Brother's Bride Banned Me From Their Wedding for Being Bi. So My Parents Disowned Him, and Now...

Brother's Bride Banned Me From Their Wedding for Being Bi. So My Parents Disowned Him, and Now his in-laws harassing me cause of this.
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[@QuackerStacker]

Lightsaber battle on a wedding goes crazy

[@i_existrandomly]

i dont watch the video and i see this😭

[@AarushK007]

I once heard a story about someone objecting to the union at a wedding. It was a person in a pirate attire, and when they got close, the priest took out a sword, too, and they engaged in a sword fight. It was all scripted, but it sounds like a lot of fun, lol.

[@LadyZubat]

I got to do something like this for my wedding because it just sounds so much fun

[@HughJassMarioFan2009]

😂😂😂

[@user-ue5sg9nc5g]

The wife and her family are not Christians. Real Christians don’t harass people or spread hate.

[@tomascaro5224]

True, my parents are Christians, my whole family are christians and they accept me for who I am

[@izzywolflover]

All the ones I know do.

[@user-ue5sg9nc5g]

@@izzywolflover Harass and attack?

[@JustinAdamson270]

That's literally what Christianity is

[@user-ue5sg9nc5g]

@@JustinAdamson270 No. We follow and worship Jesus. People who say they’re Christians and do what that family did, are not real Christians. They’re narcissists who use religion as way to feel superior to others. Which is something Real Christians don’t do

[@sarahheck9831]

Story 1: OP literally says that his parents never stood up for him before so he didn't expect them to now. That is the real sad part here.

[@DarrylECarr]

Sometimes they learn and grow. Sometimes.

[@dontaejones7419]

That proposal hit me like a flashbang, got genuinely teary for a minute 😅 It was really sweet

[@tomascaro5224]

I feel so sad for OP. The brother showed his true colors, and maybe he never really accepted OP and his boyfriend. Shame on him and his witc...i mean wife and her family

[@aluralovell6829]

The sadder thing is he might have truly accepted him at one point. Some people get really weird when it comes to 🍆/🍑 and change their whole moral compass based on a relationship. I know this because my brother did this same goofy shit. Sometimes people aren't actually bigots, they're weak-willed wishy washy morons who flip their morals for 🍆/🍑 which isn't much better if at all but it's important to know the genuine article from a grifter. Still love my brother, but I don't like him.

[@HeyHereTer]

OP sounds like he's use to so much discrimination that it's "just whatever". That's a strength in one way but he shouldn't be such a pushover.

[@alicebedard2764]

As a queer person, if I got angry at every discriminating comment or event I faced, I wouldn’t have energy for anything else. Ignore it, move along ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[@chinaking918]

@@alicebedard2764as a black person I second this. Sometimes it’s best to ignore ppl and move forward.

[@Atomic0907]

⁠@@alicebedard2764exactly, letting discrimination slide isn’t being a “pushover” it’s called being the better person. Bigots want to get reactions out of you so the best response is none at all

[@grt8guy03]

its just sad people still judge others because of sexual orientation

[@att6484]

​@@alicebedard2764 I will say though, it cuts deeper when it's family or someone close who says stuff like that. Strangers I just don't give a fuck, if anything it makes me laugh, but certain family members have said things that do cut a bit deep.

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 god help any of the children if the brother and sil are gay.

[@AarushK007]

This is the first time I'm saying this, but I hope their kids aren't gay. I wouldn't want them to be mistreated at the hands of their parents.

[@tim.noonan]

@@AarushK007That’s a very blunt statement on its own but obviously these people would treat their kids better if they’re straight/cis etc. That’s the outcome that would harm them the least, if nothing else.

[@AarushK007]

@@tim.noonan the lesser of 2 evils, I guess

[@Milky-kz8rr]

I feel like they shouldn't have kids at all. Gay or straight, it seems like the wife's side of the family has an vision of a perfect family and perfect children.

[@Zeroket345]

This story tugged at my heartstring so much that I had to save it. The parents' crusade, the new sister he always wanted, her new family adoption her, and the star wars ending warmed my heart and really did it for me.

[@janea2585]

Oh my gosh this man is adorable! That scrap book idea is probably one of the cutest proposals I've ever heard! And the light saber battle at the wedding 😭 I just can't take it! Why can't straight guys be like this...

