Shaq Says Men Should Never Open Up To Women

[@Pjiggy]

The caller said "that is the stupidest thing I ever heard. That's why he's divorced now." She not even with him and she took something he said and threw it in his face. She literally proved his point with her phone call!

[@justpreston145]

Literally

[@jaysouthmusic8230]

Yup literally made herself sound dumb

[@dy4710]

Women logic.. idk how anyone respects them. Live in a world where we call them “equals”.. never have been

[@cpope3235]

Last caller literally got on the phone and proved shaqs point 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@theblackchefjustice]

9:43 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@yayawawasy]

Trash can't help but stink

[@Dgthejuggernautbackuppage]

😂😂

[@AmiriHipHop]

I WILL admit this though, no young boy grows up with the mindset of "I will never express my emotions to women" on his own. Any guy that thinks opening up to women is a bad idea was either: 1) Taught to believe this by the older male figures in his life as a "warning" Or 2) Something bad happened to him after he opened up emotionally to a woman and he now vowed to never do it again

[@simonmaduxx6777]

Trauma, trauma, trauma bakes a sad cake. Our society doesn't value trust.. It values getting over and getting that money before any kind of morals. It values women looking for opportunities instead of love. It values fending for yourself, while also telling you that everyone needs help. It values recourse and revenge for those that harm you. It values protecting yourself against others who act like wolves. Your deep feelings are some of your most valuable assets, those that have access to it in the society gain the ability to crush you. Add that into the complexity of relationships and you have a almost untenable situation. Basically society breeds this kind of thinking, but it's also supported by the actions of humans and how they treat others.

[@jodyBellafonte]

@@simonmaduxx6777 Well said. Both of yall.

[@BearWitness369]

Duh mf you ain’t say nothing smart. Lol

[@KayNaude]

You spoke facts sir

[@turanx0]

Definitely number 2 for me. Opened up to my ex-fiancee about my own challenges in life (you would think the woman I’m about to marry would be cool and understanding) and she lost respect for me, started arguments constantly about things I dislike and then left. Listen people, I know there are women that wouldn’t have done what my ex- fiancee did, I’m sure there are lovely supporting and understanding women out there, but I’m not risking it again. When I get to the point of marrying again, there is no reason for me to risk losing another engagement. That takes a big toll on you. And I’m not saying every man out there should do what I do, because losing the engagement made me way stronger physically (hit the gym hard) and mentally and I’m earning way more money thanks to a career switch, so it all worked out in the end, but just keep in mind some women can switch up on you when they hear you talk about your struggles in life. It’s a very risky move. Count me out, I’m content with solving everything by myself.

[@DebonaireFresh]

The last caller is the example why you can’t tell woman anything, she just made his point

[@geoffryk]

Exactly 💯

[@mikecolin3983]

EXACTLY!!

[@elevatedgamer8715]

Facts

[@SantonAnderson]

Thank you!!!! She proved Shaq"s point and them ducks didn't even care to say anything about ..peep game

[@MsSHEISHER]

ANYBODY you confide in can hurt your feelings, business or reputation.

[@QueXopa79]

That part

[@adamantinerebelle7578]

Period

[@jlv3x]

There are only select individuals you can thrust with that kind of information, and sometimes there is not anyone in your life you can thrust like that.

[@SlaveKnightingale]

lol the ANYBODY is the same reverse ALL LIVES MATTER statement…the subject was women and they were speaking on romantic relationships…

[@sakpase88]

It's different we relationships

[@wisforwumbo6408]

I've found I can't open up to most women I'm romantically involved with because they'll internalize my feelings, especially if they're negative and about her.

[@jeromejenkins151]

Even if they're not about her she'll still find a way to make it about her because in her mind there's no way for you to have an emotion or a thought that doesn't involve her.

[@ButteryAssNigga]

Find better women

[@Jthebig]

Just find a tribe my friend real men that can relate what's going on with you that's the only people that keep you balanced

[@Yomommahouse]

Thank you women don’t even see it. They don’t care to.

[@colorsmith5569]

That is a much more fair reason to not open up.

[@unclericky5850]

ABSOLUTELY NOT! Women will definitely turn and use those vulnerabilities against you!

[@dec2567]

Big facts

[@naloburns9222]

Lol dnt be in a relationship

[@SWOTHDRA]

Facts

[@fascinatinglist9654]

Women only want you be in touch with their feelings not yours

[@kimmiet1980]

Not all women. Just like all men don't ___.

