They Didn't Invite Me to Their Weddings, Now They're Upset I Left Them Out of Mine!

[@lillia2479]

Story 1: So because OP was not their real sibling, she wasn't allowed to go to their weddings... so why in hell does OP, who was never considered family from the beginning, required to invite those who were never her family to begin with? A wedding is where you invite family. If you were never their family, why would you invite them?

[@va4020]

because they wanted a free party

[@enderdemon5439]

Sad part is op is there family op is there cousin

[@thepsychicgaymer9888]

Mother: I want all my kids at one place for this occasion Well, you did, 4 times actually considering OP ISN'T YOUR CHILD! So technically she got what she wanted a few times.

[@lindah3803]

Bingo.

[@Number-vt1fl]

After the update, why exactly did her "siblings" want to go to the wedding when they don't even consider her family? Was it really just for a free party?

[@Drave_Jr.]

Most likely. Mother did say something about trying to get OP to invite them for her to have everyone together, and wasn't willing to press it onto her actual kids, and maybe was hoping she could trick OP into letting them come over so she could finally have them all together

[@BraveryWing26]

I keep seeing the first story and I am so glad OP just went low to no contact. That's the best decision to deal with a "Family" that doesnt love her at all.

[@liordagan9342]

1st story,: The mother's continued attacking on the OP, especially when she was upset about not going to the wedding, indicates one thing. This is an attempt of showing dominance. Her siblings/cousins can reject her, she can't reject them. That's all there's to it. It's like the big brother in 1984. You should love him, when he is treating you very badly. This will also occur eith the grandchildren. I know similar scenarios, when someone got upset for not being invited to events when he didn't invite, for years, close to a decade. When people had enough, it was their fault. He can reject them, they can't reject him.

[@Maninawig]

3 minutes in and I was counting the number of times OP's mom chastized and punished her for wanting to join the weddings. Now half-ways through and I am thinking "OP should reach out to the extended family and say 'remember how I was never invited to my siblings' weddings? Well, turns out they never considered me family.' so that the ire is properly placed."

[@jordanwardle11]

you will often find that they know all about it

[@Syrin23]

Why would you NOT invite you sister to your wedding?!?! Then you don't think it's going to have long term consequences?

[@SkyEcho751]

The fact that they excluded her, but that they included the other cousin. Just shows exactly how bad of a situation it became. The parents trying to punish OP for ever reacting to their mistreatment, is just the icing on the cake. The "mother" views OP as a daughter _only_ when OP has an important milestone to celebrate, but not for when she should get those same benefits.

[@AnalizSantos-op8xo]

Huh what the actual fuck bro they didn’t invite her to their weddings so why should op be obligated to invite them to hers?

[@LeanDispenser]

​@@AnalizSantos-op8xo the guy that made the comment was talking about the siblings who didn't invite op

[@smsff7]

Story 1: OP needs to go NC with her "Family" They never considered her family, she should start her own family that will actually love her.

[@1naoll]

How do you not tell a child the truth. I was adopted and always knew, some children are never told which harbors resentment. Same thing here, secrets usually cause disruption and hurt. Tell OP to talk to Uncle or get a DNA test, can find family that way.

[@ThatGuy182545]

They didn’t want “kids” at their wedding and now you don’t want them at your wedding. Seems pretty straightforward to me. Don’t invite them. While you’re at it, consider uninviting your mother.

[@drsatan7554]

"We dont like it when kids attend Christmas with us because theres alcohol and kids can create disruptions"

[@Maninawig]

3 minutes in... Mom: I always wanted to see all my kids at a wedding. Also mom: you are grounded for asking to be at your sister's wedding!

[@gregmiller4387]

Story 1 - If they never thought of you as a sister or a member of the family is why they didn't want you at their weddings why did they want to go to your wedding? What goes around, comes around. Your life may be easier if you go LC or even NC your cousins and aunt and uncle in the future and build a family you can belong to. If you can't go LC or NC with your aunt and uncle start calling the people you used to call mom and Dad Uncle or Aunt whatever their names are they'll get the point, just go LC with your cousins at least, your life will be happier.

[@user-jh9gi3ov8p]

Look at her and say "I'm not your daughter so you already got that precious memory 4 times" then tell them all to f off and live your life without any of them in it

[@SkyEcho751]

That last OP did the right thing, the bail bondsman could significantly mess with your day. And honestly that guy seems to match the usual 'idiot criminal' who thinks he can just lie and not get into even more trouble for it. Like there is a video from Bail Bondsman, and they are totally done with anybody's nonsense.