[@Randomguy419b]

I really hate how some Christians act this way. We are supposed to love each other and try to help each other. Not insult and threaten.

[@malachieclipse9507]

Unfortunately all organized religion kinda does this, its okay to be religious but you have to take everything with a grain of salt or else you end up indoctrinated into an echo chamber of hate for generations, its not the religion, its the bad people using religion as an excuse

[@HunterPhone]

You know shes a real "sister" if she screeched like that at the announcement

[@ImNotaRussianBot]

From listening to way, WAY too many (fake or otherwise) Reddit stories, what I can conclusively say is: 1) anyone sending flying monkeys or tattling to their parents if they're adults in a committed relationship are not ready for an adult relationship, 2) anyone using a wedding to make a stance/ultimatum/ announcement or mend frayed or completely unraveled connections is not worth the effort of placating, cajoling, and forgiving, 3) record any conversations if you're in the midst of drama, bad people like to use calls cause they want their shitty words to be harder to prove (make sure you know your local recording laws, even the two way recording states only apply to cases where the recording is made public or used for legal defense), and lastly, 4) sometimes the loneliest person is miles happier than being in a toxic, abusive, and/or coersive relationship. Loneliness is easily solved, marriages (worse still with children) are complicated to break off. Trauma is much, much more expensive to deal with in the long run than being single, lonely, childless, and just generally discontent.

[@MrArielK]

All your conclusion were made from fake stories, the fore they don’t hold in real life

[@whiteender4962]

you know what, if OP attended the wedding or not, there's is bound to be a drama because of SIL's parents

[@rem9367]

I honestly have no idea why anyone would care about random persons sexual orientation tbh

[@polishball_]

Exactly!! Didn’t the cristianity un ban that?? Smh

[@Steve_Raglan_aka_William_Afton]

It's banned on Poland,​@@polishball_

[@Detsubkrod]

No it didnt. But christians arent suppose to be hateful ​@@polishball_

[@renadu30]

@@Detsubkrod Pretty sure there are also things in the Bible like "Love your neighbor as yourself", "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you", "Let him who is without sin throw the first stone"... These are hypocritical Christians in this story, yep !

[@yasY0L0]

Additionally, ever but one quote from the Bible about men being gay comes from a section of the old testament which was basically a "look what we've come to without God" That whole section from the Bible was about WHAT NOT TO DO- And with my 18yrs of being in a Catholic education (but they're super chill) and religious studies qualification, I can safely say in the Bible, not once did jesus or an angel or God say "fuck them gays and them liberal and blah blah blah"

[@DenarWasTaken]

This was way more wholesome than it should be. Super happy for these two. (Pretty sure my uncle and aunt had a similar wedding)

[@emily.letsendbslintheuk554]

Love how this ended 💖, so glad OP cut the toxic people out of his life and he now has supportive people around him, wishing him and his fiancee an amazing marriage and a long and happy life 💖 just to say to anyone out there thankfully not everyone in this world is hateful towards people in the LBGQT+ community some of us think that you have as much right as everyone else to love whoever you wish to 🏳️‍🌈💖🏳️‍🌈

[@Wingalpha]

As someone who has been to all the weddings with a ligthsaber on his belt. I approve

[@zobiaccancercrab29scotty74]

I watched this one before and this wasn't even his fault I remember watching this one and this one made me laugh cuz I wanted to know how the hell it was his fault that you got disowned

[@samuelbcst]

That lightsaber fight got me unprepared. 😂 Have a happy married life op

[@lucifersatan8240]

That lightsaber wedding is childish and I love and support it. It's their day and they choose how to celebrate, the important part is that they enjoy it.

[@ColinsTravels]

I would have tried to see if legal actions can be initiated against the brother for essentially conspiring an assault/murder!

[@curlyq4328]

The way he proposed made me squeal!!! So fucking cute!!!🥰

[@DarrylECarr]

Your proposal and wedding plans made an old man tear up. Thanks for fanning that tiny flame of hope I still hold for humanity.

[@LinkPizza]

Story 1: Personally, if my siblings were getting married, and their SO’s family said I couldn’t come due to my sexuality, my family would flip out. I’m not sure how that would go. Also, if the Brother and SIL really didn’t care about him being bi, they would have invited him because it’s their wedding. Not her parent’s wedding… So, they can invite whoever they want. So, it really does seem like they didn’t want him there. I think disowning him is perfectly fine.