[@theblackchefjustice]

When i open up to a woman, they start to minimize how i feel about something and turn it into their feelings! I agree... the throwing in the face I don't care about. Not acknowledging my emotions is what I have a problem with

[@AyeYoBoxingWithMadiba]

Facts

[@Yomommahouse]

Bruh so many men of all races and backgrounds say the same thing but women don’t believe it lol

[@michaelialue1691]

Both men and women do this tho

[@myklo4269]

And when men are completely quiet, go to other outlets like therapy instead of them, they get mad and they think you’re hiding something.

[@tboog8356]

@@michaelialue1691no masculine men do this. Ladies guaranteed to do this Ladies will ask over and over. Men don’t have to ask a woman about anything over and over

[@JamisonTurner-vp4ev]

Everything is not black and white but there is some level of truth to what Shaq said.

[@summersalt123]

It’s that black and white. “Open up” about inconsequential things so that you’re not perceived as closed off.

[@rybaxter5424]

You’re definitely right… There is some truth to what he’s saying on both ends, but there are also people out there that are mature enough not to use your vulnerable moments against you. I personally don’t do that with friends or my significant other. I don’t believe in hitting below the belt just because I’m mad bcuz people will forgive, but they don’t forget how you made them feel when you were mad at them🤷🏽‍♀️

[@RMDFoodAdventure]

NO LIE......HES RIGHT

[@SWOTHDRA]

Factsss

[@AndreKing4]

He is not

[@RMDFoodAdventure]

@@AndreKing4 Unless its your Mama......or close family I can understand but in todays world......its not cool

[@oladeebiazazi4538]

@@RMDFoodAdventureTbh it depends on the women

[@candylibra]

Depends on the woman/man

[@kimcannon9340]

Had a friend of 40+ years, she got mad at me and then threw something in my face that I had confided in her. NEVER would I have thought she would've done that 😢

[@iAMJM27]

Sorry to hear that :(

[@thadevilzadvocate]

Live and learn. Silence is golden.

[@dy4710]

VVomen… ☕️ VVomen are unprincipled and selfish by nature - they have to be for survival sake Live in a world where we call them “equals”.. never have been

[@maxwellbrisk5622]

the collective energy that modern women have towards men gives you more reason not to.

[@bungawowzers]

the people you surround yourself with are who you are woman and men a like says a lot about you dude.

[@wr5458]

Never be weak or vulnerable around your woman if you can. Them seeing you in that state sticks in their mind. Be vulnerable with your father, brothers, friends. If you do become vulnerable you must show immediately you are overcoming it.

[@hueyfreeman5509]

Facts

[@Nytellem]

10:52 The last caller, “That’s why he single ” “That’s why he’s divorced” YOUR PROVING HIS POINT RIGHT THERE! And she don’t even know him personally, imagine how she speaks to the men in her life. Can’t make this shit up.

[@brucewayne99999]

she originally just called in to just say that "hes stupid" lol. they had to ask here to expand on it. that was here expansion and deep thought... good lord.

[@wondiefive]

"As men we were taught to hold it in/That’s why we don’t know how ’til we’re older men" - Common "Love Is..."

[@QueXopa79]

I stopped opening up to anyone. Shit can backfire

[@meldrickedwards1892]

Sure.

[@jaysouthmusic8230]

Me too

[@kjthomas4553]

Do fr

[@_Tree]

The last time I was vulnerable with anyone was my granny. Once she passed away, it was hard for me to be vulnerable with anyone else since then. I know that I should, but it's hard to do that without judgment

[@jaysouthmusic8230]

Because grandmothers are more understanding

[@Lamo2100]

NEVER DO IT FELLAS❌. ITZ A TRICK😂😂 FACT💯

[@ATLballer]

I AGREE..............WOMEN CANT HANDLE THE STRESS A MAN HAS EVERYDAY

[@thatraspyshxt]

Cause your stress is just so much more stress than regular stress 😩 😂 lmfaoooooooooooo😭😭😭😭😭 oh my God. Woe is me.

[@otisjenkinsjr.3556]

​@@thatraspyshxtmaking his point 🤡

[@thatraspyshxt]

@@otisjenkinsjr.3556 I'm not. It's no different. Sure it feels different to everyone. But stress is stress.

[@otisjenkinsjr.3556]

@BadGyalMonie y'all stress is self imposed dummy

[@otisjenkinsjr.3556]

@BadGyalMonie also, you don't compete directly against me. Life is easier by a landslide for women. STEM scholarships, welfare, WIC, etc....stop that. Most women in the work place are incompetent and only have a job due to quotas or they sleeping with the boss. Only fans must be so hard. A man is solely valued for what he can do. Women just get to exist. Cry about it. Weak.