[@jessicathompson236]

First story; NTA. They don't get to be upset that you didn't invite them to your wedding since none of them ever invited you to theirs. 🤷🏾‍♀️ It was their choice to not invite you and now it's your choice to not invite them. It's perfectly fair. Second story; NTA. Honestly it sounds like you need to just cut off your parents and brother. The fact that your mother suggested for you to not take care of your own children is inexcusable.

[@Maninawig]

First brother, I can see. But when the sister got married, he outright asked and she couldn't care less... his mom even grounded OP, then chastised them for not getting excited for the third child's wedding. Parents should be in the uninvited lot.

[@jessicathompson236]

@@Maninawig , They were all rightfully left out

[@Maninawig]

@@jessicathompson236 I was so upset I didn't get to that part before commenting. Though I do believe the extended family should be told so that the blame doesn't fall on OP. Being told "you were never family, not act like a sister" is one of the harshest slaps in the face I think I ever heard.

[@pastelbee8125]

Dude who has a childless wedding AND DOESNT INVITE UR OWN SISTER???? Like that’s just so odd to me that should be the only exemption ESPECIALLY if they’re 10 not 5

[@jasonconley771]

My wedding took place 4 miles from my moms house. My father passed in 2008, and I only have 1 brother and my kids. At my wedding 4 miles from her home she refused to go, my brother didn't go because he said he had to play golf. I had nobody on my side!

[@kelliefilipovich6016]

Wtf is worth the parents in the second story thinking that their kids should pay for their house?? My boyfriend is taking over for his dad's house, but his dad moved out and he's getting the house fully

[@gustavoortizdiaz7265]

2nd story, inheritance of 25%? Don't pay for anything! The home would need to be sold in order to collect.

[@thematrix2661]

Even if she is a cousin they choose to adopt her so she should be loved just like her child even 80% of the love she give her child, the so called mom is trash I would work hard me and my hubby so I don't have to deal with them.

[@evadd2]

You're missing the point: they actively made rules to exclude this person because she was not "family" and expect her to overlook being shunned and include them because they are family. Just admit they are selfish and didn't really care.

[@Joyfullagony]

They don't know who the mother is?!?!😳 How is that even possible?!

[@ladyweasellou3367]

Wow.... what a lovely family, such a caring, living, understanding family. Eesshh...😬

[@matttillman7430]

I'd love for ZOP to tell "Mom and Dad" that that OP have changed their mind, and will extend an invitation to everyone who had a wedding while OP was alive, and sent OP an invitation to said wedding. "Mom and Dad" of course, are off the hook, because OP wasn't around when they got married, but must remember NOT to bring any of their children as "plus 1" if that child also didn't get an invitation.

[@user-cq7zd9zu4t]

I don't think so because if they didn't invite you then why should you invite them?

[@gene8172]

Story #1: You weren’t invited to their weddings, so you didn’t invite them to yours. That’s just the way it goes, sometimes.

[@alondamccoy6651]

FirstStory: Op should cut all contact with her family if they're acting like this an excluded them from all their weddings!!! The fact that they never told her the truth makes them look like more AH Js 🤬🤬🤬 All these ppl in these stories are AHs to the OPs stories

[@2xtreem4u]

Disown them

[@empi4106]

There's more to story 1. The parents know who the bio mom is but dont want to admit it as its likely something weird.

[@nancyriggs8170]

I have 9 siblings. 2 eloped but I was at every one of the 7 other weddings and at 2 sisters second weddings also.. I was between 9 and 17 at all of there first weddings; nobody considered leaving me out.. Now all these yrs later, I hate going to weddings; but I'm always invited.. I say tell mom to bite your behind; where was that sense of wanting all her children together at all those other weddings??

[@melissamorton220]

If you lie about a person's wherabouts you could be seen as helping them and be in trouble yourself. This brother doesnt sound like someone who deserves that kind of loyalty

[@M_Bom]

Story 1: I been to a wedding when I was 13 and my sister was about 11-12 and we could still go even with the alcohol and their was other kids even babies but not to many kids and nothing bad happened so you are not in the wrong

[@pastelbee8125]

“If I make an exception for u I have to make it for others” um no? You simply don’t UTS YOUR WEDDING and it’s your sister, if u have people that are pissed ur own sister can go but not any other person those people aren’t good to be around plain and simple

[@goatkiller666]

I’ve lived in a few states, in my days. What I find interesting is that in some states, for example Texas, minors aren’t allowed to drink without parental consent. But go into a bar at 17, with your parent(s), and get hammered, 100% legal. In other states, a parent bringing their own kid into a bar and ordering the kid a drink… that’s child abuse, and you will get cops and CPS all the way up your ass. (That was either NC or CA… can’t remember which.) I was told in Texas that if you got parental consent before age 17 to get married, you became automatically emancipated. And even if both of the married people are under 21, they somehow gained the right to drink. Which sounds pretty unbelievable, so I wouldn’t trust it. But there are any number of kid-friendly places that serve alcohol, but still allow kids to enter. Any halfway decent sit-down restaurant (e.g. - Chili’s, Olive Garden, Red Lobster) has a bar section. Kids can walk right up to those bars and order non-alcoholic beverages. Nobody is worried that just being in the room with alcohol will drive them mad or anything.

