Byron Katie - " My husband had an affair and divided our family" - Omega 2009 - CD 1 of 5

[@rainingpatchouli4476]

In my early stages of listening to the work my ego would’ve been pissed hearing this - but today I am very aware of myself now and this webinar hit home closely as every relationship I’ve ever had included infidelity. Self observation helps take away the sting and reminds us we are all human and no one is perfect . Life is a big chess game and each action creates a reaction , but this cool new self realization wakes one up to their unconscious reaction and helps rewrite ones stories to be less victim based and therefore more powerful and it gives each of us a chance to see we have a voice and choice in the story .

[@alwaysinthenow]

how wonderful for you! :)

[@analezaa6306]

I so know what you mean. I actually cheated on my first ex-husband, but the insecurities of potentially someone I'm involved with not being close and connected with me puts so much over concern and in their business and not my own. Over time I've appreciated so much of how she analyzes the blocking thoughts.

[@yvettenieto4182]

i am in awe of Byron Katie..

[@LifeByMuse]

I am so grateful for your posting these ❤

[@alwaysinthenow]

it's my pleasure to share :)

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[@sheilakirwan6900]

Brilliant ...Turnaround ...I should realise how I am hurting me in this moment, with images of him ...in his name .......so insightful 💜💙💛

[@dedur88]

thank you so much for sharing. blessings.

[@alwaysinthenow]

my pleasure :)

[@mirrorimage9224]

This part spoke to me, 19:36-20:27, * Where do all these Maybe(s) and I Guesses come from? You either have or you haven't . . . . Identify it. Identify it. This "In General" stuff is noble but it just doesn't get it. Specifically, where have you been dishonest? Where have you been sneaky? . . . . Personal work . . . . Well, you're sure and that won't get it. It's in general. Again, until we identify it it doesn't change. We have to realize it before it can shift. * Byron Katie is amazing.

[@pamelacaballero6111]

35:00 “he is dishonest because of me” 41:30 “if this is a friendly universe, why are you better off without him”

[@melyna7966]

Wow this was awesome and so helpful ... So much gratitude for her for being so vulnerable and open and I love Baron Katie... “ I am so lucky at the end “ 😂❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@mirrorimage9224]

This part spoke to me, 42:26, "People actually are God in disguise and you've been buying it". Byron Katie is amazing.

[@jasonwilkerson9497]

It is a wonderful quote. Could you explain the "buying it" part?

[@alexandriasmith8986]

Byron Katie makes me laugh so much.

[@prosperouseye]

I see the comments that this wasn't Katie's best "work" & she was a bit pushy in this one (I kinda felt it wasn't as smooth as usual myself)...however Katie is human and actually I think for those of us who want to learn how to do "The Work" for ourselves and especially for/with others...we might can learn a lot from studying the parts that weren't so smooth and compare to her "smoother" work. :)

[@dianed2905]

This is so manipulative. This poor woman clearly doesn’t believe a word she is saying

[@evawharehoka5113]

yup, I love much of Katie's work but sometimes she seems to absolutely lose the plot. the woman seems to self-actualise some insights, but mostly is being lead. into nonsense. even Katie sounds a bit off balance as if she knows she also is losing it?

[@DrCoze]

Not so much manipulative as impatient, it seems to me. I love Katie and I do the work for years now, but there are far better examples of the Work than this. Katie really doesn't give that woman a chance to connect, she is rushing her. However, TBH there is something so completely hesitant in this lady, that I find myself a little impatient too... The moment I felt it the most was when she struggled to find one example of being dishonest with her husband of 23 years.....

[@NatashaInt]

False enlightenment

[@zdenarumreich]

this does my head in..."he gave her everything she needed" - by having and affair, cheating and breaking up their family?....and "victims are really violent"? WT?!

[@sheilakirwan6900]

how wonderful to break down another judgement........BRILLIANT 💖

[@sabinefleschutz]

I think BK is off in this one. It feels like she's pushing the young woman into something that seems contrived.

