Byron Katie ~ Resentment and Jealousy | The AWARENESS INQUIRIES (Part 5)

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One woman resents her roommate for flirting too much. Another flies into jealous rages at her boyfriend. Watch as doing The Work with Katie helps them break the cycles of resentment and jealousy.
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[@tf1078]

I found this about a month ago and have listened to it almost everyday since. And I don't comment often but the last bit where the lady shared her experience months later instantly brought me to tears and it brings me to tears everytime I listen. It was so beautiful and loving, a truly profound transformation that I wish for everyone.

[@Kiwiwanderer]

Sooooo goood. Havent we all been there? All of us. Authentic, painful, intelligent, screwed up, irrational, scared, unrealistic. Why isn’t Byron Katie - The Work compulsory at every primary school, high school, university and workplace. Margas letter is beautiful ✨💫

[@GaylesPaintings]

"I am what i think you are in the moment" - wow, mind blown.

[@blackchina6142]

Gracious Gooooooood, where were you when I was young?????? You could save me from a lot of misery. I frikin love you. You’re genius. Sorry didn’t mean to scream. I just expressed what I felt. You are a gift to humanity

[@ChitchatwithApril]

Black China I hear you! Most people are brave enough to tell us what we need to hear. Or they tell us in such a way we get defensive. Even at my age, I can improve my life and be happier.

[@jacquiejoseph2132]

That last girl made me cry 😢.. we’ve all been there ♥️

[@beshooketh9333]

4:55 Jobs. Everyone's got one. Everything's got one 6:18 Judging mode 8:26 She doesn't 8:48 WE be responsible instead! In THAT moment we're being irresponsible to ourselves, to our peace 11:20 Who should change for OUR happiness? 13:34 Pain and misery or peace and happiness 20:10 She'll end up miserable 21:20 Dialogue 23:16 I AM WHAT I THINK YOU ARE IN THE MOMENT 23:53 Dialogue 2 It's not the boundary. It's the truth 27:08 Part 2 28:22 Give up happens. It's not smth I gotta do 30:46 Attention. Why do you want attention? Fulfillment 32:05 34:05 the attack is an attempt to prove your innocence 36:18 With the thought, we attack. Without the thought, we do the opposite Then how can the other person be the issue? If the thought is a defense against the worst, and you attack anyway, how are you safe? When you think someone's gonna hurt you, it's the belief that's hurting you right then! 40:04 😂 41:06 The other person is your PROJECTED. Only who you believe them to be 44:25 Why would you do that? If giving everything up will make someone happy, how do you know that's true? 45:30 It's okay cuz you're still there. If it wasn't okay, you'd go or straight up end things 47:10 You do what you think THEY do! :o 49:51 Turn it around! Practice the Truth when anyone comes at you I am needy. Where are you so needy, you try pull another off their path for YOURSELF I am manipulative. Where are you manipulative? With your own mind? I am untrustworthy I am conniving I am dangerous I am greedy 52:50 Aren't you already living the worst when you think this way? With someone or without, all you truly have is your mind 54:39 Why can something dumb torment us sm? It's all self-murder, all murder the love in our hearts 56:28 How often do we already torture us by doing the very thing we don't want, in our mind? When we say I'm willing to, we're saying we're open to THAT mental xp 58:28 Take the me out of the equation, and it's only a movie. The mind runs the movie. When the movie's a nightmare, we can wake ourselves us. Otherwise we attack others and guilt-trip ourselves 1:00:59 Follow-up Letter

[@lydied4918]

"I'am what I think you are in the moment "

[@margaretbarry4689]

Oh I soo know how these women feel...it takes courage to be this vulnerable. We all have to first love ourselves the way we want others to love us...that's a huge lesson!

[@suzihall778]

margaret barry Thank you for stating this solution so clearly. It’s what I needed after watching and so relating to this.

[@maureenceglia8571]

When I read Marga's letter to Katie at the end I was thrilled. The girl got it!

[@franciscofrankfield5608]

Wow, wow, wow, I've been following many spiritual speaches and finally I've found out this awesome and wise teacher woman. Really, Mrs. Kate, You are a real spiritual teacher. You are putting in practice all the wisdom in real life, so we'll become real being. You are helping to open the door to quit the world of illutions!!! Thank you!!!

