Breaking the Silence: Coping with Retirement

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Coping with retirement can be tough. Learn how to combat loneliness and social isolation in this video on breaking the silence of retirement. Let's Talk!
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[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

We wanted to address all the questions about retirement, the fun and not so fun, please share this with anyone who are having concerns about retirement.

[@user-fx5ru1de9g]

I just wanted to share that I’ve recently retired, Yay! I’m not ready to join a senior’s centre/club but we recently lost my mother and my father at 78 felt really lost without her. We suggested he visit his local senior’s club. He was welcomed with open arms. He joined yoga, pickle ball, morning exercises, plays cards in the afternoons, dancing, pot lucks, he has his lunch at the centre Monday to Friday. He loves it. He’s now 80 and still loving it. He’s an introvert, and is very happy he went, he’s made friends. There are several clubs in his area but starting at the smaller one helped him open up a whole new world, he now also takes classes and attends events from a bigger centre. If you are lonely please consider visiting a 55 + club/centre. My father is very happy, healthy and enjoys his life in a whole new way.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Wonderful thank you for sharing glad your Dad is happy 🙂

[@andreamoore6394]

I am so happy to hear that your father is enjoying his activities and social time at the Senoirs centre. We lost my mom 2 years ago, and I tried to encourage my dad to go, but he only went once. He keeps active and has a few friends.

[@randymillhouse791]

Be careful with that. My Dad lived at Leisure World in Silver Spring Maryland back in the late 1980's after our mother passed in 1987. He met this lady that was a complete forkin' NUTJOB! At one point she looked at my sister and I, both in our mid-twenties at the time, and exclaimed "MY BABIES!!!!" "Hey Dad, lose this psychojob weirdoff NOW!"

[@rebeccabackfisch228]

My mother died 8 years before my father. He was devastated and adrift until he found that the local community center hosted a weekly "widowed-persons support group". He joined and just being in that group turned him into a social animal (my mother had always joked, "If I go first your father's going to go become a hermit in the woods"!!). The group so enjoyed each others' company that when the center -- 2 or 3 years on -- told them the purpose of the group had run its course for them and they needed to use the space for another meeting, the group turned into a weekly lunch bunch which met for several more years. The irony to me is hearing all of the advice on avoiding loneliness in retirement strikes me as very much parallel to advice I've given my own children when they struggled with the transition to college. It's a similar change, and I told my daughter more than once -- "You've just got to keep putting yourself out there and trying new things until you find the people you click with!!" It's hard, but it only takes finding a small group of friends (or really even one or two) to turn it all around.

[@nildavillegas3507]

So happy to hear these encouraging stories. My dad is 90. He lost first my mother many years ago and just three weeks ago he lost his girlfriend with whom he has been for the last 22 years. He is devastated and feels so lonely. I am just waiting he passes the mourning period to see if I can interest him in joining a seniors club. He is quite healthy for his age, very social, has energy and has a clear mind. I pray he accepts to join a seniors club when he is ready.

[@waffles1ca]

Hanging out with seniors, listening to them complain… no thanks to that, I’m so lucky I enjoy my own company, sympathies to those who don’t. By all means stay active!

[@keepcreationprocess]

I love complaints- I love seniors- I am still young - 🌱 - but I understand that...

[@monicaambs]

I have a great inner life and guard my alone time. I value being by myself. Then I also work at a Home & Garden Gallery selling ladies fashion. I will be 70 on the 18th and have lived alone for 13 years. I have very good friends but don’t want to sit and wait on their doorstep. I prefer to a lot on my own as well. Inner life is very important because eventually people will start dying around you.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Thanks for sharing Monica 🙂🌺

[@sandihunter1260]

It can get lonely even if you are married. My husband has Parkinsons and goes to be very early every night. My evenings can be very lonely but I do research on line and chat with my son in Korea etc. I joined a bowling league that is so much fun. We have to look for things to do, even on our own.

[@RG-cz1tc]

It is wonderful that you are there for your husband. Parkinsons is difficult, and so many people think that the person has dementia because he/she has little facial expression, and so they ignore them. So be there for him, it may be lonely but I can assure you that when he is gone it can be more lonely, so good you have other activities and your son. I have been there with my parents.