[@ThatCreoleMan]

I could understand not opening up to somebody you just met, but if it’s somebody you spend your life with that’s the only person you need to open up to.

[@RicardoOdum]

This is true, WHOEVER starts losing the argument (the actual reason why you're arguing or discussing) will make it personal and just to make you feel as bad, low, or as little as they feel in that moment. Just gotta know that going into it, and not let it get to you.

[@f8c3themusic]

Shaq has a point! I think he means like sharing that you're depressed or feeling down. Women look at us men as being strong. We're supposed to be the protector. The moment you start a pattern of looking weak, she won't respect you. I definitely keep some stuff to myself.

[@Cfteresa]

Not true

[@f8c3themusic]

@@Cfteresa care to expound?

[@Casper092]

Ehh honestly opening up to people can be dangerous regardless of the person's gender, because people can and will use anything you say against you, it doesn't matter if the person is your friend, mother, or uncle.

[@MrColdwilliam]

Name one area where you believe women are responsible for improving how they treat others, especially men?

[@maniac50ae14]

Why are you around them kind of people?

[@MrColdwilliam]

@@maniac50ae14 your question doesn't even make sense. This is how I know you're a woman. Answer it yourself: what type of people am I around?

[@divineintervention212]

I really don't care because I don't really have any secrets that I'm ashamed of. Now the attempt will piss me off, but not because of what they are trying to front on me.about.

[@MrColdwilliam]

@@divineintervention212 it's a question that a woman can never answer. Fundamentally incapable of thinking about self improvement for better interpersonal relationships. That's *always* on the other person for women, especially when dealing with men.

[@djlyvwyr]

Facts! Trust is an illusion. Trust is based on how YOU feel about a person but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re trustworthy. Open up to a licensed professional.

[@meldrickedwards1892]

Sure...

[@letstalkaboutit-lta9435]

I'm confused on this topic 😂 if you can't open up to your significant other why are y'all together!?

[@AJConsultsGlobal]

Exactly.

[@jaysouthmusic8230]

Depends on you’re with at the end of the day I had to learn the hard way

[@letstalkaboutit-lta9435]

@@jaysouthmusic8230 once again, why be in a RELATIONSHIP with someone you can't confide in???

[@yomanyomandx5609]

​@@letstalkaboutit-lta9435children, companionship, stability, sex,

[@hueyfreeman5509]

Women are naturally more cathartic and need that emotional reassurance so they can open up to men, but not vice versa

[@Moneystayswithme]

I'm a woman & after dealing with my mother for over 30 years I know a lot of women throw things in your face when they're upset, & I'm her daughter so I can just imagine how she is in relationships. Now I don't open up to anyone & likewise leave my man to decide what he wants to share. I haven't used anything against anyone yet (friend/family/lover) & hope I never do.

[@cxm1211]

You shouldn’t open up to any random woman. I agree with CTG.

[@jeromejenkins151]

The random women is who you open up to. The ones that aren't sleeping with you,don't owe you nothing,you don't owe them anything are the exact women that'll keep it the realest with you. They don't have anything to lose by telling you the truth. If a woman feels she stands to gain or lose something from you she will always take what you say and use it as a tool to manipulate the outcome she desires.

[@RespectMyGangsta76]

​@@jeromejenkins151Its depends. If you're single looking for someone no don't tell. But mothers & grandmothers are the real females that's gonna hold you down no matter what & they been around & know the game.

[@saintkartier5211]

Nobody said random women 😂

[@G3TAcademy]

They gaslighting. They know he's not talking about family or a random woman ​@saintkartier5211

[@Gapeach_07]

It's all about character point blank. Someone who loves and cares for you will never use anything against you.

[@gothamtyler]

Crazy....just did this and she threw it in my face Never again 😂

[@jaysouthmusic8230]

Learned that the hard way myself man

[@SSJRome]

Not taking relationship advice from Shaquille O’Neal lol

[@phillyj7181]

Right, and he is divorced and this could be why....maybe opening up to her might have saved his marriage

[@SSJRome]

@@phillyj7181 yup he’s went on record expressing his regrets now that he’s living in a empty house

[@phillyj7181]

Right, I saw it!