[@Kathyinframe]

I loved watching this. I could so relate to all of this women. They are so strong for speaking up and being able to reflect to themselves. They last women made me cry. I'm so happy she was able to come so far in this convo.

[@gwenniemay2304]

Wow. The courage of the first woman who spoke. 🙏🏽

[@cynthiaennis3107]

Gwennie May WOW! The COURAGE of BOTH these AMAZING women who spoke! 😃

[@johnathanholman3600]

yes 🙏💚

[@Siska2007]

Oh my gosh this is exactly what I needed today. The light hearted but compassionate way that Katie deals with people is touching, enlightening and joyful.

[@vmagickalwheel]

It's currently weekend lockdown in my city, and a million things are happening in my life and I felt like I was about to explode and suddenly this video reached me. I realize that it's only the couple of hundred things that's happening within my mind which really matters, and with which I can sit with and be aware. Thank you for posting this, it saved me. ❤

[@BrianCormackCarr]

Wonderful - I'm glad it helped! :)

[@ethicalphytophage]

Marga's realization in real time was awesome!!

[@angellagoodon9334]

I can relate to everything she was saying. I have the same issue as well and even though it seems so trivial when you talk it out, it still is so painful. I will be listening to this one several times as I’m really hoping I will “get” it too. Thank you for being so vulnerable! Just knowing that I am not the only one feeling this way helps. Thank you Katie for your amazing work! You continue to change my life in so many ways ❤️

[@miawilson903]

Beautiful....stepping out of our movie equals open hearted love for ourselves and for all

[@Youutterwasteof]

ThAt last letter made me cry!!!!!!! So wholesome amazing wonderful peaceful wow!!!!!

[@LOFTLIFESTYLESALON]

Marga, you are sweet and so honest and brave!!!

[@annamullen2983]

What an eye opener. Step outside yourself and check yourself.

[@twodogzdogue8710]

Confusion is the only suffering on the planet! How cool is saying that reality - where is my mind, that's all I need to know. We have to take care of ourselves.

[@happylindsay4475]

The young woman broke my heart... Who hasn't been there? Male or female... Thank you for this upload. Thank you Byron Katie.

[@lisaofsie6410]

happy lindsay this was/is me, too. My ex is now engaged to the woman he used to hang out with when we were together. I am trying to be grateful that he is now out of my life and, they deserve each other. It still hurts my ego, I suppose!

[@lisettecallis5329]

@@lisaofsie6410 I guess it's a gift..because you can love yourself and you probably will find someone who really fits you. best to you.

[@g.i.3682]

Lisa Ofsie I had a hard time with her point of view!? If something doesn’t make you feel whole, it’s not because you’re crazy, it’s because your gut is telling you something is fishy! How long can you stay in that scenario and smile because he’s happy??? In the end, he’ll end up hurting you and you’ve wasted years! Just leave! Some things don’t need these self help tactics! 🙃

[@BellaLola26]

@@g.i.3682 hi! What I got from it is - you can leave or stay and suffer in your head. The goal is to not suffer in your head no matter whether you stay or go. Hope that helps!

[@godizself1]

@@g.i.3682 Facts

[@natrock86]

Crying. Such beautiful profound thing is "the Work". Thank HEAVENS for KATIE!

[@regiz5358]

crying here too!

[@mindsigh4]

55 mins in, the young lady (talking about her relationship problems) says," this is, sounds so dumb'' so right back~ Katie says," people murder over this, they rob banks to keep someone, they spend time in prison, attack people, that they love over this, this is not dumb"

[@malcolmnicoll1165]

The end of suffering. Infinite love & gratitude, Katie. Thank you for posting.

[@joannahodge3557]

Profound thanks Marga for so deeply sharing yourself and your thoughts with us. So pleased you can set yourself free. Your example shows us all it is possible. xx

[@aryanalfa2444]

Amasing Byron Katie outside = inside happyness is the way I can feel the pain

[@audreysegura8933]

This is the first Byron Katie video i have ever seen! Wow love this woman! This video brought me to tears ! Powerful stuff ! Thank you

[@expressivevoice]

Heartbreakingly beautiful.... Katie is so able to trust the work to do it's work.... so masterful....

[@celinapenteado1556]

Ive been a functional depressed person for over 35 years. I feel as if I wasted my life away. Yet, iI still hope for a better tomorrow.