[@Autonomous1969]

I'm one of the rare people that doesn't even know what loneliness is. I love being on my own and have so many hobbies that I'm constantly occupied.

[@keepingitreal618]

Me too it’s difficult for me to understand. I presume if you’ve had family around you then probably would feel that way.

[@Autonomous1969]

@@keepingitreal618 I'm from a massive family but always just went off on my own.

[@fremontpathfinder8463]

I actually like being by myself but also have a small pet rescue so I am never lonely

[@ponygirl5716]

I have lived alone most of my adult life. I’ve also had several pets at a time. I have found that the only time that I ever felt lonely was when I went for a few months without a dog. if people are able to get a pet, it helps so much. I find dogs, especially become the ideal life partner.

[@keepingitreal618]

Absolutely I rely on my dogs. They get me out and about. Definitely perfect partners for me 😂😂😂

[@RG-cz1tc]

As the expression goes "if you want a friend, get a dog" I have had several, from adoption until they passed. They get you out walking, they generate conversations with strangers. They always think you are the greatest. Where else can you find that in this world?

[@samspade1841]

Dogs are our best friends!

[@samspade1841]

Dogs are our best friends!

[@jesseinasia]

Norm Man, you don't have to put on the alarm clock / Those working days are over / You don't have to sell your body to the night

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

😂😂

[@Jacquie_Kirk_111]

I'm widowed, it's tough. You have each other at least! Thanks for the great video.

[@elizabethk3238]

I live alone too. It's not difficult. You just need to change your attitude?

[@ddavidson5]

I joined the senior centre near me a couple of weeks after I retired at age 61, primarily to join the seniors hiking club there. They hike mornings twice a week, it keeps me active and it's a social thing too. In the last 9 years hiking with the group I have discovered dozens of nature areas close to our house that I didn't even know existed and I have hiked the 900km Bruce Trail end to end with their more adventurous Bruce Trail sub-group (not all at once - it took 3 years to complete). That said for new retirees joining the senior's centre can be a difficult step to take. I know when I went there with my wife, who retired a couple of months after I did, she froze at the door and said "I can't do this". I get it, a few weeks ago you were a busy valued member of your work team and now you think you are heading into a place filled with people playing cards and using walkers. I convinced my wife to go in anyway and once inside she saw 3-4 people that she had worked with and already knew. In our case we find the senior's centre is filled with active and engaging people so don't hold back, give it a try.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Great comment David thanks for sharing hope it might encourage others to join too have a great weekend 🍷🍻🙂

[@jenniferlee7167]

As a retired nurse, I found that i love working with animals as a dog walker and sitter. I also feed cats while people are away. It can fit my schedule and I am home daily M-F by 1:30 PM. I may or may not do Hoildays....as I get older I know that I want to also spend time with family if they are available. I may not see the dog owners much as they are working and often from home, however, the dogs are wonderful and carefully screened for private walks.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Sounds like a wonderful arrangement Jennifer and you also get exercise, as we age our situations change and there is nothing wrong with changing your focus.

[@andylowell7405]

You should do pet sitters international!

[@davidmaclachlan]

We have two little dogs. Great companions, and as they are smaller, we can take them with us almost everywhere. They fill the house with life, enjoy a routine, and keep us active when we might otherwise choose to loaf on the couch. Just back from our evening walk. Thanks as always!

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

That is truly rewarding David 🐶🐶

[@carolemousdell4444]

In the UK there is an organisation called U3A (university of the 3rd age) run completely by volunteers, most towns and cities have one. It costs just £13 per year and has every interest you can think of represented by members using their skills to pass on to others, it can be anything from learning a language, flower arranging, music appreciation, hiking. I myself started a ukulele group and we have so much fun and have made such a lot of friends! Thank you Tina and Norm for highlighting this! ❤

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Sounds great Carole 🙂🌺

[@rustykatt3870]

There are dance exercises for seniors on the web (KZbin). I have decided that internet costs are sufficiently large to really use this for exercise, rather than shelling out a big amount for a gym. Good luck to us all 😃.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Great idea thanks for sharing Rusty 🙂

[@keepcreationprocess]

absolutely - (2)-problems you adressed & Norm s joke.