[@telka8069]

@@SSJRome I think if anyone is willing to be vulnerable enough to express their mistakes, they also could be a good resource for what to do and not do in relationships. I'd rather speak to someone who has battle scars than someone pretending to be perfect.

[@SSJRome]

@@telka8069 no relationship is perfect yes and it takes work to get thru the ups and downs . anyone giving off that “ perfect” vibe I’ve realized it’s a whole different situation behind closed doors so i tune those out. And you don’t have to talk to just guys like a Shaq to hear about battle scars when it comes to relationships, there are plenty of examples especially within long term relationships that have withstood the test of time.

[@propanetv1]

There is power to keeping things inside one of the 48 laws is “speak only when necessary”.

[@shawnhuey5687]

That last woman done exactly what the topic of this conversation is about. Brother shared his personal experience, and without understanding, took shots.

[@1taeok]

You can't be vulnerable with anybody and stop dating and being in relationships with ANYBODY! The punishment you put your lover in because you chose wrong or group them with your past.

[@MrColdwilliam]

It's this kind of entitled passivism that women exist in that makes this problem so prevalent. The task is ALWAYS for men to change, whether it's who they fundamentally are to protect women OR to move on and select different from poorly behaving women. At no point is it a woman's job to improve. Never. Ever. There is no argument under the sun that turns into "she needs to be better". Well, what do you think that turns into? Being treated equally?

[@Mook05]

How is it punishment when a man does not open up about his vulnerabilities?

[@giffondhall9214]

That last caller was in her feelings 😆😆😆

[@deanblksam750]

Delilah, in the Old Testament, the central figure of Samson's last love story (Judges 16). She was a Philistine who, bribed to entrap Samson, coaxed him into revealing that the secret of his strength was his long hair, whereupon she took advantage of his confidence to betray him to his enemies.

[@brucewayne99999]

damn. this hits so hard. end of discussion right here.

[@betterthanyaaverage...1036]

Again it all goes back to selection process and cultivating a healthy relationship. My wife and I have been together 20 years, have children, been through all the joys and challenges of life. I absolutely share things with her. Now as men with balance and knowing your partner you might know that certain topics have be delivered a certain way and you also have to have other men/mentors in your life you can express certain things to.

[@MrColdwilliam]

Tell us about how women's issues with men is simply about their selection process. I'd love to hear it.

[@betterthanyaaverage...1036]

@MrColdwilliam Women's issues with men? I'd love to have the discussion, tell me what you are referring to... This video is about Shaq saying not to open up to a women.

[@MrColdwilliam]

@@betterthanyaaverage...1036 yes, I'm asking what are women the bad actors and problematic? Where do women need to improve and become better towards others and society? And you can't say "selecting men because men ain't ish".

[@betterthanyaaverage...1036]

@MrColdwilliam If I'm looking it through the lens that Shaq is talking about, women have to give men the space to not feel it's safe enough to share with out being judged or fear that it will be used against them later. The home and relationship are supposed to be a safe haven.

[@solodolo3378]

See how that woman threw divorce in Shaqs face.

[@jeromejenkins151]

The first thing they did as soon as he said something they didn't like was to do the exact thing he said they'd do when you open up to em😂 and that's throw your past in your face. You can't make this sh!t up

[@shoazdon7000]

She ain’t even his woman and she did that 😂😂😂

[@jaysouthmusic8230]

@@shoazdon7000which proves shaqs point

[@skyrobin4008]

Everyone should “open up” to their therapist. I’m not a therapist and it’s only so much I want to hear before it just annoys me.

[@MrColdwilliam]

Being unable to listen is a far more difficult problem than feeling unheard. Therapy doesn't help people be healthy in sick environments. No amount of therapy can help anyone live in a world where connection is impossible.

[@kareemabduljacandybar4558]

the last caller literally made shaq's point 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@jaysouthmusic8230]

Yup

[@efo575]

That last caller proved his point.. Shaq opened up about his divorce and his regrets about things he would’ve done differently.. What does the caller do? Comes up and throws it right back in his face… 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@jaysouthmusic8230]

Right and wonders why men don’t say anything. I feel bad for whoever dates her

[@canucks3527]

Envy at his divorce hearing … “dang shaq was right” 😆

[@tommeytoo-me5255]

I love how the last caller just proved his point, insulting him by talking about him being single and divorced. Ohh the irony.