[@mthoodstyle]

It feels like the young lady is just immature and unable to go very deep yet. I thought BK was very patient.

[@kendrafleming3538]

Brilliant

[@marie-christinemoreau1456]

Puis avoir à traduction en français ? Comment faire?

[@katfairyblessed1203]

This is like y Story- but in fact, the man that I love wants to hate me and no matter how much I thank him and tell him I love him- he does not want to know our hear it. He does not want me. His affair made him decide, to leave me, cause he is not anymore attached to me.

[@fortunebright8269]

Omg, that was amazing 🙂

[@merima333]

It is not the right method, you do not force someone to acknowledge their mistakes by saying out-loud the therapist's convictions, ...the therapist must lead the person to their own awareness ...only then they could accept it etc

[@BellaLola26]

It might look like therapy and it might even give the same or even better outcome than traditional therapy for people searching to end their suffering- but she’s not a therapist. And this is not a therapy session. This is a technique called The Work developed by Byron Katie (a non clinician).

[@captainman2clever351]

@@BellaLola26 It's still a type of therapy, she may call it something else but that doesn't mean it's not therapy. It's borderline abusive. Sometimes we are hurt by others It is real, often when abused we are blamed, made to feel insane . This method could easily be used for this . It's good to question what is being presented as the answer We are biological animals We have evolved as needing other humans It's good to use this technique, it's good to question also and notice it's flaws

[@zain4019]

@@captainman2clever351 If we had loved from the beginning, and knew only love, then we could never be abused. Love is what we truly are. This is one of the many paths home to our Self. The ego will protest every step of the way, for the ego is that which opposes love. And yet, it is an illusion. Love has no opposite, but the only way to come to see this is to give up what we hold onto so dearly- this ego that is built on nothing but false notions of right and wrong, positionalities, blame, judgment and fear. We can be right or we can have peace. When we let go, we realize we weren't right at all. It may feel like a loss or completely insane at times, but the immense peace that comes with letting go of what we hold on to is worth everything, everything. To come home to our Self, which is infinitely loving, we must become that unconditional love. There can be no part of us that holds on to anything at all. That is what the ego fears - its loss of self-identity, and end coming to the knowing and understanding it had of the world and itself, which can only be made with judgment . Love does not judge. If we want the unspeakable peace that comes with boundless love, then we have to let go, even to our most cherished thoughts and ideas. Don't be afraid to. Everyone who has ever done this has said it was worth it, by a long shot.

[@CocoShade]

15:28, Victims are violent people! oh Katie ... that statement should be everywhere....

[@lovebug2662]

" he didn't have a affair, I had a affair" I am sorry Katie but absolutely bogus mindF's. Yes, if you know someone had a affair, he/she did, not you.

[@Onlinesully]

It didn't feel right.

[@DrCoze]

I don't think that the point is to see the husband as innocent, rather to see that if that woman suffers - it is her thoughts about the affair that make her suffer, not the affair. If she imagines her husband cheating the images hurt her, not the husband; at that moment her husband might be sitting in the next room- but the woman has the affair "for him" in her thoughts. Thus, she "had the affair". This doesn't mean that she shouldn't break up with him, or that what he did was right- the only goal of that exercise is to understand that she can stop the pain within her.

[@etherealexperience4302]

and when bk says if steven slept with another woman…i would think “how exciting for him!” …. really katie? is that true? lol

[@tarwoo8907]

This was very strange to listen to and the most unskillful I have seen Katie. Katie didn't give her time to find that truth for herself and so it sounded like she was just saying what she thought she should say, rather than what she awakened to.

[@ClearOutSamskaras]

50:43

[@juliaxo2872]

Like peeping Tom 😂

[@abdurrrahman3048]

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[@BadbearXIII]

+Abdurr Rahman So can you know that it's absolutley true?