[@brucesnyder690]

Retired expat from the US livjng jn Thailand six years. Havent been lonely for a moment. Have a great Thai Wife. Plenty to do. Long walks, motorcycle rides, visiting with friends, eating out, plenty plenty of travel. No expats where i live. Dont miss them. Stay in touch with friends and family. Retirement here is great!! Would never go back to the US!! Currently on a two week road trip to Phuket. To Bangkok for a dew weeks late May. Vietnam three weeks in August. Life is awesome!!

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Sounds awesome, Tina won’t let me get a Thai wife 😂😂

[@brucesnyder690]

@ThisIsOurRetirement ha ha I'd keep Tina!!

[@E.E.F.]

I will retire very soon and have already been invited to the retired teachers' monthly breakfast. I am an introvert and love solitude, but I will enjoy staying in touch with those former colleagues who became friends. Most of them will be at my retirement party next month. 🙂

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Happy retirement!

[@Savannah-ed4rv]

Very good advice! I would also say to not ignore your long lasting friendships because not staying in contact leaves that other person feeling lonely and rejected. My mom is 88 years old and most of her friends have stopped calling or writing. She's almost deaf but still needs friends and has cried often because she doesn't understand why they have all stopped contacting or socializing with her 😢😢😢 It shouldn't always be one oerson trying to keep a relationship either. Do your part in the calling and arranging!

[@heatheraho224]

In Thunder Bay, we have an excellent senior centre called "55 Plus" - large amount of classes, library, restaurant, outdoor gardening......I have taken 2 computer classes there learning about my MacBook Pro and am now enrolled in an exercise class called "Sit and Fit". Thanks for your great videos!

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

That is awesome! Enjoy your weekend Heather 🍷🙂

[@RG-cz1tc]

To paraphrase Mark Twain " the coldest winter day I experienced was a summer day in Thunder Bay". He was referring to San Francisco, but I have been to Thunder Bay in June, coming from Vancouver. Beautiful rugged country for sure.

[@patsycathcart1]

In the US, there is a Silver Sneakers program for senior citizens that is usually free through Medicare or your Medicare supplement. This gets you into many gyms free of charge and helps keep us active as we are on the road. We use it everywhere we travel in the states. We recently volunteered to be poll workers for elections in our county. (We travel too much to volunteer on a regular basis.) The training alone taught us so much about the process and we are looking forward to serving. We think every eligible voter should have the opportunity for this training. We were shocked to find that the process is very transparent and the security is unbelievably detailed.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

That’s really interesting Patsy have a great weekend Cheers 🙂🇺🇸🇨🇦

[@pintsizestories196]

I think the underlying message is that you have to make the effort to get out or reach out to people. Don't be discouraged if some people you reach out to don't want to be your friend. Just keep interacting with people and you will make friends. I knew an older lady and she would invite people for lunch at her home. She was a wonderful cook and people were always happy to have lunch with her. She didn't just invite people of her own age but all ages. It kept her life interesting.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

What a great story thanks for sharing 🍷🍻

[@jonniesantos]

It’s a learning curve to manage your own time after you’ve worked for others for decades. I think you don’t have to be busy or productive to be happy. If I can make a pot of coffee and get showered and dressed daily, everything else is a bonus. It’s a little lonely related to my age as so much of my family has passed; another learning process I guess. Thank you for today’s video.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Thanks Jonnie, retirement is a personal thing different for everyone.

[@barbaracarr17]

Our neighborhood has quite a few people who walk for exercise. Many of us have exchanged names and stop to chat when we see each other. This has made our neighborhood feel very supportive and friendly.

[@ftkinsella]

This one hits close to home. There were days when I had never felt so lonely with so many people around me. And I was smiling at everyone. I am now going out with my best friend from work. It’s been much better and it’s just one day a week. Thanks guys for the support and information. Cheers ❤❤😊

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

We are so pleased Frank you are meeting your best from work , and we are always happy to hear from you 🙂

[@RG-cz1tc]

I have learned over the years that people you thiink "have it made" lots of friends, money, fancy car, etc. are often very lonely, and you would never know in a social situation. I wish I had reached out more to some of them, but one doesn''t see it.