[@kinggodtravis]

I 100% agree with Shaq, you can't, it doesn't matter who they are and have been. Me and my ex went to 4 different therapists. It is not about just saying stuff to hurt you, they will use something you share with them against you. I told my ex I don't like helping my mom with for example a new phone, she rather you do it instead of teaching her, and my ex got mad at me and told my mom I said I don't like doing anything for her. And I'm sitting there like that is not what I said 🤨

[@jaysouthmusic8230]

My man you dodged a bullet

[@kinggodtravis]

@@jaysouthmusic8230 Yes Sir!

[@50MAN50AMAZIN]

Men fight with their fist women fight with their words.

[@TheillmaticMD]

Amazing advice. Excellent advice. I love this.. Shaq is amazing man this the best advice one can give a fellow man.

[@Vramirez6582]

It goes both ways, In my younger immature days, I have thrown shit back into my other halfs face. I regret it!

[@iBryanDBrown]

I totally agree with Shaq. You can open up on certain things but sure you're prepared for those to be weaponize when the relationships go through tough times. Envy wife definitely weaponized their private sex life lol.

[@simonmaduxx6777]

Context is everything. Women are amazing until they use your feelings against you. Women are amazing until they see you're not really making that much money. Women are amazing until that super judgmental inner woman comes out and focuses on you. Women are still amazing but they ain't no angels lol. Inb4 somebody responds what about guys 😮

[@SWOTHDRA]

💯💯💯💯💯

[@PRIMETIMESTJ]

💯💯💯

[@houseofmatrix6174]

Keep preaching

[@MrColdwilliam]

Tl;Dr: tell a monkey to write Shakespeare and he's just gonna throw the pencil in frustration. That's women dealing with men's emotions. Women exist in a world of entitled passivism. Listening to a man takes work, ESPECIALLY if his sadness means you need to work on YOURSELF. Women also don't exist in a world that shows them HOW to be the one responsible for their outcomes in intrapersonal relationships. They're not the responsible party for ANY action or reaction that occurs for anything in anyplace in society. So now their man is sad - they have work to do, don't know how to do it, don't know what to do, and can't even fathom where to begin.

[@King-ns7it]

Vvomen have zero empathy for men. Gayle King just threw a dude under the bus for borrowing money and he paid her back on time. They only want emotional intelligence when it comes to their own problems and emotions. If you as a man has a problem, you are deemed as weak by vvomen. It's just the cold hard truth, they call men narcissist, but they are the true narcissist simply by the definition of not being able to have empathy

[@302ec]

7 years into marriage and I refuse to be vulnerable with her. Sure we have deep discussions but I don't cry with my wife. She has never seen me cry and I hope it remains that way. Ill cry in the car 😆

[@thatraspyshxt]

Wow and you're proud of yourself huh? You're not........a trustworthy person.

[@muhammednaif9927]

maybe women are not worhty of trust@@thatraspyshxt

[@Cool_Ace]

The last caller literally proved Shaqs point.

[@maskedman5657]

10:18 I can't believe you just said that Charlemagne 😂

[@mrgrinchkushington8593]

On so many levels I feel him🤷🏾

[@chefnic4763]

I can read my husband like a book and he knows he has a safe place to be vulnerable. He has emotional and mental health support from me always. Shaq, stop the BS.

[@svbion]

Not BS. You might just be one of the few good ones..

[@chefnic4763]

@@svbion I understand that but he's saying all women. We are not all bad. Just like not all men are bad.

[@svbion]

Agreed. Your situation isn't the norm or majority unfortunately.

[@chefnic4763]

@@svbion It is unfortunate. We need to be more understanding and loving to our significant others. Life is too short for the bs.

[@Yomommahouse]

He’s speaking in general obviously it’s not going to apply to every woman who ever walked this earth.

[@eddiebrown3881]

The "triple T effect"...(T)ell a woman,( T)elephone, (T)ell a friend. Nothing is secure.

[@JERMAINE650]

Shaq with the facts

[@setatsdetinu3704]

Thank u Shaq from now on the only person I'm being an open book with is my child.🤞🏾✊🏾💯

[@happythoughts8291]

He right don’t fall in love with a women you gonna regret it

[@TikyeWilliams]

Every time that’s why I fell in love with money

[@happythoughts8291]

@@TikyeWilliams 💯

[@bxi1547]

Simps learn this when it’s too late.