[@derpaderpy4931]

OP's proposal to his boyfriend was fantastic.

[@Jonah_Hall]

Plot Twist: Dad beats the Fiancé and he is unworthy for the union.

[@Rains215]

Ok, a fiance who agrees to a wedding lightsaber battle is a keeper.

[@gwenrichard7507]

Sounds fake. How he describe the possessing of his emotions was regressive.

[@iamhector24]

My brother was 15 years younger than me and he was gay. We sadly lost him to an OD in 2019 but we honestly were as supportive as possible. My parents had a lot of gay friends when I was growing up so I never even saw their sexuality as being “different”. I miss him so much that sometimes I can’t breathe.

[@VynDimentional]

Taking notes for wedding ideas

[@RagnarokAvatar]

I don't think OP's brother changed, maybe he just never really knew him . . .

[@Kkell0x]

1. OP isn't responsible for facilitating his brother's and SIL's lie. 2. The brother should have told the people who would have been mad about that on his own. Screaming at you for "ruining" his wedding is pretty rich coming from him. 3. Being a good husband doesn't mean sticking to your wife no mather what. For one, it should be a mutual thing and it shouldn't be in effect, when your spouse is clearly wrong. If your partner turns out to be evil, or does things that are considered bad, then you shouldn't be having their back unconditionally because wanting bad behavior to change is a condition, that a partner should strive for.

[@DipreG]

I have two kids, waiting on a third. OP's dad is what I aspire to be as a dad

[@ZombieLogic101]

Wedding lightsaber battle.......I might need to steal that. good lord that sounds like a damn wholesome nerd battle!!!!!

[@francisheubel8865]

My fiancé and I are doing a lightsaber battle too! Neither of us can dance to save our lives plus we're nerds

[@musicfreax9373]

That proposal got me sobbing 😭

[@karenmariewalker143]

And they are upset that you brother was cut out of the will and he wouldn't be getting anything.

[@kinosaga21]

you have no obligation to continue someone else's lie, specially if its detrimental to you.

[@laevateinn4144]

I'm in the exact same place as the comment at 20:52 I'm an elder sister (25) my brother is 23 and he is also bi and had known ever since he was a minor. He never had any trouble coming out to me, it was a natural conversation when we talked about crushes we had at that time. I can't see myself not loving him because of who he is attracted to, and even less, getting with someone who (or who's family) would not accept him as he is, that is straight up a betrayal. Happy to know that OP's family supported him and he replaced a shitty human being for a supportive sister, and I hope the wedding goes amazingly

[@Zahh1998]

That proposal is so beautiful 🥹❤️✨

[@xhoogi]

Yo i love this channel fr

[@Yahya1.786]

Me too🎉

[@quill8943]

Fr ive been binging it for a while

[@MrArielK]

These stories are AÍ generated

[@ccdraws2759]

The lightsaber battle sounds fucking awesome! Amazing story too!

[@DiamondIngot.]

Gay couple having a lightsaber battle at their wedding sound very normal out of context

[@Mcc_obsessedfreak]

The lightsaber battle is an epic idea! All the best for the wedding OP

[@EraPraSerSoJota]

Lightsaber battle goes so hard.

[@edenfieldjason]

Fck yes!!!!! I think i might need to redo my vows with a lightsaber battle, FREAKING LEGEND!!!!!!

[@LauklynGorena]

I love the Star Wars stuff at the end 😊 that’s shit I might do at my wedding

[@rikukiko]

One of my close friends is gay and my husbands family are pretty traditional, so much so that my MIL asked my husband not to talk to his cousin anymore because he came out, he never listened to her. It was never a question if I should or should not invite him to our wedding. Wedding went good although there was some negative talk from his family they knew better than to cause a scene.