[@maryrosed8475]

We use our Library. It has everything. Every daily paper published. Great to sit down and read with a cup of coffee or tea.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Sounds great! 🙂

[@Barb6106]

Enjoyed this video! I got very lucky. At 72, when Covid hit, I got put on furlough. Six months later, when I was called back, I decided I’d had enough. It was a very busy job with lots of stress and lots of people. Suddenly, I was home and as things opened back up after lockdowns, I ventured out. Retirement complete..the forced alone time made it easier, I think. After years of “peopling”, this new life suits me. It is now 4 years since my forced full stop… and I think being eased back out into the world as restrictions lifted, it made it so much easier for me to adjust to retirement. I enjoyed your trip videos and the financial recap. Very interesting! Stay safe!💕

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Thanks for watching Barb we are glad you enjoyed it , and that you are enjoying being retired 🙂💕

[@DanaLuvsNature]

This is a wonderful video, you guys are so caring and genuine :)

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Thank you so much!

[@desertfish6239]

I don't get lonely as I have my hobbies to keep me busy but I often take my dog to the dog park. There is always someone there to visit with while the dogs play.

[@lisah336]

I joined my local senior center. I've met so many interesting people from all sorts of backgrounds. The gym equipment is quite good.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

That is awesome!

[@lafarrell3192]

The Police is one of Rick Beato‘s top four bands that will be remembered! The others are the Beatles Queen and Nirvana. Rick is a fellow KZbinr, very knowledgeable about music. Love you guys!

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

We love all those bands thanks for watching 🙂

[@ddavidson5]

I agree, The Police are a great band and I saw them at the original Police Picnic in Oakville way back in 1981 but I would say they were a faux punk band and not really punk as Norm describes them. For sure The Police weren't anything like the Killing Joke punk band that was a support act at that same 1981 show. I think The Police only took on the punk persona because punk was the only thing exciting happening in music at the time so punk it was. I think it was more of a marketing thing, but true punk? A great band but certainly not in the same category as say The Clash or The Ramones. I liked them though and I have tickets to see Sting at Toronto Massey Hall in September.

[@lyndawilson1874]

Great video on this touchy subject! Thank you Norm and Tina!

[@elizabethk3238]

Haven't watched you in a while. You 2 are looking better and better. As a happy and healthy ,76 year-old, I sense we have a similar attitude to retirement life. Best years of my life! As a retired MSW/university counsellor, my doctor keeps telling me I should start an Inspirational Blog.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Great to hear from you Elizabeth , you are never too old staring a Blog a great idea 💡 Cheers 🍷🙂

[@BeingBoringx2]

To add to the list of volunteering possibilities, there are any number of arts organizations from museums to cinemas to playhouses and concert halls where volunteers are often the backbone of the organization. Not only do the volunteers get to mingle with others as greeters and ushers and the like, they also get access to the shows or exhibits for free and other perks.

[@NorthernLibrarian]

I highly recommend volunteering too. I have been a museum volunteer for about 15 years. At 70 I am one of the youngest of a group of 200. We are on hiatus for a couple of years due to major renovations but still arrange to meet in small groups at each other’s homes once a month. It may take a bit of trial and error to find the right fit but so worth it when you finally do.

[@iniabellepaz445]

Hi Tina and Norm , another great video. Thank you for all the tips and suggestions. Stay well

[@darlenebuchanan6552]

Good advice!!!!

[@ozarkchief7]

Nice shirt! The Police were one of my favorite bands in the early 80s...I had all their albums. They had an appropriate song for your video topic of loneliness..."So Lonely"

[@RetiredLovingIt]

Great tips Norm & Tina! Another great video

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Thanks so much! Hope you both have a wonderful weekend Cheers 🇺🇸☕️🍷🇨🇦

[@lenaing1073]

Thank you for the very useful advice.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Glad you found it helpful! 🙂

[@barbaraebner5889]

You both are so very positive. Thank You!❤️

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Our pleasure! 🙂

[@marygarrapa3537]

I entirely agree with you. We stop for coffee after our keep fit class and we all belong to a book club. It's really enjoyable and definitely great therapy.

[@RoseGrace100]

Great ideas Tina and Norm. Thank you.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

You are so welcome! Enjoy your weekend Rose 🍷🙂

[@gkschick6804]

This book looks as though it will be a worthwhile read for me. Just put it on hold at my local library. Thanks for the tip!

[@anniec6420]

fantastic video with lots of great advice....love the book review at the end....