[@umb2692]

Yup fall in love with the bros

[@RespectMyGangsta76]

He right when I told my wife all my secrets she turned abusive & controlling. Taking my phone all the time putting me on punishment cursing my mother out

[@adamantinerebelle7578]

"When It Comes to Opening Up Your Feelings" 🤣 Envy Made Sure to Get That Clear. Guess He Not a Gusband Today! 😂😂😂 (As Soon As I Was About to Post My Comment, He Went Left! 🤣 Per Usual)

[@PlainJane82]

It goes both ways if yall are in a heated argument. Men will go below the belt just as much as a woman will. If you find your life partner you should be opening up and if they are a good person they won’t go below the belt and throw it back in your face 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@King-ns7it]

Not true, when vvomen deemed they are hurt, rather than was a man's intention or not. If they feel attacked, then they will burn everything down no matter what that other person has done for them

[@MrColdwilliam]

Name one area where you think women can improve how they treat others in their lives, especially men. 100% you can't do this without making it about men being bad. 100% certain. So certain I promise a donation of $20USD to the charity of your choice if you can. Just one.

[@King-ns7it]

@@MrColdwilliam she can't, and has never even thought about it in her lifetime, I guarantee it

[@island97]

This DOES NOT go both ways equally at all. Men are scared to even answer when asked how their gf/wife looks in an outfit. You think they are going to go below the belt in an argument? Women are vicious when it comes to insulting ppl. Lol

[@thatraspyshxt]

​@King-ns7it it is true. Men can be just as rude and low as anybody else. Stop with this" men don't do this" cause they do. 😂

[@donanderson3520]

The caller literally prove shaq,s point

[@RicardoOdum]

The last lady who called is exactly the type of who Shaq is talking about. Shaq has clearly been traumatized by something/someone to where he feels that way. Then not only does she blame him for it, and not the woman he trusted, but says "that's why he's still single." Women have the ability of dropping the ball and being shitty too, just like we do. We talk about it a lot less than y'all, but we go through the exact same things y'all do. Everybody deals with bullshit, it just seems like it happens a lot more to y'all because we don't discuss or deal with it.

[@thatraspyshxt]

You know Shaq was cheating his ass off right? So his POV is flawed and he should go to therapy.

[@summersalt123]

@@thatraspyshxtHow does that change the overall point?

[@divineintervention212]

It was probably superhead. She did write about how self conscious he is about his🍆 in.her book.😕

[@jamisoncrowe1872]

I agree with the last caller like what kind of toxic relationships have yall been in.

[@thatraspyshxt]

@summersalt123 it changes every fxcking thing. He wasn't communicating. He was cheating instead. And now he's a single man. Now get the fxck on.

[@iWinsomeLosesome]

All behavior is learned behavior. You learn to lock up or you learn to open up; likewise, you learn to protect someone's emotions or you learn to weaponize them. Choose smarter people, learned people.

[@KhalylaKuhnt]

Gotta agree with shaq on this one

[@Crypto_nino]

The last caller proved Shaq"s points...."Thats why you divorced now" women will always go for the jugular

[@tripbless2063]

Facts 😂😂

[@MrColdwilliam]

Women are so preprogrammed that you can call out what will happen and they can't help but do it. Always "deflect to men" > counterpoint "I don't understand" > clarification "Shame insult guilt and need to be right" > go to third party for validation. Without fail.

[@Morenita892]

didn't he cheat though in like most of his relationships.

[@tripbless2063]

@@Morenita892 and that matters how

[@KeithSmith.]

​@@Morenita892further proving his point

[@kanomorojele4956]

🔥0:29 100% ..Lived it!! ..and they say it with no Shame.

[@KingChaChing21]

Why would you open up to someone who’s going to manipulate and gaslight you because there feelings

[@chopgotsauce6812]

Any topic on women Charlemagne gon make sure to get in "what about men, men do it too." 😂😂😂

[@ramsesdavis3569]

Shaq Speaking True Facts 👍🏾💯 Because they will use it against you & report that information back to The Haters Headquarters

[@omgeoh]

Why do a lot of men think "opening up" means crying? lol Opening up is a part of communication, it doesn't mean that you have to cry. It just means you're open about how you feel. You don't have to cry to express how you feel.

[@alvinsquezz]

Emotional woman tell us what “OPENING UP” mean.

[@Mark73172]

Whoever is “opening up” defines what it means to THEM. The listener does not make this definition.

[@omgeoh]

@@Mark73172 BINGO.

[@JustXavier]

No need to pause, he fast-forwarded to the scene he wanted. Facts.

[@Mindlessmentor]

He is correct

[@maniac50ae14]

😂Damn, people really out here having whole relationships and families with their enemies, this is crazy!!! What attracts you to someone you cant trust? What makes you want to be around a person you feel like that towards?