[@medeaendor3706]

What does "functional" depressed mean please?

[@IngridMClark]

What would a 'better' tomorrow look like? What could you appreciate about yourself and your life NOW? Have you read 'How to break the HABIT of being yourself" by Dr. Joe Dispenza or the 'Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle?

[@Soul-Survivor]

@@medeaendor3706 I think it means that they are able live life "normally" but hide it.

[@Grace4ever22]

I love this woman's honesty!

[@Xpand2infinity]

I actually cried at the end when they read her letter.

[@saskiacoolen9631]

Yes, me too and I watched this video 2 times. I think 9 months ago and now. I still can feel the struggle of both women. I can act like them both, even I know I hurt myself the most with that behaviour/thoughts... But that letter is amazing... I'm so glad for her! 💞

[@mariefrancoise12]

wow. the last one with the jealous girlfriend...that was simply amazing. she seemed so stuck in her ways, so stuck in her thoughts holding on (I recognized it immediately in myself!) and then all of a sudden she let go. Or it, whatever it is, let go of her. It was beautiful and hopeful to observe. Loved the followup. Supremely grateful for the sharing of this vid and for the Work. And yes, for Byron Katie. Blessings ~ Asè

[@sharonanswer7865]

mariefrancoise12 huh

[@mariefrancoise12]

@@sharonanswer7865 watch the video again. The moment (and it really is a moment)in which the young woman and last person doing the work, finally releases (or it gets released because she doesn't do it but it is done) her painful thoughts of jealousy, insecurity and envy. It's INVISIBLE so it's hard to see. But toward the end, the thought is released (by grace) and she is on her way to freedom. The young woman saw something differently. She couldn't MAKE herself see it, but was just able to see it with byron katie's assistance. It's hard to speak about the formless in the form of language because, well, it's FORMLESS.

[@cynthiaennis3107]

mariefrancoise12 it was BEAUTIFUL & AMAZING! What an incredible transformation! ♥️

[@kerry-anne39]

Her co-dependency was realised & broken 💔

[@mirrorimage9224]

I know All-Too-Well how it can be TOO HARD to be around someone and want to leave them behind. 10:25-11:05 " *It's really painful to not like who we love. . . .Also, while it's going on we think what is the matter with me. . . .What's the matter with me? I want to run. I just want to go. I can't be friends with her anymore. Too Much. Too Hard. But, then I don't want to do that at the same time.* " Thank you Brian Cormack Carr for uploading.

[@YetiintheSun]

wow ....especially this ending makes me cry, so beautiful joyful touching, amazing. ❤

[@davidfirth-clarkburton2886]

What an amazing moment ! The one about jealousy needs to be looked till the end ! Beautiful ! Thank you Katie 💗

[@helloitsme7983]

Wow this is excellent. Intense . Honest and cool. Thank you for posting

[@Chaz_NFQ]

33:34 I love the woman working with Byron Katie here, everything she’s saying I relate to. It’s literally me

[@8SUNNYGIRL8]

Unbelievable this work Katie does! Congrats Marga! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@annawirsen1691]

That girl is so unbelievably beautiful! Great session

[@DR-cr3zo]

which girl?

[@ooohlaa13]

@@DR-cr3zo Margo.

[@clairebear2975]

Wow. Beautiful. Brought tears to me. Thankyou.

[@DeborahLorraine]

Wonderful sessions; thank you ladies for putting yourselves out there to help others. I love the follow up letter, proving that years of therapy is probably a waste when you see the instant power of an "aha" moment.

[@dianespencer8057]

She brought me to tears. Love, love, LOVE the results and her follow up letter! Thank you to her and to Byron! xx

[@myrenegomez1]

Wow! This was amazing. I have watched it multiple times now as I begin to question my own "Work." Both of these women did such powerful work with Katie. Thank you for sharing this. The letter at the end from Marga, the young woman, is amazing. I want that kind of peace too. I think we all get jealous or resentful and not just of our love partner, but others who seem to have more than we do or what we want for ourselves. The truth that Katie shares is we have what we need, everything we need, inside our minds and inside our hearts. It's truly about questioning our thoughts. Powerful stuff!