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Thanks so much! We are nearly finished reading it , very thought provoking Annie Cheers 🍻🍷

[@sulemanpiracha8123]

Another great videio- Thanks for sharing the book, will get it

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Hope you enjoy it! We just finished it 🙂

[@andrewbilton5993]

Another great and valuable video guys. Just a thought- you touched on mental health at the end. Be great to perhaps have a further video on the lessons you have gained in life generally about positive mental health/ well-being and looking after this aspect of one’s life. Many thanks - Andrew

[@ceparksromanceharps]

Thanks for all the great suggestions on coping with retirement. I will be retiring on June 28 of this year, so I need to write down my list of things I want to do in retirement. I plan to get the house repairs done, then go on some exploratory trips to Europe to see if the there is a good fit. My Irish friends want me to move to Ireland but it's an expensive country to live in. Thinking either Portugal or the Dordogne region of France. I'm still planning on walking the entire Cotswolds Way next year. Plus I'll have time to do the woodworking projects I've wanted to make for years. Trust you both are keeping well. Carry on!

[@valdamarielegault1907]

Lunch with Tina and Norm on this rainy spring day! Cheers!

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

It’s sunny here 19°c great to have lunch with you both 😂😂

[@sjbutler2330]

Really great points Tina & Norm concerning loneliness. This can happen to everybody at different times in your, and our lives. Thanks for the ideas! Sandra 💙💫💙

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Your very welcome Sandra have a great weekend 🍷🙂

[@rachelwalsh4378]

Morning Tina & Norm ❤️🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿

[@wrongwayconway]

I like McDonald's in the morning for a coffee (senior small coffee 1.35). Years ago we had a morning group we nicknamed "The Layabouts" none of us were retired though. It was great fun. I look forward to joining a new McDonald's coffee group when I retire in December.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Sounds great ☕️☕️🙂

[@marygarrapa3537]

Organizing charity bazaars is also good for getting to know people. You may be good at making things, anthing from jam to jumpers, or just sorting out the things people donate.

[@williamjones4456]

Cfny picnic then the police picnic late 70s in a field between Oakville and Milton. Thanks Tina and Norm

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Thanks William

[@joanzach4859]

I’ve read “”Die With Zero”. Thought provoking!

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

It certainly is Joan 🌺🙂

[@christopherelliott1711]

Saw the police in 1980 81 and 83 my all time favourite band so good choice Norm ❤

[@mrsllamahead]

We have ordered the book, thanks so much for the recommendation, looks interesting

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Hope you enjoy it! 🙂

[@kcirdorb9591]

I saw the POLICE at Hammersmith Odeon in the winter of 1980...I remember coming out into the pouring rain ( hammering rain) and riding 35 miles home on my newly purchased Honda 400 Dream....by the time I got home I was chilled and soaked to the bone and could hardly get off my bike put it on the kick stand and walk into the house...It took an hour in front of the electric fire to dry out and be able to move again....oh yeah ...the show was great too...."Don't Stand So Close To Me"

[@jeremy1350]

Hi Tina and Norm. I saw (The Animals/The Fixx/and The Police) at the Miami Orange Bowl Stadium on October 28, 1983. I was a freshman in High School. Hubby utilizes both the gym and a pool membership. He runs with the over 55 crowd now. When you commit to working out/swimming, on a regular basis, "Showing up" is just as important as "Going." These are two different ideas. Showing up, means you go often, at your particular time slot, and others show up as well. If they see YOU, and you see THEM, it becomes "Well, I'd better show up" because if I don't someone might miss my presence. That goes for both the gym crowd and the pool crowd. Hubby usually does both, on alternate days, early in the day. And I get a nightly report at dinner about the "No Shows/and the SHOWS." Over time the "Showing up" will make you feel good about "Going." Because if you are committed and dedicated, YOU might spur others into "Dedication and Commitment," yes?? I can't get out, or walk too far, because of my medical situation right now. I am lucky if I can get out of bed in the morning. UGH !!

