith2885 Жыл бұрын
@Christian Croom, what's stopping you from leaving? Seven years is long enough to realize there's a problem, so you need to make a plan, and follow it up
@christiancroom3386
@christiancroom3386 Жыл бұрын
@walking by faith money mostly and having been surrounded by "halfway safe" people I'm basically up shit creek. At the moment I'm getting closer to getting out
@poojalall3713
@poojalall3713 Жыл бұрын
Bpd is worse for self and npd for others..!!
@missphilosopher187
@missphilosopher187 Жыл бұрын
Thank you! I feel like you nailed my current situation. But of course, I have to ask myself if two people with BPD can be in a relationship without it being so painfully hard. I feel like knowing that it's different from NPD is such a relief for myself and my sweetheart. I was about to tell him to go away, as I have felt like doing since we met, but this knowledge has changed my strategy and I hope he asks me out today cause I will say yes and maybe with your help we can find some happiness together, thank you so much for your insight and I will sign up for your masterclass, which I tried to do but I don't know how to access.... any tips would be helpful.... Sophia
@CordeliaWagner
@CordeliaWagner Жыл бұрын
Do therapy before you agree to a relationship.
@paulinemerrigan7128
@paulinemerrigan7128 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much your video was very helpful
@laurataylor3159
@laurataylor3159 Жыл бұрын
It's hard after yrs of trying to love a narc with all their shenanigans and putting you down to compliment them because you simply can't see anything to compliment them on. At this point because you cant even bring yourself to lie about how great they are they have become a 100% angry green eyed monster.
@hawaiigirl8089
@hawaiigirl8089 Жыл бұрын
That’s my EX HUSBAND 😮 I USED TO ASK HIM - which Chris is talking now???
@narcissisticweb2119
@narcissisticweb2119 Жыл бұрын
I totally agree with you. Like i say once you understand and grasp the npd''s patterns you know what to expect and you can work around or along that line they are wuite predictable where as a bpd is unpredictable.
@gotcha9983
@gotcha9983 Жыл бұрын
This is life. Never satisfied. That's why we desperately need GOD
@mathews0618
@mathews0618 4 ай бұрын
They can be sweet and they mirror you so well. Mine wasn't a monster. She was always switching masks and manipulative but i dont believe it was to be harmful. It only lasted 4 months because she betrayed me. I do believe a nastier version of her was on the horizon. She started resenting me. They leave you so confused because you still cling to the fantasy of her. Its not as simple as self respect because you are probably trauma bonded. Shes not real though and i need to accept that
@carpathianken
@carpathianken Жыл бұрын
My brothers housemate has a borderline diagnosis & she's an absolute nightmare. She has a tendency to criticise & negatively judge everyone & everything around her & yet she shamelessly steals , manipulates & is parasitic in her lifestyle
@pickle9753
@pickle9753 Жыл бұрын
Ok, maybe he isn’t a narcissist then. 🤔 This is the crazy making games I lived with for so many years,while he was filtering all my Money and assets away from me with manipulative lies and “fake future ing” me. Drives a person mad 🤔🤔🤔 he kept changing the plans and “fantasy”…when originally he was all on board with my plans for my future life..and money and assets I had worked for…for MY future nest eggs and old age, not HIS. Actually his diagnosis doesn’t matter really? Bastard should be in jail My god I’m so glad I found your video and got the hell out when I did. Jesus
@semplybalanced3210
@semplybalanced3210 Жыл бұрын
It doesn’t matter the label. If he’s toxic & terrible, you leave regardless.
@pickle9753
@pickle9753 Жыл бұрын
@@semplybalanced3210 well now I know that. But unfortunately I didn’t back then, and it turned me toxic with anger and resentment instead , before I realized what was going on and that I needed to save my self.
@theoriginal7727
@theoriginal7727 Жыл бұрын
Most people on the cluster B spectrum are a blend of BPD/NPD
@pickle9753
@pickle9753 Жыл бұрын
@@theoriginal7727 a blend 😳😳 how fun 🤔🤯
@CordeliaWagner
@CordeliaWagner Жыл бұрын
Why doesn't your god heal Borderliners? Does he anything to make people's lifes better?
@leiiw4912
@leiiw4912 Жыл бұрын
I hate it,I'm a walking contradiction. the good thing is I don't remember the switches.
@marazampariolo3200
@marazampariolo3200 Жыл бұрын
I attest this is spot on
@GailOwens
@GailOwens Жыл бұрын
My mother had both she was a monster. She has broken me.
@janebraun4482
@janebraun4482 Жыл бұрын
By brother passed away, having lived with a lady over 30 years, who for sure looks like BPD, but for sure NPD as well. Upon his death she waited a week to even tell us, then she wanted us to pay for coming to a wedding across country even tho brother had died. Since no one would pay for her, she won't communicate at all. All the family did for her and my brother, just like that she discards. In reality not surprised at all. She had discarded her own family entirely. Now alone she tries to reconnect with her brother.