[@inge6850]

Im so proud of the woman who spoke, she spoke for all of us who are in pain and helped us heal

[@geraldfrank1630]

One of her workshops is way beyond your imagination in intensity & super fun & funny at the same time! 🙏👌❤️👏

[@unidadecredatimoruct243]

So great Byron Katie

[@tracy3364]

Wow 👏 I'm in tears how freeing Katie you are a gift to us all

[@katecherieandreallo8874]

Thankyou to this woman for being so honest. I could relate absolutely😍 Thankyou for your bravery its tough to be so honest.

[@claritstv]

Wow couldn't stop my tears falling from my eyes ! That was an amazing story from Marga . Very inspiring!

[@lenidec]

This is so intense.Thank you for posting this. Hearts hearts hearts...

[@judithpfeiffer9154]

This is my absolute favorite session! So powerful!

[@principessaprincipessa3208]

This is my favorite also and it it helping me so much!

[@roses9448]

I just watched this at the exact right moment. Thank You so much and to Marga, that is the Miracle. Being able to change your mind. So good and I'm so happy for you. All the very best.

[@TheTherapyBooth]

Excellent 💜 much respect

[@terryvartanyan7667]

This is spectacular work, incredibly life changing and affirming!

[@teresalinn7481]

Wow. That was powerful. In your video you mentioned how to not do the work in a superficial way. I wish I had heard you say that many years ago when I first tried to do The work. Superficial is exactly what I did and got absolutely nothing out of it and so dismissed it as not useful. Watching this I laughed and I cried. Now I think I'm ready to look at this process for real. Thank you for reminding us this is available. I am really looking forward to your Awareness series. Thank you for starting it. Mrs T

[@dragtherapy]

this is beautiful, the simple wisdom in this brought to tears to my eyes

[@broccolimuffin7963]

This is so so good

[@jimhickox5181]

Wow! That was extraordinary!

[@Maisa1974]

thank you so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@richardsrensen4219]

this is great Byron Katie is so wise

[@joyclarke8942]

Thank you for the key to being free!

[@madridv-var3109]

I can’t ThNk you enough for posting this video!

[@charlesastle2077]

Oh my love, that was a blissful opening of my heart, thank you so much I am so touched by that huge shift lovingly I am so thankful.

[@johnathanholman3600]

thank you for the video 💜 I really love Byron Katie

[@lynnemanning9553]

WOW‼️ This was very powerful and really hit home for me. We think we have all the evidence from our partners on why we are being ignored, unloved, hurt. But probably, we are doing that to ourselves most of the time. I think it's so important that Katie kept bringing it back to "we have to love ourselves and be in partnership with ourselves first", and then we will "get and understand" other people more. We do a lot of projecting and criticizing in our minds, and it can be so damaging and destructive. This helped me to see my own jealousy habits and where I can improve and grow......

[@evahaeuptle6029]

Dear all, that is just great, it touched my heart! Thank you to that y I could be with you in that process!

[@raquelkananis7687]

Love u ! You’ve helped me in so many ways.

[@sinalederle7569]

Thank you soooo much for sharing this authentic video with us. This is such a treasure to me, trying to work through a nearly same theme. This is so helpful to me! Thank you especially to Marga and her honesty! and thank you Katie for your loving and awake presence to asking the questions 🙏🏼💞🕊️

[@wallytidwell1439]

This is so true about our thought patterns, lorie ladd shared this with everyone. I'm so thankful.

[@togomarketing]

Extremely beneficial video for all of us to question our thoughts and make them our friends

[@dare_to_follow_your_dream]

This is so brilliant!!! Deep, emotional, spiritual!!!

[@jimena3220]

The final letter Is so beautiful ❤

[@Kwood10]

Amazing 🙏🏻

[@staciejean]

Marga! Thank you Brave soul for saying what I'm sure many women like myself and yourself alike have experienced. I know the deep pain and suffering I have caused myself and my boyfriends/ husbands due to me believing my own jealous thoughts which ultimately stem from my lack of self love and seeking someone else to give me what I didn't know how to give myself. It was sooo healing to hear you be so candid.I too have an episodes of rage over the exact same type of things. I hope to get to the place where I have done" the work" enough to never have to cause that much suffering to myself ever again. Thank you ❤️

[@Atomicfork]

Dear Katie, Thank YOU a million times

[@einsteindarwin8756]

This is my new bible now.

[@user-ch1wn6hu3w]

This is incredible.