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Thanks for sharing sorry to hear of your health issues hope you get better soon 🌺🙂

[@derekcox6531]

Die with zero. Such a great book! Highly recommend it!👍

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

We are enjoying reading it very thought provoking Derek 👍🍻

[@cheyennespring3455]

Check your local regular community centers. They have all sorts of activities for ALL ages. As a senior you also get a discount, so it is very affordable (some centers may also be free)

[@barbiecakes77]

Great book- Die with Zero. He “Bill Perkins” has also been on podcasts. 😊

[@bRIZZAd]

Great comments... also enjoyed that book DWZ. I think there is some advice from the book that is pertinent to the subject of loneliness in retirement. That would be in living your life more deliberately. A successful retirement requires lots of planning up front, of which most people focus on the finances. Like you both have done, you also need to take steps to combat isolating yourself in retirement. Relocating from the family home is one thing to consider, as well as some of the advice you've offered here in this video. It requires though, that you get off of 'auto-pilot' to help prevent it from happening. Lots to thing about - look forward to a book review! The title throws many people off, though as the saying goes... 'don't judge a book by its cover'! ;)

[@pattylyman7907]

It's a Food Shelf for me. Have met so many people

[@scrappylifter8318]

I haven’t retired yet, but plan to continue refereeing at my federation’s powerlifting meets. It’s a great way to give back to a sport I’ve enjoyed, and I have friends from all ages and cultures.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

So perfect for you and a great pastime to take you into retirement

[@evadeanu1]

That’s why I volunteer for the city I live in. I made lots of new friends and stay active.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Awesome 👏 Eva 🍷🙂

[@davidthom9159]

Well, I may be one of those "blue jacket" volunteers you ran into Norm. I have been doing it twice a week for 16yrs now and love it !!

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

That’s wonderful David a great way to help others and for you to get new friends Cheers 👍🙂

[@pipmc7927]

As always, a great video. We think one of the key strategies is to begin to volunteer whilst you are still working. We belong to our local Lions Club. The beauty of this is that there are no expectations for members to do more than they can fit into their current lifestyle. Because we both work during the week, we can currently only volunteer for the weekend activities, however as we move into part-time work, our plan is to do more within the club. In this way, we feel that the transition between full time work and retirement will be easier and we will already be set up with community connections. 😊😊😊

[@carolnavan4137]

Great tips. I just joined a local gardening group in my new area as a way to meet people, and am considering a part time job.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

That is awesome! Good luck 🙂

[@libbyannstew8775]

Happy Saturday Norm and Tina. One piece of advice I was given which I think is really solid is try and plan a vacation, whatever you can reasonably afford, that would begin as soon as you retire. So if you finish on a Friday your getaway would begin on the Monday. When you come home you can start your new phase of life having had a disconnection from workaday world.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Great idea!! Libbyann 🙂

[@davelock3166]

Great video, Tina and Norman. We moved to an area which we love, but all our associates are back 'home'. Wondering as we get older, perhaps we should move back.....

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

The thing about when you move is that those people move on with their lives as you have and might not be as you remember. We love where we have moved to and have made wonderful new friends life is full of changes Dave we wish you well 🙂

[@paulhunter6652]

Hi Norm and Tina: I play Table Tennis at a community center once a week. The gym is five mornings a week usually after walking the dog. Swimming, stretching, steam room and camaraderie with lots of retirees and others the last 12 years. Gardening/pool boy work coming up with the warm weather. Travelling, photography and mega concerts/Stratford. We saw Andrea Bocelli last week! Kitchener Blues Festival line-up party at the Edelweiss Tavern tonight! Have a great weekend. Cheers😊 🎉

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

That is awesome! Enjoying your retirement to the fullest Paul , hope you both enjoy a great weekend Cheers 🍷🌺🍻

[@Numismaniac_Canada]

I don’t keep in touch with my last career colleagues, but I certainly see a lot of my ex-military friends through my regimental associations. There’s lots of volunteer activities that I get to do in retirement, including being the Santa for West Edmonton, Mall and Cabelas here in Edmonton. Taking up a hobby is a great thing too. I’m into numismatics.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Being Santa 🎅 sounds an awesome experience and we are sure the kids love ❤️ you 🙂

[@yoona5820]

These are all excellent suggestions, especially for an introvert like me who can struggle at times to reach out to others. 😉

[@sarahr6089]

I'm with you on that, I can totally relate. I retired a few months ago and I'm finding it difficult to find a balance of being on my own and being with others. I have decided to try out a social group at a church (I am not religious and there is no expectation to be so) but told myself I don't have to continue if it doesn't suit me. I'm trying to see retirement as an opportunity to discover new things. All the best.