@syrexscuse66
@syrexscuse66 Жыл бұрын
Just went no contact with my BPD/NPD "fiancé" - using quotes cuz the only reason he proposed was to maintain control over me. He realized that I had become wise to the emotional abuse I had endured. He didn't know I had begun therapy which was the beginning of my awakening. I had also begun doing yoga and "Sound Journeys" both of which gave me the strength to toss him out like the garbage he had treated me as.
@bonnsterthemonster
@bonnsterthemonster Жыл бұрын
My sister is fully crazy now. I'll never forget her. I miss her, but I just can't take the abuse and she thinks I'm the cruel one. Listen up parents. Train your children to have patience and stop neglecting them.
@richard-em6zi
@richard-em6zi Жыл бұрын
Having BPD by definition is being borderline Psychopathic. Which is of course worse than being narcissistic. Narcissism alone is just a kid who's been led astray down a bad path or given a set of skewed morals. They don't always like having to do the bad things they've been ordered to do. While the psychopaths absolutely enjoy seeing the suffering of others and will do anything to feed that need to watch people suffer. Because they themselves have suffered. So they have to have the power of putting others in the same abuse they had in order to feel the control they didn't have when they themselves were abused
@allforgotton697
@allforgotton697 6 ай бұрын
Bullshit
@Ava-Nicole
@Ava-Nicole Жыл бұрын
He said he want me to hold him accountable. The minute I did he split on me and raged
@AndrewDaniele87
@AndrewDaniele87 3 ай бұрын
Sounds familiar, my girlfriend yelled at me to not put up with her shit and I was so confused lol, why can't the people we love just not act this way instead of acting this way and then getting angry that we allowed them to act that way
@lilredheaded1
@lilredheaded1 Жыл бұрын
Thank you!!!
@discopotato675
@discopotato675 Жыл бұрын
💯% spot on
@ddtrahan
@ddtrahan 8 ай бұрын
Im experiencing this w/8 kids. Struggling
@leonab545
@leonab545 Жыл бұрын
Ooh. I sure feel for Johnny Depp! I know an NPD woman and she can be a nightmare but yeah you can negotiate and she can leave you alone for some time and then the tyranny again. Both are rough to be around because it can be so draining, but I guess with BPD you don’t get a break?
@NH-zu9cl
@NH-zu9cl Жыл бұрын
A reliëf for me thank you
@yoyoyo-on3uf
@yoyoyo-on3uf 4 ай бұрын
As a male recovered borderline, comparing our ability to live with another person, with the ability to live with a narcissistic person, at all, is really, really dumb. If we are in recovery and the other person has patience, empathy, and intelligence, we can coexist just fine. We are not manipulative unless you cannot provide one of the attributes I listed. If we're recovered, we are not manipulative at all.
@annrobinson7766
@annrobinson7766 Жыл бұрын
Correct.
@invisibly679
@invisibly679 Жыл бұрын
I would like to hear what you have to say about being in a relationship with someone Bipolar
@davidlee647
@davidlee647 Жыл бұрын
Y living with both plus PTSD and OCD addict !
@gloriavis
@gloriavis Жыл бұрын
This is what the jealous family and ex friends did to me. That's love
@niccolea2086
@niccolea2086 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, narcissists are all about their ego. It’s not complicated Understanding that they need their stoked constantly is important.
@jennieguy8625
@jennieguy8625 Жыл бұрын
Worse than npd must be horrific 😱
@jasonjenkins812
@jasonjenkins812 Жыл бұрын
I’ve experienced this. Not fun. Do not recommend.
@Dimitra-z5e
@Dimitra-z5e Жыл бұрын
Thank God! I mot a narcissist and I don't have BPD. I believe you have to listen the other person and give him his space. You have to be patient. And don't do something awful that you don't want someone else to do to you. You have to know where you limits are
@CordeliaWagner
@CordeliaWagner Жыл бұрын
I don't have to be patient. I have to protect myself. Let social workers and therapists and psychiatric wards deal with borderliners. I have to much to loose to risk letting someone like that into my life. I want to be happy, not a exploited caretaker for a person that can go fully Berzerk at any moment.
@Dimitra-z5e
@Dimitra-z5e Жыл бұрын
@@CordeliaWagner I agree. I wrote about healthy people. If someone has problem it's his problem. We are not going to destroy our lifes. Enough. We are not experts or God to help them
@CordeliaWagner
@CordeliaWagner Жыл бұрын
God doesn't exist and therefore can't help. Otherwise he would be a sadistic psychopath.
@DuckTunes79
@DuckTunes79 Ай бұрын
My sister has BPD and NPD.
@taanyahleecat8090
@taanyahleecat8090 Жыл бұрын
Try being BPD, fuck I hate myself. 😒 but I like myself to 😂 its really hard being confused and confident at the same time. But we're sorry, we just don't know what we really need but asking for a lot might help us figure it out. It's our most & sometimes our only selfish quality.