[@gangsterleo1]

This is so beautiful ! - in every possible way .. May we all find peace 😌

[@henrike34]

I love this one so much, I have watched it so often, but I always get something new out of it. ❤

[@twodogzdogue8710]

OMG, that made me feel her pain as she said "Katie, I want to take that image & bash it against the wall" The tears fell, poor girl, I know where she is coming from, it's like never knowing if he's faithful ...and booze involved, so often people lose inhibitions & whether they want to or not, before they have time to say no, they are in the middle of having sex with their drinking partner. That's why it's such a tempting situation when men & women drink too much together. In fact, at some point in an adults life, usually they realize this can make for a situation that can too easily that can get out of control. This couple, being in a band are really placing themselves in an incredibly threatened situation & it must be so darn hard for this girl to handle it, especially because she does not drink! I really feel for her. I hope she is doing alright, wherever you are now, girl - I know you need to find happiness & strength in your own self love first & foremost. Blessings to you xxx

[@BrianCormackCarr]

We hear a bit about where she is after this event in her letter at the very end of the video.

[@cynthiaennis3107]

Brian Cormack Carr That was a great letter! I’ve never seen another video where a letter was read at the end! This was GREAT! Not sure if I caught the year of this taping. Do you know, BCC? Thanks for this MOST AWESOME video! ♥️

[@pollyevhillson3089]

100% to all that....

[@heatherwall9571]

Yes. And maybe a partner also, that has the capacity to also self reflect. It works both ways. 🙏💙

[@shannon9335]

Watching Maria’s experience with Byron Katie has blown my mind.I felt that I could have been the one seated there, everything she wrote out and Worked through with Byron, was like it was my own experience I’m having now, I believe we are led to what it is that will serve to our greater good. I’m so grateful for this, to see how I can do the work, to see the work my soul is calling me to do. I’m in tears as I take a look at my own mind

[@suzihall778]

Shannon DeMarco me too xo

[@mindsigh4]

🌱🐾👣🌿🕊️🙏🏼🌎💌

[@KaliMaLover]

[@SamoKoprivec1]

Role switch: "I don't know what I am gonna do!" Katie: "You'll know by Monday..." :D Role: "How can you do it to me?!?" Katie: "I don't know either."

[@corrinaamato8805]

i can literally say this script to my mom. She lives with me, im helping her (I should say she is not elderly in her early 50s , still works etc) but i bought a condo she now has "nowhere" to go. when i needed a place she wasnt there... i dont want her there but because its family, I feel like I am obligated. I feel she is threatening my sobriety etc... ive been on my own long without her. i think im afraid to be alone and that i might need her but maybe should i wait to have the honest conversation AFTER christmas

[@mindsigh4]

@@corrinaamato8805it's been a year, did u have the conversation? what happened?

[@gabrielboisvert3733]

Ohhh, one thing that I love is seeing the smile of honesty that sees that what she assumed is false. A part of her doesn't want it, but it's seen, and so a smile of ''damn, i've been seen'' arise. that's so funny hahaha :)

[@witchywoman7311]

Intence, amazing, healing. Wow

[@mtm00]

All we need do is work through the crazy! Got it! Thank you, Byron Katie. Thank you, Marga. (And thank you BCC for sharing this content.)

[@archh2484]

wonderfull work.

[@mainulislam6765]

6:19 "I feel like I don't know who I am when I am not judging someone." I realized that this morning when I was doing the work on one of my students.

[@Biedronecqa]

her work is the single most mind blowing revolutionary idea I've come across in my whole life. we truly are slaves to our own minds.

[@rhidad.d.9342]

Very moving. Very cool.

[@Christine-nj3kl]

Powerful thank you one heck of a 🎁

[@helloitsme7983]

I love that lady in the audience! And of course Katie

[@johnathanholman3600]

She changes my thoughts

[@kp74952]

Wow! The ending...

[@helloitsme7983]

45 minutes in. That's a good point too. It brushes quickly by but it's a building block and powerful

[@QuangLe-nm7ck]

Brilliant!

[@allenmgreen99]

Big wow!

[@seeker2716]

BEAUTIFUL BEAUTIFUL BEAUTIFUL BRAVE GIRL!!!! DEEEEEP GRATITUDE for speaking my mind🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@OfftoShambala]

Good practice in testing ones projection.