[@murraytown4]

It’s the Y for me… 5/7. I’ll get the senior’s discount later this year. I say the gym is the new bar.

[@MrSteveblue824]

An important topic T & N!👍There are also some websites and Apps called Meetup where you can meet people with the same hobbies or interests.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Thanks for sharing!!🙂

[@tinasantos4917]

Tina and Norm! I just saw you in Ponta Delgada! I am the crazy person who yelled hello to from a cafe! It was a treat to just get a glimpse of you!

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

We wondered who it was 😂😂

[@tinasantos4917]

@@ThisIsOurRetirement a big fan! Sorry I should have offered to buy you lunch! I presume you are now on the cruise ship. We have followed you for years! And in part based on your experiences we sold everything in the US and now live on São Miguel!

[@monalisa233]

My group of co-workers and I are tying to figure out how to stay in touch once we all retire and we are all around the same age and may go out together. I think a weekly coffee and donuts maybe in order. We do that now every friday at work! Good tips!

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Best of luck with your plan Mona 🙂🌺

[@CitizenTurtleIsland]

It's very encouraging to read comments about finding connections via senior centres, etc. I'm 62 and will retire in a few years. Kind of been wondering about that. One other thing I think I'll try... taking special university courses for "seniors". Maybe another place to find a coffee mate?

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Great idea 🙂

[@markbajek2541]

If you ever take a trip down to Amish indiana (Lagrange, Nappannee , Middlebury ) the Mc donalds in those areas offer senior coffee for .25 cents.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Thanks awesome ☕️ Mark Cheers 🙂

[@grahamlewis6777]

Looking trim Norm!

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Thanks Graham 👍🍻

[@todddunn945]

We don't have a senior center here, but our public library is a fantastic local resource for us. As far as keeping active is concerned, we are lucky to live next door (literally since we share a property line) with a national park. We walk in the park nearly every day. In summer we also enjoy sailing our boat. My on line activities center around my KZbin channel and the other KZbinrs I follow. I find that making KZbin videos gets me out of the house and keeps my mind active via planning, shooting and editing the videos.

[@stacyboyd4591]

Hello from Saint John, New Brunswick. I truly enjoy your channel. Would u please be so kind as to share with me again about your TD travel insurance. What type it is. Thanks

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

We have an annual travel medical plan that we bought through our Bank of Montreal MasterCard called Total Travel And Medical Protection, this plan we bought a long time ago and so we are grandfathered into the original plan, giving us 31 days on any one trip. We top up through TD Insurance, we call their 800 number and ask for a top up, they quote us over the phone. This is how we got coverage for our 78 day trip to Portugal this year. Hope this helps.

[@stacyboyd4591]

Thank u for your response and god bless. Love the new T. Shirt 🥰

[@kevinfestner6126]

I'm looking forward to loneliness in my retirement. If I do travel, and with increasing climate restrictions, this will be more, more difficult to do, I want to travel alone, while we're still permitted to travel without an internal US travel passport. Once the restrictions are imposed, I want to join Alliance Francais. Odd you mentioned morning coffee at McDonald's. That's one of my dreams. Better than taking coffee with Hyacinth Bucket, oh poor Elizabeth! A Hyacinth free coffee. My McDonald's is within the 15 minutes restrictions that are being planned for urban areas.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Always lovely to hear from you Kevin enjoy your coffee ☕️ Cheers 🇺🇸🍻🇨🇦

[@Dans-adventure]

Great video. I have been retired for two years . Stopped working at 61 due to back problems from an accident I had 35 years ago .besides getting used to my limitations I also have my aging Mother and my wifes aging parents with many health problems and waiting for LTC to deal with. It has been difficult to keep up with friendships and to have time for ourselves when having to manage three households. Photography has always been a hobby of mine and for the past year have been making more time for my hobby .now trying to pick a stock photo site to upload and sell some images ( any suggestions ) .also looking to re-join a photo club. It was a rocky start to retirement but it’s slowly getting better.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Thanks for sharing Dan, stock sites to try are Alamy and Shutterstock, good luck 📸📷

[@ColoradoMartini]

Loved the Police

[@kathyradford7187]

We have a senior center and I'm so jealous of retired people who get to go there. I LOvE SWIMMING to Tina. Speaking of calories, is it just me who thinks Norm is losing weight?