[@karenmariewalker143]

YAY to your pops for standing up for you 😊😊😊

[@kassiehill5259]

“My new sister” ❤

[@karenmariewalker143]

The brother revealed his TRUE colors when he listened to SIL and her the other ratchet family members 😢

[@kennycai8695]

Oh wow, I remember this story, and thanks for the updates too, cause this is the first time I heard them. That brother's family, holy ... imagine being so petty about a ruined wedding reception to brigade on OP and the BF (who had NO involvement whatsoever) just to satiate hurt pride. Yes, this is pride, cause they just cannot let go of their own bigotry and feel they have to lash out to satisfy their own pathetic egos. It also angers me so much that people will quote scripture to justify their bigotry. My guess: the brother's family puts a lot of stock in their public image to maintain "good Christian values", hence why they disappeared off social media when they got exposed. OP, I wish you, your new husband, and your unconventional family all the best, but I also suggest you should look to distance yourself from that bigoted family. Even if they got shut down by the law, if there is one thing I know about prideful people, they will keep returning until they get their "middle finger" moment against you, even if it means waiting years or decades. Do not give them that chance.

[@jeremycapps2678]

For the lightsaber battle, I hope they use duel of the Fates Just seems fitting to me. That is

[@izzywolflover]

So they should act like it’s a normal wedding until the couple are at the alter then the dad stands up with his light saber and challenges fiancé. Then Op says he must also test his boyfriend’s strength and they battle. The lightsabers are hidden from view until time to fight

[@alexdale2387]

At least the half sil was decent enough to apologise from the start

[@Milky-kz8rr]

I've heard this story many times and it continues to baffle me. In general, why are homophobes putting in so much effort to send hate? They're wasting their time and everyone else's. Hate isn't the opposite of love. Both give attention to something. The brother is going to regret picking a hateful family over his loving family. Crazy how the BIL sent a mad man to OP's old place. BIL would have been responsible for whatever damage FIL would have done. If my brother did that he would be dead to me. As someone who's LGBT, it's expected to get hate just for existing. It can be exhausting and damaging on bad days. Homophobia shouldn't be "normalized" but that's the unfortunate side of things. I'm lucky enough to have a safe space at home. I wish everyone can have that too. I wish OP, his boyfriend, and the sister the best.

[@Olive_garden18]

The proposal was perfect omg 😫

[@momoangel9243]

It's like boy bye, your wife is the one to blame on top of that fact it was hidden it from everyone especially op's parents, Seriously don't be upset when you are being held accountable for your own actions and choices, That and he better hope she doesn't cheat/leave him, because he chose very poorly, but hey that's not op's problem.

[@kiaowens2856]

Story one: it’s not just the SIL and family who is homophobic. Ops family is too. Let’s not skip over how Op said he wasn’t invited to FAMILY events because of their sexuality.people like that don’t just change and it’s evident in the brother.

[@Spawnofsatan97]

Sever ties with the brother and sis in law

[@Rinefi]

What an epic story

[@Mooffyono]

Ngl I kinda wan to do the light saber sight at my wedding sounds like so much fun

[@goldfinch_xoxo]

this ending of this story makes me really happy as both a young queer person and just a regular teen hearing about two people in love ngl 🥹

[@Centiwing]

theres no hate like christian love

[@I3urton]

"Love thy neighbor (lest he lies with a man)". Religion used to have a moral core function in society, but nowadays it usually just rips us apart from each other. Of course, bigots will always find a reason to be hateful, but religion makes it so much easier to justify their actions.

[@JustinAdamson270]

​@@I3urtonreligion was never moral

[@coolbeans194]

Im so excited for their wedding! 😊

[@jasminecarter5231]

My little sibling is trans I couldn’t ever imagine treating them this way.

[@Rj-ij6ko]

ok but like…I want an invite to Op’s wedding lol

[@TessaBain]

The last question is a stupid question. "If we allow someone to murder someone how does that affect someone else's life?" Other people's freedom affects yours. Especially when you live in a society.

[@BrightElk]

Some members of my family are very similar to SIL’s family and I was always the black sheep because I never understood the hatred towards LGBT people. It made me really sad. Anyways I just quietly distanced myself from them after my grandfather passed because he was the only person I really cared about in that side of my family. Hilariously they had a big problem with my husband being Canadian even though we are a heterosexual couple. You just can’t please people like this!

[@Lottie8o8]

It's so funny that queer people have so goofy, sweet and just fucking amazing ideas about proposals and other romantic things towards each other xD It's so rare today in hetero couples (at least I don't see so much of it)

[@peshivirginflower7]

Its so crazy this day n age ppl still bias on ither ppl lives n decisions. Sad live life OP🙏✊💯

[@HughJassMarioFan2009]

I'm assuming whe you said your mother pressed charges, did she file a lawsuit or file a police report?

[@Dale_M]

I wanna lightsaber battle!