[@QueenofBluntTruth]

Humans are weird and then they having raw sex to top it off

[@bosse1092]

This!! 💯

[@1taeok]

Shaq didn't open to women because he felt that worked for him...and still cheated! Folks really think they have the answer and still fail the tests.

[@SWOTHDRA]

🤡🤡🤡 typical fee-mail response

[@1taeok]

@@SWOTHDRA You sound scorned. You don't have to be a female to have this thinking. 🤡

[@ruebascu]

He cheated on the woman that cheated on her man to get with him. And she's still cheating on the new dude

[@otisjenkinsjr.3556]

​@@ruebascusee!!!

[@1taeok]

​@@ruebascuA lie to change the narrative...ha. Stay focused.

[@LuisDMartinez]

Please stop following celebrity advice. Mature adults problem-solve and discuss issues that are bothering them. Nowadays everybody is an expert at all everything, but when it comes to their personal affairs…most people can’t come up with communicative solutions.

[@ka9202]

That applies to people in general, not just women, some "men do that too, always try to find the dirt on everyone so they can hold it over a person's head and blackmail them. VET, Vet,Vet and vet them again because a person is going to mirror what they saw in their family growing up.

[@meldrickedwards1892]

Nah, women do this.

[@paccawacca4069]

​@@meldrickedwards1892fax

[@t1dowd]

Facts! It will only be used as ammo later!

[@MEDIADIPPP]

Shaq is smart

[@mcflyjediguy7719]

Cuz they throw it back in ur face (Facts) Shaq 👍❤💯

[@fredrainey3038]

I wouldn't take advice from a man who had an affair

[@fredrainey3038]

He even admitted to being a serial cheater like dude sit down

[@indiefilmmillennial8338]

I think Shaq has learned and (hopefully) evolved from his younger self. But his advice does shine a light on why his marriage failed.

[@Yomommahouse]

Yeah well if you smart you would. See I guy with that much money has experience with women that you would never have. Most men agree with him actually.

[@kylel6860]

I’ve experienced that’s in a failed relationship, I’ll never do it again

[@KayNaude]

Can you people please start surrounding yourselves with women that actually love you? PLEASE!

[@richmondwotters]

Love is a social construct

[@Yomommahouse]

Women don’t love you. They love what you can do for them. You’re pretty much asking every man to surround themselves around their mother and grandmother lol it’s y’all nature. Only women and children are loved unconditionally. Most older men have made peace with it. You should too.

[@danielchansa9375]

You Women usually see that as being weak

[@umb2692]

@@richmondwottersdate the bros baby plsss y’all gotta lot in common find your mate in this section honey

[@richmondwotters]

@@umb2692 please don’t attack my manhood because you disagree with my opinion. It’s counterproductive

[@blackisrael1156]

Facts no lies told

[@DL._.]

I gotta play devils advocate on this topic I agree with Shaq on this cause it’s better for men to open up to other men cause other men will understand male struggles and the reality is that women don’t understand men struggle because men live life on hard mode and women live life on easy mode

[@jas1565]

Yeah, you're delusional.

[@King-ns7it]

Facts

[@missynnifer]

Agreed with you up until ‘women live life in easy mode’. Everyone has it hard in some regard, and we’ll never truly understand the other side. but one thing women have it better in comparison to men is we tend to open up to our other female friends and more women are going to therapy. Men should be able to open up to each other and support each other the way that women have been able to.

[@danielsosanya1381]

​@@missynnifera woman can lie & say a man "touched" her & face no punishment when caught lying, women can hit a man 1st & face no legal action, women automatically get custody of children whether married or unmarried, women can make money just by taking naked pics, all advantages men can't sniff. What happened to George Floyd would never happen to a women bc someone would've helped her. In other countries where women have no rights you may have a point but no in America it's way easier for women than men. The icing on the cake as a man no one will ever care about you or gaf about you people only care to use men for what they can provide. Women can't even fathom a life where no one truly cares about them.

[@DL._.]

@@missynnifer Ok but when men go to therapy the therapist gives them medication and thinking medication make their problems go away that’s all lies for therapists and pharmaceutical companies make money off of relying on therapist and the truth is that for men they need a brotherhood and God once the men has those things men could tackle obstacles that life throws at them

[@Kaimaxz]

Can't deny I'm currently dealing with the reasons why he said you shouldn't. However, with that being said, I feel like with the right woman you definitely can, and should be able to honestly.