[@l.b.9522]

Story 1: imagine large companies that are paid by people and other companies, even small children and at the same time serving alcohol to adulrs only. Oh wait...those exist already! Restaurants! How do they do it? 😂😂

[@Powerpolepro]

I don't understand how someone can feel guilty for something that's not their fault. 😒

[@vojtechotava1417]

Imagine snitching on your family...

[@jazzie-sanbelle99]

Everyone sucks 😒 except op she's definitely justified, toxicity trashy people step off

[@RStartGaming1LOL]

I hate freeloaders and when parents clearly have favourites.

[@W3lcome2H3ll]

The story where someone showed up looking for the brother because he missed court ive had the sheriffs show up & search my entire house looking for my uncle because he had this listed as his address he had a history of verbally abusing Doctors/nurses hes assaulted police officers etc so when they got here they opened my closet looked under cabinets & every where to make sure we werent hiding him

[@evadd2]

Well isn't that a peach.

[@gene8172]

Story #2 You can’t just “reduce” child support. You need a judge to order lower child support payments. As for the property taxes, tell your parents if they can’t afford the taxes, you are willing to contribute to the property taxes ONLY if your name goes on the deed as a 25% owner, in which case you will pay 25 % of the property taxes.

[@kellysorensen1419]

When the adopted her, she became a sister to the older siblings. It's just ridiculous to exclude her because she's not born a sibling, but a cousin!

[@goatkiller666]

“She told me that if she made an exception for me, she’d have to make exceptions for other kids too. And that wouldn’t be fair.” Um… I can’t believe the Bridezilla response to this quote is actually right for once. It’s your wedding, Felicia! You can decide that immediate siblings of the bride and groom are allowed. Now, all of a sudden, fairness is more important than faaaaamily. (I also I can’t believe the “… but faaaaaamily!” Is the right answer.) Anyway, when somebody shows you who they are, believe them. And each member of your family has shown you that they think you’re a problem to be managed, and not a beloved person they’d like to share their joyous day with.

[@DragonArbock]

Tbh, what 10 year old even wants to go to a wedding. I've been to a single wedding (as an adult), and it was boring. I don't even understand how people can go just to get smashed either, because you usually have to drive home.

[@tomjoad1363]

No you're not. BOth of OP's

[@cheesus13_]

the part i dont understand is the "brother" feeling resentful towards her.. FOR WHAT??? for being an orphan ??? seems like the parents fail to raise them right

[@sophitia_agna]

She's not any kid, she's your sister FFS. Easy to set the rule, no kids except siblings and only at the ceremony. Seems more like an excuse tu exclude her. Edit after update : spoiler Well it was an excuse and those "siblings" actually didn't care about her and are just upset they're missing the free party. The whole family is horrible, including the parents who knew very well the real reason behind the "no kids" rule. Hopefully she'll build her own real family and push the fake one aside. It's sad that those MFs had to taint all her childhood memories to satisfy their selfishness.

[@Denis-mg1wj]

Total BS how closely they are related makes no difference even if its a dog or a hamster if you want him at your wedding you bring him. That was just cruelty ... like Cinderella's family ...

[@smorphous8928]

Don’t know why they’re getting so butthurt over Op not inviting them to their wedding. They’ve never invited Op, but suddenly Ops the bad guy for not inviting them? Insanely hypocritical.

[@reyramos9600]

Here we go again.. too many word salad…

[@wolvedemonium]

I woulve asked if i was adopted if my mom said that in my face Edit: nvm she actually was

[@thecursed01]

should have replied to them: wedding is so much nicer without old ppl like you :)

[@Melarona23]

Im so confused. This would NEVER happen in Asia and here people just throw out their own sister? Might as well as cut iff all contact

[@jamesm3123]

God i get massive headaches trying to watch these vidios.

[@m2ik2y05]

This is literally another video but you turned comments into updates.

[@DukerGamerz]

I thought the 2nd story was an update on the 1st story ngl.

[@ameargopie7235]

is the op a boy or girl??, ive heard this story on another channel and the op was a guy.

[@LeanDispenser]

The story is probably fake

[@adrianramone-ey9hi]

What game is this

[@joecrazy7158]

Story 1: Who were these people raised by, animals? Guests not bringing kids to a wedding is different than your own siblings. My God. Before things get drunk, have them leave. Simple.