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Hi Kathy, yes Norm is intentionally losing weight, great to hear from you on this lovely Saturday.

[@claudiaross239]

Not retired yet but I just joined my local seniors centre as part of my transition to retirement. I was VERY pleasantly surprised by the atmosphere and friendliness of everyone.

[@kdhawes7999]

Great ideas. Perhaps travel? My single, 76 year old brother-in-law takes cruises. Only once a year but he loves getting the opportunity to travel in a group setting.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Sounds great! Lots of people love cruising 🚢 great way to meet others 🙂

[@kdhawes7999]

@@ThisIsOurRetirement This was a very important topic to cover and you did a great job presenting options and being empathetic to social issues. Great subject.🥰

[@magda5820]

❤❤

[@ganderson158]

I am planning to retire soon but I have concerns at time. I am a structured operations manager & I am trying to find out who I am. What do I like? etc. I have worked for over 40 years. and I don't want to sit at home. My wife's health mobility is not the best which happened suddenly. I have thought to delay my retirement…………Just not sure.But this is good for ideas. You guys are so kind as well.

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

We wish you all the best for finding a retirement plan that helps both of you 🍻🙂

[@JTSA1234]

I sometimes go and play seated beach ball volleyball. I can do without the hyper religiosity, though.

[@BoninBrighton]

We love being retired. We’ve been married 42 years. Yes I get lonely mainly because of retiring at 60 means many of my friends are still working until 66/67 due to the WASPI issue.

[@annapower9799]

Would you consider sharing your photos, photography equipment you use, and some tips for beginners??

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

It is a good suggestion Anna but it’s not the focus of our channel Cheers 🍷🙂

[@sct4040]

@@ThisIsOurRetirement You don’t need to focus on 1 subject, a photography course for beginners would be fabulous. It’s a retirement activity. I use my iPhone to click away. Pictures are not great, but it’s really fun, and I practice composition.

[@barbiecakes77]

@ThisIsOurRetirement -part of retirement is enjoying hobbies. It would be nice to know about stock photography and your recommendations. Cheers 🍷🍷🍷

[@annapower9799]

@@ThisIsOurRetirement fair enough. Thanks for responding

[@markshaffer68]

@@ThisIsOurRetirement You could start another channel.

[@tanyajohnston8262]

I attend Bootcamp a HIIT workout that is set up and coached through with a community of folks that become great encouragers and it is not cheap so I make sure I go about 4 times per week. I also love indoor rock climbing that is not as expensive here but I try to go 2 times per week. I also walk my dogs and now I’m buying a bicycle to use this year. I also love to paddle board once the water is warm. We also have many free activities offered at our libraries to attend. And I’m busy creating my KZbin channel each week, as are you 😊. My cozy retirement if your interested, shameful plug 😂

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

You have a great selection of activities congratulations Tanya!

[@scotthoch012]

Senior coffee at McDonalds? We’ll have to give that a try next time. Thanks.

[@KJ-fv1oz]

I am lucky my like #100!

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

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[@brendalabranche365]

Glad you mentioned the YMCA. 😊. You can now get a ( partial) membership for $30 monthly.. for individuals who like the gym, equipment,track and the socializing . I have no interest in the pool, so it works out well. A great option for people who no longer want full ( or family) memberships. ( it’s called the “Y Fit Card” )

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Sounds a great deal Brenda enjoy your weekend Cheers 🍷🙂

[@maryjoan4128]

Go back to church explore your faith build community and volunteer..note if you move right after retirement it's a double issue..you are starting over and leaving colleagues and friends..it will take a bit more effort perhaps..... colleagues

[@Steve-gx9ot]

You did not mention Casinos ur Church or and bookstore etc

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

Our bookstore is Amazon 😂😂

[@jeffl.oliverson6690]

I assume you are not religious or belong to a church as I’ve never heard you mention your spiritual health in any of your videos but, another way to never be lonely is by finding a church family to join. There are also so many groups within churches that create a close family bond that also take care of physical and mental needs as well. Cheers,

[@ThisIsOurRetirement]

For various reasons we avoid politics and religion, as we did when we were sales representatives. You are right and our parents found a belonging in a local church.

[@deborahcaldwell9775]

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