[@keynolivia]

Any man/woman that thinks this way is an untrustworthy person and doesn’t need to be in a relationship until they work on themselves.

[@dwaynejordan6750]

Some things are Best to keep to Yourself... it's a Thin Line between Love and Hate..

[@cloverthird]

As long as we don’t get our advice from the most single group of individuals on this planet (BW) we should be fine. Also, Shaq is correct.

[@Morenita892]

Why you have to make it about blk women No one mentioned race. It was about shaq telling Men not to open up to women 😂😂 BTW we're not all single im married

[@shannan4580]

I wouldn't use info a person shared me against them. I wouldn't want it done to me.

[@ladytee3186]

Of course you can’t tell a woman that you ultimately BETRAY by taking her for granted/disrespecting her by cheating, etc because you have now ARMED her to air out ur business and embarrassing the hell outta you💁🏽‍♀️

[@StrawHatGamingg]

Evil

[@ladytee3186]

@@StrawHatGamingg Don’t hate the player…. hate THE GAME🤷🏽‍♀️

[@StrawHatGamingg]

@@ladytee3186 that’s the problem. Someone with common sense don’t got time for that

[@ladytee3186]

@@StrawHatGamingg exactly, and yet here we are💁🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

[@otisjenkinsjr.3556]

​@@ladytee3186she cheated on her man to get Shaq..... Don't hate the playa

[@rob_b_me]

My man said "damn, you don't trust her yet" lol I'm dying bruh

[@Myubercanrap]

@1:58 Charla: "you open up huh" 🤣🤣🤣

[@Candies1Creations]

Yall need to heal.

[@lordpookie]

this is terrible advice btw

[@lordfriezachrist6546]

Excellent advice

[@bigmoney3727]

I think it depends on the person and not just women men too..we ALL gotta be accountable.

[@n3morest184]

how many championships and m's do you have

[@spadesx9163]

@@n3morest184what the hell does that have to do with the type of advice he’s giving? !d!0t

[@dream-nk5xv]

He's showing men how he lost his wife

[@artiss2k]

Shaq ain't never lied!

[@kylia2009]

I think the core foundation of a romantic relationship should be friendship... you should be able to open up to your wife the same way you can open up to your male best friend.

[@ANTTEAMSMOKE]

Huh

[@mrrieger1]

Terrible

[@otisjenkinsjr.3556]

I ain't friends with no woman. Know your place or keep it pushing

[@jayo208]

Spoken like every clueless woman that doesn't know a damn thing about men and how we are wired or think 🤦🏿‍♂️🤣😂🤣😭😭😭😭😭

[@echooscar1914]

I am in 100% agreement with Shaq. The only women who deserve to be open up to are women of our mother and grandmother’s generation. These generation of women are a No No.

[@tareekmichael7027]

What type of women shaq knows....

[@miltonelliott8506]

Same kind you know

[@tareekmichael7027]

@@miltonelliott8506 doesnt sound like it. I know plenty women i could open up to...That includes pass relationships, friends, family.

[@miltonelliott8506]

@@tareekmichael7027 you go ahead and you going to regret it.

[@miltonelliott8506]

@@tareekmichael7027 beta male

[@tareekmichael7027]

@@miltonelliott8506 your the beta male or I am?

[@ceasar617]

Never!

[@King-Killa-Ca]

I'm 45 Single without Kids because these Broads ain't Loyal #Brooklyn #BachelorGang #NoKidsGang

[@MotivationWeightLoss]

I'm 34 Single Without Kids......Same Here Bro!!

[@seymourintl9155]

I’m 30 single with no kids.

[@jas1565]

Thank you Charlemagne. It's not a gender thing because it goes both ways. But if you don't feel that you can open up to someone you're with, why are you still with them? Specifically on men though.. a lot of men don't open up to anyone. So is the issue women, or is it your lack of trust? You don't open up to your male friends/family members, you don't go to therapy.

[@SWOTHDRA]

It is a gender thing, Shaq gets it.

[@jas1565]

@@SWOTHDRA it isn't but ok.

[@Yomommahouse]

It is gender. My girl can open up to me anytime. She cry, say she doesn’t feel good or doesn’t have money and can’t pay her car. Then I’ll pay it for her blah blah but you think I can do that to her? Or most men? If so you’re delusional. And if a man do it the relationship won’t last because you’ll lose respect for him. Why do y’all want men and women to be the same so bad? These comments and callers are exactly why you shouldn’t open up. Literally y’all proving his point