[@batayola2543]

I love lgbt ppl so much, this is a good story!

[@luluwachedjari3299]

That’s excellent at least they kept their morals unlike you

[@Tuva311]

As a bi sexuel i Can relate im 14 years old and idenefy with they them im still a girl but i still Get a bit mistreated by the boys in my class

[@smokinggnu6584]

11:13 SamuelvimesTrained A kindred spirit!

[@jupitersag9938]

Ayyyyyyyye I’m loving this lightsaber battle. Question are all gays nerds cause me and my guy love anime 😅

[@peshivirginflower7]

✊💯🐐LIGHTSABER BATTLE🤯 OPS THE🐐🐐🐐💯

[@JohnDoe-wh6dd]

4:33 good to know the OP can’t count. Christian themes and same last name is TWO things.

[@giornobpr6546]

I'm Bi, and that's cuz I'm the more dominant type and I have space for Cute Femboys who want to be dominated. Sometimes its the other way around if I'm with a Strong Muscular Woman, as apply of my pfp. Shout out to my JoJo Fan/Muscular Women Lovers!

[@iamhector24]

Love is love.

[@deborahdallas4773]

Congratulations 🎉🎉

[@georgecl111]

bro why are there so many comments i want to hear the story

[@sammy28mcintyre47]

Your dad awesome

[@saramccormack3025]

R they goin 2 have their wedding on Star Wars, May the fourth

[@susioeandno1else]

#loveislove

[@oet8008]

less than 3 🤣

[@ryuk._.5164]

Repost

[@jamiepetersen6153]

I'm sorry but not having those guys arrested for attacking you the police could have gotten camera footage from the train station his a doormat for allowing the hate to continue

[@stinky_twigs]

i agree with most of the comments on op's post, except for one. "bigots don't change their ways". i know someone who used to be an absolute asshole. misogynistic, homophobic, and very vocal about it. he was the absolute works. now, he's super sweet, amazingly kind, and he doesn't hold those views anymore. his best friend is gay, i'm a queer woman, and he's openly defended both of us and more to people like the person he used to be. bigots can change. it's just rare. also, that lightsaber battle is absolutely amazing and i'm so glad that they get to be cute geeks together, and the dad gets join in!!! that's awesome. i'm so glad they got that together.

[@yeyosilver7067]

Again??

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

OP had moved.. however the new tenants would be at risk and would not have a clue. scary

[@cree878]

You didn’t ruin anything

[@arzleif]

where does one aquire such parents

[@Mr1eeer]

*False Victimization Syndrome (FVS) is a generalized term applied to all individuals who are believed to be reporting false situations of stalking, and presenting themselves as victims.

[@vincentcleaver1925]

No h8 like Christian

[@kalifaa.d]

christian here yeah, how can you be homophobic and Christian? Isn't that a form of judgment? I know being gay is a sin, however so is judging and gossiping...just let them live and focus on your relationships....its so odd.

[@JustinAdamson270]

You hollering it's a sin means you're judging

[@BrightElk]

@@JustinAdamson270​​⁠No it doesn’t. You can still love someone and not agree with every single decision they make. My mom doesn’t do the dishes as often as she should. She waits until they smell and flies are spinning around to do anything about them. I still love my mom and don’t think less of her for it. I do worry for her health and well being however. Not everyone can agree on everything however. That’s life.

[@JustinAdamson270]

@@BrightElk false lol you can lie all you want but you can't change how reality works you don't love your mom or you wouldn't have told a random stranger something that's none of your business in the first place about your own mother

[@JustinAdamson270]

@@BrightElk so no you can't love someone unless you agree with them 100%

[@Solo-696]

They never claimed his wife was discriminatory. He only said her family was.

[@mevan883]

Yeah but it sounds like she is more with them for the inheritance and is will to take their sides.

[@yakuultforthewin]

yes this is true, but she did appear to also enable their behavior so I wouldn’t say she’s too far off..

[@BrightElk]

I was thinking this too until he gave FIL his brothers address. That made me think that they agreed with the harassment.

[@justsaying7565]

8:15 cis-gendered 🤨?????

[@Centiwing]

that means the opposite of trans gender

[@BrightElk]

It means you identify with the sex that you were born as. Aka not transgender.

[@dokuganryu1565]

It's a made-up word by transgenders to refer to anyone who isn't.