@neodistinct
@neodistinct 8 ай бұрын
YES
@Wasp239
@Wasp239 Жыл бұрын
Why to provide narcissists with anything? They are not even real persons
@kismypencek6185
@kismypencek6185 Жыл бұрын
Neva in my 20s in mh saw bpd dx on a male's eval... disservice to them, their family, and those that work with them. Maybe gen z will get it accomplished.
@willieboy8798
@willieboy8798 Жыл бұрын
if your stuck in that cycle .....jesuuuus these people!??
@VarianAlastair
@VarianAlastair Жыл бұрын
That's just straight gaslighting. It's abuse. It has a name, great. But call it what it is. ABUSE. And stop letting them hide behind labels
@prettygirltingz8799
@prettygirltingz8799 Жыл бұрын
How about if your mother has a borderline personality disorder
@tallypeseta2698
@tallypeseta2698 Жыл бұрын
I never provide any things no
@maxcash4563
@maxcash4563 Жыл бұрын
Cover sociopathic NPD.
@theoriginal7727
@theoriginal7727 Жыл бұрын
Yep. Hist/NPD traits too but the pure hell chaos of BPD (especially in somebody who is supposed to be trustworthy and stable, e.g. mental health professionals) is totally mindfucking devastation!!
@countcoupblessings979
@countcoupblessings979 Жыл бұрын
Hell yes to this
@fatcat4081
@fatcat4081 Жыл бұрын
A grandiose classic narcissist explaining how he’s better than the BPD partners he attracts in his trauma bonds. NPD and BPD are 2 sides to the same dysfunctional 🪙 twin souls torturing each other
@manyarimusicandpoetry
@manyarimusicandpoetry Жыл бұрын
One day he's straight then we break up and he's bisexual or trans. Alternate female name and everything. We get back together and he's straight. Of course I don't find out till later and then its none of my business to question... so we break up again and he's back to being an alternate person. Cycle repeats.
@angelaaldas5591
@angelaaldas5591 Жыл бұрын
May God save me ❣️
@music1958ful
@music1958ful Жыл бұрын
Scary!!!
@aklev5745
@aklev5745 Жыл бұрын
True
@victoriasjoguist2967
@victoriasjoguist2967 Жыл бұрын
Were not horrible. Most of us dont even bither dating and we stick yo ourselves threw therapy its still hard tonplease society but we never end up accepted regardless of what we try to do
@user-ju6zx3rm8d
@user-ju6zx3rm8d 6 ай бұрын
wrong
@007Tinkins
@007Tinkins Жыл бұрын
Yes
@SandraLily2
@SandraLily2 Жыл бұрын
Why do I feel like the only person on the planet who doesn't have some kind of effed up "issue" that results in hurting others? Beam me up, Jesus!
@CandaceConner
@CandaceConner Жыл бұрын
Male as well as female .Very much like the narc they both have to b fed
@velinas_
@velinas_ Жыл бұрын
The typical grandiose narcissist cannot handle other people close to them having self-respect and quality of life. It is extra bad if this type of narc is your parent or stepparent while you are still a minor. That makes them worse than a borderline. But sure, the general instability of a borderline will be draining on their surroundings.
@jessicapatton2688
@jessicapatton2688 10 ай бұрын
I don’t know if I agree with that. Borderlines at least have empathy whereas narcissists don’t. And I’m not sure but I think borderlines are more likely to get help than a narcissist. A narcissist will just write you off as the problem if you disagree with them.
@user-ju6zx3rm8d
@user-ju6zx3rm8d 6 ай бұрын
wrong
@_7.8.6
@_7.8.6 Жыл бұрын
They’re impossible
@BoomJinxBoom
@BoomJinxBoom Жыл бұрын
The way it's explained here it sounds as if borderline actually really have split personalities without realising
@user-ju6zx3rm8d
@user-ju6zx3rm8d 6 ай бұрын
they can have up to 20 different personalities in a lifetime
@imago9059
@imago9059 Жыл бұрын
Try living with someone that is comorbid NPD bpd.
@Potatowedge31
@Potatowedge31 Жыл бұрын
Nothing but the worse for you 🙏
@dustdivesterover4782
@dustdivesterover4782 Жыл бұрын
HE SAID "HER" ( FIRST )😂😂😂😂THINKING? OF HIS EX? 😮😳
@renaelynn6376
@renaelynn6376 Жыл бұрын
Bahaha refeeding the narc
@punk86
@punk86 2 ай бұрын
What if the male borderline has all 9 traits and all 4 subtypes? Even worse?
@nataliemeenakshithegreat7780
@nataliemeenakshithegreat7780 Жыл бұрын
I think that iam borderline but I am good stable person
@user-ju6zx3rm8d
@user-ju6zx3rm8d 6 ай бұрын
then you are not BPD
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